[HN Gopher] Ask HN: How to deal with loved ones that are affecte...
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       Ask HN: How to deal with loved ones that are affected by fake news?
        
       Hey,  I continuously have discussions with loved ones, that are
       affected by fake news regarding the current covid-19 pandemic.  It
       is really difficult do argue with them, because they are well
       informed in their bubble and have a lot of arguments that are hard
       to counter. I don't have the time to counter-proof every single
       fallacy.  I observed that all these people frequently get new posts
       and even longer videos. They use these to let me 'understand' their
       point of view. Watching these videos to have a basis to discuss on
       is time consuming, too. There are fewer videos to counter these -
       and in my experience just sending back counter videos does not help
       to convince them.  Have you experienced similar problems? Did you
       find a practical solution for your situation?
        
       Author : GRBurst
       Score  : 8 points
       Date   : 2021-09-01 08:31 UTC (1 hours ago)
        
       | noud wrote:
       | This is what helped for me for years: I stopped having
       | discussions regarding opinions based on fake news. I usually just
       | tell them that I don't have an opinion on the matter and that I
       | don't care what their opinion is. I prefer to talk about
       | something else.
       | 
       | In my opinion, I think it's better not to have too many opinions
       | in general. This is one of the few opinions I have. It seems like
       | our brain wants to have opinions on everything. But often the
       | topics we want to have an opinion on are much more complex than
       | we might think they are. To form a good opinion on the topic you
       | must be able to understand a lot of the ins and outs of the
       | topic. That takes a lot of effort. This is what fake news (and
       | probably also correct news) abuses. It tries to form an over-
       | hasty, sometimes completely wrong, opinion on a topic that's very
       | complex to understand. Most people don't take the time to
       | understand the complexity of the topic, and therefore think that
       | this fake news opinion is the correct opinion. For most it takes
       | too much effort to understand exactly how it works to realize
       | that their opinion is not correct. Or even worse, there are many
       | topics that probably don't have a correct opinion: are their more
       | universes, what will the weather be in 10 years, will the stock
       | market go up or down next year? Nobody can tell, even not the
       | experts. I think that the only way to win the argument, is not
       | participating. Just let it pass and let the experts (who have
       | spend their whole life on it) deal with the issue.
       | 
       | For example, do you understand how mRNA vaccines work? How mRNA
       | is transferred in lipi nanoparticles where ribosomes produce
       | viral antigens? How cytotoxic T cells and T helper cells bind to
       | the secretory vesicles to create a viral response? I sure know
       | that I don't understand it, and it will take me months, maybe
       | years, of deliberate practice to understand how mRNA vaccines
       | works. I probably need a PhD in adaptive immune systems to
       | understand this topic completely and for a good opinion. So I
       | decide not to form an opinion about it. I trust the experts, who
       | spend their whole life working on mRNA vaccines, to be right. If
       | someone else has the opinion that mRNA vaccines don't work or are
       | dangerous, fine, they can have their opinion. It's good to be
       | (self-)critical sometimes. But I'm not in a position to argue
       | with them, because I'm not an expert on the matter, nor do I have
       | the time and (probably) the brains to understand this complex
       | topic completely.
        
       | dnh44 wrote:
       | The way I see it is that the covid issue has been integrated into
       | the blue vs red tribalism that started long ago but really came
       | to a boil during Trump's administration.
       | 
       | Additionally, media, both mainstream and alternative, are adding
       | fuel to the fire because it means more clicks.
       | 
       | Normally in a situation where people can't agree I would suggest
       | that you first try to find common ground and build from there.
       | What I did was to find an occurrence where "my side" has been
       | wrong and "theirs" has been right; then we did the opposite.
       | 
       | This was a great starting point for future conversations. And by
       | conversations I mean dialectical ones rather than rhetorical.
        
       | proc0 wrote:
       | What makes you so sure you have all the right answers, since you
       | mention their arguments are hard to counter? I don't think the
       | truth is partisan at the moment, and throughout history it's in
       | moments like these, when people are extremely sure of the truth
       | being partisan, that horrible things are allowed to happen. I
       | mostly doubt when skepticism itself is demonized and made out to
       | be the problem, and that seems to have be case lately.
        
       | redis_mlc wrote:
       | ikr. Reading HN posts based on MSM fake news is "really
       | difficult."
       | 
       | Examples of fake news repeated on HN:
       | 
       | - corona wasn't a lab leak
       | 
       | - Jan. 6 protesters killed 5 people (4 were natural causes, 1 was
       | by Capitol police.)
       | 
       | - Marxism "is the majority" and gives you the right to cancel
       | other people.
       | 
       | - masks prevent corona transmission (the most common masks are
       | only 5% effective.)
       | 
       | So how do we prevent HN from repeating fake news?
        
       | tomklein wrote:
       | What I did after having argued several times is to straight up
       | let them know that this isn't true, told one or two examples on
       | why these arguments are fake most of the time and that if they
       | _want_ to find arguments against it, that they would find some.
       | Then I stop talking about such topics with them.
       | 
       | In my opinion, it's just not worth after having spent some time
       | trying to discuss it with them. Especially when they don't
       | provide any backed arguments but just ,,random" statements
        
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