[HN Gopher] The Mom Test - How to talk to customers
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       The Mom Test - How to talk to customers
        
       Author : jack335
       Score  : 427 points
       Date   : 2021-09-27 05:44 UTC (17 hours ago)
        
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       | mthwsjc_ wrote:
       | It's a great book, I really enjoyed it. I made some concise notes
       | on each chapter on my blog https://johnmathews.is/mom-test.html
        
         | ekulianova wrote:
         | That's helpful, thanks!
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | These are really good notes as well thank you for sharing!
        
           | mthwsjc_ wrote:
           | you are welcome :)
        
       | bpodgursky wrote:
       | The Mom Test, the entire book, is a couple hour read... honestly
       | if you have any interest at all in selling or building (or simply
       | work at a startup) it's worth reading the whole thing, and not a
       | summarized recap... the book itself is summarized.
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | You're completely right thats what I say as well. If you're
         | interested in this topic, read it it is barely 140 pages long.
         | But I think a summary can be a good intro and a good learning
         | for me as well :-)
        
       | macando wrote:
       | Best book on early stage startups period. And it's barely 100
       | pages long.
       | 
       | My favorite quote from it:
       | 
       |  _"Someone should definitely make an X!"
       | 
       | "Have you looked for an X?"
       | 
       | "No, why?"
       | 
       | "There are like 10 different kinds of X."
       | 
       | "Well I didn't really need it anyway."
       | 
       | Long story short, that person is a complainer, not a customer.
       | They're stuck in the la-la-land of imagining they're the sort of
       | person who finds clever ways to solve the petty annoyances of
       | their day._
        
         | sputr wrote:
         | I had a very similar experience starting a (new) political
         | party, of all things.
         | 
         | We had an "innovative" name, so we got loads of "You should
         | change your name to X" and "You're not getting elected because
         | you're named Z not Y".
         | 
         | Lots of my team was really worried about it. But I always told
         | them to ask these people if that's the reason why they are not
         | voting for us.
         | 
         | There were only two answers:
         | 
         | (1) "Nah, I'm still voting for you, but OTHER people MIGHT
         | not."
         | 
         | and
         | 
         | (2) "Nah, i would not vote for you even if you were named X or
         | Y"
         | 
         | It really taught me to stop assuming things.
        
           | jjoonathan wrote:
           | Yeah, I learned this one watching Soylent, the meal-
           | replacement drink: everyone was talking about it, saying how
           | awful the name was. It clearly wasn't a bad name, though,
           | because it made everyone talk about it, and nobody actually
           | mistook the real product for the fictional namesake.
        
             | Jiro wrote:
             | People make decisions at the margin. What you'll actually
             | get is that a lot of people will become a small percentage
             | less likely to buy it. Some of those people will be driven
             | over the edge, since they were just barely going to buy it
             | and now just barely weren't. But none of those people, when
             | asked, will tell you "the stupid name was why we didn't buy
             | it". At best they'll point to a lot of reasons of which the
             | name is only one. At worst, they'll just point to a general
             | sense of distrust that is 5% caused by the stupid name, and
             | not even be able to analyze their own motivations well
             | enough to answer the question.
             | 
             | In other words, "would you not buy/not vote because of this
             | problem" is a _bad method of analysis_ , and will tell you
             | that it had no effect when it actually did.
        
               | jjoonathan wrote:
               | Next to the wild success of the viral marketing campaign
               | that sliver of people is completely insignificant. I'm
               | sure the name _did_ push a few people over the edge, but
               | it pushed _everyone_ to spread the word. Sure, you could
               | postulate the existence of an alternative brand that was
               | equally viral without the negative connotations -- but
               | that would be nothing more than wishful thinking.
        
         | mritchie712 wrote:
         | You might like Traction [1] by DuckDuckGo's founder. It has a
         | similar no nonsense feel to it, but a broader scope of all
         | around growth. I liked it so much I built an app [2] around the
         | framework from in the book (with Gabriel's permission).
         | 
         | 1 - https://www.amazon.com/Traction-Startup-Achieve-Explosive-
         | Cu...
         | 
         | 2 - https://www.wax.run
        
           | macando wrote:
           | Traction is in my top 5 of non-fiction books.
           | 
           | [2] looks interesting
        
             | mritchie712 wrote:
             | Thanks! If you want to give it a try, I'd like to get your
             | feedback on the onboarding flow (it's still very new). Let
             | me know, I'm mike@wax.run
        
         | Cthulhu_ wrote:
         | > And it's barely 100 pages long.
         | 
         | I'd like to quote this and add kudos for that. There's a lot of
         | books that could be a blog post, needlessly padded out. 100
         | pages sounds a lot more manageable.
        
           | macando wrote:
           | Most non-fiction books could be long essays at best.
           | 
           | Books are usually padded with needless repetition and
           | anecdotes.
        
             | 12ian34 wrote:
             | Really agree with this. If you have time I'd appreciate to
             | hear some of your favourite high-value concise non-fiction
             | books of any discipline...?
        
               | pikrzyszto wrote:
               | a lot of scientific books are like that, for example the
               | art of computer programming.
        
               | macando wrote:
               | My other favorites are Traction, Peopleware and Made to
               | Stick. However, they are 230+ pages long. Pretty consise,
               | but I think they could have been shorter.
               | 
               | There aren't many non-fiction books that are 150p and
               | less. Hmmm
        
         | handrous wrote:
         | God, I get that one, unsolicited, All. The. Time. It may be the
         | only kind of unsolicited "idea for a product" I've ever gotten,
         | actually.
         | 
         | "You make apps? I have a great app idea that'll make you rich!
         | All of us in [profession] would use it! You see... [explains
         | idea].... It would save me hours every week and no one's done
         | it yet, for some reason!"
         | 
         | Me: _searches the App Store_ You mean like any of these first
         | five results that are all literally the exact thing you 're
         | describing, are targeted at your profession, and that you want
         | _sooooo_ much that you 've never even bothered to search for it
         | and plunk down _consults screen_ $14.99? "
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | snarf21 wrote:
           | So true. My experience is that those people have "one weird
           | requirement" that is unique to them that other tools don't
           | include so instead of getting 90% of the the performance
           | benefit, they'd rather complain and not change that one step.
           | What they really want is for you to automate their _exact_
           | current process. I had a friend of a friend pitch me
           | something like that and they had the whole  "and you can sell
           | it to everyone in our industry". There were upset when I
           | pointed out that no one else in that industry has their
           | specific process and requirements. They just wanted it for
           | free.
        
         | WalterBright wrote:
         | I had a conversation in the 90s with an acquaintance:
         | 
         | A: What the world really needs is a native Java compiler. That
         | would be really great! You should write one.
         | 
         | W: I wrote one for Symantec. You can buy it today.
         | 
         | A: I don't want it.
        
           | goohle wrote:
           | I don't want paid compiler too. Native compiler for Java for
           | Android exists (APK precompiler) and it's great.
           | 
           | It's possible to make good java compiler into native code and
           | then sell it to a big corp, but I'm not a big corp, so it's
           | good idea, but I'm not a target audience for it.
        
             | throwaway743 wrote:
             | Android was not around in the 90s
        
           | Torwald wrote:
           | He just wanted to be nice.
        
             | WalterBright wrote:
             | I wasn't angry with him, or even annoyed. I simply learned
             | long ago that people who don't have skin in the game rarely
             | give good game advice. People pitch me _all the time_ what
             | programs I should write.
             | 
             | I've written many products over the years, some were
             | successes, others were failures. A common thread has
             | emerged: all the failures were pitched by others. All the
             | successes were ones I wrote to please myself, and everyone
             | told me I was a unique snowflake and nobody else would want
             | it and I would fail.
        
               | macando wrote:
               | > I simply learned long ago that people who don't have
               | skin in the game rarely give good game advice.
               | 
               | This is highly quotable.
        
           | andi999 wrote:
           | I even did that to myself. I thought about a great product. I
           | was convinced, so I wanted to build it (it would also fulfill
           | my need). Of course then I did research if it already exists.
           | It did. I didn't want it.
        
             | jjoonathan wrote:
             | Yep. I've done that too.
        
         | phkahler wrote:
         | >> My favorite quote from it:
         | 
         | "Someone should definitely make an X!"
         | 
         | "Have you looked for an X?"
         | 
         | "No, why?"
         | 
         | Reminds me of the classic line and omition from the dating
         | world:
         | 
         | "He's a great guy, he'd make a great husband." ... for somebody
         | else.
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | Exactly! I think it is q bit over 100 pages (140) but still
         | really short. It was recommended so many times to me so I
         | really wanted to make a short summary.
         | 
         | The thing with separating complainers from customer is a great
         | learning as well. If you just see complainers maybe the problem
         | isn't that important ;)
        
           | macando wrote:
           | Correct. It's 136p long. I remember it as no more than 85p.
           | It's that good.
           | 
           | > If you just see complainers maybe the problem isn't that
           | important ;)
           | 
           | Good point.
        
       | ryanmarsh wrote:
       | If you have no sales skills, asking if someone would by it or how
       | much they'd pay merely soothes your ego.
       | 
       | If you understand what the customer needs, the customer has
       | money, and you know how to sell then you are going to make money.
       | If you have no sales skills then no amount of assurance will
       | result in sales.
       | 
       | I met a young founder who had an obviously bad business plan. I
       | asked if she had customers. She said "no, but businesses said
       | they'd buy it". I told her to go get a check from those
       | customers, refundable if she didn't deliver. Not one gave her
       | money. I'm sorry that wake up call came so late in development
       | for her.
        
       | golemotron wrote:
       | It's tragic that we have to resort to these techniques because
       | our culture has become so averse to offering honest feedback. It
       | wasn't always this way.
        
       | robfitz wrote:
       | Heya, author here. Fun to see this.
       | 
       | I wrote the book after becoming hugely frustrated as an
       | introverted technical founder trying to "talk to customers" but
       | finding zero books about sales/interviews/etc that spoke to my
       | context. That first company (yc s07) failed just as I started to
       | figure it all out, but the casual approach proved useful (and
       | comfortable) in my future businesses, so I wanted to document it
       | for other folks like me.
       | 
       | If it's helpful for anyone, I've been answering reader questions
       | with little youtube videos that touch on some of the common
       | misunderstanding and sticking points.[1]
       | 
       | Also, back when covid started, I also did a short series (5x 5min
       | videos) about adapting the approach to remote interviews.[2]
       | 
       | [1] Q&A:
       | https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLvHabB7atz2uWPZN5m7z3...
       | 
       | [2] Remote:
       | https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLvHabB7atz2tOjQs1OMzj...
        
         | moosebear847 wrote:
         | As an author of the book that's summarized, how do you feel
         | about in-depth summaries of your book in terms of it affecting
         | sales and providing publicity? I've always wondered how authors
         | feel about it.
        
           | robfitz wrote:
           | I always love summaries that are publicly posted (like this
           | one, no matter how detailed), and I only dislike the
           | (relatively rare) ones that are repackaged as "new" books on
           | Amazon and then resold at a profit (it feels bad in general,
           | but especially since I already work pretty hard to make my
           | books as short as possible).
           | 
           | My feeling has always been that if a book _can_ be
           | sufficiently summarized in a blog post, then it _should_ be a
           | blog post ;). And if someone reads the summary and fully
           | "gets it," they probably would have been frustrated by the
           | full book, since they probably already had a lot of the
           | foundational knowledge in place. So it's better if they don't
           | buy it in the first place. And different people will read the
           | summary, want the extra detail, and grab the full book, which
           | is great too.
           | 
           | Even with piracy of the full book (which is currently #1 on
           | google for various fairly guessable searches), I still feel
           | that it ends up coming back to me via word of mouth. Piracy
           | probably hurts "bad" books that are propped up by PR, but it
           | definitely helps books that people find useful, since they
           | end up recommending it to other folks who may pay.
        
           | gkkirilov wrote:
           | There is a great summary of the book at the end of it.
           | 
           | I revisit it often
        
         | shoto_io wrote:
         | Hey there! I am big fan. Thanks for the book.
         | 
         | Just a tiny recommendation: Could you sync the Kindle book with
         | the audible book? I love buying both and read the book while I
         | am listening to it. That would be awesome!
        
         | jwr wrote:
         | It's a great book. "The meeting went well" became a routinely
         | used phrase in my circles :-) (read the book to understand what
         | that really means!)
        
         | kenjackson wrote:
         | Thank you for this. I did have one question about the Mom Test.
         | How do you actually do solution validation? I get that you talk
         | about the problem, but at what point do you actually get
         | feedback if the solution that you want to build (or have built)
         | is going to be a solution for the customer?
        
           | robfitz wrote:
           | If the problem is well-defined, you can get a fairly strong
           | signal on intent-to-purchase by asking for commitments (i.e.,
           | time, reputation, money, or secrets about an enterprise
           | buying process). You start with the smallest ones (weakest
           | signal but easiest to ask for early) and then move up toward
           | money (and eventually full price) as you make progress with
           | the overall business.
           | 
           | But if the problem is undefined/unknown (like much future
           | tech), or if the product is a nice-to-have or "10x
           | improvement" (like many B2C apps or UX improvements), then
           | you basically have to validate via a prototype (or some other
           | sort of creative v1).
           | 
           | (You can still do your discovery/understanding via
           | conversation in either case, of course.)
        
         | tmarice wrote:
         | Looking forward to reading the book, looks great.
         | 
         | Just a small technical issue: I just tried to buy the book on
         | http://momtestbook.com/ via Gumroad, and Chrome refuses to
         | autofill the credit card number in the Gumroad widget because
         | the site is http-only. I circumvented that by copying the link
         | from the "Buy on Gumroad" button, but it might be hurting your
         | sales. Consider adding SSL certificate or just make the button
         | click open the Gumroad site.
        
           | robfitz wrote:
           | You're totally right -- it's one of those things that's
           | always on the list but never feels like the day's top
           | priority, and then one day you wake up and it's on HN and you
           | feel like a dummy ;). Probably some sort of lesson for me to
           | learn here.
           | 
           | (If anyone else needs it, the direct/secure gumroad PDF link
           | is https://gum.co/momtest, and the paperback/ebook are on
           | Amazon.)
        
             | wwarek wrote:
             | I'd just like to add, and it was important for me, that
             | gumroad also has epub and mobi, not only PDF. I've almost
             | skipped buying the book because mobi was supposedly only
             | available on Amazon. Fortunately I clicked on gumroad just
             | to find out that epub and mobi are also there.
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | I think you really hit a frustration of many people :D Thanks
         | for the book and your work Rob!
        
         | goohle wrote:
         | I'm introvert myself (INTP). I share your frustration. Maybe
         | you have some business hints for introverts? AFAIK, the only
         | successful Unicorn created by INTP's is Google, but I cannot
         | have a talk with Google founders, obviously.
        
           | robfitz wrote:
           | I think it depends very much on your goals. For me, after
           | going through YC with my first company and having a difficult
           | four years chasing scale, I realized that I was oriented more
           | toward lifestyle/reliability/freedom, and I've been fairly
           | focused on that for the last 10 years (although it really
           | only took a couple years to achieve once I was clear on my
           | goals, and has been pretty relaxed since then).
           | 
           | So with that caveat out of the way, my top-of-mind career
           | advice for entrepreneurial introverts is:
           | 
           | 1 // Learning how to talk to (and listen to) people is
           | probably the highest-leverage career skill you'll ever learn,
           | even if you only go from "terrible" to "functional." There's
           | a tremendous amount of discomfort while learning it, but that
           | discomfort is temporary. I'll never "like" talking to
           | strangers, and I'll always need to manage my energy levels,
           | context, and recovery time. That being said, the ability to
           | do so when useful to my career (like custdev or sales or
           | fundraising) or life (like making friends in a new city or
           | negotiating with an angry plumber) has been transformational.
           | The pain is temporary and the benefit is profound.
           | 
           | 2 // Journal each morning. Braindump your
           | frustrations/goals/fears onto paper. Your brain likely works
           | differently from most "successful" people, which means that
           | the common advice won't fully resonate with you, and you'll
           | need to chart more of your own path. This requires thinking,
           | and for a lot of introverts, writing is the clearest way to
           | think (but if you're different, use what works for you).
           | Similarly, run every piece of advice you hear (well, the
           | compelling bits anyway) through a personality filter,
           | normalize it for personality/context, and then decide whether
           | it's likely to be right you. Common example: "Go to that
           | conference and meet some customers!" Maybe that works for
           | other people, but it has a 0% chance of working for me. But
           | there's a valuable core concept to that advice (go engage
           | with new customers) that can perhaps be adjusted to a context
           | I'm comfortable in.
           | 
           | 3 // Cultivate relationships with strong potential cofounders
           | long before you need them. You'll never be as quick on the
           | draw in conversation as others, so you need the important
           | relationships built ahead of time. For potential cofounders
           | (the most important network available), the way to do that is
           | by collaborating on small, time-constrained side projects.
           | Allows both parties to evaluate what each other bring to
           | table outside of an "urgent" situation, and without relying
           | on quick talking.
           | 
           | 4 // Don't let anyone press you into "right now" negotiations
           | or decisions. Use live conversations to gather data, and then
           | use your time alone to process it and come to a decision
           | about next steps. Repeat if necessary. Nobody will give you
           | this time by default, but nobody will deny it to you once you
           | ask (and if they do, you probably shouldn't work with them
           | anyway).
           | 
           | There's probably more, that's just top of mind, but it's what
           | feels important to my brain right now.
        
             | corobo wrote:
             | Not the original parent but thankful you've posted that!
             | Nice one :)
        
         | marcus_holmes wrote:
         | Your book changed my life. Seriously, good work, keep it up :)
         | 
         | I tried getting my co-founder (a serious old-skool sales guy)
         | to read it, but he refused because he didn't need to be told
         | anything about sales. Then he made exactly all the mistakes you
         | talk about in the book when talking to our prospects. It was my
         | first clue that maybe having a good salesperson as co-founder
         | wasn't going to be the great experience I was anticipating. 2
         | years later the project died because we didn't get any
         | customers.
         | 
         | I recommend the book to everyone now. If they don't immediately
         | go "this is awesome!" then I'm suspicious ;)
        
           | c152driver wrote:
           | Do you think this book would be good for a sales engineer
           | inside a larger organization?
        
         | gkkirilov wrote:
         | The summary is the pure love. Thank you!
        
         | macando wrote:
         | I wish more authors could adopt your zero-fluff-all-insights
         | approach.
         | 
         | Thank you for writing the book, I recommended it many times.
        
           | robfitz wrote:
           | Funny you should mention it, that's (part of) the topic of my
           | latest, about designing nonfiction like a problem-solving
           | product (won't plug it here since it's off-topic, but easy
           | enough to find).
           | 
           | Too many authors seem to forget that readers pay for every
           | book twice: once with the cover price and then again with
           | their time.
           | 
           | (And for most business/tech books, the second price is orders
           | of magnitude more costly than the first.)
           | 
           | Anyway, happy it has proven useful and many thanks for the
           | support.
        
             | macando wrote:
             | > And for most business/tech books, the second price is
             | orders of magnitude more costly than the first.
             | 
             | Couldn't agree more.
             | 
             | The idea is great. Lean books should be a thing.
        
         | yoaviram wrote:
         | Thank you Rob! I've been advising startups for many years now.
         | I consider your book to be the only mandatory reading for a
         | first time enrapture, ever since i picked it up about 5 years
         | ago. I'm going to order another copy as I've given mind away,
         | (again).
        
         | asdev wrote:
         | Hey Rob, do you have some resources on B2C businesses? For
         | example starting something like Facebook or TikTok? I noticed
         | that most of the Mom Test seems geared more towards B2B though
         | some of the insights can be extrapolated to B2C as well
        
           | robfitz wrote:
           | The short version is basically:
           | 
           | 1. You can still do full "discovery" (i.e., understanding
           | what they're already doing and why, decision-making, current
           | workarounds, etc.), which gives you a better foundation of
           | understanding from which to come up with product ideas
           | 
           | 2. But it's MUCH harder to do conversation-only "validation"
           | (i.e., getting confirmation that they're going to buy and use
           | your specific thing before it exists)
           | 
           | So in B2C (and also if building something deep into the
           | future, like 3D Printing), you basically do your discovery as
           | normal and then skip the commitments/validation, jump
           | straight to a quick prototype, and follow the normal
           | iterative product-first learning approach.
           | 
           | A couple Q&A videos (<5min each) that might be relevant:
           | 
           | - You can't learn everything, but can learn more than
           | nothing: https://youtu.be/O16IefIu1zc
           | 
           | - Situations where you need a prototype to keep learning:
           | https://youtu.be/EZGiaIxB0HA
           | 
           | - Traps and solutions to 'nice-to-have' validation:
           | https://youtu.be/yxQoRp01HuQ
        
         | tishha wrote:
         | Great idea! Thank you for the book
        
         | lcrz wrote:
         | Could you please not hijack clicking on text on your website?
         | That's extremely unfriendly to visitors.
        
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         | sharps_xp wrote:
         | Hey Rob,
         | 
         | Please release that book on dating. Not that I'm interested in
         | the topic, but I'm more interested in reading something
         | entertaining.
        
       | revorad wrote:
       | Rob's book is fantastic. I remember reading a very early version
       | when it first came out. I'm very pleased to see that it has
       | steadily become more popular over the years.
       | 
       | Another great new book on the same topic is Deploy Empathy by
       | Michele Hansen. Michele goes even deeper with lots of practical
       | tips, scripts, and templates. I highly recommend it, especially
       | if you liked The Mom Test - https://deployempathy.com.
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | Cool will definitely add it to my list. Thanks!
        
       | hbeckpdx wrote:
       | Naming something "The Mom Test" in the current political
       | environment is a choice.
        
         | newsbinator wrote:
         | Is there any combination of words in the English language for a
         | book title "in the current political environment" that would be
         | beyond reproach?
        
           | thaumasiotes wrote:
           | _I Wrote This Book_
           | 
           | There are many options.
        
             | bzbarsky wrote:
             | "Centering yourself at the expense of the many others who
             | contributed to the production and distribution of the book.
             | Many of whom are PoC, you racist pig."
             | 
             | Seriously, intelligent people who want to find fault with
             | something can usually do it, given a flexible-enough fault-
             | finding toolset. Which we have.
        
               | thaumasiotes wrote:
               | No worries; I made sure to run through a publisher who
               | exclusively employs whites.
        
         | Ultcyber wrote:
         | well, not all people live in the US
        
         | maxwellburson wrote:
         | Why?
        
           | michaelt wrote:
           | The risk hbeckpdx fears is:
           | 
           | 1. Someone hasn't read the book and only glanced at the
           | title.
           | 
           | 2. That someone assumes the book says "test things on your
           | mom, because there's nobody less tech-savvy than an older
           | woman, yo momma so dumb she thinks a hamburger menu is
           | something you get at McDonalds"
           | 
           | 3. That someone, hoping to be an ally in the fight against
           | gender and age discrimination in tech, takes offence at what
           | they imagine the book says.
           | 
           | 4. A mob of people who also haven't read the book destroy
           | your career.
           | 
           | Of course, we've got like 4 levels of hypothetical here -
           | you're reading me, putting words into hbeckpdx's mouth, who
           | is imagining an easily offended third party, who is imagining
           | the contents of the book, which they imagine is offensive to
           | a hypothetical mom. Whether you agree with hbeckpdx that this
           | is a reasonable thing to fear is another question....
        
             | selcuka wrote:
             | > she thinks a hamburger menu is something you get at
             | McDonalds
             | 
             | That's not incorrect though.
        
             | iamstupidsimple wrote:
             | Call it the 'dad test' then. Or even the 'sibling test' -
             | because they're probably not technology experts.
             | 
             | It literally means 'regular person test'...
        
               | newsbinator wrote:
               | Who are you calling a regular person? As if other people
               | aren't regular? How dare you. /s
               | 
               | If somebody wants to be offended by combinations of
               | words, no combination of words will deter them.
        
               | jhgb wrote:
               | Honestly, neither "mom test", "dad test", or "regular
               | person test" gives me any idea whatsoever what this might
               | be about.
        
               | louisswiss wrote:
               | > It literally means 'regular person test'...
               | 
               | The whole point is that it _doesn 't_ mean "regular
               | person test'...
               | 
               | It means "person who isn't the target customer and who
               | probably cares about you too much to give unbiased
               | feedback" test.
        
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             | thaumasiotes wrote:
             | > yo momma so dumb she thinks a hamburger menu is something
             | you get at McDonalds
             | 
             | I think this says more about the intelligence of the person
             | who decided that Ks is obviously a picture of a hamburger.
        
               | jjoonathan wrote:
               | I'm pretty sure that was the point, yes.
        
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         | yololol wrote:
         | Why? It is still true. Maybe in the future it won't be, but
         | currently 99.99% of moms in this planet are not tech savvy,
         | whether we like it or not. Remember that moms being born in the
         | 1930s are still out there - not everything written has some
         | hidden political intention. As we move forward, if more women
         | happen to get interested into technology, this might change.
         | But until then, jumping on someone for the sake of political
         | correctness - because there may be a tech-savvy mom somewhere
         | out there that you decided to defend, or because it shouldn't
         | be true in your ideal world - is toxic. And as you see people
         | are downvoting you for being this kind of person.
        
         | khazhoux wrote:
         | Is "is a choice" something the kids are saying these days?
         | Never heard that expression.
         | 
         | At any rate, at first I was worried that this was a sexist-
         | agist reference, but in fact it's not at all. "Mom" is just
         | used to represent someone who doesn't want to hurt your
         | feelings.
        
           | jack335 wrote:
           | Exactly in this case "Mom" just refers to a person who
           | doesn't want to hurt your feelings and just tells you that
           | every idea is awesome ;)
        
           | klipt wrote:
           | The idea that mom (but not dad?) will lie to you in order not
           | to hurt your feelings surely reflects biases about gender
           | (aka sexism, albeit a mild form).
           | 
           | The non biased version would use "parent" not "mom".
        
           | glenngillen wrote:
           | Yep. I thought the same thing originally, and then realized
           | it's nothing of the sort. That I so quickly jumped to that
           | assumption says more about me than the author :(
        
       | b20000 wrote:
       | what is better than talking to customers is shutting up and
       | watching them. they will tell you X and then do Y.
        
       | lbriner wrote:
       | There have been a handful of books like this that I think are so
       | key and probably not very contraversial but then I see so many
       | companies who fail because they don't approach things in this way
       | - perhaps they don't know about the book, perhaps they think they
       | know better etc.
       | 
       | It would be great imho to replace the venerable but probably
       | overpriced and ineffective MBA with a modern equivalent that
       | takes on board the sort of training and experience you would get
       | from places like YC, some of the well known investors etc. so
       | that we would end up with something that we could say, "if you
       | want to start a business, you really need to go on this course".
       | 
       | It could be distance/part-time/whatever but it would ensure that
       | business people have the correct skills and tools for the job so
       | that they give themselves the biggest chance of success.
        
       | chegra wrote:
       | I did a summary of my own here:
       | https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-the-mom-test-by-rob-fit...
       | 
       | Well more like highlights that I found interesting. It is
       | definitely on my top list of books for entrepreneurship. You
       | should get a copy and read at least once a year, very insightful.
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | That is a nice idea of a summary and highlights as well. I
         | thought about visualising the final cheat sheet as well :)
        
       | sseppola wrote:
       | Talking to Humans is another great book in this genre. Short and
       | succinct, with useful examples.
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | Cool thanks will definitely take a look +1
        
       | b20000 wrote:
       | this assumes that your business can only succeed if you solve a
       | problem. you don't need to solve a problem to make a lot of
       | money. people buy things they don't need all the time. all you
       | need to do is make something they want and whether they want to
       | pay for it. this might not need any conversation with customers
       | at all.
        
       | muzani wrote:
       | The mom test is one of those books that have a lot of good
       | advice. Most summaries are quite bad and led me to think the book
       | itself was bad, but thankfully, this is a good one.
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | Thank you for that! I really recommend reading the whole thing
         | but I think a summary is really good to have as well. Rob did
         | an awesome job here :)
        
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       | iddan wrote:
       | The mom test is the product validation book I get the most
       | recommendations about. This is a lovely summary of it
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | Yes me too. It was recommend so often that I thought creating a
         | summary is a good idea ;-)
        
       | mlang23 wrote:
       | Although not quite the same, this reminds me of a very simple
       | trick many blind people are taught during training on how to
       | navigate the city: Never _ever_ ask  "Is this line 4" if you want
       | to know which tram just arrived. Ask "which line is this?" Simply
       | because the first version will make many people answer "yeah
       | yeah" without even looking. The second version forces them to
       | actually answer your question with something other then yes/no.
        
         | alistairSH wrote:
         | Also applies to buying used cars and other high value things.
         | 
         | Has it been regularly serviced?
         | 
         | Vs
         | 
         | Where do you take it for service? What date was it's last major
         | service?
        
         | WesolyKubeczek wrote:
         | Also if there is no PA on public transport vehicles that
         | announces which line it is as it's approaching the stop, and
         | it's a city, not a small town or village, it's quite a shitty
         | city to be living in. Consider moving elsewhere.
         | 
         | If they can't get their accessibility shit right, no way
         | they're going to have working snow plows in winter. Also the
         | underground canals are gonna be so clogged that a mildly heavy
         | rain will create fucking lakes and rivers on the streets.
        
           | mlang23 wrote:
           | I get your attitude, but I can't confirm. For one, I am not
           | sure if you actually realize how much work it is to learn to
           | navigate your environment blind in a city. Even if there is
           | no PA, asking is a million times simpler then moving to
           | another city, because, you know, if you move, you have to
           | start _all over again_ and will need at least a year until
           | you can somewhat move freely in that new city again. Also,
           | where I come from we are pretty used to snow. Its not quite
           | far up north, but our snow plowing infrastructure works, and
           | flooding isn 't a common event either. So yeah, in general, I
           | am on your side, I'd love to have a PA. But the truth is, in
           | the two most largest cities in my country, there is none, so
           | I have to resort to either knowing which line arrives _where_
           | , or simply ask someone. I've gotten used to that. Also, I
           | have a certain feeling that involving random strangers in
           | accessibility issues is actually doing something for the
           | society. It forces people to deal with the issues disabled
           | people have.
        
         | astrobe_ wrote:
         | Can confirm from around 10 years of customer support
         | experience. Never ask close-ended question (yes/no), but open-
         | ended ones. That is "what is the color of the motherboard"
         | instead of "is the motherboard blue?".
         | 
         | As you and others pointed at out, this is a very general
         | principle. It comes from the fact that close-ended questions
         | sort of puts words in someone's mouth (the trick is sometimes
         | used when you want a poll to yield a specific result).
        
         | jiggawatts wrote:
         | This is a rule I heard for dealing with coworkers from some
         | other backgrounds as well. In some cultures, the established
         | norm is for junior staff to answer all boolean questions in the
         | affirmative.
         | 
         | As in:
         | 
         | "Have you completed the task?"
         | 
         | "Yes!" -- _no matter what_
         | 
         | If instead you ask for a project completion sign-off document,
         | you're forcing them to provide the answer you were actually
         | looking for.
        
           | moffkalast wrote:
           | Always ask string return questions, got it.
        
             | bronzecarnage wrote:
             | "Yes!"
        
         | beebeepka wrote:
         | Requiring a little effort makes quite a difference.
         | 
         | Case in point: https://youtube.com/watch?v=n3AGpvV7KLI
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | Oh wow sounds terrible to lie to a blind person but makes
         | totally sense.
        
           | WesolyKubeczek wrote:
           | It's not much a lie, it's more of a way to quickly get
           | someone to sod off. Still a shitty move.
        
           | Deestan wrote:
           | It's also misunderstanding the question, either due to being
           | stuck in thought of due to ambient noise. Absent-mindedly
           | understanding the question as "is this the train?" or
           | something would not surprise me.
           | 
           | A lot of people are also too afraid to say they don't
           | understand or hear you, and will just go "yeah yeah". It's
           | aggravating, but it's both real and no real ill intent behind
           | it.
        
       | rmnclmnt wrote:
       | Nice read thanks!
       | 
       | In the same vein of gathering good data and finding the
       | resonating solution to customers problems, Small Data[1] by
       | Martin Lindstrom is another great read with a sociological
       | approach, focused on branding but nonetheless on entrepreneurship
       | also.
       | 
       | [1] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Small_Data
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | Looks really interesting! Added it to my list, thanks :-)
        
       | crhutchins wrote:
       | I definitely recommend reading this one. It helped me how to talk
       | to my clients and also how to talk with other people. It totally
       | changes your perspective and how you tackle conversations.
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | Indeed. And you find yourself so often just talking about the
         | wrong things instead of really looking at the problem.
        
       | mpbeauj wrote:
       | From my experience, talking to customers in this weird screening,
       | problem focused way is always very awkward - but then again, I've
       | never found a real problem for people to solve so maybe it's just
       | my ideas and the test worked.
        
       | decasia wrote:
       | Some moms are software developers themselves. Without intending
       | to, I do think that this title tends to reinforce the widespread
       | assumption that programmers are men by default, while moms are,
       | at most, "customers."
       | 
       | A better title would just be "How to talk to customers."
       | 
       | Meta comment: It's intellectually unfortunate that there's so
       | much kneejerk hostility on HN to basic gender analysis. One's
       | understanding of the world is _enriched_ by thinking about how
       | gender roles work, so the hostility to gender analysis is
       | basically throwing away useful knowledge.
        
         | etskinner wrote:
         | I think the author's intention was to give people a quick way
         | to understand what they were talking about. I agree that it
         | would have been better if they said "The Mom and Dad Test" or
         | "The Parent Test". But I thought their analogy was very salient
         | and I understood it quickly.
        
         | wyager wrote:
         | The article is using "mom" as an example of a person who is
         | supportive and uncritical of you, not as an example of someone
         | who doesn't know what's going on.
        
         | rfrey wrote:
         | Any perceived hostility may come from your very uncharitable
         | read of the the title. The reference isn't _any_ mom, and there
         | isn 't any suggestion that moms can't be programmers or are
         | clueless in any way.
         | 
         | The reference is your _own_ mom, who will tell you that your
         | idea is great, even if it 's not. You're swinging at shadows.
        
         | decasia wrote:
         | As a point of method: We can and should distinguish "What the
         | author intended" from "what is the unintended side effect of
         | this use of language."
         | 
         | I'm explicitly not commenting on what the author intended to
         | mean by this title choice (yes, a "person who is uncritically
         | affirmative"). (I have absolutely no axe to grind with the
         | author either, just for the record!)
         | 
         | But generally speaking, it's fair to comment on the unintended
         | side effects of someone's use of language, because there are
         | always side effects when we use language. That's how language
         | is -- it exceeds our intentions, because it's a legacy tool
         | with generations of unexplored cultural baggage, to put it in
         | an idiom that software folks might appreciate.
        
         | yololol wrote:
         | > It's intellectually unfortunate that there's so much kneejerk
         | hostility on HN to basic gender analysis. One's understanding
         | of the world is enriched by thinking about how gender roles
         | work, so the hostility to gender analysis is basically throwing
         | away useful knowledge.
         | 
         | I hope this comment will be seen as constructive rather than
         | hostile: Personally while I was initially sympathizing to the
         | cause of inclusiveness, I have now developed hostile feelings
         | simply because this constant presence has made me tired. There
         | is no place on the internet or IRL (at least where I live)
         | where you won't stumble on these things. I am not interested
         | about any of the gender stuff, I have been sure of what I am
         | and what I am not since I can remember myself, so all this
         | constant presence makes me tired, and it frankly feels like
         | propaganda trying to forcefully change me into something I'm
         | not. So pushing so agressivly an agenda that to the majority of
         | people is irrelevant (and I believe this is true otherwise we
         | wouldn't exist as a species), I am actually surprised of how
         | little hostility is received.
        
         | enumjorge wrote:
         | > A better title would just be "How to talk to customers."
         | 
         | Hard disagree. That title doesn't capture the reader's
         | attention and it's also less descriptive of the main point of
         | the book.
        
       | tyroh wrote:
       | I've actually added The Mom Test to my recommended reading list
       | for direct reports, since it helps a lot in requirements gathers
       | from both internal and external customers.
        
         | jack335 wrote:
         | That is a cool idea! How is the feedback from your reports so
         | far?
        
       | heymax054 wrote:
       | I've been wondering on the pros and cons of interviewing
       | customers vs. just putting something out there and seeing the
       | reaction/getting a commitment.
       | 
       | There's a great book about the latter called "The Right It" by
       | Alberto Savoia (a guy who used to work at Google to test business
       | ideas). There he describes 8 different ways to test a biz idea:
       | 
       | - The Mechanical Turk - Replace complex and expensive computers
       | or machines with human beings.
       | 
       | - The Pinocchio - Build a non-functional, "lifeless", version of
       | the product.
       | 
       | - The Minimum Viable Product (or Stripped Tease) - Create a
       | functional version of it, but stripped down to its most basic
       | functionality.
       | 
       | - The Provincial - Before launching world-wide, run a test on a
       | very small sample.
       | 
       | - The Fake Door - Create a fake "entry" for a product that
       | doesn't yet exist in any form
       | 
       | - The Pretend-to-Own - Before investing in buying whatever you
       | need for your it, rent or borrow it first.
       | 
       | - The Re-label - Put a different label on an existing product
       | that looks like the product you want to create.
       | 
       | A ques to the author (I saw he commented here). What do you think
       | are the pros and cons of interviewing people using the MOM
       | framework vs. just putting something out there and getting
       | feedback? Often people give very different feedback when you ask
       | them questions vs. present something and ask for skin in the
       | game.
        
         | robfitz wrote:
         | > pros and cons of interviewing people using the MOM framework
         | 
         | I gave a fuller answer elsewhere in the thread
         | (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=28669204), but it's
         | highly reliant on the specifics of your idea/industry/bizmodel.
         | 
         | B2C and '10x improvement' style ideas tend to need to lead with
         | a prototype (although you ideally first do enough discovery
         | conversations to understand what they're already doing and
         | why). The early product iteration is what Uber got right and
         | Segway got wrong, and it's why the best videogame studios (like
         | Blizzard 10+ years ago) always begin with prototypes of
         | isolated core game mechanics, iterating those ruthlessly until
         | they feel "crunchy" (the game industry term for immediately
         | rewarding interactions).
         | 
         | Whereas ideas that are solving a well-defined, unsolved problem
         | (which is way more common in niche B2B and the sorts of ideas
         | that you'd bootstrap toward) can be pretty fully validated with
         | ONLY conversation, which is obviously extremely quick and quite
         | advantageous.
         | 
         | Apart from those two big categories, there are a million edge
         | cases where the whole suite of approaches you mention can feel
         | like a (somewhat situational) superpower.
        
       | foxbee wrote:
       | We used the blueprint within this group to learn from 6000
       | signups. It led to us (Budibase) pivoting and saving countless
       | hours and money, but most importantly, it's helped us reduce
       | stress, build a better product, and deliver exactly what our
       | users need.
       | 
       | Huge appreciation - thank you! Joe (cofounder of Budibase)
        
       | mehphp wrote:
       | Fantastic read, I highly recommend it if you are trying to talk
       | to customers.
        
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