[HN Gopher] Attitude Determines Your Success
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       Attitude Determines Your Success
        
       Author : nazka
       Score  : 36 points
       Date   : 2021-08-15 16:25 UTC (6 hours ago)
        
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       | pdar4123 wrote:
       | Good thing I grew up in zip code with super positive vibes
        
         | nickthemagicman wrote:
         | Underrated comment.
         | 
         | People in third world countries just don't have good attitudes
         | apparently?
        
           | d_silin wrote:
           | They do, but it is hard to make it on good attitude alone.
           | Afganistan is a country of 30 million people but 0 VCs.
        
       | TrackerFF wrote:
       | But what influences your attitude?
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       | One thing I noticed when I studied with predominantly upper
       | middle class people (business school) was that they all had what
       | I like to call a competitive "winner" mentality.
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       | Most went into new situations determined to win/succeed, and when
       | I questioned some of my peers on this, I was told that most of
       | them had received positive feedback (albeit being pushed) since
       | they were kids, in most aspects of life. School, sports, social
       | life, etc.
       | 
       | I guess that if you've had cheerleaders around you since you were
       | 5, it must have affected your self-esteem in some positive way.
       | 
       | Now, what I wonder, is how regular people can develop such
       | attitude, more or less on their own. Fake it 'til you make it?
       | Incrementally become successful at things?
        
         | corty wrote:
         | Have rich parents shielding you from any negative consequence
         | and providing a financial fallback.
        
           | pc86 wrote:
           | This seems overly dismissive.
        
             | corty wrote:
             | If you think so, please elaborate why and provide
             | alternative explanations. Just dismissing my statement
             | without any discussion is not only overly dismissive. It
             | also is not a productive way of discussion, it doesn't add
             | anything of value.
        
       | tux3 wrote:
       | Be mindful of survivorship bias.
       | 
       | Lest people on twitter start posting pictures of the hypothetical
       | WW2 planes that _came back_.
        
       | rubicon33 wrote:
       | For me, the bigger issue is really energy. I usually want to
       | work, study, etc. How often do I have the mental spark of
       | sufficient strength to tackle tough programming problems, or read
       | really technical material? Certainly less often than I'd like.
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       | IMO attitude is important, but equally important is managing your
       | energy levels and optimizing your life around the ups and downs.
       | Find habits and routines that promote energy, and avoid habits
       | and routines that drain energy. This can actually be harder than
       | it sounds to figure out.
        
       | tome wrote:
       | Think and Grow Rich in three minutes.
        
       | armchairhacker wrote:
       | Attitude really does determine your _subjective_ success. Because
       | if you have a good attitude you can find optimism and success in
       | almost anything.
       | 
       | Trained for a half-marathon, only to get sick and miss / fail it?
       | On the surface that looks like a failure, but it's really not.
       | The real success is the training, the weight you lost and fitness
       | you gained. Or even if you didn't lose weight, the muscle and
       | habits you gained which will make it easier to lose weight later.
       | Or maybe you don't even need to lose weight anyways, especially
       | since you probably lost fat. The big race is only a demonstration
       | of your training results.
       | 
       | Spent 6 months working on an app but never released it? That it
       | can actually be a big "success" if you learned a lot from
       | development. I can vouch that I've become a much better developer
       | by making apps which were never released, and learned concepts
       | from functional programming which I probably wouldn't have
       | learned otherwise, because I wouldn't have seen the point.
       | 
       | Built a company only for it to go bankrupt? Same as above, you
       | get experience so that you'll do better next time.
       | 
       | Idk how much attitude affects your objective success. Attitude
       | won't help if your goal is flat-out unachievable or you don't
       | have the luck / skill. I think the real reason attitude
       | determines success is that, if you have a good attitude, you can
       | basically change anything into a success.
        
         | lazide wrote:
         | There is also the reality that looking at things in that
         | positive light tends to surface opportunities, more than
         | looking at things negatively.
         | 
         | If you're feeling like you're doing well (despite the
         | occasional hiccup) and will be successful, it's easier to be
         | open to a new advisor, or a new employee, or a new investor. If
         | you're constantly obsessed with how it is going wrong, you're
         | constantly going to be focused on how these too could be a
         | disaster.
         | 
         | As with many things in life, it's a balance. If you never
         | recognize a risk, or recognize bad decisions as what they are
         | and the factors behind them, then you'll get scammed a lot or
         | constantly be blundering around repeating mistakes
         | (potentially). If you hyper focus on them, you'll cut off all
         | your opportunity and be constantly trying to guard an ever
         | shrinking pie.
        
         | pwdisswordfish8 wrote:
         | "When you fail... pretend you had... a different goal... all
         | along." Okay, got it.
        
           | xkeysc0re wrote:
           | When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
        
           | tenfourwookie wrote:
           | The Pivot Doctrine.
        
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