[HN Gopher] No, we won't have a video call for that
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       No, we won't have a video call for that
        
       Author : anotherevan
       Score  : 332 points
       Date   : 2021-09-23 22:47 UTC (2 days ago)
        
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       | Aeolun wrote:
       | This really struck a chord wit me. But my biggest takeaway is
       | that Slack DM's are not private any more.
        
       | lordlic wrote:
       | I just scanned this, but some of it seems _ludicrously_ wrong.
       | Like rating chat a neutral face for  "find" when honestly one of
       | the biggest advantages to chat in my mind is being able to search
       | for key terms long in the future and be able to turn up the exact
       | transcript of the discussion you're thinking of. Or like this
       | quote:
       | 
       | > Using interactive chat is a good idea for the kind of
       | communication that requires immediate, interactive mutual
       | feedback from two or more participants. If that is not the case,
       | chat is not a good idea.
       | 
       | No. Just... no. This is so wrong it's absurd. The point of text
       | chat instead of in-person chat is that it's asynchronous and it
       | _doesn 't_ require immediate, interactive feedback. I'm honestly
       | just baffled at how someone could actually use chat and come to
       | this kind of conclusion.
        
         | duckmysick wrote:
         | I think neutral is a good rating for chat searchability. It's
         | better than video or face to face chat. It's good for recalling
         | the conversations you were part of. It's bad for discovering
         | information you don't know about and you weren't part of.
        
         | nzmsv wrote:
         | The chat that doesn't require immediate feedback is called
         | "email".
         | 
         | Otherwise you are stuck with "hey, can you help?" with zero
         | details for when you actually get to take a look. Then you have
         | to say "yeah, what's wrong?" and wait another hour. A properly
         | written email would have solved the issue in a tenth of the
         | time.
        
           | lordlic wrote:
           | No, I'd argue that there's basically no use case for email
           | beyond stuff that you want the other person to be able to
           | ignore.
           | 
           | If you're expecting a response, but don't care when it comes,
           | that's ideal for chat.
        
       | chrisweekly wrote:
       | See also PG's classic "Maker's Schedule, Manager's Schedule"
       | 
       | http://paulgraham.com/makersschedule.html
        
       | pyrale wrote:
       | In my experience, both asynchronous teams and teams of people
       | doing highly synchronized work, some spending most of their time
       | together in voice chats or calls have worked great.
       | 
       | I appreciate the experience feedback from that article, but I
       | wish some of the feedback was contextualized rather than
       | presented as universal. The antithesis laid at the end of the
       | talk helps a bit, but it is a bit reductive about the
       | effectiveness being limited to ops.
        
       | picodguyo wrote:
       | Hard disagree here. In practice, corporate wikis are always
       | graveyards of outdated and incomplete information. The process
       | usually looks like this:
       | 
       | 1. Someone is excited about a new project and creates a wiki page
       | with a lot of aspirational introductory content and a sketch of
       | the rest of the page with TBD everywhere
       | 
       | 2. Author gets busy on other things, leaves the company, or the
       | project quickly diverges from the original vision
       | 
       | 3. The original page stays in the wiki, adding negative value
        
         | Dudeman112 wrote:
         | Documenting is like exercising or eating healthy: doing it an
         | average of once per month isn't worth crap.
         | 
         | It's not a problem with documenting stuff, it's a problem with
         | corporations. Somehow very few companies have technical writers
         | whose main job is keeping their docs healthy.
        
         | Aeolun wrote:
         | I think this strongly depends on how much time everyone spends
         | on the wiki and how much love it is given in the first place.
         | 
         | I've had companies where it is exactly as you say. Which is
         | especially frustrating because a search for the term you need
         | yields 19 graveyard pages and 1 actual result.
         | 
         | But also companies where the wiki was a bastion of well kept
         | and up to date information.
         | 
         | What I think it mostly comes down to is structuring. If you
         | have little wiki fiefdoms, where every project gets it's own
         | page, and nobody gets to edit other projects, then you quickly
         | end up with huge heaps of garbage.
         | 
         | If there is one space that the entire company has access to,
         | which is well organized, it's much easier to get rid of (or
         | restore) information.
        
       | natmaka wrote:
       | Albeit I agree with the author on nearly every point, some
       | challenges seem neglected.
       | 
       | "Write. Things. Down." may let a a competitor obtain some
       | company's efficient ways/tools, especially such information is
       | shared among departments ("view permissions") and with the high
       | employee turnover rate. Even if it is not a real risk (in most
       | cases it IMHO isn't) some (especially among senior managers) will
       | think it is, and fight against this convention.
       | 
       | If you like the approach described in this article AND are able
       | to hire you will probably describe your ways during job
       | interviews, and in many ways attract candidates similar to
       | yourself. Leading an old existing team not build by yourself
       | towards this approach is a totally different matter because
       | pertinent habits are among the most difficult to change.
       | 
       | Most pertinent tools (wiki and bugtrackers alike) publish each
       | piece of information's history (who wrote what/when). It
       | sometimes becomes a metric: people committing numerous or very
       | useful information obtain consideration. Many organizations,
       | especially large ones, have people unable to produce such input
       | BUT nonetheless useful as 'crossroads': they usually have all
       | most recent important info and are also able to say who may
       | answer to a question. Other ancillary challenges include shyness
       | (some are able to talk or write a mail to a direct colleague but
       | won't commit any potentially widely-read wiki article) and
       | 'weird' syntax/orthograph.
        
       | peakaboo wrote:
       | What's up with this guy repeating what he says is not science so
       | it could be wrong? Is he unaware that science is wrong all the
       | time too?
       | 
       | Science is not a religion! It bothers me how people think
       | "science" is something not to be questioned when it's actually
       | the opposite - always question science. Because not only are
       | scientists funded by corporations with motives, they also like to
       | get rich as much as politicians.
        
         | theduder99 wrote:
         | yep, global warming, no wait its global cooling, no wait back
         | to warming now lets just rebrand as climate change so nobody
         | can disagree with whichever direction we choose to go with this
         | thing.
        
       | alephu5 wrote:
       | Everyone I know uses YouTube as a de facto reference. They don't
       | read blogs, Wikipedia, news articles or company documentation,
       | rather they look for explainer videos or tutorials.
       | 
       | I mention that because I think it overflows into work
       | interactions. I've had to deal with many complex problems,
       | technically complex but also with business complexity needing
       | collaboration to manage the objectives and risk. In these
       | circumstances it really warrants a document or detailed email to
       | tell others everything they need to know and consider, and yes
       | it's going to require effort to absorb it. In recent years I've
       | noticed that people almost never read these and ask for a video
       | call. They want you to present it as if it were a YouTube video
       | and you lose an hour trying to explain everything and losing much
       | of it, because it's too much to absorb in real-time.
       | 
       | Maybe I'm a bad writer but I think few would dispute that it's
       | the best way to transfer a block of information. As a rule of
       | thumb calls only make sense for Q & A or discussions.
        
         | yarcob wrote:
         | > Everyone I know uses YouTube as a de facto reference. They
         | don't read blogs, Wikipedia, news articles or company
         | documentation, rather they look for explainer videos or
         | tutorials.
         | 
         | This comes as a complete surprise to me because I don't know
         | anybody who uses Youtube for technical information. Everyone I
         | work with primarily uses Google or DuckDuckGo to find answers
         | on blogs or on stack overflow. If that doesn't work they check
         | the official docs.
        
           | lotsofpulp wrote:
           | Same for me. YouTube is for projects like car repair or home
           | improvements.
        
         | duped wrote:
         | I've noticed this too but I don't think it's because of
         | YouTube. I think some people just communicate differently.
         | 
         | There are a few people on my team that won't engage with
         | written communication. Similarly, I have difficulty with video
         | communication. It's just something you need to look out for
         | when hiring and building teams.
        
       | 3np wrote:
       | One thing I personally hard disagree with is the author's view on
       | chat/DMs; that they are by default and expected to be synchronous
       | and immediate.
       | 
       | Unless urgency is indicated somehow, I see chat as asynchronous -
       | an incoming question doesn't carry an expectation of immediate
       | feedback. This is in contrast with, say, a phone call.
       | 
       | Some of the negatives of chat-heavy comms disappear under that
       | mode. Like, why does encrypted e-mail need to have benefits over
       | chat (apart from the interoperability, maybe).
       | 
       | Chat is new to society and we don't (yet) have strong cultural
       | norms and expectations around how it should work. I think things
       | like this are important to talk about when forming a team or
       | starting to work on a project or in a new context.
        
       | PeterisP wrote:
       | I have an objection to the author's blanket disregard for "pings"
       | in chat - while the request could/should be worded a bit more
       | clearly than just "ping", IMHO they're a valid way of requesting
       | if an opportunity for synchronous communication is available in
       | the (not that rare!) cases where asynchronous communication would
       | be worthless.
       | 
       | If someone's blocking on some unclear thing which requires
       | external input for progress, making an asynchronous request (i.e.
       | writing the question directly) is not helpful since in such a
       | case an answer is valuable if and only if it's synchronous.
       | Writing a chat question that gets answered the next day has
       | _negative_ value, since it has the extra cost of the answerer
       | reading the question and preparing the (now useless) answer.
       | 
       | If the other person is available for synchronous communication,
       | that's great, there's an opportunity for a useful communication.
       | 
       | If the other person is not available for synchronous
       | communication right now, that's fine as well, but then the
       | replacement is _not_ asynchronous communication with that person
       | but instead something else that can actually be done right now -
       | contacting someone else who is available, or doing some redundant
       | experimentation /research, or just proceeding with an assumption
       | that may later be falsified, etc, all of which aren't optimal but
       | still clearly preferable to blocking until an asynchronous
       | response arrives.
       | 
       | Sure, things _can_ be done 100% asynchronously eventually, but
       | that 's not an optimal flow, going 100% async requires giving up
       | many opportunities for helpful communication. Especially in
       | international organizations I've far too often seen things
       | delayed by days or even weeks where literal ten minutes of a
       | synchronous comms (no matter if it's a phone call or chat or
       | video) was completely sufficient.
       | 
       | Perhaps I'm looking at 100% async as an optimization on
       | allocating time for communication that has some benefit of
       | throughput - having more efficient schedules for people working -
       | at a horrific sacrifice of latency - having much less effective
       | schedules for resolving individual tasks.
       | 
       | Pings would be useless (and I'd concede that even harmful) in a
       | world where status indicators in a chat app reasonably match
       | actual availability for synchronous communication right now, but
       | I don't live in such a world, people are routinely marked as
       | "active" while they're working in meetings or deep work and don't
       | want to be disturbed, and the opposite way around; so there needs
       | to be _some_ protocol of requesting synchronous communication -
       | are there any ways that are substantially better than  "pings"?
        
         | Macha wrote:
         | Even in the case where the explanation of the question is quite
         | long, I think the onus is still on the asker to give
         | information for the reciever to prioritise it. Because
         | sometimes my availability for the discussion depends on how
         | important that is versus my current task.
         | 
         | Need help debugging your CI build while I'm just churning out
         | unit tests for my run of the mill work? Sure, I'll take up that
         | discussion.
         | 
         | But hey, what if I'm working on a gethering data for a
         | presentation to stakeholders tomorrow? Then your CI build has
         | to wait.
         | 
         | But wait, what if you're debugging production being down? Well
         | then you know what, my feature can wait.
         | 
         | So "I need help with <X> so that I can <Y>, are you around for
         | a chat?" is ok. I can make a judgement call here and give you
         | an answer.
         | 
         | "Ping"/"yt"/"Can we talk?" is not. You give me no information
         | to prioritise your request.
        
           | PeterisP wrote:
           | Okay, that's a good point, a "ping" with sufficient context
           | about the priority is a clear improvement.
           | 
           | I saw the original article's recommendation to add "no
           | urgency" when appropriate, but the type of requests I was
           | thinking about are those that actually are urgent but not
           | that important, where it's no big deal if you can't answer
           | right now, but then we'll proceed without your input at all
           | instead of waiting for it.
        
       | bananamerica wrote:
       | One of the reasons for having a meeting is knowing that most
       | people won't read or watch anything you send them, and even if
       | they read they won't recall much. That is why in film school my
       | teachers screened films in class instead of just assigning them.
        
       | jasode wrote:
       | The author wants to educate people on the benefits of (more) text
       | communication, but I don't believe it will change minds.
       | 
       | Reading the sibling comment from papaf[1] and also a previous
       | reply to me by jakubp[2] about talking things out instead of
       | email, it seems like the higher meta-analysis is that some people
       | have a _predisposition_ to prefer synchronous (videoconference,
       | phone call, cubicle visit) over asynchronous communication
       | (email, chat).
       | 
       | One group really prioritizes synchro comm for "emotional nuance"
       | etc. The other group prioritizes written text's dense information
       | content and searchability.
       | 
       | So if the company has folks like papaf and jakubp, it doesn't
       | matter if you have a blog article recommending structured emails
       | over video calls. Some employees prefer not to communicate that
       | way. In fact, the blog article just makes them express their
       | disagreement with it. E.g. papaf saying we're not "efficient
       | robots" and jakubp advising me that I should accommodate his
       | communication style of in-person cubicle visits.
       | 
       | To prevent clashing, I guess the higher-level advice is to hire a
       | team where everybody likes to communicate the same way.
       | 
       | [1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=28651678
       | 
       | [2] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=20583427
        
         | tailspin2019 wrote:
         | > The other group prioritizes written text's dense information
         | content and searchability.
         | 
         | I would add that the other group also likely prioritises focus,
         | flow, blocks of uninterrupted time for deep work and minimising
         | context switching. For me personally the text-based content and
         | searchability is way down the list compared to keeping the
         | focus on my core tasks.
         | 
         | I think there is quite a lot more the author could touch on
         | regarding the huge overhead and performance hit of context
         | switching and the absolute importance of protecting your time
         | against non-urgent interruptions if you're doing any kind of
         | deep work. Makers vs managers schedule stuff. And yes, even
         | managers should be doing deep work occasionally (I would argue
         | often).
        
           | madeofpalk wrote:
           | "focus, flow, blocks of uninterrupted time for deep work" is
           | always going to be relative and a function of the
           | company/work itself, rather than communication method.
           | 
           | I like a video call because I can block out that time and get
           | the communication over, rather than struggling to discuss
           | something over a longer period of time over async text chat.
           | 
           | Of course this just goes back to the grandparent's point -
           | its all subjective and depends on how the individuals and
           | teams work. There is no One True Solution with how to
           | communicate as a team.
        
             | tailspin2019 wrote:
             | > I like a video call because I can block out that time and
             | get the communication over, rather than struggling to
             | discuss something over a longer period of time over async
             | text chat.
             | 
             | Yep that's a fair point. I guess it depends on whether the
             | nature of the communication is operations based or project
             | based. For day-to-day operations where you may get lots of
             | small queries and messages throughout the day, I vastly
             | prefer text chat for this as opposed to someone calling me
             | every 5 minutes, or sending a tonne of separate emails.
             | 
             | For more structured meetings, project planning/reviews etc.
             | then I totally agree that blocking at the time and having a
             | call can be a better way to do it.
        
         | birthday wrote:
         | People get very confused when it comes async communication. In
         | fact I have opted to stop calling it asynchronous communication
         | and instead just talk about individual aspects of it and the
         | benefits of those aspects in an applied manner at my company
         | Over time you can slowly build people up to your level of
         | understanding.
         | 
         | If you are not a team lead or similar you are fighting an
         | exhausting and losing battle. If you are in a lead position
         | then you have the power to show others by focusing on your own
         | team and getting your team on that level via coaching them
         | multiple times per week. That said, without commitment from
         | your manager or peer teams it will be extra hard even as a team
         | lead.
         | 
         | PS I'm in the coaching part right now with my team and have
         | stopped calling it "asynchronous" communication.
        
         | foxtacles wrote:
         | I agree, this is my experience as well. At the extreme ends,
         | some people absolutely require synchronous communication /
         | social interaction to be productive, while others' performance
         | (and sometimes happiness) depends on the absence thereof (often
         | perceived as inefficient or even a waste of time). They are
         | inherently at odds with each other.
         | 
         | Personally I fall into the latter category and I do believe
         | it's a better fit for a software engineering role in terms of
         | getting things done, but I've also come to the realiziation
         | that in our world, you'll eventually have to meet the others
         | half-way. Hiring a team that shares the same communication
         | style is often just too difficult (exacerbated by the fact many
         | candidates aren't even self-aware enough to know which
         | preferences they really have, or don't want to admit them).
        
           | tarsinge wrote:
           | I think we should nuance that a bit. Personally I'm an
           | introvert, and naturally fall into the latter category like
           | you. But at work, especially for management and direction, I
           | find synchronous and social interactions way more efficient,
           | allowing higher level discussions and vision and necessary to
           | really move things between teams company wide. Written
           | asynchronous communication seems more fit for intra team
           | work, i.e. solidifying processes when the direction is clear.
        
             | JJzD wrote:
             | This is a great summary and would also explain the tendency
             | to want to meet in response to a thought out document. The
             | author has wrestled with the topic long enough to write out
             | a specific document. The receiver of the document has not
             | yet spent this time, and needs to understand broad
             | outlines. Besides this, if there is a meeting of equals,
             | they might bring something to the table, the author hasn't
             | thought about, or did but dismissed it for undocumented
             | reasons. Let alone the buy in factor of a shared product vs
             | 'you go build this, off you go'
             | 
             | I hate meetings for looking busy, but a 20 minute
             | conversation can bring a week of work to actually implement
             | the decision.
        
         | fxtentacle wrote:
         | You're absolutely right. That's why many companies will have
         | weekly team calls and then someone will write down a transcript
         | and email it to everyone. It's the best of both worlds, because
         | you can react to emotional nuances, yet you still have an email
         | that you can search for and re-read as a reference later.
        
         | marcinzm wrote:
         | >and searchability.
         | 
         | This can be achieved with meeting notes. These can even be
         | posted "publicly", potentially in a cleaned up form, in a wiki
         | so future employees see them unlike an email chain.
        
         | hutzlibu wrote:
         | I like both and I guess many people, too. But it depends on the
         | people involved.
         | 
         | I think the big advantage of text is accountability.
         | 
         | Lots of people say lots of things (the other person wants to
         | hear) ... and remember only some of it. I wasted so much time
         | relying and then discussing forgotten promises, where I wished
         | have had that exchange via text. And I actually believe, this
         | is a big (unconscious) reason for many avoid written
         | communication. Talk is cheap.
        
           | blowski wrote:
           | You're totally right here. People want accountability because
           | they want to increase honesty, which is obviously a worthy
           | goal. But sometimes it backfires.
           | 
           | If I'm going to be held to account for everything I say in a
           | meeting, I will be more careful about what I say and how I
           | say it. That sounds like a good thing. But I think out loud.
           | I voice opinions that I don't necessarily hold to encourage
           | others to voice theirs in a free-thinking conversation.
           | People's immediate feedback allows me to rapidly change my
           | thoughts - asking for short bits of feedback is normal
           | verbally, but laborious in writing. Also, when writing, I
           | self-censor ideas because they sound wrong - but someone
           | might have taken inspiration from one of those wrong ideas
           | and corrected it.
           | 
           | The best medium in which to have a conversation thus depends
           | on the participants, context and intent of that conversation.
        
             | Closi wrote:
             | Agree with this - and the other thing is subtle but it's
             | about trust.
             | 
             | If I am documenting things on emails just to create a paper
             | trail for accountability, something about the culture in
             | the company has probably gone awry and it means there is a
             | lack of trust between people.
             | 
             | Documentation shouldn't be a substitute for honest feedback
             | and ensuring everyone does what they promise. (I'm not
             | saying that tracking actions isn't a good thing to do - but
             | my primary purpose is to help people remember what they
             | said rather than to hold them to account).
        
             | hutzlibu wrote:
             | "People's immediate feedback allows me to rapidly change my
             | thoughts - asking for short bits of feedback is normal
             | verbally, but laborious in writing. "
             | 
             | But that change of thought would be included. Important is,
             | what everyone agrees to in the end.
             | 
             | Also, keeping track of the back and forth is useful for
             | credit assignment later.
        
               | blowski wrote:
               | Why do you need "credit assignment"?
        
               | hutzlibu wrote:
               | In those cases, someone claimed a idea as his work, when
               | initially he opposed it.
        
               | blowski wrote:
               | If the culture you work involves people competing for
               | credit, you've got bigger problems.
        
         | GravitasFailure wrote:
         | >One group really prioritizes synchro comm for "emotional
         | nuance" etc. The other group prioritizes written text's dense
         | information content and searchability.
         | 
         | Don't forget the usefulness of email when you need the ability
         | to reference past conversations. For some people, a faulty
         | memory is a finely honed art.
        
           | wirrbel wrote:
           | that's why I send around meeting notes regularly. THEY hate
           | it.
        
             | Aeolun wrote:
             | I like it. I can't be in all meetings all the time, but I
             | _can_ read all the meeting notes and follow up if I have
             | to.
             | 
             | Unfortunately, nobody sents any meeting notes, and they
             | decide things that later get cited as 'it was decided', and
             | I have to track back through history (and a lot of
             | unwilling people) to figure out that 'it' was decided by
             | two PM's having a meeting at 12am with nobody relevant
             | present.
             | 
             | Who then tell me to be in meetings if I want to have any
             | influence on their decisions.
        
             | gtirloni wrote:
             | I stopped doing that because people take it the wrong way.
             | Initially, I was just trying to be helpful with the notes
             | (so people wouldn't forget what was discussed, people who
             | could participate could catch up, etc). But I started
             | noticing some people were looking at the meeting notes as
             | if I was holding a gun at their heads for what they said
             | during the meetings.
        
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               | commandlinefan wrote:
               | > some people were looking at the meeting notes as if I
               | was holding a gun at their heads
               | 
               | Ok, so... I'm usually super cynical, but how do you know
               | you're not projecting here? I know people that do this
               | and as far as I can tell, they're always appreciated.
               | More commonly I see people ignoring those summaries than
               | being threatened by them.
        
               | raverbashing wrote:
               | It doesn't have to be "in your face" but it has to have
               | the main points and especially the future action items
               | people are taking
        
               | nobody9999 wrote:
               | >But I started noticing some people were looking at the
               | meeting notes as if I was holding a gun at their heads
               | for what they said during the meetings.
               | 
               | My experience (as technical resource/lead and project
               | manager) has been to make sure that meeting notes include
               | all agenda items and the action items associated with
               | them.
               | 
               |  _However_ , I always make explicit that this is _my_
               | understanding and request feedback from _all_
               | participants as to the accuracy, schedule and scope of
               | action items.
               | 
               | I suppose that comes from long experience where you're
               | given _responsibility_ for ensuring the success of an
               | effort /project but not given the concomitant _authority_
               | to compel action.
               | 
               | That requires consensus building and buy in from all
               | stakeholders.
               | 
               | Often, that's not an issue when the entire organization
               | is focused on a singular product/service. But in large
               | organizations, building consensus among the stakeholders
               | is absolutely necessary for success.
               | 
               | In smaller organizations this is less of an issue, as
               | someone with authority over all aspects of cross-
               | functional efforts is likely directly involved.
               | 
               | As such, the metaphorical "this is going to be done. Do
               | it now." coming from a person who can directly affect
               | your compensation and continued employment is extremely
               | effective.
               | 
               | That's not so in large organizations where authority is
               | more broadly distributed.
               | 
               | It occurs to me that differences in the size and
               | structure of an organization can have significant impact
               | on how such processes evolve and either thrive or die.
        
             | lbriner wrote:
             | Meeting notes can easily become noise. One of the big
             | dangers of meetings is spending lots of time talking and
             | not making specific actions to make something happen.
             | Instead of minutes, it would be better in my opinion to put
             | any relevant points into the relevant tool: Trello, Jira,
             | Teams Tasks or whatever gets used.
             | 
             | It's then easy to continue working with, if you are a bit
             | wrong, you don't need another email with corrections,
             | someone can just edit the task details or add more to it.
        
           | flohofwoe wrote:
           | I bet this is exactly why some people prefer direct
           | communication that doesn't leave a trace ;)
        
             | gtirloni wrote:
             | I agree. Every time something important starts getting
             | discussed, people want to jump in a video call so every
             | history is erased afterwards.
        
               | lbriner wrote:
               | That is a cynical assumption. I think in most cases,
               | people don't want eternal back-and-forth that can happen
               | with emails when it can make sense to have a single
               | conversation where the objections can quickly be
               | noted/considered and the subtlety can be understood.
               | 
               | Of course, in some cases, this has disadvantages but like
               | most things, we should avoid making such absolute
               | statements and allow intelligent people to work out
               | whether written or spoken is a better idea for each
               | topic.
        
         | prepend wrote:
         | > Some employees prefer not to communicate that way.
         | 
         | I think it depends on the purpose of the team as to whether
         | people should change.
         | 
         | I'm technology, if the purpose is to build things well then the
         | people who like to emotionally nuance things in synchronous
         | communication should do more async because that works better
         | for building.
         | 
         | It really frustrates me when I analyze a problem, thoughtfully
         | write up a solution and send it out. And then someone (or
         | several) wants to meet to talk about it.
         | 
         | Then the meeting has nothing persistent than a feeling and the
         | details get lost and a week later people forget the resolution.
         | And want to meet again.
         | 
         | I guess if there's no accretive development it doesn't matter,
         | like sales or restaurants or whatever. But there seems to be a
         | better way to design and execute complex things.
        
           | jensensbutton wrote:
           | > the people who like to emotionally nuance things in
           | synchronous communication should do more async because that
           | works better for building.
           | 
           | Citation needed. Pretty much everything of any complexity
           | that has been built to date, in human history (including
           | software), was built with synchronous communication (not to
           | say things aren't written, but things are ALWAYS discussed).
        
             | prepend wrote:
             | Let me clarify, I'm not saying that we should never
             | synchronously communicate, but that it is not the sole or
             | primary communication.
             | 
             | My comment was about the tendency to avoid writing over
             | speaking. I think we need lots of writing and some
             | speaking.
             | 
             | Software in particular is easier to "say it in code" than
             | to just talk and talk and talk.
             | 
             | I'd say my preference is write-up, then talk, then follow
             | up with write-up.
             | 
             | My complaint is the constant redirection to only talk and
             | never write up.
        
         | wpietri wrote:
         | I agree with your point, but I also think more nuance is
         | possible in structure.
         | 
         | For me, sync and async are good for different kinds of things.
         | So I think a good distributed team needs to get at least decent
         | at both and uses them when they fit. We all know the horror of
         | a meeting that could have been a memo. But we also know the
         | horror of the interminable email thread that should have been a
         | quick discussion.
        
         | serial_dev wrote:
         | > it doesn't matter if you have a blog article recommending
         | structured emails over video calls
         | 
         | Exactly! Funny thing is that if you send these people an
         | article explaining the benefits of written docs (design docs,
         | RFCs, proposals, any text document documenting a decision),
         | they will just simply not read it.
         | 
         | I'm on a team where I believe we started gigantic refactoring
         | and redesigning projects without being clear on the goals, non-
         | goals, and tradeoffs we take. I proposed that before we start
         | working on something huge, we should write a short document
         | where we explain what, how and why we want to do.
         | 
         | I recommended them some articles, for example "Design Docs at
         | Google" [1], and "Scaling Engineering Teams via RFCs: Writing
         | Things Down" by Gergely Orosz [2], but I couldn't even convince
         | them to read those articles...
         | 
         | I didn't even send them my favorite posts about the Amazon
         | 6-page memo, because I knew they'd dismiss the whole idea in a
         | second (no matter if I told them that we could do "OurCompany
         | 1-page memo").
         | 
         | This lead me to the sad realization, that our team will never
         | start "writing things down". In my opinion, it would force us
         | to think things through, but it seems like they disagree, or
         | they just don't care.
         | 
         | My coworkers will not even read a 3-paragraph ticket, but
         | they'd love to talk about the same ticket for an hour in a
         | video call. Then in 3 weeks, nobody remembers anything anyway,
         | and they discuss it again.
         | 
         | [1] https://www.industrialempathy.com/posts/design-docs-at-
         | googl...
         | 
         | [2] https://blog.pragmaticengineer.com/scaling-engineering-
         | teams...
        
           | sul_tasto wrote:
           | If you have time could you reference your favorite posts on
           | the Amazon 6 page memo?
        
             | sulZ wrote:
             | I found this article on it:
             | https://writingcooperative.com/the-anatomy-of-an-
             | amazon-6-pa...
        
           | jbverschoor wrote:
           | Because most documents are not written to be read. The are
           | written to have something published. Ego, status, whatever.
           | Similar to over architecting.
           | 
           | Spend more time making things more concise, and people will
           | read.
           | 
           | Evidence: tiktok and other shorts
        
           | Aeolun wrote:
           | Oh! We work in the same place! Or at least close enough that
           | it doesn't matter what the actual name is.
        
           | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
           | I wrote an article (since it's written, I don't expect it to
           | be actually _read_ )[0] , about the importance of _not
           | writing too much stuff down_ (Ironic, I know).
           | 
           | I call it "concrete galoshes." The structure can become more
           | important than the project.
           | 
           | That said, _not_ having a structure can be absolutely deadly.
           | It 's not for the faint of heart.
           | 
           | I seldom write down a detailed project plan (I write about
           | that here[1]. Feel free to not read it, as well). Instead, my
           | projects start with what I call a "napkin sketch," and
           | evolve, as they progress. The results can be _amazing_ , but
           | I also end up backtracking a lot, and tossing out a lot of
           | code.
           | 
           | I feel that you can't work the way I work, unless you are
           | _highly_ experienced (I 've been at it over 30 years). I make
           | big decisions, on the fly, and I need to have a really clear
           | idea of the ramifications of these decisions. Often, the
           | devil is in the details. It's quite possible to decide to do
           | something one way, and get there, and then realize that a
           | corner case makes the design unusable, and/or downright
           | dangerous.
           | 
           | I'm not a fan of "design by buzzword." Modern techniques are
           | often marvelous, but they can be unsuitable for some
           | applications. Having a toolbox available, that includes a
           | wide range of options, is invaluable.
           | 
           | I am a fan of early, high-quality usable product. One of my
           | techniques, is to leverage Apple's TestFlight beta service,
           | as early as possible. This allows non-tech stakeholders to
           | have meaningful say in the project. Screenshots and
           | interaction diagrams are fairly useless. They take a lot of
           | time (and expense) to create, and no one reads them. They
           | also tend to add unproductive rigidity to the project.
           | 
           | [0] https://littlegreenviper.com/miscellany/concrete-
           | galoshes/
           | 
           | [1] https://littlegreenviper.com/miscellany/evolutionary-
           | design-...
        
             | ctvo wrote:
             | > _I seldom write down a detailed project plan (I write
             | about that here[1]. Feel free to not read it, as well).
             | Instead, my projects start with what I call a "napkin
             | sketch," and evolve, as they progress. The results can be
             | amazing, but I also end up backtracking a lot, and tossing
             | out a lot of code._
             | 
             | This is fine for a sketch, a prototype, or an exploration.
             | If you do this to produce production, critical path code,
             | on a professional team with others you're selfish:
             | 
             | - The team, not only you, maintains this work that they
             | have no agency over.
             | 
             | - You skipped feedback loops, and ignored the expertise of
             | others.
             | 
             | - You've removed information sharing and visibility as you
             | go into your cave and come back out with a solution.
             | 
             | > _I feel that you can 't work the way I work, unless you
             | are highly experienced (I've been at it over 30 years). I
             | make big decisions, on the fly, and I need to have a really
             | clear idea of the ramifications of these decisions. Often,
             | the devil is in the details. _
             | 
             | Yes, the devil is in the details. Get some feedback from
             | other people and stop designing by mistakes I happened to
             | notice and catch. The ones you didn't notice? They're bugs
             | your teammates fix.
        
               | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
               | _> you 're selfish_
               | 
               | Thanks for the insult. I appreciate the feedback.
               | 
               | I'll do me. You do you.
               | 
               | Have a nice day.
        
           | upofadown wrote:
           | Everyone that works in development is literate but not
           | everyone that works in development has good reading
           | comprehension or is good at generating meaningful prose at a
           | keyboard. Many people who work in development just don't like
           | to read and consider it a chore.
           | 
           | I think an interesting interview question would involve
           | reading. "What were the last 3 things you have read to learn
           | something?" "Do you read for enjoyment?" Based on the results
           | you could group people in terms of how they relate to text.
        
             | ctvo wrote:
             | In my experience a key characteristic of a good software
             | engineer is their ability to handle dense, technical texts.
             | We do it all the time, from academic papers (less often) to
             | documentation (every other hour). Not liking to read (?!),
             | and thinking it's a chore, because we're only humans, will
             | mean you won't do it unless forced and will either lack a
             | deep understanding of a subject or reach for someone else
             | to do it for you (RTFM).
             | 
             | Not a fan of the often repeated, flawed [1], "we have
             | different modes of learning" mantra that sometimes comes
             | with these discussions too. That myth is so hard to debunk
             | likely because of this very issue!
             | 
             | 1 -
             | https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2018/04/the-
             | myth...
        
           | darkerside wrote:
           | You want to convince them, but you won't meet them on their
           | terms to do so? Maybe you should try having a conversation
           | with them about it instead. Actually, a series of
           | conversations. And be patient because influencing other
           | people's base assumptions takes time.
           | 
           | Put yourself in their shoes, they want you to understand the
           | benefits of in person communication, so they schedule meeting
           | after meeting with you to talk about it. You are immediately
           | fed up because you actually do already understand the
           | benefits, and all these meetings are a waste of time.
           | 
           | Wouldn't you rather they demonstrate that they understand
           | your point of view by writing up a document, or sharing an
           | article, describing the benefits of in person communication
           | that you could consider on your own time?
           | 
           | I'll also say, one of the big benefits of in person
           | communication is getting real time feedback on body language
           | and tone which tell you _how the other person feels about
           | what you are saying_. If that 's not something you care to do
           | in this instance, when it's so important for you to gauge
           | their opinions on it, is it any surprise that they think even
           | more written communication will only put the team even more
           | out of sync?
        
             | blowski wrote:
             | This, I think, is at the root of the good and bad of
             | written conversation.
             | 
             | At its best, it allows the author to articulate their
             | thoughts and share it widely for readers to consume and
             | archive efficiently.
             | 
             | At its worst, the author writes an unreadable polemic
             | without any thought of the audience. To the writer, their
             | point is clear, obvious, and unarguable. To the reader,
             | it's a muddled, angry rant. The readers then type their own
             | polemics in response, disingenuously cherry-picking and
             | taking phrases out of context. And on it goes.
             | 
             | Not all written conversations look like this, but a lot do.
        
             | otabdeveloper4 wrote:
             | > they want you to understand the benefits of in person
             | communication
             | 
             | I doubt that. Mostly they just want to punt responsibility.
             | (I've been in these shoes many times.)
             | 
             | A written record trail means the buck eventually stops
             | somewhere. Talking it through without writing it down means
             | you have plausible deniability.
        
             | serial_dev wrote:
             | Thank you for your note, I'll keep it mind in case I try to
             | get them to document things and / or read things.
             | 
             | The goal of my comment wasn't to document every attempt I
             | made in the last months to convince them that writing some
             | things down would be beneficial for the team. I do speak
             | with them, we have video calls and we also talked about
             | this topic multiple times.
             | 
             | I wanted to point out that it's a funny experience when you
             | send a document to someone with the purpose of providing
             | them a great overview, highlighting the benefits of these
             | design docs... And nobody reads them.
             | 
             | I already understand the benefits of in person
             | communication, I don't want to eradicate video calls, I'd
             | just prefer to write our decisions down so that other
             | people who were not part of a decision can read these docs
             | and join later.
             | 
             | In the end, I understand that I'm trying to change the
             | status quo and change the team culture, I know it's a hard
             | thing to do, and I get it that it will take a while.
        
               | darkerside wrote:
               | Fair point, I'm sure there's a lot you are doing that
               | didn't fit in the little white text box. Good luck!
        
           | commandlinefan wrote:
           | > I recommended them some articles
           | 
           | I have a slightly cynical take on why most programmers don't
           | read much: you can't log "reading" into a time tracking
           | system that has to add up to (at least) 40 hours a week.
        
             | Aeolun wrote:
             | You can log it under 'working on project xxx'? Literally
             | all my time regardless of what I do goes under there.
             | 
             | I guess it makes a difference for consultants, but they can
             | log it under unbillable 'administrative actions' if the
             | very necessary 'continuous education' does not exist.
        
         | atom_arranger wrote:
         | This seems about right.
         | 
         | Personally I dislike getting on calls for stuff. I think the
         | clarity of text is much better, and the fact that it's
         | asynchronous means I can look things up while responding,
         | meaning my responses are more high quality.
         | 
         | It's super frustrating being like this and then interacting
         | with people who don't want to write things out clearly or don't
         | want to read my responses, and then ask me to "hop on a call".
        
           | blitzar wrote:
           | 'Can you talk me through this document you sent me'.
           | 
           | I might have limited my career progression briefly when I
           | asked if they had read the document, then called them out on
           | the lie - 'was the 2 paragraph summary at the start not
           | clear'.
           | 
           | I now put the summary in the email body as well, apparently
           | it is easy to miss the heading _Summary_.
        
             | hutzlibu wrote:
             | "apparently it is easy to miss the heading Summary."
             | 
             | It is, when you are not paying attention, because you are
             | busy with lots of other stuff. So putting the summary in
             | the email seems lile a working pragmatic approach.
        
               | WesolyKubeczek wrote:
               | It's almost like your busyness is paramount and the other
               | person may never be busy in case you need to quick-
               | question them at your whim.
        
               | Aeolun wrote:
               | If you have time to 'hop on a call' and discuss things
               | you are clearly not busy.
        
               | laserlight wrote:
               | In that case they will be so busy that they are not even
               | able to read the summary in the email. Busyness is an
               | excuse.
        
               | blitzar wrote:
               | Allegedly they read the document, but somehow they didnt
               | see the section at the start titled summary.
               | 
               | It was a lie - they didnt read the document, I was busy
               | is the dog ate my homework level of excuses. If you are
               | taking home 7 figures you should probably brush up on
               | your excuses.
        
       | FeepingCreature wrote:
       | This is so weird for me.
       | 
       | Where I work (backend software development), we do video calls
       | and meetings _all the time_. Probably an hour every day or more
       | is spent in direct contact. I see this as absolutely essential to
       | get people on the same page - but _none_ of the reasons that
       | people have listed in this thread for why people prefer personal
       | meetings apply to me. For instance, I am extremely grateful if
       | someone writes up meeting notes, I read text documents all the
       | time, and I often require continuous uninterrupted time and
       | respect it in others, and I _still_ prefer voiced meetings.
       | 
       | I think the primary reason is if I am trying to clarify an idea
       | for a design or an approach, I will go to the people who have
       | also touched that field of difficulty, and try to explain what I
       | am trying to do to them in advance. The spoken medium in that
       | case gives room for interruptions, immediate elaborations and
       | feedback. A write-up either convinces or it doesn't; it can be
       | edited but it has feedback cycles on the order of tens of minutes
       | to hours. Spoken communication has feedback cycles of seconds, so
       | even if I was going to write something up, I'd talk it through
       | verbally first, anyways.
        
         | andrei_says_ wrote:
         | I do one on one 5-15-min zoom meetings when I need to clarify
         | things that need clarification after 1-2 text exchanges. Super
         | useful to look at the thing together and align mental models in
         | real time.
         | 
         | Other useful formats - look at work together with stakeholders
         | and get instant feedback + clarification questions.
         | 
         | For almost anything else, meetings can be a time waste. Some
         | communications do not require full bandwidth exchange but where
         | tone is important, an efficient meeting can be a timesaver.
        
         | skohan wrote:
         | Same. So many things can be solved in a 5 minute meeting which
         | take hours of back and fourth using textual communication.
        
           | Dudeman112 wrote:
           | Also, so many things can be solved in a 5 minute text message
           | which take hours of back and fourth when using meetings.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | NikolaNovak wrote:
         | I agree with everything you said; but coming from a place where
         | 20 +++ hrs a week is spent in video meetings (and that's after
         | rejecting just as many invites), having only an hr a day means
         | somebody somewhere, whether explicitly or culturally, already
         | set up system and expectation when productive time is
         | respective and meetings are minimized. In other words you are
         | already in a place many of us only dream of :-)
        
         | Joeri wrote:
         | You're both right, some of the time.
         | 
         | There are two types of approaches to working out a problem. One
         | is to get everyone in a meeting and talk it over until a
         | solution is reached. The other is for a single person to
         | carefully think through the problem and possible solutions,
         | write down a solution, and pass it around for (usually
         | asynchronous) comments.
         | 
         | People who think meetings are really useful thrive in the first
         | approach. The more meetings they have the faster they can get
         | things done. People who prefer the solitary focused approach
         | tend to see meetings as obstructions to progress, because they
         | prevent them from actually solving problems by pretending to
         | solve the problem while not making headway.
         | 
         | Which approach is right is highly contextual, and you can't
         | really argue it either way without falling back on personal
         | preferences.
        
         | oceanghost wrote:
         | My last corporate gig-- I spent 6 to 8 hours in meetings. All
         | of my development was done as overtime.
        
         | pc86 wrote:
         | I'm not sure your definition of "all the time" matches anyone
         | else in the industry, quite frankly. At the architect/staff
         | level I'm lucky if I can only spend half my time on the phone
         | or in some sort of meeting (includes the ad hoc group chat
         | where we're discussing something via our internal equivalent of
         | Slack). I get maybe 5-10 hours a week of coding, and it's
         | usually either something extremely challenging that someone
         | else has already spent weeks hacking on, or a super basic bug I
         | grab to keep myself sane and in touch with the nitty gritty
         | code stuff.
         | 
         | An hour a day is junior dev level meeting load at almost every
         | place I've ever worked. Seniors are 2-3, arch/staff/principal
         | 4-6 and managers all day long (all averaged over a couple weeks
         | or so it obviously ebbs and flows).
        
         | urthor wrote:
         | Going out on a limb.
         | 
         | 95% of all substantial corporate meetings would be vastly,
         | vastly improved if someone wrote up some dot point notes of
         | said meeting, and circulated the document as a courtesy.
         | 
         | In my time in the workplace I've seen this done in maybe 5% of
         | meetings. The entirety of that 5% involved team leaders having
         | a regularly scheduled catch-up with our divisional overlord,
         | and I sat in or saw the memo.
         | 
         | Why don't these very basic things that would _vastly_ improve
         | productivity take place?
         | 
         | Garden variety laziness.
         | 
         | Unless you get over that very basic hurdle of couldn't give a
         | damn, what's the point of all these other solutions?
        
           | amozoss wrote:
           | Our meetings always felt like one construction worker digging
           | a hole (doing work) while everyone else watched. Easily could
           | have been solved with an agenda or someone telling to do the
           | work post and not drag everyone else through the process of
           | making a Jira ticket.
           | 
           | We eventually decided to have a meeting chairman, their job
           | was to make sure there is an agenda and to keep it on topic.
           | They also make notes of tickets that need writing and make
           | sure it's done post. We decided to rotate the responsibility
           | weekly since it's kinda a hassle, but it really helps having
           | someone assigned to keep meetings moving.
           | 
           | We used a spreadsheet to rotate at first, but then found an
           | slack app called tellspin that's been working really well for
           | us. It reminds me a lot like pagerduty has a schedule,
           | overrides, etc. Allows people to move shifts and stuff so the
           | meeting leader role is always filled.
        
           | ransom1538 wrote:
           | "In my time in the workplace I've seen this [notes] done in
           | maybe 5% of meetings"
           | 
           | I go a step further. If it isn't on the agenda, we don't
           | cover it. Just "spit-balling" or talking about things that
           | are clearly not researched is a WASTE of everyone's time. If
           | you want to talk about something, we want to take 10 minutes
           | and research it too. Put it on the agenda and be prepared. We
           | don't want to be ambushed into stupid decisions. "Let's use
           | mongo!" out of no where is pointless and stupid. So that 95%
           | can keep their unresearched ideas to themselves. Thanks.
           | Personally I live by this quote: "Every stupid meeting starts
           | with no agenda." NO agenda? Even better, meeting canceled.
        
           | wpietri wrote:
           | Laziness situates the problem in individuals and as a deep
           | characteristic, and I think neither is true.
           | 
           | Normally when I see ineffective meetings and missing
           | communications, it's an organizational culture issue. The
           | number one cause I see is what the Lean people call
           | "overburden". I know somebody who was a big fan of
           | circulating notes and tried to bring that practice to a new
           | job. But they ended up giving up because a) bosses put too
           | much on their plate to have the time for that, and b)
           | everybody else was overloaded enough that they wouldn't read
           | the notes anyhow.
           | 
           | That of course means everybody has even more work now, the
           | work called "failure demand". Extra meetings. Doing the wrong
           | work because of confusion. Dealing with delays trying to get
           | information not communicated to them. Etc, etc. So good
           | meeting notes become more needed and more difficult to adopt.
           | 
           | In my view, all of this is driven by not getting another Lean
           | concept: push systems vs pull systems. [1] Work is not driven
           | by actual demand and capacity limits, which is how pull
           | systems work. Instead managers jam requests into the hopper
           | with little regard for capacity, causing all sorts of
           | downstream pathologies.
           | 
           | So if we want to actually fix this, we need systemic change,
           | not individual blame.
           | 
           | [1] https://www.allaboutlean.com/push-pull/
        
             | urthor wrote:
             | That's a really good insight.
        
           | FeepingCreature wrote:
           | Right, and we do do that for decisions that affect more than
           | the people involved in the debate. However, we also have a
           | wiki, and so anyone can look at it and see how a habit of
           | writing things down decays - because people may write it, and
           | read it, but nobody _maintains_ it or cleans it up.
           | 
           | The only worthwhile document is a document with a clear owner
           | that is routinely updated. This does not scale beyond a few
           | pages per user.
           | 
           | When you talk to someone, you get their view at this point in
           | time. You don't accidentally get their view five years ago
           | which they've since revised; you are guaranteed to get, if
           | not the _accurate_ version, then at least the _current_ one.
           | When you talk to multiple people, you even have a chance to
           | get the _correct_ one. Notes cannot defend their argument and
           | so must be taken on faith - or else to confirm your
           | understanding, you end up talking to someone anyways!
           | 
           | In code, the best documentation is the test, because it
           | _must_ be correct. The second best documentation is a
           | comment, because it 's right there and hence hard to miss.
           | Third is an external specification referenced in the README,
           | because they generally change much more slowly than the code.
           | Distant fourth is a self-written document in the same
           | repository, because after all, how do you notice that
           | something _didn 't_ change during review?
        
             | urthor wrote:
             | Ah but you see, in coding, before you write the test, you
             | need a software developer and/or a team lead who gives a
             | shit about writing tests.
             | 
             | So it all comes back to the good ole "give a shit" factor.
        
               | ethbr0 wrote:
               | And I think this is somewhat the original talk's point:
               | if the superiority of a given method is predicated on
               | things happening (which rarely do) or things not
               | happening (which often do), then it might not be
               | superior.
               | 
               | If TDD is superior if leads write tests, but leads rarely
               | write tests, then is it superior?
               | 
               | If meetings are superior if everyone shows up on time,
               | prepared and generates documentation of the meeting, but
               | nobody ever does those things, then are meetings
               | superior?
               | 
               | Tl;dr - Be honest about your team's reality, and choose
               | the optimal option for that reality.
        
           | tibiahurried wrote:
           | TL;DR:                 - Meeting -> Outcome -> Create tickets
           | -> Assign            - Developers: write scripts; value
           | automation over documentation
           | 
           | In my experience, people don't read documents.
           | 
           | When they need something they will ask.
           | 
           | A meeting should always have an outcome in the form of
           | actionable work;just create tickets and assign them to
           | people.
           | 
           | The ticket should capture all the necessary information to
           | work on it. If a document is needed, it should be linked to
           | the ticket.
           | 
           | As for developers, scripts, tools, automation works better
           | than a boring, soon to be outdated document.
        
             | ethbr0 wrote:
             | You're probably getting downvotes because you said
             | "ticket."
             | 
             | Which speaks to another problem with most large company
             | cultures: ticket shoveling. In a healthy company, every
             | ticket should receive one of three outcomes.
             | 
             | (1) I can fix this, I work the ticket to completion, then
             | request verification it's resolved.
             | 
             | (2) I cannot fix this, but I know someone who can. I add
             | context if needed, forward it to the appropriate person,
             | and stay appraised of it and available until it's
             | completed.
             | 
             | (3) I cannot fix this, and nobody I know of can. I list out
             | reasons why this cannot be fixed, and give any information
             | I might have about alternative contacts who might(!) be
             | able to help, and close the ticket.
             | 
             | In most companies, and I think this has been exacerbated by
             | outsourced IT and contractual resolution SLAs, until
             | everyone's internalized it as the way they and everyone
             | else _should_ act, you get something like this.
             | 
             | (1) Is work. This is to be avoided at all cost.
             | 
             | (2) I blindly forward a ticket on to anyone else who looks
             | remotely responsible, to get it out of my queue, and then
             | wash my hands of the entire matter and forget it ever
             | existed. I certainly don't follow up or add context.
             | 
             | (3) I close the ticket without providing any reason why, or
             | information I have about someone who might know something I
             | don't, who could help.
             | 
             | A reliable metric I've come up with for measuring corporate
             | and/or team disfunction is to count how many circuits a
             | worst-case ticket can receive (where a circuit is:
             | originator -> some number of teams -> originator/loop). My
             | record is 3, before someone noticed.
        
             | jodrellblank wrote:
             | > " _In my experience, people don 't read documents._"
             | 
             | I think this is worth calling out for its own discussion.
             | Along with the traditional use of "RTFM" meaning "go away
             | and stop bothering me", any amount of dysfunction in a
             | sytem or company can be tolerated as long as someone has
             | written about it in a document somewhere.
             | 
             | Poor design? Buggy implementation? Complex configuration?
             | Poor defaults? Missing features with inconvenient
             | workarounds? Arduous processes? All fine as long as it's
             | been documented. And any comments about voluminous
             | documentation and "I couldn't find it" become point-scoring
             | "I know where the needle is in the documentation haystack
             | so I win".
             | 
             | And as a user or customer, the last thing I want when
             | facing your system being complex and unintuitive is a
             | mountain of documentation to go with it. That adds insult
             | to injury - you couldn't make a good system _and_ you 've
             | made more work for me on top. How often have any of you
             | read some good documentation about the internal workings of
             | a system and left feeling intrigued and surprised and
             | impressed? Occasionally, right? And how often have you
             | trawled through documentation saying things like "to change
             | the username field, simply log into our admin website,
             | click accounts, click usernames, click customize, then
             | download the XML customization file from the available
             | template files, make the necessary changes, and simply
             | raise a support ticket for us to install the new file" ? A
             | poorly designed feature with an awkward process, with parts
             | where detail matters (content of the file) left for
             | guesswork, but at least it's all documented.
             | 
             | I want my intuition (experience) to carry me almost
             | seamlessly through your system, and if it has a short
             | amount of clear documentation which helps me then I'm OK
             | with that. If you want me to commit to trawling through
             | books worth of content to learn things which are your own
             | proprietary lock-in buzzwords around Rube Goldberg kludge
             | designs, I'm not as OK with that.
        
             | nickjj wrote:
             | > In my experience, people don't read documents.
             | 
             | I think this is true too, but I don't blame folks.
             | 
             | I recently started a position which is the first time I
             | ever worked as a non-freelancer. Previously I always wrote
             | documentation for myself and my clients in self contained
             | Markdown files.
             | 
             | But at this new place they use a combination of Confluence
             | and Google Docs for any type of docs that don't necessarily
             | belong in a repo's readme file (like ancillary topics,
             | general knowledge and guides). It's not easy to find stuff
             | unless you already know where to look. Confluence's full
             | text search is also pretty lackluster.
             | 
             | Turns out keeping documentation and knowledge up to date
             | when you're dealing with a handful of folks isn't easy.
             | Especially if you factor in everyone contributing their own
             | docs with their own writing style and patterns. It makes
             | for a pretty inconsistent feel.
        
             | wpietri wrote:
             | There's a conflict in what you say. If people don't read
             | documents and will ask when they need something, why invest
             | in creating heavy tickets filled with the text they don't
             | want?
             | 
             | My team (and many XP teams) gets by just fine organizing
             | things with cards that have a modest number of words on
             | them (5-10, normally). When we need something, we ask. It
             | works fine for us. We're a distributed team that has never
             | met in person. But it also works fine for in-person teams:
             | https://williampietri.com/writing/2015/the-big-board/
        
               | tibiahurried wrote:
               | I called it ticket, you can call it card. I did not say
               | it to be heavy. But should also contain enough info to
               | get started or at least point to the right person.
        
               | wpietri wrote:
               | What you are describing is definitely heavier than what
               | I'm describing.
               | 
               | And I disagree it should contain those things. In the XP
               | tradition story cards (which are conceptually different
               | than tickets, but I'm fine with either term) are tokens
               | for conversations. The more documentation you add, the
               | more it drives people away from conversation. As you say,
               | when people need something, they'll ask. And I think
               | that's a strength, not a weakness.
        
           | thrower123 wrote:
           | 90% of the meetings that are landed on my calendar don't even
           | have so much as a unique subject or a one-line description of
           | what the meeting is about. Most usually, the scheduling party
           | reuses an old invitation, so any information in the invite
           | body isn't accurate anyway.
           | 
           | They're usually sent to me sometime after midnight, EST, for
           | a meeting at 9 AM. When I did go to the office it wouldn't be
           | uncommon to hit some traffic and arrive to find out you've
           | already missed a meeting you didn't know about. If you did
           | make it in, you were immediately ambushed with an angry
           | customer who doesn't understand timezones or business hours.
        
           | ofrzeta wrote:
           | Today many meetings have the form of a brainstorming, like
           | totally agile you know. I think for meetings to make sense
           | you should have a clear agenda and notes about the outcome,
           | possible action etc. For the modern workplace that's probably
           | too old-fashioned.
        
           | jodrellblank wrote:
           | > " _Garden variety laziness._ "
           | 
           | This is the kind of lazy non-explanation I was complaining
           | about in the recent HN thread on "laziness doesn't exist".
           | There are people who have perosnal incentives and counter-
           | incentives, they work in groups which bring their own
           | incentives. Things like:
           | 
           | - Socially, writing up notes and sending them out is often
           | seen as secretarial work, women's work, low status work.
           | People think their personal interests are better served by
           | taking high status tasks, not low status tasks.
           | 
           | - As well as being a low status task, it could be seen as
           | trying to usurp your manager's authority, if you want to be
           | the one sending out "here is what we decided and who is going
           | to be taking followup actions".
           | 
           | - Socially it could be "goody-two-shoes" behaviour if you
           | weren't asked to do it, and lose the respect of some people.
           | 
           | - Socially, if a coworker got lumbered with a task nobody
           | wanted, they might resent you sending an all-hands email
           | "gloating" and making sure everyone knows about it, or you
           | fear they might.
           | 
           | - Writing memo notes invites you to open-ended future
           | scrutiny if anyone thinks the notes unfairly represented what
           | they said or their participation. Coworker who thinks
           | management is getting an unfair view of their contribution
           | because of your biased notes, for example.
           | 
           | - There are power imbalances and adversarial relationships
           | among people in meetings; writing memo notes may be seen as
           | "I'm going to write down what you say so I can take it out of
           | context and use it against you" or in an "I'm going to hold
           | my seniors to account" way. Maybe some things in the meeting
           | are spoken, deliberately so they are "off the record".
           | 
           | - If you think the notes will not be read, writing them feels
           | like pointless make-work.
           | 
           | - It misunderstands the purpose of meetings as "productivity"
           | when they are often for avoiding blame, feeling important, or
           | pushing something back and forth because the people in the
           | meeting don't have the authority to make the decision(s)
           | which need to be made.
           | 
           | - If the company sees meeting records as important, it should
           | be explicitly someone's job. If it's not someone's job, the
           | company doesn't value it, so why should you? In the YosefK
           | "Employees can read their manager's mind"[1] sense, employees
           | are not there to make the company productive, they are there
           | to make their managers happy.
           | 
           | - If meeting memos aren't regularly taken, and you want to
           | start, you face all the possible problems of trying to push a
           | change into an existing system and people's reluctance to
           | change no matter what the change is.
           | 
           | - If tasks are assigned in the meeting, they should go into
           | wherever the teams track work, not into generic forgettable
           | group emails. If decisions are made, they should be logged in
           | whatever documentation logs decisions, not generic email. If
           | those are done the memo is redundant.
           | 
           | There are only a couple of quick ways through this, the first
           | is an enthusiastic junior who wants to be seen to be helping
           | and has little to lose because the worst case is a manager
           | asking them to stop. The other is a high-status employee
           | (socially, e.g. wealthy white male, contractor, friend of the
           | boss) or organizationally (e.g. senior title, manager,
           | leader) secure in their skills and life who have respect and
           | can damn the consequences - although they would be more
           | likely to use their power to skip the junk meeting or have
           | the memo taking task assigned to someone less busy. For
           | everyone else, all changes have risks, especially ones which
           | include increasing your visibility while making the implied
           | statement "you weren't doing things properly and I have a
           | better way".
           | 
           | These things which really exist and do bother people casually
           | dismissed as "garden variety laziness" is, I repeat, a lazy
           | non-explanation.
           | 
           | [1] https://yosefk.com/blog/people-can-read-their-managers-
           | mind....
        
           | Foobar8568 wrote:
           | I have been writing minutes, action lists, sharing documents
           | meetings, 95% of people don't care and will come back to you
           | a week later with a different opinions than what you agreed
           | during the meeting, better, they'll pretend what ever despite
           | written evidence.
           | 
           | Corporate world is a shit hole where the only thing that
           | matter is the opinion of a decision level breaker (escalation
           | point) .
        
             | blowski wrote:
             | Exactly. If you a toxic culture, written notes won't help
             | you. If you have a healthy culture, it's not a problem in
             | the first place.
        
               | ethbr0 wrote:
               | I'd argue written notes / minutes do help in a toxic
               | culture.
               | 
               | I've had the obligatory interactions with a few
               | backstabbing and/or passively aggressive teams, and when
               | things eventually explode and work their way up the
               | leadership chain (hopefully to someone with more sense),
               | it's a quick knife through "you said / they said" to
               | produce a written document from a meeting 3 months ago,
               | where the assumptions you've been operating under were
               | agreed to by the other team.
               | 
               | Obligatory: producing said doc in this context makes you
               | an asshole, and is a nuclear escalation. But some (rare)
               | times call for that.
               | 
               | (If it's a habit, you should probably reflect on yourself
               | and/or find a healthier place to work)
        
               | atatatat wrote:
               | Sounds like you need to consider making a change, too.
        
               | Foobar8568 wrote:
               | At the end of the day, you need to change as often as you
               | have a reorg in a company.
        
               | nuclearnice1 wrote:
               | What are the kinds of things people reverse their
               | agreement s on?
               | 
               | They change technical designs or timelines slip?
        
               | ethbr0 wrote:
               | In my (thankfully limited) experience it was around
               | responsibility and methods of escalation.
               | 
               | My read was that a team didn't want to be bothered with
               | something, but I was working on a corporate priority, so
               | we set a meeting, hashed out, and agreed on how issues
               | should be brought to them.
               | 
               | When something happened down the road, the agreed process
               | was followed, and they (surprisingly stubbornly) claimed
               | they weren't responsible and shouldn't be contacted for
               | this issue.
        
             | lornajane wrote:
             | Do you have some tips on doing good writings? It's
             | something I'd like to improve on but I haven't seen it done
             | really well so far. If you have any recommended resources
             | for learning more, I would be interested to dig in.
        
           | jodrellblank wrote:
           | > " _95% of all substantial corporate meetings would be
           | vastly, vastly improved if someone wrote up some dot point
           | notes of said meeting, and circulated the document as a
           | courtesy._ "
           | 
           | Has anyone tried putting at the top of the summary something
           | like:
           | 
           | Meeting cost: 4 work hrs (8 people x 30 mins)
           | 
           | to draw attention to the fact that meetings aren't free, and
           | put the decisions in context of how much it cost to get to
           | them?
        
         | saiya-jin wrote:
         | > we do video calls and meetings all the time. Probably an hour
         | every day or more is spent in direct contact.
         | 
         | That's not _all the time_ my friend. My usual day is 3-5 hours
         | on conf calls, you gain  'popularity' as your time / seniority
         | at the company rises. I get 50% of my actual work done during
         | those meetings, while others talk in matters
         | unrelated/distantly related to my work.
         | 
         | Video all the time? No, thank you. Our top 10 bank in the world
         | is managing just fine without a single video call since
         | forever. You get used to it very quickly, and the freedom it
         | gives you is magical.
        
         | closeparen wrote:
         | Only an hour a day is most radically anti-meeting culture I've
         | ever heard of.
         | 
         | It's an extraordinary week when I get as many as 40% of my
         | working hours for focus time.
         | 
         | * Weekly cross functional syncs for the products I'm involved
         | in, 2 hours.
         | 
         | * Weekly design and SLA/postmortem reviews for the org, 2
         | hours.
         | 
         | * Three interviews and associated debriefs, 4.5 hours.
         | 
         | * Standup, planning, and retro, 2.5 hours.
         | 
         | * Tech talks, knowledge sharing sessions, org and company all
         | hands, 2 hours.
         | 
         | That's before anything as-needed to work on a specific issue.
        
           | eutropia wrote:
           | My personal calendar as a software engineer at a company of
           | over 700 people includes about 1 hour of meetings per week.
        
           | icedchai wrote:
           | An hour a day would be paradise. I work for a company with
           | tons of meetings and it's awful
        
             | ethbr0 wrote:
             | I see your awful and raise you a company where the default
             | culture is to send blank meeting invites.
             | 
             | At best, you might get a subject line.
        
               | icedchai wrote:
               | What happens if you don't show up? Do you get a nasty
               | email, or a talking to through zoom?
        
           | amarant wrote:
           | Where I currently work, we're only doing standups every other
           | day. It's usually around 45 minutes, and most weeks, that's
           | the only scheduled meetings we have! Then of course if I or a
           | colleague need help or want to discuss something, we'll have
           | an impromptu call for it as needed.
           | 
           | And this ain't no startup either: EA DICE can probably safely
           | be described as a rather large company these days..
           | 
           | Of course, it might well be different in other teams, being a
           | backend web developer I'm part of a somewhat unusual team in
           | the context of a gaming studio.
        
           | SkyPuncher wrote:
           | We typically accomplish everything we need in less than 5
           | hours of meetings per week. Most of our engineers get to
           | spend nearly all day actually writing code.
           | 
           | An average week is 2.5 hours of "core" meetings
           | 
           | * 1.5 hours - 30 minute "standup" 3 days per week. Skip the
           | BS status updates. Planning, team discussions, etc all happen
           | in this timeframe.
           | 
           | * 30 minutes of retro (1 hour biweekly)
           | 
           | * 30 minutes of 1:1
           | 
           | We generally keep planning meetings pretty light. A _really_
           | heavy week will be 10 hours of planning. A light week will be
           | 1 or 2 hours talking about an upcoming feature.
           | 
           | Everything else happens by individuals, asynchronously.
        
           | caturopath wrote:
           | I made it through most of my career thus far, including
           | pretty senior positions, where probably most of my days
           | didn't have a formal meeting. It's been so strange to move to
           | a big tech company where I could spend 30 hours per week in
           | meetings if I was not pushing back.
           | 
           | Any they're all 30 minutes. What the heck do you expect to
           | accomplish in 30 minutes? You spend 20% of the time waiting
           | for someone to show up.
        
             | wpietri wrote:
             | You don't have to spend 20% of your time waiting for
             | somebody to show up! That's an organization culture issue.
             | 
             | For the daily team coordination meeting I run, we had a
             | problem with that. So after one especially egregious delay,
             | I asked how people felt about that. They didn't like it, of
             | course. I then said I wanted a consistent start time, but
             | was open as to when it was. At the hour? 1 minute after? 5
             | minutes after?
             | 
             | To my surprise, they picked 1 minute after. And everybody
             | has stuck to it. A couple months in we'll occasionally have
             | somebody turn up late, but the meeting starts without them,
             | so they know not to do it again. It's great!
             | 
             | We also build an agenda on the fly, keeping the pace brisk.
             | Usually we finish a few minutes early, and sometimes the
             | meeting will be a zippy 10-15 minutes. It's possible to
             | have good, useful meetings!
        
               | ljm wrote:
               | Funnily enough, my zippy meetings are the ones where an
               | agenda, or at least a boundary, is set out in advance.
               | Oftentimes we allocate more time than is needed to
               | discuss, so we call it off the moment we're done instead
               | of filling the time.
               | 
               | Part of this is because I'm also fine with interrupting
               | and telling people to take something async if a group
               | meeting is becoming a hyper-specific 1:1.
               | 
               | Soon enough, meetings remain direct and rabbit-hole free.
               | Unless the entire purpose of the meeting was to
               | collectively burrow into it.
               | 
               | All it takes is a little discipline, and clear
               | expectations.
        
               | rjzzleep wrote:
               | Being able to call out people to take their stuff out of
               | the meeting is extremely important.
               | 
               | Needless to say when I just recently did that with the
               | two program managers in a fortune 500 I got punished.
               | 
               | It leaves you wondering why these big corps have program
               | and project managers when they:
               | 
               | - consistently don't have an agenda
               | 
               | - completely ignore scope
               | 
               | - don't even try to define scope
               | 
               | - keep talking about being productive
               | 
               | - keep getting promoted for creating powerbi dashboards
               | of other people's work
        
               | ljm wrote:
               | I double checked my post and I never said 'called out'.
               | 
               | I don't know how you went about it in this case but, I've
               | never called out.
               | 
               | All I've ever said is, hey...do we need to do this now?
        
               | PKop wrote:
               | Doubt OP meant anything different than: "interrupting and
               | telling people to take something async"
        
               | wpietri wrote:
               | I'd suggest you read about managerialism, our reigning
               | business paradigm. Spender and Locke's "Confronting
               | Managerialism" really opened my eyes. If you think of
               | management's purpose as making the business better,
               | there's a lot that doesn't make sense. But it gets
               | clearer if you think of it as caste dedicated to both
               | individual and class power and enrichment, who also try
               | to keep the business on the rails enough that there's
               | something to have power over and extract money from.
               | 
               | Not that all managers are bad or anything; plenty of them
               | are people just trying to get things done. It's a
               | structural problem.
        
               | bobthepanda wrote:
               | Video calls have also made this a lot easier.
               | 
               | Before everyone kind of expected ~3 minutes of lateness
               | to be the norm, dependent on elevator and stairway
               | congestion. And god forbid one person is traveling from
               | another meeting in another building a bit of a walk away.
        
               | wpietri wrote:
               | I think we agree. For me, the daily team coordination
               | meeting has a clear initial agenda: go through each work-
               | in-process item and quickly discuss it.
               | 
               | But that tends to spin off longer discussions, and there
               | are often short things people want to raise with the
               | team. So after we've gone through our kanban board, we'll
               | have an optional period called "post". Long items go into
               | Zoom chat as "Post: thing to discuss" and we give a few
               | minutes to each.
               | 
               | I totally agree with blocking rabbit holes. Things that
               | interrupt the fast run-through of the board get booted to
               | post. Items there that are longer than a few minutes get
               | booted to async or a topic-specific meeting, generally a
               | smaller group than the team meeting.
               | 
               | One other trick I recommend: rotate leadership of the
               | meeting once people have the hang of it. I ran mine
               | myself for the first couple months. Then I ran it every
               | other week, with somebody new swapping in. The weeks when
               | people are responsible for keeping the meeting on track
               | make them much better participants when they're not in
               | charge.
        
               | ghaff wrote:
               | Tons of meetings are just fine with being 30 minutes. And
               | even if we schedule something longer we should expect to
               | give people time back if we don't need the whole thing.
               | 
               | Way too many 39 minute things get scheduled for 60. While
               | there logistics issues at physical events with multiple
               | tracks I feel most conference talks should be 30 minutes
               | too.
        
             | manigandham wrote:
             | Why do you need more than 30 mins? The major problem with
             | meetings is that they're mostly useless. Just talking for
             | the sake of talking.
             | 
             | Write up everything first for education and background,
             | distribute that, then have a _short_ meeting when there's
             | something actionable to do.
        
             | gambiting wrote:
             | I'm a team lead and most days I'll have 1 maybe 2 meetings
             | at most, but having 0 isn't unusual. Is that weird? I do
             | talk to people on teams _all the time_ though. I know what
             | everyone is doing and how they are doing, just without
             | having a voice /video call. We just text most of the time -
             | I can be in 10+ ongoing conversations at the same time.
        
               | Spooky23 wrote:
               | It's culture thing. Personally, I prefer in-person or
               | video meetings because it's an event and people are
               | usually focused on task. One on one calls are great too.
               | 
               | Text is good or bad. It's an attention thief, and you
               | never know what you are getting. Also, I find that
               | platforms like Teams are great for the present, but awful
               | for history and context.
        
               | Consultant32452 wrote:
               | In my experience 90% of meetings with more than 3 people
               | are irrelevant to my work. Here's a couple examples:
               | 
               | "Standups" that are really PM status calls that
               | constantly go down rabbit holes. My update is 30s or
               | less, but the meetings are always 30 minutes long and
               | usually run over.
               | 
               | "Code reviews" that are really run/monopolized by one
               | person. The entire team is required to attend even if you
               | have no code, but in practice no one other than the
               | runner is allowed to provide feedback.
        
               | pc86 wrote:
               | How are your standups taking that long? We have over a
               | dozen people on our daily standup and it's 5-6 minutes
               | long.
        
               | adamnew123456 wrote:
               | I've noticed a similar pattern at $JOB - we started doing
               | a daily "WFH status call" in early April last year. There
               | was nothing like it previously, just a weekly report on
               | important bugs, support items, etc. that we worked on.
               | And the occasional (less than weekly) meeting which would
               | include the PM and dev team.
               | 
               | The calls started out shorter but over time they've
               | become a hybrid of:
               | 
               | - "Here's the outlay for today." The shortest are just
               | this which only happens when things are going smoothly
               | and everyone's tackling things of moderate difficulty.
               | 
               | - "Here's something that's been giving me trouble" which
               | prompts a few minutes discussion. Usually someone has a
               | idea to pitch in which gets the person unstuck, but it
               | can bleed into...
               | 
               | - "I wanted to bring up this thing I noticed" which pulls
               | us into a bigger half-hour discussion with some possible
               | followups scheduled with the more senior members.
               | 
               | So at the extremes, any given instance of this meeting
               | could last from 10 minutes to 45 minutes.
               | 
               | We usually refer to this as a "stand-up" but I could see
               | how someone from a more regimented team would understand
               | it to be something with a more tightly defined purpose.
        
             | pc86 wrote:
             | Seconding the other comment on not waiting for people. As
             | soon as the clock changes to the start time we are
             | beginning the meeting, and we're not catching anyone up if
             | they're late. They can figure it out.
             | 
             | Obviously this gets a little slack if you're a super senior
             | position (nobody's telling the company President they're
             | not circling back on something already discussed) but for
             | the most part meetings are much more efficient if you're
             | absolutely ruthless with the clock. It's literally the only
             | thing that nobody can control.
             | 
             | On the flipside you have to be equally ruthless about not
             | going over time. At 5 min before the scheduled meeting end
             | time we start cutting off discussions that have become
             | circular and start determining if we need to have a follow-
             | up or clarification meeting for something. My biggest rule
             | for this is that it can't be the exact same group, you'll
             | just end up having the same meeting again. These follow-up
             | meetings are most effective if it's a subset of the
             | original group trying to clarify some specific point.
             | 
             | 30 minute meetings can be useful if you stick to these
             | rules.
        
           | FeepingCreature wrote:
           | I haven't timed it, an hour may be off. Call it two for
           | safety. We generally orientate meetings vaguely around mid-
           | day. Having a flextime schedule helps, because some people
           | only show up an hour before lunch so you can't plan meetings
           | for the morning anyways.
           | 
           | That explains a lot of things though. It sounds like most of
           | your meetings are terrible. Actually, if most of people's
           | meetings in this thread are terrible experiences, that seems
           | like it would explain their sentiments. In other words,
           | meetings are mostly time loss, which you're of course trying
           | to minimize.
           | 
           | (It really helps that we have a culture of "I don't think I
           | can contribute to this meeting, I'm gonna head out.")
           | 
           | Almost all of my in-person meetings are technical debates -
           | or group debugging sessions, where progress depends on
           | randomly noticing something. In both cases, they scale well
           | with number of members up to a point of four or so, where
           | adding another participant generates more ideas than it costs
           | time.
        
             | BlargMcLarg wrote:
             | >they scale well with number of members up to a point of
             | four or so, where adding another participant generates more
             | ideas than it costs time.
             | 
             | That's the main thing I come across. Most meetings are well
             | over four people. And personally, I already don't deal well
             | with more than 3 people as most people work on a vastly
             | different wavelength than myself.
             | 
             | Now consider all the "Agile" meetings are already 5+ people
             | and often contain management types and people who are both
             | higher on the chain of command and have no technical
             | background either hogging the attention. Suddenly, most
             | meetings I see become either a hybrid announcement + roll
             | call, a "meeting" with ulterior motives (e.g. managers
             | trying to measure "participation" as a way to grade
             | employees) or a very rushed design-by-committee approach to
             | solving something.
        
               | rtkaratekid wrote:
               | I dislike when management decides to join a technical
               | meeting randomly and then spends the whole time being
               | confused and trying to get folks to explain something to
               | them. It's happened at every place I've worked so far.
               | For the record I'm not saying they're unintelligent, it's
               | just that explaining something like how a kernel module
               | actually works to someone who doesn't know what a kernel
               | is tends to put a damper on the meeting if it takes 30+
               | minutes.
        
               | dvtrn wrote:
               | A previous boss was like this. Couldn't avail himself for
               | any of the status updates when I tried to-dutifully-keep
               | him informed on project status, but would then show up to
               | my team planning meetings, be confused, or get upset when
               | he found out we were either not where he expect us to be
               | in terms of progress, or that a minor decision was made
               | among the group that he wasn't roped in on (but doesn't
               | require senior management approval or consent)
               | 
               | Meanwhile in my "Sent" (aka "CYA") folder...you can guess
               | where this is going.
        
               | ethbr0 wrote:
               | Meeting sizing is a good point. It feels like adding
               | additional people is often done aggressively but
               | thoughtlessly, so maybe the solution is to have a
               | company-wide rule to counter-balance that tendency.
               | 
               | If voice/video meetings could have no more than 4
               | participants unless (insert somewhat burdensome exception
               | process), all participants would presumably consider more
               | carefully who should be added.
        
               | _0ffh wrote:
               | A more flexible rule that also might help a little would
               | be to require a separate justification for the use of
               | time to be filed for every single invitee.
               | 
               | It's just like of the signup process on your landing
               | page. Make things you want to happen as effortless as
               | possible -> make things you want to happen less more
               | effortful.
        
               | _0ffh wrote:
               | In an evil afterthought: If people still keep inviting to
               | many others to meetings, make the filing of the
               | justifications only possible using a special intranet
               | page, and make your least capable intern code that page.
               | That should sort it out. }:->
        
               | FeepingCreature wrote:
               | Yeah we very rarely have that sort of management meeting,
               | which is good cause they're useless.
        
         | wpietri wrote:
         | For sure. This bald assertion in the post blew me away:
         | "Working in a distributed team means working asynchronously."
         | 
         | This is just false. You and I live other approaches every day.
         | I believe his way of working is fine for him, and he's welcome
         | to it. But that doesn't justify sweeping dismissal of everybody
         | else's experience.
        
           | burnished wrote:
           | Did you actually read TAF? They make it quite clear that this
           | is their approach and in no way dismiss other view points.
           | Your post reads like you are just trying to dunk on this
           | article, and its weird.
        
             | wpietri wrote:
             | Bald assertions like that _do_ dismiss other viewpoints.
             | 
             | Yes, he has a header saying, "It's solely based on my
             | personal experience, and the experience of others I have
             | talked to, watched, or read. Everything I say here is
             | subject to debate and rebuttal, or you can simply have a
             | different opinion."
             | 
             | But he's then stating things dramatically as universals in
             | a way that excludes the experience of others. Not only is
             | it an unpleasant experience for those, like me, who have
             | different experiences, but it also means I can't really
             | trust him to tell the difference between what happens to
             | work for him and what might work for others.
        
               | burnished wrote:
               | >but it also means I can't really trust him to tell the
               | difference between what happens to work for him and what
               | might work for others.
               | 
               | No one can.
               | 
               | > unpleasant experience for those, like me, who have
               | different experiences
               | 
               | Is it unpleasant being shown experiences that differ from
               | yours? Can you elaborate on this with an example from the
               | text and your own experience? I think it would help me
               | understand where you are coming from if I could relate to
               | it.
               | 
               | The way I see this - you are asking the author to write
               | in a 'universal' style, that respects and acknowledges
               | all view points without preferring one over another. I
               | have two problems with that. 1) it defeats the purpose of
               | sharing your experience and the preferences you have
               | learned. 2) it is difficult ranging to impossible.
               | 
               | I'm not trying to put words in your mouth there, merely
               | give you an opportunity to correct me and my impression.
        
           | oblak wrote:
           | I am with you. I spent about 50% of my working days talking
           | to the people I work with. So, so much better than breathing
           | each other's air. And as a bonus, no one is reaching for my
           | mouse and keyboard.
           | 
           | That said, I am not into this guy's shoes. His arguments make
           | sense. I get it but my situation is different, plus I enjoy
           | talking to the people I work with. Well, most of them anyway.
        
       | onion2k wrote:
       | I find people don't like calls if they don't have an opportunity
       | to prepare for them well. A call that has a clear agenda, a clear
       | purpose, a set of well defined outcomes, and (ideally) a document
       | sent ahead of time for people to read and think about makes calls
       | significantly more effective. Otherwise everyone just says
       | they'll think about stuff and then you need a second call to get
       | people's reactions.
       | 
       | Sometimes setting everything out in a document and an agenda can
       | even make the actual call redundant, if people respond with their
       | input early enough.
        
         | MattGaiser wrote:
         | Indeed. A call often is an ambush to drag you into things you
         | barely understand.
        
       | mkl95 wrote:
       | One of my clients employees struggles massively with asynchronous
       | communication. He constantly spams one-liner after one-liner and
       | demands immediate answers. Anything that involves working
       | together on a sheet or a document becomes a pain in the butt.
       | 
       | Having to work with someone like this has caused our current
       | project to take longer and become more expensive. I really wish
       | corporations gave these people some basic training and tips on
       | async communication. Some people just don't get it.
        
       | mmarq wrote:
       | In my experience, many people prefer meetings over asynchronous
       | communication because they can't write. I'm not referring to
       | grammar or to spelling, but to being able to communicate
       | effectively without a continuous feedback from the recipient of
       | the message. When these people are asked to write documentation,
       | the result is usually very sparse text with too many bullet
       | points, table and images. Good asynchronous communication
       | requires a high degree of introspection, clarity of mind and
       | empathy, that not everybody has. A meeting allows you to pass
       | your message through successive approximations, as in adjusting
       | what you are saying based on the reactions of the listeners and
       | being pushed in the right direction by their questions.
       | Unfortunately it is also much more time consuming, because
       | everybody has to stop whatever they are doing and listen for 1-2
       | hours, while reading 2 pages of text would taken them 30 minutes
       | and they could have scheduled it at their convenience.
       | 
       | I don't see much of a difference between older vs younger
       | generations nor between native and non-native English speakers.
       | 
       | I'm open to accept that it's just my own experience and that it
       | doesn't generalize.
        
         | koonsolo wrote:
         | I don't fully agree. I'm an ok writer, and don't mind writing
         | documentation. But it takes time for me to write a good email.
         | Like you say, you need clarity in your head. So basically you
         | have to clear things out on your own before you can finish the
         | document.
         | 
         | Compare this to a meeting: you just say what you are thinking
         | at the moment. Others might join in and raise points you
         | haven't thought of. So you start from there and readon further.
         | Basically a meeting is clearing things out in a group, which
         | sometimes is more efficient.
        
         | mobjack wrote:
         | I prefer documentation with sparse text and lots of diagrams
         | and images. It provides the high level context and I can fill
         | in any gaps with a short follow up conversation.
         | 
         | For most people, the high level information is all they really
         | need. The few who need to dig in more can hash out the details
         | in a smaller more effective meeting without wasting everyone
         | else's time.
        
           | mmarq wrote:
           | Do you find it easier to learn something new from pictures
           | and bullet points or from a long-form document?
           | 
           | That kind of documentation is not necessarily bad, but it
           | depends heavily on context, which is not always shared across
           | readers. So when the author and those they talked to are not
           | available anymore, it quickly becomes useless.
           | 
           | Don't get me wrong, I don't think people should write War and
           | Peace. Usually a good 2-3 paragraph introduction improves the
           | quality of a document/email significantly. There you can
           | provide the context that is necessary to fully understand the
           | pictures and lists and diagrams you add after.
        
       | ilaksh wrote:
       | I feel like Discord can work OK for a small team. People can
       | answer things asynchronously in the chat, organize in different
       | channels or threads. And usually it is possible to sync up every
       | now and then, and that can be useful.
       | 
       | I think its easier for people to start putting things in an issue
       | tracker and then forget about them, and the other person doesn't
       | even know about it, or dismisses part of it, writes a comment,
       | the first person doesn't see the comment, etc. So people often
       | need to discuss things directly and tools like an issue tracker
       | can make it too easy to avoid resolving issues or talk past each
       | other.
       | 
       | It depends though. I am talking about really small teams.
        
       | commandlinefan wrote:
       | It's gracious of the author to assume that the purpose of video
       | calls is usually to convey information and solicit feedback, but
       | the true purpose of most video calls is to exert some control
       | over somebody who (the organizer thinks) needs a reminder of
       | who's in charge.
        
         | scrollaway wrote:
         | You might need to quit your workplace If this is the way you
         | feel people take video calls ...
        
       | keskival wrote:
       | People keep saying reading body language and expressions is
       | important and so in-person or video meetings are crucial. However
       | in my experience in the software industry experienced people
       | don't show their emotions from behind their poker-face. If people
       | show emotions, they are mostly fake smiles and fake enthusiasm.
       | If you don't get honest feedback from your team in text, you're
       | not going to get it from body language either.
        
         | monocasa wrote:
         | There's levels to body language, and engineers aren't typically
         | great at hiding it. It's a soft thing, yeah, but definitely
         | there.
        
       | satisfice wrote:
       | You know what, I am smart and experienced, too.
       | 
       | I do a lot of meetings on Zoom. The idea that I should instead
       | carefully craft documentation for much of the work I do is an
       | incredibly bad one. The ideas I develop are easy to
       | misunderstand, and constantly in flux. Meanwhile, my teammates
       | have other things to do than keep up with my confluence pages.
       | 
       | Usually such intensive documenting ideas are promoted by people
       | with no respect for good documentation. But also, people with
       | little understanding of how working relationships are formed and
       | maintained.
        
         | randomdata wrote:
         | Whereas I'm stupid. I do a lot of meetings on Zoom too, and by
         | the time you're finished explaining yourself I've forgotten
         | what you said.
         | 
         | It's not just about you. Write it down so that everyone can
         | benefit.
        
       | jimmytucson wrote:
       | Calling remote work "distributed" is a buzzword. The work is
       | distributed to different people, whether they're in the same
       | building or not. The physical distance decreases the
       | communication bandwidth between them.
        
         | maxk42 wrote:
         | "Distributed" teams are teams where everyone works remotely
         | whereas "remote" roles may include those where some workers are
         | in an office together. It's an important distinction.
        
         | MattGaiser wrote:
         | I always took it to mean that the people are spread out rather
         | than co-located.
        
       | papaf wrote:
       | I disagree with a lot of this article because it assumes that we
       | are efficient robots that just need things to be searchable and
       | written down. Tools are also a bit lacking -- in theory writing
       | stuff in a wiki is useful but then try finding the information
       | with, say, Confluence search.
       | 
       | The article also assumes every one is a native speaker who can
       | write quickly and clearly in a chat -- in a lot of international
       | projects this is not the case.
       | 
       | I find that there is less chance for misunderstanding and
       | aggression if you disagree over a video call. Also, human contact
       | and informal communication make life and working more enjoyable.
        
         | Aeolun wrote:
         | > I find that there is less chance for misunderstanding and
         | aggression if you disagree over a video call.
         | 
         | If you put me in a video call with someone not more or less
         | capable of communicating in our chosen common language I can
         | practically guarantee that I'm going to want to murder them.
         | 
         | There's nothing worse than sitting on a long call waiting for
         | someone to finally understand what button you want them to
         | click. Even better if you have 500ms delay too.
        
           | marcodave wrote:
           | 500ms ? you have it lucky , try 2000ms next time for real
           | frustration. Bonus points if you can hear yourself back
           | unless the recipient is muting him/herself
        
         | f6v wrote:
         | The assumption that text is always superior to a sync
         | conversation is too strong. Often you get the crucial bits by
         | interrupting someone mid discussion and asking for specifics.
        
           | baash05 wrote:
           | But you can do that in text too. I mean if it's wall of text
           | dump, no; but if people keep their chat blocks short, then
           | it's a two way convo. (or more)
        
           | throwaway98797 wrote:
           | Text suffers from being precise but accurate.
           | 
           | Voice is accurate but not precise.
           | 
           | Different problems are resolved better by one than the other.
           | 
           | Brain storming better in voice. Technical details of an app
           | that needs to be coded, writting is better.
        
         | smallerfish wrote:
         | > in theory writing stuff in a wiki is useful but then try
         | finding the information with, say, Confluence search.
         | 
         | If the company/team wiki isn't organized to optimize for
         | browsing to relevant documentation, then you might as well use
         | google docs (which excels at search and is terrible for
         | browsability).
         | 
         | A reasonable percentage of effort documenting something in a
         | wiki should be devoted to making sure that people actually can
         | find it, otherwise you're in cleaning-closet-in-disused-
         | bathroom territory.
        
         | the_gipsy wrote:
         | The article assumes that we are NOT efficient robots that can
         | store any and all information that we get in our heads.
        
         | masklinn wrote:
         | > I disagree with a lot of this article because it assumes that
         | we are efficient robots that just need things to be searchable
         | and written down.
         | 
         | It assumes no such thing. If anything it assumes the opposite
         | of your assertion, that we are _not_ perfectly efficient robots
         | able to instantaneously and fully recall the content of
         | transient discussions. Written content is perennial and
         | searchable, so it can be retrieved in the future if necessary
         | without being limited by human foibles and memory.
         | 
         | Even if the search is bad and the system is not especially
         | designed for it, I regularly manage to find information I dimly
         | recall through search in discord and friends, something which
         | would be entirely impossible using video calls. IME that is in
         | fact a regular issue, people asserting that things were told
         | during discussions and there's no way to confirm it, have
         | context, ... because the discussion was a voice / video call.
         | 
         | > The article also assumes every one is a native speaker who
         | can write quickly and clearly in a chat -- in a lot of
         | international projects this is not the case.
         | 
         | Have you been in that scenario, ever? Video calls are
         | infinitely worse than typed text between non-native speakers.
         | And if the call is not going to be in english... why would the
         | written communication be so?
         | 
         | > I find that there is less chance for misunderstanding and
         | aggression if you disagree over a video call.
         | 
         | I find that there are regular shouting matches over video
         | calls, and collisions between speakers makes the experience
         | miserable. It's also impossible to dive in and out and recover
         | the information, if you arrive on a group discussion midway you
         | can read the history, if you dive out for a bit you can read
         | what you missed. On a video call, it's gone.
         | 
         | > Also, human contact and informal communication make life and
         | working more enjoyable.
         | 
         |  _To you_.
        
           | foldr wrote:
           | While there may be some people who don't enjoy human contact,
           | I think it's a little unfair to suggest that this is some
           | kind of idiosyncratic preference of the original poster. It's
           | a basic human need. Most people who work full time will want
           | to have some kind of social contact within working hours.
        
             | masklinn wrote:
             | > While there may be some people who don't enjoy human
             | contact
             | 
             | We're not discussing human contact, we're discussing video
             | calls.
             | 
             | > I think it's a little unfair to suggest that this is some
             | kind of idiosyncratic preference of the original poster.
             | 
             | So pointing out that people differ is "a little unfair" but
             | asserting liking video calls is a universal human
             | requirement and enjoyment is fine?
             | 
             | > It's a basic human need.
             | 
             | History is full of people who happily did without.
        
               | foldr wrote:
               | It was not clear from your post that you were referring
               | to video calls rather than human contact in general. Here
               | is the part I was responding to:
               | 
               | >> Also, human contact and informal communication make
               | life and working more enjoyable.
               | 
               | >To you.
               | 
               | I think the vast majority of people would prefer having
               | social contact via video calls to the alternative of
               | having no social contact or having it only via text chat
               | - yes. But I was not talking specifically about video
               | calls.
        
               | tluyben2 wrote:
               | > I think the vast majority of people would prefer having
               | social contact via video calls to the alternative of
               | having no social contact
               | 
               | I believe that too, but for me at least, video chat is
               | for chitchat and banter and text chat for everything,
               | including substance. This is the same for in person; I
               | enjoy going with clients and colleagues to coffeeshops
               | and bars, but we don't get much done in either (in bar,
               | if with techies, actually more than you would think) but
               | it is nice for the human contact.
               | 
               | (Talking work context here if that was not clear)
        
               | baash05 wrote:
               | Personally, I like having chat's with my mates, over
               | vids. I can chat with them async too. I don't need to see
               | them to hear their voice in text.
        
               | TheGigaChad wrote:
               | Die Autist.
        
           | papaf wrote:
           | _Have you been in that scenario, ever? Video calls are
           | infinitely worse than typed text between non-native speakers.
           | And if the call is not going to be in english... why would
           | the written communication be so?_
           | 
           | I am in this scenario every work day as a non-native speaker.
           | I much prefer talking to people than trying to get the text
           | correct.
        
             | subw00f wrote:
             | I'm also in that scenario everyday with other 3 non native
             | speakers from different countries, text is preferred
             | unanimously. Tbh, that's the first time I encounter a non
             | native speaker software engineer who prefers video calls.
        
           | acatnamedjoe wrote:
           | If there are "regular shouting matches" going on in any form
           | of meeting then I would suggest the organisation in question
           | has cultural problems way beyond the communication tool being
           | used.
        
         | thaumasiotes wrote:
         | > The article also assumes every one is a native speaker who
         | can write quickly and clearly in a chat -- in a lot of
         | international projects this is not the case.
         | 
         | You think non-native speakers have an easier time communicating
         | in real time in a video call than through text? A video call is
         | _the worst case_ for a non-native speaker.
         | 
         | (Well, OK, a phone call is even worse. But being synchronous
         | and relying on their ability to understand the spoken language
         | are both terrible ideas if you're concerned about what makes
         | things easy for non-native speakers.)
        
           | zhte415 wrote:
           | Phone calls are better, as no one can see the group on the
           | other end looking at each other in bemusement (if in a
           | meeting room) or in a group IM chat (if not all in the same
           | place) asking each other what the hell the speaker is talking
           | about (was talking about, as the speaker's often moved on).
           | That's assuming anyone not interested has not taken a
           | bathroom break.
           | 
           | Sarcasm I hope detected.
           | 
           | Speaking in an international environment is a skill. It's not
           | just about (I think the term is) paralinquistics (speed,
           | accent, volume, etc), it's about _thinking about who else is
           | in the conversation_.
        
           | nottorp wrote:
           | > You think non-native speakers have an easier time
           | communicating in real time in a video call than through text?
           | A video call is the worst case for a non-native speaker.
           | 
           | Oh yea, I forgot about this because I don't do video/audio
           | calls.
           | 
           | A non native speaker is NOT exposed to spoken english daily.
           | In some countries they even dub Hollywood movies so not even
           | their entertainment is in english. And where movies are
           | subtitled you tend to read the subtitles so you don't bother
           | understanding accents, speech over explosions and stuff like
           | that.
           | 
           | Written english is another thing, if you do programming.
           | There's no point of looking for docs in your native language;
           | the originals are in english and always more up to date.
           | 
           | So maybe the non native speakers have trouble because the OP
           | speaks too fast / has an unfamiliar accent?
        
             | astonex wrote:
             | I work as a non-native speaker in Korea. Speaking and
             | listening is just insanely harder than reading and writing.
             | I can be productive as long as I'm exchanging messages on
             | Github/Messenger, but meetings are horrendous.
        
               | jdshaffer wrote:
               | I have the opposite problem here in Japan. I can listen
               | and speak pretty well, even in meetings, but written
               | stuff kills me because of all the kanji...
        
               | nottorp wrote:
               | And both of you should blame distributed work for this?
               | For opposite reasons? You simply know spoken Japanese
               | (much) better than written, while the poster above you
               | knows written Korean (much) better than spoken.
        
             | vasco wrote:
             | A non native speaker wasn't born in an English speaking
             | country, the rest are your assumptions. I'm non native and
             | I'm exposed to and speak english every single day, and
             | don't even live in an English speaking country.
        
               | nottorp wrote:
               | Local customs may vary? I'm not a native speaker either
               | and I do mix English and my native language even when
               | speaking. I'd still say my spoken English is
               | significantly worse than the written one.
        
             | Al-Khwarizmi wrote:
             | Apart from what you say about exposure (which is true), I'd
             | say that written English is much easier than spoken English
             | for most (if not all) native speakers, for several reasons:
             | 
             | - If you don't understand a sentence the first time, you
             | can read it twice (or as many times as you want), and this
             | very often helps as a non-native speaker - sometimes you
             | misinterpret a word and this throws you off, but reading
             | the sentence again clears the misunderstanding. It also can
             | help deducing the meaning of an unknown word from context,
             | etc. Of course in a video call you could ask the speaker to
             | repeat, but this isn't functional if you do it often, and
             | can make the non-native speaker feel ashamed of slowing the
             | conversation too much, especially in work environments.
             | 
             | - This one only applies to related languages, but it's much
             | easier to deduce the meaning of written words from other
             | languages. Take the word "subtitles" in your text. Any
             | Spanish speaker could infer that it is equivalent to
             | "subtitulos" in Spanish, because it's spelled very
             | similarly (Levenshtein distance = 2). But the pronunciation
             | (/'s^btaIt@ls/ vs. /sub'titulos/) is very different
             | (Levenshtein distance = 5).
             | 
             | - If you _still_ don 't understand a word, you can look it
             | up. Or even hit Google Translate. Good luck with that in a
             | video call.
             | 
             | - Written language is reasonably standard. While there can
             | be some regional variation (color/colour, lift/elevator and
             | so on); you get rid of all the diversity of accents which
             | can be a huge deal for a non-native speaker.
             | 
             | Seriously, speaking as a non-native English speaker (at a
             | quite good level now that allows me to speak quite
             | comfortably, but obviously I went through all the stages of
             | learning...) the difference between texting and phone/video
             | calling when you're a non-native is enormous. The latter is
             | like an order of magnitude more difficult.
        
               | thaumasiotes wrote:
               | > But the pronunciation (/'s^btaIt@ls/ vs. /sub'titulos/)
               | is very different (Levenshtein distance = 5).
               | 
               | Levenshtein distance between conventionalized IPA
               | orthographic representation is not a useful metric for
               | the perceptual difference between two spoken sound
               | sequences.
               | 
               | > Written language is reasonably standard. While there
               | can be some regional variation (color/colour,
               | lift/elevator and so on); you get rid of all the
               | diversity of accents which can be a huge deal for a non-
               | native speaker.
               | 
               | This problem actually comes up in writing too; I knew
               | some Chinese students who were _really_ offended by
               | English typos. They had a point - lacking the pre-
               | existing knowledge of English that lets me know what a
               | typo was meant to say, they just had no way of finding
               | out what a misspelled word was supposed to mean. You can
               | 't look up words that don't exist.
        
               | Al-Khwarizmi wrote:
               | > Levenshtein distance between conventionalized IPA
               | orthographic representation is not a useful metric for
               | the perceptual difference between two spoken sound
               | sequences.
               | 
               | I know. Just wanted to provide some metric for the
               | quantitatively-minded, and because the example is hard to
               | follow if you don't speak Spanish or read IPA, and I
               | don't know any least bad quantitative metric. But
               | qualitatively speaking, I can tell you that inferring the
               | meaning of that English word from the written form is
               | obvious even to a Spanish person with zero English
               | knowledge, while inferring it from the pronunciation it's
               | very difficult. And it's just an example, but it happens
               | with many words.
               | 
               | > This problem actually comes up in writing too; I knew
               | some Chinese students who were really offended by English
               | typos. They had a point - lacking the pre-existing
               | knowledge of English that lets me know what a typo was
               | meant to say, they just had no way of finding out what a
               | misspelled word was supposed to mean. You can't look up
               | words that don't exist.
               | 
               | It can come up, but still, the normal frequency of typos
               | is much, much smaller than the frequency of accent-
               | specific pronunciation variants, which typically change
               | several words per sentence. And with Google you _can_
               | look up many light typos and it will come up with the
               | correct form (although not things like using  "of"
               | instead of "have", of course).
        
               | hutzlibu wrote:
               | "You can't look up words that don't exist."
               | 
               | Erm, just google them and take the recommended result?
               | 
               | In general I think searching with missspelled words is a
               | quite solved problem.
        
             | BlargMcLarg wrote:
             | >because the OP speaks too fast / has an unfamiliar accent
             | 
             | Here's an unpopular opinion by a hard-hearing person with
             | native English skills: the far majority of people are
             | really bad at verbal communication as a way to transfer
             | knowledge. Doubly so in complex areas. To top it off, I see
             | barely any difference between people in roles that require
             | speaking often and those who don't, except for frequent
             | public speakers.
             | 
             | The reasons? Bad articulation. Speaking too fast. Speaking
             | before you know what you want to say. Complicated
             | explanations. Muttering "uh", "ah" and more. Diversions.
             | The list goes on.
             | 
             | And it's not like the information on how to be a better
             | speaker isn't out there. I can assuredly say the average
             | person in a leadership position doesn't even take 5 minutes
             | of their work day to do vocal exercises. That alone already
             | helps a lot.
             | 
             | Meanwhile, people making informative videos and talks out
             | of their own accord are much easier to hear and understand.
             | The difference is night and day.
        
               | perl4ever wrote:
               | I'm attending a series of lectures on project management,
               | and the first one was _great_. I mean, it didn 't contain
               | any earth shattering information, but it was paced
               | perfectly.
               | 
               | The second one was surprising by comparison, because
               | while it wasn't that bad, it illuminated all the things
               | that were spot on in the first one. For instance, it was
               | just a little too fast for me to easily type everything
               | on the slides as notes, which I think is approximately
               | the pace at which I absorb information. At the same time,
               | there was too much redundancy and filler so I tended to
               | get lost figuring out where information should go in my
               | outline.
               | 
               | If someone is otherwise a good and prepared speaker, a
               | heavy accent can be adjusted to.
               | 
               | Go a little slower and prune the verbiage a little more
               | seem to me like principles to come back to.
        
               | DiggyJohnson wrote:
               | I am not a great communicator. I talk too fast, don't
               | articulate my thoughts, start talking before the other
               | person is finished (though I have a pet theory I picked
               | up this habit from my first high-paced tech job working
               | across 9 timezones with Indians =p ).
               | 
               | I am constantly trying to work on this part of myself-for
               | both myself and others' benefit-but have to be careful to
               | not get too anxious about trying to fix my communication.
               | 
               | I really appreciate this comment because I've found that
               | when I talk to (close) friends about this challenge they
               | do not consider communication something that can be much
               | improved; communication style is mostly rigid. This
               | baffles me because it seems like it would doom most bad
               | communicators to a lifetime of bad communicating. This
               | might be exactly how life works, I admit, but its an
               | interesting way of getting to this obvious point.
               | 
               | Where do you recommend someone like me go to learn more
               | about those vocal exercises you mentioned. That does seem
               | like a great starting place.
        
             | mgbmtl wrote:
             | Yeah, accents can be difficult. Personality too.
             | 
             | I grew up in a bilingual en/fr environment. I mostly read
             | in English and watch TV in English. Half of my ex partners
             | are Anglo.
             | 
             | And yet, on calls where I'm the only non-native speakers,
             | and others are American or AU/NZ, I just don't understand
             | half the cultural references and can't say anything because
             | they talk too fast and interrupt all the time. At best,
             | someone might notice that I am frowning or bored.
             | 
             | Regardless whether text or video, some people are not there
             | to listen to others. No easy way out of that one :)
        
         | nottorp wrote:
         | It's also implying that you do need to train a bit to work
         | efficiently in a distributed team.
         | 
         | > The article also assumes every one is a native speaker who
         | can write quickly and clearly in a chat -- in a lot of
         | international projects this is not the case.
         | 
         | These are two different things. Native speaker is one, having
         | the skill of writing quicky and clearly is another. They're
         | unrelated. Both are trainable. Not to mention that in my
         | experience it's the native speakers (of English i guess?) have
         | the worst spelling :)
         | 
         | > Also, human contact and informal communication make life and
         | working more enjoyable.
         | 
         | And... informal communication _has_ to be in a video call? It
         | can 't be in writing?
         | 
         | As for the human contact, I do recommend having a social life
         | outside work. Distributed or not distributed work.
         | 
         | Source of statements: been working in distributed teams for 20
         | years, not since this pandemic.
        
           | papaf wrote:
           | _And... informal communication has to be in a video call? It
           | can 't be in writing?_
           | 
           | On video calls and in meatspace, you get to see peoples
           | facial expressions, their smiles, they can move their hands
           | and make gestures. I much prefer that to text.
           | 
           |  _As for the human contact, I do recommend having a social
           | life outside work. Distributed or not distributed work._
           | 
           | You are correct but, personally, I think spending 8 hours a
           | day without seeing faces is too much.
        
         | tluyben2 wrote:
         | We work with people from all over the world, most not native
         | speaking. For technical stuff, in our experience, voice or
         | video calls are the most inefficient thing possible. Because
         | spoken bad English is far worse than written, a lot of people
         | have less than optimal internet bandwidth and latency and,
         | worst, after the call the details are kind of lost. So first
         | writing the main points in chat, if then some people (usually
         | this is 1 person) want a call, we do a call and then flesh the
         | details out over chat and in docs/wiki.
         | 
         | Informal comms is also via chat; far more so then in video as,
         | because of the overchatter and bad connections, jokes and quips
         | get lost far easier.
         | 
         | Ymmv of course but we avoid vid/voice like the plague, so far
         | it hurt us with large amounts of miscommunication and time
         | loss.
         | 
         | By the way, been doing this and like this for 25 years now.
        
           | nottorp wrote:
           | > By the way, been doing this and like this for 25 years now.
           | 
           | Yeah, he must be new to distributed work :)
        
       | TheGigaChad wrote:
       | Autist idiot.
        
       | notRobot wrote:
       | I prefer written communication because I like to think while
       | absorbing information. As a result, when it's on a call, often
       | I'll space out for a bit if I suddenly get a thought -- and then
       | I'll have to ask the speaker to repeat themselves, which isn't
       | very fun for anyone involved. Plus, I don't have the best memory
       | when it comes to conversations.
       | 
       | Just the fact that written communication can be referenced (and
       | searched!) at any point in the future makes it magnitudes better
       | _for me_.
       | 
       | Even if a call is recorded (which it never is at my workplace),
       | it takes a lot more time to go through a recording to find the
       | bit you need, as compared to a quick and simple ctrl+F.
       | 
       | But people all work differently, so... :shrug:
        
       | bob229 wrote:
       | It doesn't necessitate asynchronous working at all if you all
       | work the same hours in the same time zone as many people will be
        
       | nonameiguess wrote:
       | One thing I never see considered in these discussions is the
       | terrible state of high-speed residential broadband in the United
       | States. Whether or not my team wants to do constant video calls,
       | I can't. One of the things I did when I first started working
       | from home is set up my router with OPNSense in preference to the
       | ISP-provided router, which gives me some visibility into fine-
       | grained details of traffic.
       | 
       | Early on, the defense program I'm working on was big into pair
       | programming. With a distributed team, this meant screen-sharing
       | through Teams for hours per day. I could see turning on HD screen
       | sharing and video feeds causes Teams to eat up 90%+ of my
       | bandwidth, and additionally by tracking the data rates I'm
       | getting through the WAN at different times of day and different
       | times of the week, I can see very clearly that my ISP is
       | throttling me when I'm using that much bandwidth. I may be paying
       | for 400 mbps, but if I actually try to use that, I won't get it
       | for more than a few minutes a day, or I'll get it for Netflix and
       | Amazon Video, which are clearly paying for preferential treatment
       | now that net neutrality is still not a thing (it will be
       | interesting to see if they'll just started getting throttled as
       | well if the FCC chooses to reinstitute net neutrality).
       | 
       | Unless and until my employer or whatever acquisition office for
       | the contract we're working on is going to run a dedicated leased
       | line to my house that guarantees me consistent high-speed access,
       | or they're willing to pay the ISPs for preferential treatment
       | like streaming services do, nonstop HD audio and video is simply
       | not going to happen.
       | 
       | An hour a day is fine. I don't want to say never have any
       | primarily voice-based meetings. Talking to people is important
       | for many reasons. But at some point, when you've made a design
       | decision, write it down. When you've begun implementing
       | something, write down why you did it the way you did, how it
       | works. It's easy enough to say documentation grows stale, so why
       | bother? Then keep it up to date. Block out time in your work
       | planning to do that. You wouldn't learn how to use the
       | programming language you're learning, the operating system you're
       | using, how TCP/IP and HTTP works, how a browser renders html, by
       | asking the original creators of those tools. They wrote down how
       | those things worked, and committed to a public interface, and you
       | learn by reading as you're doing. I've been bit far too often by
       | organizations that want to deliver fast and scrimp on
       | documentation, and all the knowledge of why a particular design
       | decision was made rest entirely in one person's head, and that
       | person leaves, and the rest of us are left to reverse engineer
       | whatever it is they did. You gain speed up front for your very
       | first delivery, but then permanently cripple yourselves forever
       | after.
       | 
       | Maybe the vast majority of developers are just making
       | screwdrivers and it doesn't really matter. The plan is to deliver
       | anything quickly, generate some hype, and get acquired, and they
       | don't care about product longevity because they won't be around
       | for it anyway. But at least some people are making jet turbine
       | engines, or something worthy of being included in that rebuild
       | civilization from scratch archive that documents how to create
       | all of the lasting and essential technologies that enable modern
       | life. That has to outlive you. It's already not scalable or
       | workable to try to contribute to the Linux kernel by asking Linus
       | Torvalds personally how it works. Thankfully, it has great
       | documentation. But imagine if you were at Google trying to work
       | on Android and wanted to ask Robert Love why it is doing a
       | particular thing. He's not even there any more! Thankfully, he
       | not only contributed to the wonderful kernel documentation
       | project. He also wrote books about it! And they won't grow
       | instantly stale because the design decisions were well thought
       | out and the APIs are fairly stable because of it. Writing out the
       | rationale behind your design decisions is one way to force
       | yourself to make sure they are actually well thought out.
        
       | ivraatiems wrote:
       | This is a well-written, cogent, and carefully considered article
       | whose conclusions I disagree with almost completely.
       | 
       | Many of the specifics have already been discussed, but a major
       | benefit of video calls has been missed: Screen sharing. Computer
       | interaction is largely a visual medium in modern times. It is so
       | much easier to look interactively, together, at something than to
       | try to type out what's going on. This applies to both
       | instructions on using or doing something, and especially to code
       | review or discussion.
       | 
       | That doesn't mean you screenshare or call for most problems - you
       | don't. But for some things it just ends up taking infinitely less
       | time, especially when you are having trouble getting one side to
       | understand via text.
       | 
       | I work for a fully remote engineering team that has been remote
       | for more than a decade - COVID changed very little of my
       | organization's culture, as far as I know (I joined after the
       | pandemic started). One of our core rules is "if a conversation is
       | not going well, or people don't understand what's being said,
       | take it to video," and that has served us well.
        
       | xzlzx wrote:
       | We optimize to get things done. If a video call is warranted, we
       | all hop on and get to the answer much faster than text. If the
       | convo is inherently asynchronous, we use Slack. I don't see the
       | benefit in drawing lines in the sand. Each situation is
       | different. We use impromptu meetings in most cases, not scheduled
       | ones. It works like a charm. Being rigid about process is a
       | classic productivity killer.
        
         | MattGaiser wrote:
         | > is warranted
         | 
         | Significant disagreements likely arise about what this means.
         | 
         | The problem isn't so much that video calls can be warranted,
         | but that different people can have wildly different
         | understandings of what that means.
        
       | formerly_proven wrote:
       | I've done like three or four video calls at work since corona
       | (=full remote). I don't get the US obsession with video calls.
       | Voice is perfectly cromulent for almost everything (see: those
       | 3-4 exceptions).
       | 
       | In distributed teams involving people from multiple countries you
       | probably want to avoid both video and voice calls because on
       | average everyone is much better at writing and reading English
       | compared to speaking and listening.
        
         | Hamuko wrote:
         | Most of the meetings that I attend as a full-time remote
         | employee are ones where someone is sharing a screen anyways.
         | There's little screen real estate for anyone's webcam and I
         | wouldn't really be interested in staring at them since I'm
         | primarily looking at the shared screen.
        
           | Scoundreller wrote:
           | That's where voice comes in handy. I'd hate to have to type
           | while demonstrating the issue or solutions in the
           | screenshare.
           | 
           | Then the difficulty on the other side of having to read since
           | the host's typing shows up in a side box instead of like a TV
           | subtitle.
           | 
           | Sometimes we'll have stakeholders call in on their iPad or
           | whatever, but they're passive so it's best to avoid text if
           | they do need to jump in.
        
         | bgatl wrote:
         | The obsession is clear at least: Video calls are the
         | narcissist's prime weapon of choice to fake useful involvement
         | in a project. Many managers grade people on presence and
         | eloquence in meetings.
         | 
         | What is not clear is why the actually productive people don't
         | push back.
        
           | nottorp wrote:
           | > What is not clear is why the actually productive people
           | don't push back.
           | 
           | Easier to change jobs until the culture fits. Especialy with
           | remote jobs.
        
         | vaylian wrote:
         | A lot of people had very little video/voicechat experience
         | before the pandemic. It doesn't occur to them, that the
         | "downgrade" to audio-only is actually better than video+audio.
         | 
         | Text trumps audio in terms of communicating hard facts. But
         | many people outside of the tech industry can't properly touch-
         | type. Just consider how many people still make phone calls
         | instead of writing an e-mail.
        
           | lbriner wrote:
           | Many people in the tech industry can't touch-type!
           | 
           | Certainly in the UK, and probably Europe, where you are much
           | less likely to have a comp-sci degree, it is very hard to
           | create consistent requirements for devs like "touch type 60
           | words per minute" or "understands patterns and principles".
           | 
           | It would be great to have something, even an industry
           | standard like exists for law, medicine and even some building
           | trades to at least have a base-level of consistency. I think
           | this would help communication a lot - the domain language
           | like "this wouldn't work as a Singleton because we need to
           | subclass it" is nice and terse but only if you know the
           | words.
        
             | kgwgk wrote:
             | > much less likely to have a comp-sci degree
             | 
             | > consistent requirements for devs like "touch type 60
             | words per minute"
             | 
             | How are those two things related?
             | 
             | Is typing part of the computer science curriculum?
        
               | Aeolun wrote:
               | It was part of my elementary school curriculum :/ and
               | that was 22 years ago.
               | 
               | (In the Netherlands, and of course we used typewriters,
               | since we didn't have that many computers yet)
               | 
               | Edit: modified for clarity based on comment
        
               | kgwgk wrote:
               | I'm pretty sure computers were not so rare in the
               | Netherlands in 1999!
        
               | Aeolun wrote:
               | Fair point.
               | 
               | I meant, we had computers, but not a whole class full of
               | them. Teaching kids one by one on the one computer per
               | class would have been very inefficient.
               | 
               | Modified the original comment.
        
               | perl4ever wrote:
               | I don't think so; the causation would be in the opposite
               | direction.
               | 
               | A lot of experience typing (code) would tend to make
               | someone more likely to pursue and complete a CS degree.
        
         | anyfactor wrote:
         | I do freelancing and I hate calls in general.
         | 
         | There are people out there who would not even give a single
         | sentence description of what they want rather it is "when can
         | you jump on a call with me".
         | 
         | They assume the task is difficult to explain in text but to me
         | it often sounds like they don't even have an idea of what they
         | want really.
         | 
         | They want me to hold their hands and lead them through a
         | journey of self discovery while on the ride we discover joy and
         | surprise and at the end of the tunnel only to discover the
         | project is radically abstract and the client is not happy to
         | pay on a per hour basis.
        
       | lbriner wrote:
       | I think there is space for more disruptive approach to meetings.
       | Remember Elon Musk saying if he didn't find meetings productive,
       | he would walk out? Stuff like that.
       | 
       | How about saying to people that if they don't see the value of a
       | meeting, they shouldn't turn up. You start to see problems arise
       | and people should then start to see why some of those "boring"
       | meetings are actually important or perhaps how the same problems
       | can be solved in another more productive way.
       | 
       | The difficult part is sometimes teaching devs that they do not
       | exist in a vacuum and the business is more important than the
       | tech. Sometimes they need to be in meetings to help others
       | understand and sometimes they need to hear some non-tech truths,
       | neither of which they would necessarily appreciate by default.
        
         | BlargMcLarg wrote:
         | >I think there is space for more disruptive approach to
         | meetings. Remember Elon Musk saying if he didn't find meetings
         | productive, he would walk out? Stuff like that.
         | 
         | The last time I even suggested doing this, I was swiftly met
         | with a "then I'll report it to HR" by the manager. Even though
         | this was in video, with a clear tongue-in-cheeks approach. The
         | majority of my colleagues had nowhere near the audacity to make
         | such a suggestion, let alone actually do this. Reality is most
         | developers aren't working together enough to make it a serious
         | risk for managers not to listen, as the average dev is still
         | replaceable enough.
         | 
         | >The difficult part is sometimes teaching devs that they do not
         | exist in a vacuum and the business is more important than the
         | tech.
         | 
         | You don't really need meetings for this though. Unless you're
         | trying to convince a stubborn dev by showing him just how much
         | more stubborn stakeholder X, who controls the money, truly is.
         | 
         | >Sometimes they need to be in meetings to help others
         | understand
         | 
         | I fail to see how pulling the majority of the dev team to the
         | meeting, while at the same time giving them zero time to
         | prepare and zero development in their presentation skills,
         | helps others understand much more if it wasn't something that
         | was so trivial, you could've explained it in a short message.
         | I'm all for helping the client, the higher-ups or any other
         | non-dev who wants to know more and meet the business ends.
         | However, the kneejerk reaction seems to be "let us meet". In
         | reality, they want me to bridge the gaps between their
         | perceived needs, their actual needs, my/our jargon and a way of
         | communication they understand. New-age meetings with barely any
         | preparation or research beforehand, being mostly a back-and-
         | forth, no-holds-barred discussion, have barely ever been a
         | suitable medium for that.
        
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