[HN Gopher] Ask HN: How to grow after 10 years in the industry?
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       Ask HN: How to grow after 10 years in the industry?
        
       Hey!  - I've been working for around 10 years  - half of that was
       as a software engineer and the other half as a VP of Engineering  -
       I am good with people and I really love my industry, I don't
       consider myself at work  - I make something like 65k after taxes  -
       I live outside the states (not a US citizen) but I've been working
       directly with US companies (international contractor) for the last
       7 years  - I have a family, 2 kids and my wife is pregnant  I love
       my work, love my team. I really enjoy it  When I look back at the
       last 3 years, I don't see a clear growth. I try to do things in the
       right way, go deeper with what I do (read books, and articles) and
       improve my skills  I feel that my career is steady and not growing
       fast enough at this time  I am not sure about how to move forward,
       but I am thinking about: - should I look for a new adventure with
       some real challenges?  - should I stay and keep growing myself?  -
       am I underpaid? I mean, will I be able to get a better salary if I
       find a better fit?  - should I pursue a master's degree?  I
       appreciate your feedback and help!
        
       Author : theory_of_10_1
       Score  : 108 points
       Date   : 2021-06-28 13:30 UTC (2 days ago)
        
       | ChuckMcM wrote:
       | All good questions to ask!
       | 
       | First some context, there is no "win" in life. it is the journey
       | that you will look back on and either be proud of or regret. And
       | understanding that, understand that everyone's journey is
       | different and so it is nearly impossible to compare yourself to
       | others and their journeys and say with certainty your are doing
       | 'better' or 'worse' than them. It is one of the few cases where
       | it really is "all about you" :-)
       | 
       | So should you keep growing yourself? Absolutely. It is how you
       | don't get bored and how you move to the next stage of the
       | journey. Some of the choices you make will be less satisfying and
       | being in the practice of always growing and learning you may
       | find, as I have, that you don't feel 'trapped' by them, instead
       | you just change direction.
       | 
       | Are you underpaid? Who knows? I have known people with the title
       | "VP Engineering" who make literally three times what you are
       | making as a base salary and have a bonus program besides. Not all
       | of them liked their life. One in particular was constantly
       | fighting depression and guilt over how little time they spent
       | with their family and how their non-work relationships suffered.
       | Their life had plenty of money but not enough joy. So it is a
       | balance. My philosophy has always been if I'm making enough to
       | cover my needs (current and projected), and I've got a life
       | outside of work that is rewarding and enjoyable, then I don't
       | need to change things (at least in compensation).
       | 
       | In my career more money has always come with more expectations
       | and more responsibility, which manifests itself as stress when
       | things are not going as they need to. I have turned down raises
       | and promotions when I knew they wouldn't increase the quality of
       | my life and would likely decrease it.
       | 
       | Should you pursue a Master's degree? If you have the resources
       | and time, it helps with flexibility later. I have known folks who
       | "grew up" in a company, started as an undergrad and were looking
       | for a new job 20 years later. And their experience gave them a
       | masters or PhD level of experience in their area of expertise,
       | but without the certificate any new job was going to assume their
       | expertise was over stated and there would be a 1 - 3 year 'ramp'
       | period at the new job where the new employer got to internalize
       | if they really were as expert as they thought/said.
       | 
       | From a technical perspective, if you're an engineer and get an
       | MBa or business degree that makes you both more valuable and able
       | to 'span' more of an organization. There is only so much you can
       | accomplish as an individual, being able to bring a team together
       | under a single vision gives you a huge boost in what you can get
       | done. To do that you have to be able to talk to everyone in the
       | concepts they understand so that you can clearly articulate a
       | vision they can then help you execute.
       | 
       | Lastly, one trick that a college counselor taught me is to
       | imagine you are doing your dream job or living your dream life.
       | Now write a fictional history of that persons life, like someone
       | reading an introduction of you before a TED talk. Start with the
       | end point and work backwards in the history to where you are
       | right now. It can give you ideas about what your next steps
       | should be.
        
       | nickd2001 wrote:
       | Sounds like you're already well on the way to "a new adventure
       | with some real challenges" because you also mentioned your wife
       | is pregnant. ;) But seriously, maybe wait till your 3rd little
       | one is 2 or 3 before making any major career changes? I did a
       | master's, it was well worth it for interesting parts of comp sci,
       | and definitely opens some doors in terms of getting interviews.
       | Not essential though. I did mine part-time. Not sure if its worth
       | doing full-time as a more mature student.
        
         | ssss11 wrote:
         | I need to second this ^ there's nothing harder than a new job
         | (let alone a challenging one!) with a new born. Maybe take a
         | couple of years to really consider what the next move is before
         | doing it. Speak with recruiters, find out what your role will
         | pay at a similar company where you are, what other adjacent
         | roles would pay and whether you'd get a look in, talk about
         | your options for other industries or roles you're interested in
         | but not qualified for, hell even go for interviews for practice
         | if you think you can (I'm awful at that but people have
         | recommended to me before)
        
           | redisman wrote:
           | Depends how far along she is. I changed to a less stressful
           | and better paid and better leave job about 4 months before
           | birth and it was a great move. I also went from 0 to 4 weeks
           | of parental leave which I didn't even know at the time
        
         | pnutjam wrote:
         | I have 6 kids, 7 is on the way. I have changed jobs when my
         | wife is pregnant. If you have no parental bonding leave, it's
         | not big deal. I had no leave with my 1st 5 kids and 2 weeks
         | with my 6th. My current company has 6 weeks, so I'm
         | incentivized to stick around. They treat me pretty well
         | overall.
         | 
         | Find something you like and keep at it, since 2001, I've gone
         | from: helpdesk > pc /network tech > network admin > system
         | admin (windows) > system admin (linux) > sr. sysadmin (linux).
         | 
         | Unfortunately I've never had a decent raise without changing
         | jobs.
        
       | zn44 wrote:
       | My solution after 8 years in industry was to join an early stage
       | startup as technical co-founder. It has been most challenging,
       | difficult and satisfying experience by far compared to anything
       | else I've done before. I feel i've grown a lot both
       | professionally and personally.
        
         | theory_of_10_1 wrote:
         | Will anyone be willing to have a remote co-founder?
         | 
         | I have a feeling that I would need to travel and relocate to
         | find a co-founder with a solid business idea
        
           | zn44 wrote:
           | After covid sure, I have friends starting fully remote
           | distributed startups over last few months
        
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       | Clubber wrote:
       | > should I look for a new adventure with some real challenges?
       | 
       | Yes, at least always be open to it and looking for it. You need
       | to meet new people who have an itch that you can scratch. People
       | with deep pockets.
       | 
       | > should I stay and keep growing myself?
       | 
       | If you are happy with where you are and what you are doing, sure,
       | but it sounds like you are ready to move on. You'll grow more
       | with more experience at different companies / systems. You
       | definitely need to learn to build system from scratch if you
       | haven't already.
       | 
       | > am I underpaid? I mean, will I be able to get a better salary
       | if I find a better fit?
       | 
       | Yes, probably by about 25-100%, depending on market.
       | 
       | > should I pursue a master's degree?
       | 
       | Probably not. You learn way more on the streets. Not having a
       | Bachelor's is sometimes a blocker to bigger things, but Master's,
       | not so much. You get a much better education in the field.
        
       | shuki wrote:
       | Lots of good advice around. My Personal story might have a few
       | takeaways for you. Started as a sw developer in India, moved to
       | US progressed as technical expert on the product. Moved back to
       | India and became Manager. In 3 years as a manager realized how
       | much I liked coding. I am at best an average developer, but the
       | satisfaction I got after fixing a small defect was priceless. By
       | this time I've had 15 years of "experience" in industry. I did my
       | masters and now working as a full stack developer. Couldn't be
       | happier.
       | 
       | Take a month off your job. Find out what you really like. You can
       | read through all the replies let them brew, but the final answer
       | will come from within. Trust your gut and take the risk.
       | 
       | May the force be with you !!!
        
         | laurent92 wrote:
         | I abhorred being a developer because it's like being a factory
         | worker. I then created my company, have 2-3 people under me,
         | I'm 70% coding and customers are throwing money at us. I'm
         | still a developer, but super happy through work. I believe the
         | difference is leeway in how I can organize my schedule, and the
         | 30% variety which allows me to speak to humans instead of
         | computers.
         | 
         | I was always denied promotions, I'm from the generation where
         | cool workplaces promoted only women, so it was very unfair. I
         | wanted to be on the path to become PO. And given how fast the
         | startup I created reached $1m ARR, I confirm I'm satisfyingly
         | able to PO and the lost promotions were just plain old gender
         | preferences of workplaces.
         | 
         | I now love my work. Speaking to humans (and not through chat)
         | was my need, I've told it to every employer. So yes, find what
         | you need and move heaven and earth until you get it, may the
         | force be with you.
        
         | rasikjain wrote:
         | Hi Shuki, I am interested in talking to you. you profile does
         | not have contact info. How can I reach you? My contact is in my
         | profile.
        
       | aprdm wrote:
       | What growth is expected for someone who has being VP of
       | Engineering? That's as close as high as you can go, no? Or was it
       | a small company with just you and a few others?
        
         | theory_of_10_1 wrote:
         | it's a small company. We have 15 engineers working on few
         | products
        
           | cgh wrote:
           | My advice is to join a large company (50,000+ employees) as
           | they offer considerably more room for growth. Your career
           | will go in unexpected directions thanks to all the options
           | you'll have. And you'll make more money.
        
             | opk wrote:
             | Depends what you enjoy. If you want to be a manager then
             | yes. But if you prefer to stay technical, a small company
             | often has a much nicer atmosphere and less bureaucratic
             | rubbish.
        
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       | dism wrote:
       | First of all - If you are happy - everyone around is happy or
       | content at least ( except teenagers - you cannot do it right for
       | them - so don't try )
       | 
       | The thing with 'growth' is that tiny little man inside your head
       | you were raised with - ignore him
       | 
       | think like a cave man - if the mammal(current stuff) still exist
       | until I longer/resign, I'll will stay
       | 
       | If this mammal extinct(e.g. program language) - evolve
       | 
       | You have everything - which makes really (life)happy
       | 
       | Life is not your Job - Its your Life
       | 
       | If a nice opportunity looks around, peek into it, maybe its worth
       | a change
       | 
       | choose wisely at this point
       | 
       | If you are sad everyone else is sad, maybe you lose everything
       | because of sadness
       | 
       | To my person I work roughly 20 years in the industry - as a
       | networking guy - raised & built networks you use
       | 
       | I did the unwisely way
       | 
       | Took a unwisely chosen because of indoctrinated emotions and lost
       | everything
       | 
       | If you stay in between - make a clear mind first
        
       | tsjq wrote:
       | You're severely underpaid. Yes, indeed pursue a master's degree.
       | Definitely add an MBA also to your arsenal. Take risks.
       | Diversify. Be ready to fail, to fall, and rise from ashes. Do you
       | have second/ passive income to pay bills & rent irrespective of
       | your paychecks ?
        
         | onion2k wrote:
         | _You 're severely underpaid._
         | 
         | You can't judge everywhere against US developer wages. The
         | poster doesn't say where they're posting from, so we can't
         | really tell if 65k (presumably USD) is particularly good or bad
         | for where they live. Here in the UK, 65k USD would be a fairly
         | typical senior developer salary. Maybe even a little higher
         | than average for people outside of London.
         | 
         | If they could get a role employed by a US company rather than
         | one that's outsourcing then it'd be fair to say they're
         | underpaid, but there could be a whole lot of reasons why that
         | might not be reasonable or even possible.
        
           | MeinBlutIstBlau wrote:
           | He also said 65k AFTER taxes. So he likely makes 80-100k.
        
           | theory_of_10_1 wrote:
           | I work directly with a US company. 65k USD is a great salary
           | if I compared it with local wages in non-tech fields but
           | really an ok salary for my position. I have friends who got
           | paid more
           | 
           | Money is important, but it's not my only motivation
        
         | throwawaynumber wrote:
         | he's paid more than almost all tech workers and developers in
         | the 1st world, who also typically have .... zero passive
         | income.
         | 
         | You live in an elite bubble full of rich Americans I suspect.
        
         | theory_of_10_1 wrote:
         | Thanks!
         | 
         | I have a Mini-MBA from a popular business school. I feel that I
         | have enough business skills from my mini-mba
         | 
         | I don't have a passive income but working on it
        
         | codegeek wrote:
         | Just to clarify, OP said 65K after taxes. Depending on the
         | country they live in, it could be an easy 25-40% tax. So pretax
         | can get close to 100K.
        
           | theory_of_10_1 wrote:
           | around 15% where I live
        
         | hoffspot wrote:
         | Eh. For managing only 15 engineers in a non US market, 65k
         | might be the going rate. If the OP is money driven, join a big
         | firm with the resources to double their salary. Given the
         | current talent market, they should be able to easily make that
         | happen based on their ability to get the proper visa. Of course
         | they may have to sacrifice a great degree of autonomy and job
         | satisfaction to make that happen. Only they can decide if that
         | tradeoff is worth it. Titles mean nothing, work experience and
         | ability to contribute is everything. I'm a VP, have 20+ years
         | of experience, and manage an engineering team of over 250
         | people. Different animals certainly.
        
       | RandomLensman wrote:
       | 1) Examine what it is you are really missing: you say you love
       | your work and the team and it brings you joy. That is not so
       | common. So maybe it is more about a new project or some lateral
       | things that could be accomplished within the existing setup?
       | 
       | 2) Not sure there is a (good) relationship between fit and
       | salary. Some high salaries have a reason and those reasons might
       | not be so pretty.
       | 
       | 3) Masters. My experience is that folks opting for a masters
       | later in their career tend to often have one of two things in
       | mind: (a) some move towards executive/different career path,
       | which then tends to mean MBA with the respective networking; or
       | (b) some change in the "underlying", i.e. trying to add more
       | skills that are somewhat different to the existing
        
         | sedeki wrote:
         | Not contradicting what you wrote per se, but a master's degree
         | in a European context usually does not mean an MBA. And also
         | tends to be quite common to get a master's/MSc while you're at
         | it.
        
           | RandomLensman wrote:
           | Agreed. I meant it more in terms of what I see people do
           | after the first 10 years working or so
        
       | thejosh wrote:
       | Country helps!
        
       | muzani wrote:
       | If you could be the best in the world at something, what would it
       | be? Let's ignore market for now. There's a lot of well paid jobs,
       | and it's easier when you're the best option for it.
       | 
       | What do you love about your work now? 5 years as a VP of
       | engineering is impressive for someone with a total of 10 years
       | experience. Are you a great technical leader? Do you enjoy
       | systems?
       | 
       | Maybe list down the things that you're happy with doing, and
       | things that you're able to do which others hate doing.
        
       | softwaredoug wrote:
       | You'll grow more as a producer[1] of know-how, rather than just a
       | consumer of other's knowledge. People who _really_ know something
       | can teach others through blogging, speaking. Or they can
       | synthesize their knowledge into working projects that capture an
       | aspect of the problem. The act of synthesizing and adding to a
       | body of knowledge reinforces your own understanding, and forces
       | you to stay up to date.
       | 
       | Instead of asking "where do I go to grow", think "what can I
       | contribute?" "what can I teach?"... If money is also a priority,
       | then find the intersection of that and what pays well (which
       | luckily isn't that hard as a dev).
       | 
       | 1 - By "producer" I mean an evangelizer, synthesizer, teacher,
       | not just an "inventor" of brand new ideas
        
         | stonecharioteer wrote:
         | Not OP but you bring up something interesting. I'm nearing 10
         | years of exp and I am faced with a rather unique role. I can
         | join Twilio as a Developer Evangelist.
         | 
         | I'm a good developer, I enjoy coding but I also love teaching,
         | blogging, and mentoring. This would be a dream role, but does
         | it close off other opportunities to me? I am slightly
         | disillusioned with enterprise software because of how chock-
         | full of politics these places are. I'm too old for the early
         | stage startup scene, so I'm wondering whether this would be a
         | good opportunity.
         | 
         | What do you see as the roadmap for someone who specializes in
         | teaching software development, and being an advocate?
        
           | mooreds wrote:
           | I'm currently in developer relations. I haven't bounced back
           | to being a developer, but I'm sure that developer jobs of the
           | same type as I had before would be open to me. Sure, I'd need
           | to do some off-hours studying to be up to speed on the latest
           | tech, because it'd have been a few years since I was deep
           | into it, but I'd have to do that anyway.
           | 
           | I don't know how much coding Twilio developer evangelists do,
           | but at my current position (admittedly a much smaller
           | company) I can do a fair amount of coding if I choose to.
           | 
           | The next step I might take after being an advocate (if you
           | don't want to stay in that space and take on larger and
           | larger projects, going from dev advocate -> senior dev
           | advocate -> lead dev advocate -> staff dev advocate), would
           | depend if you wanted to keep training.
           | 
           | There's a large need for professional software trainers out
           | there. I was involved in AWS training for a while and was
           | able to get $1300/day. I know some folks getting $1500+/day.
           | 
           | Another option would to be consult, either in devrel or in
           | whatever Twilio is training you up on. Or write some books
           | and see if you can make a living that way. Consulting + books
           | + training is a great way to make a living being a teacher.
           | 
           | And finally, I think if you are a developer, you can always
           | fall back to that. It may be a salary or autonomy decrease,
           | but the market for experienced devs is pretty tight right now
           | and I don't see that changing for a few years. There's just
           | so much appetite for software and the complements of software
           | devs (CPU, memory, disk, network access) keep getting
           | cheaper.
        
           | noir_lord wrote:
           | Twilio is fucking awesome (apologies for the language).
           | 
           | Like genuinely a pleasure to work with compared to almost
           | anything else I can think.
           | 
           | Been a developer evangelist for them would be a cool role,
           | delivering a good product to appreciative devs.
        
           | haswell wrote:
           | I started my career as a dev, and when given the opportunity
           | I spent a few years in a Dev Evangelist/Advocate role. I
           | loved it, and still remember it fondly - probably the most
           | fun I've ever had at work.
           | 
           | As for opportunities, for me, this became a direct stepping
           | stone to a Product Management role. I also strongly believe I
           | could have shifted back to a dev role if I wanted to. YMMV,
           | and maybe the PM track isn't for you, but I think
           | Evangelist/Advocate roles can be great "generalist" positions
           | that set you up nicely for the next thing, whatever that is.
        
           | cweill wrote:
           | If you could take that job and leverage it to build your
           | personal brand (blog, YouTube channel) I'd agree it's a dream
           | job! The next best thing would be working in a research lab
           | where you get to publish or speak under your own name.
        
             | stonecharioteer wrote:
             | I'm mainly concerned about bouncing back as a developer
             | should this not pan out.
        
               | luigibosco wrote:
               | I am mainly concerned your letting past achievements
               | limit future growth. One thing about technology, you
               | leave and come back often times things get better.
               | Besides you already got there once...
        
           | tstrimple wrote:
           | Being able to mentor and communicate effectively is a force
           | multiplier for someone in software development. A senior dev
           | who's capable of elevating those around them is tremendously
           | valuable to most organizations. It absolutely should not
           | close off any doors, and should open quite a few more.
           | 
           | I took a similar path as a Microsoft Technical Evangelist and
           | then Cloud Solution Architect. I moved from building products
           | to helping other companies build on Azure effectively. This
           | took many paths. Sometimes all the companies needed was some
           | high level guidance. Sometimes this required rolling up my
           | sleeves and diving into 3rd party code base to figure out
           | where things are going wrong. Occasionally it involves
           | surfacing bugs to the product team and working with them on
           | the use case to get them resolved.
           | 
           | Broadly I'd consider my role to be more aligned with
           | architecture than software developer now, but that term can
           | have a bad connotation especially in the enterprise space
           | with many "astronaut" or "ivory tower" architects. I work
           | with developers, product teams and engineering managers to
           | help improve the overall software development processes. A
           | lot of times this means being a developer advocate and
           | helping push communication and ideas from the bottom up.
           | Other times it means making sure some of the foundational
           | software development practices are in place. Other times it
           | means helping identify and close skill gaps on development
           | teams. And then there are the times I've got to become an
           | internal evangelist to sell the technology vision to
           | leadership. The work is extremely diverse which is a huge
           | plus for me. I still get to roll up my sleeves and work on
           | interesting problems, but I'm never on the critical path for
           | building yet another CRUD form.
        
       | sbahr001 wrote:
       | Here is my 2 cents: 1. It looks like you have been a successful
       | software engineer and were able to move up.
       | 
       | 2. From the sound of it you hit the mastery portion of S learning
       | curve in terms of technical ability. So no matter how much you
       | "educate" yourself you will never hit the level of growth you
       | experienced when you were younger. So staying current is the best
       | part you can do in this section as that is how the tech world
       | works.
       | 
       | 3. There is a new skill set that you might still be in the early
       | stages of and that is as a VP of Engineering/Managing people are
       | getting the best of your team and being able to challenge
       | yourself is this department. Technically no two companies are the
       | same so this is a place where you can constantly challenge
       | yourself. So changing the place you work at can lead to a lot of
       | growth here, or possibly acting as a consultant for companies
       | that don't need a "VP of Engineering" quiet yet.
       | 
       | 3b. If being in management doesn't really interest you and you
       | want to be an engineer, then working in another industry might
       | keep you excited, like becoming a game programmer/iOT programmer,
       | AI, Architecture, etc.
       | 
       | 4. Could be changing careers all together because you don't feel
       | challenged enough, you can use your current job to help fund your
       | family and the learning for that new career.
       | 
       | 5. Terms of Salary is all subjective to where you work and what
       | the place you work. I technically take a 50k+ pay cut because I
       | work for a small company. The current job gives me a lot of
       | flexibility, less stress than I have ever had to deal with
       | before. That piece of mind and relaxation is more important to me
       | given some medical issues I deal with from time to time. So yes
       | you can be underpaid, but is the great team and the place you
       | work at worth it?
       | 
       | The end of the day these are my 2 cents on the matter, but what I
       | will say at the end is to do what really makes you happy. Is it
       | family, career, challenges, etc. Finding what truly makes you
       | happy and doing that is the best career move you can make. I
       | would say start with that :)
        
       | svilen_dobrev wrote:
       | heh. i am only recently moving into such vp-of-engineering role
       | after 30+ years of doing everything softwarish that is not
       | managerial-or-political, by any level/title. All the possible
       | technical stuff plus mentoring, teaching, philosophy,
       | methodology, cultures, "health"...
       | 
       | Why now? May be too late.. but managerial/political stuff has
       | always kept me apart. esp. over-bureaucratizing the "process"
       | towards people. The doubly-faced "you are not a cog but you are
       | part of this machine"
       | 
       | Where can you go if you are already there, succesfully? Probably
       | sideways, and much deeper. Growth doesn't need to be up. (what is
       | "up" anyway?). It can be as size or area or volume.. or number of
       | alternative worldviews/mindsets..
       | 
       | Ask yourself, what is carrer? "growth"? And, what is
       | "interesting"? in your terms.. the answers might surprise you.
       | 
       | Degrees do not matter, except @ some bureaucratic places aka
       | government. But the ways of learning, which you can learn while
       | doing it, do matter.. And it's same with teaching/mentoring -
       | what you learn by doing it, noone can ever tell you. Mind you,
       | half might be 'seems i dont know enough of this to explain it to
       | others'
       | 
       | have fun
        
       | hackerstyle wrote:
       | Master might keep you busy for 1-2 years
        
         | theory_of_10_1 wrote:
         | How do you feel about Master in AI?
        
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           | muzani wrote:
           | Looking at current technical advances, it seems like taking a
           | masters in electronics engineering if you want to build apps.
           | 
           | Sure, it's well paid, it's great mental exercise, and good
           | prestige. But it's fairly unlikely you'll be working in that
           | field as opposed to just connecting to AI via an API. For
           | personal development, yes. As a career move, probably not.
        
       | okareaman wrote:
       | I struggle with this too. The best I can come up with is find a
       | problem that one person can solve that would do the world some
       | good and solve it, with software if I have to.
        
       | philote wrote:
       | What type of growth are you looking for? You say you are happy
       | with your work and team, but you're also here asking for
       | something more. What do you feel is missing?
       | 
       | Also, what hobbies do you have? Perhaps you need to find
       | something fun to do when you're not working and not being a
       | dad/husband.
       | 
       | Or maybe you need to change employment to get out of your comfort
       | zone a bit and see what else is out there. I've found it's easy
       | to stagnate when staying with the same company too long, though
       | there are of course exceptions.
        
       | eric4smith wrote:
       | Gonna say something that might trigger you.
       | 
       | You'll never move ahead working for someone else. And I just
       | don't mean money. I also mean satisfaction.
       | 
       | You have to consider productizing what you do to curb your
       | dissatisfaction.
       | 
       | Yes, some people are fine working all their lives and enjoy where
       | they are.
       | 
       | But it sounds like you want to go further.
       | 
       | Make a plan with your life that will buy you more freedom.
       | 
       | Freedom and time is worth more than money. But it comes at a high
       | cost with up front work.
       | 
       | P.S. do the hard work now when the kids are little but spend
       | quality time with them not quantity time. As your career grows
       | you will have incredibly fulfilling times with them when they
       | begin to understand the world. Because by then, you would have
       | purchased more freedom.
        
         | pnutjam wrote:
         | There's always someone willing to throw out the "be your own
         | boss".
         | 
         | Don't.
         | 
         | Manage your career, invest in yourself, save and invest where
         | you can. Enjoy life.
        
           | reidjs wrote:
           | Agree! I tried being my own boss. Hated it. Maybe if I
           | understand business better in the future I will try it again.
           | But for now, I'm very happy being a worker bee trying to make
           | my boss's vision a reality in exchange for fair pay.
        
         | bumby wrote:
         | > _You'll never move ahead working for someone else. And I just
         | don't mean money._
         | 
         | There's plenty of research that says the opposite: namely, that
         | you'll make more and work less if you work for somebody else.
         | The research I found that corroborates your claim doesn't
         | control for the skill-level as the contradictory research does
         | (i.e., it compares highly-educated, highly skilled
         | entrepreneurs to workers across all skill levels).
         | 
         | The most cited research shows that working for someone else
         | will get you 35% more pay after a 10 year period.
        
         | FinanceAnon wrote:
         | Nothing triggers me like someone starting a post with "Gonna
         | say something that might trigger you."
        
         | gmadsen wrote:
         | really depends. I do applied research for AV. I have no desire
         | to fill my time with the BS of funding and executive duties.
         | 
         | I get paid very well to be technical, and thats how I prefer
         | it.
        
           | eric4smith wrote:
           | Funding and executive duties are what would take away your
           | freedom.
           | 
           | There are literally a thousand other ways without going the
           | VC route.
           | 
           | The society is pretty dysfunctional that a talented person
           | such as yourself think that's that's the only way out.
        
             | quickthrower2 wrote:
             | You mentioned productising what you do. I take that to mean
             | consulting of the sort where you go in and charge $10k or
             | whatever for an X. You do some work but there is no talk of
             | either how many hours or who is physically doing the work.
             | They are paying for a problem to be solved. I am attracted
             | to this idea because to "build" your MVP you pretty much
             | need just your expertise and a PowerPoint deck.
        
       | varispeed wrote:
       | You will never get wealthy through employment, because lazy
       | governments use tax on salaries as a proxy to tax big
       | corporations. So you work hard and get very little in exchange.
       | 
       | Wealthy people live off passive income, dividends, capital gains
       | and so on.
       | 
       | So if you want to take a jump, you need to become an expert on
       | stock trading and start investing.
       | 
       | Then maybe after 10 or so years you could retire unless the
       | government move goal posts again and tax the small guy more.
        
       | debarshri wrote:
       | Last year, I was in same situation as you. I don't have wife and
       | kids per say. There are two things you could do - may be a tech
       | co-founder in startup that would add jet fuel to your career. Jet
       | fuel because either you will crash and burn or go to the next
       | level. However I wouldn't recommend that to you as you have a
       | family and it is difficult to do that with kids and wife.
       | 
       | The other thing I would say is, save up some money and invest in
       | thing other than tech. In my situation, I wanted to own a
       | restaurant, so I build a cafe in the Rishikesh, India. That gave
       | me a side mission in life, I became more content with my career
       | situation and pushed me to be better and happier.
        
       | cryptica wrote:
       | If you want to succeed in this industry. You have to constantly
       | lie, cheat and manipulate. All the people I know who got promoted
       | with big salaries had this in common.
        
       | jf22 wrote:
       | I enjoy growing my non-technical skills and learning how to work
       | with people. Code is easy compared to the politics of a
       | bureaucracy.
        
       | quadcore wrote:
       | If you are happy, dont touch anything, would be my internet
       | advice.
        
       | frankbreetz wrote:
       | I recently finished the OMSCS program through Georgia Tech. When
       | I started I had a 6 month old, and when I finished, I had 3 year
       | old and 1.5 year olds (program took 2.5 years). I have a pretty
       | low requirements job, so I was able to get away with doing a
       | considerable amount of it doing work hours, but there was a lot
       | of late nights and weekends too. So, it is possible, but whatever
       | you do make sure your wife is onboard and set expectations.
       | 
       | It has definitely helped me out getting job interviews. It seems
       | like the only way to a considerably higher salary would be to
       | either move to the US or work for a US company remotely. I am in
       | the process of moving position for a 50% raise, so I would say it
       | paid off for me. You have much more experience then I do, so if
       | you are thinking about moving to the US maybe apply to a few
       | jobs(even if you don't want them) and see what kind of offers you
       | can get. If the offers are good enough you can make the move when
       | you are ready, if they aren't what you are expecting maybe look
       | into a masters.
        
       | ramesh31 wrote:
       | > am I underpaid? I mean, will I be able to get a better salary
       | if I find a better fit?
       | 
       | Definitely. I'm not sure where you're from, but if you're working
       | for a US firm they should be paying you US wages. I could
       | understand if you were just contracting out piece work, but a VP
       | engineering salary should be double that minimum. The employment
       | market is really hot right now, so just spend some time seeing
       | what's out there.
        
         | 908B64B197 wrote:
         | > I'm not sure where you're from, but if you're working for a
         | US firm they should be paying you US wages.
         | 
         | Some politicians abroad are bragging that their engineers are
         | worth 50K less than the US in their sales pitch. [0]
         | 
         | [0] https://globalnews.ca/news/4178326/amazon-vancouver-tech-
         | wor...
        
         | opk wrote:
         | > I'm not sure where you're from, but if you're working for a
         | US firm they should be paying you US wages.
         | 
         | What? The only thing that counts is where you live and pay
         | taxes. If in Europe $65K/EUR54K after tax is really very
         | decent.
        
           | emptysongglass wrote:
           | Why? The company is US, they should pay you what they can
           | bear to pay your peers in the US. SWEs are criminally
           | underpaid in Europe. I should know, I am one. Most of my
           | salary gets hoovered up before it reaches my pocket and the
           | only "out" is paying a bucket load of my salary into a
           | pension I can't enjoy until I'm almost dead.
        
       | AnimalMuppet wrote:
       | You grow by knowing more without having to think first. That
       | means that your first ideas are better ideas, and you arrive at
       | solid solutions faster.
       | 
       | This applies in the small (writing a few lines of code) and in
       | the large (designing an architecture).
        
       | ecmascript wrote:
       | If you enjoy your work, do you really need to grow? You can
       | always try to make things grow outside of work, like plants.
        
       | jokethrowaway wrote:
       | I haven't heard of someone being a VP of Engineering after just 5
       | years of SE and 65k after taxes after 10 years sounds a little
       | low.
       | 
       | I think the main problem is that a few companies have very
       | challenging technical work and are happy to pay really high
       | salaries (think OpenAI specialists, a few teams at Google /
       | Netflix pushing the boundaries forward), the rest need relatively
       | trivial solutions and they will pay higher than average (think
       | most people working at FANGs on stuff they're overqualified for)
       | or average / lower than average (think most startups, small
       | companies).
       | 
       | After a while, you won't grow technically in most companies and
       | you won't advance the state of technology.
       | 
       | Some people just keep contributing the same stuff over and over
       | until they die (1), some people specialise in some technically
       | obscure niches and charge a premium for that (2), some people
       | decide to become people managers (3) and eventually become CTO.
       | 
       | It doesn't seem like you're happy with (1), you already did (3),
       | I would say you have too much people experience to go back and do
       | (2).
       | 
       | A master's degree in something you like won't be particularly
       | useful at your level, it could be an expensive gift to yourself.
       | 
       | If I were you I would just start my own business: you are
       | technical, you are a manager; the next skill to learn could be
       | business.
       | 
       | Other options include looking for a CTO role in an early stage
       | startup, or doing the interview-algorithm-memorisation-game to
       | join a FANG. Early stage startups and FANGs will likely not be
       | very nice places to be in terms of politics though, so you may
       | not be as happy as you're now.
       | 
       | Best of luck
        
       | giantg2 wrote:
       | I have a masters and I think it was a complete waste of time and
       | money. It has not helped me at all at work nor with salary.
        
         | theory_of_10_1 wrote:
         | can you please provide more details? what did you study?
        
           | giantg2 wrote:
           | I have a masters in information science and work as a
           | developer. The course work was not that different from my
           | comp sci undergrad.
        
             | MeinBlutIstBlau wrote:
             | I've read that and MBA looks better than an MS. This is
             | also interesting to me because I've been kicking around
             | getting one or the other. MBA I guess is the route to go.
        
               | lentil_soup wrote:
               | deeply depends on what you want to do with it and the
               | knowledge you might acquire.
               | 
               | If you want to go towards the business and/or management
               | side of things an MBA might make sense. But for a
               | developer an MBA would be very strange on a CV.
        
       | itsmefaz wrote:
       | Your growth is attractive! For the first 5years, you worked as a
       | Software Engineer. Assuming a good track record, you could have
       | been a Senior or Staff engineer within that time frame. Then, how
       | did you transition to VP within the next 5?
        
         | digianarchist wrote:
         | It's a 15 person company I'm surprised they have VP titles.
        
           | liketochill wrote:
           | They matter when the company gets bought and all of the
           | sudden you are a VP at a public ally traded company worth
           | billions
        
           | exdsq wrote:
           | A start-up I left a few years back had 4 employees - CEO,
           | CTO, Principle Engineer, and me (bog-standard dev). People
           | like fancy titles :)
        
         | quantumofalpha wrote:
         | Titles don't mean much without knowing the type of company that
         | assigned them. Every second guy is a VP at a bank - it means
         | merely something like 'senior SWE' in banking, often you
         | wouldn't even have any reports. 5yoe is reasonable time to
         | reach it. Another example - anyone can be a CEO of own company.
         | But once you get acquihired by FAANG suddenly you're just a PM
         | for your startup's team.
        
           | jsjsbdkj wrote:
           | This. I currently work with a CTO whc has less experience
           | than me, because he founded the company, he's CTO by default.
        
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