[HN Gopher] Hmsklt - App to help friends form deeper relationships
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Hmsklt - App to help friends form deeper relationships
Author : bchhor
Score : 114 points
Date : 2021-09-21 10:31 UTC (12 hours ago)
(HTM) web link (www.hmsklt.app)
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| bchhor wrote:
| Hey everyone - we're working on Hmsklt.app to help friends form
| deeper relationships and more authentic connection.
|
| - Join a small group of friends for a 7-day "bonfire" centered
| around a theme like Daily Gratitudes, Small Moments in Your Day,
| Weird Fun Stories, Self Love, Childhood Memories, or Highlights +
| Lowlights.
|
| - Each day, the group will get a prompt to respond with short
| videos -- a chance to reflect on the topics and small moments
| that you wouldn't normally ask about. After the 7 days, you can
| choose to have the videos disappear or save them to celebrate
| your friendships.
|
| We want to make it less awkward to be vulnerable and build
| authentic connections with the people who matter to you. No
| influencers, no posing, no filters -- just sharing small moments
| and good stories with your friends.
|
| It sucks to be connected to thousands of people on social media
| but still feel so lonely. Having been personally affected by
| loneliness and mental health, we wanted to build tools to boost
| mental wellness that are less intense than therapy/medication.
|
| We're currently in private beta and would really appreciate any
| feedback to help us make the app a warm and supportive
| experience.
| mlang23 wrote:
| "Daily Gratitudes", "Self Love"... This sort of curated
| communication reminds me a lot about how it feels to be around
| believers... It makes me shiver. Authentic communication cant
| be based on a framework of acceptable topics preselected by,
| well, whom? Besides, less screen time is the only way to go to
| strengthen friendships.
| Avicebron wrote:
| Agreed, I just had a strong stomach churn thinking about the
| slightly crazy eyed, chipper, vision board writing, medium
| article writing, HR types who who act like they're some kind
| of middle school camp counselor..."Today, tell me three
| things that made you sad, silly me..it's the 2021? Take a
| selfie of yourself telling your friends what makes you sad"
| f'ng yikes.
| ewidar wrote:
| Hey!
|
| How does the beta access work? Shouldn't I be able to join
| together with my friends in the Beta?
| bchhor wrote:
| Hey! If you sign up for the email list, we'll send you a
| TestFlight beta link for the app and you can invite your
| friends from within the app.
| yoavm wrote:
| iOS only?
| bchhor wrote:
| Yep, iOS only for now
| smoldesu wrote:
| That seems like a pretty big oversight, particularly for
| an app that's intended for bringing people together. Now
| my first discussion with my friend group isn't "who wants
| to use this new app," but instead "who has an iPhone and
| wants to dogfood this person's social media app without
| the rest of our friends?" It's an awful lot of friction
| for a medium that relies on viral propagation.
| someguydave wrote:
| The stories prompted by this app will be very personal.
| Shouldn't they be protected from third parties? Encryption with
| a shared symmetric key sounds reasonable?
| magicalhippo wrote:
| > It sucks to be connected to thousands of people on social
| media but still feel so lonely. Having been personally affected
| by loneliness and mental health, we wanted to build tools to
| boost mental wellness that are less intense than
| therapy/medication.
|
| I'm struggling to see how to bootstrap this. Like if one guy in
| a groups says "hey let's use this new app to become better
| friends" and the others are just fine with the status quo,
| won't it be very awkward?
|
| And if the group has decided "hey let's do this to become
| better friends", do they really need this over a discord, hike
| or some other activity?
|
| I found it was enough to just talk to people... but I guess my
| experience is not universal.
|
| Personally I'd find it very awkward to use such an app, it
| would feel very forced and artificial, but if it helps someone
| then I say awesome!
| zelos wrote:
| "... Stories, _Self Love_ , Childhood..."
|
| I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable posting videos of that to my
| friends...
| melony wrote:
| _OnlyFriends_
| shpongled wrote:
| > no posing
|
| > "Weird Fun Stories", "Highlights + Lowlights"
|
| Good luck, but I have to say this is one of the weirdest
| sounding apps I have heard of, and something I (and probably
| most of my friends) would never use. I don't see how forcing
| conversation around some kind of "theme" produces "authentic"
| and "deep" connections - those are things that only come
| organically
| munchbunny wrote:
| I think a small adjustment to this formula could make a big
| difference: instead of group prompts, is there a way to prompt a
| single person at a time to respond to something deeper, and then
| to use that to start a conversation?
|
| When I think about the most genuine connections I have with
| friends, the bonds are not formed from little things like talking
| about what we're doing this weekend. They're formed from moments
| when we are focused on each other as complex people with hopes,
| struggles, ideas, perspectives, messy families and careers,
| insecurities, successes, all wrapped up in a bundle. They come
| from being around for each other's journeys as we individually
| sort out our lives, even if the venue might be something
| insubstantial like talking while playing the same video game.
|
| I think short prompt responses would make me focus too much on
| myself, not enough on others.
| unixhero wrote:
| I will not use an app for this, but all the contents of the app,
| I can Simply ask my friends about. In this way we can have
| engaging conversations.
| slingnow wrote:
| This app is the infomercial equivalent of the latest gadget that
| promises to give you 6-pack abs in 60 days.
|
| In the same way that building muscle requires actual work and
| dedication, so does meaningful connections with your friends.
| e-clinton wrote:
| Kudos on Launching. I'm in support of anything that gets people
| out of the social media routine and into more meaningful
| interactions. In fact, I'm building a Messaging app with exactly
| this in mind.
| krak12 wrote:
| Creepy
| roseconn wrote:
| What's the big difference between this app and another social
| networking app? You can't assume that all of the features content
| sharing is authentic just because it is posted on the platform.
| tanto wrote:
| Deep connections are best build in real life by investing time
| into a relationship. I worry that for a lot of young people real
| friendship is getting really hard to come by nowadays.
| brtknr wrote:
| I wonder if this app is trying to capitalise on exclusivity of a
| new social network that Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat once
| provided?
| spacebear wrote:
| Maybe it's not, but this sure looks like a predatory data grab.
| FinanceAnon wrote:
| Even if it's not, they could get hacked or acquired by someone
| else along with all the personal videos and data
| pcurve wrote:
| I clicked into it thinking it was going to be a research article
| about the importance of developing deep connection with a few.
| Boy was I wrong.
| soco wrote:
| 1. All the titles on the homepage do word-wrapping after each
| letter. Resize the width on a computer to see it. 2. Are those
| prompts generated by you? I'd be put off by too many challenges
| like "daily gratitudes" or such self improvement trendy hoopla.
| bchhor wrote:
| Thanks for the website feedback!
|
| We did generate most of the prompts ourselves but there's a
| pretty broad range: - Getting to know each other better through
| sharing funny weird stories, music that's shaped you, stories
| from childhood, etc - Sharing small moments in your day-to-day
| life: things that made you smile, times you were frustrated,
| weird morning routines, etc - Improving mental wellness by
| reflecting on your priorities, how you take care of yourself,
| or things that you're worrying about these days
| LurkingPenguin wrote:
| I love the spirit, but in all honesty, this is one of those
| instances where you don't need an app for that.
|
| The best ways to build deeper connections with friends don't
| involve a screen.
| mlang23 wrote:
| Fully agreed. It is somewhat concerning that so few people
| realize this. It seems tech is the answer to everything these
| days ... Nothing beats catching up with friends by actually
| visiting them and sit down for a few hours of talk.
| marcsimon42 wrote:
| Hey!
|
| I don't think one goes against the other. Meeting in personne
| would never be replaced by an app, but with work, kids,
| distance, it can be really easy to loose touch.
|
| This app also focus on questions that you may not have even
| thought asking your friends or even yourself.
| grvdrm wrote:
| >it can be really easy to lose touch
|
| I use a simple question to determine whether I've "lost
| touch" with someone or not: do I have a regular or semi-
| regular urge to talk to that person?
|
| I find the answer is often no. Lots of folks gain and lose
| friends unexpectedly over time. It's ok! It's natural. It
| feels (to me) unnatural to feel unhappy about not
| communicating regularly with a friend: that person is just
| not as close of a friend anymore.
| sneak wrote:
| Anyone who grew up on IRC or in the early days of online
| dating/video games will rightfully recognize this as
| completely, totally false.
| hazz99 wrote:
| I think there's something to be said for having an item to
| center a ritual around. Similar to the "talking stick" concept.
| Gives people an excuse to share, which can otherwise be hard to
| find.
|
| Also - great idea while in lockdown.
| readingnews wrote:
| Really. There are things the little distraction box in my
| pocket are not good for.
|
| My initial thought, though, was who keeps these logs of
| discussions and "go one level deeper" conversations, and what
| do they do with them?
| mikro2nd wrote:
| Friendship as performance art/virtue signalling.
| Graffur wrote:
| You mean this app is?
| dotandgtfo wrote:
| What's the story with the name? How do you pronounce it?
|
| The product seems interesting, but I'm not a sharer on social
| media.
| bad_good_guy wrote:
| homeskillet: noun~ a close friend, more like family, someone
| from your neighborhood.
| samhw wrote:
| That's fine, but it's still going to be very hard to explain
| to people (or hell, even _remember_ ) how it's spelled, so
| they can search or download it.
| e-clinton wrote:
| Home skillet?
| bchhor wrote:
| The name is short for "homeskillet," which is a colloquial term
| of endearment for a good friend. I met my cofounder on an
| airplane 7 years ago and developed our friendship while each
| living in distant cities (SF, Taipei, Berlin, London). I called
| him homeskillet once but he didn't understand the meaning since
| he's French, so it randomly became our placeholder project name
| as we bounced around ideas for cool things to build.
|
| Super helpful feedback on the name confusion!
| iainmerrick wrote:
| Just calling it "homeskillet" would be better.
|
| (Although, I've never heard that term before, so it still
| wouldn't be great me for at least.)
| marcod wrote:
| https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=home%20skil
| l...
| JohnFen wrote:
| Huh, I learned a new word today! Doubt I'll use it, but
| at least it won't confuse me should I encounter that use
| in the future.
| danpalmer wrote:
| Thanks for the explanation. Further feedback though, I've
| never heard this term before, and I consider myself to have a
| relatively good vocabulary. Here in the UK, "skillet" isn't
| the most common word either (it's not uncommon, some people
| do use it, especially referring to cast-iron skillets
| specifically, but less common than in the US).
|
| At the very least you've got to add the name of the company
| to the website so that people know it's not just some random
| letters.
|
| Honestly though, I'd feel silly having to explain this name
| to anyone so probably just won't.
| danpalmer wrote:
| Agreed. This product will live or die on word of mouth, and
| right now I wouldn't know how to talk about it with someone
| else.
| dt2m wrote:
| agreed, as a english-as-second-language speaker both the idiom
| and acronym was completely lost on me. concept has potential as
| long as it's not just another clone of snapchat stories.
| pimlottc wrote:
| As an English-as-first-language speaker, it did not at all
| occur to me what "hmsklt" meant. I haven't heard the term
| "homeskillet" used in 20+ years.
| hamuraijack wrote:
| If you're trying to build a tool to help deepen connections, it
| shouldn't be around sharing things that you do. We've tried that
| model for the last 15 years and it's clearly failed. I think what
| people crave these days is human connection through interactions.
| I think the biggest problem with friendships these days is people
| want friends without all the work that goes with it.
| lotsofpulp wrote:
| I wonder if a shared struggle/experience is needed to forge
| strong bonds. Not just going out, eating/drinking/dancing over
| and over, but a series of ups and downs.
|
| Maybe individuals becoming less dependent on others due to a
| combination of earning power and internet facilitating ease of
| accessing information and communicating with literally anyone
| and not just those around you changed the parameters of life.
| Hence relationships are less likely to experience the
| conditions required to create the necessary bonds.
| svachalek wrote:
| I think "social" media helped to kill a lot of social
| interaction, by making it easy to go through the motions and
| keep up appearances more efficiently than actually living a
| rich social life.
|
| I read somewhere that given a choice between what we know is
| good and what's convenient, people will choose convenience
| almost every time, leading to a modern world that feels how a
| pre-packaged peanut butter and jelly sandwich tastes. It's
| obviously a subjective statement but I've found it explains a
| lot about everything.
| Viliam1234 wrote:
| Yeah. At some moment in my life I noticed that there are two
| types of "friends": First is a person you can have fun
| with... and that is all you can ever do with them. Second is
| a person you can have fun with, but you can also discuss
| serious things with, and help each other. As long as you only
| have fun, these two types seem similar. You typically learn
| the difference only when something bad happens to you... then
| the first type of friend disappears.
|
| You can filter friends by putting yourself together in
| difficult situations on purpose. Like, take a long trip
| together, some problems will happen and you can see how the
| other person reacts. Or volunteer for an organization that
| helps others; the friends you find there are already filtered
| for their willingness to help others. (This isn't a 100%
| certain strategy; there are some abusers who know that others
| use this algorithm, so they go there fishing for easy victims
| to exploit. But most of lazy and selfish people would refuse
| to try anything like this.)
|
| If your life is all about fun, then you are at risk of being
| surrounded by people who are your friends only as long as the
| fun lasts.
| Frost1x wrote:
| >I think the biggest problem with friendships these days is
| people want friends without all the work that goes with it.
|
| We have a very convenience driven "me first" culture. While
| it's healthy to always keep in mind your needs, aside from
| _maybe_ you close family /friends, few will, you also have to
| consider other people and learn to reach agreeable compromises.
|
| Sometimes it means driving somewhere you don't want to and
| spending half a day to make someone else happy when you could
| spend that same half a day making sure you exclusively are
| happy. Social relationships, maybe most human relationships in
| general, are about reaching reasonable compromises that doesn't
| always put self above all. We seem to be moving in a direction
| where we put self above all though and you get a lot of lonely
| people who pamper themselves. Some may enjoy that sort of
| lifestyle but not me, it seems very lonely.
| toshk wrote:
| It seems to me that we the strongest bonds are formed out of
| necessity.
|
| We bond with people in difficult situations when we need
| protections and are able to protect.
|
| I've noticed friends who are born in places like South
| Africa, or Russia are much intenser with friendships.
|
| My theory is that they really have to trust eachother because
| they have no trust in the system.
|
| Where I grew up, trust in system is strong and it seems
| people don't need to rely on eachother.
|
| It's not so simple, and of course most people still bond
| deeply depending on personality and upbringing. But it's why
| I think most Western societies are so individual.
| mockingbirdy wrote:
| There are some studies which reveal possible connections
| between wealth, compassion and how generous people are. [1]
| and [2] for articles about studies like [3]. I see some
| shortcomings in some of the studies (looking at drivers of
| luxury cars is not informative about all types of wealthy
| people, just the ones who care about spending it this way
| which self-selects a certain kind of person), but I think
| that the general direction could be informative for more
| research. There are also studies about cognitive costs of
| empathy [4] which may relate to this.
|
| [1]: https://economictimes.indiatimes.com/wealth/save/why-
| poor-pe...
|
| [2]: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-wealth-
| reduce...
|
| [3]: https://www.pnas.org/content/109/11/4086.short
|
| [4]: https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/xge-
| xge0000595.pd...
| mkr-hn wrote:
| I've seen an incredible outpouring of selfless support for
| others during the pandemic, and quite a bit before that.
| Maybe the problem is the people you're surrounded by and pay
| attention to, not culture in general.
| bserge wrote:
| Verbal/written or actual support?
| mkr-hn wrote:
| Money, transportation, housing,
| referrals/interviews/jobs, a good time with safe people
| away from an unsafe but currently inescapable situation.
| Sometimes verbal or written, but that can be just what
| someone needs. I've personally received a few lifelines.
| simplify wrote:
| While those things are great, they're also one-and-done
| transactions. All the other person needs to do is say
| thanks and be appreciative.
|
| Building friendships is actually harder. It takes more
| time and more effort, on many separate occasions. And
| there's no guarantee it'll be worth it, either.
| bserge wrote:
| If you do that, you have a high chance of being an idiot.
| You'll be the idiot who puts others first, always helps them,
| gets nothing in return and then gets abandoned. Hence most
| people are playing it safe and care about themselves first.
| Viliam1234 wrote:
| You could use a "tit for tat" strategy, where you do
| something nice for the other person first, and later you
| ask them for help with something small you need. Those who
| don't reciprocate, they get on your blacklist and you no
| longer do nice things for them. With those who reciprocate,
| you gradually escalate.
|
| But this requires some bookkeeping, that strategies like
| "always help others" and "never help others" do not.
|
| Seems like many people start with "always help others" as a
| combination of idealism and... I was tempted to say
| laziness, but probably the idea just never occured to them.
| After seeing that people do not reciprocate, they burn out
| and switch to "never help others". Or maybe it's not even
| the case that most people do not reciprocate, but rather
| that there are a few abusers who notice the opportunity and
| start exploiting the naive person. (So the naive person's
| statistics would be like "I helped others 100 times, and
| was only helped 7 times myself", but they forget to notice
| that of those 100 times they helped someone, 90 times they
| helped the same person who never reciprocated.)
| DiggyJohnson wrote:
| Surely its the middle-ground between your point and what
| you perceive GP's point to be?
| injidup wrote:
| Go regularly to your local surf beach/kite spot/skate
| park/climbing wall/Games workshop/organic vegetable
| collective/Latin dance club / or whatever your interest is.
|
| Show that you are interested. Talk to people. Ask questions. Give
| praise when you see cool stuff. Accept praise when it's given.
| Don't bring your job with you. Be respectful and interactive. Let
| connections build over time.
|
| No app needed!
| gilbetron wrote:
| I think the "problem" is that then you have to deal with real
| people rather than the fantasy facades social apps and
| discussion sites let us create!
| reidjs wrote:
| Repeating "don't bring your job with you."
|
| It often comes across as status-checking based on income. I
| feel bad for people who can't think of a better question than
| "so, what do you do?"
| 1911z wrote:
| the only solution is to keep your screen off, get your car and go
| somewhere with your friends
| JohnFen wrote:
| This app confuses me. You deepen relationships with your friends
| by hanging out with them and doing things together. The sharing
| of personal stories and whatnot comes as a natural result of
| that.
|
| The sort of "compelled" sharing that this app is proposing
| doesn't strike me as being terribly useful in terms of deepening
| your friendships.
| Vinnl wrote:
| This seems very focused on friendships, but it sounds like a
| pretty interesting way to get a bit closer with my remote
| coworkers.
| Graffur wrote:
| I am seeing a nightmare scenario where hr-types push something
| like onto teams. We'll be expected to spend time taking videos
| of ourselves and our morning routines or whatever.. instead of
| doing what we were hired to do.
| mosselman wrote:
| I hope OP takes this as a pivot for the product. Connecting
| with friends is already solved, connecting with co-workers on a
| personal level much less so, especially remote.
| Avicebron wrote:
| Not all people want a deeply personal relationship with their
| co-workers, many would even find being forced to engage in
| that intrusive. Unfortunately once those bonds are formed
| between some members of a team, often the team dynamic is
| shifted weirdly as some people feel forced into the "buddy
| buddy system"...it's classic now and forcing it into remote
| work seems like a nightmare
| Vinnl wrote:
| If you're at a place where this would be "forced", then I'd
| argue that that place is the problem, not the existence of
| such a product. I can imagine us setting this up as a team,
| bottom-up, though. (Similar to how e.g. I've been at two
| organisations where donut.com is available, but it being
| completely optional in both cases.)
| JohnFen wrote:
| That's not much different from being forced, really. If
| you dislike this sort of thing but are on a team that
| adopts it, it's not really optional no matter how much
| everyone says it is. It would be a bit like office
| parties in that respect -- technically optional, but bad
| for your career if you opt out.
| Vinnl wrote:
| I mean, you have a say in whether to adopt it if you're
| part of the team. It might be different elsewhere, but
| you could and people did opt-out in the teams I saw
| donut.com being used.
|
| Again, I think it's not the tool that's the problem, but
| the team, in that I don't think a team whose use of the
| tool is problematic wouldn't have problems if the tool
| didn't exist.
| Avicebron wrote:
| Maybe forced isn't the right term, I'm referring to non-
| mandated systems that occur organically. Not that I've
| experienced this too much personally, but I have had co-
| workers who would often be deliberately left out by
| management or not given contracts by the project managers
| (it was the nature of the work that some jobs were better
| than others, less sketchy <biotech>) because they weren't
| considered "friendly" to them.
|
| Luckily I was social and often made connections with
| those people, but I didn't feel like it was a fair
| system. I think it's part of human tribalism, if some
| group clicks, it can cause repercussions across the whole
| main group/dept.
| Vinnl wrote:
| I think my general concern still holds then: such a place
| will probably be shitty regardless of whether such a tool
| is used or not.
| seaerkin wrote:
| I commend the developers for acknowledging the problem that
| exists with modern social media and trying to do something about
| it. My personal opinion is that you don't fix this problem with
| another platform that promotes content sharing. Regardless of the
| content shared, it'll likely turn into a comparison game and
| result in the same unhappiness that more traditional social media
| platforms bring and it's now been proven through extensive
| studies that these platforms do in fact worsen mood. Why is that?
| Well, it kinda makes sense.. you're sitting at home looking at
| what other people are doing instead of doing those things
| yourself. Certainly images and videos of loved ones enjoying
| themselves can bring you joy, but nowhere near the amount of joy
| you'd get from being with them. The problem is that the current
| social media platforms do everything but make us social. They
| encourage us to sit back at home and feel as if we're being
| social by seeing social activity.
|
| So what's the solution? If I had to take a stab at it, I'd build
| something very primitive with no content sharing, no followers or
| likes that promotes actual social interactions. The primary focus
| of the application should be to get people together, IRL. Once
| that interaction has been facilitated or scheduled, that's as far
| as the application should go. The goal of social media should be
| to get people to be more social again, in person and not through
| a phone screen. Going to visit a new city? This app would allow
| you to let your network know and use approximated GPS data from
| your phone to connect you with people in your network that could
| meet up in person. Even if you're going to visit the same city
| you always visit but live in the suburbs, you can let people know
| where you'll be by location and they would receive alerts that
| someone from their network will be in the area. Want to plan a
| hike? Schedule it in the app and make it public, semi-public
| allowing people in your network to see your plan and opt in to
| join.
|
| Going to meet a friend for happy hour? Throw it on the app and
| allow your network to be updated and suddenly you're catching up
| with a few friends you haven't seen in some time.
| 999900000999 wrote:
| You're basically describing Meetup.
|
| And I'm not going to lie, meet up is absolutely amazing for
| both making friends and dating. It's been phenomenally more
| effective for me versus dating apps. It's how I meet one of my
| previous partners ( more like we met because I mistook her for
| someone else, but life is random fun).
|
| That said, when I'm dating someone like now, I don't socialize
| nearly as much. It takes a very real amount of energy to do so.
| Online socializing, also takes that energy. So when I get home
| I'm in my temple, and I don't let all that social media drama
| into my temple. It's done wonders for my mental health, back
| when I was heavily in the social media and online dating apps I
| was very nervous and miserable almost all the time. I'm half
| convinced the never-ending notifications are designed to make
| us all a little bit crazy, and very addicted. It can be easier
| to drop it all and go for a walk. Occasionally you ask for
| directions and end up getting coffee...
| seaerkin wrote:
| You may be half-convinced but I'm fully convinced the never-
| ending notifications make us all a lot of bit crazy. Many of
| us have lost the ability to focus.
|
| I think meetup is close to what I'm describing but not quite
| there. Meetup is very goal\work\hobby oriented which I think
| is great but I'm describing something a bit more informal
| geared towards keeping in touch with existing connections as
| opposed to meeting new individuals.
| mstipetic wrote:
| For some reason a lot of the comments here are negative and
| people are suddenly all about extreme screen aversion, but I
| think the app is great. Kind of like a more engaging private
| whatsapp group, which most of us have anyway in one way or
| antoher. Kudos to the team on the launch!
| bserge wrote:
| Those aren't friends.
| zecg wrote:
| > Anything spark joy yesterday?
|
| Who are you and what have you done to my friend
| wly_cdgr wrote:
| Landing page copy is cringe af. "Daily Gratitudes"? :pukes in
| mouth:
| mlang23 wrote:
| 1. Tech is not the solution to everything. Am I the only one to
| notice the absurdity of needing yet another app to "connect with
| friends"? I can see the use of tech to reach out to people you
| know from abroad, but... Whats wrong with Facetime or similar
| tech?
|
| 2. The template questions seem overly intrusive to me. I'd much
| rather answer "any covid hobbies?" then any pre-written gratitude
| nonesense, esp. in written communication. Philosophizing about
| the world is something best done in a face-to-face situation.
| liopleurodon wrote:
| you're not the only one
| meristohm wrote:
| Yes, and I'll take that further and ask "what's wrong with
| writing a letter and paying the cost of a stamp to have that
| letter delivered?"
|
| It sounds like the prompted experience of homeskillet is not
| for me. I prefer 1:1 communication and 1:x (as in this forum; I
| find many HN comments to be at least an engaging diversion, and
| I do not expect conversations but a healthy back and forth does
| add something useful), and the pace of pencil on paper suits me
| just fine for maintaining friendships outside of the few
| closest.
| mt_ wrote:
| I previously thought technology evolved in order to help
| humans, now I think it just creates new needs.
| subhro wrote:
| > Tech is not the solution to everything. Am I the only one to
| notice the absurdity of needing yet another app to "connect
| with friends"? I can see the use of tech to reach out to people
| you know from abroad, but... Whats wrong with Facetime or
| similar tech?
|
| That is so damn correct. I don't have the typical social media
| presence. Some of friends and family constantly pesters me that
| I am hard to reach. In response I keep telling them, we kept in
| touch just fine when there was no Facebook, so just pick up the
| phone and call/text. And astonishingly, it works better than
| typical social connection avenues.
| fnord77 wrote:
| kinda skeptical. I think you need to be in the same room as
| someone for mirroring neurons to engage
| djoldman wrote:
| What is a "deep connection" between friends?
|
| > Hear about the small moments in your friends' days and feel
| like you're a part of their daily lives.
|
| Wouldn't " _be_ a part of their daily lives " be better than
| "feel like a part of their daily lives"?
| Aeolun wrote:
| I'm sure another app is what will build deeper connections with
| friends.
|
| I had a lovely party this week after everyone got vaccinated and
| it's the closest I've come to building relationships with friends
| in two years.
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