[HN Gopher] Andrew Wilkinson: "I read a book that blew my mind a...
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       Andrew Wilkinson: "I read a book that blew my mind a little "
        
       Author : prostoalex
       Score  : 20 points
       Date   : 2021-11-07 19:50 UTC (3 hours ago)
        
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       | hirundo wrote:
       | See also Purity Spiral.
        
       | cap10morgan wrote:
       | Peter Thiel almost certainly didn't invent this. The idea that
       | our decisions are heavily influenced by those around us is one of
       | those things that's been well-established in the relevant
       | scientific communities for some time but has a hard time breaking
       | into the popular consciousness because we don't want it to be
       | true.
        
       | Jugurtha wrote:
       | That thread also blew my mind a bit. I do ask the question when I
       | want something. "Why do I want this ?".
       | 
       | Something that drew my attention to this phenomenon is all the
       | ridiculous Hollywood movie scripts. It's always an unpopular
       | teenager who'll then gain superpowers and impress people in his
       | high-school, and everyone will ooh and aaah and take pictures and
       | videos of him doing something 'cool', and the proverbial girl
       | becoming impressed. It's the guy swallowing a pill and magically
       | becoming fluent in several languages and masterfully play
       | instruments to the audience's awe and women's lust.
       | 
       | I find there is such an emptiness that makes me almost certain
       | those who write these either are virgins, or write them for
       | virgins. Either way, it is sad.
       | 
       | I also see it in interests (language learning, writing, book
       | reading, singing, writing, film making, and music) in the circles
       | I frequent made of people in these fields, and it is accurate
       | down to the speech patterns sometimes.
       | 
       | Sometimes, however, I think that this intrinsic/extrinsic
       | dichotomy has its limits. You may start learning something or
       | wanting something because of, or thanks to, someone else. It is
       | extrinsic, but is it ? It is by definition. Can something you're
       | not aware of be intrinsic. People you frequent expose you to
       | different tastes and passions and fields and horizons.
       | 
       | You may have started programming extrinsically because someone
       | you respect did it, and it unlocks an intrinsic desire.
       | 
       | Because of or thanks to depends on what you make of it.
        
       | sirdavidof wrote:
       | It's often underappreciated how _hard_ it can be to tell why you
       | want something.
       | 
       | I've spent weeks thinking as rationally as I could about a
       | decision, and with years of hindsight realised it was based
       | mainly on what others wanted.
       | 
       | If anyone feels they've solved this, I'd love to hear how.
        
       | lupire wrote:
       | It's "Keeping Up With the Joneses" in annoying Twitter thread
       | form.
       | 
       | Is that mind blowing?
        
       | 1MachineElf wrote:
       | _The book is called 'Wanting', by an guy named Luke Burgis._
        
       | AtlasBarfed wrote:
       | You mean, the basic logic of kids in preschool who only want the
       | toy some other kid is playing with?
       | 
       | Yes, the world is full of sheep dazed by the sheer complexity and
       | cacophony of the modern world. It's very hard to make logical
       | decisions about every part of your life, instead people glom onto
       | templates to follow. It's just a lot easier.
       | 
       | Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a good, interesting idea. Maybe
       | "wanting" the book has deeper ideas...
       | 
       | But it's hilarious the thread name-drops Peter Thiel in a SF-
       | focused thread about wanting things only because prominent people
       | have/want them, when it's basically advocating for deciding your
       | own way.
       | 
       | One of the inherent parts of humanity the social animal is
       | belonging. People do many things subconsciously simply to belong.
       | 
       | Our world is utterly insane. We are headed towards an
       | environmental disaster if you do the smallest amount of research
       | or thought, and yet a strict environmental lifestyle is viewed
       | as, at best, eccentricity.
       | 
       | No one is happy it seems, yet everyone buys into the same
       | materialistic sales campaigns and keeps doing the same thing over
       | and over to try to make themselves happy, the colloquial
       | definition of insanity.
       | 
       | The amazing invention of marketing in the 20th-21st centuries is
       | that marketing unlocked people tautologically and defensively
       | want because other people want. By highlighting that everyone
       | wants and hoards, it makes everyone defensively hoard, because we
       | all evolved in resource scarcity, so seeing people hoard triggers
       | us all to hoard defensively.
        
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