[HN Gopher] Ask HN: How do I stop hating my job?
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Ask HN: How do I stop hating my job?
I hate my job. It's a combination of the usual complaints from
people working in businesses with IT as a cost center and the
company repeatedly ignoring/breaking it's own policies. I'm
looking to switch but not finding anything better. I'm also looking
to change teams internally. How can I can I stop hating my current
job/role?
Author : giantg2
Score : 12 points
Date : 2021-11-16 20:58 UTC (2 hours ago)
| missedthecue wrote:
| Lower your expectations
| giantg2 wrote:
| Can you explain this? What is a reasonable expectation?
| downrightmike wrote:
| Compartmentalize it. It is a method to earn a living. outside of
| that, free yourself from it. If it is burning you out, slow down
| what you can and pace yourself. No one does good work stressed
| out. Then you need to focus on things outside of the job. go for
| a walk, play a video game. Spend time doing stuff your SO or pets
| like. Be there for others outside of work. Read a book. but if
| you have burnout, that needs to be addressed first.
| giantg2 wrote:
| Thanks. I do try to think of it as just a job. Unfortunately,
| it doesn't help with the frustration and boredom at work. I
| have a decent time outside of work.
| stevenalowe wrote:
| >"I'm the programmer equivalent of a Yugo (car)" <-- your profile
|
| might start with self-esteem... if you think you're not worthy
| you'll end up in the same place/job/situation again
| PaulHoule wrote:
| I think it's the opposite of what Tolstoy wrote:
|
| "Every unhappy software developer is unhappy in the same way,
| every happy software developer is happy in a different way."
|
| That is, it is a lot of work to find a situation you are happy in
| or (conversely) figure out how to be happy in the situation you
| are in.
|
| Take a look at this classic book
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| https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3650010-have-fun-at-work
| giantg2 wrote:
| Thanks, I'll take a look at that book.
| theGeatZhopa wrote:
| Me is the same in feeling towards my current position. I really
| like the combination, that I won't find like that outside. For
| sure.
|
| My problem is that none of my colleagues can do anything and I
| can do everything. With my qualification it would be easy to find
| outside. And that's year for year with changing colleagues - and
| I don't get a raise, not in these crazy times right now. Nor
| before. Stupit.
|
| But, I have some benefits, like stand up in the morning and write
| a Whatsapp message if everyone is ok with me taking day off, or,
| the hierarchy is very flat with every one working on their own .
|
| So I try to see the good side of the job. Don't you have good
| times, too? Some days are really productive, some sucks. In the
| end of the day, I think about what have I done and what needs to
| be done "tomorrow.." (procrastinated). On the next day, I'm happy
| with finishing all that, and, again..what need to be done
| tomorrow..
|
| So it's stress. But a "good" one. Do you sometimes have that
| moment of feeling good after some difficult situation, too?
|
| I think the weights are towards the negative with you. Not the
| usual hokus pokus esotericus - but, buy that Lapislazuli and put
| it 3 times a day near your stomach!
|
| No, joke. Try to see the positive aspects in what you do. Don't
| care about the others. You have to assume that the others are
| lazy and stupid, but also you do have to realize that in the eyes
| of other's you're lazy and stupid, too. By that it's easier to
| understand the fault's, errors, decisions - after all it's human.
| Some are really crazy.. and a friend of mine once told me he
| thinks I'm strange. I don't see that in my self observations :)
|
| That will the beginning..
|
| don't be toxic. See no toxic. Don't become toxic. (Chuck Norris)
| kleer001 wrote:
| Take on more responsibility.
| giantg2 wrote:
| Can you explain this?
|
| I've filled the role of tech lead and senior dev on past teams,
| but without a raise or promotion. I'm also the security
| champion for my team. On my prior team I was the security
| champion for an application spanning 6+ teams over 2
| departments. I'm still a midlevel dev. I dont see why I should
| continue to work above my level with no reward.
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| Also, I can't put in a ton of extra hours do to home life
| constraints.
| gt565k wrote:
| Ask for a raise and bring up these points.
|
| You're doing a lot more work, but never got paid for it.
| Doesn't hurt to ask, or go get an offer from another company
| and use it as leverage if you want to stay at your current
| company.
| giantg2 wrote:
| Yeah, I tried asking for a raise I'm the past. They
| wouldn't do it. Now my performance is slipping, so they
| certainly won't give me one.
| okareaman wrote:
| "Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self esteem,
| first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by
| assholes." -- Notorious d.e.b
|
| The key for me in that situation is to identify what it is that I
| am most unhappy about. Is it a particular individual who makes
| your life hell? Is it that they enforce their own policies
| unfairly? Or do you feel like you are wasting your life at tasks
| you do not enjoy?
|
| The answers will inform your decision about a course of action.
| giantg2 wrote:
| "Is it that they enforce their own policies unfairly? Or do you
| feel like you are wasting your life at tasks you do not enjoy?"
|
| Thanks! It's definitely these two. They don't just enforce the
| policies unfairly, they actually do the complete opposite of
| the policies. I'm tired of being on a treadmill going nowhere.
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