[HN Gopher] About that time I had an outburst during the YCombin...
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       About that time I had an outburst during the YCombinator Interview
        
       Author : curiousowl
       Score  : 433 points
       Date   : 2021-10-20 12:03 UTC (10 hours ago)
        
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       | vhiremath4 wrote:
       | I love this. The more raw and honest we are with our narratives.
       | The less polished we try to be. The more intimately
       | understandable things are on a primal level. The much higher our
       | likelihood of connecting a real life opportunity to economic
       | outcome.
       | 
       | I've been a part of so many investor pitches and presentations
       | (both receiving and pitching), and one major trend I constantly
       | see is entrepreneurs who have the right itch or instinct into a
       | problem space but they haven't fully thought through why people
       | should care. When they give reasons for why people should care,
       | it's often removed from reality and overly idealistic. A lot of
       | people get bitter for getting turned down on this "last mile" of
       | reasoning that investors demand, but _everything_ is in this last
       | mile. This is how you orient your team to think about problems.
       | This is how you become customer obsessed. This is how you market
       | why you exist.
        
       | L_226 wrote:
       | OT but I made an a webapp for myself to do exactly this -
       | Mirrorspace [0] shows me nearby interesting things that are
       | usually not searchable on google maps or similar.
       | 
       | You can even place media posts at your current location that
       | others can see on the map, but the content is only visible when
       | you are within 50m.
       | 
       | I use it when I travel (more frequently these days!), but I have
       | not updated it in a looong time. Might open source it one day
       | 
       | [0] - https://app.mirrorspace.net
        
         | saeranv wrote:
         | Whats your strategy for finding interesting things not on
         | google maps?
        
           | L_226 wrote:
           | currently it is basically a UI map wrapper for
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Special:Nearby, with the
           | additional functionality for users to post text and images to
           | their specific location. I was going to monetise it by
           | allowing people to pay to increase the viewable radius of a
           | post, and/or having people pay a small amount to the uploader
           | to view a post from outside the default radius.
        
       | blueyes wrote:
       | "Michael Seibel is a professional hater. I've never been denied
       | so consistently by such a charming, kind, and basically snuggly
       | person."
       | 
       | Investors are both skeptics and speculators. And they can't be a
       | good speculator without being deeply skeptical.
       | 
       | That's very different from hating and haters, though.
       | 
       | Haters hate irrationally, often driven by malicious envy.
       | 
       | Skeptics rightly ask people to give evidence for their claims,
       | especially if those people are asking for funding. Why should
       | they believe you?
       | 
       | Don Valentine, the founder of Sequoia, was famous for asking:
       | "Why the f*ck should I give you my money?"
       | 
       | He was right to ask that, and that was a tone that worked at the
       | time, when capital was scarcer.
       | 
       | For the record, Michael Seibel is not a hater. He is a skeptic
       | when he has to be. And he is right to be skeptical. The burden of
       | proof, when you have neither product nor traction, must be on the
       | founder to prove to an investor that they should give them money.
        
         | elicash wrote:
         | The term is entertainingly used here to contrast it with the
         | positive traits listed immediately after it. The sentence loses
         | most of its humor if you change "hater" to "skeptic."
         | 
         | Everybody understands what the author is saying and that it
         | isn't an insult.
        
           | blueyes wrote:
           | I don't believe every one understands that, and while I
           | recognize the attempt at humor, it was not effective for me.
           | It would have been better if the author had chosen the mot
           | juste.
        
         | Marlondu28100 wrote:
         | Tg
        
         | dumbfoundded wrote:
         | I got interviewed by Michael Seibel and didn't get into YC. The
         | difference is my startup was doing 6-figures a month & growing
         | 20% monthly but Michael just hated the idea. It was in cannabis
         | and YC publicly stated they were interested in cannabis
         | companies but apparently not cool with the whole smoking weed
         | part.
         | 
         | It honestly felt like a big waste of time. The critiques
         | weren't helpful, mostly just along the lines of "Why should I
         | like your idea?". I thought we did well in the interview and
         | kept our cool the whole time. We weren't in it for the money as
         | we were profitable and wanted to expand our professional
         | network and talent pool. It felt like we were just there to
         | teach them about the cannabis market. We were acquired a couple
         | years later with a nice outcome and I hold nothing against
         | Seibel but I wish it hadn't felt like he was so antagonistic
         | from the start.
        
         | killion wrote:
         | I liken Michael in question-mode to being on train tracks with
         | an engine bearing down on you. He will follow a line of
         | reasoning with deep questions rapid fire. This puts you off
         | guard and makes you lower your defenses - that way he gets to
         | the shared understanding faster.
         | 
         | The important thing for the entrepreneur to do afterwards is to
         | remember your responses and try to understand what he was
         | driving at. There is a lot of emotion in the moment, but when
         | you look back you find the wisdom.
         | 
         | For reference we were lucky enough to get him and Dalton as our
         | YC advisors.
        
           | mwseibel wrote:
           | I learned this technique from one of the best YC interviewers
           | of all time - Paul Buchheit.
        
       | v1l wrote:
       | What if it's a problem where you feel the pain so acutely that
       | you want to rip your hair out but then you observe others and
       | they seem to make peace with the pain of the problem? Case in
       | point: dev project management tools (jira, monday, asana..).
       | Nobody complains but it's like a nagging pain that pokes at you
       | all day long (and I suspect affects your true productivity, at
       | least mine).
        
       | rexreed wrote:
       | I find it really curious that all these stories about "how I
       | screwed up" are all of a sudden popping up all over the place. Is
       | there some sort of meme or zeitgeist going around where it's now
       | in vogue to post about how you messed up some big deal or lost
       | some big thing?
        
         | vnchr wrote:
         | Opposite of survivor bias? There are going to be many more
         | stories of missteps, and the misstep stories most worth telling
         | are those where someone learned a valuable lesson.
        
           | rexreed wrote:
           | But I'm finding these stories to instead show how naive,
           | childish, or outlandish the founder is. These stories might
           | have lessons learned for others, but it sure doesn't paint
           | the founder in a good light. Are we in anti-truth world now
           | where talking about how bad you are / were is a good thing?
        
             | cam0 wrote:
             | Listening to privileged successful and wealthy people has
             | gotten boring. Everyone feels like they're a "creator"
             | these days, and there are far more non-sophisticated and
             | average people out there than the typical successful
             | Silicon Valley characters.
        
               | rexreed wrote:
               | You're definitely right in that the universe of
               | unsuccessful people far outnumbers those who are
               | successful. I guess we'll be seeing a stream about lost
               | opportunities and lost deals for some time. It's like
               | those Country music ballads where the singer loses it
               | all, but they still have their faith. Sing on.
        
           | collegeburner wrote:
           | Lmao no there arent. There are going to be many more missteps
           | made but its much easier to publish a success than a failure.
        
         | thanhhaimai wrote:
         | I think it could be just Frequency Illusion for your case. I
         | think stories about "how I screwed up" has been always popular
         | on the internet.
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frequency_illusion
        
       | lloydatkinson wrote:
       | Is there a website that shows only technical or scientific
       | content from HN? Seems weird how often HN likes to promote its
       | own content. I couldn't imagine the BBC having several articles a
       | week on itself.
        
         | registeredcorn wrote:
         | I can't name one, but if you find it, please let me know!
        
           | madars wrote:
           | A HN-like site you might like is https://lobste.rs/ . It only
           | has technical content.
        
             | registeredcorn wrote:
             | Thanks! :)
        
       | vmception wrote:
       | The incentive to stand out in a VC meeting is too high.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | pmarreck wrote:
       | I liked his outburst. I subscribed to Giya. Let's see what they
       | got.
        
       | cyberlurker wrote:
       | Michael Seibel is a better person than me. I wouldn't have
       | handled it that gracefully.
        
       | cryptica wrote:
       | Yeah of course, these people treat you better after you snap.
       | Investors don't respect nice people. You need to create fear. As
       | my friend once told me, "you need to be a killer."
       | 
       | They can't have killers on the loose hating their guts, they need
       | to bribe them into compliance. That's what funding is really
       | about. Unfortunately, it's a bad idea because it puts killers
       | into positions of authority. Maybe that's why society is so
       | messed up now.
        
         | beaconstudios wrote:
         | Does VC (read: capitalism in general) encourage sociopathy?
         | Yes. But what you wrote reads a little
         | intentional/conspiratorial. It's not a case of "VCs want to
         | control the monsters", it's "if the cold rational decision is
         | to fire 10 people who won't be able to afford rent, you'll be
         | more successful as a businessperson if you do that rather than
         | being an empathic human being and refusing to fire them".
        
         | mwseibel wrote:
         | I didn't perceive this as him snapping or being impolite or
         | being a "killer". He was just being real with us.
        
       | hikerclimber1 wrote:
       | Everything is subjective. Especially laws.
        
       | lloydatkinson wrote:
       | Is there a website that shows only technical or scientific
       | content from HN? Seems weird how often HN likes to promote itself
       | and go on about funding. I couldn't imagine the BBC having
       | several articles a week on itself.
        
         | hans1729 wrote:
         | Given that HN is a forum and not a news publisher, I find this
         | comparison lacking at best
        
           | lloydatkinson wrote:
           | OK then
        
         | Arubis wrote:
         | HN is pretty explicitly business/startup-friendly, and has been
         | since its inception. "Just the tech from HN" maps pretty
         | closely to https://lobste.rs/.
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | PaybackTony wrote:
       | Perhaps buried in these comments is this but after reading a lot
       | of the "takeaways" many people had from this I have to say the
       | reality is much simpler.
       | 
       | People (Customers, VCs, Entrepreneurs) can empathize or
       | sympathize with stories. They can't with ideas. It's really that
       | simple. It wasn't the outburst or the emotion. It's the story.
       | 
       | If your idea doesn't have a genuine story, it's not likely to end
       | up a genuine business.
        
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         | drclau wrote:
         | I find it odd how much people tend to move the responsibility
         | for obtaining funding on the founders. No doubt the quality
         | (for lack of a better word) of the founders is important. But
         | what about VCs that are actually capable of seeing beyond a
         | mere elevator pitch? Are there such VCs anymore? Or did it all
         | end up as a game of selling your project/product/idea to some
         | clueless person or fund that has the money?
        
           | xyzelement wrote:
           | >> But what about VCs that are actually capable of seeing
           | beyond a mere elevator pitch?
           | 
           | I think in any communication, the "burden" of clarity is on
           | the person with more information.
           | 
           |  _You_ think you see a real problem. _You_ think you have an
           | idea for how to solve it. _You_ think you are the right
           | person to execute on it. All of that _state_ exists in your
           | mind as a founder, and it 's the reason you're standing
           | before the VC.
           | 
           | The VC is experienced in getting these answers out of people
           | because that's what they do all day. As a founder, on the
           | "best" case scenario, you make it easy for the VC to see it.
           | At worst case, you make it so hard that they can't "pull" it
           | out of you despite their best effort.
           | 
           | If they can't get this answer out of you, why would they
           | invest? Why would they think you "have it" when you are not
           | showing it?
        
             | drclau wrote:
             | I don't disagree on the importance of communication.
             | 
             | But I have to say, your message seems quite biased towards
             | the VC. Surely not all VCs are created equal. Just as not
             | all founders are equally capable in communicating ideas,
             | I'm sure not all VCs are equally capable in understanding
             | ideas.
        
           | gnicholas wrote:
           | Sure, VCs should look for good ideas that are poorly
           | communicated. But it's no surprise that VCs would prioritize
           | funding a good idea that is well-communicated. A founder
           | needs to be able to communicate the value prop to other
           | funders, customers, journalists, awards committees, etc.
           | Being able to communicate via an elevator pitch or
           | conversation is critically important to the success of a
           | startup.
        
           | tyre wrote:
           | There absolutely are good VCs. It's probably about a bell
           | curve, like anything else.
           | 
           | Most VCs you'll meet are nice people and mediocre at what
           | they do. They have money, which for many startups is enough
           | of a reason to work with them.
           | 
           | There is a remarkable difference between partners at Sequoia,
           | Greylock, Benchmark vs. a random fund.
        
         | garrickvanburen wrote:
         | I'll add, a genuine story that the Founder is apart of.
        
       | irateswami wrote:
       | Is this linkedin? Agree?
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | fijiaarone wrote:
       | You could go back to customer development and figure out a way to
       | connect with your niece.
       | 
       | And then try to scale it. And then try to monetize it. That
       | sounds even harder getting the VC pump and dump lottery ticket,
       | though.
       | 
       | But I think step 1 is doable.
        
       | bcopa wrote:
       | "...Michael Seibel is a professional hater. I've never been
       | denied so consistently by such a charming, kind, and basically
       | snuggly person."
       | 
       | Haha, chuckled at this. YC was perhaps the only interview in
       | which my co-founder and I felt like the interviewers were
       | incredible kind - but also some of the most challenging ones. We
       | loved it!
        
         | m_ke wrote:
         | We had two rounds of interviews and I'm pretty confident that
         | Michael was the reason why we ended up getting rejected but
         | I'll always love him for how blunt he was with us about not
         | launching sooner (it's a mobile app that uses computer vision,
         | he claimed we should have launched before the ML models were
         | ready and was completely right)
         | 
         | Our interview was on election day in 2016, they called us in
         | for a second interview, we then went out for drinks with a
         | bunch of other founders and watched all of them get email
         | responses that day. We didn't hear back all day and stayed up
         | all night watching the election results come in, then woke up,
         | drove to the airport, took the plane back to NYC and finally
         | got the rejection when we landed.
        
           | no_butterscotch wrote:
           | > but I'll always love him for how blunt he was with us about
           | not launching sooner (it's a mobile app that uses computer
           | vision, he claimed we should have launched before the ML
           | models were ready and was completely right)
           | 
           | Is this advice to always launch sooner still applicable?
           | 
           | I've heard it regurgitated a few times over the past decade
           | or so, especially here and from the YC/VC crowd, and I feel
           | like it made sense at some point.
           | 
           | But nowadays do people not expect a little bit more? The
           | field is more crowded and the bar to entry is much lower for
           | competitors/cloners/etc and your first impression can only be
           | made once.
        
       | personjerry wrote:
       | > The next time you've got a big pain, joy, laugh try following
       | your emotional feet and sharing it before it makes sense. You may
       | surprise yourself.
       | 
       | Or you might deceive yourself in a really insidious way.
       | 
       | Talk to customers.
        
       | richardzhang wrote:
       | VCs are still rational beings. They don't fund something just
       | because someone is emotionally attached to the idea. If you get a
       | huge number of people emotionally attached... then that's a
       | different story.
        
       | Imnimo wrote:
       | The lesson here is that you should make screaming at the top of
       | your lungs about your god damn niece your opening line. Also good
       | for an impromptu elevator pitch.
        
       | arduinomancer wrote:
       | So the guy wants a better relationship with his niece and he
       | thinks it would be better if only he had a glorified TripAdvisor
       | clone?
       | 
       | This feels like peak Silicon Valley cluelessness
       | 
       | Thinking every problem has a tech/app solution.
        
         | dang wrote:
         | " _Please respond to the strongest plausible interpretation of
         | what someone says, not a weaker one that 's easier to
         | criticize. Assume good faith._"
         | 
         | " _When disagreeing, please reply to the argument instead of
         | calling names. 'That is idiotic; 1 + 1 is 2, not 3' can be
         | shortened to '1 + 1 is 2, not 3._"
         | 
         | " _Don 't be snarky._"
         | 
         | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
        
       | meesles wrote:
       | Nice little article, but more surprising to me was that I worked
       | with Jabari at PaperlessPost for a short time! Cool dude :)
        
       | TomSwirly wrote:
       | It shows that empty anecdotes and emotionality are much more
       | important to entrepreneurs than analysis, facts, logic and
       | reasoning.
       | 
       | It reinforces my worst suspicions, to be frank.
        
       | xwdv wrote:
       | It will be cringey if many pitches suddenly incorporated some
       | kind of emotional outburst to get attention. One investor
       | confided to me that watching some of these pitches is like
       | "passing a kidney stone".
        
       | encryptluks2 wrote:
       | I have to admit that their project does not seem like something
       | that can generate much revenue. The website is a SPA just asking
       | for an email address. I would like to think the best curation
       | comes from the community, and in order to get community
       | involvement you'd need a platform that is open and free anyhow,
       | like Yelp or Google Reviews.
        
         | toyg wrote:
         | I was similarly disappointed, because this is a nice blogspam
         | about a solution I might be interested in, but is clearly not
         | available yet (and a .US domain makes me think it won't ever be
         | available around my neck of the woods anyway).
        
         | sgarman wrote:
         | Ah yes, because when facebook, netflix, amazon, google, airbnb
         | started we all sat around with our perfect insight and said
         | "These will generate a lot of revenue!"
        
       | Loughla wrote:
       | Wanna bet there is now a rash of interviewers who have
       | 'breakdowns' about a problem in their lives?
        
         | zarmin wrote:
         | "My {extended family member} has been {mildly imposing verb}
         | for {duration} and {frustrated expression}!"
         | 
         | Sign up now for early access to my Udemy course, _Scream Your
         | Way To Funding_
        
           | Loughla wrote:
           | Or sign up for mine, _How to appear authentic and sincere in
           | your interview._
           | 
           | Because it's easier to learn sincerity and fake it than it is
           | to have an idea that you actually believe in and can support.
           | 
           | Does that sound bitter? It's not meant to.
        
             | vmception wrote:
             | You can do a lot better with more professional VCs by not
             | having ideas you believe in and can just articulate the gap
             | in the market and how you'll extract value from it and
             | exit. Not gatekeeping VC types here, just saying there are
             | some that are swayed by emotional stories and nobody needs
             | to be.
             | 
             | The analogy I use is an expedition to the new world. Get
             | funding from the Queen, get the ships and crew, sail to the
             | new world, get the gold, come back, distribute profits and
             | disband.
             | 
             | Really there is no need to pretend to get married, or
             | actually get married, to a business line.
             | 
             | I would be immediately suspect of all the founders that
             | cannot compartmentalize the idea. Save the "passion" for
             | all the employees you need to gaslight into accepting lower
             | compensation.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | vincentmarle wrote:
         | Well, it didn't got him funded so not sure what the lesson is
         | here.
        
           | prawn wrote:
           | And the Giya site is still email-for-launch-notice mode two
           | years later. So maybe it wasn't an itch that got scratched.
           | 
           | If the niece was an instigator for the idea, I assumed the
           | author would have created the product and tested it with the
           | niece? If they've shown no interest and stayed in their room,
           | maybe it's not a great idea?
        
           | Loughla wrote:
           | The problem with your statement is that it doesn't account
           | for magical thinking.
           | 
           | Rational thinking: my pitch wasn't great, but I at least
           | connected with the personal problem side of my message. My
           | idea needs work, or my use-case needs attention.
           | 
           | Magical thinking: If I had made that outburst early enough to
           | change the tone, I could have made a better impact with my
           | message. If my pitch starts to go south, just have a
           | breakdown to shift the focus from that to my personal story.
        
         | TameAntelope wrote:
         | I doubt enough people will read this for that to happen.
         | 
         | I think what's important is not the breakdown, but the
         | demonstration of pain. You can probably recreate this genuinely
         | by focusing on the specific who and what around your customer.
         | Who are they (in his case himself/his sister), why are they in
         | pain (reconnecting with his sister/her brother), and I guess
         | you probably need _a_ way to turn that pain into a gain, but it
         | sounds like that last part is something you iterate on, so it
         | 's not as big of a deal.
         | 
         | You don't have to shout at VCs to be interesting to them, but
         | shouting at VCs is a way to show VCs both the who and the what
         | of pain, which they find interesting.
        
       | Douger wrote:
       | I think what I find amusing is the author essentially outlined an
       | argument for Sinek's Start with Why premise.
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4ZoJKF_VuA
       | 
       | Albeit it sounds like you don't get to shape the questions you're
       | asked. But I'm willing to bet you can bend your answers towards
       | the specific pain point that prompted them to start this project
       | (their niece). Then go on to what you're app does, then the TAM.
       | 
       | And this is coming from someone who isn't a huge fan of Sinek
       | either..
       | 
       | *Edit - I'm curious from those who've been through YC if my idea
       | about bending your answers actually has any merit in your
       | experience?
        
       | nootropicat wrote:
       | What I get from this is that the idea was shit and after he
       | snapped he was comforted like a baby, which made him feel better
       | about being rejected.
        
       | avmich wrote:
       | PG is so right. We're drowning in problems; just take something
       | around, see how bad it is, and make it better.
       | 
       | Maybe you'll get all the problems those before you had. Maybe.
       | But at least the high pain is here, and attempting to deal with
       | it will get you started.
        
       | leesec wrote:
       | No idea why you would write this up or share it honestly. Call me
       | old fashion but I wouldn't want to do business with someone who
       | scream irrationally as loud as they can in response to simple
       | questions or during business meetings. Especially since the
       | outcome didn't lead to anything, just was 'something different'.
       | Truly what is the message here?
        
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         | mwseibel wrote:
         | Honestly being in the room I didn't feel screamed at. I felt
         | like we finally got to the real reason why he was passionate
         | about this problem/company. We just had a wade through all the
         | "pitch stuff". I still think he ID'd a huge widespread problem
         | that we still need a solution for.
        
           | leesec wrote:
           | That's fair, thanks for your clarification then.
        
         | cole-k wrote:
         | The message is written at the end of the post:
         | 
         | > The lesson that I walked away with was to listen to that
         | pain, no matter how irrational it may seem in the moment...
         | I've been learning to listen and to trust my emotions in less
         | desperate situations in the years since the YC interview.
         | 
         | I do not think the author is claiming you should shout about
         | your niece in a YC interview. They told a pretty interesting
         | anecdote and gave the insight they gained from it.
         | 
         | Not to be rude but your comment seems kind of like it should
         | just be a downvote (or I suppose a withheld upvote).
        
           | cheschire wrote:
           | I tend to find when someone starts a sentence with "not to be
           | rude" or "with all due respect" or "I don't disagree", this
           | person's subconscious is telling them "hey don't say this
           | thing you're about to say because..."
           | 
           | And then the person just tells their subconscious to take a
           | back seat and prefaces their statement with a dismissive
           | phrase.
        
         | ssivark wrote:
         | My takeaway, more than anything else -- as someone who has
         | never interacted with Michael Seibel -- is immense
         | respect/admiration for how well he handled it -- staying
         | focused on the true goal (understanding the pitch) and in the
         | process coaxing out something even the entrepreneur couldn't
         | easily vocalize, and along the way gracefully de-escalating the
         | situation.
         | 
         | There are a lot of ways the situation could have ended up with
         | negative value for everyone involved, and it took a bit of
         | skillful steering to turn it into something valuable. That
         | level of emotional composure seems worth developing.
        
         | exolymph wrote:
         | If you don't want to do business with people who are weird and
         | erratic, you're probably not going to be great at seed
         | investing.
        
       | whiddershins wrote:
       | The outburst wasn't the good part.
       | 
       | The clarification of pain point was the good part.
        
         | rdmt wrote:
         | Agreed.
         | 
         | Getting the interviewer to be _attentive_ is already a given
         | since you've earned the timeslot. Getting them _alarmed_ is
         | what happened here. Showcasing a fighting spirit to stir up
         | some emotional investment.
         | 
         | Though I doubt airing out even the perfect greivance there
         | would've been enough to flip the decision. The growth story
         | just doesn't seem to track.
         | 
         | Also helps that the frustration was aimed at a personal matter
         | instead of directly at someone in the room.
        
       | tmilard wrote:
       | Yeap. Deep burst of personal explanation is rare, and we hide it.
       | -How can my untested thought can be better than the leadings
       | explanations on the subject?
       | 
       | In our work, when we explains things, even When my brother does
       | his YouTube family video... we always follow "today's" way of
       | doing things. It does feel ok, but it taste like deja-vue.
       | 
       | I find it so more captivating when suddenly a unik-and-personal
       | approach steals the show.
       | 
       | Even if the personal approach can be wrong or ridiculous, it
       | feels always very fresh, compare to the me-too explanation.
       | 
       | It's sharp, it's bare bone, it's naked, it's trurth.
       | 
       | It's worth
        
       | paxys wrote:
       | Nice story, but I think people here have the wrong takeaways from
       | it. Having an outburst or sharing personal anecdotes isn't going
       | to help you in an investor pitch. Had it happened earlier in
       | their YC interview things wouldn't have gone any different, as
       | they make it seem. The fundamental questions and doubts would
       | have all been the same.
       | 
       | If you don't have solid differentiators, growth charts, revenue
       | models a touching story will not help your startup.
        
         | dustingetz wrote:
         | au contraire, storytelling (and an easy to understand story) is
         | all that matters in 2021 seed climate. "vibe is the new
         | diligence"
        
         | tibbar wrote:
         | Yes, the author is basically saying that they felt unnoticed
         | and were not receiving enough attention from the VC. Becoming
         | very emotional did capture their raw attention, but in a way
         | that was probably irrelevant to their goals.
        
           | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
           | This is a clear misreading of what is written in TFA.
           | 
           | They had lots of attention from the VC, but all the VC did
           | was shoot down their idea(s). The emotional outburst changed
           | the mood in the room, and they got a different kind of
           | response from the VC.
        
             | ALittleLight wrote:
             | I read it as, at first, they had a mundane take on a
             | problem and a mundane solution. Millennials want
             | experiences so we can <do whatever>. Then, the outburst
             | revealed they actually had a more insightful take on the
             | problem, the specific example of difficulty relating to the
             | author's niece. However, they still didn't have insight
             | into the solution.
             | 
             | My takeaway is something like it's better to drive from the
             | clearest articulation of the problem to the solution,
             | rather than divert into business-speak and make yourself
             | sound cookie cutter. e.g. "I couldn't connect with my
             | niece. It was isolating. Many millenials feel isolated this
             | way. We solved the problem with my niece by doing X. X can
             | scale to other millienials" is a better type of pitch.
        
             | tibbar wrote:
             | Hmm, I think the article shows - to say it another way - a
             | desire for validation from the VC, to be taken seriously.
             | Which is of course a natural thing to want. Instead the VC
             | was casually shooting down their idea. So they wanted a
             | different kind of attention, and acknowledgement that they
             | were different and remarkable (the article is actually
             | pretty clear on this point). They wanted to be remembered,
             | and, well, perhaps they were.
        
             | mdorazio wrote:
             | I don't think yours is a good reading, either. They had
             | already gotten all the negative feedback so there wasn't
             | much of that left to get. The outburst also didn't change
             | the primary outcome (no funding). All it did was open the
             | door to a different set of questions and a potential
             | advisor (in my opinion not very helpful in this case).
             | We're also relying on the OP to tell us the mood was better
             | when in fact it could have easily been a pity party to the
             | other people there.
        
               | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
               | That's a pretty fair reading. I missed out the "wasn't
               | much left to get" part, although mostly because they
               | didn't actually get much more even with the outburst.
        
               | indigochill wrote:
               | The key point is had the outburst not happened, the
               | author would not have received the insight that "the best
               | ideas address problems with high pain thresholds."
               | 
               | By revealing his pain, he learned the lesson which has
               | apparently since served him well. The rest, including the
               | mood, is just background.
               | 
               | In other words, if you're weighing two opportunities, one
               | which addresses a minor annoyance or vague concern ("oh
               | no, millenials are withdrawn") and another which fills an
               | agonizing void ("why can't I connect with my niece?"), go
               | with the second one.
        
             | IgorPartola wrote:
             | Correct. And after getting that attention they didn't get
             | funded. Because Michael was likely right and the world
             | doesn't need yet another urban exploration app. It seems to
             | me that this creates a fun blog post and some long term
             | personal growth but shouting about your niece doesn't seem
             | like the winning strategy when it comes to VC funding.
        
         | phgn wrote:
         | They should have understood their core ambition / pain point
         | themselves earlier, and structured the product and strategy
         | based on it. If many people clearly have this problem and it
         | has not been addressed, that's their differentiator.
         | 
         | Though I'm glad they did finally figure it out, I think the
         | lesson is to really reflect on your goals before pitching
         | anything.
        
         | 71a54xd wrote:
         | I had a previous co-founder have an outburst like this and I
         | immediately cut all ties. It was one of the most astonishing
         | un-professional things I'd ever experienced. It also hurt
         | deeply because I'd largely considered this person to be my
         | friend, until they started sending me threatening texts filled
         | with vitriolic threats basically that things hadn't worked out.
         | I believe mental health problems may have been the root of
         | this, but it was a really bizarre experience.
         | 
         | I took a break from doing startup anything for about a year
         | after that happened - I still have trust issues as a result of
         | this experience. For anyone who thinks "radical honesty" or BS
         | like that is effective in life or business, you're just going
         | to look like an immature asshole or someone with serious mental
         | issues.
        
         | oefrha wrote:
         | Yeah, exactly ten years ago I heard a story from the founder of
         | an urban exploration startup (yep) that was about a hundred
         | times more touching and inspiring than this niece story. It was
         | like best story of the year for me. The startup? Failed after
         | two years.
        
       | nusaru wrote:
       | Is it just me or is monospace text unpleasant to read? Obviously
       | that's not the case when I'm writing code, so maybe I'm not used
       | to reading normal prose in mono typeface?
        
       | ChicagoBoy11 wrote:
       | What is telling about this example is that what seemed to have
       | made the biggest impression was the least rehearsed, thought out,
       | planned answer he could give, but rather the one that was the
       | most sincere and most "down to earth."
       | 
       | I think there is so much about the YC format which really hints
       | at that strategy likely being your best route of success -- the
       | time constraint, the lack of pitch deck, etc. I mean, these are
       | people who quite literally go through thousands of these. I can't
       | really see any other way to possibly stand out than to try to be
       | radically genuine and sincere, even when that seems (as the
       | author seemed to have thought!) that it is the "less fancy" or
       | "not the thing you are supposed to say." Quite literally anything
       | else will be something they will have heard, at a minimum, dozens
       | of other times.
        
         | joeberon wrote:
         | > I can't really see any other way to possibly stand out than
         | to try to be radically genuine and sincere
         | 
         | You could have a unique idea that isn't shit. If you can't have
         | a unique idea that isn't shit, you shouldn't be a startup
         | founder in the first place.
        
           | RNCTX wrote:
           | > If you can't have a unique idea that isn't shit, you
           | shouldn't be a startup founder in the first place.
           | 
           | A taxi service available via a phone is not a unique idea,
           | and it loses millions every single day (Uber).
           | 
           | A company that trades in government issued tax credits for
           | not-pollution is not a unique idea, the Reagan administration
           | invented it (Tesla)
           | 
           | A database sold to end users is not a unique idea, IBM did it
           | in the 1960s (Oracle)
           | 
           | This list could go on ad-infinitum.
        
             | mdorazio wrote:
             | You've grossly mischaracterized every single one of these.
        
           | phillc73 wrote:
           | I don't think a unique idea is necessarily required for a
           | startup. It could be instead that you've identified an under
           | serviced market niche. This could still be a very good
           | startup idea.
        
             | joeberon wrote:
             | True, but your idea has to at least be good or relevant,
             | which OP's unfortunately wasn't. It doesn't take some weird
             | emotional outburst to stand out, it takes having an
             | actually good idea. Of course you need to convince them
             | it's a good idea, but again you don't need an emotional
             | outburst for that, if it's an actually good idea it should
             | not be difficult.
        
               | Nevermark wrote:
               | In this case the emotional outburst suggested the founder
               | might be in such close contact with the problem that he
               | might find better solutions, and will likely recognize
               | many non-solutions before wasting time on them.
               | 
               | At least that is a takeaway I would have.
               | 
               | It is not everything a VC might want to hear, but it is a
               | positive.
        
               | joeberon wrote:
               | Why would the emotional outburst suggest that when he's
               | already spent so much time on something the YC
               | interviewer considered a non-solution?
        
               | fakedang wrote:
               | You can spend so much time on something, yet it wouldn't
               | tell a YC interviewer that it's a problem you're intent
               | to solve.
               | 
               | Case in point, my YC idea. I spent loads of my free time
               | on building a MVP, got praise for it, but I did not have
               | a burning passion to solve that problem, or even any
               | desire that I wanted to be in that space long term.
        
           | paxys wrote:
           | What startup has a truly unique idea? Doing the same thing a
           | hundred other companies are doing and being slightly better
           | and luckier is how most of them got successful.
        
         | mwseibel wrote:
         | You nailed it.
        
           | ChicagoBoy11 wrote:
           | Wait does this mean I get to interview for YC? /s
           | 
           | Not a founder, but a fan of y'alls work :-)
        
         | cardosof wrote:
         | It seems to me they're not evaluating the pair {problem,
         | solution}, they're evaluating the pair {problem, founder} - the
         | solution may be changed and tweaked and not be special but the
         | founder has to be special, and carefully designed charts with
         | pretty numbers don't explain a founder, emotional speeches do.
        
           | naasking wrote:
           | > It seems to me they're not evaluating the pair {problem,
           | solution}, they're evaluating the pair {problem, founder}
           | 
           | I think that's a good insight. "Plans never survive contact
           | with the enemy", and so solutions are constantly changing as
           | a startup explores the problem space. Perhaps what VCs are
           | actually looking for is:
           | 
           | 1. The founder identified a problem that actually exists.
           | 
           | 2. The problem actually has a solution that can be monetized,
           | in theory.
           | 
           | 3. They have confidence that the founder can hone in on a
           | viable solution that can be monetized.
           | 
           | The pitch doesn't have to be _the_ solution, it only has to
           | show that a financially viable path to a solution plausibly
           | exists, and that the founder seems competent enough to find
           | the way towards a financially viable outcome. If even one of
           | the above requirements isn 't satisfied, investing money
           | doesn't seem sensible.
        
             | dkarp wrote:
             | Or as Mike Tyson put it: Everyone has a plan until they get
             | punched in the mouth
        
               | bobthechef wrote:
               | Or: How do you make God laugh? Tell Him your plans.
        
           | joeberon wrote:
           | How are you inferring that from this blog post? Everything
           | about it seems to be saying "I've heard this solution a
           | million times, and seen a million failures, do you have
           | anything new?"
           | 
           | The answer is to have a solution that has not seen a million
           | failures.
        
             | hn_throwaway_99 wrote:
             | pg has in the past been quite blunt that he sees the
             | quality of the founders as the most important thing,
             | regardless of the solution.
             | 
             | As has repeated time and time again to the point of almost
             | becoming mythology in my opinion, pg has posted about how
             | he originally hated the AirBnB idea but loved the founders.
        
               | joeberon wrote:
               | pg is lying or a moron
        
             | TheOtherHobbes wrote:
             | No, the answer is not to _be_ one of the million failures.
             | 
             | Which apparently means keeping your passion under pressure.
        
             | gerbilly wrote:
             | Because, just like the author of the blog, most of us have
             | trained ourselves not to share these kinds of feelings.
             | 
             | In his pitch the founder conceived/pitched the solution as
             | a veiled way to talk about his real problem.
             | 
             | I see it at my job all the time, we talk about technical
             | problems and their solutions as a way of trying to share
             | our fears, anxieties and feelings.
             | 
             | All the heady technical talk is just a proxy for what we
             | really wish we could say.
             | 
             | I know this because I'm often the only one on the team
             | brave enough to state the subtext openly, and have I often
             | been thanked for that.
             | 
             | Every team needs a therapist, it would seem.
        
               | joeberon wrote:
               | What the fuck are you on about?
        
               | lifeisstillgood wrote:
               | Please. That is quite unwarranted.
               | 
               | I happen to agree with the GP sentiment - business is an
               | _emotional_ endeavour, and treating it as such is a good
               | idea.
        
               | joeberon wrote:
               | I've had enough of these GPT-3 generated spam-looking
               | posts
        
               | gerbilly wrote:
               | Yes, sorry I replied to a different interpretation of
               | your question I guess.
               | 
               | I was trying to say that YC may be looking past the
               | solution to the real underlying issue.
               | 
               | To me this would make sense. We often start out with a
               | problem that bugs us, and then come up with a half baked
               | solution.
               | 
               | Even if the proposed solution isn't valid the founder may
               | have identified a valid problem. In our crowded
               | marketplace, a unique and unmet need is much harder to
               | find than a technical solution.
        
               | Gravityloss wrote:
               | Often, a cigar is not a cigar.
        
               | Marlondu28100 wrote:
               | Bhjjjj
        
               | joeberon wrote:
               | Even more inane and cryptic
        
               | milesvp wrote:
               | > Every team needs a therapist, it would seem.
               | 
               | I have really come to appreciate the need for regular
               | retros on a team. That a team needs a very safe space to
               | explore failures and difficulties. It helps to have
               | someone who can facilitate, but cam be successful
               | without. It should be long enough to feel slighty
               | awkward, so that people have time to articulate thoughts,
               | and there should be no manager for at least half an hour,
               | so that grievances about them can be aired.
               | 
               | I've seen teams really come together and vastly improve
               | with regular safe meetings. I've also seen teams start to
               | fall apart when the retro format changed to make it
               | harder to delve into some of the emotional parts.
        
               | cardosof wrote:
               | This comment is a refreshing take on what real work looks
               | like - thanks for sharing.
        
           | anamax wrote:
           | The evaluation is {solution, founder}.
           | 
           | Problem is, in some sense, irrelevant. You don't make money
           | from the problem.
           | 
           | A good founder makes money from a solution.
        
       | bigbillheck wrote:
       | This article got me wondering what it's like working for that
       | guy. If you're in a meeting and you're telling him things he
       | doesn't want to hear, is something going to set him off and get
       | him screaming at you?
        
         | thesis wrote:
         | For me it was the "fists clenched, looking down, I let out a
         | scream" -- super weird behavior if you ask me.
        
         | rexreed wrote:
         | It certainly seems like we're regressing as a society into
         | increasingly more toddler-like behavior with ranting,
         | infantilizing, treating normal adult behaviors as "adulting"
         | and losing touch. If someone screamed like a toddler in a
         | meeting I was at, I'd be like "ok, this meeting is over. Calm
         | down and collect yourself if you can't communicate like an
         | adult. Otherwise, time out for you."
        
         | micromacrofoot wrote:
         | he's not really screaming at them though, he's frustrated by
         | his own circumstances... I think it would be different if he
         | flew off the handle and told them to fuck off or whatever...
         | emotions get out of hand in stressful situations, that's just
         | part of being human
        
           | Loughla wrote:
           | And part of being a leader is learning to control and channel
           | your emotions, especially during stressful situations. A
           | failure to do that is a failure to lead.
        
             | micromacrofoot wrote:
             | if that's true than most of the industry seems to be lead
             | by failures... this seems like a "no true scotsman" thing
        
         | Taylor_OD wrote:
         | Isnt the goal of a pitch meeting to stand out? He stated that
         | they were not doing well and he knew time was running out. It's
         | do something drastic or be passed on. This doesnt seem
         | indicative of that guys everyday behavior. Plus I've worked for
         | lots of people who do get angry and have outbursts every-time
         | you say something they don't want to hear. It's more concerning
         | if this guy didnt think it was odd for him to yell because it
         | shows he doesnt do it often..
        
           | twic wrote:
           | > He stated that they were not doing well and he knew time
           | was running out. It's do something drastic or be passed on.
           | 
           | The Galileo Seven maneuver.
        
           | rexreed wrote:
           | Being unhinged isn't the best way to communicate a vision.
           | But it sure does show how you can't handle rejection or
           | frustration well.
        
             | Taylor_OD wrote:
             | What you call unhinged another might call passion. Let's
             | not pretend that all founders are perfectly hinged.
        
               | rexreed wrote:
               | No one is pretending anything. Quite a few founders are
               | unhinged. Many are also passionate. The successful few
               | know when to be appropriately passionate instead of
               | irrationally unhinged. I think we're all smart enough to
               | distinguish between the two. Temper tantrums are not
               | exactly the same as passionate, well-reasoned pitches.
        
           | joeberon wrote:
           | The goal of a pitch meeting is to sell your non-shit idea. OP
           | had a shit idea. That's what blocked him. Hence why "standing
           | out" didn't actually get him funded.
        
         | joeberon wrote:
         | Even scarier, a lot of people in this thread seem to think it's
         | a _good thing_.
        
           | dymk wrote:
           | Well, that's because it was the point at which the interview
           | started going well
        
             | noway421 wrote:
             | I really fail to understand why Michael allowed this
             | behaviour. If it got to a point where voice has been
             | raised, there should have been a concern started and
             | security called into place, promptly adjourning the
             | meeting. Who knows where else this would have gone after
             | that?
             | 
             | I wouldn't want to know the fury of a disgruntled Founder
             | looking to revenge for a failed YC interview.
             | 
             | Sometimes it is about professionalism. Even though the
             | founder is feeling passionate about their problem space,
             | there are some boundaries you never cross.
        
         | mehphp wrote:
         | I've had bosses/managers that would lose their cool and yell,
         | and they were by far the worst leaders I've ever worked for.
         | 
         | When an adult can't keep their cool in a professional
         | environment, it's very telling.
        
       | mwseibel wrote:
       | Thank you for posting this. I remember your interview like it was
       | yesterday.
        
         | realty_geek wrote:
         | Wow, my estimation of you had cranked up a fair bit - very nice
         | of you to chip in ;)
        
       | tlb wrote:
       | The outburst insight here seems promising. Gen-X people want
       | real-world activities to do with their millennial relatives that
       | are engaging to both. I'm in that situation myself. I struggle
       | with arranging such activities, and I'd be happy to fork out real
       | money for curated, guided shared experiences that connect with
       | both generations.
       | 
       | The next step would be for the founders to start personally
       | arranging such activities and see what works and which parts are
       | hard.
        
         | phkahler wrote:
         | >> curated, guided shared experiences that connect with both
         | generations.
         | 
         | I hate to say this, but just GTFO the house and go do
         | something. Anything. Do something neither of you have before,
         | explore the world together. Start by going for a walk
         | someplace. If you don't even know what you like how is someone
         | else going to know?
         | 
         | Curated activities are for tourists on vacation.
        
           | what_is_orcas wrote:
           | When I lived in SF, sf.funcheap.com was my go-to for this
           | kind of thing, especially random tinder dates.
           | 
           | Everywhere I've lived since has lacked this sort of resource,
           | and it's made meeting people & getting out and exploring much
           | less newbie-friendly.
           | 
           | Maybe I just need to build the change I want to see in the
           | world...
        
             | istorical wrote:
             | discovering these event discovery websites themselves is
             | one of the challenges.
             | 
             | nyc has theskint, differnet neighborhood specific events
             | listings (bushwickdaily, brokelyn come to mind for me),
             | industry/event category specific listings (like different
             | calendars for music / concerts, calendars for comedy, etc).
             | 
             | one problem is that these event discovery streams are
             | scattered across mediums. for example you might find some
             | nyc events scattered across some promoter's IG account,
             | some that are advertised on TikTok, some on some old
             | fashioned blog style website like those I initially listed
             | above.
             | 
             | aggregators exist as well but they tend to be un-sexy and
             | not likely to find long-tail / niche stuff / cooler more
             | underground stuff.
             | 
             | the solution is often to ask people around you or involved
             | in the space you're interested in how they find out about
             | events. they will then tell you about the mailing list, or
             | the IG account, or the website, or whatever.
             | 
             | of course, smaller cities and towns often don't have as
             | large of 'scenes'. and anywhere you go, it's often more
             | fruitful to just create the scene you want to be a part of.
        
             | whimsicalism wrote:
             | Woah! Thank you so much for sharing that website
        
           | dougmwne wrote:
           | I think about how easy the substitutes for real human
           | connection have become. Want a friend to make you laugh? Turn
           | on Netflix. Want a quick hit of your favorite people? Pull up
           | social media. Want intimacy? Fire up Tinder. This basic idea,
           | that someone can deliver you a nice day around the city like
           | ordering a pizza is maybe not so off base. It may seem like
           | an incredible lack of imagination that people couldn't figure
           | out what to do with a free day and a friend in NYC, but maybe
           | imagination is in short supply these days.
        
             | meigwilym wrote:
             | Yes, I don't think that the answer to too much technology
             | is more technology.
        
           | vidarh wrote:
           | "something" and "someplace" are the problems here.
           | 
           | What will they like? Which places will be interesting?
           | 
           | It's not at all a given that someone with data and
           | information can't give a more informed opinion on what
           | options are available that may be popular with a set of
           | people than those people themselves.
           | 
           | Why should curated activities only be for tourists on
           | vacation?
           | 
           | There are tons of activities people aren't aware are
           | available, or are aware of but don't know whether would be
           | suitable for them, and which they avoid because there's an
           | opportunity cost to making the wrong choice. Exploring that
           | yourself can be fun, but it's also hit and miss.
           | 
           | The biggest problem to me with this idea isn't the idea that
           | they can do _better_ , but that even the founder took an
           | emotionally charged situation to get to the point of
           | verbalising that this was what he wanted. Wanting to help
           | people who aren't necessarily _aware_ that there 's an issue
           | someone could solve for them is tricky.
           | 
           | I live in London. There's stuff to do all over the place. If
           | anything, the challenge is filtering and curating. I'd _love_
           | a site that did it for me. Especially if it could also book
           | things. Heck, I might even pay for personalised
           | recommendations if it could cut the time I spend on choosing.
           | 
           | But I don't think I'm typical.
           | 
           | I suspect a lot of their potential userbase would be really
           | hard to _reach_.
        
             | whimsicalism wrote:
             | I believe Google had a service like this for a bit but it
             | got killed. Don't recall what it is called.
             | 
             | You could book an activity on Airbnb, they offer that. You
             | could go kayaking. You could go apple/pumpkin picking. etc.
             | etc
             | 
             | You just have to think of things.
        
               | vidarh wrote:
               | Yeah, but its thinking of things I'm likely to enjoy that
               | I may not even be aware of are options and researching
               | the options for that activity and which providers are
               | worthwhile that makes it time consuming. Some people
               | enjoy that aspect. I don't.
               | 
               | EDIT: With respect to Airbnb, they're all group
               | activities, which for the most part makes them less
               | interesting to me. I'd like the idea, a map,
               | tickets/bookings if necessary, but for the most part I'd
               | have no interest in guided activities. I get that makes
               | it harder to profit of because you're giving away half
               | the work by telling users about the activity.
        
           | OJFord wrote:
           | A certain sort of tourist on a certain sort of holiday at
           | that.
        
           | saeranv wrote:
           | But most people don't just go out and randomly walk around.
           | And with the exception of high-density cosmopolitan cities,
           | even if you did, you'd just end up in somewhere extremely
           | boring.
           | 
           | One of the more effective ways of knowing where to go, is by
           | talking with friends and collecting, curating that
           | information over time. I don't know if this start-up is
           | capable of replicating that experience - there are tons of
           | urban blogs and the like that claim to do the same that I
           | rarely use - but the problem domain and general solution
           | seems reasonable.
        
           | Taylor_OD wrote:
           | Yeah this is kind of the issue. For some going for a walk and
           | exploring IS the activity. For some, like op, that doesnt
           | seem like its bonding or actually connecting.
           | 
           | It's probably generational and based on how one interacts
           | with others (are most of their friendships online or not).
        
           | coffeepot0 wrote:
           | "something. Anything". Optionality and lack of time to
           | explore options is the issue. There is nothing wrong with
           | taking a suggestion. It's obvious that this removes some
           | possible serendipity but it also removes barriers to making
           | something happen in the first place.
        
         | javajosh wrote:
         | _> The next step would be for the founders to start personally
         | arranging such activities and see what works and which parts
         | are hard._
         | 
         | Yes! If you really believe you have a solution to a problem,
         | then it makes sense to execute that solution in a way that
         | doesn't scale, to verify that, with infinite resources, the
         | solution works, and it feels good. This is a necessary, but not
         | sufficient, condition for what comes next, which is (roughly)
         | about making the production more efficient with technology. If
         | you can maintain the utility of the solution and drive the cost
         | down, there may be profit in those hills!
        
         | Alex3917 wrote:
         | > I struggle with arranging such activities, and I'd be happy
         | to fork out real money for curated, guided shared experiences
         | that connect with both generations.
         | 
         | In the last few months this has actually become a relatively
         | straightforward problem to solve thanks to now having 10x more
         | data on various social activities due to the pandemic.
        
         | devwastaken wrote:
         | I want a gaming community wherein every month an old
         | multiplayer server based game is revived and people compete for
         | prizes. The problem with this is that it requires good
         | connections to the corporate owners of those games, to get
         | permission to ship the .exe with a simple hex edit changing the
         | master server list host. Or even add game modes. The intent
         | being donations for various charities too of course.
         | 
         | There's still an existing community for games like the original
         | PC Red Faction, as crazy as that is. Perfectly fun games, just
         | needs players and some names in game streaming to pick it up.
        
           | jkeuhlen wrote:
           | I've thought about this problem a lot too. In my mind, there
           | is no "Adult rec league for eSports" that exists right now. I
           | can go to my local rec center and sign up for adult soccer,
           | football, volleyball to meet people and play for fun in a
           | lightly competitive environment, but no one has done that for
           | eSports yet.
           | 
           | I like the idea of booting up old games in that format as
           | well.
           | 
           | It's definitely a hard problem, but with the increase in
           | recreation time, especially for creative workers, that we're
           | continuing to see I think it could be a big company.
        
           | coldpie wrote:
           | > The problem with this is that it requires good connections
           | to the corporate owners of those games, to get permission
           | 
           | Does it? There might be some games to avoid from publishers
           | that are still active, but I imagine there's a ton of
           | effectively-abandonware games out there to build your idea
           | upon.
        
             | Loughla wrote:
             | I think that's a chicken and egg problem. The community
             | would exist around games that were/are popular (like Red
             | Faction for example). You can't just shoehorn in any old
             | abandonware game and call it a day for community building.
        
               | coldpie wrote:
               | To be blunt: my suggestion is to ask for forgiveness
               | rather than permission. Most people who technically hold
               | the rights to those older games won't care enough about
               | them to enforce it. If they do, they'll almost certainly
               | start with a C&D which is basically free to respond to.
               | Very little risk. By the time you're large enough for
               | them to care about, you've already succeeded and can ask
               | for permissions properly.
        
               | devwastaken wrote:
               | Maybe, or maybe they particularly consider a hex edit to
               | be an infringement on their image of the product and
               | think it will harm their chances of selling the rights
               | for a remake. Therefore they sue you because they can. If
               | you can't ask for permission, you're not in a place to
               | ask for forgiveness either.
        
         | stopagephobia wrote:
         | I think the bigger problem here is not just that people have
         | trouble finding those experiences but that all the stuff is
         | targeted at young people. We do some serious work on systemic
         | agephobia and shift some of the cultural focus to People of Age
         | if we want generations to connect.
        
           | dymk wrote:
           | "People of age"?
        
             | RNCTX wrote:
             | Yeah, which is itself a form of condescension, lol.
             | 
             | Gonna start calling millennials "people not of value" and
             | call it woke.
        
           | agent008t wrote:
           | Just go for a hike together?
           | 
           | I thought the pandemic showed us all that we don't need to
           | pay anyone money to connect. We could just go for a walk
           | together and talk. If that unnecessary massive part of the
           | economy was to disappear, we would have more free time to
           | connect, too.
        
             | pawelmurias wrote:
             | Just taking a walk and talking with someone with no extra
             | activity for me can be often tiring and not that fun if I
             | don't know the person well. Especially for dates I would
             | rather spend even a fair bit of money to do something super
             | fun rather then hope the conversation goes well.
        
         | mwseibel wrote:
         | I totally agree!
        
       | trhway wrote:
       | >to listen to that pain
       | 
       | With the business problem being at its core "Millenials have too
       | much disposable money and time on their hands, much more than
       | they know what to do with", one really has to put an effort to
       | creatively search for and to listen very carefully to find any
       | pain in that.
        
       | GDC7 wrote:
       | You gotta skate where the puck will be, not where it is or where
       | it was.
       | 
       | Problem is by doing so you may look like a fool if the puck is
       | not there, but you only need this to work 1/10 times or even
       | worse because when it works you basically are in front of the
       | empty net without a goalkeeper and all you have to do is touch
       | the puck to score a goal.
       | 
       | I am deeply convinced that this is the way, people rebut that it
       | leads to subpar outcomes, but they won't proceed to demonstrate
       | why or how.
       | 
       | Even if it leads to subpar outcomes, the outcome is only chased
       | because of the brain juices released when we reach it.
       | 
       | If you go through the world as it was your own creation you don't
       | need positive outcomes at all, you are already in the zone.
        
         | RobertRoberts wrote:
         | Years of experience make some things incredibly obvious where
         | things are going.
         | 
         | My failure to convince others makes it _appear_ like I am
         | skating where the puck is going, when I was simply following it
         | down an obvious path, and no one else was.
         | 
         | But maybe this is common for tech focused people surrounded by
         | non-techies?
        
           | GDC7 wrote:
           | > My failure to convince others makes it _appear_ like I am
           | skating where the puck is going, when I was simply following
           | it down an obvious path, and no one else was.
           | 
           | It's not like there is a difference isn't it? Gretsky
           | probably thought other players were stupid or were poisoned
           | by lead or something.
           | 
           | #1 is the lonliest number, you are at the local top, meaning
           | the local #1
           | 
           | What you are experiencing goes with the territory, you should
           | focus your efforts on hyping yourself up as the individual
           | sitting at the local top, instead of ruminating on the
           | collective organizational goals which are not being reached
           | in the most streamlined and effortless way because other
           | people aren't at your level.
           | 
           | But you can still try to stimulate them to improve like
           | Gretsky himself and Jordan did in their own teams.
        
             | RobertRoberts wrote:
             | But I have been horribly wrong also, so I'm not so inclined
             | to lead boldly. I think Jordan and Gresky had the benefit
             | that their team also thought they knew what was best.
        
               | GDC7 wrote:
               | > But I have been horribly wrong also, so I'm not so
               | inclined to lead boldly
               | 
               | I think Musk spews a lot of BS, but one thing I agree
               | with him is that if you think you have an edge you want
               | to bet frequently because as the high frequency will have
               | your edge manifest itself and you'd end up better/way
               | better than random.
               | 
               | Also yet another important point is that your competitor
               | is not somebody who is Omniscient and gets it right 100%
               | of the times, but people who hold your same role in
               | competing organizations.
               | 
               | So being wrong is not terrible, unfortunately the
               | terrible part is that unlike sports the mistakes of
               | people in your same position in competing organizations
               | are hidden from your collegues and teammates. Hence the
               | grass is always greener, and the comparison immediately
               | skips to the Omniscient being.
               | 
               | That is a huge problem, and I don't know if it will ever
               | be solved given that work is unspectacular and there is
               | not a trail of events and decisions which can be publicly
               | examined.
               | 
               | No such thing as a highlight reel (and even there was,
               | nobody would ever bother looking at it.)
        
         | ThunderGorilla wrote:
         | Was this written by GPT-3?
        
           | joeberon wrote:
           | GDC7 quite consistently posts incomprehensible shit. Honestly
           | a lot of HN regulars have become incomprehensible recently.
        
             | OJFord wrote:
             | GDC7 was created 62 days ago and has two-digit karma, sure
             | you're not thinking of someone else? (Just seems unlikely
             | you'd recognise such a new and not particularly highly up-
             | voted account.)
        
               | joeberon wrote:
               | I've had an inane conversation with them previously.
               | Probably they have two-digit karma as they are downvoted
               | a lot.
        
               | GDC7 wrote:
               | I love you too, Joe!
        
             | Taylor_OD wrote:
             | Got to farm that karma somehow so you can sell thought
             | leader hackernews accounts.
        
               | Danieru wrote:
               | Has there yet been a known case of HN account selling?
               | Digg started with voting brigades but I've yet to hear of
               | even that on HN.
        
               | Loughla wrote:
               | Also, what would be the purpose of selling an HN account?
        
               | Taylor_OD wrote:
               | The same reason you would sell any other social account.
               | You build a profile that seems real, sell it, then the
               | buyer uses that profile to upvote and post comments on
               | their new product release which blows up on HN and
               | generates much more interest and potential revenue than
               | it would otherwise.
               | 
               | I don't have proof that it is happening but it happens on
               | every other social site so it would be shocking if it
               | isnt happening here.
        
         | pram wrote:
         | Agreed, entrepreneurs these days severely undervalue the
         | benefits of releasing brain juice
        
         | erklik wrote:
         | I read this. I then re-read it because I was thinking that
         | maybe I just missed something or didn't understand the analogy
         | since I am not a hockey fan (pucks are for ice-hockey, right?).
         | 
         | I then re-read it once more. I am now convinced that this
         | doesn't mean anything. It's a vomit of words. Someone please
         | help explain this to me.
        
       | kjrose wrote:
       | This has been my experience with so many entrepreneurs. They have
       | these visions that are planned and structured and overly though
       | out that they miss the primary pain point their business is
       | trying to solve and lack the ability to pivot because they have
       | overly planned everything out.
       | 
       | I have gone out with entrepreneur clients and after a few drinks
       | I suddenly have clarity as to why they really are trying to build
       | their app/product/etc and that always changes everything. I sorta
       | wish people would be more honest like this more often.
        
         | geophile wrote:
         | I hear what you're saying, but I think you've drawn the wrong
         | conclusion, from OPs story, and your experience having drinks
         | with clients.
         | 
         | OP blew up in his interview and got to the truth. But really,
         | what he shouted when out of control wasn't that different from
         | the story that he started with. Imagine that he started with
         | that honest story. It would have been part of his elevator
         | pitch, and part of his deck, and he would have given that same
         | speech a few hundred times, and all the color and passion would
         | have long since evaporated.
         | 
         | The conclusion that I draw is that you get to the truth by
         | getting someone to switch off autopilot. And that can be done
         | by provoking an emotional reaction (not that that's what the YC
         | guy was intending to do, I'm guessing), or by loosening up
         | through the application of a little alcohol.
        
           | kjrose wrote:
           | It's what I meant. The stop trying to overly polish something
           | and just be honest with your goals. Turn off the "salesman
           | autopilot" so to speak.
        
         | chana_masala wrote:
         | > I sorta wish people would be more honest like this more
         | often.
         | 
         | I don't believe that the majority are being intentionally
         | dishonest
        
           | skeeter2020 wrote:
           | I think everyone appreciates and responds better to a genuine
           | human interaction, even if they don't realize it.
           | 
           | The first things I look for when I'm evaluating someone in
           | almost any context are:
           | 
           | * stand for something, anything
           | 
           | * show me some passion and where you find joy or, conversely
           | what makes you sad.
           | 
           | * tell me what you don't do/support/optimize. Negative space
        
           | k1rcher wrote:
           | It is that inherent human tendency and bias that limits one's
           | worldview, a concept I have grappled with and am still
           | learning to manage every week that goes by.
           | 
           | We as humans are all victims to it and we (at least most of
           | us here on HN) recognize the patterns and the innateness
           | within our own selves.
           | 
           | Hopefully as a society we can begin moving forwards to a
           | point in which we are taught from a very young age to
           | recognize these biases and unintentional and/or subconscious
           | behaviors of ours that may be counterproductive to our own
           | individual goals and efforts.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | drdeadringer wrote:
         | So "Keep It Simple, Stupid" is forgotten for whatever reason?
        
         | Ozzie_osman wrote:
         | Entrepreneurs can get better at story-telling.
         | 
         | But frankly, fundraising is so formal that it makes it really
         | hard to try. You get a 30m (maybe 60 if you're lucky) slot with
         | an investor and a pitch deck. The investor may decide to lead
         | the meeting themselves and just ask any question that comes to
         | mind (most questions are objections disguised as questions...
         | Sometimes not really disguised at all) or they may just stay
         | quiet and let you do the old pitch monolog.
         | 
         | In any case, it's really stressful especially for first time
         | entrepreneurs and especially if you're introverted and not the
         | witty think-on-your-feet type.
         | 
         | The good news is with time and practice you can get better at
         | it. But generally it is soul-crushing work, at least until you
         | find one investor who "gets" it.. And usually you only need
         | one!
        
           | vlovich123 wrote:
           | As an entrepreneur, what would you like from your investor in
           | that initial pitch meeting?
        
             | jacobr1 wrote:
             | Ideally you want to know what boxes you need to tick to get
             | the check. Do they already like the product, and just want
             | to vet the founders. Do they not understand the problem? Do
             | they get the product, but question its ability to scale?
             | 
             | Basically what is the current set of things they require
             | more depth of understanding in order to make their
             | investment decision.
        
             | solumos wrote:
             | A check
        
           | jimbokun wrote:
           | > In any case, it's really stressful especially for first
           | time entrepreneurs and especially if you're introverted and
           | not the witty think-on-your-feet type.
           | 
           | Yes, but maybe it's still a good predictor of which founders
           | will succeed and which won't?
           | 
           | If you can't spontaneously answer probing, challenging
           | questions from customers, employees, vendors, and yes
           | investors, will you do a good job running and growing a
           | successful company?
        
             | lazide wrote:
             | Many do, by eventually finding and hiring the right person.
             | 
             | There are a lot of confounding variables and luck involved.
             | I've met some frankly terribly antisocial founders that
             | happened to get the perfect niche, I've met some that
             | worked their asses off and were doing everything right but
             | still failed due to terrible timing and a market crash, and
             | everything in between.
        
         | adriand wrote:
         | I wonder how much of this has to do with the medium of
         | communication. People often have wonderful clarity when
         | speaking but then muddle things up horribly when they
         | write/create decks/etc.
         | 
         | I previously worked with a very smart and capable woman who was
         | in charge of a client-facing department at an agency I was part
         | of. She would ask me to review a presentation she had put
         | together (often sales-focused, but not always), and I'd go
         | through and at the end I'd often find myself saying, "You know,
         | I'm finding this is (muddled | too much information | unclear).
         | What exactly are you trying to say?"
         | 
         | And then she'd give me a succinct, spoken paragraph that
         | completely nailed it. And I would say, "Okay, write that down
         | and present _that_! "
         | 
         | I thought about this a fair bit because it was such an
         | effective approach. It bears noting that, AFAIK, different
         | parts of the brain are used for written communication as
         | opposed to spoken communication. For instance it is possible to
         | acquire a brain injury that prevents speech but not writing or
         | vice versa. So although I think part of this issue is
         | psychological (people get less clear, e.g. unnecessarily formal
         | or stilted, when writing), I think another part of it has to do
         | with the way people think.
         | 
         | I think a good technique that helps with this is having someone
         | verbally ask you pointed questions ("what does this do?", "why
         | should I care?", "how is it different?") while being recorded,
         | and then take your spoken answers and use those in your written
         | materials.
        
           | dr_dshiv wrote:
           | Totally. Speaking is so easy for me, writing is a bloody
           | challenge. I think it has to do with interaction resonance
           | with another person, too, not just the medium.
        
             | jamiek88 wrote:
             | Opposite for me. I often wish I could end verbal meetings
             | and send a note instead.
        
           | boringg wrote:
           | I feel while decks are terrible they force whoever said
           | intelligent individual to sit down and try and package all
           | their thoughts into a cohesive narrative. If they can't do
           | that, then they have a seriously problem ahead of themselves
           | getting capital and people to come work for them.
           | 
           | Alternatively - if they can't do that as they are really good
           | speakers, they need to find someone who can translate their
           | in-cohesiveness into something digestible for other people.
           | This skillset is very rare and I would argue is super
           | important in the early days alongside building effective
           | product/executing/product fit.
        
             | jacobr1 wrote:
             | I often find the confusions comes from not clearly
             | understanding what is being communicated, and what you
             | think the other side expects. The slide deck format, is
             | often build from top-down hierarchy. Slides for areas A, B,
             | C. When really you might have a narrative where you want to
             | convey the material from C, with A & B as footnotes. Are
             | you telling a story or writing the table of contents for
             | textbook?
        
         | dcuthbertson wrote:
         | I wonder if that happens because an entrepreneur may be caught
         | up in a feeling of what needs to be done, but has yet to
         | clearly articulate the pain/joy/humor driving the work. It
         | wasn't until the OP really pushed himself that he articulated
         | the pain-point his startup was trying to solve.
         | 
         | [Edited for grammar]
        
       | jimhi wrote:
       | The best response to an investor who absolutely dislikes your
       | company idea is to talk about your real users and why they use
       | you. It sounds like you were saying a bunch of hypotheticals (not
       | convincing) until you finally gave your family as a use case.
        
         | mritchie712 wrote:
         | They probably didn't have users, looks like the thing still
         | isn't really launched and this interview was two years ago.
        
         | whymauri wrote:
         | basically, get to the point of how you can make them money. if
         | you can't clearly make an argument for that, you've ended up in
         | the room too early.
        
       | beaconstudios wrote:
       | "I wish there was an app to help me connect to my niece" is a
       | really fucking weird vibe. Not every problem you have can or
       | should be solved with a piece of software.
        
         | RandallBrown wrote:
         | That's not what they said.
         | 
         | They want a place to go and connect with their niece and their
         | app is supposed to help you find that place.
        
           | beaconstudios wrote:
           | Yeah I know that's what they said, to which my response would
           | be: "Just talk to her, ask her what she's into. Failing that,
           | pick a social thing that people do like mini-golf or a
           | Starbucks or a restaurant, and invite her to do that".
           | 
           | The pain point of "I can't connect with my niece" is not
           | solved with "I need an app to recommend social venues I can
           | invite her to". That's just not the problem you're trying to
           | solve - but it is a bullshit yarn you can spin to try to
           | pitch yet another local venue discovery app.
        
             | inerte wrote:
             | Chiming in to say it might also be the thinking that
             | quality is more important than quantity in social
             | relationships - true to point, but when your quantity is
             | zero, ANY interaction has quality. Just knock on her door
             | and go out for a coffee, almost any random thing would
             | work. Not even out of 0 and freaking out to achieve the
             | local maxima.
        
             | marklubi wrote:
             | Except that sometimes talking with someone doesn't yield
             | any results aside from "I dunno", "whatever", etc.
             | 
             | They're looking for the piece that says "here's an
             | attractive idea" that gets that someone involved.
             | 
             | Sometimes I have a similar issue with my son. It's usually
             | as simple as saying "here's what we're doing this weekend"
             | as opposed to getting the brick wall response to "what do
             | you want to do this weekend?" of "I dunno."
             | 
             | There are tons of different websites that offer "Things to
             | do in ____" but most of them are so spammy. Something that
             | was personalized based on your preferences/interests, or
             | based on a group of people's preferences, would open up a
             | lot of doors.
        
               | andrewzah wrote:
               | This is not a technical problem. If anything, what you
               | would really need is a seminar or paid course to teach
               | people how to interact with other humans instead of
               | trying to rely on some app... Some people really don't
               | know how to just talk to other people and express their
               | feelings / figure out plans. No app is ever going to
               | solve that.
               | 
               | Perhaps there's value in a business of "teaching humans
               | how to human".
        
               | Loughla wrote:
               | >Perhaps there's value in a business of "teaching humans
               | how to human".
               | 
               | If you hire people, the answer here is yes. My experience
               | is that technical skills are 'easy' to teach, but
               | interpersonal skills are almost impossible.
               | 
               | If you figure out how to train people from a wide swath
               | of humanity, different backgrounds, and disparate
               | experiences to be human people and communicate
               | effectively and efficiently, you'll literally, not
               | figuratively, be the king of the planet.
        
         | wombatmobile wrote:
         | > "I wish there was an app to help me connect to my niece" is a
         | really fucking weird vibe.
         | 
         | It's not so weird. Facebook is essentially the same folly.
         | 
         | Perhaps you meant sad.
        
           | beaconstudios wrote:
           | I feel like Facebook used correctly is more like social
           | broadcasting, updating your entire social circle on your
           | goings-on, alongside messenger and WhatsApp for one-to-one
           | constant contact. Of course, Facebook used wrong is a similar
           | weird vibe when you pretend you have friends because you
           | constantly "like" the statuses of people you used to be close
           | with.
        
         | noway421 wrote:
         | This is a similar feeling I got while reading the story.
         | 
         | > Well I thought that we'd spend a lot of time doing things
         | together but that's not how it turned out. She's always in her
         | room, and I'm always at work or doing my own thing.
         | 
         | Maybe she just doesn't enjoy his company anymore? People's
         | relationships fall apart, and not much can be done. Maybe they
         | are at different stages in their lives, and there's not much of
         | a connection and need in each other anymore.
         | 
         | ---
         | 
         | There's another comment up the chain, I thought of replying to
         | it but deemed too off-topic. Why would Gen-Xers and Millennials
         | would want to connect with each other in a social setting? I
         | get the mentorship/work related networking/etc part, but other
         | than that, why would those 2 groups talk to each other if they
         | are not relatives?
         | 
         | Even being just a few years apart with your friends can be
         | weird.
         | 
         | Sometimes it's better not to connect to each other.
        
       | keithwhor wrote:
       | The armchair quarterbacking in this thread is ridiculous. This
       | was a great, and really human, take on pitching that 99.99% of
       | founders miss. Pitching VCs (or YC) is only ostensibly about
       | raising financing. Pitching is about refining your idea,
       | identifying problem / solution pairs and subsets (or supersets!)
       | of your primary pitch you haven't considered, building
       | relationships and a whole lot more.
       | 
       | That fact that Michael Seibel is responding to folks in this
       | thread who are doing the quarterbacking speaks _volumes_ to the
       | success of this founder 's pitch in spite of not receiving an
       | invitation to YC this go-around. First, a rejection today is not
       | a rejection tomorrow. Second, Michael is a busy guy. The fact
       | he's taking the time to speak up for a founder he feels a
       | connection with is perhaps worth more long-term than a single YC
       | acceptance letter. There are YC-backed founders that never get
       | that level of attention.
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | dhanvantharim1 wrote:
       | what impresses me about this situation is how Siebel was trying
       | to get the crux of the problem and not just the sales spiel.
        
       | gnramires wrote:
       | There's a famous passage in Dostoyevsky's Brother's Karamazov:
       | "It is pain that teaches to scream" (can't find the exact quote)
       | -- manifesting your pain is important most times. Just make sure
       | to manifest and communicate it in a good way!
        
       | andi999 wrote:
       | So what happened to the product?
        
       | Clubber wrote:
       | It sucks being forced to place your dreams in someone else's
       | hands.
        
         | recursive wrote:
         | I don't think anyone is forced to do that. Put another way,
         | maybe people should consider other dreams.
        
       | axiosgunnar wrote:
       | Did he literally scream? At the floor?
        
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