[HN Gopher] Child suicides in Japan hit record high
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       Child suicides in Japan hit record high
        
       Author : Markoff
       Score  : 214 points
       Date   : 2021-10-14 08:52 UTC (14 hours ago)
        
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       | taurath wrote:
       | People are really grasping for meaning and a sense of belonging
       | nowadays in this phase of global capitalism. We could do so much
       | better at helping people find a calling rather than hoping
       | capitalist business owners provide them.
        
       | djmips wrote:
       | I don't know if I've ever seen a sadder headline...
        
       | skhr0680 wrote:
       | It's sad but I'm not surprised. Senior high school is widely
       | viewed as the best years of ones life in Japan, and kids who
       | started in 2020 have had to live with senior high school (minus
       | the fun parts) for 1.5/3 years.
        
       | new299 wrote:
       | The best numbers I could find for the US were these:
       | 
       | https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/suicide
       | 
       | Which looks like 5 per 100000 for 10 to 14 year olds?
       | 
       | The Japanese population in this age range is ~5M:
       | 
       | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_Japan
       | 
       | So at the US rate we'd except ~250 suicides in Japan if the rate
       | was the same as the US.
       | 
       | Over the 12 to 15 range in Japan the article states there were
       | 103 suicides.
       | 
       | The rates seem roughly comparable therefore?
       | 
       | It terrible that this is increasing, but it would be interesting
       | to understand if this is unique to Japan or not.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | Tade0 wrote:
         | > It terrible that this is increasing, but it would be
         | interesting to understand if this is unique to Japan or not.
         | 
         | Unfortunately not. The suicide capital of the world (including
         | teenagers) is currently South Korea:
         | 
         | http://www.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20190501000216
         | 
         | which has the highest suicide rate among countries with a
         | population of more than 5mln:
         | 
         | https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/suicide-r...
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | murph-almighty wrote:
           | Maybe a total coincidence that I read this morbid news on
           | South Korea while I've started watching Squid Game, but
           | watching a show that's effectively an allegory of capitalist
           | decline in South Korea makes this news not surprising.
        
             | staysafeanon wrote:
             | >capitalist decline in South Korea makes this news not
             | surprising.
             | 
             | South Korea is on a capitalist upswing, not decline. People
             | forget that South Korea was worse off than most of Africa
             | after the Korean War. Capitalism and democracy is what
             | saved them.
             | 
             | Look at their brother to the North if you want to see a
             | real decline.
        
               | novok wrote:
               | There is a big cultural meme in Korea about how life is
               | extremely competitive & hard compared to what it should
               | be. I definitely saw what was being referred to about
               | Korea in squid game.
        
               | taurath wrote:
               | Perhaps, though you would be wrong about the state of
               | things - Korea had a fairly big manufacturing base when
               | taken over by Japan, so in a way they had more
               | infrastructure already built that just needed to be
               | repaired or upgraded.
               | 
               | Source:
               | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korea_under_Japanese_rule
               | 
               | "Capitalism" being called as a reason for success sort of
               | also implies that there is something strong and special
               | about Koreans in that they can make it work, where there
               | are countless other examples of capitalistic societies
               | leading to massive corruption - and indeed Korea has
               | massive megacorps owned by just a few families that are
               | de facto governments in themselves.
        
               | TomSwirly wrote:
               | > South Korea is on a capitalist upswing, not decline.
               | 
               | Yes, that's exactly what PP posits as the _cause_ of
               | these suicides.
        
               | femiagbabiaka wrote:
               | things can be good and bad for different reasons at the
               | same time
        
             | [deleted]
        
             | canadianfella wrote:
             | What are you talking about?
        
           | wyager wrote:
           | Elite Overproduction is in full swing in South Korea. The
           | costs of entering the upper class are increasing and the
           | consequences of failing to enter it are getting worse. People
           | are having almost no children because the costs are so high
           | and the experience of being a child is so brutal (16+ hours
           | of schooling a day is common).
           | 
           | I believe it was Malcom Kyeyune who joked that if North Korea
           | nuked Seoul, it would be the best thing to ever happen to
           | young people in South Korea.
           | 
           | The birth rate in South Korea is like 1/4th the birth rate of
           | North Korea.
        
             | watwut wrote:
             | Isn't that issue mostly raising inequality rather then
             | elite overproduction?
        
         | 0des wrote:
         | > The rates seem roughly comparable therefore?
         | 
         | Is this asking a question?
         | 
         | Edit: Today I learned the best course for a non native speaker
         | is to not ask questions.
        
           | SirHound wrote:
           | It's an open offer for someone who understands better to
           | clarify or confirm incase OP has missed something from their
           | calculations.
        
             | 0des wrote:
             | It's confusing when people end what appears to be a
             | declarative statement with a question mark, not sure why
             | I'd get in trouble for asking.
        
               | Gravityloss wrote:
               | I used this process, and came up with the numbers, 140
               | and 250, and they are kind of close in my opinion, though
               | I'm not 100% sure. What do you think?
               | 
               | shortened, becomes:
               | 
               | I used this process, and came up with these numbers, 140
               | and 250, and they are kind of close?
               | 
               | Why you got in trouble: people thought you were
               | criticizing the original comment for hiding a statement
               | to look like a question. (A common underhanded tactic to
               | do and a common criticism - "was that a question?".)
        
               | Hoppetosse wrote:
               | It can also be an artifact of a foreign language. The
               | french interrogatory form can be the same as the
               | declarative. It seems likely in this case, their use of
               | "therefore" is equivalent to the fench "alors" which is
               | often employed to "interrogate a declaration"
        
               | ivanbakel wrote:
               | >not sure why I'd get in trouble for asking.
               | 
               | Both of your comments can be construed as linguistic
               | pedantry. Particularly, saying "it's confusing" rather
               | than e.g. "I find it confusing" is pretty prescriptive -
               | and it just sounds like you're doubling down on your
               | first comment.
               | 
               | If you want to ask a question about a feature of
               | language, it helps to add the context that you're
               | unfamiliar with the language itself. Otherwise, most
               | readers will assume that you're attempting to correct the
               | user you're replying to. Commenting on people's use of
               | language is considered quite rude in most internet
               | communities - not least because of the number of ESL
               | users.
        
               | someotherperson wrote:
               | It's the written equivalent of uptalk[0], I wouldn't say
               | it is uncommon at all. It would only really be confusing
               | the first time you come across it -- like most things.
               | 
               | [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High_rising_terminal
        
               | stan_rogers wrote:
               | Not without an ellipsis it's not.
        
               | SirHound wrote:
               | You're not in trouble?
        
               | some0x80070005 wrote:
               | Generally speaking, this situation does not seem
               | confusing for many native speakers. The question mark
               | indicates uncertainty about the statement instead of
               | asking "<Statement>. Can anyone refute this or provide
               | insight to the original significance?". In this case, the
               | author drew a conclusion about other data which seems to
               | make the original article seem less important or less
               | significant, but instead of declaring it as a fact
               | outright, the author is choosing to mark it with
               | uncertainty instead which will invite a discussion if
               | they are wrong on some aspect of it.
        
               | weberer wrote:
               | I'm a native English speaker and this trend confuses me
               | pretty often. It's not always clear whether the person:
               | 
               | 1. is sincerely asking a question
               | 
               | 2. accidentally hit they question mark key instead of the
               | period
               | 
               | 3. is mimicking the valley girl inflection
               | 
               | It's not that much of a problem here, but it's much more
               | pronounced in places where people rarely use complete
               | sentences to begin with. Such as chat rooms, etc.
        
               | reddit_clone wrote:
               | > is mimicking the valley girl inflection
               | 
               | :-) I was thinking this but couldn't find the right
               | phrase.
               | 
               | It could also be expressing uncertainty. You want to make
               | an assertion but not 100% sure you are right. A question
               | mark at the end expresses some self doubt and leaves it
               | open to correction. I use '?' that way quite often.
        
               | 0des wrote:
               | > this situation does not seem confusing for many native
               | speakers
               | 
               | English was not my first language, and this peculiar
               | phrasing confused me. Asking for clarity seems like a
               | natural thing to do in this situation.
        
               | eof wrote:
               | Everything about this exchange seems fine to me. You
               | asked a clarifying question about an "advanced" usage of
               | the question mark, and you were answered with a neutral
               | description of what's going on.
        
               | hutzlibu wrote:
               | It is, but it came of as criticism to me, because using
               | the question mark this way is quite common here on HN and
               | elsewhere.
        
               | 0des wrote:
               | I apologize heartily for offending you, that is not my
               | intent.
        
               | hutzlibu wrote:
               | You did not offend me(with the first post) and I did not
               | downvote you. I just explained, why you received negative
               | feedback - basically missunderstanding. But talking about
               | missunderstanding: I understand your last comment as
               | snarky, unwarranted sarcasm. This I would downvote.
        
               | necovek wrote:
               | FWIW, does not read sarcastic from the sidelines.
               | 
               | And as mentioned elsewhere, the entire thread seems like
               | a good natured discussion: perhaps it felt different
               | without the original "edit".
        
               | Freak_NL wrote:
               | It seems to be a rather recent phenomenon here on HN
               | (broadly speaking) and for me it falls pretty much in the
               | same category as other overly familiar and rude language
               | patterns such as 'AF' (short for 'as fuck') or 'tho',
               | 'cuz', or 'w/' instead of 'though', 'because', or 'with'.
               | 
               | There is a rudeness in making it one of these faux-
               | questions filled with implications instead of clearly
               | stating what it is you want to say.
        
               | DanTheManPR wrote:
               | This practice (adding a ? to a declarative sentence) is
               | very informal, and so you wouldn't see it used in
               | published English language media, so I'm not surprised
               | that you may never have encountered it. It's used as a
               | shorthand method of inviting clarification when the
               | author is unsure of the veracity of the claim.
               | 
               | This sub-thread reminds me that there are many informal
               | rules in languages that are rarely taught, and which can
               | trip up non-native speakers. Informal shorthands, idioms,
               | slang, etc.
        
               | handrous wrote:
               | It's like a written form of Uptalk.
               | 
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High_rising_terminal
        
           | ashtonkem wrote:
           | In spoken English, this would be expressed by ending the
           | sentence with an exaggerated pitch change for the question
           | and a pause; it's a way to indicate uncertainty and give
           | someone else an opportunity to affirm or provide a contrary
           | opinion without conflict.
           | 
           | Rendering it in written English is not correct per formal
           | rules, you'd probably never see this in an English textbook,
           | but it's a semi-common colloquialism in forums like these.
        
           | pier25 wrote:
           | Putting a question mark at the end like this imitates the
           | change of intonation when speaking with uncertainty.
           | 
           | Eg:
           | 
           | I think I left the phone in my car.
           | 
           | Vs
           | 
           | I think I left the phone in my car?
           | 
           | While technically incorrect in written English, this is very
           | common in casual speaking and has found its way into casual
           | writing.
        
         | ashtonkem wrote:
         | Last time I looked into it, Japan's suicide numbers were not as
         | high as I'd been primed to expect. Japans suicide rate is less
         | than America's (14.5 vs 12.2 per 100k), and roughly equivalent
         | to Sweden 12.4) and Norway (11.8). Still relatively elevated
         | for OECD countries, but Japan's reputation as an extremely high
         | suicide rate country appears to be unearned. Countries like
         | South Korea (21.2), Russia (21.6), Lithuania (20.2), and
         | Ukraine (17.7) should generally get more attention on this
         | matter than Japan does.
        
           | noobermin wrote:
           | Like everything, including the supposed "virginity crisis,"
           | it's primed by the media that reaches western eyes that
           | somehow people here think Japan is all an edgy anime.
        
           | neaden wrote:
           | This could be the difference between suicidality and
           | completion of suicide. Firearms are linked to an increase of
           | completed suicides but not attempts, which could explain the
           | US's higher rate.
        
             | noobermin wrote:
             | Sure but it doesn't explain South Korea
        
             | naasking wrote:
             | Also, Japan has a much larger aging population, so their
             | cultural threshold for what's an "acceptable" suicide rate
             | among the young could be much lower.
        
             | ashtonkem wrote:
             | Access to firearms has certainly been shown to affect
             | suicide rates, especially among men, given how surprisingly
             | impulsive suicides are. But it's not sufficient, given that
             | there are other countries with higher suicide rates and
             | fewer firearms.
             | 
             | Also, while America has a lot of guns, there's also a lot
             | of variance. The stats are a bit hard to compute, but there
             | appear to be some states in the US that have fewer firearms
             | per capita than some other countries, notably Switzerland,
             | Canada, and Finland.
             | 
             | It's also worth pointing out that suicide by firearm is
             | largely a male thing. In the United States women attempt
             | suicide at 3x the rate that men do, but they tend to die
             | because of that at a much lower rate (22.4 for men, 6.8 for
             | women). The rate of completed female suicides is currently
             | rising faster for women than men, worryingly.
             | 
             | It's complicated, basically.
             | 
             | And as always discussing suicide creates a contagion risk.
             | If you're experiencing suicidal thoughts, please know that
             | help is available at the national suicide prevention
             | hotline, 800-273-8255.
        
               | SV_BubbleTime wrote:
               | > Access to firearms has certainly been shown to affect
               | suicide rates, especially among men, given how
               | surprisingly impulsive suicides are. But it's not
               | sufficient, given that there are other countries with
               | higher suicide rates and fewer firearms.
               | 
               | For reference, nine of the top ten nations for suicide of
               | banned civilian gun ownership. All of the top 40 nations
               | make it difficult. USA is usually around #50 or so.
               | 
               | It is complicated, and even statements like _"access to
               | firearms has been shown to affect suicide rates"_ are
               | could be misleading because you could be putting the cart
               | before the horse, if someone has chosen to kill
               | themselves, it reasons they will chose a fast /painless,
               | and effective tool.
        
               | DanBC wrote:
               | > It is complicated, and even statements like "access to
               | firearms has been shown to affect suicide rates" are
               | could be misleading because you could be putting the cart
               | before the horse, if someone has chosen to kill
               | themselves, it reasons they will chose a fast/painless,
               | and effective tool.
               | 
               | But choice of method does affect rate of death, so it's
               | correct to say that increased access to any method that's
               | commonly used affects the rate of death. Decreasing
               | access to that method is valid if its one of the measures
               | taken to reduce suicide rates.
        
               | NineStarPoint wrote:
               | The unique thing about guns is that they're generally
               | more effective at suicide than the other chosen methods.
               | It's less about the speed of access people are
               | mentioning, but more that when someone uses a gun to
               | commit suicide it's more likely to work than other
               | methods.
               | 
               | So it's less that guns increase the rate of suicide, and
               | more that they increase the suicide rate to suicide
               | attempt ratio due to their efficacy. Which, similar to
               | the point you're making, means America probably has less
               | suicide attempts to begin with than its suicide rate
               | would indicate relative to other countries.
        
               | LinuxBender wrote:
               | Less painful in my opinion would be a helium tank from a
               | childrens party store and a gas mask from a hardware
               | store. Syncope -> Mortality. Probably closer to
               | Kevorkian's assisted method but more involved.
        
               | WalterSear wrote:
               | They no longer put pure helium in those tanks for this
               | reason.
        
               | LinuxBender wrote:
               | Ah yes, it appears that has fallen in favor of nitrogen.
               | [1] I never would have imagined nitrogen would do the
               | same thing. Apparently there are a variety of inert
               | gasses that have the same effect. [2]
               | 
               | [1] - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29684846/
               | 
               | [2] - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inert_gas_asphyxiatio
               | n#Suicide
        
               | wahern wrote:
               | The autonomic system responds not to lack of oxygen, but
               | to a rise in carbon dioxide levels. (More specifically I
               | think it has something to do with pH, which decreases as
               | carbon dioxide increases.) So as long as you can expire
               | carbon dioxide, you'll pass out without any sensation of
               | asphyxiation or struggle. You still need to inhale to
               | exhale, though, and the inhaled air needs to have a
               | sufficiently low partial pressure of carbon dioxide.
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | officeplant wrote:
               | One of my friends borrowed nitrogen and a mask from work
               | to pull it off. It's the most ideal way to go out from
               | what I understand.
               | 
               | On the shittiest days I see the lines of nitrogen tanks
               | we use at work for Gas Detector calibration and remember
               | my old buddy.
        
               | robocat wrote:
               | > given how surprisingly impulsive suicides are
               | 
               | Do you have a reason to imply most suicides are
               | impulsive? I don't think the media implies that (and my
               | experience in New Zealand is they are not impulsive -
               | usually following a long period of depression and maybe
               | stated intent or attempts).
        
               | lazyasciiart wrote:
               | A long history of depression and some level of intent
               | doesn't mean an attempt wasn't impulsive. That's why the
               | question of whether someone has a specific plan is used
               | to assess risk: there's a huge difference between passive
               | suicidal thoughts and active suicide plans. This page
               | contains a few studies on how long people think about it
               | before making an attempt -
               | https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/means-matter/means-
               | matter/durat...
        
           | bazooka_penguin wrote:
           | Japan has been framed as weird and backwards since the 80s
           | and 90s when the US took issue with their rising economy and
           | encroachment on western industries
        
       | mabub24 wrote:
       | Even beyond attending school during Covid-19, which by itself has
       | been disruptive and challenging, I've heard from a number of
       | friends who emigrated from Japan that the Japanese school
       | experience can be pretty dismal.
       | 
       | I also think some people are too quick to disregard the degree to
       | which young people pick up on the quality of life and lifestyle
       | of their parents and adults. The salaryman/woman lifestyle, the
       | extremely long working hours, and the culture of extreme
       | deference to work hierarchies, can be soul destroying, _even for
       | your children_.
        
       | graynk wrote:
       | Can I ask why is this on HN? How is this in any way related to
       | tech?
        
       | wirrbel wrote:
       | The Poisson distribution was first described discussing the
       | incidence of suicide in children in Prussia, if I recall
       | correctly.
       | 
       | On the main matter: Societies need to cater more and better for
       | the interest of children. All too often all other concerns come
       | first (and children are an after thought to the interest of
       | parents, which also aren't entirely high up in the priority
       | list).
        
       | radicaldreamer wrote:
       | Per-country data on suicides should be treated skeptically
       | because most cultures have a strong aversion to suicide and
       | listing cause of death as suicide.
       | 
       | Many are classified as accidents and authorities are generally
       | fine with this. Additionally, suicides are usually not reported
       | by the media to prevent copycat suicides.
       | 
       | What I'm saying is that the "actual rate" of suicides is probably
       | higher, maybe by a lot, in many countries than the official rate.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | wyager wrote:
         | I've heard that Japan will classify murder-suicide deaths as
         | suicide deaths, because their word for "suicide" actually has a
         | slightly different denotation.
        
           | gfody wrote:
           | similarly how eskimos have a bunch of words for "snow", and
           | new yorkers have a bunch of words for "pizza", japanese have
           | a bunch of words for "suicide"
        
         | tsimionescu wrote:
         | Absolutely. Just to add to your examples of why soluicide is
         | systematically under-reported in certain countries, in many
         | Eastern Orthodox countries (Eastern Europe, Russia, Greece),
         | suicide is considered a mortal sin and victims of suicide are
         | denied burial in religious cemeteries (and denied normal
         | religious burial rights) by the church.
        
           | ed_balls wrote:
           | > denied burial in religious cemeteries
           | 
           | Same for Catholics and most of Christians, hence no suicide
           | attacks.
        
             | lazyasciiart wrote:
             | That hasn't been true since the 1960's, in the case of
             | Catholics. https://www.thedailybeast.com/the-catholic-
             | churchs-own-compl...
        
               | ed_balls wrote:
               | but the stigma is still there.
        
         | BeFlatXIII wrote:
         | Pretty much all fatal single-car accidents are suicides, IIRC.
         | Cops play nice with the grieving family so they can get their
         | life insurance benefits.
        
           | gfody wrote:
           | are you counting unintentional like falling asleep behind the
           | wheel?
        
           | wahern wrote:
           | In much (most? all?) of the United States, life insurance
           | contracts generally cover suicide, except that individual
           | policies will typically have 2-3 year exclusion period.
           | 
           | My individual term life policy has a 2-year exclusion period,
           | but otherwise covers suicide. I can't track down the precise
           | reasons for this, whether its related to case law, state
           | statutes, etc. Closest hit I found for California was
           | Insurance Code SS 11066(h), but that's for policies issued by
           | fraternal societies. (It probably echoes some other statute
           | or case law.) There are endless Google hits from law and
           | insurance web sites stating this general fact.
        
           | rscnt wrote:
           | Do you have sources for this? Here in El Salvador we have
           | highways without lamps, streets that drivers treat as
           | highways, crosswalk where you cannot longer see the painting.
           | 
           | I guess you're referring to the U.S., right?
        
           | lazyasciiart wrote:
           | That's completely false. Among many other factors, about 50%
           | of single-car crashes involve passengers, which would imply a
           | disturbingly high number of murder-suicides.
        
             | radicaldreamer wrote:
             | I think maybe OP meant single passenger car accident
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | KennyBlanken wrote:
         | Even if the absolute number is wrong (which it isn't,
         | necessarily), the relative trend is dramatically upward, and
         | the biases you describe wouldn't appear to account for such a
         | trend.
         | 
         | > The results show a record-high 415 children killed themselves
         | in the year through March. That's up nearly 100 from the
         | previous school year.
         | 
         | I believe this is mirrored in other countries. The pandemic
         | really hasn't been great for a lot of middle/high school kids.
         | 
         | Also: please be mindful that generally if some "obvious fault"
         | occurs to you, it probably occurs to the people for whom this
         | is their professional area of expertise or even life's work,
         | their work has likely been reviewed by a number of their peers,
         | etc. _Internet discussion forum commenters are highly unlikely
         | to be the first person to think of some flaw in their work._
         | 
         | I'm not saying they always will do said correction, but that if
         | you're going to be skeptical, check to see if the correction
         | was made instead of just dismissing or discounting the data,
         | and be especially careful about your personal biases.
         | 
         | Note that such corrections might only get a passing mention
         | because corrections for under-reporting is so common in
         | epidemology.
        
         | yyy888sss wrote:
         | Strongly agree. Recently an important religious leader in my
         | town died, and the police stated it was accident though they
         | had clear evidence it was suicide because they knew it would
         | distress the public less.
        
       | lemoncookiechip wrote:
       | Makes you think that COVID "helped" expose a lot of what was
       | already wrong with our society (globally) over the past 2 years.
       | 
       | In this case (underage suicide) specifically, some factors would
       | be depression and domestic violence due to mandated isolation.
       | 
       | Forcing abusive parents to spend time with their children, and
       | having children who are depressed or were on the verge of
       | depression, enter a state of desperation that could lead to
       | suicide rates spiking.
       | 
       | A depressive topic in itself.
       | 
       | PS: Should note that these are just two of the most likely
       | reasons for the increase in children suicide, but not the only.
        
         | AndrewBissell wrote:
         | This just seems like a euphemistic way of saying that lockdowns
         | made a lot of bad problems worse. When they were implemented
         | there were plenty of voices warning at the time that they would
         | cause children to suffer more abuse, depression, and suicide.
        
           | frockington1 wrote:
           | Depression, suicide, drug abuse, supply shortages, inflation,
           | people not returning to the workforce. A year ago you would
           | have been cancelled for daring to voice negative consequences
           | to lockdowns
        
             | umanwizard wrote:
             | Yep, the prevailing narrative was "all these negative
             | effects are bad, but at least they're not death!" which
             | totally ignores the probabilistic nature of the set of
             | outcomes. An x% chance of something bad happening to you
             | might indeed be worse than a y% chance of death, depending
             | on the values of x and y -- but this sort of analysis was
             | (and still is) totally missing from mainstream acceptable
             | discussion of our response to Covid.
        
               | logicalmonster wrote:
               | My very firm belief is that many "official experts" have
               | at least 4 big problems/weaknesses when it comes to
               | making decisions and communicating with the public.
               | 
               | * They're trying to optimize for 2 (sometimes)
               | contradictory problems: getting the right answer AND
               | _maintaining their job /power_. A random bloke on the
               | Internet just is trying to optimize for 1 problem,
               | getting the right answer: any other considerations like
               | fielding off hungry young political competitors or
               | maintaining corporate stock prices so you stay in their
               | good graces aren't factors in the slightest to a random
               | well-intentioned smart guy on the Internet.
               | 
               | * They are very smart at their field of expertise, but
               | they're specialists and not generalists. They are very
               | bad at considering _second-order effects_ outside of
               | their narrow field of expertise. Something like a
               | lockdown in some city might indeed immediately save 1,000
               | extra people from a Covid death. Any risk-benefit
               | analysis and deeper consideration of that lockdown on
               | other problems such as drug /alcohol abuse and overdose
               | deaths, suicides and hopelessness and depression, obesity
               | increases leading to many health problems and deaths
               | later on, deaths caused by missed cancer screenings and
               | other medical problems, loss of freedom, or its economic
               | impact and long-term impact on society isn't even a
               | consideration by officialdom. Maybe 1,000 people are
               | saved to kill 2,000 and cause even further societal
               | problems. Yet those 1,000 deaths saved would be
               | characterized as a win and proof that lockdowns work
               | because no other factors can be considered. I'd strongly
               | argue that a smart engineer or CEO (professions who are
               | trained to considering multiple factors and tradeoffs in
               | complex decision-making) would be better suited to make
               | these kinds of complex societal decisions than a
               | scientist focused on a narrow field.
               | 
               | * They're frighteningly bad at normal _risk-management
               | calculations_. One could make a very reasonable argument
               | that a normal fit 0 to 40 year old shouldn 't get a new
               | vaccine which has no long-term test data for an illness
               | that statistically has a very low risk for them: and many
               | people are reasonably making that risk-management
               | calculation. Yet many experts are rushing into advocating
               | vaccines even for children despite no long-term test
               | data. The risk management calculation for a vaccine in
               | this circumstance is completely different for the old and
               | young, yet no consideration of this is allowed.
               | 
               | * Even when they sometimes get things right, most of what
               | what even well-informed members of the public hear from
               | the experts is _filtered through the media_.
               | Unfortunately, outside of a handful of decent journalists
               | who are reasonably smart and understand nuance (and who
               | are mostly shunned from mainstream outlets) there is no
               | collection of stupider people on the planet to try and
               | analyze complex subjects or ask scientists real
               | questions.
        
               | DanBC wrote:
               | > a normal fit 0 to 40 year old shouldn't get a new
               | vaccine which has no long-term test data for an illness
               | that statistically has a very low risk for them:
               | 
               | Covid is not low risk for 35-40 year olds. Someone age 25
               | with both vaccination doses is at higher risk of death
               | than an unvaccinated 12 year old. How you've managed to
               | extrapolate from this to "low risk to people up to age
               | 40" is baffling, especially when you spend the rest of
               | your post talking about how bad people are at
               | understanding data.
        
               | umanwizard wrote:
               | > Covid is not low risk for 35-40 year olds.
               | 
               | What threshold are you using to define "low risk" ?
        
               | frockington1 wrote:
               | You can find data here:
               | https://data.cdc.gov/NCHS/Provisional-COVID-19-Deaths-by-
               | Sex...
               | 
               | In my opinion, just about everyone is low risk but there
               | is jump in numbers once the 35-40 age group is added
        
               | logicalmonster wrote:
               | This comment is not to argue with your interpretation of
               | the data. We've both made up our minds, fair enough. The
               | purpose here is point out the risk-management calculation
               | involved.
               | 
               | Science qua science can give humans all kinds of (nearly)
               | objective information about viruses and vaccines.
               | 
               | A risk-management calculation is not science: that kind
               | of decision comes down to factors such as one's own risk
               | tolerance and projection of the risks involved and many
               | other subjective factors, including trust. For a
               | reasonably well-informed Covid vaccine decision, you have
               | to weigh factors such as your personal risk from Covid
               | and compare that to somewhat known short term potential
               | vaccine injuries/side-effects, and unknown long-term
               | vaccine issues.
               | 
               | Whether you or I personally think a vaccine is a good or
               | bad thing for a healthy ~40 year old to take is
               | irrelevant. If you feel safer with it, you are certainly
               | free to take it. The point I'd like to make is that many
               | 40 year olds can reasonably look at Covid death rates for
               | their age group, and compare it to the known short term
               | problems, as well as weigh the likelihood of long-term
               | issues, and come to a sane and reasonable decision to not
               | want to rush and take it.
               | 
               | For me, my big issue with the vaccines is fertility. We
               | found out after a few years that Thalidomide caused
               | birth-defects, as just one example in the history of
               | medicine. Personally speaking, I think rushing to mass-
               | inject all children with this (as some people want) is
               | the worst risk-management decision in the history of
               | humanity.
        
               | gamacodre wrote:
               | > A random bloke on the Internet just is trying to
               | optimize for 1 problem, getting the right answer
               | 
               | Most random folks on the internet seem to be optimizing
               | for dopamine hits, not correct answers. Anyone with an
               | audience is optimizing for subscription uptake, which
               | seems to reliably lead in the opposite direction from
               | correct answers.
               | 
               | > Stuff about "mainstream [media] outlets" shunning all
               | "decent journalists"
               | 
               | This kind of silliness does nothing but weaken the rest
               | of your arguments, IMO.
        
               | logicalmonster wrote:
               | Your comment about most people online optimizing for
               | something like a hit of dopamine is correct. However,
               | just FYI, I clarified later in that same section that my
               | comment was referring to "well-intentioned" people.
               | Obviously that's a bit subjective and harder to
               | delineate, but makes an important distinction.
               | 
               | And just FYI, I never said "all" journalists, I was only
               | referring to most, a not altogether uncommon opinion.
        
               | tremon wrote:
               | I don't think I have seen many mainstream acceptable
               | discussions about the Covid response -- most were nothing
               | but emotive monologues from this or that person, and two
               | or three simultaneous monologues do not make an
               | acceptable discussion.
               | 
               | Also, I don't think it would have been useful to talk
               | about Covid response policy using figures like "X% chance
               | of death!", since it sounds like a weather forecast and
               | we can't even get those right one day in advance, let
               | alone when determining policy for the entire year. And
               | you can't conclude from absence of public discussion that
               | these figures or expectations weren't discussed
               | privately.
               | 
               | Yes, it would have been better for the policymakers to
               | voice their reservations and motivations in public, but
               | I'm not willing to blame the politicians for not doing
               | that. In order to have a nuanced political discussion,
               | all parties need to play ball. It is counterproductive
               | for a politician to take a well-argued public position
               | when the media only wants ten-second soundbites and
               | actively looks ways to embarrass and undermine said
               | politician, and when the public isn't remotely interested
               | in a nuanced position because the tribe has already
               | spoken.
               | 
               | To me, the Covid response in the West highlights a
               | failure of democracy. That is not the same as a failure
               | of politics, trying to pin all blame for the failure of
               | democracy on the current politicians is just another
               | symptom of the underlying problem. Instead, it is a
               | failure of society at large. It seems we are no longer
               | willing and/or capable to have an honest and open debate
               | about matters of public policy, and that is a sad
               | situation. I'm not even going to try and hint at the wide
               | array of causes and consequences that led us to this
               | point, just expressing dismay that I don't see the
               | situation improving for the better any time soon.
        
           | zz865 wrote:
           | The worst thing is that children aren't at risk of covid,
           | their parents aren't much either. The lockdowns are all to
           | protect the boomers.
        
             | Markoff wrote:
             | the worst thing these kids are much more likely to die from
             | suicide than from COVID, yet you see whole COVID theatre to
             | protect them, but nothing to stop suicides
        
             | CountDrewku wrote:
             | Yet I'm still seeing schools strap masks on elementary
             | students and all other sorts of abusive trends that will
             | harm their development. The worst thing is that people
             | warned about the dangers of isolating these kids from
             | school, their friends, and berating them with
             | sensationalist media causing their anxiety levels to go off
             | the charts.
             | 
             | This is 100% a case of the pandemic response being worse
             | than the disease. Risks from COVID for kids is minimal.
             | What really bothers me is that people who warned of this
             | were berated for not following "the science", censored and
             | labeled as someone who didn't care about COVID deaths. Imo
             | schools should have never closed.
             | 
             | Unfortunately, I think there will be a lot of fallout from
             | the poor response in years to come.
        
               | watwut wrote:
               | The kids got used to masks ... and that is it. They are
               | "strapped" as much as on adults meaning like wearing a
               | scarf or shirt.
        
         | throw8932894 wrote:
         | Helped? If you isolate kid from its friends for 18 months and
         | imprison it in small room, it will become suicidal. There is no
         | need for abusive parents. Lockdowns themselfs are evil!
        
           | dartharva wrote:
           | Shitposting about child suicides now? Very mature.
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | Is it necessary to constantly lie about what kind of
           | lockdowns various countries had?
        
           | elcamino44 wrote:
           | It's probably worth noting that Japan hasn't had that kind of
           | lockdown. Schools, after school activities, etc for most part
           | have continued throughout the pandemic.
        
             | 0des wrote:
             | When you say "for the most part", what do you mean?
        
               | elcamino44 wrote:
               | There was a period of extended school holidays last year
               | due to the pandemic. Also some schools did suspend after
               | school care and extracurricular activities during the
               | states of emergency. The details probably vary widely
               | across the country and no doubt people have been
               | impacted, but remote schooling hasn't really been a thing
               | (as far as I know).
        
               | 0des wrote:
               | Thank you for the reply and clarification. I think I
               | understand what is being said. Initially, I parsed the
               | statement to mean that only a small fraction of schools
               | closed.
        
             | Markoff wrote:
             | that's not what article says: "Also, a record high of over
             | 190,000 students of elementary and junior high schools
             | stopped attending."
        
         | mbg721 wrote:
         | So is COVID a health crisis, or just a springboard to force
         | societal change? This is why there's so much chaos and
         | distrust.
        
         | EricE wrote:
         | The real crime? Lockdowns didn't change a darned thing - I wish
         | I could say I'm amazed the press doesn't talk about Sweden at
         | all; sadly at this point I expect them to be biased and
         | interested at protecting the current political narrative more
         | than actually doing their jobs.
         | 
         | Context: https://fee.org/articles/sweden-s-top-infectious-
         | disease-exp...
        
           | somehowlinux wrote:
           | Your article is too old.
           | 
           | https://www.businessinsider.com/sweden-covid-no-lockdown-
           | str...
        
       | someonehere wrote:
       | Could have sworn I read an article a few months ago that suicide
       | rates amongst Gen Z was increasing because of Covid lockdowns and
       | social media causing depression/loneliness.
       | 
       | I'm not Gen Z nor are my friends, but they sometimes make me feel
       | like they fall into this bucket of "should I check on them more
       | often?" for the two items I laid out above.
       | 
       | Deep down I'm blaming social media for the increase in suicide
       | amongst younger kids. It's a pony show to them and they all want
       | to outdo each other.
       | 
       | I went to a pumpkin patch over the weekend and two late teen
       | girls spent an hour or so trying to get the best photos holding
       | sunflowers. The place I was at let you pick your own sunflowers.
       | These two girls were dressed up and proceeded to set up a camera
       | stand for one of their cell phones that had a ring light around
       | it. They spent that time trying to get the best photo to post to
       | their IG pages and TikTok.
       | 
       | I get it that maybe they want to work on photography, but they
       | spent way more effort and time than they should have when they
       | were debating what to post to IG and TikTok.
       | 
       | ::shrug::
        
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         | pwned_vnm_alx wrote:
         | First thing's first, what I've typed below is all based on
         | first-hand experience, which might be not representative of the
         | general population, but probably not that far from how these
         | kids who kill themselves feel.
         | 
         | First thing being that's being done wrong by parents is not
         | treating their children like adults. The culmination of such
         | treatment comes when the child gets separated from their
         | parents, for example by going to college, and starts doing
         | stuff like drinking/smoking/doing drugs/what else not because
         | there are no parents present to punish him for it. Problem is
         | that the child's subconscious thinks that the bad thing
         | happening to him because of, for example, smoking, is not lung
         | cancer and what not, but the punishment from his parents, so
         | when they are not there to do the punishment, there is nothing
         | wrong with doing all that stuff. In general, not letting
         | children to make decisions and then deal with the consequences
         | on their own leads to a population of people who are unable to
         | think for themselves and who, while they have been told what's
         | good or bad, haven't internalized that knowledge, as there is
         | no opportunity to do so. You know, brain is kind of like a
         | muscle, you have to train it when it's not really needed for it
         | to be capable when it is. Actually Lois Rossman has quite a bit
         | of parental advice that seems decent to me. There is also a
         | great emotional disconnect between the parents and their
         | children. At least the message I've got from my parents is that
         | I shouldn't even bother talking to them as there is a lack of
         | even basic effort to try to understand what I'm trying to tell
         | them. Not trying to blame anyone here, feeling exhausted after
         | a workday is a thing but maybe considering not having children
         | if you're unable to treat them properly is also a thing.
         | Honestly, I think dropping fertility is a good thing, as being
         | more conscious about raising children is at least partially the
         | reason, and that's a good thing.
         | 
         | Then school inevitably comes. You honestly can't expect an
         | underpaid overworked teacher to manage 30 children in a class,
         | there is just too much stuff going on. But, because teachers
         | are underpaid and overworked, it is a low prestige profession
         | so if things don't change, the problem isn't going to solve
         | itself. Then there is the learning process. Problem is, in
         | school people don't learn, they are being schooled, and then
         | there is some learning happening as a secondary on the side.
         | Problem with learning while being schooled usually is that the
         | pace is way different and there is a ton of unnecessary extras.
         | Here are couple of examples:
         | 
         | My English teacher would accept essays and other stuff that are
         | typed, not written by hand, so what I would do is type them
         | first, then just write down what I've typed. Why the extra
         | step? Could be beneficial to go through the material another
         | time and what not, but that could be done without spending the
         | time and effort on writing it all down. At least in the
         | professional environment, everything is being done digitally
         | these days, so an all-digital workflow clearly works.
         | 
         | Maths homework was probably worst of them all because of how
         | much of it accomplished so little. It is very much repetition
         | based, so a lot of the time the task you're given a set of 10
         | identical problems, just with different inputs in them. That
         | way by the fifth one, it takes a second to solve it and a
         | minute to write down the solution, and there are 5 more like
         | this ahead. That way, there is just muscle memory being built
         | for solving that one problem, and exactly nothing is happening
         | to the understanding of the subject, broader understanding of
         | mathematics, creative thinking and problem solving, arguably
         | very much needed skills in real life situations. In general,
         | there are very little 'reality checks' that might indicate a
         | problem a person has but himself is unaware of.
         | 
         | Yeah, you better remember things by writing them down and all
         | that, there are way better ways to do all this though. From
         | personal experience, I've learned much more and much quicker
         | from actually doing projects which required the knowledge I've
         | needed. Knowledge retention is also much better and you
         | actually have something material to show after the thing.
         | Homework itself, in the form we have it now, is clearly
         | damaging to relationships with children and their parents in
         | general, as parents tend to care about things being done more
         | than the well-being of the child. Results of that are genuinely
         | horrific at times. Also there is that old text about a guy
         | being unable to learn anything from a his professor's lecture,
         | but understanding things immediately after reading part of a
         | book that professor was referring to in his lecture. I'd say
         | exchanging lectures for books and using professor's time for
         | one on one discussion if there is a problem with understanding
         | it's contents would be a much better use of everyone's time.
         | What I mean by all this is that school is laborious without
         | need, or at least feels so, damaging to relationships,
         | concentrated on remembering stuff and not actually acquiring
         | any useful skills and all that.
         | 
         | Then there are people at school Honestly, would feel good if
         | people weren't called circle-jerks in class by the professor,
         | who is angry (more correct term would be salty) that no one is
         | doing their grad project with him, which happened because he
         | calls people circle-jerks in class. Would feel good if the
         | professor actually paid attention to my project and didn't ask,
         | what that circuit drawing has to do with it, while that exact
         | drawing has been basically copied one to one into the overall
         | project schematic. Both happened the other week. This
         | assumption that teacher is this unquestionable all-knowing
         | figure of authority is very ill-minded, and overall power
         | dynamics are sometimes very problematic in academia. Though
         | younger teachers are much, much better. Then there are your
         | peers. Everyone is trying to one-up each other and being left
         | alone to do your thing is not really an option, probably
         | partially because of this built-up grudge, which happens for
         | the reason I have described above. Interest circles are largely
         | dissolved and at least in my experience, connecting to people
         | without directly being introduced to them by someone is
         | increasingly difficult. Platforms like tinder are considered,
         | speaking in gen-z terms, 'cringe' (I'd say tinder is very
         | exploitative with it's business model, but that's not the
         | problem being addressed). Besides that, with all the extra-
         | curriculums, homework and general attitude by parents to make
         | their kids busy, there is not that much time to go outside and
         | do things that you actually enjoy, or finding such things. So
         | there is basically pressure at school from peers and teachers,
         | pressure from parents at home and being constantly busy doing
         | stuff which prevents you from thinking about your issues and
         | potentially dealing with them. There is a big need for a place
         | of some relief, and social media and the internet tend to fill
         | that role.
         | 
         | Well, if we're talking about social media here, there is a lot
         | wrong with them also. I'd say these days there is a tendency
         | for relationships to become parasocial, like 'I follow you on
         | socials, you follow me on socials, but we don't actually talk
         | to each other directly', so what would have been a two-way
         | conversation between two people turns into two one-way ones.
         | Then, exposure is spread very unevenly. Some people tend to get
         | lots of attention and generally are popular, while some get
         | none. This attention is of very varying quality, but getting it
         | is still a message of acceptance by society, while getting none
         | sends you a message that you are rejected. Texting people on
         | social media out of the blue is generally a bad idea, because
         | most people who do that are scammers, advertisers and people
         | trying to get you to distribute drugs for money and so there is
         | a tendency to treat strangers like you would treat someone
         | spamming your email. This lack of attention basically sends
         | people a message that they are not
         | welcome/needed/wanted/desired in general. After some time in
         | this circle the person starts to feel that it's not like
         | they're in a bad situation, but that he himself is bad in some
         | way. What they learn in the end is that there is no place for
         | them in the society, and that other people don't care about
         | their situation.
         | 
         | The stuff above might be not factually correct but that's how
         | troubled people experience things, from which they learn their
         | apparent place in society.
         | 
         | Returning to the girls taking pictures and posting them to
         | IG/TikTok are probably fine just fine. Actual people who are in
         | danger are not doing all this stuff and are basically invisible
         | cause they just bottle up all the stress, and after some time
         | they may be unable to deal with it because they never had a
         | chance to learn to. There is also lack of prospects in life
         | (ever increasing rent, working minimum wage for most of your
         | life and other stuff) and what not. When things add up, we see
         | statistics like this.
         | 
         | Personally, I don't know, if generations prior had it easier or
         | something, but I don't see these lowering any time soon, and
         | actually was kinda wondering why haven't they gone up before
        
         | EricE wrote:
         | We have real evidence the lockdowns were totally unnecessary -
         | see: https://fee.org/articles/sweden-s-top-infectious-disease-
         | exp...
         | 
         | And yet they still persist in many parts of the world.
        
         | thrav wrote:
         | To be fair to them, taking a great picture at a pumpkin patch
         | is an American tradition. They often go on the Christmas Card.
         | I was out there attaching a tripod to a fence and trying to get
         | a good family portrait for my daughter's first year walking.
         | 
         | If they spent the majority of the day outside, I feel like they
         | have a leg up on many kids who never leave the house.
         | 
         | I was trying to do similar things on MySpace when I was their
         | age; Or spending similar amounts of time chained to my desk
         | chatting with girls on AIM; Or more frequently losing 8 hours
         | at a clip to playing an FPS.
         | 
         | I had one staying in my house this weekend. They're not as bad
         | as we think they are. Most of my concern sits with the way the
         | parents behave.
        
       | mensetmanusman wrote:
       | " Also, a record high of over 190,000 students of elementary and
       | junior high schools stopped attending. "
       | 
       | I feel like we are entering an era where different communities
       | are experiencing a feast or famine in regards to how they are
       | flourishing in the 'modern' world. At the zoomed out earth-scale,
       | it seems to be a darwinian process of discovering which behaviors
       | will exist in a century (because the only vote that matters for
       | the future is how well your children are doing, birth rates,
       | etc.).
        
         | riskable wrote:
         | > a darwinian process of discovering...
         | 
         | There's certainly a darwinian process going on with COVID-19
         | right now in regards to the vaccinated and willfully
         | unvaccinated. What's _not_ darwinian is what went on during
         | lockdowns where well-off parents could afford to let one stay
         | at home to keep their kids from goofing off while attending
         | online classes.
         | 
         | I am unhopeful that society at large will use that as a lesson
         | learned about providing resources to the less fortunate so
         | their children can get the (online) education they need (even
         | if it's just an adult keeping watch over a handful of kids). If
         | we have another pandemic with lockdowns like this I highly
         | suspect it will go pretty much exactly the same.
         | 
         | To be fully prepared for pandemics of the future families will
         | need the resources necessary to keep an adult at home to watch
         | over the children going through online learning. Giving people
         | remote work opportunities could be a great (societal)
         | inoculation, as it were against such inequities.
        
       | gxt wrote:
       | someone should get funding to check links between antiperspirant
       | use and depression/effects of dark thoughts.
       | 
       | Anecdata: My mood improved gradually after I stopped using retail
       | antiperspirants. At some point (aka 12-18 months later) I got
       | pissed of never being dry and went back to the stuff. It took 12h
       | before the dark thoughts were back, took 3 showers as soon as I
       | noticed, and it still took 3 days for the effect to stop being
       | noticeable. Since this event I strongly think antiperspirants
       | should be studied to confirm this is not just my mind playing
       | tricks on me.
        
         | Beaver117 wrote:
         | What do you use instead? Do you have hyperhidrosis?
        
       | g354g43b43 wrote:
       | The same pressure those kids are feeling to succeed is the same
       | pressure American men in their 30's and 40's feel to succeed and
       | are killing themselves in record numbers.
        
       | irrational wrote:
       | I'm always confused when "child" is used for teenagers. I always
       | assume child means elementary school kids and it throws me when I
       | realize they mean older kids.
        
       | danschumann wrote:
       | I can't say anything proactive about this situation.. but I can
       | say things. Do you find that the emotional juice of a situation
       | is more primary than the logic of a situation? Like, people feel
       | something and then rationalize the logic to justify their
       | feeling. I have found that using feelingswheel to get a firmer
       | grasp on the specific emotional chords, connections and common
       | "songs" I tend to play, etc, has increased my ability to identify
       | and categorize emotions on a finer level. Categorization is the
       | least thing that must be done in order to process hurt. The brain
       | will try to process a situation until it understands it, and it
       | can require using emotional intuition to identify the exact
       | feeling, as if it were a chord played on a piano, where some
       | notes are hit more than others. It's important to categorize
       | granular feelings (like indignant is a form of anger whereby
       | you're upset that something is unfair) (embarassment can be a sad
       | hurt or a disapproving disgust) (some feelings lead to other
       | feelings) (dismissive anger is repressed by default from feeling
       | like anger) Some people don't have true feelings, because they
       | will automatically convert one feeling to another. Instead of
       | feeling angry sometimes and happy other times, they feel the
       | liminal angry/happy feeling that feels like a mecurial wire of an
       | emotion. For instance: if they're happy, they become angry that
       | they aren't happy more often; if they're angry about something,
       | they're glad that they finally have something to be mad about.
        
         | skim_milk wrote:
         | >people feel something and then rationalize the logic to
         | justify their feeling
         | 
         | Kind of sounds like projection. Depending on who you ask, it's
         | generally understood in psychology that children raised by
         | cold/rejecting/invalidating/selfish/abusive parents develop it
         | to cope with having age-appropriate emotions that offend their
         | parents. It could be perceived as a way to manipulate/convince
         | the cold/rejecting parents into giving them what the child
         | needs (food, attention, etc.) without feeling bad for having
         | their age-appropriate, healthy needs - a habit that outlasts
         | its need and stays through adulthood to the detriment of
         | everyone. A healthy response would be to not feel bad for
         | having feelings and, due to successfully developing self-
         | acceptance, integrate/communicate all their emotions and
         | rationality in a healthy way.
        
         | icu wrote:
         | Thank you for mentioning the Feelings Wheel. I never knew it
         | existed and when I looked it up I could immediately see its use
         | with my parenting as my son struggles to express his emotional
         | state. I wonder if you've used it, or the Emotion Wheel, with
         | children or for other use cases like conflict resolution in the
         | workplace?
        
           | danschumann wrote:
           | I've found benefit across all areas of life. When dealing
           | with other people, I find it helpful to at least be cognizant
           | of the main emotional category, but it's easier to feel the
           | specificity in yourself than in others.
        
       | 2pEXgD0fZ5cF wrote:
       | A while ago I read a french news article that talked about
       | bullying in japan and what was mentioned in it was way beyond
       | what counts as bullying here (except for the most severe cases).
       | Bullying is always really bad and even just "mild" verbal or
       | physical abuse can scar a child for life. But what apparently
       | counts as "regular" bullying in Japan truly gave me the chills.
       | Mentioned were things like stripping others naked, throwing away
       | their clothes, burning their stuff, hitting them with sticks,
       | spitting among other horrible things. The article also mentioned
       | that this went on just as a bad online with encouragements for
       | suicide being a frequent part of the cyber bullying.
       | 
       | Does someone here have any experience with japanese school life?
       | Is it really that bad? Or did they just pick a number of the
       | worst cases?
        
         | theprotocol wrote:
         | > a French news article [about Japan]
         | 
         | Interestingly I experienced persistent bullying that included
         | physical assault and mental abuse (it was always successfully
         | passed off as a joke when they did something to me) in the
         | French system.
         | 
         | It was so bad that I still relive it daily every single day
         | now, many many years later.
        
         | euske wrote:
         | Probably it is overblown, but I wouldn't be surprised if this
         | actually happened somewhere (certainly not regular though).
         | 
         | That said, I'll say that bullying in Japan is different in that
         | it is _orchestrated_. Peer pressure is enormous in Japan. When
         | someone is being bullied, very few of us can raise an objection
         | because doing so would make you the next target. So everyone is
         | becoming an enabler. (Actually, this is not just kids ' matter.
         | It's pretty much how the whole society functions here. No
         | wonder adults can't stop kids bullying - they're just imitating
         | adults!)
        
         | svara wrote:
         | I don't have any particular insight on bullying in Japan
         | specifically, but having lived there for a big chunk of my
         | childhood I can say for sure that you have to be very, very
         | skeptical of the "Look how weird Japan is" trope which is super
         | common in Western media.
         | 
         | Those stories always follow the same pattern - pick out the
         | most extreme example of something that you can find, then spin
         | some superficially insightful theory around it relating it to
         | some essential difference between Japanese culture and other
         | cultures.
         | 
         | There is no such thing as essential differences. And if all
         | that reaches your attention about a faraway place is the
         | extremes, you are bound to come to some weird conclusions.
         | 
         | It's just too easy to apply this recipe to anything you don't
         | understand well. Just imagine the stories you could tell about
         | European student culture if you started from the Belgian
         | Reuzegom hazing story [0], and generalized from there.
         | 
         | [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reuzegom#Death_of_Sanda_Dia
        
           | jkhdigital wrote:
           | In Japanese society, historically, ritual suicide was
           | accepted as an "honorable" way to die under otherwise
           | shameful circumstances. It seems pretty natural that, with
           | such a cultural legacy, Japanese people (including children)
           | would be more willing to resort to suicide.
           | 
           | Reinforcing your comment, the fallacy here is in assuming
           | that the factors affecting suicide rates among Western
           | children are identical to the factors for Japanese children,
           | and therefore bullying in Japan must be particularly
           | atrocious to cause the high baseline suicide rate.
        
             | Levitz wrote:
             | >In Japanese society, historically, ritual suicide was
             | accepted as an "honorable" way to die under otherwise
             | shameful circumstances. It seems pretty natural that, with
             | such a cultural legacy, Japanese people (including
             | children) would be more willing to resort to suicide.
             | 
             | Does it really? Do you feel the same way about western
             | society and, say, duels to the death? The many old
             | practices regarding marriage and the church all around?
             | 
             | I don't think suicide as an honorable death is any more of
             | a real thing in Japan nowadays than ninjas are.
        
               | brezelgoring wrote:
               | >Do you feel the same way about western society and, say,
               | duels to the death?
               | 
               | Considering how common a form of retribution gun violence
               | is in the US nowadays, yes, I'd say yes.
               | 
               | Could there be a case to be made in comparing American
               | school shooters and Japanese student suicides? Maybe we'd
               | find they had similar school experiences prior to their
               | final moments.
        
               | coldtea wrote:
               | > _Does it really? Do you feel the same way about western
               | society and, say, duels to the death? The many old
               | practices regarding marriage and the church all around?_
               | 
               | Yes, I would. Such societal norms don't just die, they
               | remain in the "ether" so to speak.
               | 
               | For example, americans might not be as religious, or
               | sticking with the church. They might not even be born in
               | the US, or just be first or second generation. But the
               | culture, and this includes immigrants as they integrate,
               | contains all kinds of protestant ideas.
               | 
               | And it's easier for something like a suicide norm to
               | survice that a practice of the duel (which takes two to
               | survice, plus has the law against it, even if you come
               | out alive).
        
               | NineStarPoint wrote:
               | The ether of American "death by duel" is part of the more
               | general protestant idea that suicide is an act against
               | god, but there's no rule against finding
               | someone/something to kill yourself with. Drink yourself
               | to death, get yourself killed by a cop, join the army and
               | find a place to sacrifice yourself: all are related to
               | why duels to the death were part of our culture. To what
               | extent that ether still effects the way we act I couldn't
               | say, but it's definitely still around.
        
               | nverno wrote:
               | Suicide was also an honorable way to go out in the Roman
               | empire, but I'm not sure it's a societal norm in Italy
               | nowadays. Definitely in the ether though, I think suicide
               | after disgrace is something everyone can relate to.
        
               | coldtea wrote:
               | > _Suicide was also an honorable way to go out in the
               | Roman empire, but I 'm not sure it's a societal norm in
               | Italy nowadays._
               | 
               | Maybe not so nowadays, but you'd be surprised how often
               | it was a solution to societal shame in Italy up to the
               | 1950s or so...
        
               | burnished wrote:
               | Do you want to reframe duels to the death as gun violence
               | and then consider America, which is the most clear
               | comparison?
        
               | ploika wrote:
               | American gun violence is on a different scale to most of
               | the rest of Western society. I don't think it's a
               | particularly useful comparison.
        
               | retrac wrote:
               | The relics of European honour culture, which includes
               | duelling etc., being preserved in parts of the USA,
               | particularly in the West and South, due to the delayed
               | roleout of the centralised state, is a real argument made
               | about why men from those parts can be so quick on the
               | draw (perhaps literally) at the slightest interpersonal
               | offence. Dunno if it's true but it doesn't seem
               | preposterous.
        
             | srvmshr wrote:
             | Japan expat resident here.
             | 
             | The 'suicide for preserving honor' theory has been long
             | abandoned & mostly outlawed, even. No one in the modern
             | generation thinks that way. The causes for suicide are
             | mostly due to economic imbalance & high credit/ loans/
             | failed businesses (sadly). Children have easy access to
             | credit cards from family, and rack up huge debts by
             | indulging in things as part of peer pressure. I saw several
             | case studies highlighting this when I was part of
             | influencer marketing business.
             | 
             | Ritual suicide was done by seppuku - slashing out your
             | guts, as a final act of bravery. No one does anything
             | remotely similar.
        
               | andrewprock wrote:
               | I have to assume that WWII history is still being taught.
               | I'm not sure if they are censoring kamikaze tactics in
               | Japan, but they are still well documented in US WWII
               | media.
        
               | srvmshr wrote:
               | Funnily enough, WW2 is taught in a very sanitized way.
               | Its more along the lines of "we had disagreement, we had
               | a war, we were all somewhat wrong. let's move on and be
               | peaceful". People take offense if you prod along the
               | topic further. They don't want to talk about it anymore.
        
               | jkhdigital wrote:
               | How do you "outlaw" a theory?
               | 
               | You can't purge a cultural heritage--everyone in Japan
               | learns Japanese history and ritual suicide is a notable
               | part of that history. The point is not that people commit
               | suicide today for the same reasons or in the same way
               | that they did 500 years ago, but that _it is more likely
               | to be accepted as a way out_ than in a culture that e.g.
               | considers suicide to be a one-way ticket to the spiritual
               | inferno.
        
               | srvmshr wrote:
               | > You can't purge a cultural heritage--everyone in Japan
               | learns Japanese history and ritual suicide is a notable
               | part of that history.
               | 
               | Not sure where you get this idea, but this is grossly
               | inaccurate.
               | 
               | Japanese culture is strongly revisionist. People don't
               | talk about the war, much less teach about it. The 'old
               | ways' and 'samurai heroism' was faulted for the mess in
               | '40s. People make a sigh whenever such touchy topics come
               | up. New Japan is a different beast.
               | 
               | As a consequence, we are seeing a generation which is
               | severely confused on why WW2 happened. American pop
               | culture is embraced with open arms, but they can't
               | explain why Hiroshima happened at the hands of US. It's
               | all faulted to grave mistakes on the 'old thinking' which
               | is best left behind. Japan adopted modernism & became
               | America's best buddies, ignoring the blemishes over 3
               | decades of Imperial japanese horrors. Older generation,
               | who used to teach from experience of pre-war and neo-
               | modern Japan, are dying off due to age. A significant
               | chapter of history is being ignored by looking the other
               | way. Look up the editorials of any Japanese weekly, and
               | on any random week you will find some discussion on how
               | they bemoan the growing dissonance between the post-war
               | values of peace & the cultural change alongside the
               | pseudo-aggression of some political parties, which
               | eventually aims to remilitarize Japan at some point.
               | (That's a story for another time or another thread)
        
           | aikinai wrote:
           | The "Japan is no different from any other country" trope is
           | just as inaccurate as the "wacky Japan" trope and in my
           | experience has actually overtaken the original in online
           | discussions (though news articles clearly still focus on the
           | original).
           | 
           | Making a generalized story from cherry-picked anecdotes is an
           | incredibly common strategy for journalists writing about
           | anything. Sometimes it might actually match more general
           | trends and sometimes not; you can't say without real
           | statistics, which in most cases don't exist or aren't
           | accurate anyway.
           | 
           | No one's tracking it carefully, so who knows if bullying in
           | Japan is actually worse or just picked up in the zeitgeist
           | more. But it's ridiculous to pretend like Japanese school
           | culture isn't drastically different from that of most western
           | countries.
        
           | secondaryacct wrote:
           | Yeah having moved to China from France, I was expecting to
           | meet aliens honestly, and ended up concluding like you there
           | are no essential differences between cultures.
           | 
           | Everything is essetially the same with some limited number of
           | levers being pulled a bit further: girls want to marry a
           | little bit earlier, parents are a little bit more worried abt
           | kids, politicians a bit more corrupt, racism is targeted at
           | different colors in a different hierarchy, all that jazz, but
           | all the patterns I was used to in France simply fit China
           | very well and I didnt find it so difficult to just brush off
           | the odd difference and adapt.
           | 
           | My Chinese parents in law also discovered I have the same
           | strengths and flaws any other Chinese guy their daughter
           | could have found :D
        
             | N00bN00b wrote:
             | It took me about 10 years to really understand the enormous
             | differences between my native culture and my current
             | culture. And those differences are staggering. And they are
             | _both_ western.
             | 
             | You're assuming you can "see" the cultural differences.
             | 
             | Sometimes you can easily see it, but often it's really hard
             | to figure out, because they are going to express themselves
             | in edge cases that you have to run into, which takes time
             | and then it takes time to run into enough of them to be
             | able to see a pattern.
        
           | 2pEXgD0fZ5cF wrote:
           | You are right, even asking people from a country directly can
           | give a really false impression due to the pattern you
           | describe. As someone who has lived both in the US as well as
           | two european countries for equal parts of my life I know very
           | well how easily views can become distorted by listening to
           | single cases that are not representative.
        
           | mensetmanusman wrote:
           | The modern media landscape is sub-optimal.
           | 
           | Seeing all these surveys that show that the more you consume
           | media the less you know is extremely sad. I don't think there
           | are any short term solutions.
        
         | breadsphere wrote:
         | There was a recent scandal in Japan where a musician named
         | Cornelius was chosen to preform at the Paralympics and had an
         | old interview resurface where he bragged about this type of
         | bullying: stripping naked, force feeding someone their own
         | feces... sadly it sounds like this was done to a handicapped
         | person.
         | 
         | He was forced to resign and ultimately put a lot of pressure on
         | prime minister Suga because he was his pick. Suga had to also
         | step down after this and other similar incidents.
         | 
         | https://aramajapan.com/news/cornelius-apologizes-after-bully...
        
         | noobermin wrote:
         | This sounds inline with bullying in the US honestly, at least
         | in the rougher schools.
        
         | Raztuf wrote:
         | Watching anime (yeah yeah I know) I used to laugh at the
         | absurdity of the bullying and how sexual it all was. I had no
         | idea that bullying is really that bad in Japan. That's
         | extremely sad.
        
           | dartharva wrote:
           | The frequency of how much of what appears to be outlandish
           | bullying gets portrayed in Japanese shows could be an
           | indicator of how normalized it has become there. I have
           | watched some anime too, and I cringed every time they showed
           | those cartoonishly evil bullying scenes. They appeared so
           | unrealistic to me, but reading this discussion it seems it
           | might have actually been a quite relatable theme for Japanese
           | audiences.
        
           | ganzuul wrote:
           | OP said 'appears to'. You are saying 'is'.
           | 
           | Sharpen up.
        
         | white-moss wrote:
         | I'm Japanese (24). In my own personal experience, I've never
         | seen bullying that severe. There may be regional differences.
        
         | emadabdulrahim wrote:
         | This reminded me of experiences I wish I could forget for when
         | I was bullied from 2nd grade to 8th. What made it worse was by
         | puberty, I realized I was gay, which made me feel the bullying
         | was justified because of how reprehensible my sexual
         | orientation was. While I don't believe this anymore, I do feel
         | those experiences have left a deep scare that won't simply go
         | away.
        
           | hn_throwaway_99 wrote:
           | Similar experiences here. If you haven't, really can't
           | emphasize the value of a good therapist, and gay men's group
           | therapy if you can find it.
           | 
           | That said, I think the deep scar analogy is apt. While
           | therapy has helped me immensely in dealing with some of my
           | issues, those issues will always be there, so it's hard not
           | to feel an immense amount of regret and "if only" thoughts
           | wishing I had never been bullied in the first place.
        
           | 2pEXgD0fZ5cF wrote:
           | I'm sorry this happened to you. I actually find it terrible
           | how bullying in general is seen as "part of growing up" and
           | other nonsense or sometimes even heavily played down with
           | lies or fabrications like "the bully himself is actually
           | suffering/has a bad life thats why he does it" (which is in
           | no way generally true).
           | 
           | Or even worse: blame is put on the victim.
        
             | rabuse wrote:
             | I was a bully during my teenage years. Honestly, did it for
             | the attention from peers, and especially the girls. It's
             | sad to say, but girls definitely favor that mentality at
             | that age range.
        
         | srvmshr wrote:
         | > Does someone here have any experience with japanese school
         | life? Is it really that bad? Or did they just pick a number of
         | the worst cases?
         | 
         | I sincerely believe these instances were cherry picked. If such
         | things happened regularly, it would have made an awful amount
         | of noise in an otherwise law abiding society. Mixed raced
         | (hafu) children do get more bullying from anecdotal evidence,
         | but that is more of name calling or poking some fun at visual
         | attribute. My knowledge about the situation is limited to Tokyo
         | & Osaka, but that is pretty much where most of the foreigners/
         | mixed race families are to be found.
        
         | joeberon wrote:
         | > The article also mentioned that this went on just as a bad
         | online with encouragements for suicide being a frequent part of
         | the cyber bullying.
         | 
         | That doesn't surprise me at all. Back in the day 2ch, which was
         | the forerunner of 4chan in Japan, was extremely popular, but
         | basically just as toxic and awful as 4chan. I think in Asia
         | generally there is a LOT of aggression online.
        
           | OneTimePetes wrote:
           | This is the iceberg of "face" culture. Appear happy content
           | and whatever society demands in public and let out the true
           | opinion, feelings and yes, often hatred in anonymity or inner
           | family.
           | 
           | Good thing we wouldn't introduce such a thing in the west.
        
             | tada131 wrote:
             | Does this thing even need to be introduced?
        
           | ekianjo wrote:
           | > I think in Asia generally there is a LOT of aggression
           | online.
           | 
           | In Asia? You haven't seen Twitter yet in the US.
        
             | joeberon wrote:
             | > You haven't seen Twitter yet in the US.
             | 
             | Yes I have, and there is much more of a culture to be taken
             | care of and get emotional support there than I've seen in
             | other countries. Even British twitter is way harsher lol
             | Americans are generally very kind and soft
        
               | lazyasciiart wrote:
               | Sounds like a foolishly overbroad claim, perhaps you
               | should step it back to "the Americans I follow on
               | twitter"? https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/tennessee-
               | man-targeted-...
        
               | ekianjo wrote:
               | > Even British twitter is way harsher lol Americans are
               | generally very kind and soft
               | 
               | You probably aren't exposed to the same kind of feed
               | then.
        
               | sethammons wrote:
               | Don't get in a verbal pissing contest. Bring up a
               | concrete example. Then they can do the same. Anecdata
               | battle until trends can be established. Or if data trends
               | can be shown, link those.
        
               | BitwiseFool wrote:
               | Not every discussion between people needs to have the
               | caliber of evidence required by a scientific study or
               | dissertation. Besides, arguments like that tend to just
               | end up being tennis matches where commenters lob
               | citations back and forth at each other without reading
               | them.
               | 
               | Also, I think people should feel free to share whatever
               | life experience / observations / anecdotes they have
               | because it's not like what we write here is going to get
               | cited in some journal.
        
               | sethammons wrote:
               | This was a case of "my dad can beat up your dad." Just
               | stated as "I see worse than you are seeing." Nothing of
               | substance. If we want to compare who's stream is worse,
               | provide some examples, don't just say you've dealt with
               | worse than what you assume the other person has.
               | 
               | Anyway, looks like I replied to the wrong post
               | originally. And I botched my delivery. It was a poor
               | attempt at encouraging more substantive discussion. I,
               | for one, would have been interested in seeing an example
               | that points out how much more ruthless a different
               | country was, and I would have hoped that someone would
               | show a counter example, and then a n interesting
               | discussion pop up.
        
               | ad404b8a372f2b9 wrote:
               | This is a conversation not a pissing context or a peer
               | reviewed study. It's very hard to quantify one's
               | experience. I was once active on both the UK and American
               | sphere of twitter and I feel the American side of it is
               | much worse. It's fine to not go further and just
               | acknowledge different people have different experiences.
               | We don't have to go fetch studies that take ages to read
               | fully and to critically examine just to justify every
               | opinion we have, especially when there's probably just as
               | many studies pointing to the opposite.
        
               | isoskeles wrote:
               | Why didn't you post this reply one comment up?
        
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           | Loughla wrote:
           | I find that interesting, especially for countries like Korea
           | or Japan. The stereotype of those cultures is sort of
           | passive, and accepting of the status quo. And yet, when
           | anonymous, the fangs come out, if not even more pointed.
           | 
           | I'm sure there's something there, but I'm not a social
           | scientist. Anyone with experience in sociology/psychology
           | have an idea what that's about?
        
             | elzbardico wrote:
             | I always thought that the more you repress aggression and
             | competition, specially in human males, the more it will end
             | up being expressed anyway, but in bursts or in passive-
             | aggressive ways. Of course, this is just a personal
             | hypothesis.
        
               | JohnWhigham wrote:
               | This is self-evident, especially in the West. Girls are
               | getting further and further ahead in education because
               | they are obedient, and not unruly and full of energy like
               | boys. And no one gives a shit. It's instead touted as
               | some victory for feminism or something.
        
               | joeberon wrote:
               | Unfortunately that bites them with a lack of confidence
               | and taking risks in the future. However that is mainly
               | due to patriarchy and internalised misogyny in my
               | experience.
        
               | orangepurple wrote:
               | It may also be elevated self-doubt when doing something
               | logically sound but overall risky over an extended period
               | without social validation, and not patriarchy or
               | misogyny.
        
               | joeberon wrote:
               | Why would that affect women more than men?
        
               | Chris2048 wrote:
               | Problem is that the "feminist" label is so simplistic as
               | to miss all nuance ala: all that is "good for women" is
               | "feminist".
               | 
               | Is being successful in school good? yes. Is being
               | successful in later life good? yes.
               | 
               | So you cannot consider the "successful school dropout".
               | "risk taking" is the missed nuance, or "it has to get
               | worse before it gets better"/"break a bone to set the
               | leg" etc. Instead you have the only "feminist" path as
               | (cherry-picked populations of) girls doing well in school
               | _and_ successes later in life, even if those don 't
               | necessarily/naturally correlate.
               | 
               | If you really wanted to capture that nuance, you need the
               | kind of discussions Jordan Peterson has wrt
               | personality/behavioural traits and their impacts on
               | differences in outcomes; but you can clearly see how much
               | hostility (in the name of feminism) he receives for that.
               | 
               | The funny thing is how he's accused of (sex/gender)
               | essentialism, even if backed by stats/data, despite the
               | advocated feminist alternatives being _also_ full of
               | essentialism (and just-so narratives), just ones seen as
               | more culturally palatable.
        
             | dartharva wrote:
             | >The stereotype of those cultures is sort of passive, and
             | accepting of the status quo. And yet, when anonymous, the
             | fangs come out, if not even more pointed.
             | 
             | I think _because_ can be a better replacement for _yet_ in
             | this sentence. Repression very often leads to higher
             | intensity.
        
             | joeberon wrote:
             | I think it's precisely because of that collectivism, which
             | leads to much harsher punishment of outliers.
        
               | kelseyfrog wrote:
               | Hmm, I always thought conformity-culture was the cause of
               | social accountability of outliers. My go to example for
               | this is the highly individual valuing, yet Patagonia vest
               | wearing finance bros. Conformity without collectivism.
               | It's a thing and it's much more insidious than the
               | collectivism-conformity script we got growing up.
        
               | ekianjo wrote:
               | Yes, accurate, with tacit approval of the masses, too.
               | Which makes things even worse.
        
             | taneq wrote:
             | John Gabriel's Greater Internet F*&kwad Theory explains it
             | succinctly (language warning): https://i.kym-
             | cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/325/699/4fc...
        
         | aidenn0 wrote:
         | > Mentioned were things like stripping others naked, throwing
         | away their clothes, burning their stuff, hitting them with
         | sticks, spitting among other horrible things.
         | 
         | All of these things happened to at least one person I know
         | growing up in the US.
        
         | ekianjo wrote:
         | > Does someone here have any experience with japanese school
         | life?
         | 
         | No direct experience but heard stories of bullying of children
         | of friends/colleagues living in Japan and that was scary
         | enough.
        
         | tkgally wrote:
         | My two daughters went through Japanese public schools in Tokyo
         | and Yokohama, and I now teach and do research about education-
         | related topics at a university in Tokyo. My research focus is
         | not student behavior, but I sometimes visit schools and I hear
         | a lot of anecdotes about elementary and secondary schools from
         | teachers and college students.
         | 
         | My impression is that, overall, the bullying is probably not
         | significantly worse than in other countries, but that perhaps
         | more media attention is focused on the issue than elsewhere.
         | There was a major moral panic in the mid-1980s about school
         | bullying, and the media continue to report regularly on
         | statistical trends and extreme incidents.
         | 
         | Anecdotally, there seems to be a lot of variation among
         | schools. More than one public school teacher has confided to me
         | about how different the kids are in different neighborhoods.
         | Japan may seem homogeneous, but there's a lot of local
         | variation by social class. In the tougher schools, there can be
         | fighting, stealing, and bullying, while in other schools that
         | might be practically unknown. Private schools can be very
         | different from public, too, and there are a lot of single-
         | gender schools, which have their own dynamics. Certain aspects
         | of Japanese culture, such as age-based hierarchies, may be
         | stronger or weaker or play out differently in different types
         | of schools as well.
        
         | csa wrote:
         | I lived in Japan for 8 years (not in Tokyo), and this sort of
         | stuff was very rare and often newsworthy.
         | 
         | I imagine it does happen, but more often than not at urban
         | school, at schools that are less academically oriented (e.g.,
         | construction high schools), and overall in lower socio-economic
         | areas. The abusers are probably from abusive families.
         | 
         | If you're in the burbs or the provincial parts of Japan,
         | bullying at this extreme level is very unlikely to happen. The
         | more common type of bullying is verbal abuse -- still bad, but
         | not like the examples you gave.
         | 
         | All that said, there is a form of hazing that is common in
         | Japan that would probably be considered abusive, and that's
         | with high school baseball clubs. The new players on the team
         | sometimes get boot camp-like treatment, and some folks (and
         | sometimes coaches) take it too far. It's theoretically all in
         | fun and/or character building, and there are often checks and
         | balances in place by the senior players, but I've heard some
         | stories. That said, I don't think that there are many baseball
         | players who would not do it again.
        
         | new299 wrote:
         | This is probably something that varies a lot by area but based
         | on my observations of elementary school students (who I've seen
         | the most of) and others. The situations you describe sound like
         | pretty strong outliers.
         | 
         | I would want to see pretty strong (non anecdotal) evidence to
         | think otherwise.
        
           | 2pEXgD0fZ5cF wrote:
           | Yeah it is always hard to get a proper picture of something
           | like actual school life based on one (or a few) articles when
           | in reality often not even parents of the children themselves
           | know what is really going on.
        
       | mathrall wrote:
       | This is alarming; Japan is already on the verge of a population
       | shortage as it's quite difficult for them to have children. Even
       | with the help of the Government's benefits, it doesn't suffice.
       | They should address this issue right away.
        
         | iamgopal wrote:
         | Last line can be applied to almost any problem, and can be seen
         | as a de-facto method for solving problem.
        
         | notsureaboutpg wrote:
         | Suicide and depression are incredibly difficult things for
         | anyone to address because they stem from unquantifiable things.
         | When people _feel_ like life is not worth living, despite
         | having so many material goods and most of their basic needs
         | taken care of, what is a government to do? Suicide and
         | depression are high in developed, stable countries. Many people
         | there have everything but feel there is no point to life. Our
         | cultures of extreme nihilism which deemphasize the worth of
         | human life are not something a government can fix even if
         | desired.
        
         | swutas wrote:
         | You think the problem with a child suicide spike is that it
         | might cause a population shortage??
        
         | sumedh wrote:
         | They can solve it with immigration but Japanese people
         | apparently dont like it.
        
           | rataata_jr wrote:
           | Japanese actually care about their people in this regard.
           | Lowest crime, and other good things...
        
           | inkblotuniverse wrote:
           | Importing foreigners isn't a solution, and besides, they
           | become infertile too (within a few generations) if they adopt
           | the local culture.
        
           | rabuse wrote:
           | Homogeneous societies seem to be more stable than ones with
           | cultural diversity. Change my mind.
        
       | webmobdev wrote:
       | I also remember reading that many murder cases are sometimes
       | intentionally or mistakenly re-classified as a suicide to close
       | it, because the Japanese police are under a lot of pressure to
       | maintain their high rate of solving cases.
       | 
       | Suicides in Japan perhaps have an additional attraction in that
       | insurance companies have to payout even if the cause of death is
       | suicide.
       | 
       | Couple that with the asian cultural pressure of taking care of
       | one's family, and the cultural factor that suicide on personal
       | failure is linked to honour and glorified in Japanese history, it
       | becomes somewhat understandable why some Japanese individuals may
       | find suicide as a reasonable / attractive option while
       | contemplating how to end their depressive existence.
       | 
       |  _Japan 's suicide statistics don't tell the real story_ -
       | https://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2013/02/03/national/media-...
        
       | ajsnigrutin wrote:
       | I've seen a few pop-documentaries about children in japan (and
       | korea and china), where they show kids leaving their home at
       | early hours, then doing a lot of work in school, then afterschool
       | scholwork, aditional lectures, and then they come home at late
       | night hours, sleep, and repeat.
       | 
       | I'm not sure how much of this is true and/or a stereotype, but
       | even elsewhere, i've seen parents overcrowding their kids
       | (school)work schedules (+extracurricular activities) to absurd
       | amounts, where the kids can't handle it anymore.
       | 
       | This is in comparison to my childhood, where pretty much everyone
       | had school from 8-until somewhere between noon and 2pm (depending
       | on the year), and after that we pretty much just "went out" and
       | did "stupid kid stuff" (mostly hanging out)
        
         | simonh wrote:
         | My kids are Anglo-Chinese, they went to school there for
         | literally a few days so I don't have personal experience, but a
         | friend's son went to school in China until he was about 10 I
         | think and is now in school here in the UK.
         | 
         | His son thinks school in the UK is ridiculously easy. His
         | teachers think he's amazing because he always hands in work
         | early, it's always very neat and well done, he started off well
         | ahead of kids his own age in maths and the sciences that are in
         | common with Chinese schooling. The work ethic he learned there
         | is working very well for him.
         | 
         | Having said that, my friend particularly wanted his son to come
         | here for secondary education. The system over there is
         | excessively regimented and oppressive. Education here is much
         | broader with more scope for creativity and extra-curricular
         | activities. They're very different systems.
        
           | tikkabhuna wrote:
           | Anecdote from my visit to Beijing. We stayed in a guesthouse
           | type place with a courtyard in the middle. A child around 7-8
           | was doing homework with her mum until 9/10pm while we played
           | cards and drank beer.
           | 
           | As a kid I would have been playing games or watching TV at
           | that time.
        
           | joeberon wrote:
           | What I don't understand is that if you look at the
           | performance of Chinese academics it isn't particularly
           | exceptional compared to those who had lazy upbringings in the
           | west. Surely they should be basically superhuman in their
           | academic achievements? I am extremely lazy, and had a very
           | crappy lazy school experience, even at British university,
           | and yet I was not significantly worse than my Chinese
           | clearly-a-genius PhD supervisor. In fact I do not see any
           | particular difference in research quality or output when
           | comparing people who had intense school careers to those who
           | had easy and laid back ones. Somehow the intense academic
           | training in those countries does not seem to translate into
           | actual research output.
        
             | dustintrex wrote:
             | The point of all the studying is to ace the entrance exams,
             | not learn anything about research or original thinking. At
             | least in Japan, once you're actually in the university, you
             | can pretty much slack off for the next four year until you
             | graduate and face the next grueling phase of your life,
             | becoming a junior salaryman.
        
             | runeblaze wrote:
             | One popular explanation is usually the scarcity of
             | educational resources in China. In China, you work really
             | hard so that you can out-exam the other students so that
             | you can get into some decent college. The gist is that
             | China has limited higher-educational resource (so graduates
             | on average do not come out that well) and a large
             | population base (so people really need to work hard to
             | fight for the little resource).
        
             | whoevercares wrote:
             | It's more statistically significant- check how Chinese
             | names dominated CV conferences
        
               | joeberon wrote:
               | Different fields always have different nationalities
               | dominating though. You could easily say "look how
               | Italians dominate astrophysics" but that doesn't
               | necessarily mean anything.
        
             | jkhdigital wrote:
             | Compulsory education is all about the median student, not
             | the outliers. I suspect that performance at the top end of
             | the curve, i.e. people who tend to get PhDs and become
             | professors, is influenced much more by personality and
             | graduate-level educational experiences.
        
             | simonh wrote:
             | For all it's apparent advantages, the Chinese education
             | system also has some pretty deep flaws. A family friend in
             | China is the head of the Computer Science department at a
             | local university. This was a few years ago, but he told me
             | none of their graduates ever, as part of their studies,
             | actually compile and run any code. They are taught java,
             | algorithms and theory but no practical exercises, it's all
             | on paper. That's not necessarily true of every institution,
             | I've met some great coders from China, but they're mostly
             | self taught.
             | 
             | Also even if you had the best students, they are
             | constrained by the institutions they are in and the
             | experience of their professors. It takes generations to
             | develop deep institutional experience and culture. They
             | know this, and expend a lot of effort trying to get
             | experienced Chinese academics that have studied abroad in
             | western institutions to come back to China.
        
               | Vrondi wrote:
               | We see this among students who come to American
               | universities from certain parts of Asia: serious
               | knowledge of syntax, but not able to navigate the OS, use
               | the IDE, or compile the code. I've heard this same
               | scenario of learning programming on paper from multiple
               | countries.
               | 
               | And, also, if you know the syntax of a few languages
               | cold, but you have no creative practice at problem-
               | solving, are lacking foundational computer science
               | concepts and practice, then by the time you are in
               | college or grad school, another language may have come
               | along, while you may have to struggle to apply existing
               | knowledge and creativity to new tools (which is the point
               | of a CS degree).
               | 
               | Some students have no mental toolkit to rely on other
               | than brute force memorizing the syntax of a new language.
               | The difference is highly noticeable, even at a low level
               | of college work.
        
         | yodsanklai wrote:
         | who was taking care of you in the afternoon?
        
           | ajsnigrutin wrote:
           | For younger kids (6, 7, 8yo), there was "afternoon care" in
           | school where they did their homework and then went outside to
           | the school playgound and played with stuff. For older ones,
           | they went home after school, and stay there, or go out, and
           | parents usually came home at 3, 4 in the afternoon. For even
           | older ones (13 14, 15,..), they usually stay at home until
           | the parents come home, and then go out again.
        
             | germinalphrase wrote:
             | Would you mind sharing general region and decide for
             | context?
             | 
             | My American Midwestern childhood was largely similar in the
             | late 90's, but I still had one parent at home full time.
        
       | ekianjo wrote:
       | One things that's missing from this article is that the familial
       | context is not there to support children in Japan. Before COVID,
       | kids are expected to spend most of the waking life at school or
       | in the school context (they even have activity clubs in the
       | weekends, at school, and cram schools after school pretty much
       | everyday).
       | 
       | The day COVID hit, children were suddenly brought back to stay at
       | home in an environment where parents were never used to having
       | them around.
        
       | Markoff wrote:
       | Japan's education ministry says its latest annual survey shows
       | the number of schoolchildren who killed themselves topped 400 for
       | the first time. Also, a record high of over 190,000 students of
       | elementary and junior high schools stopped attending.
       | 
       | The ministry conducts an annual survey of elementary, junior and
       | senior high schools, and schools for special needs education
       | across the country. It covers bullying, truancy and suicides
       | among students.
       | 
       | On Wednesday, the ministry published the results of its survey
       | conducted for the 2020 school year.
       | 
       | The results show a record-high 415 children killed themselves in
       | the year through March. That's up nearly 100 from the previous
       | school year. Seven of the students were in elementary school, 103
       | in junior high and 305 in senior high.
       | 
       | The number of elementary and junior high school students who were
       | absent for 30 days or more was 196,127. That's up nearly 15,000
       | from the previous year and a record high.
       | 
       | The rate of children who were absent has also been on the rise.
       | The rate for elementary children increased threefold over the
       | past ten years, to one out of 100. The rate for junior high was
       | one out of 24, up 50 percent.
       | 
       | The survey also looked into the number of children who stopped
       | attending school due to concerns over coronavirus infection.
       | 
       | It shows the total of 30,287 elementary, junior high and senior
       | high school students were absent for 30 days or more due to such
       | concerns.
       | 
       | Eguchi Arichika, student affairs division chief at the ministry,
       | says the results show that changes in school and household
       | environments due to the pandemic have had a huge impact on
       | children's behavior, and that the increase in the number of
       | suicides is very regrettable.
       | 
       | The official adds that the ministry will work to encourage
       | children to seek help, and to ensure learning opportunities for
       | children who cannot attend school.
        
       | dartharva wrote:
       | It's so hard to not feel sentimental about this. Suffering to
       | such a degree that you you take your own life is the most
       | horrible way to go, and it's beyond heartbreaking that children
       | are going through this. And the 415 kids are the ones who went
       | through with it, who knows how many thousands go struggling for
       | finding their will to live every day. Japan, and all other
       | countries where this is an issue, need severe and disruptive
       | interventions urgently.
        
       | giantg2 wrote:
       | I wonder how these correlate to parental success status. It seems
       | the culture wants children to be successful. Children sometimes
       | compare themselves with or view it as a competition with parents.
       | Ones with high successful parents sometime lose hope of being
       | better/successful (see a bunch of boys of successful male actors
       | of the past).
        
       | tamaharbor wrote:
       | Coronavirus aside, I wonder how many of these deaths are related
       | to TikTok, Facebook, and Twitter use.
        
         | agent327 wrote:
         | You are being voted down, but I can think of little as harmful
         | as the open sewer that is unfiltered social media, especially
         | to younger people that haven't yet learned not to take it all
         | personally.
        
           | EricE wrote:
           | I grew up in the era of dialup, BBS's and USENET - and it did
           | warp my perceptions a little. I can't imagine how being
           | exposed to social media as an adolescent - or younger - could
           | have seriously screwed up my perceptions of society.
           | 
           | Elsewhere someone sarcastically asked about video games - if
           | 1/10th the concern that was shown in the 80's and 90's over
           | video games towards social media I think we all would be
           | having a much different conversation.
           | 
           | I dunno why up until recently social media has been pretty
           | much getting a pass. It's nice to see at least some
           | discussion of it, especially in relation to kids, showing up
           | in more places. I'm always amazed and somewhat appalled by
           | how many of my peers I see just hand over phones or tablets
           | to their kids to occupy them. At least in the past when
           | parents parked kids in front of the TV it was one way and
           | limited to fairly "safe" content.
           | 
           | Ha - after having typed that it sure makes the concerns
           | voiced over TV in the past feel very, very quaint in
           | comparison. Something I really hadn't considered before now.
        
         | prepend wrote:
         | This is the kind of stuff that should be possible and valuable
         | to study but requires TikTok, Facebook, etc to run the study
         | since the data is all on their servers.
         | 
         | I expect that the analysis has been done internally and just
         | not released since it's bad (ie, social media use is higher
         | among suicides). Maybe a whistleblower will leak this stuff.
         | 
         | I think an analysis is possible by building off their typical
         | drop off analysis. I think that because I expect all drop offs
         | are likely analyzed to restart and avoid future drop offs. So I
         | expect they have a way to classify people who died vs left the
         | platform.
         | 
         | In the US we release a "death master file" that has names, dob,
         | ssn a few years after death. If Japan has something similar it
         | can be run against account holder data to see who actually
         | died. I don't know privacy law in Japan, but in the US cause of
         | death is confidential. So we just know that a kid died and
         | would need to predict cause of death from social media
         | activity.
         | 
         | With this low number, they could be investigated manually to
         | see how many children had accounts and what patterns exist in
         | common.
        
         | srvmshr wrote:
         | ex-Adtech engineer living in Japan.
         | 
         | You'd be surprised how many horror stories I have encountered
         | about teenage girls commiting suicides due to peer pressure,
         | credit card loans & inability to keep up with fashion trends.
        
         | nivenkos wrote:
         | What about drugs, and video games, and Satan worship?
        
           | Taywee wrote:
           | Not everything is puritanical pearl clutching. Some things
           | are actually measurably bad for you. Comparing any old
           | criticism of something as unhealthy to the satanic panic and
           | conservative anti video game pushes isn't helpful at all, and
           | doesn't really make much of an argument.
        
             | inkblotuniverse wrote:
             | I could imagine video games making someone's life worse.
             | They're addictive and mostly non-productive.
        
           | mensetmanusman wrote:
           | Satan worship is in jest, but it's interesting the root word
           | for Satan, the devil, diablos (diabolos) describes the
           | 'spirit of division' in human societies.
           | 
           | Worshiping conflict would aptly describe social media in many
           | areas, so the ancients were on to something :)
        
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