[HN Gopher] Signal for Help
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       Signal for Help
        
       Author : nabla9
       Score  : 212 points
       Date   : 2021-10-24 13:49 UTC (9 hours ago)
        
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       | AcerbicZero wrote:
       | If you're not blinking SOS in morse code at me, I'm not getting
       | involved.
        
       | Waterluvian wrote:
       | One problem with these is that they might be less useful than
       | just shouting for help.
       | 
       | If enough people know about the signal for it to be helpful, the
       | abuser may know it too. And what if the abuser knows it and
       | nobody else notices?
       | 
       | There's also a term that bartenders learn. A certain name asked
       | for (I forget). I feel that one might work better because it is
       | targeted knowledge for women and bartenders.
       | 
       | Nevertheless, there's a logical complication here I struggle to
       | reconcile. I'm guessing this is a very well trodden problem space
       | in cryptography.
        
         | tjoff wrote:
         | Not sure how the addition of a non-verbal sign increases the
         | risk.
         | 
         | The point is that it might be easier than hide than verbally or
         | writing a note etc. So while the risk of course remains it is
         | an added tool that is silent and doesn't require access to
         | anything else.
        
         | sva_ wrote:
         | > One problem with these is that they might be less useful than
         | just shouting for help.
         | 
         | I think this sign was in particular meant to be used while on a
         | video call. An abusive partner may currently not be looking at
         | their victim, so they could do the signal, while making an
         | auditory signal would not work.
        
           | TeMPOraL wrote:
           | One potential problem here is that videocalling software
           | usually displays camera input in a corner window/section.
        
         | ketzo wrote:
         | I think you're thinking of "Ask for Angela" or an "Angel Shot":
         | 
         | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ask_for_Angela
        
           | Waterluvian wrote:
           | Thanks for sharing. Yes that's what I was failing to recall.
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | e40 wrote:
       | A video to go along with the article
       | 
       | https://reddit.com/r/interestingasfuck/comments/qeq0fq/the_m...
        
       | dunefox wrote:
       | How is this related to Hackernews? Seems quite OT.
        
         | martinflack wrote:
         | An important trait of startup founders is a decent EQ, and
         | relating to other people. This is interesting news in that
         | area.
        
         | frosted-flakes wrote:
         | If people are interested in it, it's relevant.
        
           | dunefox wrote:
           | Fair enough.
        
         | audray wrote:
         | This classifies as language hacking, no?
        
           | [deleted]
        
         | mdp2021 wrote:
         | Intellectual problem: given the current state of affairs,
         | structure a system to help individuals in distress; check
         | current proposals. Preliminary: know the current state of
         | affairs (e.g. growth of domestic violence, correlation with
         | isolation measures). Aside: cultural contexts (Canada, CWF).
         | 
         | Non-triviality of the context: this morning this friend of mine
         | had to call an emergency number. The country he was in had
         | structured years ago the workflow as follows: first you talk to
         | an operator, which compiles a form "with your help". Then you
         | wait on hold, until a switchboard tune stops and you talk to
         | the police (as in, "Hello, five minutes ago when I first called
         | somebody was shooting around"). The operator reports being
         | legally bound not to pass any information directly to the
         | police: there is no action if the police does not talk to the
         | caller, and there is no police if you do not spend the
         | preliminary minutes. I am sure a few issues are clear.
        
         | southerntofu wrote:
         | It's related to security, communication, audio/video calls, and
         | the pandemic. I believe all of these topics are HN favorites.
        
       | dredmorbius wrote:
       | E.O. Wilson, an entomologist studying ants, describes a "chemical
       | grammar" for communications.
       | 
       | Ants use specific chemicals (pheromones), producing odors, for
       | communication. Their signals for food and other sustaining
       | activities are fairly complex and long-lasting, and tend to be
       | specific to a species.
       | 
       | Alert signals are comprised of small molecules, are sharp, are
       | _not_ specific to a given species (there may be multiples of
       | these, but they 're shared across species), and they spread and
       | disperse below detection threshold quickly. That is, once
       | emitted, the signal permeates through the immediate area quickly,
       | but it's also not long-lasting, so that later-arrivals won't
       | erroniously interpret a danger signal.
       | 
       | See:
       | 
       | https://www.cell.com/current-biology/fulltext/S0960-9822(06)...
       | 
       | https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/transcripts/3509_eowilson.html
       | 
       | https://achievement.org/achiever/edward-o-wilson-ph-d/#inter...
       | 
       | (I'm finding overviews but not a specific description of the
       | processes / methods.)
       | 
       | Audio alerts among other animals seem to be similar. Alarm or
       | threat cries are clear, unambiguous, and broadcast widely. Friend
       | or mating cries, calls, songs, etc., are typically far more
       | complex, specific, and more localised. These are behaviours which
       | have emerged under selective pressure over millions of years.
       | 
       | We scream at terror, shout at enemies, and whisper to lovers and
       | children.
       | 
       | I'd be very interested to hear of any _secret_ or _covert_ alert
       | calls in nature.
       | 
       | Complex or secret help calls are ... probably not especially
       | useful in most cases. Instead, those who are likely to receive a
       | call should be primed to act and verify quickly.
       | 
       | Put another way, the method suggested in the article is a form of
       | responsibilty-shifting to the victim, though it's all but
       | certainly not intentionally constructed as such.
        
       | 0898 wrote:
       | All these memey distress signals, like asking for "Angela"... are
       | they actually adopted? Or do they just exist on the internet?
        
         | tdfx wrote:
         | Have worked in bars and can confirm no one is going to
         | recognize the Angela thing without additional context. It's
         | just a feel-good memey thing.
        
         | tgsovlerkhgsel wrote:
         | The "Angela" one specifically started not as a "use this
         | codeword in any bar", but "in our bar, staff is trained to
         | react to this code word" posted in the women's restrooms at a
         | bar.
        
         | hnlmorg wrote:
         | I've seen a video posted online of someone ringing the
         | emergency services "ordering a pizza". It was a pretty
         | emotional watch actually because there was no description so it
         | took the viewer longer to realise what was going down than the
         | operator. Really hit home just how hard their job is.
        
         | chaircher wrote:
         | They stop working once everyone knows about them. If your
         | attacker knows your codeword it stops being a codeword
        
         | dredmorbius wrote:
         | These are used with varying degrees of regularity in different
         | situations.
         | 
         | "Mayday", "SOS", "Securitay", and "Pan pan pan" in aviation and
         | boating. For aviation also 7500, 7600, and 7700.
         | 
         | A list of codes used in hospitals, including combative
         | individuals, armed confrontations, bomb threats and the like:
         | 
         | https://www.calhospitalprepare.org/sites/main/files/file-att...
         | 
         | For lists of codes used in other contexts (police, subways,
         | ships, air travel: https://www.theclever.com/15-secret-
         | emergency-codes-youre-no...
         | 
         | Note that without specific training and regular drilling, these
         | are likely to _not_ be especially useful. For communicating to
         | the public a plausible-but-clear explanation, e.g.,  "police
         | investigation" (usually code for suicide, possibly other death)
         | is used especially in transportation systems. A "police
         | investigation" on a transit line or bridge is frequently a
         | suicide or attempt.
        
           | vidarh wrote:
           | In London at least you'll often hear "due to passenger
           | action" as a catch all for anything from trespass to suicide
           | attempts that involve someone potentially on the line.
           | 
           | From your list, I've hear "inspector sands" being used, and
           | avoided the exit they called someone to.
        
       | themodelplumber wrote:
       | That's a good example of fairly localized creativity during
       | COVID. People may criticize the "how are you supposed to know
       | that" aspect but it sounds more like it was part of its own
       | campaign to raise awareness, and in a specific part of the world.
       | If it continues to spread from there, probably all the better.
        
       | tyingq wrote:
       | Looks like finger spelling "B", then "E" in ASL.
        
       | rozab wrote:
       | So if nobody recognises it it's useless, but if everybody
       | recognises it it's also useless?
        
         | eloisant wrote:
         | I don't think it's useless if everybody recognises it, there
         | are many cases where you can show the sign to someone without
         | it being visible by your abuser (i.e. hidden by your body).
        
         | 542458 wrote:
         | Eh, I think it's potentially useful even if everybody
         | recognizes it. It's superficially similar enough to a normal
         | wave hello and fast enough to perform that it could be done
         | surreptitiously (as opposed to frantically waving for help or
         | elaborate pantomime). I'm not sure if it's useful or just a
         | feel-good thing, but I don't think us non-domain-experts can
         | reject the former without more info.
        
         | notRobot wrote:
         | From TFA:
         | 
         | > _Addressing concerns that abusers may become aware of such a
         | widespread online initiative, the Canadian Women 's Foundation
         | and other organizations clarified that this signal is not
         | "something that's going to save the day," but rather a tool
         | someone could use to get help._
        
       | jodrellblank wrote:
       | Looks impossible, my thumbs don't bend that way. Hopefully nobody
       | being abused has similar thumbs.
        
         | Arcuru wrote:
         | I know someone who has that same issue. They started having
         | other wrist/thumb issues, and only realized they had limited
         | range of motion in their thumbs while doing Physical Therapy.
         | 
         | The PT didn't help them get more range of motion, just helped
         | reduce some pain they were having.
        
         | MattRix wrote:
         | Really? You can't wrap your fingers around your thumb like
         | that? I am not a flexible person and I can do it easily. It's
         | the same thing as making a fist with your thumb inside it (not
         | usually a good idea!).
        
           | jodrellblank wrote:
           | Like depicted in that picture, no; close enough to work,
           | probably. I can't do this ( https://openheart.bmj.com/content
           | /openhrt/2/1/e000169/F5.lar... ) because the joint at the
           | base of my thumb doesn't bend that way much at all.
           | 
           | I can't do this ( https://www.medmd.org/wp-
           | content/uploads/2016/11/Bend-Your-T... ) because I can't bend
           | the tip of my thumb while keeping my fingers straight. The
           | index and middle finger bend with the thumb tip.
           | 
           | I can do what this picture describes as _opposition_ (
           | http://i2.wp.com/boneandspine.com/wp-
           | content/uploads/2016/09... ) with a combination of little
           | finger movement and straight thumb or bent thumb and clawed
           | fingers, and so I can make a fist with my thumb rotated
           | around and tip covered by fingers.
        
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       | mongol wrote:
       | Is there no other signal for help, to use over long distance?
        
         | sva_ wrote:
         | ...---...
        
           | ogogmad wrote:
           | I didn't know that one. TIL.
        
             | denysvitali wrote:
             | I hope you're joking. It's literally SOS in morse code, and
             | it's pretty common hearing the sound in movies / series.
        
               | throwaway2016a wrote:
               | I usually get downvoted for posting XKCD but here it
               | goes. Relevant XKCD
               | 
               | https://xkcd.com/1053/
        
               | e0a74c wrote:
               | I hope you're joking. How can someone not know that the
               | average person is unaware of Morse code? After all, it's
               | pretty common hearing about how ignorant people are in
               | movies/series :P
        
               | Ansil849 wrote:
               | > I hope you're joking.
               | 
               | Why? There, by definition, is always a moment when you
               | learn something. You're not born knowing SOS. At some
               | point in your life you learn of it. To reply to someone
               | who expresses that that this was such a moment with "I
               | hope you're joking" comes off as extremely condescending.
        
               | denysvitali wrote:
               | Yes but it's different here. SOS should be as known as
               | Coca Cola.
               | 
               | I'm not trying to be harsh or anything, it's just that I
               | can't imagine someone not knowing such a basic thing like
               | that - similar to not knowing what the number for the
               | emergency services in your country is.
        
               | lillesvin wrote:
               | Berating someone for admitting they don't know something
               | is counter-productive and is only going to make them not
               | admit it the next time.
        
               | denysvitali wrote:
               | Yes, you're totally right and I probably stated my
               | astonishment in the wrong way.
        
               | stinos wrote:
               | And I can't imagine you cannot imagine that. You probably
               | know there are people of so many different ages and
               | cultures and backgrounds here, is it really that hard to
               | imagine someone never encountered it?
        
               | denysvitali wrote:
               | Honestly, for such a thing, yes. But I should probably
               | consider that, under certain circumnstances, people might
               | not be aware of certain things.
               | 
               | Never mind, sorry for the bad comment.
        
           | qsort wrote:
           | Unironic +1.
           | 
           | SOS is still officially recognized as a distress signal, is
           | universally understood across language and cultural barriers,
           | and works well with a variety of signaling methods.
        
             | BrandoElFollito wrote:
             | I agree. There is also hope that someone may recognize the
             | signal (if they were scouts, or cs students who had that as
             | one of the first tasks, ...).
             | 
             | The way you tap it is                    . . . .. .. .. . .
             | .
        
             | [deleted]
        
       | Ansil849 wrote:
       | I'm having trouble understanding a use-case for this.
       | 
       | The point appears to be to use it if you are in a situation where
       | for example your abusive partner is next to you, for example on a
       | video call, and you want to signal on this call (as opposed to on
       | a separate call when your abusive partner is not next to you?)
       | that you need help. This then relies on 1) the people on the
       | other end of the video call recognizing the signal, but also 2)
       | your abuser not recognizing it.
       | 
       | This seems extremely unlikely. Am I missing something about its
       | utility?
        
         | tgsovlerkhgsel wrote:
         | Presumably an abuser listening and occasionally but not
         | constantly watching.
        
         | softwaredoug wrote:
         | Controlling abusers police how their victims interact with the
         | outside world. So being watched or listened it to on a call is
         | not out of the question.
         | 
         | Also consider that revealing the abuse can be life threatening
         | to the victim. How certain can you really be you're not being
         | overheard? And is even a 1% chance worth your life?
        
           | Ansil849 wrote:
           | Yes, I understand this. What I don't understand is the
           | expectation that I outlined above: wherein the abuser does
           | not understand or notice the gesture, but the people on the
           | other end of the line do both notice and understand the
           | gesture. This seems _very_ unlikely, and if the abuser _does_
           | notice and understand the symbol, will only put the person
           | being abused in more danger. So again, I don't understand the
           | utility of this.
           | 
           | As you said:
           | 
           | > And is even a 1% chance worth your life?
           | 
           | Is the 1% chance that the abuser sees and understands the
           | symbol worth your life?
        
             | jader201 wrote:
             | I think the video call example is a bad example. Someone
             | above linked to a video on Reddit that, I think, shows more
             | likely scenarios where it could be used effectively
             | (though, as stated in other comments, relies on the others
             | knowing the context of the gesture):
             | 
             | https://reddit.com/r/interestingasfuck/comments/qeq0fq/the_
             | m...
             | 
             | Edit: reading some of the comments in the Reddit thread, as
             | the article states, this was started in Canada during the
             | COVID lockdown, so the likely scenario there is that you
             | may give the signal out during work/while video chatting
             | with a friend/relative while the abuser is unobservant but
             | within hearing distance.
             | 
             | To your point, this still seems unlikely, but if someone is
             | in an abusive relationship but is still working during
             | lockdowns, I suppose it's still one way to signal for help.
        
               | Ansil849 wrote:
               | > you may give the signal out during work/while video
               | chatting with a friend/relative while the abuser is
               | unobservant but within hearing distance.
               | 
               | It just seems like an extremely dangerous thing to do. If
               | someone sees you doing some weird gesture with your
               | hands, their first impulse may just be to blurt out "what
               | are you doing with your hands?", which would in this case
               | draw the abuser's attention.
               | 
               | It seems way more straightforward to type out in that
               | scenario explicitly that you are in danger.
        
               | skytreader wrote:
               | There's a lot of inconspicuous ways to signal this.
               | Disguise it as some nonsense. It's no different from the
               | less serious appellations to "blink thrice if you need
               | help". Some I just came up with:
               | 
               | (a) you can disguise the action as making a fist then
               | said fist goes on to rub your nose, for instance.
               | 
               | (b) your chin can rest on the back of your hand in
               | position (1). Then it occasionally switches to (2). You
               | can keep doing this while pretending to be listening
               | thoroughly, like it's some unconscious gesture.
               | 
               | (c) you can do this gesture two or three times in a row
               | disguised as a hello or goodbye wave.
               | 
               | The important observation here is, even if your abuser
               | recognizes what you are doing, they are unlikely to
               | prevent you from doing this _immediately_. Otherwise if
               | they do then it 's just explicit confirmation that you
               | are indeed being abused. That situation is no good for
               | them, if they are trying to hide the fact.
               | 
               | The second point is that you maintain plausible
               | deniability even if your abuser recognizes the sign. Of
               | course it's not foolproof but it's easier to sell this as
               | casual gestures as opposed to explicitly telling the
               | video chat of your situation. If your abuser confronts
               | you about it (if they even catch you doing it), it's
               | easier to defuse the situation and less likely to end up
               | in another altercation.
        
               | formerly_proven wrote:
               | Chat might be persistent and checked later, video calls
               | are not usually recorded.
        
         | tyingq wrote:
         | It's rare, but it does happen. This story is pretty
         | interesting: https://www.cnn.com/2018/05/27/us/florida-woman-
         | escape-note-...
        
           | Ansil849 wrote:
           | This is a story about someone slipping a note. It's a far cry
           | from "someone doing a specialized hand symbol that someone
           | intended noticed, while someone unintended did not notice".
           | Or in other words, the amount of people who are literate and
           | capable of reading a note in legible plain script is orders
           | of magnitude greater than the amount of people who know this
           | hand signal.
        
             | tyingq wrote:
             | Yes, I'm also skeptical of the hand gesture being useful,
             | since few will recognize it. Just noting that the situation
             | (needing to signal you're in distress, while with the
             | partner) does happen.
        
               | Ansil849 wrote:
               | > since few will recognize it.
               | 
               | This is I think precisely why this signal is a non-
               | starter. For it to be successful, it seems to require
               | that a large percentage of people are able to recognize
               | it. But if a large percentage of people can recognize it,
               | that logically means the abuser is more likely to
               | recognize it as well.
        
       | kypro wrote:
       | In what situations would someone need to communicate they need
       | help over video?
       | 
       | If the abuser is in the room a hand gesture would be quite
       | dangerous and if they're not voice could be used instead. In
       | situations where the abuser is too close for verbal
       | communication, surely text would be the next safest option?
       | 
       | Perhaps there are some situations where only video is available
       | making this necessary, but I can't think of any video
       | conferencing software which doesn't also support text messaging.
       | 
       | I'd be worried promoting this will either result in people trying
       | to alert others and failing because of a lack of awareness, or
       | people simply misinterpreting someone waving to say hi or bye as
       | a call for help and wasting people time.
        
         | tomcooks wrote:
         | Angry partner in the other room, you send to someone you trust
         | a video while in the bathroom. If said partner checks your
         | phone you lower the chances of being caught, one can assume you
         | were just waving goodbye or something. Same applies to
         | signalling people outside your window, police or neighbors.
        
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       | zorked wrote:
       | Vaguely related: in Brazil if you call the police and say you
       | want to "order a pizza" they will play along, request your
       | address, and send a police patrol to check on you.
        
         | jagger27 wrote:
         | This is a common thing for 911 dispatchers to be trained on. If
         | you call 911 and they ask for "police, fire, or ambulance" and
         | you just start having a normal conversation with them they'll
         | play along, usually with yes or no questions that can be
         | answered with "yeah, my weekend was great thanks!"
         | 
         | There's pretty much no need to say your address either. The
         | police will already have your location from the phone call.
        
         | riffic wrote:
         | do people still order pizzas over the phone in first-world
         | countries?
        
           | throwawayboise wrote:
           | It's the only way I order take out. Faster and easier than
           | using an app.
        
             | reaperducer wrote:
             | You're doing it wrong.
             | 
             | You're supposed to write a long tale on Medium titled
             | "Here's what happened when I tried to order food over the
             | phone from a restaurant"
             | 
             | Then make a Tiktok Video about it tagged #lifehack.
             | 
             | It's the only way the loafing class will believe you.
        
           | ben_w wrote:
           | Sure, I'm in Berlin and living literally directly up from a
           | Domino's. Several of the _good_ Pizza places near me (not
           | Domino's) don't have an app, and half their websites list
           | only a phone number and physical address for contact. One has
           | an email address but says they don't take orders that way.
        
           | nelgaard wrote:
           | yes it is the fastest way to do it. And it cuts out the
           | middlemen.
        
           | reaperducer wrote:
           | I hate to break it to you, but A LOT of the best restaurants
           | aren't available on apps, or even online.
           | 
           | I recently moved to a new (large) city, and have found that
           | nearly half of the restaurants in my neighborhood aren't even
           | in either Google Maps or Apple Maps.
        
         | dan_linder wrote:
         | Do you happen to have a list of these code words for other
         | countries?
        
           | tata71 wrote:
           | If it's the emergency number you're calling, and the operator
           | doesn't understand the pizza/repairman etc code, they're
           | poorly trained/suited for the job.
        
             | babyshake wrote:
             | If you call 911 and request a pizza, you might be pranking
             | them or you might be under duress. Curious if they have a
             | protocol for differentiating between these. I suppose if
             | you give them your address and you're just joking you would
             | be pretty dumb, not to mention incredibly immature to abuse
             | emergency services.
        
               | shagie wrote:
               | This is an item in the 911 operator game. The description
               | of the call is
               | https://911-operator.fandom.com/wiki/Undercover_pizza
               | 
               | An example of the gameplay with that call is
               | https://youtu.be/tEpyboLQ7bk?t=360
               | 
               | And an actual dispatcher call
               | https://youtu.be/ZJL_8kNFmTI
        
               | EVa5I7bHFq9mnYK wrote:
               | "Please, before you fire that gun, let me order my last
               | pizza". Totally believable.
        
               | tgsovlerkhgsel wrote:
               | "I'm sorry for screwing up lunch, should I order a pizza
               | instead?"
               | 
               | "We've been here for five hours, everyone is hungry. Can
               | we get some food, like order a pizza or something?"
        
               | vinceguidry wrote:
               | They do, they typically will ask if you're in duress and
               | you need assistance. You can say 'yes' without tipping
               | the person you're with off. The problem is most people in
               | duress won't think to call the cops.
        
               | tyingq wrote:
               | It does have risks since the 3 digit dial looks
               | distinctive. Or things like redial that could give it
               | away.
        
               | tata71 wrote:
               | 9110000000000 as many times as needed.
        
               | noodlesUK wrote:
               | Does this actually work on mobiles?
        
               | notatoad wrote:
               | there's a couple youtube videos floating around where the
               | operator initially is pissed off that somebody is
               | pranking them, but catches on pretty quick. the tone of a
               | kid being annoying and a victim in distress is pretty
               | different.
        
               | thih9 wrote:
               | Does anyone have a link to a video or a call
               | transcription?
        
         | syngrog66 wrote:
         | "Yes, I'd like a 16-inch handtossed..." -> 6 men in riot gear,
         | blue pants, tacti-cool
         | 
         | "... for the toppings I want pineapple, feta and onions..." ->
         | recommend you bring stun grenades, tasers and tear gas
         | 
         | ... etc ...
        
           | midasuni wrote:
           | Pineapple on a pizza? Surely that's code for a terrorist
           | event
        
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