[HN Gopher] Ask HN: Those who quit their jobs without anything p...
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       Ask HN: Those who quit their jobs without anything planned. How did
       it go?
        
       This post is inspired by[0]. During the "great resignation" trend
       there were a lot of posts about people quitting due to burn out or
       otherwise. I wonder what they did end up doing.  I am not sure what
       I'd do if I'd quit. Maybe travel for a bit doing nothing and then
       start my own thing.
       [0]https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=26407560
        
       Author : break_the_bank
       Score  : 245 points
       Date   : 2021-11-22 12:11 UTC (10 hours ago)
        
       | snikeris wrote:
       | A friend did this. His plan was to start a consulting business,
       | but he had no clients lined up. He's been mostly unemployed for
       | the last 12 years.
        
       | walktheplank wrote:
       | I quit my job at a FAANG back in the fall of 2020 without
       | anything else lined up. I had been suffering from burnout and an
       | existential crisis for over a year. I initially expected to take
       | 3 months off before looking for a new job, but ended up taking
       | over 12 months off. I received an offer for a new job after
       | looking in a fairly niche space and being very picky after
       | searching for 2-3 months.
       | 
       | I didn't set any goals for myself. I just woke up and did what
       | made me happy every day, which was exactly what I needed. After 6
       | months off, I also put nearly all of my belongings in a storage
       | unit and traveled around the US in my car.
       | 
       | Had a blast. Would do again.
        
       | Vaskivo wrote:
       | About a year ago a quit my job. I was unhappy with some decisions
       | the employer and just left. I had some savings and a side project
       | I wanted to make.
       | 
       | Spent the following seven months making an Android game. I wasn't
       | expecting to make any money from it, but really wanted to build
       | and launch MY GAME :)
       | 
       | Following that, I spent two to three months interviewing... And
       | I'm now employed at a foreign, fully remote early stage startup.
       | So everything turned out just I wanted it to.
       | 
       | I have no children nor any loans, so all my finances were very
       | flexible and manageable.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | Quixotica1 wrote:
       | I love this question! I'm planning on quitting my job next month
       | and taking some time off. It's unplanned because I thought I
       | would find a new job right away but just realized about 2 weeks
       | ago that I wanted to do personal projects and see if I could find
       | a way to work on more interesting projects with more variety.
       | Currently focusing on infrastructure (kubernetes, terraform, and
       | AWS), Unity (making my first 3D game!), making an app with
       | Flutter (used to use Ionic but wanted to see the flutter hype),
       | and researching how to get into Dapp development.
       | 
       | THERE IS SO MUCH COOL STUFF TO DO/LEARN!! Jobs aren't going to
       | dry up and disappear! If you can take some time to yourself to
       | learn and play and have fun, you should do it!
        
       | mouzogu wrote:
       | Mostly positive experiences here. Would be interesting to hear
       | from some for whom it didn't go so well...
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | ayoubElk wrote:
       | I quit my job in 2018 without any other opportunity lined up.
       | 
       | I used all of my savings to go on an extended trip to Asia, the
       | idea being that I'll travel around, work on my own projects, and
       | do some freelancing to cover my expenses.
       | 
       | Things didn't go as planned though, I got robbed in the hostel I
       | was staying at and lost my macbook. Eventually I decided to cut
       | my trip short and go back home where I started freelancing (which
       | I'm still doing currently) and I would say it was one of the best
       | decisions I ever made.
        
         | serjester wrote:
         | I think this is every traveller's worst nightmare. Looking back
         | was there anything you could have done to prevent it?
        
           | ayoubElk wrote:
           | Agreed, the worst part was the fact that I had actually just
           | purchased that macbook a few days before getting on the plane
           | and I moved all my data to it without having it backed
           | anywhere (Rookie mistake).
           | 
           | I could have:
           | 
           | - Picked a better hostel to stay at
           | 
           | - Backed up my data properly to minimize damage if it
           | eventually happens
           | 
           | - Been more wary of other guests (99% of them were cool
           | people but you still need to be aware of who's there with
           | you)
           | 
           | - I used filevault, but forgot to enable find my device
        
       | mlac wrote:
       | After skimming half the thread and only seeing one view (DO IT!
       | It's GREAT!), I'm going to throw this out there:
       | 
       | - You will have heavy selection bias here (people who did not
       | succeed might be working at a crappier job and unable to comment
       | at this moment)
       | 
       | - You will also have confirmation bias among those who willingly
       | quit ("of course it was the right move")
       | 
       | - You are asking a very unique set of people with very valuable
       | skills in high demand (you may fall into this category, but worth
       | keeping in mind)
       | 
       | - The last 10 years has been a historic bull market and hard to
       | fail in if you fall into the last category. We don't know what
       | the future brings (Not knowing what the future holds has been
       | true every year of the last 10 years, especially January 2020.
       | But I bring it up to say past results from others in this thread
       | do not guarantee future performance for you).
       | 
       | All in all, if you are financially stable or have a supportive
       | safety net, it seems like a potentially good risk to take. It
       | also looks like you should have a strong plan to do something
       | (hobby, hike, or work in another capacity). If you don't, you may
       | just stagnate and waste some of your prime years for growth and
       | development.
       | 
       | But absolutely - if you have support and a plan, you keep the
       | downsides in mind (it will be painful at times, and not roses and
       | butterflies the whole way through), then sure - give it a shot.
       | If you are growing and developing skills in a field you don't
       | care about, you should definitely change it up.
       | 
       | Reframing it - nearly everyone who goes to grad school full time
       | quits their job (or takes a leave). Quitting to do your own
       | thing, as long as you show employers why you did it in a year or
       | two, shouldn't be a detriment for getting rehired. That said,
       | hiring managers may question if you'd quit again in a year
       | (depending on your past employment tenure)...
        
         | Sohcahtoa82 wrote:
         | > All in all, if you are financially stable or have a
         | supportive safety net, it seems like a potentially good risk to
         | take.
         | 
         | This is probably the biggest factor.
         | 
         | How long could you go without a regular paycheck? Personally, I
         | could probably make my savings last a year, but that's only
         | because I have a wife that makes enough to pay most of the
         | bills herself if it came down to that.
         | 
         | But I imagine most people outside the HN bubble don't have
         | that. The majority of Americans can't afford a sudden $1,000
         | expense. They can't just quit their job out of the blue.
        
         | ryandrake wrote:
         | Both times I have quit my job with nothing else lined up have
         | been stress-filled disasters with a dreadful financial
         | countdown timer. I would never do it again. The second time,
         | our savings left us about 1 month away from my wife and I
         | living in our car.
         | 
         | This thread has been unreal! I don't know who these people are
         | who can just leave their jobs and go off to windsurf in Ibiza,
         | but congratulations on how fortunate you are! I think the rest
         | of us have bills to pay that can't be deferred, a need for
         | health insurance, a family that likes food and shelter, and
         | maybe a few months of an emergency fund. I would certainly not
         | use an _emergency_ fund to go  "find myself" in Bali.
        
           | JohnClark1337 wrote:
           | Kids straight out of college whose only responsibility is to
           | themselves, rich people, or people with rich friends.
        
         | taliesinb wrote:
         | > It also looks like you should have a strong plan to do
         | something (hobby, hike, or work in another capacity). If you
         | don't, you may just stagnate and waste some of your prime years
         | for growth and development.
         | 
         | Having been on this journey too, I provide this reassurance for
         | those on the edge of quitting: trust in your superego. Your
         | superego is always there, always watching, always asking: "is
         | this what you should be doing?". When you are working on
         | someone else's project, doing something you don't want to, it
         | is easy to ignore this inner voice, because in a way it is not
         | your own. Procrastination, and stagnation, are natural when
         | your job isn't your dream. But when you're on your own dime,
         | things feel _very_ different.
         | 
         | It is a mistake to extrapolate your tendency to procrastinate
         | from the world of work to that of a free agent: with no
         | immediate constraints it is much easier to recognize and slip
         | out of those peculiar knots of irrational behavior that tend to
         | trap smart people with unsatisfying jobs. But on the other
         | hand, you will be forced to confront the terrifying choice of
         | what to actually _want_! This is terrifying because, in a way,
         | it is the most important choice you 'll ever make.
        
           | sershe wrote:
           | My 2c is that it can also be reverse. I have generally had a
           | reputation of being very productive at work, even though I
           | don't even really like or care about most of my projects that
           | much, and my productivity doesn't increase very much when I
           | do like a project. On my own projects where I can do whatever
           | I want, I have a track record of being able to procrastinate
           | for unlimited amounts of time.
        
           | jrumbut wrote:
           | Being in a situation where you only have yourself to blame,
           | when you can't say "oh if only I didn't have these coworkers
           | and that boss and my family and everything else holding me
           | back (holding you up, really)," it's a different kind of
           | fear. It's probably healthy, but surprisingly intense.
           | 
           | You're totally exposed and get to see exactly what you're
           | capable of accomplishing. It's like that machine in The
           | Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy that shows you exactly how
           | insignificant you are in the universe.
        
             | taliesinb wrote:
             | Very well put!
        
             | patrickdavey wrote:
             | The total perspective vortex (the machine in hhg)
        
         | walktheplank wrote:
         | >Quitting to do your own thing, as long as you show employers
         | why you did it in a year or two, shouldn't be a detriment for
         | getting rehired. That said, hiring managers may question if
         | you'd quit again in a year (depending on your past employment
         | tenure)...
         | 
         | It shouldn't be a detriment for getting rehired, period. If you
         | are qualified for a role and pass an interview bar, there is no
         | reason a potential employer should care about a break you took
         | from working. I treated being asked about this as a yellow
         | flag, as it may indicate the employer thinks you should be
         | living to work.
        
           | stjohnswarts wrote:
           | My breaks have mattered "occasionally" with a few companies
           | but by and large what you say is correct and it barely made
           | people scratch their chin more than a few seconds, and I've
           | had breaks (intentionally) of anywhere between 2-4 months
           | every couple of years.
        
           | ebiester wrote:
           | Hiring manager here.
           | 
           | Knowledge has a half life. If you have taken 6 months off,
           | and have an interesting story, this is not a big deal. (For
           | example, I took 8 months off to live in Istanbul. I had two
           | interviews and two offers when coming back, one of which was
           | completely outside my network.)
           | 
           | However, I had also just taken a month to do a functional
           | course, and had worked half-heartedly on a startup that went
           | nowhere. I had a story.
           | 
           | The longer you take off, the more of a story you will need,
           | even if that's "in the last 3 months, I built a small toy to
           | get myself reacquainted with React and Python" even if this
           | is a Rails omakase shop.
           | 
           | Or, that story may be something completely different. All I
           | care about is "can you hit the ground running?"
        
         | Damogran6 wrote:
         | OP is also asking people their experiences, but those
         | experiences are informed by their local set of pros and cons.
         | 
         | What I've encountered: 1. I've never had bigger improvements in
         | my financial outcomes than when I said 'f-it' and pulled the
         | ripcord 2. Doing so dropped my into a stresspit that was
         | grinding me into a red paste, resulting eventually in being
         | Riffed 3. Which let me find a job that, while not great, has
         | good work/life balance and is good for me, at this time, in my
         | walk down my path.
         | 
         | Go into it informed and mindfully and you'll probably be fine,
         | assuming you're in a market that needs you (A french chef in
         | Washington, KS...population 1100, is probably not going to have
         | a sustainable skillset in Washington, KS)
         | 
         | Dad told me 'Never quit on a Friday', but he was also a fan of
         | trusting your skills to support you.
        
           | brianrice wrote:
           | what's the reasoning to never quit on a Friday?
        
             | qw wrote:
             | It gives you time to slow down and reflect if this is
             | something you really want, or just a reaction to a long and
             | difficult week.
             | 
             | It's similar to the "count to ten" principle, before
             | yelling at someone.
        
             | throwaway743 wrote:
             | Good points mentioned by others at this level of the
             | thread.
             | 
             | I'd also assume that it may be that having the weekend
             | could put one in the mindset of relaxation and cause
             | procrastination at the start of what could be an intense
             | process that requires drive (depending on individual's
             | circumstances).
             | 
             | Or maybe it's kinda the opposite where if one were to quit
             | on say a Monday instead, there's a good chance that the
             | work week mindset holds, kicks the individual into being
             | productive (maybe more productive than usual out of
             | necessity), and then that weekend would be very much needed
             | to wind down/refresh and reflect on the progress that was
             | made.
             | 
             | Again, just my assumptions, but seem like likely scenarios
             | that could play out
             | 
             | Edit: spelling
        
               | Damogran6 wrote:
               | Changing a job should be the result of measured, long
               | term, reflection. Any one given Friday at the end of a
               | bad week is not the best time to make a snap judgement.
               | 
               | If you still want to quit on Monday? Go right ahead...but
               | a lot of times the stuff that seemed insurmountable on
               | Friday, don't look quite so bad with a bit of reflection.
               | Unless they still suck.
        
             | de_keyboard wrote:
             | Because you've been working all week so you're at peak
             | tiredness
        
           | stjohnswarts wrote:
           | Personally on big decisions I set a date 2-4 weeks out to
           | make a decision and let it gestate in my brain. I think I've
           | only "pulled the ripcord" once in my life on a particularly
           | malodorous company that I worked at after I was talked down
           | to over my decision to refuse. to sign off on something. I
           | felt it was a safety concern until I had taken the time to
           | fix it and check it well. It caused some friction with a big
           | client over a delay (a few weeks), but I didn't care because
           | above all I'm going to do what is right and what I feel pride
           | in. Never let anyone gaslight you ever; if they don't respect
           | you then speak up and let them know that shit is not allowed.
           | Sure you may get fired but I guarantee you will regret not
           | doing it for forever. Probably I got thrown off a few
           | athletic teams in high school :)
        
         | dpweb wrote:
         | It's impossible to answer the question for someone else, you
         | have to address things like, what are my real values and
         | priorities in life, not just work.
         | 
         | But some lessons learned. Manage your money carefully so you're
         | not always in a inflexible spot, and manage your stress levels
         | carefully. Pay attention to what is affecting you and why, and
         | be good/take care of yourself emotionally so you're not always
         | in stress/reactive mode.
        
       | mikkelam wrote:
       | I had severe burnout after doing 2 years remotely. I spent 4
       | months doing very little. A friend then convinced me to join his
       | startup and I had a lot of fun (this time IRL). I'm still there
       | 1.5 years later and we're doing well.
       | 
       | Random luck I reckon. I needed a break though.
        
       | eel wrote:
       | I quit a previous job in 2016. The role had transitioned from
       | software development to system administration. I realized it was
       | no different for my career's future to just stay home instead of
       | upgrading build servers. I gave a two and a half week notice and
       | quit.
       | 
       | I was fortunate to have little debt, plenty of savings, and a
       | supportive spouse. I ended up playing a lot of Counter-Strike
       | Global Offensive and other computer games. I attended more
       | meetups. I applied and interviewed for jobs that sounded
       | interesting. I turned down two offers and accepted a third. In
       | total, I took 9 months off work.
       | 
       | There's a piece of me that wished I had been more productive
       | during that time off. But it was relaxing, and I attribute that
       | time off as my best career move yet. The job I finally took paid
       | 2x more to start and I still feel like I am thriving at my "new"
       | job 5 years in.
        
       | wheybags wrote:
       | Did this twice (never left a real job any other way lol) and it
       | turned out fine. Both times I ended up getting a job offer before
       | my notice period ended.
        
       | aaccount wrote:
       | I did it once. Did absolutely nothing of value for 8 months and
       | went back to work. I had savings so I was ok financially. Mostly
       | played games and watched movies. Traveled a bit. Didn't realize I
       | needed it until I was doing it.
       | 
       | I think I will do it every 5 years of work.
        
       | jtolj wrote:
       | I left my job (Senior Developer at an Agency) a little over a
       | year ago. I did have a plan in that I've always wanted to build a
       | SAAS product, but I knew going in that it was very unlikely to be
       | successful enough to make a living at.
       | 
       | It's been overwhelmingly positive experience for me. Caveat is
       | that I have no children, no debt outside of student loans, and
       | had several years of living expenses saved if I needed it.
       | 
       | The peaks:
       | 
       | - I built a SAAS product I'm proud of that a few companies are
       | using and paying for. This has been on my bucket list for a
       | decade or more.
       | 
       | - I have total control over how I spend my day, which has mostly
       | (see valleys) been a tremendous boon for my mental health.
       | 
       | - I've had a healthy amount of time to spend with my partner and
       | loved ones (although Covid obviously complicated this pre-
       | vaccine).
       | 
       | - I've had more time to focus on my hobbies, and have made more
       | progress on music in the last year than ever before.
       | 
       | - I've managed to contract with some great companies and
       | individuals to cobble together a meager living while still having
       | a lot of control over my time.
       | 
       | The valleys:
       | 
       | - Some days can feel directionless. Sometimes I can turn this
       | into a positive and take a meandering walk and think about
       | things, sometimes it makes me feel unproductive and down on
       | myself.
       | 
       | - Even though I've barely tapped into my savings, I'm frequently
       | concerned about money / unplanned expenses.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | __alexs wrote:
       | Have done this several times and it's generally been very easy to
       | find a better job than the one I was in.
       | 
       | The only thing I will say is that you are in a much worse
       | negotiating position which can be a problem if you're heading
       | towards the top of the payscale in your area when you quit.
        
       | josh2600 wrote:
       | Note: I am not an engineer. I'm mostly skilled in telling
       | stories.
       | 
       | I got fired from every job I ever had before I started working
       | for myself. Each time I left I ended up in a better job until the
       | last time when I got laid off from a telecom PM role. I went to
       | look for another job and never found one. At the time I was
       | living paycheck to paycheck (barely) so this was quite scary. I
       | did have a small severance but that was it.
       | 
       | I decided to make a startup and begged my friends for enough
       | money to get going (secretparty.io). It started to grow. At the
       | same time, one of my dear friends told me to put all of my
       | severance into ethereum. It helped that he said he'd give me the
       | money back if I lost it, he just wanted me to see what was going
       | to happen.
       | 
       | My severance 10x'd in a month. I stopped working on the startup
       | and begged my friends for money to start a crypto hedge fund.
       | That was crypto lotus and ended up being one of the first serious
       | crypto funds.
       | 
       | While being at crypto lotus, I grew frustrated that no one was
       | making a consumer-friendly crypto project. That's when I started
       | working on mobilecoin.
       | 
       | Now mobilecoin is worth over a billion dollars in equity and
       | several billion in coins.
       | 
       | All I can say is that I never would've gotten any of this without
       | an insane amount of luck. It all could've very easily have gone
       | another way and I might be homeless right now. Life is a series
       | of dice rolls. You're lucky if you can avoid getting snake eyes
       | every now and again.
       | 
       | If I had it to do all over again, I would've started working for
       | myself much sooner despite all of the risk.
        
         | gaws wrote:
         | > I got fired from every job I ever had before I started
         | working for myself.
         | 
         | Why?
        
         | canaus wrote:
         | This entire comment reads odd. The begging. The purchasing ETH
         | with severance. The multiple advertisements.
         | 
         | I'm glad it worked out for you, but this is a 1% of 1% tier of
         | luck (especially situationally).
        
           | [deleted]
        
         | edmcnulty101 wrote:
         | What do you define as living 'paycheck to paycheck'?
         | 
         | What kind of friends do you have that have loanable startup
         | money?
         | 
         | I think you and I come from totally different classes in life.
        
           | DrammBA wrote:
           | I was thinking the same thing. Begging my friends for money
           | would land me a couple hundred dollars, maybe a thousand if I
           | cry enough, and I definitely don't have any friends that
           | would let me gamble money on crypto and pay me back if I lose
           | it. It's interesting seeing the stark difference in safety
           | nets.
        
             | kwere wrote:
             | wait, you can get money from friends?
        
         | kwere wrote:
         | for DD: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuagoldbard/
        
         | Chris2048 wrote:
         | > he said he'd give me the money back if I lost it, he just
         | wanted me to see what was going to happen
         | 
         | Uh, so why didn't he just buy the ETH?
        
           | VRay wrote:
           | My guess is his friend had a 6-7 figure net worth and loaned
           | him a 3 figure sum, otherwise this doesn't make any sense to
           | me
        
       | JansjoFromIkea wrote:
       | Probably depends a lot on whether you're renting or not? (or
       | whether your finances are solid enough that you can buy a place
       | whenever)
       | 
       | For me quitting would immediately mean I'd be losing four figures
       | a month to rent before accounting for anything else so there
       | wouldn't be much of a feeling of a grace period; the option of
       | traveling or whatever else would also come with the knowledge
       | that I'd likely have to set myself up somewhere else eventually.
       | Then beyond that I'd have to be on a salary long enough to get a
       | mortgage.
       | 
       | So like... there's a lot of stuff that needs to be accounted for
       | where if I owned a place it'd just be "do I pack up my stuff and
       | let this place for a couple of years if I want to travel or will
       | I return regularly and keep it as a hub.
        
         | tayo42 wrote:
         | The rent thing bothers me too. I wish I could just pack up and
         | go. Throwing money away on an expensive apt I won't be using
         | kind of bothers me. I guess I could do storage for my stuff
         | when my lease ends but the schedule is tough to work around and
         | there is nothing to go back to. Where do I live then lol
        
           | rip_netrunner wrote:
           | Just put out an ad to have someone take over your lease.
           | Sweeten the deal if you have to (offer to pay their first
           | month). I've had a couple people do this without problem.
        
       | asdasiodjaoij wrote:
       | fucking great
       | 
       | removed myself from an incredibly toxic environment. the relief
       | was incredible.
       | 
       | I then landed my first job in my new field and loved it.
       | 
       | 10/10 would recommend to anyone (providing you have at least a
       | few months runway of personal funds)
        
       | omeysalvi wrote:
       | I went from making $3500 a month to making $500 a month. Barely
       | scraping by. Also, I didn't exactly quit but was let go. I just
       | didn't want to go back to a job. Making my own games and
       | freelancing right now. I wouldn't recommend quitting your job
       | unless you have a plan or are secure enough in your self worth
       | that the amount of money you make doesn't change your own opinion
       | about yourself.
        
       | elif wrote:
       | I had a backpacking trip planned, so maybe I don't count.. But
       | I've been home longer than backpacking by now, and still don't
       | regret quitting.
       | 
       | Work is a conditioning program for your brain. Own your thoughts
       | for a while. Experience your own stress and solve your own
       | problems.
        
       | blindmute wrote:
       | Did it a couple months ago and haven't started looking for a new
       | job yet. Based on my email inbox, when I haven't even updated my
       | LinkedIn status, I don't foresee any issues.
       | 
       | I still don't feel like I'm 100% back to normal, but I'm
       | definitely improving. I didn't even want to touch tech before,
       | but lately I've been tinkering around with some light things. I
       | feel no desire to go back to work, but I also feel little to no
       | dread anymore, which is good. Probably give it a bit longer and
       | then get back to the grind. If you can afford it, I would
       | recommend it. It took over a month before I stopped feeling
       | stressed about work memories.
        
       | 2OEH8eoCRo0 wrote:
       | I quit a job in defense around October of 2019 then COVID hit so
       | I took a job at another defense company. I quit that job around
       | June of this year and I'm still looking. I enjoy the time off but
       | I'd really like to get back to work, every company that I apply
       | to seems to take their sweet time recruiting.
        
       | mwidell wrote:
       | I quit my last real full time job in 2015 (CTO at my own tech
       | startup with around 130 employees at the time), with no plans
       | whatsoever. I felt burned out and wanted some rest and a new
       | career path.
       | 
       | The first project I tried was writing a book. A few months in I
       | realized I didn't enjoy writing as much as I thought I would, but
       | I found myself taking longer and longer breaks to go out
       | photographing with my camera.
       | 
       | Photography was something I had never done earlier in life, and
       | it came pretty unexpectedly for me that I would enjoy it so much.
       | Photography quickly became an obsession, while my book project
       | never sold well at all. I took a couple of part time jobs to
       | sustain myself while starting a youtube channel about photography
       | in 2017.
       | 
       | Now 4 years later I have quit all part time engagements and can
       | actually kind of make a living from my youtube channel, which is
       | pretty amazing. I am so very happy and thankful for where I am
       | today, as I truly love my new career. I would have never found it
       | if I didn't give myself a year to explore different
       | possibilities.
        
         | rswskg wrote:
         | Er, hi tom from myspace!
        
       | badtension wrote:
       | I quit in December 2019 (best time for that kind of thing). I had
       | some money put aside and decided to put my time and effort into
       | getting a deeper understanding of ML to find a more meaningful
       | job (my old one was draining me so much).
       | 
       | After a few months it looked like the job perspectives weren't as
       | good during the pandemic so I decided to finish my side project -
       | get some more experience, maybe even earn some side income if all
       | goes well.
       | 
       | After a bit over 1 year working on it on and off I can say it is
       | really hard to stay focused and disciplined when being alone. I
       | feel ashamed (I probably shouldn't) but it seems like I can only
       | be a slave. When working along other people or under a boss I
       | have no problem in getting things done.
       | 
       | I am determined to at least get to the minimum sensible demo to
       | show potential users. It will probably take another few months to
       | make it and if everything looks good, a few more to get to a
       | point where it can be a a solid value proposition.
       | 
       | It really isn't great, I am not diagnosed with any mental
       | illnesses but one day I feel it all is going to be great and help
       | many people, the next day I can see in my mind how its value is
       | seen as minuscule or Windows or Android API changes and kills it
       | off in a year.
       | 
       | Keeping the good mental state and working reliably is very hard.
        
         | zivkovicp wrote:
         | Don't feel bad, or ashamed, this is perfectly normal.
         | 
         | I find renting a desk in a co-working space has helped me stay
         | a little more motivated and positive over the last several
         | months (home office gets too monotone).
         | 
         | Just do your best and make a genuine effort, if you do and you
         | still want to go back to a classic job, then do it. As long as
         | you know you gave it a genuine effort, you have nothing to feel
         | bad about.
        
           | badtension wrote:
           | Thank you for the kind words. I more and more think that
           | renting a desk was something I should have done long ago. I
           | didn't realize working from home would be this bad (without
           | people around or external pressure).
        
         | mritchie712 wrote:
         | One thing that helps with not having a boss is getting
         | customers paying for your product as quickly as possible. They
         | become a type of "boss", but one you can easily "fire" if
         | needed. This means scoping down your grand vision to what's
         | essential for someone to pay. It's hard, but it's worth it.
        
           | badtension wrote:
           | I've never had a customer so I'll take your word for it, it
           | makes sense.
           | 
           | I am trying to get the scope down to the very core value.
           | Then build on that if there is any traction with the basic
           | service.
        
         | andi999 wrote:
         | Not speaking from experience, but I believe you should start
         | every day with sales. Demo doesn't need to be ready, get
         | potential customers, feedback etc. Even the big ones start
         | sales before the product is ready.
         | 
         | Also if you see there is interest it will help you to finish.
         | You cannot skip the sales part, so instead of after finishing
         | put it in front (it is also the hardest part for developers).
        
           | badtension wrote:
           | I have talked to a few people (yes, friends) that said it
           | would solve some of their problems but nothing like selling
           | up front or contacting random people.
           | 
           | I am a programmer and have a hard time "inverting" the
           | process. This feels like a fraud or maybe is just a part of
           | the imposter syndrome. I want to start with something that is
           | at least a bit "interactive" to see how people behave using
           | it. I think this may show a truer response, especially that
           | this is directed to normal people (mostly nontechnical).
           | 
           | I read a lot about getting sales first but I really struggle
           | with that concept especially when there's nothing to show
           | other than screenshots and diagrams.
        
             | andi999 wrote:
             | If you have time and think it might be good maybe read
             | 'lean startup' , and maybe 'crossing the chasm'.
             | 
             | I believe sales doesn't get easier even if you have a fully
             | fledged out product.
        
         | zz865 wrote:
         | I had the same experience. The other part is without a team you
         | have to do every single low level task, which takes a lot of
         | time you didn't really think about before.
        
       | idrios wrote:
       | My former senior developer was an incredibly competent nodejs dev
       | and a great mentor. He left our company because management
       | wouldn't really respect his opinions because he'd only been with
       | us for 3 years when others had been for 20. The company he moved
       | to was a fintech startup that worked him insanely hard but again
       | didn't give him much respect or agency over what he was building.
       | Then the pandemic hit and they reduced his pay, so he left that
       | job without anything lined up.
       | 
       | He ended up in a 6 month job search, and when he finally got a
       | job it was in a role no more senior than either of the 2 he had
       | just left. Those 6 months were pretty grueling for him, and I'm
       | sure a lot of the reason it took so long was because it was hard
       | to find a job in the pandemic, but when you're trying to find a
       | job and failing to, it wears on your self esteem and your soul,
       | in ways that compound the difficulty of finding the job. And
       | realistically, 6 months isn't even that long when it could've
       | become 1 or 2 years.
       | 
       | That said, I became insanely burnt out at my job after he left
       | and kept telling him that I was going to quit with nothing lined
       | up. He just kept telling me it would be the stupidest mistake for
       | me to do that and for my situation (still early in my career,
       | have some savings but not a ton, some minor family-related issues
       | going on) he was definitely right. I did work through the burn-
       | out, though I may have permanently lost some enthusiasm for
       | software development because of it. Or possibly I'm just still
       | burnt out.
        
       | nathias wrote:
       | I'm on day one, it's going great.
        
       | harel wrote:
       | It was great! So good in-fact, that I made a point to stop
       | actively looking for work. I'm a contract software
       | architect|developer|consultant|etc. When one contract ends I do
       | not start looking, as long as I can afford it. Work comes
       | knocking and I take it on if it's too good to refuse.
       | 
       | HOWEVER|BUT|NONETHELESS
       | 
       | This is just me... You will hear a lot of positives about taking
       | the plunge|risk|adventure. I learned the hard way to stop
       | recommending stuff that works for me to other people without
       | heavy disclaimers and caveats. What works for one, does not
       | necessarily works for the other. There are simply too many
       | variables not including the biggest one - yourself.
       | 
       | So, if I was you, and had savings and no dependents, I'd go roam
       | the world "like Cain in Kong-Fu" AND do my own thing while I'm at
       | it. But I'm not you. Nobody is so take everything being said to
       | you here with large grains of crystal salt.
        
       | memetomancer wrote:
       | I quit my job due to stress-related flame out a few years ago,
       | abruptly and with no plan at all (mentioned here[0]). I am a
       | single father with no support network. It was a ridiculously
       | stupid move in retrospect, but at the time I really couldn't face
       | another day due to stress coming from all directions in my life.
       | I froze up.
       | 
       | Thankfully, the company I work(ed) for was unreasonably cool
       | about it - they gave me a good 5-6 weeks off, kept in touch while
       | making it clear I would be welcomed back, and finally, re-
       | instated me and offered a significant promotion and raise if I
       | could move to another office in another state.
       | 
       | That's what did the trick - I was unable to see clearly that it
       | wasn't the job, it was the living conditions that were really the
       | problem (shared a house with my brother as he descended into
       | alcoholism). Accepting the new position and moving across country
       | was reinvigorating, even though we got to the new city mere days
       | before the lockdowns hit.
       | 
       | Anyway, turns out I got a massively lucky break here and doubt
       | I'll ever pull such a stunt in the future. Despite the lockdowns
       | _everything_ has improved and my child and I are flourishing.
       | 
       | Point is - if you are about to make such a stress induced,
       | abrupt, massive decision with no backup plan... it's worth being
       | clear about it to your employer, taking a leave and gaining some
       | perspective. It really is the case that you may regret it!
       | 
       | This little episode messed up my credit, threatened the well
       | being of my kid, put even _more_ stress on me to figure things
       | out. Despite the good outcome I'd strongly recommend nobody ever
       | do anything like this. I could very easily ended up in a hovel or
       | out on the street or some sort of horrible crap like that.
       | 
       | [0] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=20951444
        
         | gaws wrote:
         | > Thankfully, the company I work(ed) for was unreasonably cool
         | about it - they gave me a good 5-6 weeks off, kept in touch
         | while making it clear I would be welcomed back, and finally,
         | re-instated me and offered a significant promotion and raise if
         | I could move to another office in another state.
         | 
         | Wow. You really got lucky with this company. Too many will
         | easily cast you aside.
        
         | kfarr wrote:
         | Congrats to you, your child, and your employer who was
         | remarkably amazing throughout the whole thing! You're a good
         | dad
        
         | VRay wrote:
         | Comeon, man, you're reading HackerNews
         | 
         | Everyone here is ridiculously hireable right now
         | 
         | If things suck, just save up 6 months' worth of expenses and
         | quit to start a SaaS business. If it blows up in your face,
         | start looking for a new job when you're down to about a month
         | of runway.
         | 
         | No sweat!
        
           | mlac wrote:
           | The troubling part of this is that I genuinely cannot tell
           | whether this is meant to be sarcastic or not...
        
             | VRay wrote:
             | I have nothing but sympathy for a dishwasher or a random
             | office worker who gets mistreated by the system
             | 
             | Software engineers, technicians, build engineers,
             | sysadmins, etc are a different story. You have the power to
             | change your circumstances, and it sucks that the world
             | works this way, but you're going to have to use that power.
        
       | popotamonga wrote:
       | I quit just last week. Saved up 10 years worth of salaries.
       | Currently on the doing nothing stage. Doing more sports,
       | running/cycling everyday, taking my time to cook, more time for
       | kids, so far so good, i have no plans for the future, whatever
       | happens happens. Previously i was working 15 hours a day, i did
       | like my job but was impacting my health severely.
        
         | f0e4c2f7 wrote:
         | May I suggest that if there is a book you've always wanted to
         | read now might be a time you could really enjoy it!
        
         | turnsout wrote:
         | I think that's called retirement?
        
         | orangepanda wrote:
         | Surely there's a balance between working 15 hours a day to save
         | 10 years of salary versus doing nothing?
        
           | echelon wrote:
           | Perhaps it was for a startup that had a substantial exit? You
           | could save up 10 years of salary in just a few. But the
           | demands for those few years could be really steep.
        
         | Quindecillion wrote:
         | What job do you like doing 15 hours a day? Genuinely curious...
        
           | jagger27 wrote:
           | Maybe some sort of artist? I'm sure there's someone out there
           | who likes to live like that.
        
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         | yetihehe wrote:
         | > I quit just last week. Saved up 10 years worth of salaries.
         | 
         | "Having 10 years worth of salaries" is almost on the opposite
         | side of spectrum than "without anything planned".
        
           | MichaelBurge wrote:
           | Money isn't the same thing as a plan. If anything, it's the
           | exact opposite: You have the freedom to do many things, so
           | there's more uncertainty than someone with less money.
        
             | snarf21 wrote:
             | That much money means you don't need a plan.
        
             | andi999 wrote:
             | Money is worse than a plan, because until you run out of
             | money you do not need a plan.
        
             | yetihehe wrote:
             | Such differences can be called "academic", useful if you
             | don't have a plan, not really useful for people without
             | money. If you have money, you don't really need a plan, so
             | whole discussion is then moot.
        
               | robocat wrote:
               | That comes across to me as being thoughtlessly
               | dismissive.
               | 
               | Money helps, but there are a huge number of other factors
               | that are just as important. That is demonstrated by the
               | number of answers here by people that quit without having
               | money, and the variety of stories and outcomes.
               | 
               | I quit my job a few years back, and I believe I have the
               | financial runway to do so, but I am still unsure if it
               | was a good idea.
               | 
               | Not working is weird because most of my peer group works.
               | I have found there are social costs to not working. I
               | find that not working has other significant issues, even
               | though I have had plenty of chance to learn mitigations
               | (I have had multiple job sabbaticals in my life e.g.
               | travelling when I had little money).
               | 
               | I would be happy to work again, if it were a job that
               | invigorated me rather than slowly killing me. Our time is
               | our most valuable asset, and every second our remaining
               | balance diminishes.
               | 
               | There is a certain amount of mystical or wishful thinking
               | while working, about quitting work and relaxing or
               | refocusing for a while. I have found reality turns out to
               | be more mundane.
               | 
               | It is still my ongoing choice not to work, but the
               | consequences of that decision are not quite so clear cut.
        
               | puszczyk wrote:
               | Tell it to yahoo.
               | 
               | Money is obviously a great help, and saving money aside
               | is a great hedge against future risks (so you can call it
               | a plan).
               | 
               | I think that the OP had no "career" plan in mind. You can
               | burn through all the money in the world if you are not
               | careful.
               | 
               | But again, having money helps immensely whether you have
               | a plan or not. If possible do put some aside for future
               | emergencies or crises.
        
             | selestify wrote:
             | Also, only 10 years of salary means you'll eventually have
             | to start working again... so no plan means that you don't
             | know what you'll do after 10 years
        
               | DavidPeiffer wrote:
               | The runway length is dependent on their expenses. If they
               | earned 100k and spent 50k, it would last 20 years
               | assuming no investment returns. If they spend around 4%
               | of their 10 years salary annually, they're very likely to
               | be fine for 30+ years as long as it's invested
               | reasonably.
               | 
               | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trinity_study
        
               | beardyw wrote:
               | If the money is sensibly invested an adjustment in
               | lifestyle might allow you to live on it a considerable
               | time, or even indefinitely.
        
               | popotamonga wrote:
               | Left out my wife is still working and its enough for 70%
               | of living expenses.
        
               | VRay wrote:
               | Now you follow The Way of the House Husband
        
               | Archelaos wrote:
               | No necessarily. It depends on a person's yearly expenses.
               | If, for example, she was able to save 10 years salery in
               | 20 years, it would mean that she consumes only 5 % of the
               | total savings per year. This sounds quite sustainable,
               | because you need only to achieve a 5 % return on
               | investment (after inflation) on the savings to live just
               | from these returns not touching the savings at all.
        
         | ridaj wrote:
         | Practical question: if you're in the US, how do you deal with
         | health insurance?
        
           | paulgb wrote:
           | I'm not OP but when I quit my job earlier this year I went
           | with a plan from the healthcare marketplace. It's not cheap,
           | but that's the reality of US health care.
           | 
           | COBRA is also an option for a limited amount of time after
           | leaving.
        
           | yardie wrote:
           | Move abroad and get an international health insurance plan.
           | Price of 1 months premium covers the annual premium for an
           | international gold plated plan.
           | 
           | If I didn't have a child in school I'd be on a plane to the
           | Caribbean so fast.
        
             | rokhayakebe wrote:
             | Do they have good schools in the Caribbean?
        
           | CrazyPyroLinux wrote:
           | I'm looking into crowdhealth or a health share. I'm
           | young(ish) and healthy; ymmv.
        
           | walktheplank wrote:
           | In my situation, I used COBRA.
        
           | Ken_Adler wrote:
           | ACA (ObamaCare) is available. Your monthly cost for top tier
           | coverage can be as low as ~$5 a month for a family of 4.
           | 
           | The qualifying income cap is based on you _anticipated_
           | "Modified Adjusted Gross Income". They don't count assets.
           | This means that if you _may_ have losses that bring your
           | income for the year down to the income limits, then you can
           | honestly say that and get subsidies. If you currently don 't
           | have any income, but you can imagine yourself earning the
           | minimum income in the calendar year, then you can claim that.
           | (If you are lower than the minimum for ACA, you will get
           | MediCal for free)
           | 
           | For example, in California, for a family of 4, if you can
           | honestly estimate that after potential losses and potential
           | earnings, your modified adjusted gross income would be
           | between $39,750 - $53,000, you can get top tier coverage for
           | ~ $5 a month, no co-pay, very low prescription costs.
           | 
           | If your situation changes (you start working again) you just
           | notify the state and either pay a higher rate or cancel and
           | use your new company's plan.
           | 
           | Search for "2022 ACA Income limits [your state]"
           | 
           | Here is the 2022 chart for California:
           | https://www.coveredca.com/pdfs/FPL-chart.pdf
        
             | ridaj wrote:
             | Thanks for the very informative answer!
        
           | popotamonga wrote:
           | Not on US, top top insurance here costs 100EUR month
        
             | throwaway2037 wrote:
             | Where is that?
        
           | mxuribe wrote:
           | The cost of healthcare in the U.S. is the only reason that I
           | don't take (often higher per hour paying) contract roles.
           | Also, i'm a great wingman for sales but not great as sales
           | lead or generating sales, else I'd have gone into business
           | for myself. (And, no, skipping health insurance is not an
           | option at all for me.)
        
             | mgkimsal wrote:
             | I understood that mentality, somewhat, in the past, but
             | what is preventing you from purchasing a plan under ACA?
        
               | corysama wrote:
               | That's what I did when I took a couple years off. If you
               | think of health insurance as disaster coverage, the
               | "cheap" ACA coverage has a better worse case than the
               | premo platinum offerings.
               | 
               | Under https://www.coveredca.com/health/coverage-
               | levels/bronze/hdhp... coverage for an individual 40 year
               | old making $150K/year will cost you $6k/year with an out-
               | of-pocket max of $7K/year. Not great on either end. But,
               | not disaster either.
               | 
               | But, if your income is $30K/year, the cost drops to $0.0
               | to $1200 per year.
        
       | southphillyman wrote:
       | I resigned in July. So far things have been going well as I've
       | concentrated on a combination of relaxation, studying, traveling,
       | and exercise/yoga. Last week was my first week actively looking
       | for new employment, so far that has been going well too as I have
       | recruiter introduction calls booked for the next 3 weeks. Right
       | now I'm not sure how to frame my period of unemployment so I've
       | just been speaking as if I'm still employed.
        
       | activitypea wrote:
       | I had been planning to quit my job for a while. Got an exciting
       | offer from a startup, handed in my resignation, then had the
       | offer rescinded. Since I had zero savings, I had to find a new
       | job in a month, 2 max. I wish I had the opportunity to do more
       | stuff in that time, but the burden and anxiety was too crippling
       | :\
        
       | throwaway6734 wrote:
       | I did this almost a decade ago when I was younger and it went ok.
       | I worked a service job at first and then went through an
       | alternative teaching certification program. Back in software work
       | now.
        
       | trthatcher wrote:
       | I quit my job in May 2019... before the pandemic started.
       | 
       | I was working as a senior data analyst at an insurance company in
       | Canada. The work was boring, thankless and pretty exhausting but
       | I was paid well (for a data analyst, anyway). There were no
       | opportunities on the data science team since I didn't have an MSc
       | so I didn't have a clear next step. At the same time, I had
       | started the OMSCS program that January and that was eating up my
       | off time.
       | 
       | I was too busy just trying to stay on top of school and work that
       | I just couldn't see myself having the time to prep for tech
       | interviews or do some side projects to jump-start the tech side
       | of my resume. I decided I just wanted a breather.
       | 
       | I resigned and cited wanting to get ahead on my degree. I figured
       | this would be a reasonable narrative if the gap in my employment
       | were to ever come up during an interview.
       | 
       | I spent 10 months focusing on school, enjoying my time and
       | improving my development skills.
       | 
       | When I started looking, I applied to about 25 data scientist and
       | a handful of ML engineer roles. I received no callbacks except
       | for one ML Eng role which didn't go anywhere. Luckily an old
       | manager was starting a data science team at another insurance
       | company at the same time as I was looking. He basically handed me
       | a data engineer role with a bump in compensation in early 2020.
       | 
       | If I reflect:
       | 
       | - It worked out extremely well for me. I left a non-technical
       | job, had a nice 10 month break and ended up getting a development
       | job where I get to write code all day. I actually enjoy my work
       | now and I have learned so much since then. Zero regrets for me.
       | 
       | - At the same time, I underestimated how little my experience as
       | a data analyst meant to data science teams. I would have had to
       | apply to many more jobs to get something via the standard online
       | application approach. I think that would have been really
       | stressful.
       | 
       | - I ate through about 25% of my cash which was a little painful
       | to watch.
       | 
       | I think if you have a strong skill set and experience profile,
       | its probably just fine. If you were like me and trying to make a
       | big switch (eg. data analyst to data scientist or some kind of
       | eng), it was a risky move and I wouldn't recommend it without a
       | plan. I lucked out. YMMV.
        
         | disgruntledphd2 wrote:
         | > There were no opportunities on the data science team since I
         | didn't have an MSc
         | 
         | As an aside, this is total nonsense. For gods sake, if someone
         | has the skills to do data science (and if you can code and do
         | analysis then you definitely do) arbitrary gatekeeping on a
         | credential makes no goddamn sense.
         | 
         | EDIT: > At the same time, I underestimated how little my
         | experience as a data analyst meant to data science teams.
         | 
         | Not all data science teams, I've been doing this for a while
         | and absolutely adore getting people with analytics experience,
         | as it's critical to success in a lot of DS teams and is hard to
         | train.
        
       | miltondts wrote:
       | Depends a bit on how long you want to be out of a job. However if
       | you want to do this for some months/years, then consider
       | investing in relationships. Either creating new or strengthening
       | existing ones.
       | 
       | Whatever you decide to do, if you don't have people that can (and
       | want to) accompany you during this time, this is just a recipe
       | for loneliness and depression.
        
       | anon2020dot00 wrote:
       | I left a dead-end and soul-sucking job without anything planned.
       | I did stay at that job for 7 years so I had already learned as
       | much as I could.
       | 
       | Some of my reasoning for leaving was that it was much better for
       | my mental health for me to leave and also, I would have some good
       | job prospects since I had already gained 7 years of experience
       | from it.
       | 
       | I took a month off to recharge and reset mentally and then I
       | began my job search. After about a month, I was lucky enough to
       | find a good job that was a better fit for my interests.
       | 
       | My network did help me out during this difficult transition. So
       | I'd recommend having a good network for such a move.
       | 
       | I was also a little bit lucky since it was through my network
       | that I came to know of my new company and so if not for my
       | network then I probably would have had a much more difficult time
       | in getting a better job and in worse case, I could have been
       | unemployed for a long-time.
       | 
       | I did take the risk though because I was already at the a low
       | point during that time. I guess sometimes that works out but it
       | was indeed a risky thing for me to do as well.
        
       | taliesinb wrote:
       | I've had quite a journey since quitting, so sorry for the long
       | post!
       | 
       | I worked at a company writing mathematical software for 8 years.
       | The work was interesting, but I kept feeling there was a deeper
       | way of thinking about some particular topic I was working on
       | (e.g. data science, array programming, visualization, deep
       | learning). Unfortunately, writing production code didn't leave me
       | the time and energy to pursue these "deeper truths". Thinking
       | deeply takes a lot of time!
       | 
       | It was a hugely difficult decision, but in 2018 I quit, without
       | much of a plan. I attended some summer schools in different
       | things, taught at some other summer schools, started reading
       | papers and watching lectures on youtube about things that
       | interested me. I trained with a friend to get a job as research
       | engineer at DeepMind, but when it came time to apply, I worried
       | I'd repeat the same pattern as before if I got the job. So I got
       | cold feet.
       | 
       | The second decision, even more difficult, was to trust my
       | instincts that I could learn topics and work on my own proto-
       | ideas independently without the imprimatur of a PhD program or
       | industrial lab. I had saved money, and I had enough runway for a
       | couple years.
       | 
       | I have roughly 3 ideas in me that I need to formalize -- or die
       | trying (meaning run out of money). I have cute names for them:
       | hyperbooks, algebraic arrays, and discrete geometry. I'm working
       | on the last one right now [1].
       | 
       | My inspiration was people like Andrew Kelley (author of Zig), and
       | Rich Hickey (author of Clojure). They just did the things they
       | believed in, worked hard, and have contributed something useful
       | and novel to the world. Of course, I don't know if what I'm
       | working on will be useful to others, but I have reason to be
       | hopeful.
       | 
       | If one of my ideas succeeds, I'll be able to find a way to make a
       | living off of it somehow. If they all fail, I'll have learned an
       | enormous amount, had an adventure, and I can still go back to the
       | ordinary career path.
       | 
       | In the end, the fundamental question was: "do I believe in an
       | idea enough to pay my own salary to work on it?" Realizing I
       | could honestly answer "yes" was a profound inflection point in my
       | life.
       | 
       | [1]: https://quivergeometry.net
        
         | BlueTemplar wrote:
         | Can't wait for the "Geometric algebra" part !
        
       | bby wrote:
       | I quit my job many years ago, and now I am a NEET. I am neither
       | employed, in education, or training. I live a hikikomori
       | lifestyle and am ashamed to go back into the workforce. Living
       | with parents as a parasitic single. Each day is a struggle.
        
       | ericskiff wrote:
       | Here's my personal perspective on this:
       | 
       | - I was at an abusive job and was underpaid
       | 
       | - I had interviewed with Flickr and got the role, but didn't
       | realize I'd have to move out west and so said no. I now
       | understood I was marketable
       | 
       | - I quit the job with the plan to take a month+ to decide on my
       | next move
       | 
       | - I shopped around a bit and had 2 roles lined up, and took the
       | one that sounded the most fun to work at and most sustainable
       | (the one I turned down had a 45+hour a week MINIMUM)
       | 
       | THEN
       | 
       | that company got acquired and I was once again without a job. A
       | few of us thought about starting a company, and I seriously
       | focused on leveling up my Ruby on Rails skills. Within 6 weeks I
       | had a role at a new incubator which was one of the most fun jobs
       | i ever had.
       | 
       | THEN
       | 
       | That incubator got shut down, and a few of us thought about
       | spinning out one of the companies or raising money. In the end, 2
       | of us decided to start our own development shop. That was 10
       | years ago and it's been hard work but awesomely rewarding.
       | 
       | I would NEVER have achieved all of that if I didn't take the leap
       | to leave the abusive job. I highly value the time I took between
       | jobs to test things out and make the right decision at each turn.
       | 
       | I didn't have to take the time off to do it, but if it's
       | financially viable for you to take a few weeks and see the
       | playing field in front of you, my personal experience is that it
       | pays off well in the medium to long term.
        
       | klipklop wrote:
       | Considering how "judgey" bay area tech is I would never make such
       | a move. Any sign of not being a steadfast workaholic is a "red
       | flag."
        
       | Dumblydorr wrote:
       | I worked as a data analyst at a hospital, but by early 2020 I was
       | tired of it. They harassed me whenever my butt wasn't in the seat
       | from 9 to 530, a seat which was in a cubicle dungeon with barred
       | windows and bright fluorescent tubes. I asked for WFH for years
       | and they never relented. Right after I left, no job lined up, the
       | pandemic hit, and they all got moved to WFH: guess it was
       | possible after all, bad luck for me!
       | 
       | I was funemployed throughout the pandemic. I did a lot of
       | childcare, art projects, home repairs, and yardwork for my
       | family. I kept my eyes open, eventually finding a massive upgrade
       | in QoL job after 12 months of looking.
       | 
       | You only have one life. If your job is unbearable, you need to
       | make a change. Every year is 2% of your career, don't waste it at
       | a dead end. If you can't afford to leave, figure out how to lower
       | your expenses, or use time at your current job to search for
       | other jobs.
       | 
       | Life is too short for miserable jobs.
        
       | 93po wrote:
       | I've done this twice and I'm about to do it a third time in a
       | couple weeks. Each time I've only had about 40k of liquid assets
       | I could spend, and managed to mostly eff out of wherever I lived
       | and not worry about a lease. Also I was single and have no kids.
       | Both times I spent about a year not working. It didn't really
       | help me at all. I didn't give me any direction, I didn't learn
       | much new about myself. I dated a lot and really hyperfocused on
       | dating, so I guess I got better at that. For my upcoming time off
       | I do feel like I have a somewhat good idea of what I want to do
       | in 6 months to a year career wise, so that's a good improvement.
       | 
       | My advice: be sure to have at least some cushion of money, it's a
       | hell of a lot easier when single and no kids, force yourself to
       | have some structure and discipline after a month or so of grace
       | period, consider staying with family and friends to save on
       | money, and finally try to live a little. You only live once.
        
       | avl999 wrote:
       | It went fine. I did this ins 2019. I had more than enough in
       | savings and no other responsibilities (no mortgage, wife or
       | kids). I took about 5 months off during which I travelled for a
       | couple of months. Felt it was worth it and had no trouble finding
       | a new job when I was ready to go back.
        
       | crossroadsguy wrote:
       | Was going bonkers without having anything to do during the raging
       | second wave. Started interviewing and joined another job which,
       | now, I already find miserable after these few months.
       | 
       | Do it, but iff, and this is just my opinion, you have clarity
       | about what to do next with or without pay (if your finances allow
       | that).
        
       | steine65 wrote:
       | Since most of these answers are tech-related, here's my financial
       | services perspective.
       | 
       | I spent two years working as an auditor for a large public
       | accounting firm. This was my first post-college job. I disliked
       | the job from the beginning, but was not confident I would find
       | another good entry level job, so I stuck with it until I burnt
       | myself out. Covid resulted in more work hours than usual.
       | Compensation per hour was terrible for the number of hours
       | worked, and I felt like I was wasting my life.
       | 
       | Near the end (August 2020), I struggled to do anything. Since I
       | didn't have strong relationships with coworkers, I quit without
       | much discussion or a plan. It was easy because: the parents paid
       | for college, I don't spend much, I have minimal monthly expenses,
       | and I have no major commitments.
       | 
       | After quitting, I drove around the US for two months seeing cool
       | places and old friends. Eventually I was offered a short-term
       | contract as an auditor again, and I took it. I really didn't want
       | to be an auditor, but the hourly pay was great, and it was a
       | promotion. Turns out, higher compensation made me a happier
       | auditor.
       | 
       | Bonus points, after that contract I hiked the Pacific Crest
       | Trail, which I just finished. The 6 month gap from the hike did
       | not cause any issues when finding a new job, and actually made
       | interview conversations fun and easy.
        
       | dandellion wrote:
       | I quit my job a few years back without anything lined up. I had
       | enough saved up to last a couple years and the hiring market was
       | booming so I wasn't worried about my next job, I was pretty
       | burned out and just wanted a break.
       | 
       | I spent a couple months lazying around until I felt like going
       | back to work, then spent a month doing interviews until I got a
       | couple offers I liked. Nobody seemed to care that I took a break
       | between jobs, and the only time it came up I said I had the
       | chance to relax for a bit so I just took advantage of it and they
       | didn't question it or anything.
        
       | danielvaughn wrote:
       | I quit in May of this year. I don't regret it, but starting to
       | feel like maybe it wasn't the best financial decision. I'm not
       | very good with finances and I didn't really adjust my lifestyle,
       | so I dwindled my savings quite a bit more than I wanted.
       | 
       | On the other hand, I did a bunch of sweat equity work for a
       | startup and now own almost 10% of the company. So I'm thinking of
       | it as an investment. A risky, not-very-well-thought-out
       | investment, but still.
        
       | qooiii2 wrote:
       | If you can afford it, do it! The worst that can happen is you'll
       | just get another job.
       | 
       | I quit a job about 15 years ago with no plans and enough money to
       | last me a year or two. It taught me a lot about myself. I had
       | planned on hiking and skiing and maybe starting my own company,
       | but mostly I just sat around catching up on TV shows and movies
       | because all my friends were working full-time. I also did some
       | volunteer work to fill the time and keep up contact with other
       | people.
       | 
       | After about a year of that, I was really bored, and it only took
       | a month or two to line up another job, even in the 2008
       | recession. I took a pay cut relative to my previous job, but I
       | met great new people, learned a lot of new stuff, and eventually
       | got enough equity to more than make up the salary difference.
        
       | minimaxir wrote:
       | Years ago, I YOLO quit Apple after my professional development
       | stalled (HN discussion then:
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14270897) and I felt I had
       | enough in my personal data science portfolio that I could
       | leverage it to get a job in the industry. I had overestimated my
       | hireability but I eventually did get a DS job after four months,
       | and am still at that company.
       | 
       | In retrospect, it was correct from a career standpoint, but I
       | will not quit a job again without having another job lined up,
       | especially since for data science in particular the industry is
       | competitive and would result in another prolonged job search.
        
       | ipv6ipv4 wrote:
       | I've done it twice so far. Both times were great for me. I am on
       | the cusp of doing it a third time. Hopefully, permanently this
       | time.
       | 
       | Keep in mind, I have an advantage of being a decent software
       | engineer in the biggest industry boom in history. So it has
       | always been easy for me to step back into the market when I
       | wanted.
       | 
       | The first time was for about 6 months to welcome a child. I had
       | had enough of my job at the time and decided to stop without a
       | plan. It was great and possibly planted the seed of future
       | breaks. After 6 months I was ready to start again and got a job
       | within a week or two.
       | 
       | The second time was for 4 years. I moved my family to another
       | continent. Eventually, moved back for personal reasons and so had
       | to find employment again. This time I found a job through
       | connections.
       | 
       | I'm now financially at the point that I likely don't need to work
       | anymore and I'm itching to break free again so I'm likely to do
       | it in the near future.
       | 
       | My advice is to have enough saved up for at least a year and to
       | jump. It's liberating.
        
       | JSavageOne wrote:
       | Traveled the world for a year and a half, then started
       | contracting remotely while remaining abroad, making more money
       | than I was before in NYC (I wasn't working at a FAANG type
       | company though). Zero regrets, life is too short to be miserable,
       | and people severely overestimate the repercussions of quitting
       | one's job and difficult of finding employment again.
       | 
       | Although NYC is fun to visit from time to time, I don't miss
       | living there one bit. And nowhere else in the U.S really appealed
       | to me as someone who actually likes cities, though who knows
       | maybe that would change when I start a family.
       | 
       | Spent this year living in South/Central America and Europe, and
       | currently in Rome of all places. Not my ideal city, but been
       | seeing a girl here and want to see where it goes.
       | 
       | Financially, lucked out on going all in on crypto a year ago at
       | some friends' advice. That being said I still wouldn't consider
       | myself FIRE. I would have millions had I not sold my altcoins a
       | month or two too early against my friends' wishes (who's now
       | definitely FIRE). I might've been better off focusing more on
       | crypto and less on my day job, but can't blame anyone but myself,
       | and it takes some real cajones to hold for a year and not sell
       | even after 5-10xing. Once this contract ends though, I'll
       | definitely be doing something in the crypto space.
        
         | secondcoming wrote:
         | Are you a US citizen? Don't you get double-taxed on foreign
         | earnings?
        
           | JSavageOne wrote:
           | I haven't stayed anywhere long enough to warrant it
        
           | Macha wrote:
           | Many countries (and certainly Italy) have a taxation treaty
           | with the US. To my understanding, you basically write off
           | your foreign tax against your US tax and so only have to pay
           | US tax if the foreign tax is less than the US (which in
           | Italy, probably not).
        
             | city41 wrote:
             | And to add to this, there are other things like the Foreign
             | Earned Income Exclusion which for most people boils down to
             | about a $100k tax credit.
        
           | randomopining wrote:
           | He's just hopping around on a tourist visa
        
       | moeadham wrote:
       | I did this in 2010 and I now run a profitable software company
       | with 45 employees.
       | 
       | Do it. There is literally no downside. If things don't work out,
       | you can just go back to the company you left. They will take you
       | back!
        
         | elcomet wrote:
         | > There is literally no downside
         | 
         | If you have suffient savings.. Which is definitely not the case
         | for most people
        
         | xwdv wrote:
         | Literally no downside?
         | 
         | I can think of a few: there's a good chance it doesn't work out
         | and you find yourself running an unprofitable business working
         | harder to make much less than your old software engineering
         | job.
        
           | otachack wrote:
           | OP probably has in mind that you can always go back to your
           | previous employer, or find a job in the hot market.
           | 
           | I worry people keep thinking it will always be hot. I
           | personally have been listening to podcasts of veteran people
           | in the tech world and many lived through the dotcom crash
           | where the "hot market" went all of a sudden cold.
           | 
           | Hot or not, they did live through it and made remarkable
           | things along the way. My advice, make sure you have runway to
           | live off your savings for the duration you initially want and
           | save for 2-3x that. Life is too short to be grinding until
           | retirement, though I imagine paths where if you have a high
           | salary you may hit retirement earlier than other generations.
        
         | zikduruqe wrote:
         | > There is literally no downside.
         | 
         | Lack of medical benefits for a disabled family member. Lack of
         | house. Lack of food. Lack of electricity.
         | 
         | Nope, can't see any downside.
        
       | mdolon wrote:
       | I quit my full time job as a Software Engineer in 2019 without a
       | solid plan. I had some money saved up and knew I wanted to work
       | on a startup, and had a laundry list of ideas I wanted to
       | explore. But none were built or had any traction.
       | 
       | I've tried working on side projects and startups while fully
       | employed in the past and never made any serious progress. It was
       | always too easy for things to drag on for months. For my
       | personality type, I needed the pressure and continuous blocks of
       | focus time to make any meaningful progress.
       | 
       | During 2020 I went through a few ideas and eventually landed on
       | one that has since found some traction. I found a cofounder, went
       | through YC and am now finding our place in a competitive market.
       | 
       | All-in-all, it was a great decision, and one I would do again in
       | a heartbeat.
        
       | cushychicken wrote:
       | So far, so good. I quit in July with nothing else lined up. I
       | took about two months off where I was just reading and taking
       | care of our new puppy.
       | 
       | I've started a job board for FPGA/RTL engineers at
       | www.rtljobs.com. The mailing list is growing at an appreciable
       | clip and paid postings should be live early in the new year.
       | 
       | I've also been doing some electronics consulting work. Not much.
       | Only about 2-3 hours a day.
       | 
       | I'm making about half as much as I was at my job, but with
       | functionally no stress.
        
       | jcun4128 wrote:
       | I had a grand but I had a friend. Moved to another state with a
       | suitcase of stuff. Took some time off, tried to freelance didn't
       | happen. I was living on lentil soup and rice. Eventually had to
       | work at a factory/restaurant/till I got into a web agency job.
       | Before that I was doing data entry and before that dishwashing.
       | My finances imploded (like 300s credit score, was sued by JDBs)
       | and yeah it was really dumb on my part but I was able to recover.
       | I crashed my car too (in a parking lot doing dumb stuff eg.
       | drifting, not bad just busted a tie rod) and yeah, I rode my bike
       | around like a dumbass for a few years. Still poor but in a better
       | place and helping my families out. I've built my CL back up it's
       | nice to have.
       | 
       | A cool thing is I had so much time, like months of time to learn.
       | I dove into web development, I didn't know what a CSR was, how to
       | get a server to work, learned about XSS/sql injection, etc...
       | 
       | This was in 2016 left from NY moved to Missouri/KS.
       | 
       | I still have that fear of "what if I go homeless" but I've also
       | learned not to get too attached to my possessions I can in theory
       | sell them on the spot at 70% of their price to get immediate
       | buyers. It's not great but guarantees me cash. I can do computing
       | on second-hand stuff, in a better position to freelance. I have a
       | burn rate of my net worth based on assets/cash/CL divided by my
       | monthly needs so I know how many months I can live for ha not to
       | get dramatic.
       | 
       | I shouldn't be poor now, I make more than I really need but I
       | also keep saying yes to my families, I've given away $30K so far
       | which is a lot for me. Funny I could have paid off my student
       | loans with that money or I could have saved that. Oh well adapt
       | and survive that's the name of the game. Also try not to be too
       | much of a nice guy.
       | 
       | I had some crazy experiences though, like riding a bike at
       | midnight through a road cutting across a huge field (like a mile
       | or two in length) pitch black at night that was scary.
        
       | undefinedzero wrote:
       | Since I think burn out is often caused by work issues in
       | combination with personal issues, here's my two cents on quitting
       | while in it or close to it.
       | 
       | I've been working as a contractor for several years now, and for
       | about 2 years now I am also working on my own start up together
       | with a partner but it's earning 0 because reasons. After having
       | worked A LOT over the past few years, I had a big financial
       | buffer that allowed me complete freedom in my decision to quit,
       | which was a very important factor.
       | 
       | For a long time I felt like I might be close to burning out due
       | to working too much, getting bored of work, being unable to get
       | anything changed at the company I was working for (as a software
       | architect), and dealing with relationship issues. I took all of
       | March off to see if that would help, but within 1-2 weeks after
       | getting back I realized I wasn't really ready yet but I kept
       | going because it was a very convenient job. Second last week of
       | April something small happened that pissed me off more than it
       | should, revealing to me that I wasn't in a good state of mind to
       | keep working there. The next day I informed the company I would
       | quit as soon as possible (which ended up end of April).
       | 
       | I decided I was going to be working on my own startup for the
       | foreseeable future while taking it easy to get my head straight
       | again. I ended up just coding endlessly on the project as a means
       | of being distracted while never really dealing with real issues
       | because I did not have the energy to confront them. Meanwhile I
       | keep going in circles dealing with the end of my relationship and
       | I seem to be unable to move on. I've come to realize spending so
       | much time on my own with little distraction has been an issue.
       | 
       | I ended up deciding to try to find a new job again and work for
       | my start up only 2 days a week, but it has been hard finding
       | something for 3 days a week. I obviously want to work on location
       | 1-2 days, which is also not ideal with Covid.
       | 
       | The lesson I learned from this is not to quit when you're not
       | happy about your personal situation, even if you can afford to
       | financially and professionally. The distraction is probably
       | healthy, and if your current job isn't, find another one that is
       | instead of quitting altogether.
        
       | dimitar wrote:
       | It went really well! I wanted to do something different in my
       | career so I thought I had to be in between jobs for as long as 6
       | months. Less than 2 months I found a much better job without
       | really looking. My wife was almost disappointed as she got used
       | to me doing much more around the house and with our child. Oh
       | well.
        
       | georgeburdell wrote:
       | I'm going to caution that I have NOT quit my job, but I did take
       | a ~3mo leave of absence from work to study full-time for getting
       | a job as a senior software engineer.
       | 
       | This thread seems to take a very optimistic view of quitting, and
       | that getting another job was easy as a fallback option. I can say
       | as an average dev in the Bay Area, I've failed the vast majority
       | of first round technical screens I've encountered. Consequently,
       | I basically have nothing to show for the last 3 months. For
       | someone like me, I guess I'll be working the same job (which I am
       | rated highly at) until I can actually retire.
        
         | jnguyen64 wrote:
         | interesting perspective - was it mainly leetcode questions that
         | you ended up getting asked for first round technical screens?
        
       | sumnole wrote:
       | I was terminated after asking for a raise and better working
       | conditions. It's only been a few weeks but I've been focusing on
       | health and hobbies. I plan on traveling for a few months while
       | looking for a better opportunity to secure my finances again.
        
       | stjohnswarts wrote:
       | If you're in tech, saved a rainy day fund, and good at what you
       | do it's fine. I prefer contracts this one. Couple months off
       | between 1 and to 1.5 year stints are fantastic. If you love your
       | job and your team and your pay/benefits, I would highly suggest
       | sticking it out and seeking "life fullfillment" elsewhere. Don't
       | just join the "great resignation" just because it's there. I am
       | someone who gets bored easily with the same people and company,
       | so I move along every year or two and don't take full time,
       | salaried positions deliberately.What works for one person doesn't
       | mean it will work for others. That doesn't fit everyone's MO
       | though. Talk it out with your friends and family.
        
       | setgree wrote:
       | I quit in May, and since then have hiked the Appalachian Trail
       | and just landed in New Orleans. I'll do a little part-time
       | research work but my main goal is to write a lot and play music.
       | 
       | Before I left, I was depressed, and now I'm not. IMO everything
       | else is totally second order to not feeling so darn bad all the
       | time.
       | 
       | My plans extend to about the end of this current month, and then,
       | we shall see.
        
         | subpar wrote:
         | Also quit and hiked the AT back in 2018. Plan was to take a
         | whole year - hike the first half and travel the second, but a
         | month after finishing the trail a unique opportunity came my
         | way through a former colleague and I jumped back in to the
         | working world.
        
         | plants wrote:
         | Wow, hiking the AT is currently my quitting plan as well, but
         | for 2022. Excited to see that you aren't experiencing extreme
         | post-trail depression - I know it can hit hard for some people
         | :). I hope to be in a very similar place/state of mind as you
         | next year.
         | 
         | Do you have any advice for an AT hopeful for next year? I have
         | done a fair amount of planning and have completed a ~250 mile
         | thru-hike this past summer, but would still love some advice
         | from a veteran (i.e. tent vs. hammock, how many sets of each
         | type of clothing you ended up using, etc.)
        
           | setgree wrote:
           | Happy to talk at length about this -- my email is my HN
           | username at gmail and my name is Seth -- but I would say that
           | a base weight or 12 pounds or less is a good predictor of who
           | actually finishes.
        
           | willcipriano wrote:
           | I live in the area, go with the hammock. You can struggle to
           | find places to put a tent down in the deep forest.
        
       | samcolson4 wrote:
       | I quit just before lockdown hit in the UK. Had planned to walk
       | Lands end to John O'Groats and then get another job in a similar
       | field, but obviously COVID put a stop to that.
       | 
       | I had saved up a lot, so I just gave myself a lot of time to
       | think and re-assess what I wanted to do with my life. Ended up
       | becoming a developer. So overall, very positive experience and I
       | couldn't imagine going back to my old job now.
        
         | smarx007 wrote:
         | What was your previous trade?
        
       | PaulHoule wrote:
       | I've had different outcomes:
       | 
       | - the very next day I called up another company and was doing
       | similar work at a company that was in much better financial shape
       | two days later
       | 
       | - the beginning of an (ultimately failed) 2.5 year search for the
       | right consulting work
        
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       | throwaway13423k wrote:
       | I quit so I could finish grad school full-time, learn more about
       | ML, and just relax a bit from burnout induced by 2020.
       | 
       | I don't have a recommendation either way, on the one hand I
       | really needed the time away and I felt much much better after not
       | working full-time for a few months. It has been a major relief to
       | not have to stick to someone else's schedule, do scrum, pick up
       | jira tickets, etc.
       | 
       | On the other hand, it is super stressful looking for a job when
       | you don't have a fallback. Even with lots of experience, demand,
       | ease of getting interviews, it is still hard. Interviews have
       | gotten crazy hard and luck is such a huge factor as to passing an
       | interview (talking about big tech, leetcode style ones), the
       | pressure is immense when you know you _need_ to pass because you
       | don't have a fallback plan.
       | 
       | I had a ton of cash runway saved up, but still it has been scary
       | at times. Got pretty sick once and so did one of my parents. US
       | society is structured such that you really need the safety net
       | provided by an employer to feel capable of handling these kind of
       | emergencies.
       | 
       | Personally, I can't say I regret quitting, but I'm never going to
       | do it again without something lined up. Just not worth it for me.
        
       | instaheat wrote:
       | I mean, I will preface this by saying I have a significant sum in
       | the bank which allowed me to take the risk of leaving my job in
       | the first place. I've got maybe a 3 year runway before things
       | start getting scary. (As in homeless and eating ramen)
       | 
       | I have traveled for the past 6 months and haven't really found
       | myself yet. I want the freedom so I could do what I want, but now
       | I feel like I don't have a purpose.
       | 
       | I have been taking voice/acting classes and taking singing
       | lessons, and reading alot.
       | 
       | I don't want to go back to a W2 job, unless I absolutely have to.
        
       | xoac wrote:
       | I was very much burnt out from work and had some other Life Stuff
       | happen so I sort of had to do it. I have some savings so I'm
       | taking it slow to get back into looking for work etc.
       | 
       | I would say it's not going great, but my hand was forced a bit.
        
       | noolryvfr wrote:
       | Would also love to know, sometimes I feel like to really change
       | paths, I can't do the whole interview and switch thing while
       | employed, but I'm scared of "falling off the train" if that makes
       | sense. Also I do take other's experiences with a grain of salt,
       | but in general appreciate seeing things from others' points of
       | view.
        
         | dempseye wrote:
         | > I can't do the whole interview and switch thing while
         | employed
         | 
         | Why not?
        
       | 999900000999 wrote:
       | I actually did this once when I was 20 or so, and I had
       | absolutely no safety net if things didn't go right.
       | 
       | I was working a job that was so stressful, I would regularly take
       | unpaid sick days just because I couldn't do it. Now considering I
       | didn't have any kids, this wasn't that big of a choice to make.
       | I'm okay with putting myself on the line, but if you have a
       | family to take care of this is absolutely reckless
        
       | osrec wrote:
       | I quit my investment banking job in 2017 and set up my own SaaS.
       | Very tough for the first two years, making little to no money
       | (but I had a good amount of savings). Four years since quitting,
       | I'm better off (many times over), both financially and in terms
       | of how much time I have to do the things I want to.
       | 
       | Not for the faint hearted, but I definitely recommend it.
        
         | shnock wrote:
         | What is your business model?
        
           | osrec wrote:
           | We have a standard "fremium" model, and then do custom
           | deployments for larger clients. 95% of our revenue now comes
           | from the larger clients.
        
         | randomopining wrote:
         | So SaaS is just some online app that does something that
         | somebody pays you a monthly recurring fee for?
        
         | thegypsyking wrote:
         | How did you know what to build?
        
           | osrec wrote:
           | I had an idea cooking away in the back of my mind for a few
           | years, but never really managed to build it, as my job
           | demanded too much of my time.
        
       | hericium wrote:
       | I tend to have 2-3 months of new hobbies picking between jobs. It
       | is easy to unnotice burning out but harder to pick oneself up
       | after it happens. A start of a burnout has always been the main
       | reason for me to move away/forward from a job.
       | 
       | I find vacationing between jobs more rewarding than during a job.
       | My mind is clear and I have increasingly more willingness to try
       | and do new stuff. It's easier for me to pick up new hobbies where
       | there is no unpleasantness that I have to go back to soon.
       | 
       | I have a comfort of working in a field where landing a job is
       | easy enough not to worry that quitting will result in
       | homelessness.
        
       | patchorang wrote:
       | I've done this 3 times in my 8 year career so far. I pretty much
       | leave every job this way. I like to take a few months between
       | jobs to do my own thing and take a break.
       | 
       | If you are financially stable enough and are in a spot in your
       | career where you don't think you'll need to worry about getting
       | another job too much. DO IT. Looking back at the last 8 years,
       | those periods off are the periods I remember the most.
       | 
       | One time I had a tougher time finding a job (but I was also only
       | a little over a year into my career). The other times I haven't
       | had a problem. One time my old company hired me back with a
       | promotion/raise. Most recently, I did some VERY easy part time
       | contract work for about 6 months. I think these breaks are
       | becoming much more common and I don't think it impacts my resume
       | too much.
       | 
       | I wish there was a way to get a new job with a starting date 3-6
       | months in the future. That would be the ideal situation.
        
         | joenot443 wrote:
         | Big tech companies rarely have a problem pushing a start date a
         | few months in the future. At my last positions at G and Snap,
         | HR had no problem accommodating my request that I not start
         | until about 5 months after my interview. I was just upfront and
         | told them that for some personal reasons, I'd be taking an
         | extended break between positions, and wasn't interested in
         | interviewing unless they could promise me a start date around
         | that time.
        
           | patchorang wrote:
           | Good to know, I've mostly worked at startups/smaller
           | companies so it's been a little less flexible.
        
         | lnxg33k1 wrote:
         | I also do the same thing, it's just nice every now and then to
         | rediscover the passion for developing and experimenting without
         | meetings and managers ;o
        
       | xyzzy21 wrote:
       | 1. Have savings
       | 
       | 2. Have your resume always up to date
       | 
       | 3. Have a network of people who can hook you up
       | 
       | 4. Take a deep breath, commit to leaving but do it on YOUR
       | schedule - quitting on the spot is emotional, not rational -
       | avoid doing that if you can.
       | 
       | Back in the day I learned something that my employer was doing
       | that I knew I could not abide by. I did #4 but I had #1, #2 and
       | #3. Within a month I had a job offer and so I THEN quit and took
       | the new jobs. In the exit interview I told them exactly why I was
       | leaving; and not surprisingly they didn't care. Decision
       | validated!
        
         | ramraj07 wrote:
         | I always hear have your resume up to date, how hard can it be
         | to update your resume ? It can't possibly take more than an
         | hour or two?
        
           | millzlane wrote:
           | Not hard to update. But if you've been at a place for ten
           | years in multiple roles. And haven't updated once...It's
           | practically a rewrite, at least in the objective, skills, and
           | employment duties sections. I'm going through this now and
           | scrambling for job descriptions.
        
         | break_the_bank wrote:
         | I think I have #1, #2 and #3 sorted out. I am not sure if
         | another Big Tech job is an answer for me. Its either doing an
         | indie business, starting a startup or joining one, but yeah #1,
         | #2 and #3 help. Definitely need some time to decompress before
         | I make the move to working hard again.
        
         | myaccoun90 wrote:
         | > 3. Have a network of people who can hook you up
         | 
         | This is easier said than done. When I had my company I could
         | hire people on the spot (and did once).
         | 
         | What I've found is that most other people are big hat but no
         | cattle. So, many might be surprised to find that their network
         | of people are quite less connected in practice. Plan
         | accordingly.
        
       | endymi0n wrote:
       | > OK, so job quitting and breaking up both have "very large,
       | positive, and statistically significant coefficients at six
       | months". How big? Ludicrously, insanely big.
       | 
       | > _The causal effect of quitting a job is estimated to be a gain
       | of 5.2 happiness points out of 10, and breaking up as a gain of
       | 2.7 out of 10!_ This is the kind of welfare jump you might expect
       | if you moved from one of the least happiness countries in the
       | world to one of the happiest, though presumably these effects
       | would fade over time.
       | 
       | > Both results are significant at the p=0.04 level, and
       | fortunately I don't think Levitt had many if any opportunities
       | for specification mining here to artificially drive down the p
       | value.
       | 
       | https://80000hours.org/2018/08/randomised-experiment-if-your...
       | 
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17840275
       | 
       | ^^ big caveat emptor in the top comment though ;-)
        
       | swimorsinka wrote:
       | I'll add another cautionary tale....
       | 
       | At the start of my career, I worked as a SWE at one of the
       | FAANGs. After 3 years, I couldn't take it anymore. I hated
       | everything I worked on, nothing was meeting my lofty
       | expectations, and I thought about quitting constantly.
       | 
       | Eventually I pulled the trigger to go and "do my own thing." I
       | didn't have a backup job - instead I worked on my own projects
       | with a cofounder and tried to turn them into a startup. We
       | struggled mightily. We didn't raise money, and we couldn't find
       | product market fit. Every month I was watching my bank account
       | drain, and I wasn't drawing a salary from anywhere. The stock in
       | my own startup was worthless.
       | 
       | This continued for 2.5 years. Eventually, I had had enough, and I
       | knew something had to change. I went and tried to get my old
       | FAANG job back, but couldn't - probably due to my entitled
       | attitude when I was there. I struggled with interviews for a
       | couple of months, and eventually landed at a company several
       | steps down from my old position, making about half of what I had
       | at FAANG.
       | 
       | About a year ago, I switched back to a different FAANG after
       | having been at that other company for 6.5 years. Why I stayed for
       | so many years is a long story.
       | 
       | So ironically I'm back to where I started, but wow did I cause
       | myself a lot of trouble. I watched for years as my old friends
       | went on to make double and triple what I did, for doing the exact
       | same job. In the meantime, I was more stressed out, dealing with
       | a worse bureaucracy at a company that didn't value engineering.
       | 
       | Leaving FAANG was something I had to do. I had to get the startup
       | out of my system, and I couldn't continue at my original job the
       | way that I was. You can't buy perspective, but I probably cost
       | myself something like 1-2 million dollars in the process. Many
       | times over the years I've questioned "Why couldn't I have just
       | stayed at that cushy job like so many of the people that I knew?"
       | I know there's no way that I could have given my emotional state
       | at the time, but I can't help thinking about it.
       | 
       | So I could tell you a bunch of lessons from my experiences, but
       | unfortunately they're probably best learned yourself. You have to
       | follow whatever you think is right and hope that things will work
       | out for you. Usually they will in the long run - but the short
       | term might be painful.
        
         | gaws wrote:
         | > This continued for 2.5 years. Eventually, I had had enough,
         | and I knew something had to change. I went and tried to get my
         | old FAANG job back, but couldn't - probably due to my entitled
         | attitude when I was there.
         | 
         | lol @ thinking this was a viable option. Who returns to a
         | company nearly three years later thinking he or she will get
         | their old job back? By that point, they've likely filled the
         | position several times over.
        
       | knuthsat wrote:
       | I quit my great first job because I wanted to move to a new
       | country. My plan was to not work at all (my partner would support
       | me). Then the lockdown started.
       | 
       | I realized it might not be a good time to not work, so I applied
       | to a bunch of remote websites (Toptal, Upwork and others) and
       | after 2 months I had a full-time remote position.
       | 
       | That year I earned a bit less, living in a high life-standard
       | country than I did at my first job.
       | 
       | Figured out remote work sucks and most companies aren't as great
       | as my first job. Also, figured that it's hard to find meaningful
       | programming work. Work that pays seem to be mobile apps and the
       | teams are much less experienced that the one from my first job.
       | No idea how to get back to something that pays more but on-site
       | (no one can match remote US/UK salaries).
       | 
       | I would say it was a mistake. Probably wouldn't be if the
       | pandemic did not start. Wasted 18 months earning money doing
       | silly work and not showing my full potential.
        
       | barthom wrote:
       | I quit my job 3 months ago, in late August. I didn't have a plan
       | but I was feeling pretty burnt out (the work culture was pretty
       | toxic) and a bit depressed so I wanted to take some time off to
       | figure out my next steps. I also have a lot saved up so I knew my
       | financials wouldn't be a problem short-term.
       | 
       | The first month or so was tough. It felt weird not working on
       | something. Which I think is part of a healthy process to get used
       | to not binding my self-worth to my productivity. I traveled a
       | bit, reconnected with friends and did some freelancing. I tried
       | finding enjoyment in programming again, something I felt I'd lost
       | at my last job.
       | 
       | All in all, I'm really happy I quit before things got worse. I
       | still don't have a plan really, but I know I will probably never
       | accept a position as a full-time employee unless I am _really_
       | passionate about the work and feel I have a lot of impact. I am
       | considering continuing my CS degree (I 'm 22). I'm in a pretty
       | fortunate position financially because of some successful side
       | projects, so I've decided to take advantage of that and just keep
       | working for myself. It's what I truly enjoy, and as long as I
       | make a decent living there's no point in earning more money if
       | I'm miserable for it.
        
         | randomopining wrote:
         | How much saved up do you think is a lot? Just wondering
        
           | barthom wrote:
           | ~50k dollars. It's obviously not nearly enough to retire on
           | but I can sustain my current lifestyle for at least 3 years
           | without issues, even if my income would be 0
        
       | bil7 wrote:
       | It's really nice to have an extended break where your return to
       | work date is mutable. As long as you have some savings, surely
       | you have recruiters messaging you enough on linkedin to find
       | something quickly when you want to.
        
       | gwbas1c wrote:
       | > Those who quit their jobs without anything planned. How did it
       | go?
       | 
       | I was planning to quit in the fall of 2009 to do a startup, but
       | things turned sour in my job so I quit earlier and worked on my
       | side project.
       | 
       | My side project / startup was a disaster, but in early 2010 I was
       | able to devote my full time energies to my job search.
       | 
       | In general, I prefer looking for a job when "it's my job to look
       | for a job." It makes it easy to compare different opportunities,
       | and I don't need to sneak around on the sly.
        
       | kinnth wrote:
       | I think whether it's the right or wrong decision is very
       | personal. However, the worst case scenario of quitting with
       | nothing to do is:
       | 
       | 1. You have less money 2. You have less upto date skills
       | (perhaps) 3. You will then need to get another job at a later
       | point in time.
       | 
       | If you can budget correctly and you are a passionate learner, I
       | only see 3 as the biggest issue. Even then perhaps that time off
       | gives you perspective and you then get a job that fits you
       | better.
        
       | kevmo314 wrote:
       | I quit Google after five years and moved to NYC right before the
       | pandemic started.
       | 
       | Working on my startup now. Pays infinitely less but makes me a
       | lot happier. I love getting put in situations I would've never
       | dreamed I would be in.
       | 
       | My biggest lesson so far was that I should've left Google
       | earlier. I didn't need nearly as much saved as I had expected.
       | The only thing I could wish for is more friends who did the same.
       | I do miss having coworkers.
        
         | break_the_bank wrote:
         | Did you stay the five years to see the initial grant /
         | refreshers vest?
        
           | 0xy wrote:
           | Alphabet stock is so high chances are he was still wearing
           | golden handcuffs when he left due to stacked refreshers at a
           | significantly lower price.
        
           | kevmo314 wrote:
           | No otherwise I would've left after four. The hardest part to
           | leave was my team. I did really like the people I worked
           | with.
        
       | yawnxyz wrote:
       | I was laid off five years ago, and I never found another job.
       | Ended up spending a month doing the Camino de Santiago in Spain,
       | and doing more stuff like swing dancing.
       | 
       | Later on I met someone at a swing dance that I worked on a "side
       | project" for a long time that became our current startup, which
       | has been more meaningful to me than any job I've worked
       | previously. (We're doing health and biotech and save people from
       | horrible infections, but I'm a UX/full stack engineer).
       | 
       | I think that having had a tech job with tons of savings (and
       | living in a cheap city in the South) really helped. Also, for
       | many years I thought that a job was like air, and if you quit or
       | lose your job you start suffocating, but the opposite has been
       | true.
        
         | Lhiw wrote:
         | Would you recommend doing the Camino?
         | 
         | My wife and I are thinking about it.
        
           | hardlianotion wrote:
           | i certainly do. The Camino has routes from all over Europe
           | and a fantastic set of traditions. The countryside is amazing
           | and ever-varying. I walked sections in September, through
           | Southern France, and at that time, the hostels were full of
           | people with wonderful stories of how they arrived on the
           | trail and what they planned to do next.
        
         | agomez314 wrote:
         | Awesome story! I've been needing an excuse to do el camino.
         | What route did you take and how was it?
        
           | gamerDude wrote:
           | I did a section of the Camino del Norte. And it was
           | fantastic. In my.mind you've got two choices. The cheap
           | route, which is staying at the hostels where the most people
           | on the Camino go. Or you can live it up, as you'll be jumping
           | into a new town at the end of everyday. We did a mix of both
           | and it was a blast!
        
       | SergeAx wrote:
       | I once quit due to burnout and it was not great. Mild depression
       | plus slight health problems lasted for about half a year and due
       | to that I was unable to fully enjoy my freedom and was in a bit
       | of hurry while looking for next job.
       | 
       | So, if you have a choice between planned and unplanned quitting -
       | stick to planned one.
       | 
       | To everyone reading this: start planning your quitting when you
       | feel first symptoms of burnout.
        
       | beefield wrote:
       | I have quit a couple of times without anything to land on. The
       | first lesson of the first time (for me, that is, YMMV) was to
       | have a plan what to do after you quit. Even if you financially
       | can afford the break, having nothing to do is quite different
       | from having a full time job. Surprisingly soon after the first
       | time I quit I got a strong feeling I am wasting my time doing
       | nothing - even if I had always thought I have plenty to do.
        
       | nanidin wrote:
       | I left my job in February 2021 due to being overstressed and
       | eventually burning out. I was in a role where I was essentially
       | on call 24/7, with the only calls actually coming in at early AM
       | hours on holidays. This made it impossible for me to relax during
       | time off, which contributed to the burnout. Around the same time,
       | my SO was finishing cancer treatment, so work stress was not the
       | only stress I was dealing with.
       | 
       | I left with the stated goals of working on personal projects and
       | of going on a road trip to national parks. I have now been on two
       | significant road trips - one about 10 days, and the next about 35
       | days.
       | 
       | As far as projects go, I have created a few toys that scratched
       | itches - a pi calculator, a sudoku solver, and a market data
       | collector/analyzer. I also worked on establishing some passive
       | income during this time.
       | 
       | I'm now working as a consultant in the same industry I was
       | working in previously. I'm not sure yet when I will return to
       | full time employment. My plan is to definitely find a job before
       | the COBRA insurance coverage expires (October 2022 I believe.)
       | 
       | My advice to anyone planning to take time off is to have some
       | idea of what you want to do. Don't end up quitting your job
       | thinking all of the free time off will be great, then sit around
       | and do nothing for months on end - at the time it may feel great,
       | but after those months go by it's nice to be able to look back
       | and see that you did something. You don't have to be productive,
       | but at least get out of bed, have a routine, and do something
       | besides sit around. To that end, I recommend journaling.
       | 
       | I also recommend that if you're going to quit and you like your
       | job but just need some extended time off - talk with your
       | manager! Mine wasn't very agreeable to a sabbatical on the
       | timeframe I wanted, but my SO was able to secure 6 months of PAID
       | time off just by talking to her manager about what was going on
       | with her and her plans to leave (keep in mind her case may be
       | unique due to cancer and working for the company for 8+ years).
        
         | gaws wrote:
         | > I also recommend that if you're going to quit and you like
         | your job but just need some extended time off - talk with your
         | manager! Mine wasn't very agreeable to a sabbatical on the
         | timeframe I wanted, but
         | 
         | Securing that much time off is nearly impossible at many
         | places.
         | 
         | > my SO was able to secure 6 months of PAID time off just by
         | talking to her manager about what was going on with her and her
         | plans to leave (keep in mind her case may be unique due to
         | cancer and working for the company for 8+ years).
         | 
         | Don't be fooled by management's "kind" gesture. Your SO's
         | cancer, while horrible, got her the six-month paid leave, not
         | the eight years at the company.
        
           | nanidin wrote:
           | In my case the duration was acceptable (I asked for 6 months
           | of unpaid leave), but burnout was telling me I needed out in
           | two weeks. Management wanted me to stick around for two
           | months before taking extended leave. At the time it wasn't an
           | option I was willing to consider.
           | 
           | As for SO, I suppose you could be right about the cancer
           | (they also gave her 3 weeks of time off earlier this year
           | that didn't impact her PTO bank), but even before cancer her
           | job was super accommodating.
        
         | nanidin wrote:
         | I also want to add that I took some time off earlier in my
         | career as well. During that time off I spent a year traveling
         | around Asia, then I tried to create a startup. I was hungrier
         | at the time due to being a lot less established and due to
         | having a clear runway that defined when I would need to have a
         | job in order to be self sustaining. I returned to work with a
         | 50% increase in compensation after that break.
        
       | random42 wrote:
       | I left my job in July, and took a bit of break to introspect,
       | focus on my health, spend time taking care of my family members,
       | did a few investments, read up a lot and figuring out what I want
       | to do next.
       | 
       | I have just started to talk to people wrt to different jobs,
       | although I am not sure I want to take up another job. will figure
       | it out in due time.
        
       | Kagerjay wrote:
       | Question to those in that did this
       | 
       | What did you do about your health insurance?
        
         | tboyd47 wrote:
         | Look up short-term insurance. If you're young and healthy (or,
         | just avoid seeing a doctor for problems they already admit they
         | can't solve), you can probably find decent health insurance for
         | a whole year for $1,000 USD (meaning, <$100 monthly).
        
         | walktheplank wrote:
         | COBRA
        
       | ldehaan wrote:
       | I used to change out jobs at a maximum of 2 years in. Whatever
       | they hired me to do has usually been done and automated by 2
       | years and I'm bored. A lot changed for me, nothing to do with
       | cov19d though, that has barely affected me because I'm in the
       | social class that doesn't have to give a fuck. Though I am
       | reminded of that quote from nazi Germany, first they came for...
       | anyways I digress as usual. The only reason to stay at a job or
       | leave a job is the people or the pay. Stay for the people, leave
       | for the pay.
        
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       | kaycebasques wrote:
       | I quit my job in June 2021. I've been keeping weekly updates here
       | [1]. Long story short it's been great so far. I went to Brazil
       | and met my partner's (now fiancee) family.
       | 
       | I've seen things you people wouldn't believe. Attack ships on
       | fire off the shoulder of Orion. I watched C-beams glitter in the
       | dark near the Tannhauser gate. If only you could see what I've
       | seen with your eyes. [+++]
       | 
       | I made decent progress on projects that I have been kicking
       | around for YEARS, including Bookwork Club [2] and my grandpa's
       | autobiography [3]. I have read 14 books, including _Thinking In
       | Bets_ which led me to get much more systematic about thinking
       | probabilistically. I am almost done with a Python class which
       | will enable me to finally earn an Associate 's in CS that I
       | started literally 10 years ago. I had time to go into rabbitholes
       | to build tools that allow me to get more systematic with my
       | investing/trading/speculating. I got to make some new connections
       | and work in a completely new space when I did a 1-month contract
       | working on Corrily's docs. Right now I'm planning out our mid-
       | January wedding. Yes it's kind of close but on the other hand
       | it's not like I'm trying to juggle this wedding planning with a
       | job. In Feb/March I'll probably go back on the market and
       | hopefully won't struggle too much to land a new decent job! This
       | comment has just been a stream-of-conscious reflection on
       | "things" I did but I also want to emphasize that it has been
       | rejuvenating and healing to not deal with the low-level constant
       | stress of deadlines, interpersonal conflicts, strategy ambiguity,
       | etc. that is pretty natural in the software industry. You can
       | read my sabbatical manifesto at [4]. In that post I really tried
       | to document all my thinking about why I was taking this risk.
       | 
       | [1] https://kayce.basqu.es/sabbatical
       | 
       | [+++] In case you don't get the reference and think I'm a crazy
       | person, this is a quote from Blade Runner. As I wrote this
       | comment I was reminded of Roy and couldn't resist throwing that
       | in. Just having some fun... sabbatical will do that to you! ;)
       | 
       | [2] https://bookworm.club
       | 
       | [3] https://tony.basqu.es
       | 
       | [4] https://kayce.basqu.es/sabbatical/prologue
        
       | Terry_Roll wrote:
       | Why cant you start your own thing now, and then travel or does
       | your own thing need a physical presence from you that will hinder
       | any desires to travel?
       | 
       | Looking for inspiration?
       | 
       | Virtually everyone is living paycheck to paycheck, some live a
       | frugal lifestyle others live an extravagant lifestyle and bang it
       | on finance hoping judgement day never arrives. Even businesses
       | are only as good as their long term contracts and share of a
       | market, so are not much different to people, if we are to be
       | honest about things.
       | 
       | Some big name companies are still only going because they have
       | diversified, and that's it, so working many jobs is for most
       | people just a form of diversification in all but name, but then
       | spreading the risk amongst employers in todays world can be a
       | good thing, reducing exposure is common in finance and there are
       | parallels for people as well.
       | 
       | Besides running a business gives you access to finance/credit
       | which will have less impact on your personal life if things don't
       | work out, than taking on finance/credit in your personal life and
       | things then not working out. Most shareholders of small
       | businesses take out a lot of money which keeps their personal
       | finances a lot cleaner. I don't know why more people don't do it?
       | 
       | The only other thing is remember that the global population is
       | still going up, so prices will continue to go up as populations
       | in develop countries can undercut developed countries, so choose
       | your business venture wisely for a multitude of reasons.
        
       | millzlane wrote:
       | I quit a place once, it rhymes with brudwick wealth strategies. I
       | was told by the proprietor that he didn't have to calm down
       | because "he signs my fucking paychecks" in that second I realized
       | that I didn't want to work for someone who thought like that. I
       | told him have a nice day Barry and enjoy the extra money.
       | 
       | I applied for unemployment and almost lost the case but then I
       | learned of the term hostile workplace and won. Unemployment was
       | backpaid. During the time of fighting for it. I studied for my A+
       | and Sec+ certs, learned to program, and worked odd jobs from CL
       | until every IT job eventually called me back and I had a couple
       | to choose from. Eventually found a gig that I have been at for
       | about 10 years. I'm happy, the organization appreciates my
       | contributions and I'm in a comfortable place financially. I am
       | currently looking for an remote gig in the evening US EST hours.
       | Some sort of grunt work that someone doesn't want to do. I'm open
       | to anything.
        
       | brianf0 wrote:
       | I did this. Started a drop shipping business with friends. That
       | didn't pan out. Then tried to build a startup. That didn't pan
       | out either, so I started consulting. It was fine, but consulting
       | and full time employment are really two sides of the same coin. I
       | figured I might as well get the benefits and equity that come
       | with full time roles. Since quitting I have more than doubled my
       | previous salary, and gained a ton of front end knowledge I never
       | would have learned just by working at my old job.
        
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       | quangv wrote:
       | I had a job I didn't like and left without a backup. It was a
       | great move for me cause the next job I liked and stayed with for
       | a couple of years.
       | 
       | If you have skills, a good resume, and know how to market
       | yourself you should be able to land on your feet.
        
       | mracette wrote:
       | Overall, pretty well. I was able to make a major career shift,
       | going from a data analyst to a software engineer in the span of
       | about 9 months of self-directed study. I reckon this was one of
       | the biggest positive changes in my life to-date.
       | 
       | On the other hand, I developed quite a bit of anxiety and felt a
       | little lost and depressed at times.
       | 
       | My advice to get the most out of your time would be: make sure
       | the other key areas of your life are stable first (e.g.
       | relationships, geography, finances, social life).
       | 
       | If you change multiple major facets of your life all at once, you
       | are running the risk of becoming a bit untethered.
       | 
       | That being said, maybe it's the feeling of being untethered that
       | catalyzes the growth in the first place.
        
       | clpm4j wrote:
       | I did it a couple of times in my past (with the intention of
       | starting my own thing), and it never played out quite as well as
       | I envisioned in my mind beforehand. If you do it, and then you
       | end up needing to get another job because the runway ends, then
       | it's always more difficult and stressful vs. getting a job while
       | you already have a job/paycheck.
        
       | lvl100 wrote:
       | I think it's important to have detailed plans (daily schedules
       | etc) to keep yourself busy albeit at leisurely pace. More
       | importantly have specific goals. It doesn't have to be career-
       | oriented goals. It can be something simple like "learning to play
       | an instrument". If you're planning on going back to the same
       | field, have a side project going (doesn't even have to be
       | successful) to keep up with the latest technologies (toolings,
       | trends, etc). This is especially important now because things
       | move rather fast.
       | 
       | Don't burn any bridges and keep regular contacts with people from
       | your prior work. Do not completely unplug. Lastly, do focus on
       | your mental health. I am assuming people who do this are burnt
       | out and have worked stupid hours for years on end. It takes
       | longer than you think to recover from all the physical and mental
       | stress. Focus on yourself!
        
       | olavgg wrote:
       | I quit a normal job in 2015 to do freelance consulting. I had no
       | plan, luckily I found two clients for part time work and for the
       | rest of my hours I created a e-commerce site that I operated for
       | myself. That quickly escalated and made more money than in a
       | normal job, but running an e-commerce site isn't much fun.
       | 
       | 1.5 years later I joined a startup, with 3 other ambitious guys
       | which was super successful. The first years was really a lot of
       | fun and work. But over time that changed. Now I have left that
       | startup and I am planning on building another one, just need to
       | find the right ambitious people with a good and realistic
       | business plan.
        
         | ovao wrote:
         | Just out of curiosity, what about running the e-commerce site
         | was a drag?
        
       | jonatron wrote:
       | The end of the notice period roughly lined up with the start of
       | the ski season, so I'm going to do a ski season.
        
         | claytonjy wrote:
         | same here, gave notice last week and can't wait to focus on
         | snowboarding.
        
       | dnautics wrote:
       | It worked for me. I quit my job due to problems after a
       | management switcheroo that shafted me, planned on applying for
       | jobs - I specifically wanted something in FinTech, that used
       | Elixir - and applied for four jobs, plus one "why the hell not"
       | application I did at Facebook. If I didn't get a job, my plan was
       | to do Recurse Center until february and then try again with a
       | wider search. I got into RC, did not get the Facebook interview
       | (it was a miserable experience, where they had me whiteboard over
       | coderpad -- code running was disable, WTF seriously, what's the
       | point? might as well code over google docs), and then I got a job
       | at a fintech that uses Elixir. I didn't even get a tech question
       | in my interview.
       | 
       | This probably won't work for everyone. I have a LOT of public
       | bona fides as an elixir developer (I have six libraries on the
       | public elixir repository that I pinned to the top of my github),
       | elixir companies are hiring a LOT, and as an elixir dev, you
       | don't have to compete as much with the market of lemons among
       | programmers. I also had no debt, and about seven months of
       | drawdown.
        
       | jss326 wrote:
       | I quit my post-doc 6 weeks ago. Was really burned out and had
       | postponed the decision for months already. However, I could never
       | motivate myself to look in to other jobs. In the end, I quit
       | without anything else planned. Only then I could notice how bad
       | that job had made me feel. Now I am working on a small startup
       | idea. If this doesn't work out, I'll try something else. I'm
       | working from a cheap co-working space, and it is great so far.
       | Have more time for my kids as well. Don't regret it at all.
        
       | tomlagier wrote:
       | Maybe not quite the answer you're looking for, but I'll throw it
       | in anyway.
       | 
       | - I planned on quitting my FAANG job in February 2020 to go
       | travel the world for 9 months (midlife crisis, sabbatical,
       | whatever you want to call it).
       | 
       | - COVID hit, we came back March 2020.
       | 
       | - Decided to take the opportunity to leave the Bay Area and try
       | our hand at freelance / contracting for time flexibility so we
       | could go travel again once lockdown ended and international
       | travel became a possibility.
       | 
       | - We thought we might come back to the Bay Area once "it was
       | over" and we'd travelled.
       | 
       | - Lockdown stretched on, borders stayed closed.
       | 
       | - Contracting picked up, was able to negotiate part-time hours
       | making enough to live on.
       | 
       | - My partner switched careers successfully, starting a new
       | business.
       | 
       | - Fast forward to now, I'm still contracting. We've put down
       | roots in the small town we moved to. My partner's business is
       | thriving. We're saving up for a house.
       | 
       | Overall life is good. We've traded the stresses of the Bay Area
       | for a different set of stresses - it's equally difficult finding
       | housing here, starting a new business has been hard, and figuring
       | out what I want out of a freelance career has been a struggle as
       | well. We've got a lot more free time, and the flexible hours have
       | been a huge blessing.
        
       | nettleseyeball wrote:
       | I worked at agencies for about 8 years and always wanted to go
       | freelance. I handed in my 1 month notice with nothing lined up,
       | created a LinkedIn, made a CV, sent some emails. I started my
       | first freelance contract a week after my last day at my old job.
       | 
       | Honestly I thought I was going to take a while to get the ball
       | rolling but nah it was super easy. Best choice I ever made. My
       | life is 10 times better now. If you're thinking about it make
       | sure you've got a bit of money saved just in case but otherwise
       | go for it. Life is short.
        
       | cobertos wrote:
       | Not too bad, I'm still riding it a bit.
       | 
       | I went part-time at my coding job before the pandemic due to
       | stress/anxiety from some unknown work-related source. I then quit
       | during the pandemic from constant erosion of salary and quality
       | of work life.
       | 
       | I ended up kinda floating undecided for a couple months. Tried a
       | couple game jams and realized my dreams of game design were not
       | my life-long calling.
       | 
       | Then needed money so ended up starting to freelance. I didn't
       | really market myself, so I didn't have many clients, but I had
       | one big one through a friend that paid well and I did a couple
       | really big things for them.
       | 
       | I'm now doing a contract that's 3x my previous salary (but also
       | 1099 so more taxes) and struggling to figure out if I'd ever want
       | to be W2/full time employee again.
       | 
       | I also got about 6 or so months of near full-time work on a
       | personal project, and it's been very enlightening to get that
       | much effort behind something of my own for once. Also isolating
       | socially
        
       | drudoo wrote:
       | I quit my job of four years because I got a green card and wanted
       | to try to work in the US. I am from Denmark and got the green
       | card through marriage.
       | 
       | Moved to Orlando (as my wife had a job there) and applied to
       | roughly 300 IT jobs but only got 2 interviews. Nothing really
       | came of it, as they either wanted to pay me pennies or I didn't
       | have enough experience. I had about 4 years of project management
       | experience with a year as a senior project manager (and a MSc in
       | CS). Maybe I was picky but coming from a $95k/y salary and going
       | to a $20/h hourly position wasn't what I wanted.
       | 
       | My wife's job couldn't sustain the both of us, so after 5 months
       | our savings were kinda gone and I got an offer to move back to
       | Denmark and get my old position back.
       | 
       | Pretty happy that I at least tried, else I'm sure I would regret
       | it, but we are happier in Denmark than in the US.
        
         | gaws wrote:
         | > Moved to Orlando (as my wife had a job there) and applied to
         | roughly 300 IT jobs but only got 2 interviews.
         | 
         | > Maybe I was picky but coming from a $95k/y salary and going
         | to a $20/h hourly position wasn't what I wanted.
         | 
         | Nah. Orlando, and Florida in general, is a terrible tech
         | market. Orlando is also a god-awful city. You might have better
         | luck if you were in San Francisco, Austin, New York, or
         | Chicago.
        
           | drudoo wrote:
           | You are probably right. We only moved there because my wife
           | already had a job there and a lot of our friends are in
           | Orlando. We have zero connection to any of the bigger tech
           | cities, so that wasn't even an options.
        
       | tonis2 wrote:
       | I have quited like 3 times and been fired 2 times. Had small
       | savings so I didn't starve, also could live at our family house,
       | where I didnt need to pay rent, so that helped.
       | 
       | But I always got better job next time, because when I was
       | unemployed, I learned lots of new things in webdevelopment and
       | app development.
        
       | cko wrote:
       | I did this, with a passive income cushion from some investments.
       | I live very simply. I found travel pretty boring after a few
       | weeks. I found whatever I was doing outside of work (YouTube and
       | mindless browsing) filled up all my free time after I quit.
       | 
       | I started learning web development but haven't had any ideas that
       | stuck. I mean I had a lot of ideas before quitting but perhaps
       | lack of motivation or discipline killed them all.
        
         | sumtechguy wrote:
         | I did it accidently about 5 years ago, structured layoff and
         | wildly good severance package. Had enough for 3-4 years of
         | coasting. What I found for myself personally is that I did just
         | that, coast. I did not have any great plans to do anything. I
         | went back to work because I was bored. Days of YT, video games,
         | and coursework can be interesting and all but after awhile it
         | wears thin and I personally wanted to work on something a bit
         | more interesting. But I had no 'interesting' ideas of my own.
         | So I got a job and borrowed someone's. I lasted about 7 months
         | before I was ready to go back to work and started applying
         | anywhere. Would I recommend it? Not really. It may be time to
         | jet from this place though.
        
           | cko wrote:
           | I actually lasted exactly 7 months myself, then went to work
           | for 1 year. Quit again and now it's been almost two more
           | years of coasting. I think it's time for me to get a job.
        
         | cobertos wrote:
         | Same feeling with the passive time being filled with YouTube.
         | Hard to avoid as their app captures you at every interaction
         | point. I just want to watch YouTube videos from friends...
        
           | bellyfullofbac wrote:
           | Try NewPipe if on Android: https://newpipe.net . You can
           | disable comments and recommended videos, at night I just do a
           | search on some of my favorite channels (despite everyone
           | moaning "please like and subscribe" I think I have one
           | channel I subscribe to, I guess I do miss a lot of things) to
           | see if they have new content.
        
             | sodality2 wrote:
             | > (despite everyone moaning "please like and subscribe"
             | 
             | Try https://github.com/polymorphicshade/NewPipe. It has
             | Sponsorblock integration. Meanwhile upstream newpipe
             | refuses to integrate it:
             | https://github.com/polymorphicshade/NewPipe#why-isnt-this-
             | in...
        
         | rootsudo wrote:
         | I've blocked Youtube, it's a bit easy via a HOSTS rule, or
         | firewall level (littlesnitch on OSX is great) or such. The
         | HOSTS rule is probably too much but the later isn't.
         | 
         | ublock also can remove comments, the front page of youtube,
         | etc.
         | 
         | I don't block youtube now, but I don't have "mindless"
         | browsing, it's like the front page of google.com. I search for
         | exactly what I want, and no ads.
        
           | BlueTemplar wrote:
           | You can spend all your time in "mindful" rabbit holes too :
           | consider Wikipedia...
        
       | Svperstar wrote:
       | I was really sick of where I was living, I quit my job, drove
       | across the country. Took one week off to relax, unpack, etc. Put
       | up my resume on the usual sites and started getting calls 9 am
       | the next day. Had a job in a week.
        
       | jwmoz wrote:
       | Survived the first year then flourished the 2nd and 3rd!
        
       | throwacct223 wrote:
       | I quit mega tech co 1 over sexual harassment and commute after a
       | few years there. Enjoyed being unemployed for about 6 months.
       | Then got a job at "hit startup about to ipo. That job was good
       | and extremely lucrative, but provided little fulfillment.
       | 
       | Quit and did my own thing for a year. That worked out pretty
       | well, but one man team got old. Now been working at mega tech co
       | 2, best job of my career. Comp doesn't match the hot startup
       | though.
       | 
       | Do it, nobody cares.
        
       | f0e4c2f7 wrote:
       | The first time I did it the startup I was working for was drying
       | up and blowing away so I decided that was a good time to start my
       | own startup. I figured it would take a couple months.
       | 
       | That was a spectacular failure where I realized that most of my
       | mental models were either explicitly broken or the Fischer Price
       | version of the actual model. I learned an outrageous amount. By
       | the end I was glad I did it and wondered if I would do it again.
       | 
       | I found it easy to get a new job. Quitting and working on my own
       | project was probably the best career move that I had made up to
       | that point.
       | 
       | I took the next job and realized that I no longer enjoyed working
       | for other people. I had seen too much. Office politics now seemed
       | extra goofy too. It's just hard to take seriously.
       | 
       | So I reloaded my savings and then after a while quit again and
       | I'm back to working on my own projects.
       | 
       | I learned a lot since last time but I'm sure I still have a lot
       | to learn. Learning has always been the fun part for me. This time
       | rather than working on just one thing I wanted to experiment with
       | a bunch of different projects which is proving to be fun and
       | already yielding more traction.
       | 
       | I'll tell you what the not fun part of the whole thing is, part
       | of this is just the part of the world I live in and people I hang
       | out with. People hate it! Boy do they hate it. Did you remember
       | the part in pulp fiction where Jules is telling Vincent "I'm just
       | gonna walk the earth, like Caine" and Vincent is going "No, Jules
       | you're gonna be a god damn bum". Most conversations I have seem
       | to have that undertone.
       | 
       | Not having a boss, especially before you reach success seems to
       | make people really uncomfortable and sometimes upset. On the
       | other hand not everyone reacts that way and I feel like it can
       | shine a light on who your best friends are so thats cool.
       | 
       | It's a weird path, but I've enjoyed it quite a lot so far. I'm
       | also sort of a weird person so I don't think it would work for
       | everyone. I don't have any kids. I'm not really into material
       | things so my expenses are extremely low. I usually work for
       | longer than this but I've done the math and I'm pretty sure I
       | could cover 1 year of expenses with 1 month of work. It's a good
       | ratio.
       | 
       | I've also thought about doing this in SEA or Eastern Europe to
       | cut expenses more. The idea of being a "digital nomad" (if thats
       | what they still call it) seems super fun.
        
       | aogaili wrote:
       | shit...^^
        
       | tunnuz wrote:
       | How do you make sure you don't get survivor bias from the
       | responses to this post?
        
       | sigmaprimus wrote:
       | I can't say I didn't have a plan because I did have one but after
       | a few years since quitting here are a few not so positive things
       | that I didn't plan on.
       | 
       | 1. Early mornings and late nights ----- I really thought I would
       | be able to unwind and relax but I guess that is just not my
       | nature. I still find it very difficult to turn off, the stresses
       | and thoughts that used to center around my job gone but new ones
       | have replaced them. Eg. Current ones are based on inflation and
       | my savings burn rates, investment bubbles and on and on.
       | 
       | 2. Loneliness ----- I really do miss having those daily
       | interactions with coworkers, even the "useless" meetings. Things
       | may be different now as I left long before Covid so it could be
       | that those interactions are gone forever.
       | 
       | 3. Weight Gain ----- Correlation isn't causation and it is also
       | likely as much to do with my aging as not having a job, but not
       | being on a daily schedule has contributed to the extra weight I
       | am carrying.
       | 
       | 4. Stigma from financial and services institutions ----- This one
       | might be more of a personal perception but when starting
       | relationships with banks, investment firms and even utility
       | providers there are always questions regarding employment. I have
       | a very healthy bank account but still feel it is more difficult
       | to get a credit card for example without filling out the employer
       | section.
       | 
       | Anyways I don't want to stomp on anyone's dreams here, I just
       | wanted to share a few things I found through personal experience.
       | I am still content with my decision and the good outweighs the
       | bad.
        
       | mikkelenzo wrote:
       | I took 3 months off after shutting down my startup back in 2019
       | without knowing what was next. Went travelling, spent some time
       | in London reading books and chilling out and enjoyed sitting at
       | coffee shops at 8am watching other people go to work.
       | 
       | If you can afford it and have some confidence that you can easily
       | get a job afterwards, I'd highly recommend it.
       | 
       | For me, it really helped not at all thinking about what was next
       | until 2.5 months in. If you start interviewing already after a
       | few weeks you don't get proper headspace to really relax and get
       | out of the work mindset.
        
       | irjustin wrote:
       | Oooo one I can answer!
       | 
       | I moved from Seattle -> Hong Kong, circa 2012, with a contracting
       | job to an old team in Seattle. About 6-7 months in HK, the team
       | said no more contractors or remote members, and I was effectively
       | out of a job.
       | 
       | The original goal of moving to HK was to learn Cantonese (mother
       | tongue) so I said maybe I should actually do my goal and started
       | taking classes. That didn't work out so well. While I learned
       | Cantonese, it's not at any useful left (can't even speak to 5
       | year olds for any meaningful length). I did get married instead!
       | So it worked out.
       | 
       | If you're young with little responsibilities, I say do it.
       | 
       | "They" always say it's harder to do it while you're older. For me
       | and everyone I know, this is 100% true. While always possible, a
       | lot more care and planning needs to happen even with a
       | significant other.
        
       | ufmace wrote:
       | It worked great when I did it, though I'd put an asterisk on the
       | "without anything planned". I decided I wanted to move to NYC,
       | but on my terms, not anybody else's. So I quit my job and kind of
       | treated planning on moving as a job, as well as doing a few other
       | things with the extra free time.
       | 
       | But I also was pretty confident in my ability to find a new tech
       | job in a good market. It worked well the last few times, and I
       | changed my Linkedin location before I went just to see how many
       | recruiters popped up. The traffic left me confident I'd be able
       | to get a tech job there when I was ready.
       | 
       | I also had a rough idea of how long I planned to stay without a
       | job and how much it would cost and had enough to cover that
       | comfortably, with enough extra buffer to come up with a new plan
       | if getting a new job turned out to be harder than I thought.
       | 
       | You don't necessarily need a "plan" like having a job, but you
       | should do that sort of planning. Some people have enough rich
       | family or friends that they'll never really end up on the streets
       | somewhere if something goes wrong. If you don't, you'll just need
       | to plan a little better, and beware of unknowns. There's a lot of
       | ways things can go wrong, it'd be best to account for them. And
       | to have the life experience to know what might go wrong and how.
        
       | ajkjk wrote:
       | Great. I took three years off after the first three of my career,
       | until my savings ran out. Easy enough on regular tech salary if
       | you don't live extravagantly. I didn't use the time particularly
       | well (I wish I had traveled a lot more, and for longer), but it
       | was still good.
       | 
       | It's so strange that we expect adults to work continuously until
       | they are too old to do so. Do whatever you feel like and can
       | reasonably make work. If you don't want to work for a while,
       | don't. Make it happen. Go make some art or start a band or hike
       | across the country or live in the woods or make a video game or
       | play sports or party a lot or get in great shape or read a lot of
       | books or do a lot of volunteering or have a garden. Whatever.
       | it's your life.
        
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       | onion2k wrote:
       | I did this about a decade ago. I spent a couple of years just
       | helping other people with web things (sort of consulting /
       | freelancing, but more from an advice perspective than writing any
       | code), and then some friends and I founded our first startup. It
       | didn't work out in the end, but I had a fun 5 years or so
       | learning a lot and helping people take their businesses online in
       | ways that would be better than if I'd not been there. The
       | startup, raising a couple of rounds, and closing down was quite
       | fun too. I'm back being a proper developer again now.
       | 
       | If you have the resources to do it without too much risk then I'd
       | definitely recommend it. You'll get a lot from it in terms of
       | personal development and skills, but you'll probably end up with
       | less money than you went in with. You can always make more money
       | though.
        
       | Glench wrote:
       | Both times I've taken time off without plans have been really
       | transformative for me.
       | 
       | In the first I discovered I had a passion for helping other
       | people learn and ended up working at MIT on the Scratch project
       | and then with Bret Victor (http://worrydream.com) at his research
       | lab, both really amazing opportunities.
       | 
       | In the second I decided to quit tech to become a therapist. You
       | can read about that here:
       | http://glench.com/WhyIQuitTechAndBecameATherapist/
       | 
       | Your mileage may vary.
        
       | rikroots wrote:
       | When I quit my last job my plan was to work on some personal
       | projects for a few months while looking for a new position,
       | hoping to land something before the money ran out.
       | 
       | One of the personal projects was writing up a short memoir for
       | family/friends[1]. This was a mistake as it fed some mental
       | health issues that had contributed to me walking out of my job.
       | Things got a bit serious for a while, and then the money ran out.
       | Thankfully I had the massive good fortune to get a referral to a
       | psychotherapist who helped guide me to a safer place. Then Covid
       | struck.
       | 
       | All-in-all I was without a pay check for just under 2 and a half
       | years. I did manage to complete some projects in that time, which
       | I'm really proud of ... but next time I think I'll listen to my
       | Mum's advice: don't walk out of a job until you've got another
       | job to walk into.
       | 
       | [1] - https://rikverse2020.rikweb.org.uk/book/riks-army-career
        
       | getty wrote:
       | I saw burnout happen to a few guys around me, the work was pretty
       | interesting but constantly moving goal posts caused a great deal
       | of undue stress at work. I was also preparing to undergo a big
       | change in my personal life too so decided to quit with a month's
       | notice. I've been off work since mid September and did a week
       | long silent meditation retreat, walked/solo wild camped the
       | Pennine Way for 16 days and spent some time in Rwanda exploring
       | at my own pace.
       | 
       | In between i've been cycling, reading and working on things I
       | neglected for the past few years. I feel much better for it
       | 
       | Today I'm going to polish my CV up and have started letting my
       | network know I'm keen to work again. I have a better sense of
       | what I want to do this time and tools to prevent as much stress
       | in future
        
       | rolisz wrote:
       | I quit my job last November. In January I started my own business
       | doing machine learning consulting. It took off slowly, until July
       | I was not making too much, only small clients.
       | 
       | Then business started taking off and now I'm too busy for my own
       | good. I learned a lot. Biggest lesson is that I need to charge
       | more. A lot more. Another thing that surprised me was what
       | brought in the most income, both in absolute terms and in a per
       | hour rate, so I'll have to reconsider my positioning and
       | marketing strategy for next year.
       | 
       | And I love what I'm doing and I feel like growing a lot. There
       | have been many moments where I doubted things (The Dip as Seth
       | Godin calls it), but somehow I got over them.
        
       | ssss11 wrote:
       | I've done it twice - moving overseas and moving back again.
       | 
       | I did enjoy some travel however it is REALLY difficult getting a
       | job without having a job when you do want to look again. I also
       | spent way too much time stressing about it while I was trying to
       | enjoy the time off.
       | 
       | For me the hardest part was being confident in interviews when I
       | was unemployed - maybe that comes easier to others.
       | 
       | I don't think I'll ever resign a job again without the next one
       | lined up.
        
       | jagger27 wrote:
       | It sucked financially but it was the right choice for my mental
       | health, at least in the short term.
       | 
       | Just don't wait too long to find something new.
        
       | an9n wrote:
       | A while back I quit with nothing to go to due to promises not
       | being kept. Wonderfully liberating and empowering, and I found a
       | new job within weeks. Strangely I've found it much harder finding
       | a job while I'm in work... Got some ideas about drone routing if
       | anyone's interested in working on something (current company
       | aren't bothered!).
        
       | bellyfullofbac wrote:
       | I took an extended leave from my work to travel. I did wonder
       | what I was doing going to places and basically looking
       | around/being a tourist, but at the end of it I came with the
       | realization that I was capable of tackling any problem that came
       | at me (not that I encountered any huge problems during the trip,
       | although of course I was nervous of what I might face before I
       | went), so that's encouraged me to go freelance, and I've handed
       | in my notice recently.
       | 
       | The final boost was talking to someone who said I should
       | recognize my own strengths, like having the bravery to leave home
       | at a young age to go to college. I told her "I didn't feel very
       | brave, I had my parents to fall back to in case things went
       | wrong.", and I realized, if the freelancing idea didn't work out
       | straight away I currently also have enough saved to fall back to.
        
       | streamofdigits wrote:
       | It went as not planned
        
       | deepGem wrote:
       | So I have done this a couple of times and both outcomes were not
       | so great during the journey. In hindsight however, yes it feels
       | great.
       | 
       | First job at IBM - I quit in a heartbeat. Had no idea what to do
       | next. Attended a Startupweekend event and started working on a
       | startup, didn't go anywhere. After a year or so got hired at MSFT
       | as a contractor. Quit that for another startup. Reason - this was
       | just turning into another cushy job, no real focus just some high
       | level strategy etc.
       | 
       | Again quit that startup, without any plan. I was the engineering
       | manager I wanted to try building a startup again. A long time
       | friend had come down so we teamed up. No idea, nothing to go
       | with. We were not in our 20s and had families to support and all
       | that. Tried multiple ideas for a year and we split. I pursued
       | startups for about 5 years got tired and am now a DE at big tech.
       | Like I said, in hindsight all this feels great - but during the
       | journey I felt quite miserable. None of my ideas were taking off,
       | damn frustrating.
       | 
       | If you want to start your own thing, it's best to not look for
       | ideas. My approach is to get to a job where you'll get as close
       | as humanly possible to interact with customers and find out where
       | their pain points are. Are they happy with the current company,
       | what are the issues etc. Try solving those pain points from
       | within the company - and you'll know what it really feels like to
       | run a startup. If you succeed, great the company will support
       | you, you grow and all that. If you figure that the company is
       | unsupportive, quit and start up. By then, you already know the
       | pain points, and you have some idea of how to solve them. You
       | just have to execute.
        
       | nishparadox wrote:
       | Few years back I was a co-founder and director of tech and
       | research. We were not doing well. I was personally struggling
       | financially not just at startup level but also at my
       | person/family level. For 8 months nobody (co-founders) took any
       | salaries. Because of personal financial struggles, I was drowning
       | in a mild debt (asking money from friends) to even sustain
       | everyday life. After a year, due to some internal politics (which
       | I absolutely hate on any organization and given my more "nice
       | guy" personality, I couldn't bare), I decided to quit. I quit
       | without any second thoughts. I remember giving resignation
       | without anyone anticipating it. I didn't have any plans. After
       | quitting, I asked for some compensations which lasted me for only
       | 2 months. It was hard for me and my family (you know how Asian
       | parents are). Out of nowhere, I decided to pursue grad school. So
       | started GRE+TOEFL. Gave it. That was 2 years back. I am still in
       | "going to grad school" phase for my Master's. Let's see how it
       | goes in next 2 months.
       | 
       | However, out of nowhere during the end of 2019 I was approached
       | by a startup here which works in Document AI space. I am the only
       | senior. I am juggling through research + engineering ML. But in
       | some ways, I didn't anticipate that I would be enjoying so much
       | here. But still, imposter syndrome hits hard often.
       | 
       | If I hadn't quit my initial startup plan, I don't know what might
       | have happened to my research and career. I might have been more
       | miserable.
       | 
       | :) ---
        
       | halkony wrote:
       | I quit my job as an actuary 2 months ago, and I'm only 3 years
       | out of college. I did work setting up Python backends for annuity
       | inventories. I felt underapplied. Quitting was a good decision
       | for me.
       | 
       | Another post mentions the common expectation that, without a job,
       | you would "suffocate" (though it's far from that). I like that
       | idea.
       | 
       | My worldview is pretty similar. To me, money is just a way of
       | organizing value. So if I'm a valuable person, why worry about
       | money?
       | 
       | I'm very relaxed and better attuned to the humdrum of the world.
        
       | jmkr wrote:
       | Was in a rough spot a year ago so I took 3 months off. Found
       | myself with a better company, less stress, and more interesting
       | work.
       | 
       | We're pretty lucky a lot of us are able to do that.
        
       | ravenstine wrote:
       | I've quit my job without a plan a few times in my life. Sometimes
       | things get a bit tough, but it works out in the end and I think
       | everyone should do it at least once so they can get over the
       | fear. Once you don't fear quitting, you're much more
       | psychologically free.
       | 
       | I will say that a cash reserve is definitely key. The second time
       | I left a job without a plan, I underestimated how much cash I
       | would need to sustain myself for a long period of time. I ended
       | up moving in with a friend and did a combination of contract work
       | and GrubHub for around 6 months. In that time I also wrote and
       | shipped a mobile app that I ultimately abandoned because I didn't
       | have a good model for monetization.
       | 
       | The closest thing I had to a "plan" for if things really went
       | south was to live out of my car. I spent some time to retrofit
       | the trunk of my car into covert sleeping quarters and practiced
       | sleeping in it. LOL
       | 
       | When I started applying for jobs again, I simply explained that I
       | took the time off from traditional employment because I had a few
       | apps I wanted to write and needed to dedicate my time to, which
       | was 100% true. Employers seemed to have no problem with this at
       | all; I actually got more interviews that year than I did in the
       | past.
       | 
       | The last time I left I had quite a bit of cash saved up and had
       | less rent to pay, thus it was much easier to simply leave without
       | another job lined up. I had a few business and engineering
       | projects to work on, so my plan was to work on those.
       | 
       | IMO, having more than a simple _financial_ plan is overrated. It
       | 's industry dependent, no doubt, but as a developer it can be
       | scary to leave a job without another one lined up, and everyone
       | will tell you to never quit without already having another job.
       | If you are single or at least don't have kids, it's not that hard
       | to recover from mistakes, especially if you have a support
       | system.
       | 
       | The one other thing I would say is that I think it's best to have
       | a _purpose_ when quitting. Definitely quit if you are miserable,
       | but quitting and then not having something to do can also be bad.
        
       | irchans wrote:
       | I've quit my job with no plans several times. As I got older, it
       | got harder to find a job.
       | 
       | When I left the Navy at age 25, I had just been overseas. I had
       | applied to a Master's degree program at the same university where
       | I got a BS. There was a mix-up and no one had ever looked at my
       | application, but several people knew me and they had my grades
       | from my BS, so when I showed up in person one week before
       | classes, they accepted me (I was paying my own way) and I
       | started. I ended up getting a Ph.D. instead.
       | 
       | In 1999 at age 34, I quit my job as CFO for a small unsuccessful
       | hedge fund. I applied at Raytheon where I had worked briefly
       | before (they were impressed with me) and I applied to work at a
       | lab at the university where I got my degrees. I got offers from
       | both places within a month, and I was working again.
       | 
       | In 2004 at age 39, I quit my research job at another small
       | unsuccessful hedge fund (run by the same people). I once again
       | applied at Raytheon and at the same university job and again got
       | two offers. I was working again in two months.
       | 
       | In 2006 at age 41, I quit again. I spent a year taking fun
       | classes in Machine Learning and Astrophysics. In 2007, the people
       | at the small hedge fund convinced me to work again for them.
       | 
       | In 2009, I quit again because my son was having very serious
       | health issues and I wanted to stay with him in the hospital for
       | six months (he is OK now). In 2010, I applied at the university
       | lab where I had worked before and I ended up working there for 7
       | years. After 7 years, I was laid off.                  About a
       | year later, I ended up getting a job a huge prestigious hedge
       | fund as a quantitative analyst.  I quit about six months later in
       | 2017 (I just could not hack living in New York City).  The same
       | night that I quit, my old boss from the small hedge fund called
       | me just to say hi.  When he heard that I quit, he immediately
       | offered me a position which gave me a small salary but also made
       | me a partner in the firm.  I still work there now.
        
       | Aeolun wrote:
       | Depends on how much money you saved up. Did it once with barely
       | any savings (<1 month) due to the toll it was taking on my
       | health, and it was ultimately the right decision, but I wouldn't
       | recommend it.
       | 
       | Spend 4 months doing interview after interview and failing
       | miserably (not in the bay area). Until I finally found my current
       | position.
        
       | TOTG2 wrote:
       | I quit my job early this year with no plan on what to do next. I
       | had reached a savings milestone, and so had enough to feel secure
       | with no plan.
       | 
       | In that time I travelled with my wife, found and nurtured a
       | passion for guitar, and in retrospect it's been one of my
       | favourite and most satisfying years in memory. I say in
       | retrospect because I find it incredibly hard to recognize "happy
       | times" in the moment. The hard parts of life always seem more
       | apparent day to day. Also, it took me about a month to start
       | feeling anything other than emptiness after I quit.
       | 
       | Having savings was SUPER helpful. It's taken a lot longer to find
       | a job than I thought it would. I have a new one lined up, but at
       | the moment I'm a little worried it's too soon.
        
       | Normal_gaussian wrote:
       | A few years ago my project pipeline was going to pure maintenance
       | and upper management was obviously 6mo+ away from knowing what
       | they wanted in the next decent sized project. So I talked to my
       | manager (CTO) about going down to a 4 day week (pro-rata) to do
       | more in my own time. The CEO gets wind, comes in and is really
       | agressive and dismissive of what I'm suggesting. This behaviour
       | (ceo/cto dynamic) was pretty much the bane of my employment there
       | so I wrote up and handed in my resignation.
       | 
       | I had more money than id ever had before and no commitments
       | beyond rent and my gf. There were a bunch of things I wanted to
       | do, so I did them. Lots of small things like seeing family
       | (spread all across tye country, most of whom I hadn't seen as an
       | adult/since parents divorce), side projects, and exploring nearby
       | cities.
       | 
       | I started freelancing part-time after 6 months (bored mainly) and
       | six months after that joined a great company (that I had
       | freelanced for).
       | 
       | Honestly, I keep my finances and lifestyle in a place such that I
       | can quit when I want, as a result I'm happier and can choose work
       | I want when I am prioritising money.
       | 
       | I'm fully remote now and with covid "in decline" have been able
       | to spend high quality time with family and friends whilst
       | working. Remote work is the best work, no work is better. However
       | it is certainly the money that makes it low stress.
        
       | mthwsjc_ wrote:
       | It went very well - much better than expected.
       | 
       | My wife was enthusiastic about it and gave me the confidence to
       | quit. Until then I'd been looking to get the transition locked in
       | before quitting, which wasn't happening and probably never would
       | have. At the time I was working in corporate finance and my first
       | child had just been born.
       | 
       | I think the added pressure of being scared or uncomfortable gives
       | you a huge edge when learning new skills, taking calculated risks
       | and trying new things, and working super hard. Working hard in a
       | grind or dead-end is sole destroying (I think), working harder on
       | something you chose, with tangible personal benefits is
       | exhilarating. My career took a new direction and a much steeper
       | upwards trajectory.
       | 
       | That was 3 years ago. I've become a freelance data-scientist,
       | working remotely in a new country, with a much higher quality of
       | life.
       | 
       | I wrote a couple of blog posts at the time reflecting on
       | corporate life in London with a young family.
       | https://johnmathews.is/corporate.html,
       | https://johnmathews.is/london.html
        
       | sooham wrote:
       | It was a much needed break. I was burnt out working at Qualcomm
       | during the first two years of my career, and to be honest I don't
       | think I was a good fit for my team as I lacked understanding of
       | hardware. I took a three month break to interview with startups
       | and big-tech companies, got an offer from Amazon for 44% more pay
       | and travelled to Turkey. I am returning to work in two weeks with
       | a fresh mind.
       | 
       | Maybe I will start my own entrepreneurial journey in my late-20's
       | but for now I am young.
        
       | andi999 wrote:
       | Take as much leave now as possible and use that time to come up
       | with a plan. A friend quit a couple of years ago, and for 18
       | month he couldn't decide what he wants to do. Eventually he said,
       | 'well anything' that pays the bills and then looked for another
       | job (which he found). But these 18 month were a total waste of
       | time.
       | 
       | And I also believe if you do not have a dream now, it also won't
       | come magically to you while doing nothing.
        
       | martindbp wrote:
       | I left a job earlier this year due to health issues both for me
       | and my wife, plus the strained childcare situation due to Covid
       | had us both close to burnout already. It was the best decision we
       | could make for the health of our family. Instead I've been
       | working on something which I still haven't released, but it's
       | close. Our financial future is not really dependent on this
       | project replacing my full salary within X months or anything, so
       | I find that it hasn't added any extra stress so far. We'll see
       | what happens long term though. I'm not ruling out getting a job
       | again if this project fails, but so far it's been very nice!
        
       | rzerda wrote:
       | Every time someone is in the middle of a career change, I send
       | them "Settling" from XKCD: https://xkcd.com/1768/.
        
       | extr wrote:
       | My job sucked and I hated it (doing sales analytics for a FinTech
       | startup). Boss was an asshole, his boss was an asshole. You know
       | how it goes. I had probably a year's worth of living expenses so
       | I said fuck it and just quit with nothing lined up. I had the
       | idea that I was going to try to start a business. That didn't
       | really get off the ground. I'm still piecing together why
       | exactly. Perhaps I'm not the kind of person that's good at that
       | kind of thing.
       | 
       | In the end I spent about 4 months unemployed. I did get a new
       | job, which paid better than my previous one (and had less
       | assholes). And then about month into that, a FAANG recruiter hit
       | me up and I got a job at one of those places. Ended up doubling
       | the salary I had originally quit at. So it all worked out. But I
       | feel I got very lucky.
        
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