[HN Gopher] A backlash against gender ideology is starting in un...
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       A backlash against gender ideology is starting in universities
        
       Author : Tomte
       Score  : 469 points
       Date   : 2021-06-23 12:51 UTC (10 hours ago)
        
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       | f154hfds wrote:
       | I can't imagine what this debate must feel like to someone who
       | grew up in the 50's, 60's and 70's. Until 10 years ago gay
       | marriage wasn't official policy of Obama or Clinton or I believe
       | the majority of the Democratic party. The pace is dizzying.
       | 
       | It feels like a race to the bottom, but I don't know where the
       | bottom even is. Without push back this could spell the end of
       | women's sports, women's prisons - heck, pretty much all
       | institutions for women (except natal/health related) are facing
       | an existential crisis over this. Women's sports are the most
       | obvious. Why would a woman participate in the highest level of
       | competition if she has no chance of success no matter what she
       | does because she was born with XX chromosomes? One transgender
       | athlete in the meet is one thing. What happens when gold, silver
       | and bronze are all taken away? Of all our recent societal
       | enlightenments this one seems most ill-fated. Trans activists
       | should be able to foresee this eventuality and realize it's a
       | bridge too far.
       | 
       | At the end of the day, we live in a culture where identity self-
       | actualization is the paramount freedom without which one is
       | considered oppressed. My question is really where do we settle
       | out? Where are the boundaries that we recognize as a society are
       | put there for our own protection? What happens when one person's
       | self-actualization is in direct conflict with another's? When one
       | group's (cis women) is in conflict with another's (trans women)?
        
         | plank_time wrote:
         | > Until 10 years ago gay marriage wasn't official policy of
         | Obama
         | 
         | I think you are misremembering. Obama was actively against gay
         | marriage and defended his views against gay marriage through
         | the 2012 election. I think Biden was the one to first broach
         | the topic in 2014 with his active support for it.
        
           | f154hfds wrote:
           | I think that's what I'm saying too unless I misunderstand.
           | 2012 was 9 years ago, and Obama was anti gay marriage. So was
           | Clinton for that matter until about 2015.
           | https://www.eqca.org/hillary-clinton-has-a-new-position-
           | on-s...
        
       | neonate wrote:
       | https://archive.is/vEsW4
        
       | neom wrote:
       | https://www.printfriendly.com/p/g/9kgBJa
        
         | uhorb wrote:
         | I think this page is my takeaway of the day. Thank you!
        
           | seunoyebode wrote:
           | haha... yeah right.
           | 
           | But doesn't work for ft.com articles
        
       | gorgoiler wrote:
       | In a shared space, should the people that share that space have
       | the right to exclude someone if it makes the majority feel
       | unsafe? What about if it makes just one of them feel unsafe?
       | 
       | If one person says they feel unsafe, should they be asked to
       | leave instead of the newcomer, with whom the majority are
       | ambivalent?
       | 
       | Basically what I'm getting at is what's the algebra / game theory
       | of creating safe spaces based on tolerance and intolerance?
        
         | celeritascelery wrote:
         | When ever I see someone talk about "safe space", I ask myself,
         | "safe space for which ideas?" The things that are safe to
         | discuss are different at thanksgiving dinner, a college
         | designated safe-space, a therapist's office, or a church
         | meeting. There is no such thing as a universal "safe space" for
         | all ideas.
        
         | avereveard wrote:
         | Ostracizing people based solely on one own feeling sits
         | squarely against the whole concept of presumption of innocence,
         | it's the apotheosis of prejudices against coexistence.
        
           | HideousKojima wrote:
           | Presumption of innocence is a legal presumption, and it
           | exists there for very good reasons that would take too long
           | to get into. Requiring such a presumption outside of a legal
           | context in the way you're suggesting would undermine a
           | different fundamental right, the freedom of association.
           | People should have the right to associate (and disassociate)
           | with whomever they like for whatever reasons they like, no
           | matter how arbitrary or petty.
        
             | avereveard wrote:
             | a and b want to associate, a want to associate with c, c
             | don't want to associate with b, b doesn't care as long as
             | he can associate with a, as per the grandparent comment
             | statement, given that neither a, b and c did anything
             | reprehensible yet.
             | 
             | everyone is free to act, but still a problem presents
             | itself. what's the more just option for person a according
             | to ethics and morals? that's the core of the conundrum, the
             | right to associate and disassociate impacts other people
             | freedoms, as such is the nature of interpersonal relations;
             | of course individual have their individual freedom, but
             | should A act on C prejudice, or in other word should C
             | demand limits on A freedom (i.e. cancel culture)
             | 
             | mind you, the issue is about C own personal perceived
             | feeling of unsafeness, not on B having done anything
             | against C.
        
       | nrjames wrote:
       | I worked for a company that hired 4 trans women (out of 7 people
       | total) during a "diversity hiring" push, then touted the
       | diversity of the hires. All of the trans women had been raised
       | and had gone through university as white men, earning comp sci
       | degrees, before transitioning in their mid- to late-twenties.
       | While I do not debate that those individuals represent a type of
       | diversity in the current company makeup, it always struck me that
       | they likely received the same privileges that most white males do
       | in technical degree programs. As competent programmers, I'm glad
       | they found good jobs. Did they represent diversity hires? I still
       | wonder how HR departments take this into consideration when
       | pushing for diversity.
        
       | runbathtime wrote:
       | Also a white backlash against CRT that is anti white.
        
       | drenvuk wrote:
       | Can someone please tell me how important this topic based on the
       | amount of news time and eyeballs it attracts relative to the
       | number of people that it affects?
       | 
       | The numbers I can find for US citizens is: 0.6% or 1,988,696 out
       | 331,449,281 of people total for the entirety of the US in 2021.
       | 
       | >https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_demographics_of_the_Unite...
       | 
       | In the UK where the featured article took place the latest poll I
       | could find comes counts the number of people who selected "other"
       | when choosing a sex at 0.4% or 224,632 people out of 64,596,800.
       | 
       | >https://practicalandrogyny.com/2014/12/16/how-many-people-in...
       | 
       | Personally I don't think this is very important compared to other
       | topics. There are more blind people than trans people. There are
       | more people with Alzheimer's than trans people. There are more
       | people in the US who have lost a limb than trans people.
       | 
       | I don't mean to downplay what is happening because it is
       | happening but do you not think the amount of outrage this topic
       | generates surpasses the level of impact we can have assuming we
       | fix it? It just feels like we're being distracted.
        
         | NoblePublius wrote:
         | 100% of people have gender.
        
           | mkl wrote:
           | No, look at agender here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Non-
           | binary_gender.
        
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         | bsder wrote:
         | > I don't mean to downplay what is happening because it is
         | happening but do you not think the amount of outrage this topic
         | generates surpasses the level of impact we can have assuming we
         | fix it? It just feels like we're being distracted.
         | 
         | There is something about tech, though, that seems to
         | concentrate the male to female transitioners far above
         | background levels.
         | 
         | I can count more than a half-dozen male to female transition
         | folks in my tech circles. I can't even think of one that I
         | bumped into doing any non-tech social activity.
        
         | brighton36 wrote:
         | Race and gender are infracultural values (these taxonomies
         | govern architecture, city planning, and civil religion). Prior
         | to recently, These are/were objective taxonomies. Which, is why
         | rocking these pillars causes so much attention. (And thus, pays
         | to cover, for a news syndicate)
        
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         | Ericson2314 wrote:
         | The media does absolutely soak it for eyeballs and outrage, but
         | at the same time it really _is_ a bellwether for how gender
         | works in a society at larger. Gender is simply a more social  /
         | less individual phenomenon than blindness itself is (to use
         | your example).
         | 
         | I find it funny and illuminating to read about conservative cis
         | gays complaining about those darn genderqueer "kids, these
         | days". All media fads aside, we simply haven't reached "queer
         | equilibrium" yet where increasing acceptance of past social
         | categories no longer triggers the emergence of new ones.
        
         | alsetmusic wrote:
         | > Personally I don't think this is very important compared to
         | other topics. There are more blind people than trans people.
         | There are more people with Alzheimer's than trans people. There
         | are more people in the US who have lost a limb than trans
         | people.
         | 
         | Those groups aren't subjected to violence just for existing.
         | The comparisons aren't at all one to one.
        
           | omgwtfbbq wrote:
           | As a share of all crimes committed what percentage are
           | against trans people?
        
         | kenjackson wrote:
         | > Personally I don't think this is very important compared to
         | other topics. There are more blind people than trans people.
         | There are more people with Alzheimer's than trans people. There
         | are more people in the US who have lost a limb than trans
         | people.
         | 
         | It's not impactful in terms of the number of people, but its a
         | civil rights issue for those on the left. And for those on the
         | right its just one more group trying to change things from the
         | status quo.
         | 
         | It's also a complex issue. I sit pretty far on the left, but
         | the various issues related to trans policy I find to often not
         | have a clear solution -- most notably around sports and
         | fairness. Sigh.
        
           | munk-a wrote:
           | Honestly though the question around sports fairness is less a
           | problem raised by trans people and more just an existing
           | issue exposed. Female and male bodies work differently on
           | average but there are a good number of women more fit and
           | physically capable than 99% of men - gender is not an
           | independent variable in physical fitness but I do wonder if
           | there's really much of a reason to keep insisting that the
           | genders be separated into exclusive leagues.
        
         | 762236 wrote:
         | The problem is the suppression of reasoned speech. People are
         | forbidden to discuss this topic. People in power (e.g.,
         | University Deans) use this topic to abuse those under their
         | power. Students use it to abuse professors (e.g., students
         | claim that they don't feel safe around a particular professor).
         | In the name of trying to stop abuse of trans people, we're
         | abusing non trans people (e.g, people get fired over this
         | topic).
        
         | phodge wrote:
         | In Australia and most other developed countries now, this
         | ideology is heavily promoted to children, encouraging them to
         | believe they are trans. They are connected with websites that
         | promote the ideology, and then connected with a trans
         | specialist who helps prescribe puberty blockers without
         | parental knowledge.
         | 
         | If you are a parent who believes that children should be taught
         | to love their own bodies as they grow rather than have surgeons
         | pretend to fix them by removing essential organs, then this
         | represents a massive assault on your offspring.
         | 
         | > The numbers I can find for US citizens is: 0.6%
         | 
         | And there's a huge number of "trans" who later realise they
         | were sold a lie and have to undergo further surgery to try and
         | restore their original sex. Selling this to ideology to
         | children is going to dramatically increase that 0.6%. How many
         | of the new cases are going to actually be trans, vs children
         | that thought they were trans and started puberty blockers at
         | school, but actually were just never taught to love their body?
        
           | cwkoss wrote:
           | > And there's a huge number of "trans" who later realise they
           | were sold a lie and have to undergo further surgery to try
           | and restore their original sex.
           | 
           | There is no way this is a huge number. I'd be shocked if you
           | could find a credible source on this. This sounds like
           | conservative agitprop.
        
           | cmh89 wrote:
           | This post has a very noticeable lack of citations and vague
           | terms like "huge" which make it very likely that you are
           | speaking from personal bias rather than any kind of
           | expertise.
        
         | karpierz wrote:
         | On the other hand, there isn't any controversy as to whether
         | blindness is a real condition.
        
           | munk-a wrote:
           | People who don't qualify as legally blind but have extreme
           | vision impairment would like to talk to you. My stepson is
           | profoundly deaf but still has hearing and wears hearing aides
           | to assist him, he'll often read lips during conversations to
           | supplement that audio information and that can result in
           | pretty big communication breakdowns.
           | 
           | Pretty much everything in life is a spectrum of possibilities
           | - trying to boil those down to binary states can be helpful
           | for some purposes but is never clean.
        
           | moate wrote:
           | I would imagine that the rate of violent attacks on blind
           | individuals specifically due to their blindness is also lower
           | than hate crimes against Trans individuals.
           | 
           | I don't hear about a lot of amputees being dragged behind
           | pickup trucks for not having as many limbs as their
           | attackers, but maybe I'm not reading the right publications.
        
           | yanderekko wrote:
           | Well, it's undoubtedly a condition but there are probably
           | some who dispute whether it's a "disease" or "disability".
           | This resistance is more commonly associated with the deaf
           | community, and drawing parallels between this population and
           | the trans population will get you in hot water pretty
           | quickly..
        
           | worik wrote:
           | Yes there is.
           | 
           | Being "legally blind" is a thing. The cut off for how little
           | vision is enough to be blind is debatable.
           | 
           | Not that simple.
        
         | la6471 wrote:
         | Yep sad that we cannot think of anything better to do ....
        
         | caeril wrote:
         | There's a large segment of the population that feels actively
         | threatened by trans rights. The two primary components are:
         | 
         | 1. Parents and sexual violence victims concerned about the non-
         | falsifiability of trans-identification and the related concerns
         | of sexual predators claiming an identity they don't actually
         | have to gain access to private spaces of women and girls.
         | 
         | 2. Feminists (TERFs) who believe being a woman is a
         | fundamental, biological identity and cannot be coopted by
         | males.
         | 
         | Interestingly enough, there's not much animosity toward trans-
         | men. These groups exclusively concern themselves with trans-
         | women.
         | 
         | Mormons are probably another group due to the reliance of their
         | theology on binary gender, but I don't see them as being
         | particularly vocal on this topic.
        
           | eropple wrote:
           | _> Interestingly enough, there 's not much animosity toward
           | trans-men._
           | 
           | One of the interesting things about spending the last few
           | years studying Western European post-Roman history has been
           | the discovery that, in the West, there has historically been
           | relatively little resistance to AFAB folks "presenting"
           | (speaking of the interpretation at the time--the dichotomy
           | between "presenting" and "being" is one I am thoroughly not
           | qualified to negotiate) as male unless tied into homophobia.
           | There are historical examples of folks who outwardly identify
           | as women taking on male roles in monastic life, and it's
           | often portrayed as a good and pious thing.
           | 
           | The reverse, it seems, is generally not true, though not
           | exclusively so. I've read of, but don't have offhand,
           | accounts of Church investigation into "male nuns" that ruled
           | that the erstwhile offender, a male who had suffered
           | prepubescent genital damage, had committed no crime being
           | raised by a particular convent as a woman. But cases going
           | the other way round are much more common.
           | 
           | In terms of today's relations, however, my intuition is that
           | the fear regarding transwomen is that it's largely a
           | performative flavor of misogyny and the fear of those of the
           | "superior" set somehow damaging all men, much as the
           | performative flavor of homophobia does the same with regards
           | to gay men but _shockingly_ much rarely with regards to
           | bisexual or homosexual women. But, of course, that is just an
           | intuition.
        
           | plank_time wrote:
           | TERF is a pejorative term, I wouldn't use it unless you are
           | trying to attack feminists.
        
             | moate wrote:
             | How do you define a TERF without calling them a TERF (and
             | distinguishing them from other Radical Feminists or
             | mainstream 4th wave feminists)?
             | 
             | If we can't call a spade a spade, what shall we call it?
        
             | millzlane wrote:
             | In academic discourse, there is no consensus on whether or
             | not TERF constitutes a slur.
             | 
             | But if we want to be accommodating to those who take
             | offense with the term, we can use the term Gender Critical.
        
               | hackinthebochs wrote:
               | >In academic discourse, there is no consensus on whether
               | or not TERF constitutes a slur.
               | 
               | All you have to do is look at how the term is used in the
               | wild to determine if its a slur. Anyone who can claim it
               | isn't is being disingenuous.
        
               | plank_time wrote:
               | "Trans-exclusionary radical feminist" sounds pretty
               | pejorative, most especially the "radical" part.
        
               | ratww wrote:
               | "Radical Feminist" is the only part of the term that
               | everyone agrees is not pejorative.
               | 
               | It is a real branch inside feminism, which lots of women
               | identify with, and it doesn't mean what most people think
               | it does.
               | 
               | Here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Radical_feminism
        
               | paulv wrote:
               | "Radical feminism" is a branch of feminism. It is not
               | used as a pejorative in the acronym.
        
             | r00fus wrote:
             | Those who are called TERFs are feminists in name only. The
             | vast majority of self-described feminists don't agree with
             | the TERF platform.
        
             | SirHound wrote:
             | Its not an attack on feminists though?
        
               | ben_w wrote:
               | I read the original comment by @caeril as saying that
               | Feminists are TERFs, which would not be accurate as the
               | expansion of the acronym is " _Trans-Exclusionary_
               | Radical Feminists".
               | 
               | From what I've seen reported, cis women are on average
               | more relaxed than cis men about trans women.
        
           | spamizbad wrote:
           | > Interestingly enough, there's not much animosity toward
           | trans-men.
           | 
           | While it's true there's little animosity directed at them,
           | there is a lot of stuff Shrier's view that "gender ideology"
           | is seducing lesbian women into thinking they're not actually
           | women. Which, honestly, as someone who lived through lots of
           | the dumb gay panic in the 80s and 90s sounds exactly like
           | what people thought about homosexuals (eg: gay people can
           | seduce/recruit straight people and turn them gay). So trans
           | men get treated like dupes or victims of some social
           | phenomena, rather than treated like actual human beings with
           | agency of their own.
           | 
           | In fact, pretty much every anti-trans viewpoint I see, even
           | from otherwise highbrow publicans like the Economist, are
           | really just rehashes of what we heard about gays in the 80s
           | and 90s, before we realized they were, in fact, not a threat
           | to society.
        
           | pavlov wrote:
           | _> " sexual predators claiming an identity they don 't
           | actually have"_
           | 
           | This is such a bizarre leap of logic. Trans women are the
           | pariahs of contemporary Western society. Yet the same people
           | who uphold this subhuman status also assume that rapists are
           | nefariously claiming trans female identity.
           | 
           | That's not how rapists operate! They seek positions of power.
           | Trans women are downtrodden and powerless -- the least
           | attractive position for a sexual predator.
        
             | mmmmmbop wrote:
             | You are of course right factually, but fear of sexual
             | predators is not based in stats and facts, but in feelings.
             | When people think about rape, they imagine a stranger in a
             | dark alley, whereas ~90% of rapists are somebody the victim
             | knows.
        
             | delecti wrote:
             | I think your terminology is a bit backwards. A trans man is
             | someone assigned female at birth but who later identifies
             | as male. From context you seem to be talking about the
             | hypothetical of male rapists professing they identify as
             | trans women. A person born male who later identifies as a
             | woman is a trans woman.
        
               | pavlov wrote:
               | Thanks, that's what I meant. (You write an agitated
               | comment on the phone and make a basic mistake. The
               | usual.)
        
               | kaitai wrote:
               | I thought that was the idea being sold by Republicans in
               | the US, though, that a woman who is trans is going to be
               | lurking in the bathroom to rape your daughter after
               | beating her in tennis?
        
               | delecti wrote:
               | Yes. Republicans are trying to pass bills under the guise
               | of protecting against trans women. Trans women are people
               | who were assigned male at birth, and now present as
               | women.
        
           | kingsuper20 wrote:
           | >There's a large segment of the population that feels
           | actively threatened by trans rights.
           | 
           | I'd say that's a vast overreach. It isn't like the Trans Army
           | is going to come burn down your house.
           | 
           | If anything, it's a general notion that transsexuals are
           | mentally ill and that there is something odd about
           | normalizing it. In a sense, that it's not different than
           | people who want their limbs amputated or wear animal costumes
           | at all times.
        
           | swebs wrote:
           | >2. Feminists (TERFs) who believe being a woman is a
           | fundamental, biological identity and cannot be coopted by
           | males.
           | 
           | I'd wager that most people believe this. Not just feminists.
        
             | chc wrote:
             | Polling suggests otherwise:
             | 
             | https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/uk-women-
             | supp...
             | 
             | https://thehill.com/changing-america/respect/548775-new-
             | poll...
        
               | s1artibartfast wrote:
               | There are a lot of shades of trans support, If you asked
               | the most extreme questions you would probably get
               | different answers.
               | 
               | It is one thing to ask people should be able can use a
               | bathroom, and another to ask questions about personal
               | sexlife and behavior. i.e. if you asked people if you
               | consider transwomen equally with women at birth as sexual
               | partners, I bet the numbers fall through the floor.
        
               | chc wrote:
               | Well, sure. If you ask people whether they consider Black
               | and Asian men equally as sex partners, the numbers would
               | also fall through the floor. This doesn't mean Black or
               | Asian men are less of men, or even that they're
               | necessarily against either of those groups, it just means
               | people have preferences in what their partners' bodies
               | are like. My point is just that "trans women are women
               | and trans men are men" is actually a common opinion,
               | contrary to the claim in the comment I was replying to.
        
               | jl6 wrote:
               | I think you may have missed the point in GP's post.
               | "Trans-women are women" is a common opinion in a casual
               | context (like when greeting a colleague in an office),
               | but in contexts where the stakes are higher (like when
               | choosing a sexual partner), very few will treat trans-
               | women as women.
        
               | s1artibartfast wrote:
               | Exactly my point. Many hold the philosophy that
               | discriminating between the two _in any context_ is an
               | attack.
               | 
               | Most heterosexual men identify as being attracted to
               | women, and don't hold trans women in that category.
        
               | chc wrote:
               | I don't think this conclusion is justified by the data,
               | though. If this were just a matter of "they'll humor
               | trans people, but everyone secretly knows trans women are
               | men and treats them accordingly," you'd expect gay men to
               | generally be attracted to trans women. But by all
               | accounts I've heard, the people who are attracted to
               | trans women tend to be straight men, just like any other
               | woman. It's true that straight men are generally less
               | likely to be attracted to trans women than cis women, but
               | this just shows that being transgender is unattractive to
               | them. Gay men are even less likely to be attracted to
               | trans women, so it's clearly not as simple as "people
               | actually perceive them as male and treat them
               | accordingly."
        
               | jl6 wrote:
               | Here's some actual data that suggests "trans women are
               | women for dating purposes" is the opinion of only a small
               | minority:
               | 
               | https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/026540751877
               | 913...
        
             | swebs wrote:
             | 54 percent of Americans believe "whether a person is a man
             | or a woman is determined at birth". There is a wide
             | partisan divide with 80 percent of Republicans agreeing (so
             | probably not radical feminists) and only 34 percent of
             | democrats agreeing.
             | 
             | https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-
             | tank/2017/11/08/transgender...
        
             | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
             | The scientific community, specifically the community that
             | conducts science on this topic, currently has a distinction
             | on the terms sex and gender. I'd posit the possible
             | consensus position that the term sex refers to physical
             | anatomy whereas gender refers to one's gender role in
             | interaction with others.
             | 
             | For details on that distinction and attempts at consensus-
             | building for the terminology, see https://journals.physiolo
             | gy.org/doi/full/10.1152/japplphysio...
             | 
             | In software development terms, this topic has no ubiquitous
             | language.
             | 
             | In relation to your comment, their belief is not based in a
             | shared reality.
        
             | ben_w wrote:
             | Unless I have wildly misunderstood you, I believe you would
             | lose that wager: https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/wp-
             | content/uploads/Pu...
        
           | jollybean wrote:
           | Wow - I don't think so, unless by;
           | 
           | "2. Feminists (TERFs) who believe being a"
           | 
           | ... you mean the groups they represent i.e. 'a lot of women'
           | frankly many of them who are not 'radical feminist' or even
           | 'feminist'.
           | 
           | Huge numbers of women are uncomfortable with at least some
           | parts of 'trans women' from 'changerooms' to 'sports' etc..
           | 
           | I don't think the very notion of 'trans' really upsets very
           | many people at all, and that's the funny paradox.
           | 
           | But as soon as it crosses paths with others, then it's an
           | entirely different issue and there's a lot of dust raised by
           | pluralities.
        
           | umvi wrote:
           | > Mormons are probably another group due to the reliance of
           | their theology on binary gender, but I don't see them as
           | being particularly vocal on this topic.
           | 
           | Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints doesn't appear to
           | feel threatened by transgender rights. At least, not
           | according to official stances here:
           | https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/topics/transgender
        
             | chc wrote:
             | From that link:
             | 
             | > Gender is an essential characteristic of Heavenly
             | Father's plan of happiness. The intended meaning of gender
             | in "The Family: A Proclamation to the World" is biological
             | sex at birth.
             | 
             | > Church leaders counsel against elective medical or
             | surgical intervention for the purpose of attempting to
             | transition to the opposite gender of a person's birth sex
             | ("sex reassignment"). Leaders advise that taking these
             | actions will be cause for Church membership restrictions.
             | 
             | > Leaders also counsel against social transitioning. A
             | social transition includes changing dress or grooming, or
             | changing a name or pronouns, to present oneself as other
             | than his or her birth sex. Leaders advise that those who
             | socially transition will experience some Church membership
             | restrictions for the duration of this transition.
             | 
             | Their advice on what treatments they support for
             | transgender people is kind of vague and circumspect, but
             | the gist seems to be "A therapist should at least be open
             | to conversion therapy," which is generally considered
             | harmful.
             | 
             | Given the LDS Church's open campaign against gay rights
             | based on the "The Family: A Proclamation to the World" (the
             | same document referenced above), it seems reasonable to
             | interpret this as stating opposition to transgender rights.
             | Though as the parent noted, they are much less vocal on
             | this topic.
        
             | nostromo wrote:
             | I'm sorry to be so frank, but this is more of the same
             | mormon bullshit.
             | 
             | "Love the sinner, hate the sin" is the typical line. The
             | problem is our actions and identity are often intrinsically
             | linked.
             | 
             | They have the same stance for gay people. "It's ok to be
             | gay, god still loves you! The only catch is you can't ever
             | have a romantic relationship with the person you love. If
             | you do you'll be excommunicated and ostracized from your
             | family. No biggy! God bless!"
             | 
             | Nobody wants this sort of faux compassion.
        
           | paulv wrote:
           | > 2. Feminists (TERFs)
           | 
           | I worry that this can be read as "all feminists are terfs",
           | which is not accurate.
        
           | freemint wrote:
           | I think the difference between treatment of mtf and ftm can
           | be mostly boiled down to difference how males being female
           | spaces VS females being in male spaces is perceived.
           | 
           | For trans exclusionary feminists one is the patriarchy coming
           | to female protective places and females claiming their place
           | and undermining the patriarchy. As for parents males being
           | less susceptible to forceful sexual exploitation is true but
           | there is also a huge societal double standard when it comes
           | women forcing themselves on men or abusing their male partner
           | which is also reflected in parents being less worried about
           | something happening to their children. Possibly also because
           | of pregnancies onesidedness.
        
             | kaitai wrote:
             | The protection of female virtue is also an enormously
             | successful political tactic, from the "yellow peril" in the
             | late 1890s in Europe and the US to the "white slavery"
             | panic (specifically referring to the cultural phenomenon in
             | the US that gave rise to the 1910 Mann Act; check out the
             | contrasting commentary of Emma Goldman and Rose Livingston)
             | to the murder of Emmett Till and the burning down of Black
             | Wall Street in Tulsa -- all of these are really responses
             | to larger questions of opportunity and freedom of movement
             | for folks that crystalize in the threat to a white woman's
             | sexual virtue and the justification of violent response to
             | crush the threat.
             | 
             | The bathroom bills, the panic over sports, the violence
             | trans and gender-nonconforming people encounter (especially
             | on racialized lines) -- it's all part of a larger political
             | narrative. As you can see from the comments on this HN
             | thread, you get a daddy all worked up about his daughter's
             | virtue/place in life and you can move political mountains
             | because it is an Existential Threat that Must Be Removed.
             | That's weaponizable in a way that talking about military
             | spending or tax law or gerrymandering is not.
        
           | whateveracct wrote:
           | > Feminists (TERFs)
           | 
           | One note: Nobody self-identifies as a TERF. Or at least not
           | originally (I'm sure in Internet ire people do it ironically
           | by now.) It's mostly a label used to crush nuanced
           | conversation.
        
             | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
             | Interesting to compare that with WASP.
        
             | ska wrote:
             | > Or at least not originally
             | 
             | I've heard it was the other way around, i.e. it started off
             | as a self identification for a niche group which people
             | started to reject once it begun to be used pejoratively.
        
               | raffraffraff wrote:
               | https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/nov/29/im-
               | cre...
        
               | ska wrote:
               | Interesting, thanks! Although I supposed it doesn't
               | really speak to whether it was initially embraced (by the
               | identified niche group) before being rejected.
        
             | handoflixue wrote:
             | No one self-identifies as an asshole or a bigot, but there
             | sure still are a lot of them out there. I'd hardly say that
             | the only use of those labels is to "crush nuanced
             | conversation" - people just aren't inclined to take ideas
             | seriously when they emerge from people they fundamentally
             | disagree with. Telling a democrat that something is a
             | "republican" idea will produce the same result, and vice-
             | versa.
        
           | deadite wrote:
           | >Interestingly enough, there's not much animosity toward
           | trans-men. These ground exclusively concern themselves with
           | trans-women.
           | 
           | I second this. Maybe it's some echo chamber effect or a
           | minority stirring shit up, but I've hardly heard anything
           | over the years about transmen-as-men vs men-as-men. It seems
           | like most of the focus is on transwomen-as-women vs women-as-
           | women. Maybe we're not as vocal? Maybe we care less? I don't
           | think we have much of a dog in this race so I'm often
           | confused as to why this topic comes up on HN considering most
           | of us here are men. Boring day at work?
           | 
           | I do feel bad for the women's Olympics, but I'd like to ask
           | the Olympics committee what the hell were they thinking long
           | before I start any kind of anti-trans crusade. This is one
           | discussion that doesn't seem to be happening much. The
           | diatribe is as always directed among the proles and the
           | decisionmakers get a free pass. Someone must have said, "Yes,
           | lets allow a 35 year-old recently transitioned man to compete
           | with early 20 year-old women," and some approval process must
           | have happened. Those are the people you want to start asking
           | the hard questions, not look at LH and blame her for
           | participating in the Olympics that she's allowed to
           | participate in.
           | 
           | Or as someone else put it: "A female POC just lost her spot
           | to a white, middle-aged, male-born son of a billionaire. This
           | is supposed to be progressive?"
        
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             | blindmute wrote:
             | It's because there is no reason to have animosity toward a
             | woman becoming a man. The main objections to MtF are about
             | safety (a MtF will always be stronger and bigger than a
             | woman on average) and fairness (should male born people get
             | female scholarships, compete in women's sports?). A FtM is
             | not hurting anything or taking any opportunities away from
             | anyone really.
        
             | f38zf5vdt wrote:
             | I think it is the same reason no one has ever cared much
             | about lesbians compared to gay men. [1] But I am not sure
             | why that is.
             | 
             | [1] https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/lesbians-more-
             | accept...
        
               | klyrs wrote:
               | A trite parody: the only thing more disgusting than a
               | penis is the desire to have it removed.
        
             | mabub24 wrote:
             | I suspect it has much to do with the idea that trans-men
             | are transitioning into a gender "in power." That is,
             | adopting masculine social behavior and lifestyle allow
             | transmen to enter the patriarchal fold and slip quite
             | seamlessly into a male dominant society, _as long as they
             | remain unknown_. Once they are known, the idea that they
             | must be excommunicated or  "proven" as female becomes
             | imperative. Transmen are subject to inordinate degrees of
             | violence like transwomen. This is all to say that cis men
             | aren't as afraid, be it in washrooms or on a sports field,
             | of transmen as much as transwomen.
             | 
             | Transwomen, on the other hand, are much more defined, in
             | the eyes of a patriarchal society, by their rejection of
             | masculinity in favor of femininity. To some cis-men, they
             | appear as aberrations or duplicitous (hence the nickname
             | "trap"), to some cis-women they appear as potential
             | unfalsifiable unknowns, and a potential thing to be feared
             | for sexual violence. Transwomen are thus caught in the
             | crossfires of fear from both genders.
        
               | secondcoming wrote:
               | I don't think so, that's a work of fantasy and quite the
               | leap.
               | 
               | It's probably more that in the grand scheme of things
               | trans-men don't pose any sort of threat to other males. I
               | don't recall ever discussing trans-men with my peers.
        
             | kingsuper20 wrote:
             | " "A female POC just lost her spot to a white, middle-aged,
             | male-born son of a billionaire. This is supposed to be
             | progressive?" "
             | 
             | Perhaps it's simply a way to more firmly define the
             | progressive stack.
             | 
             | We need an ISO standard in this area.
        
             | jfengel wrote:
             | The Olympics has been dealing with the question of
             | womanhood for a very long time. For a while they were
             | literally stripping and groping female athletes. Later they
             | did chromosome testing, until they discovered intersex
             | individuals who confound that theory.
             | 
             | Even their current testosterone-levels theory is imperfect,
             | since some people have obviously female bodies but
             | inordinately high testosterone levels.
             | 
             | So they seem to be muddling along about as well as they
             | can. If they want to have a separate women's category, it's
             | a question they're going to have to answer.
        
             | hackinthebochs wrote:
             | >I've hardly heard anything over the years about transmen-
             | as-men vs men-as-men. It seems like most of the focus is on
             | transwomen-as-women vs women-as-women. Maybe we're not as
             | vocal? Maybe we care less?
             | 
             | It's really not that hard to understand. It's the same sort
             | of thinking that motivates the slogan "don't punch down".
             | Males aren't threatened by females identifying as men. But
             | females are threatened by males identifying as women for
             | many obvious reasons. For example, with self-id as the only
             | criteria keeping men out of women's prisons, it undermines
             | the protection women have against abuse from men while in
             | forced proximity. A female in a male prison or male
             | changeroom is a novelty, not a threat.
        
               | eropple wrote:
               | Seeing as how the historical perspective is almost
               | directly reversed from what you claim, I'm going to have
               | to be skeptical about this. The European-historical
               | aversion to largely one-way nonconforming to gender and
               | sexual roles (men acting as women being a problem, ditto
               | male homosexual behavior) is pretty explicitly due to a
               | rejection of (heterosexual) masculinity translating as a
               | threat _to_ that (heterosexual) masculinity.
               | 
               | Those currents run deep, and run through to today. And
               | that's not to say that "but a guy might go in the girls'
               | bathroom!" is not what bigots _say_ , because as a prima
               | facie claim that's certainly common--but I very much
               | doubt, were we to see some unvarnished honesty, that
               | bathroom fears are actually a primary motivator rather
               | than a convenient battleground.
        
               | hackinthebochs wrote:
               | There is certainly a longstanding cultural thread of
               | defending traditional manhood through explicit
               | castigation of male deviants, but notably the source of
               | the explicit castigation is largely from other males. The
               | pushback against trans-women's acceptance as women isn't
               | largely driven by men. It is pretty evenly distributed,
               | or perhaps even more driven by women. The point is that
               | these seem to be distinct phenomena driven by distinct
               | concerns.
        
             | caeril wrote:
             | > I'm often confused as to why this topic comes up on HN
             | 
             | Take a look around, I think you'll find transmen comprise a
             | much larger proportion of this community (and tech
             | communities in general) than the general population.
             | 
             | There's also a lot of desire on HN to comment on political
             | topics while pretending not to comment on political topics.
             | Things like gender identity, women in tech, genetic
             | differences, etc are all wonderful smokescreens to allow us
             | to post politically but maintain a solid veneer of simply
             | having an intellectual discussion on a topic of general
             | interest.
        
               | notamy wrote:
               | > Things like gender identity, women in tech, genetic
               | differences, etc are all wonderful smokescreens to allow
               | us to post politically but maintain a solid veneer of
               | simply having an intellectual discussion on a topic of
               | general interest.
               | 
               | Especially when it comes to these topics, I imagine it's
               | very easy for people who aren't affected by these issues
               | to "debate" them *because* they aren't the ones directly
               | affected by it.
        
               | kingsuper20 wrote:
               | >maintain a solid veneer of simply having an intellectual
               | discussion on a topic of general interest.
               | 
               | That's a good point.
               | 
               | My guess is that practically everyone knows what side
               | they are on as things get more sporty. The rest is just
               | weaving arguments for the fun of it.
        
               | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
               | Interesting discussion is the HN way!
               | 
               | Some enterprising scientists may have some cutting edge
               | insights reviewing HN comments on technology topics, no
               | reason to suspect otherwise for social sciences.
        
               | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
               | > maintain a solid veneer of simply having an
               | intellectual discussion on a topic of general interest
               | 
               | Some of us have an academic interest in biology,
               | genetics, neuroscience, psychology, etc. while still
               | aligning with the overall origin of this site as a place
               | to discuss the latest in news as relates to technology
               | startups.
               | 
               | It is unfortunate that this politically charged topic is
               | so misunderstood and that ignorance of the basic science
               | behind it is so prevalent, but here we are.
        
             | jolux wrote:
             | TERFs primarily don't focus on trans men because they see
             | them as misguided women. You can find many TERFs blaming
             | trans women and "gender ideology" for convincing butch-
             | identified lesbians that they're actually straight men.
             | Personally I think this denies trans men the dignity and
             | autonomy to define themselves as they see fit, but then
             | again, I would say that, I'm trans.
        
               | mkr-hn wrote:
               | It's ironic that this transphobe fantasizing has led to
               | non-conforming cis women being harassed in the bathroom.
               | Whatever minimal problem there was with women being
               | harassed or assaulted in the bathroom by men or AMAB
               | people has been completely surpassed by these fantasies
               | sparking a witch hunt.
        
         | 2OEH8eoCRo0 wrote:
         | What level of outrage? I notice a lot of outrage online from
         | people whose identities I cannot verify. I have noticed zero
         | outrage IRL from real people that I interact with.
         | 
         | Small sample size but I think that judging outrage from online
         | presence is inaccurate.
        
         | dmje wrote:
         | Couldn't agree more. The airtime on this topic is insane.
         | People's email signatures filled with their pronouns. The
         | anger. The division. I get it's an emotive conversation but
         | then so are gay rights, gender rights, race rights, democratic
         | rights, inequality, and about a gazillion other topics. That's
         | not belittling trans as an issue, but it's so incredibly noisy.
         | 
         | IMO the wider question here is nothing to do with trans but
         | about what being "liberal" means. We're in this insanely weird
         | moment in history when the hard left is eating itself by being
         | so Woke it's nearly impossible to even have a conversation any
         | more.
         | 
         | I'm as left wing as they come, but being left wing means being
         | able to have open, honest and sometimes uncomfortable debates.
         | Being left wing is not, and never has been, about shutting down
         | conversation, de-platforming, dogma, chilling effects. These
         | are the things of the hard right, and the sooner people on the
         | left start realising it and start being empowered to be vocal
         | in defence of the freedom of ideas, the better.
        
         | RC_ITR wrote:
         | Uyghurs are less than 0.1% of China's population, but their
         | treatment is (rightfully) a huge issue globally.
         | 
         | Most people just aren't as utilitarian in the way that your
         | comment implies they should be.
        
         | nend wrote:
         | I mean, 2 million people in the US being discriminated against
         | seems like plenty enough people for this to be a worthwhile
         | discussion. But it's not just the number of people. It's also
         | about how severe the discrimination against them is.
         | 
         | >Personally I don't think this is very important compared to
         | other topics. There are more blind people than trans people.
         | 
         | Ok but is there a large portion of the population that believes
         | blind people don't deserve health care for their disability? Is
         | there a large portion of the population that believes blind
         | people shouldn't be afforded working rights?
         | 
         | You can't just go "there's only 2 million trans people in the
         | US, who cares about their healthcare, there's more important
         | things out there", when the consequence of doing so severely
         | impacts the quality of life of .5% of the population.
         | 
         | I don't think you would be sitting here going "only .5% of the
         | US has type 1 diabetes, why are talking so much about making
         | sure they get appropriate health care? Who cares if they're
         | discriminated against during hiring?"
        
         | Kharvok wrote:
         | The difference is that there aren't groups cheerleading the
         | deconstruction of human sight because blind people exist.
        
           | JonathonW wrote:
           | I have no real visibility (pun not intended) into the blind
           | community, but similar groups _do_ exist in the Deaf
           | community; Deafness-as-identity /culture is very much a thing
           | and some of the general cultural views around adaptation and
           | integration with the hearing world look not-dissimilar to
           | what you see in some aspects of LGBTQ+ movements.
        
         | chc wrote:
         | Based on the numbers I've seen, there are slightly more trans
         | people in the world than blind people, but overall -- you're
         | not wrong. I don't even think most trans rights advocates would
         | disagree with you that the amount of attention devoted to
         | transgender people is excessive. The reason transgender people
         | are getting more attention than blind people is because there
         | is currently a strong movement to regress transgender rights,
         | while there isn't an equivalent movement for blind people.
         | Transgender people have some asks in terms of societal support
         | (e.g. British law has some awkward legal red tape for trans
         | people around things like marriage), but in general, most of
         | the noise is being generated by the anti-transgender side (e.g.
         | bans on therapy for transgender people, bathroom bans, sports
         | bans, outrage at voluntarily chosen gender-inclusive phrasing
         | like "people who have a uterus").
         | 
         | So it's a bit of a hard subject. I really don't think it's
         | worth this much attention, but if hate groups are devoting this
         | much attention to opposing transgender people, we're faced with
         | the choice of either also giving it a lot of undue attention or
         | throwing transgender people to the wolves.
        
           | UnpossibleJim wrote:
           | https://www.diabetesresearch.org/diabetes-
           | statistics#:~:text....
           | 
           | I don't know from blind people, but in America, there are
           | anywhere from 10.2 to 17.5% of the population that are
           | diabetic. While not pursued by hate groups, they are actively
           | preyed by pharmaceutical companies and politicians who don't
           | let insulins go generic - one of the few medicines that
           | can't. Yes there is complaint about the medical system in
           | America, I have yet to see diabetic/nondiabetic show up under
           | facebook ID's like He/Him/His, normalization of syringe usage
           | in restaurants, blood sugar testing not become a spectacle
           | (of course I pick this one because I know the most about it,
           | but there are many disorders that could be used with it).
           | Stigma, predation and debate is associated with many things,
           | but this one will get you fired/excommunicated from society.
           | Speaking ignorantly about "just eat less sugar" to a type 1
           | diabetic does nothing.
        
             | chc wrote:
             | I sympathize with your overall point and agree that it's
             | shameful how America treats diabetics like an ATM, but I
             | think you're very far off-target if you envy the way
             | transgender people are treated. Lots of anti-transgender
             | people do just fine in our society. A person who actively
             | fought against trans rights in California is currently the
             | Vice President of the United States (though she has gotten
             | much quieter on trans issues in the meantime). We have
             | several openly anti-trans members of Congress. The fight
             | for trans rights is so defensive that covering the insane
             | medical costs isn't even on the radar. A lot of transition-
             | related expenses are rarely covered by insurance, and they
             | cost as much as a luxury car. Yet when you hear about
             | "trans activists," what they're fighting for is not to have
             | their ability to use the bathroom taken away.
        
               | UnpossibleJim wrote:
               | I'm not envious of the way transgender people are
               | treated, and if I came across sounding that way I do
               | apologize. My tone was for the disproportion of
               | attention, not of action. In truth, very little action
               | will be taken for good for the transgender population or
               | health disorders. That isn't how these things play out,
               | unfortunately. As a society, we only know the stick and
               | not the carrot. While I sympathize with the sentiment
               | that there are several openly anti-trans members of
               | Congress, nearly all of Congress is anti-Medical Reform
               | in action, if not in voice. My point is a scale of
               | difference, which was brought up at the start of this
               | thread. I really do appreciate the struggle that the
               | trans community has to go through, and I am not deaf to
               | their cries (and, though somehow this makes me a worse
               | person to some who would hear it, I do know people who
               | are trans). But if we are going to look at things on a
               | societal scale, how can we ignore the statistical numbers
               | of the societal woes and population impacts?
               | 
               | As for insurance, you might be shocked at what insurance
               | doesn't cover for diabetics. They don't just "cut a
               | check" for everything. I can't tell you how many times my
               | doctor and I have to get on the phone to argue with them
               | for literal months to get things covered. For things to
               | keep me alive. Not to feel right in my skin. Not to keep
               | thoughts of suicide away. To keep bare minimal physical
               | biological function going.
               | 
               | As for Kamala Harris, she has a whole lot to be
               | displeased about. Prison labor, drug prosecution,
               | questionable school bussing policies, anti trans right
               | policies. Yeah, I'm not a fan.
        
           | yanderekko wrote:
           | >The reason transgender people are getting more attention
           | than blind people is because there is currently a strong
           | movement to regress transgender rights
           | 
           | Firstly, a resistance to expanding rights is not a movement
           | to regress rights. For the most part (exceptions apply), the
           | margins of the culture war here are not about trans people
           | being on the defensive against long-standing rights being
           | stripped.
           | 
           | Secondly, obviously the margins of this battle are often
           | (again, not always, particularly when it comes to health care
           | issues) pretty small-stakes, especially in comparison to the
           | outsized amount of attention they're given. Certainly not
           | important enough to justify the "you're trying to murder me /
           | dehumanize me / erase me" rhetoric that one predictably
           | receives when mild resistance is offered towards this agenda.
        
             | chc wrote:
             | I gave several examples of people wanting to strip long-
             | standing rights, which are probably some of the first
             | examples people would think of when you mention "the trans
             | debate," so I don't know what to say here except that
             | you're mistaken.
             | 
             | I also think your portrayal of the stakes for transgender
             | people is a bit flippant. Gender dysphoria is a pretty
             | painful mental illness that often leads to suicide, so
             | forbidding a transgender girl from getting treatment and
             | forcing her to go to the boys' room does seem both
             | dehumanizing and dangerous to her life.
        
               | yanderekko wrote:
               | >I gave several examples of people wanting to strip long-
               | standing rights
               | 
               | I don't think you did. You threw out terms like "sports
               | bans" but I don't think trans individuals being able to
               | compete based on gender identity is a "long-standing
               | right". If you're referring to other stuff you'll have to
               | be more specific.
               | 
               | >Gender dysphoria is a pretty painful mental illness that
               | often leads to suicide, so forbidding a transgender girl
               | from getting treatment and forcing her to go to the boys'
               | room does seem both dehumanizing and dangerous to her
               | life.
               | 
               | Many policy issues will have some sort of effects on
               | overall mortality. But I think it's pretty important in
               | functional democracies that you should be able to have
               | policy disagreements where these sorts of stakes are
               | present without believing that the people taking the
               | opposite stance are sadists or murderers instead of
               | individuals who come to these debates with somewhat-
               | different priors of empirical reality and somewhat-
               | different but not fundamentally-abhorrent values. Trans
               | issues seem to lack this normal presumption, however.
        
               | chc wrote:
               | > I don't think you did. You threw out terms like "sports
               | bans" but I don't think trans individuals being able to
               | compete based on gender identity is a "long-standing
               | right".
               | 
               | If these bans had already been in place, they wouldn't
               | have needed to pass them. Trans people have been using
               | the appropriate bathroom for their gender for ages, but
               | now that transphobia is on the rise, they're actually
               | being prevented from doing so. Trans people have been
               | _allowed_ to compete in the Olympics for longer than many
               | Olympians have been alive, but now than a trans woman has
               | actually made it in, for the first time ever, suddenly it
               | 's a debate. Some people have always preferred inclusive
               | language, but now that people are on the lookout for
               | "gender ideology," there's a decent chance that using it
               | in passing will get you 10 thinkpieces and a JK Rowling
               | tweetstorm about whether the phrase "menstruating people"
               | erases women.
               | 
               | > Many policy issues will have some sort of effects on
               | overall mortality. But I think it's pretty important in
               | functional democracies that you should be able to have
               | policy disagreements where these sorts of stakes are
               | present without believing that the people taking the
               | opposite stance are sadists or murderers instead of
               | individuals who come to these debates with somewhat-
               | different priors of empirical reality and somewhat-
               | different but not fundamentally-abhorrent values. Trans
               | issues seem to lack this normal presumption, however.
               | 
               | I don't completely disagree, but I think this is not so
               | much about trans issues, and more an unfortunate product
               | of the way bigotry works in our age. You don't have the
               | KKK out burning crosses in front of people's houses
               | anymore, instead you have people who are "race realists"
               | and are just "worried about preserving culture." Nobody
               | -- not even virulent transphobes who believe all trans
               | women are pedophiles -- identifies as a transphobe, they
               | are "gender critical feminists" who are "worried about
               | preserving women's sex-based rights" or "worried about
               | the children." Bigots have realized that bigotry isn't
               | cool anymore, so they've learned to dress it up as
               | moderate concern-trolling. So it's harder to tell who's
               | speaking in good faith, especially since some actual
               | moderates who haven't thought deeply on issues will
               | parrot the bad-faith actors' talking points.
        
               | livueta wrote:
               | Regarding your last point, what do you think the
               | practical implications of this are for those who seek
               | social change? While there are plenty of obvious examples
               | of what you're talking about, I worry that it's
               | dangerously psychologically attractive to dismiss any and
               | all criticism as bad-faith bigotry, at the expense of
               | potentially convincing those actual moderates. That's
               | especially true if the topic is personally sensitive
               | and/or it's the nth repetition of a particular talking
               | point. In a moral sense an explanation might not be owed,
               | but that often seems like ceding a pragmatic opportunity
               | to push for change.
               | 
               | It feels like there's a narrative metagame where there's
               | a risk that taking concern trolling too seriously is a
               | vector for being baited into savaging increasingly
               | innocuous questions from actual moderates. And since
               | people seem, generally speaking, to not like being told
               | to sit down and shut up even in the service of causes
               | they could otherwise be brought to support, I worry that
               | could broadly harm public sentiment towards movements
               | that go too hard into these kinds of tactics.
        
         | fungiblecog wrote:
         | I think the importance is based not on the numbers involved -
         | which are small - but on the significance of the demands.
         | People are discussing our fundamental understanding and
         | definitions of people's sex and gender that potentially affects
         | everyone. A major concern is that once you let everyone self
         | identify where does it stop? A caucasian woman was vilified a
         | few years ago for identifying as black. Had she identified as
         | male she would have been celebrated by the same people
        
         | mdoms wrote:
         | If the issue is that voices are being censored then the issue
         | affects everyone who is studying in a university - massively
         | more than your figures.
        
         | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
         | > I don't mean to downplay what is happening because it is
         | happening but do you not think the amount of outrage this topic
         | generates surpasses the level of impact we can have assuming we
         | fix it? It just feels like we're being distracted.
         | 
         | But downplaying it is exactly what you are doing, literally.
         | 
         | To answer your main question, though: the very small community
         | that we are talking about is disproportionately being subjected
         | to murder, physical abuse, emotional abuse, and widespread
         | discrimination.
         | 
         | The disproportionate harms that this small community is subject
         | to is the key to understanding the level of outrage being
         | evoked on their behalf.
        
           | josteink wrote:
           | > the very small community that we are talking about is
           | disproportionately being subjected to murder, physical abuse,
           | emotional abuse, and widespread discrimination.
           | 
           | Citation needed.
           | 
           | From what I can tell they are being given more leeway than
           | any other group, and anyone who dares argue against their
           | "rights" risks losing their job.
           | 
           | Trans-people does absolutely not to seem to be at risk
           | anywhere.
        
             | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
             | > Citation needed
             | 
             | Technically, no, I'd posit that in the scientific community
             | of focus on this topic, it is considered common knowledge
             | and likely an "a priori" logical conclusion.
             | 
             | But let me Google that for you: https://scholar.google.com/
             | scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C14&q=tra...
        
             | alisonkisk wrote:
             | Leeway? You think murderers and batterers give leeway to
             | transpeople?
        
             | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
             | > From what I can tell they are being given more leeway
             | than any other group, and anyone who dares argue against
             | their "rights" risks losing their job. Trans-people does
             | absolutely not to seem to be at risk anywhere.
             | 
             | You might refresh yourself on HN site guidelines.
             | 
             | Your comment would have been much more interesting if you
             | had declined to include the quoted portion.
        
           | dvt wrote:
           | > disproportionately being subjected to murder, physical
           | abuse, emotional abuse, and widespread discrimination.
           | 
           | This is provably untrue. Not that it isn't a tragedy, but in
           | 2020, 44 trans people were killed[1] in the US. This is a
           | rounding error even when looking at "merely" just hate crime
           | statistics (for example, in 2019, the FBI reported ~7000
           | criminal offenses[2] in the "hate crime" category). I get it,
           | people are passionate about it, companies change their logos,
           | everyone posts about it on social media, but let's not
           | perpetuate these myths.
           | 
           | [1] https://www.them.us/story/44-trans-people-
           | killed-2020-worst-...
           | 
           | [2] https://www.fbi.gov/news/pressrel/press-releases/fbi-
           | release...
        
             | FemmeAndroid wrote:
             | > Not that it isn't a tragedy, but in 2020, 44 trans people
             | were killed[1] in the US. This is a rounding error even
             | when looking at "merely" just hate crime statistics
             | 
             | I'm confused. How can you compare 44 deaths to 7000
             | offenses? (Including 55 deaths, across all hate crimes.)
             | 
             | I'm not arguing that trans people are disproportionately
             | killed or assaulted, but that we are in no way a rounding
             | error.
             | 
             | Using your source, the 2019 FBI report:
             | 
             | Of the 8,559 criminal offenses, 51 were Murder and
             | nonnegligent manslaughter.
             | 
             | https://ucr.fbi.gov/hate-crime/2019/topic-
             | pages/tables/table...
             | 
             | 224 offenses were based on Gender Identity, this includes
             | 173 Anti-transgender offenses, and 51 Anti-Gender Non-
             | Conforming offenses. 342 offenses not included in those
             | numbers we're targeting "Anti-Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, or
             | Transgender (Mixed Group)"
             | 
             | 5 of the 51 Murders and Nonnegligent Manslaugters were
             | perpetrated because the victim was in the group "Anti-
             | Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, or Transgender (Mixed Group)".
             | 
             | 1 of the 51 Murders and Nonnegligent Manslaughters were
             | perpetrated on the basis of Gender Identity.
             | 
             | https://ucr.fbi.gov/hate-crime/2019/topic-
             | pages/tables/table...
             | 
             | 5 of the 30 rapes as hate crimes, were perpetrated on the
             | basis of the victim's Gender Identity.
             | 
             | 1 of the 30 rapes as hate crimes were perpetrated because
             | the victim was in the group "Anti-Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual,
             | or Transgender (Mixed Group)".
        
             | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
             | Disproportionate in relation to the rates of the same for
             | blind people, per the parent commenters assertions.
        
             | Karrot_Kream wrote:
             | > This is provably untrue.
             | 
             | Both of you are correct, you're just looking at
             | probabilities conditioned in the opposite way. You're
             | looking at P(trans | killed), which is low. The parent post
             | is looking at P(killed | trans), which is quite high.
             | Understandably, if you are trans P(killed | trans) is a lot
             | more relevant to you than P(trans | killed).
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | dvt wrote:
               | I don't agree, we were talking about proportionality.
               | 0.6% of the US adult population identify as trans
               | (1,254,000). Of that 0.6%, 44 were killed. The math is
               | simple. The overall murder rate in the USA is 0.005%
               | (population: 328 million, yearly murders: 16,425). The
               | per-capita murder rates of trans people in the USA is
               | 0.0035%, barely over half the national average.
               | 
               | To make the claim that trans people are
               | disproportionately affected by crime/violence is simply
               | not true.
        
               | Karrot_Kream wrote:
               | > To make the claim that trans people are
               | disproportionately affected by crime/violence is simply
               | not true.
               | 
               | It's well-known that many trans hate crimes go unreported
               | or misreported (as the victim is misgendered). So unless
               | you really think it was highly unlikely for there to be
               | >= 19 unreported/misreported trans deaths (19 + 44 /
               | 1_254_000 > 0.005%), then trans death rates are probably
               | higher.
               | 
               | At least one source which mentions it:
               | https://www.out.com/crime/2020/7/02/these-are-trans-
               | people-k...
        
               | dvt wrote:
               | We're dangerously getting into "no true Scotsman"
               | territory here. Even being as charitable as I can, it
               | just seems that you don't like the data because it
               | doesn't fit your narrative.
        
               | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
               | > you don't like the data because it doesn't fit your
               | narrative
               | 
               | In counter argument, you don't like the laws of logic and
               | probability because they don't fit your narrative.
               | 
               | Edit: Furthermore, do we not agree, in the United States,
               | under the rule of law, that it is a failure of civil
               | responsibility, punishable by death in some
               | jurisdictions, to murder even 1 person, let alone 44?
               | 
               | How is your argument anything other than we must do
               | everything within our rights and capacity, as a country,
               | to prevent each and every failure of civic
               | responsibility?
        
               | dvt wrote:
               | > How is your argument anything other than we must do
               | everything within our rights and capacity, as a country,
               | to prevent each and every failure of civic
               | responsibility?
               | 
               | Apart from the insults (accusing me of not liking logic,
               | etc.), this is a straw-man and, just to be clear, is
               | absolutely _not_ what I 'm arguing.
        
               | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
               | > this is a straw-man
               | 
               | You seem to be succumbing to a psychological phenomenon
               | called projection.
               | 
               | In fact, you have set up a straw man argument, contrary
               | to HN site guidelines of using the most charitable
               | reading of my original comment, and then inverted your
               | mental model such that you believe I am the one setting
               | up the straw man.
        
               | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
               | > Apart from the insults
               | 
               | I was implicitly referring to this exchange:
               | 
               | > > This is provably untrue. > Both of you are correct,
               | you're just looking at probabilities conditioned in the
               | opposite way.
               | 
               | Which you neglected to incorporate into your mental model
               | of this topic.
        
               | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
               | Let's be extra clear: what exactly is your argument?
        
               | Karrot_Kream wrote:
               | > Even being as charitable as I can, it just seems that
               | you don't like the data because it doesn't fit your
               | narrative.
               | 
               | And you seem to like the data because it does. You are
               | right, I don't trust reported numbers of trans people
               | hate crimes, because I'm not aware of any unified
               | reporting standards around trans hate crimes (in general
               | I don't trust reported numbers on newly reported hate
               | crimes, especially when advocacy groups are doing most of
               | the reporting; it means the issue is poorly understood
               | (so badly reported) and highly politicized). I have a
               | pretty large prior here that I believe trans hate crimes
               | are underreported, much like I have a prior that sexual
               | violence is underreported, due to the nature of these
               | instances. Moreover, numbers this low have large
               | uncertainty bands, just using basic frequentist or
               | Bayesian probability methods, enough that I doubt we can
               | even come to much of a conclusion over our topic of
               | discussion. I think we'll have to agree to disagree, and
               | please stop downvoting me. I felt like our discussion was
               | productive.
        
               | dvt wrote:
               | > And you seem to like the data because it does.
               | 
               | I don't have a narrative. I look at the data and draw
               | conclusions. You start with conclusions and try to morph
               | the data to fit them. I'll even grant you that sexual
               | crimes go underreported (heck, have _43%_ to bring up
               | that number up), but even so, it wouldn 't account for a
               | "disproportionate" number of crime against trans people.
               | It would barely _equal_ the rate of the general
               | population. You 're seriously trying to argue that trans
               | crimes are underreported by _multiple factors_? That 's
               | quite the claim.
               | 
               | > I think we'll have to agree to disagree, and please
               | stop downvoting me.
               | 
               | FYI, you can't downvote direct children on HN.
        
               | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
               | > It would barely equal the rate of the general
               | population.
               | 
               | You are generalizing from the specific, here. The data
               | that you appear to be referencing is only looking at
               | murder rates.
               | 
               | You've then set up a straw-man argument. The straw is in
               | the data that you've not incorporated into your mental
               | model: the rates of crimes other than murder.
        
               | dvt wrote:
               | Yeah, I used murder rates specifically for three reasons:
               | (1) they are often cited in news articles, including my
               | citation above; (2) they are the easiest to compare side-
               | by-site in an apples-to-apples comparison (gen pop vs
               | population X or population Y); and (3) murder rates tend
               | to be a good indicator of other, proximate, criminal
               | activity (be it sexual assault, physical assault, etc.).
        
               | Karrot_Kream wrote:
               | If you'd prefer working with the data we have presented,
               | take a look at https://ucr.fbi.gov/hate-
               | crime/2019/tables/table-1.xls . Other than racially
               | motivated hate crimes which comprise most FBI recognized
               | hate crimes, the next most is religious hate crime, below
               | which is sexual orientation motivated hate crimes. And
               | sexual orientation motivated hate crimes rank very
               | similarly to religiously motivated hate crimes. In other
               | words, sexual orientation oriented hate crimes are the
               | 3rd most frequent, and very close in # to religiously
               | motivated hate crimes, the 2nd most frequent hate crime.
               | 
               | Specifically with anti-gender-identity based hate crime,
               | we can see that anti-transgender hate crime has one of
               | the highest incident numbers for any individual cohort,
               | despite knowing that only 0.6% of the population
               | identifies as trans according to data presented earlier
               | in this thread.
        
               | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
               | > I felt like our discussion was productive.
               | 
               | Possibly violating HN site guidelines here, but I wanted
               | to add a civilly-toned comment to thank you for
               | illuminating one area where our mental models had
               | diverged on this topic.
        
         | btilly wrote:
         | That is hard to say.
         | 
         | In a world full of discrimination against trans folks, who
         | knows how many people who would prefer being trans have failed
         | to be identified?
         | 
         | But the topic is much bigger than that. You see, the ideology
         | being pushed says that everyone who has gender dysphoria should
         | be assumed to be trans. But a LOT of teenagers, particularly
         | girls, go through a period of gender dysphoria when they hit
         | puberty. What little research exists on the topic says that
         | most of those girls will grow out of their gender dysphoria,
         | and well-meaning attempts at gender reassignment surgery for
         | them will backfire. However said research is highly
         | controversial exactly because it undermines the politically
         | correct ideology that we should take seriously all claims that
         | physical appearance is less important than chosen gender.
         | 
         | And THAT is the real problem. I don't have statistics. But
         | anecdotally I have a 12 year old with gender dysphoria. Many of
         | their friends have the same. I personally know more children
         | claiming to be trans at present than I've known people who were
         | blind or missing a limb over my entire life.
         | 
         | A *LOT* of parents are in my boat. It is easy to find opposing
         | ideologies about how we should deal with our teenage children.
         | There is very little research. And people are so focused on
         | yelling at each other that nobody dares DO more research.
         | Because no matter what you find, you're going to get targeted
         | by someone.
        
           | crooked-v wrote:
           | > What little research exists on the topic says that most of
           | those girls will grow out of their gender dysphoria, and
           | well-meaning attempts at gender reassignment surgery for them
           | will backfire.
           | 
           | Except... people don't perform gender reassignment surgery on
           | children just going through puberty.
        
           | heterodoxxed wrote:
           | | _gender reassignment surgery_
           | 
           | SRS/GRS is not recommended for pubescent children by anyone.
           | At that age only hormone blockers are on the table,
           | definitely not permanent surgery.
           | 
           |  _EDIT_
           | 
           | Posting a reference backing up my claim since I'm getting
           | downvoted:
           | 
           | https://www.politifact.com/factchecks/2021/mar/05/viral-
           | imag...
           | 
           | | _Professional organizations such as the Endocrine Society
           | recommend against puberty blockers for children who have not
           | reached puberty, and recommend that patients be at least 16
           | years old before beginning hormone treatments for
           | feminization or masculinization of the body. The last step in
           | transitioning to another gender, gender reassignment surgery,
           | is only available to those 18 and older in the United
           | States._
        
             | alisonkisk wrote:
             | Does anyone have evidence to challenge this claim of fact?
             | Otherswise it's useful information.
        
               | john-radio wrote:
               | No claim containing the string "is not recommended by
               | anyone" will hold up, since eventually it's easy enough
               | to find someone (probably a troll) who does recommend X
               | practice.
               | 
               | But the post that you're replying to, in general, holds
               | up. "Gender reassignment surgery is typically only
               | available to those 18 and older in the United States."
               | https://www.politifact.com/factchecks/2021/mar/05/viral-
               | imag...
        
               | btilly wrote:
               | Define "gender reassignment surgery", please.
               | 
               | Are we talking about a top operation, or a bottom one? Do
               | mastectomies count as gender reassignment, or only if
               | genitals are involved?
               | 
               | Because if you include top surgery, then
               | https://wng.org/roundups/state-mandates-payment-for-
               | children... says that where I live in California it is
               | legal, and insurance must pay for it.
        
               | heterodoxxed wrote:
               | | _grounded in facts and Biblical truth_
               | 
               | You're going to have to come up with a better source.
        
               | alisonkisk wrote:
               | Better source:
               | 
               | https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/article-
               | abst...
        
               | btilly wrote:
               | I paid little attention to what site that was on, just
               | looked for the content.
               | 
               | But it links to http://www.insurance.ca.gov/0250-insurers
               | /0300-insurers/0200... which is the actual decision
               | posted on an official California government website. It
               | confirms what I said.
        
               | geofft wrote:
               | > _I paid little attention to what site that was on, just
               | looked for the content._
               | 
               | Sometimes people lie on the internet.
               | 
               | And quite often, when they lie, they do so by omission or
               | by inaccurately summarizing facts.
               | 
               | In any case, the two points in this thread are in
               | agreement. Top surgery is "typically only available to
               | those 18 or older," as 'john-radio wrote. In atypical
               | cases, it is available to those under 18, and it requires
               | a doctor to a) decide that it's necessary and b)
               | consciously go against WPATH recommendations when doing
               | so. The legal opinion here is that an insurer may not
               | come up with a rule that says that doctors may _never_
               | decide that it 's the right thing to do for a particular
               | patient, because that's a decision a doctor is allowed to
               | make.
        
               | heterodoxxed wrote:
               | | _The WPATH standards of care also state, however, that
               | male chest reconstruction surgery for female-to-male
               | patients "could be carried out earlier" than the age of
               | majority in certain cases, and ultimately should be
               | considered on a case-by-case basis "depending on an
               | adolescent's specific clinical situation and goals for
               | gender identity expression."_
               | 
               | What do you think that specific clinical situation was in
               | those situations?
        
               | alisonkisk wrote:
               | "typically" is bearing a lot of load there, and GRS is a
               | broad term.
               | 
               | Double mastectomy is practiced, at least:
               | 
               | https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/article-
               | abst...
        
               | heterodoxxed wrote:
               | Mastectomies are performed for non-gender-related
               | reasons, such as prophylactic mastectomies, so it's
               | arguable whether that falls under the definition of
               | SRS/GRS. For any reason, it is exceedingly, vanishingly
               | rare in children.
               | 
               | It seems like an oddly small number to obsess over,
               | especially considering over 8,000 non-trans teenagers
               | between 13 and 19 receive breast augmentations each year.
               | 
               | From your link:
               | 
               | | _the mean (SD) age was 19 (2.5) years for postsurgical
               | participants and 17 (2.5) years for nonsurgical
               | participants_
               | 
               | Surgical patients would be the ones who are in the most
               | danger of suicide or self-harm or for whom nonsurgical
               | (hormone) treatment is not an option.
               | 
               | Also,
               | 
               | | _Self-reported regret was near 0._
               | 
               | Here is the document that the report refers to as the
               | standard for care for transgender patients:
               | 
               | https://s3.amazonaws.com/amo_hub_content/Association140/f
               | ile...
               | 
               | You'll want to look at Section VI: . Assessment and
               | Treatment of Children and Adolescents with Gender
               | Dysphoria.
        
               | heterodoxxed wrote:
               | That seems unnecessarily pedantic, since obviously it
               | should be assumed to mean "not recommended by anyone _who
               | matters_ ", but I've upvoted you for providing the
               | source.
               | 
               | I was editing my comment with that exact link when you
               | posted.
        
           | mkr-hn wrote:
           | >> _" and well-meaning attempts at gender reassignment
           | surgery for them"_
           | 
           | This isn't actually a thing. Certain factions who would
           | prefer trans people cease to exist push this idea that kids
           | are on this hot new meme of getting their bits flipped before
           | reaching the age of consent, but it is simply not a thing. No
           | top surgery, either.
           | 
           | It just isn't a thing. It's a wild fantasy. The only thing
           | kids can go on are puberty blockers. These are well-tested
           | and their effects known and understood through their use for
           | other medical concerns.
        
             | seany wrote:
             | This is just false. I personally know people in the states
             | that make it false, and other evidence is very easily
             | accessible.
        
             | Tomte wrote:
             | We've just had a barely unsuccessful attempt (the social
             | democrats were in favor, but didn't want to end their
             | coalition with the christian democrats) of legislation in
             | Germany which included allowing gender reassignment surgery
             | without parental consent from the age of 14.
             | 
             | After psychological counselling, not just on a child's
             | whim, but still.
             | 
             | We've had exactly your point in the public discourse:
             | "that's FUD, no surgery for minors is planned", but the
             | wording in the draft law was clear, and proponents were
             | unwilling to get rid of it, even though it would have made
             | the law's passage much, much more likely.
        
               | mkr-hn wrote:
               | Sometimes people push bills like this to make their
               | opponents look like fools, though maybe that's not as
               | common in the EU. Movements are infiltrated all the time.
               | I don't know the details of that bill (much less the name
               | or backers), so I can't really comment.
               | 
               | What I do know is there's tons more bills trying
               | (sometimes successfully) to block consenting adults and
               | older kids with parental permission from even basic stuff
               | like counseling or blockers. That seems way more
               | dangerous than the fraction of a percent of kids who
               | change their mind later being able to go through with a
               | transition they'll regret.
        
             | zozbot234 wrote:
             | Note that there's comparatively little benefit to puberty
             | blockers in F2M cases, because other than the obvious case
             | of breasts, most _secondary_ sex characteristics, even post
             | puberty, can be radically altered by taking male hormones.
             | So you get very little benefit, but the risk side is a lot
             | less clear. For the same reason, most F2M 's will be better
             | off delaying both hormonal and surgical transition until
             | well _after_ puberty and perhaps into middle-age, when
             | desistance rates do get very low.
             | 
             | The situation re: M2F is genuinely more challenging, and
             | one has to balance a variety of factors pushing for
             | earlier, not just later intervention.
             | 
             | > Certain factions who would prefer trans people cease to
             | exist
             | 
             | I don't think this is fair. When we're talking about people
             | this young, concerns about later desistance are very real.
             | Expressing such concerns is in no way equal to preferring
             | that these people "cease to exist".
        
               | alisonkisk wrote:
               | There are concerns about erroneous transitions. There
               | also substanctial factions who loudly proclaim their
               | preference that trans people (and homosexual) do not
               | exist, and openly justify their claims with centuries-old
               | supernatural myths.
        
             | btilly wrote:
             | Whether or not that is a thing depends on where you are.
             | 
             | The most common type of surgery is breast. In the USA,
             | double mastectomies on children are legal, and have been
             | performed on patients as young as 13. As for gender
             | dysphoria itself, according to some surveys the frequency
             | of teenage biological girls diagnosed with the disorder has
             | risen by a factor of 40 in recent years.
             | 
             | For sources on both of those facts, as well as more
             | background on this topic, I recommend
             | https://www.webmd.com/children/news/20210427/transition-
             | ther....
        
               | cedilla wrote:
               | Please note that that's an opinion article, not an
               | academic source.
               | 
               | It's borderline misleading to say that mastectomies
               | "happen", and then link it with an unrelated number for
               | diagnoses of gender dysphoria.
               | 
               | It's also misleading to represent the growth of a tiny
               | number relatively. A few dozen cases grew to a few
               | hundred. That's completely normal and what happens with
               | any novel diagnosis that was barely accepted even just 10
               | years ago.
        
               | pseudalopex wrote:
               | The article cited nothing for the former claim. An
               | unspecified survey for the latter.
               | 
               | It seemed to imply the 40x increase was in rapid onset
               | gender dysphoria. But ROGD isn't a recognized diagnosis
               | even now. Never mind 2006. A single researcher published
               | a single paper proposing it in 2018. They relied on the
               | assumption teenagers tell their parents everything. And
               | they selected for parents who refused to accept their
               | children coming out as trans.[1]
               | 
               | The article also claimed 100% of a small study population
               | proceeding to transition after puberty blockers
               | contradicts the claim puberty blockers give children more
               | time to decide before transitioning. But doctors don't
               | hand out puberty blockers randomly of course.
               | 
               | [1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pnc_KvWkiHw&t=3324s
        
               | cwkoss wrote:
               | Are the majority of child double mastectomies done for
               | gender affirmation reasons?
               | 
               | I knew several women in college who had the procedure
               | done before college to avoid familial cancer risk or back
               | problems.
        
             | rkk3 wrote:
             | >> and well-meaning attempts at gender reassignment surgery
             | for them will backfire
             | 
             | > The only thing kids can go on are puberty blockers.
             | 
             | So instead of specifying gender reassignment surgery, they
             | should have something more broad, like well-meaning medical
             | interventions. It seems like the heart of their statement
             | is true and that these medical interventions on children
             | can backfire.
        
           | makeworld wrote:
           | > But a LOT of teenagers, particularly girls, go through a
           | period of gender dysphoria when they hit puberty. What little
           | research exists on the topic says that most of those girls
           | will grow out of their gender dysphoria, and well-meaning
           | attempts at gender reassignment surgery for them will
           | backfire.
           | 
           | Could you link to this research? This is a fraught topic that
           | includes fraudulent studies and claims like this mean little
           | without links.
        
             | handrous wrote:
             | I can only pile on with anecdotal evidence from what my
             | spouse has seen, working in middle schools: yeah, like half
             | of kids who ask to start going by an opposite-gender name,
             | ask to be addressed by different pronouns, start dressing
             | differently, et c., in middle school end up changing their
             | minds before they reach high school, and it is often girls.
             | 
             |  _From what I have heard_ this does not, however, lead me
             | to believe there 's an epidemic of kids receiving medical
             | intervention in support of this, who don't "really mean
             | it". As best I can tell it just means puberty is weird and
             | confusing sometimes, but that usually resolves itself (at
             | least, more or less) after a bit, which should surprise no-
             | one. I doubt many cases that are _merely_ confusion or
             | uncertainty or  "experimenting" or whatever, reach the
             | point of even having a _conversation_ with a doctor about
             | it. I could be wrong about that, but nothing I 've heard
             | has me worried about The Children. Suicide rates do, but
             | not that.
        
           | dukeofdoom wrote:
           | I once read an anti corporate critique of this phenomenon.
           | The argument went something like this:
           | 
           | Once female beauty was commoditized, and you could literally
           | purchase an upgrade to parts you were born with. Entire
           | cosmetic and plastic surgery industry benefited from
           | marketing and promoting this model. The unforeseen
           | consequence was that men started fetishizing these upgrades
           | themselves.
           | 
           | As some men hyper focus on female body parts anyway. It was a
           | way to exploit psychological tendencies for profit.
           | 
           | I guess the counter remedy would be to promote female beauty
           | as the whole, and not some collection of body parts.
        
           | jolux wrote:
           | > What little research exists on the topic says that most of
           | those girls will grow out of their gender dysphoria, and
           | well-meaning attempts at gender reassignment surgery for them
           | will backfire.
           | 
           | This is frequently claimed but is untrue, or at the very
           | least highly uncertain. The studies most often referenced
           | have serious methodological errors, including inconsistent
           | definitions of dysphoria (owing partially to problems with
           | the Gender Identity Disorder diagnostic criteria in the DSM-
           | IV that have since been fixed with the DSM-5) and desistance
           | (in some cases counting anyone who didn't follow up with the
           | clinic conducting the research as having desisted)
           | https://www.gdaworkinggroup.com/desistance-articles-and-
           | crit...
           | 
           | Julia Serano has also written extensively on this topic with
           | much depth and nuance, at least in my opinion:
           | https://juliaserano.medium.com/detransition-desistance-
           | and-d...
        
             | btilly wrote:
             | I made a claim about ideology. You made a claim about
             | medical professionals. That is not particularly relevant to
             | what I claimed.
             | 
             | I stand by my claim. The online echo chambers that
             | children, including my own, seek out very much push the
             | ideology that any claim to be male, female, non-binary or
             | whatever must be accepted at face value. And that the
             | person who is making the claim should have the right to any
             | treatment that they wish, up to and including surgery.
             | 
             | As for criticism of the research that exists, I agree that
             | it isn't very good. But then again, most research in the
             | social sciences isn't very good. See the Replication
             | Crisis. Or as we used to say, news at 11.
        
               | jolux wrote:
               | > You made a claim about medical professionals. That is
               | not particularly relevant to what I claimed.
               | 
               | I removed that part as I agree it wasn't relevant.
               | 
               | > As for criticism of the research that exists, I agree
               | that it isn't very good.
               | 
               | Unfortunately it's so poor that I judge it as being
               | insufficient to use to form an opinion on this issue.
               | It's much worse than the replication crisis at large,
               | it's not clear that their methods prove what they claim
               | in the first place if you look at their work. The pages I
               | linked go into greater depth about why this is a
               | difficult question to study and what the existing
               | research gets wrong.
               | 
               | > The online echo chambers that children, including my
               | own, seek out very much push the ideology that any claim
               | to be male, female, non-binary or whatever must be
               | accepted at face value.
               | 
               | That's as may be, but I suggest you read the WPATH
               | standards of care if you're interested in what the
               | medical community in general thinks about the medical
               | treatment of trans people, including kids. It's a little
               | out of date (2012), but if you can't find a knowledgeable
               | medical professional nearby it's pretty much the gold
               | standard, and is very well supported by evidence:
               | https://www.wpath.org/publications/soc In particular,
               | adolescents seem much less likely to desist than younger
               | children.
        
               | scubbo wrote:
               | > any claim to be male, female, non-binary or whatever
               | must be accepted at face value. And that the person who
               | is making the claim should have the right to any
               | treatment that they wish, up to and including surgery.
               | 
               | I can understand some caution around the latter part of
               | this quote, given how traumatic, invasive, and costly
               | surgery can be. It is a defensible and reasonable
               | position that there should be _some_ barrier-to-entry to
               | such major decisions (especially for children), even
               | while there's also a simultaneous reasonable concern that
               | such barriers will be used to prevent access to folks who
               | genuinely do need, want, and would benefit from it.
               | 
               | But how can anyone _possibly_ deny the first part? How
               | could anyone contradict an individual who states their
               | own gender - on what grounds can you claim to know how
               | someone feels about themselves better than they themself
               | do? Even the position of "they are confused" or "this is
               | a phase that will pass" or "they have been pressured into
               | that belief" doesn't hold water - until that phase
               | passes, that person's gender, their self-image, _is_
               | whatever that phase dictates. That doesn't make the
               | current situation any less true. If you told someone "I
               | like broccoli" and they responded "that's just a phase,
               | you'll grow out of liking broccoli soon", your response
               | would, presumably be "...so? I like broccoli _now_, what
               | does your guess about the future have anything to do with
               | it?"
               | 
               | Does your position on "accepting gender at face value"
               | change if the statement "I am male" is replaced with "I
               | see myself as male"? Are you more comfortable accepting
               | the fact that someone's self-image can change over time,
               | rather than imagining that gender is some abstract
               | immutable inherent property?
        
               | pchristensen wrote:
               | The concepts of "man" and "woman" are already doing a lot
               | of work in language, society, law, etc. Redefining those
               | terms would cause/is causing a lot of upheaval.
               | 
               | Think of the concepts of "citizen", "resident",
               | "immigrant", "ex-pat", "DREAMer", etc - all terms related
               | to where someone lives and what set of laws applies to
               | them. Regardless of how the person feels, the label isn't
               | just for their own sake. Someone can be a citizen and an
               | immigrant if they are naturalized, saying someone is a
               | resident implies (but not definitely) that they are not a
               | citizen, ex-pats are assumed to be temporarily in the
               | place where they reside.
               | 
               | Labelling trans women as women is a lossy translation
               | that ignores a lot of societal edge cases.
        
               | apocolyps6 wrote:
               | Do you think that "labeling" black women as women is
               | similarly lossy? Or female cancer survivors to pick
               | another example
        
               | pchristensen wrote:
               | I think for those two examples you listed, the modifier
               | is orthogonal. While "black" or "cancer survivor" tell me
               | more about them as a person, they don't help understand
               | gender/sex. Gender and sex, or the residency words I
               | listed, provide different information about the same
               | attribute.
               | 
               | Saying someone is a cancer surviving resident doesn't add
               | anything to my knowledge of their medical history or
               | which laws apply to them, but resident vs ex-pat tells me
               | a lot.
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | jhrmnn wrote:
               | I think your last paragraph hints at the root cause. Many
               | people simply have a trouble seeing gender purely as
               | self-image since it has originated from sex, which is
               | objective. And this development is quite recent.
        
               | meetups323 wrote:
               | The point is clearly that we should discourage folks from
               | undertaking any permanent life alterations while they're
               | still in the "it could be just a phase" stage. To use
               | your analogy, we're dissuading the person from tattooing
               | "I hate broccoli" on them until they've reached age 18 or
               | whatever. Nobody is saying we should deny them their
               | self-image outright.
        
               | noduerme wrote:
               | Sure, you are what you are __now__, but as a teenager
               | that is going through radical changes. That's why you
               | can't even get a tattoo in the US until you turn 18. In
               | some states, not even with parental permission. Because
               | it's irreversible. The whole trouble with reassignment
               | surgery for minors is precisely due to the fact that who
               | they are today is not who they will be as adults. Of
               | course people should be treated as they want to be
               | treated __now__, but society recognizes that adolescents
               | are not capable of seeing far enough ahead to adulthood
               | to be entrusted with making certain kinds of permanent,
               | life-altering decisions.
               | 
               | There's no debate I'm aware of about lowering the age for
               | getting a tattoo, or drinking, or acting in porn, or
               | other things which are fine for adults, but which we
               | don't permit 12 year olds to do.
        
               | btilly wrote:
               | _But how can anyone _possibly_ deny the first part? How
               | could anyone contradict an individual who states their
               | own gender - on what grounds can you claim to know how
               | someone feels about themselves better than they themself
               | do?_
               | 
               | How do you define denying the first part?
               | 
               | According to my child's world view, I need to ask them
               | every day what their pronouns are today. And any
               | accidental slip-ups on any adult's part are a
               | demonstration of transphobia, which justifies a raised
               | voice and lecture.
               | 
               | While I'm perfectly OK with making an attempt to treat
               | people as they wish to be treated, at what point does the
               | inconvenience and stress that your constant demands make
               | on others become an unreasonable ask of them? (Which is a
               | question that every parent of teenagers winds up asking
               | at some point, for some reason...)
        
               | jolux wrote:
               | > According to my child's world view, I need to ask them
               | every day what their pronouns are today. And any
               | accidental slip-ups on any adult's part are a
               | demonstration of transphobia, which justifies a raised
               | voice and lecture.
               | 
               | I agree that their request is unreasonable, and I'm sorry
               | for the stress it's causing you. I can't really justify
               | their behavior on a rational basis (teens, right?). And
               | obviously I don't know your child, and I don't know you,
               | but as a trans person who went through a similar phase,
               | maybe consider what they might be thinking if you want to
               | understand why they might be behaving like this?
               | 
               | For one thing, they almost certainly know your opinions
               | about the persistence of trans identity and online echo
               | chambers of gender identity. _If_ (real if) you 're
               | hostile to the idea that they could really be trans, it's
               | possible they feel hostile to the idea that you could
               | really be making a good faith best effort to support
               | them, which is what this sounds like to me:
               | defensiveness. I had a very similar dynamic with my
               | parents for several years. We came out of it
               | understanding each other a lot better, but it was
               | certainly rough in the thick of it. I really hope you can
               | find a way to resolve the tension.
        
               | samat wrote:
               | Really sorry about the stress of raising a teenager!
        
               | ithkuil wrote:
               | Teenager brains have a outstanding circuitry designed at
               | discovering what infuriates their parents (and the
               | generation of their parents) and just hammer on it,
               | whatever that thing is.
        
               | mkr-hn wrote:
               | Teenagers: nature's pen testers.
        
               | parineum wrote:
               | I was going to say, having been a teenager, this sounds
               | an awful lot like the kind of thing I'd pull. Not exactly
               | to make my parents upset but them being upset was an
               | indication of success. I honestly don't know what my real
               | end goals were but I'm sure it's at least partially
               | understood by professionals.
        
               | fxtentacle wrote:
               | My <2 year old can already convincingly fake an accident
               | if he believes that doing so will lead to tasty food.
               | 
               | I can imagine thousands of reasons why teenagers would
               | lie, and maybe they'll come up with new pronouns just to
               | annoy you. Because that's what kids do, they constantly
               | test the limits of acceptable behavior and the limits of
               | your patience.
               | 
               | That said, I agree with you that people can choose what
               | gender they feel like and others should accept it as an
               | opinion. But trying to force others to change their
               | behavior to accommodate your opinion very quickly becomes
               | unreasonable.
               | 
               | So gender is fine, but pronouns are already a slippery
               | slope.
               | 
               | Do you believe a horny teenage guy would be willing to
               | lie and say he identifies as female, if that means he
               | gets to see all of his female classmates naked?
               | 
               | It's a tradeoff between people living out their believes
               | and the inconvenience that this causes for others.
        
               | Wowfunhappy wrote:
               | > Do you believe a horny teenage guy would be willing to
               | lie and say he identifies as female, if that means he
               | gets to see all of his female classmates naked?
               | 
               | No, I don't. Living out that type of switch for any
               | length of time is an enormous investment, which will
               | change the way your peers view you forever. It is
               | worthwhile if you're actually trans, but anyone else
               | would be so much better off just browsing the internet.
               | 
               | That said, I also think single-gender spaces are in need
               | of an re-think. Same-sex locker rooms inherently assume
               | that people of the same gender won't be attracted to one
               | another, which is simply not the case. So what's the
               | point?
        
               | grips wrote:
               | > Same-sex locker rooms inherently assume that people of
               | the same gender won't be attracted to one another, which
               | is simply not the case. So what's the point?
               | 
               | Same sex locker rooms don't only assume people of same
               | gender are not attracted to each other, but also that
               | women are disproportionally exposed to potential sexual
               | abuse from men than the other way around. Protecting
               | women from men specifically is very central to the idea.
        
               | exporectomy wrote:
               | > How could anyone contradict an individual who states
               | their own gender - on what grounds can you claim to know
               | how someone feels about themselves better than they
               | themself do?
               | 
               | Because people lie about themselves all the time.
               | Especially teenagers. We don't take every claim made by
               | teenagers about their feeling as true on face value. We
               | know they're practicing how to deceive people as part of
               | growing up.
        
               | SpicyLemonZest wrote:
               | > But how can anyone _possibly_ deny the first part? How
               | could anyone contradict an individual who states their
               | own gender - on what grounds can you claim to know how
               | someone feels about themselves better than they themself
               | do?
               | 
               | A lot of us remember similar mistakes from their own
               | teenage years. I had a short phase where I thought I was
               | gay, because my classmates were starting to date girls
               | but I had a close guy friend and wasn't very interested
               | in girls. Then I looked it up, found some resources
               | clearly explaining that's not what being gay is, and
               | walked away more secure in my identity. If someone had
               | told me that I _couldn 't_ be wrong, because nobody knows
               | how I feel better than I do, I would probably have come
               | out and then been confused and insecure for years.
        
           | kaitai wrote:
           | Where is this ideology that "gender dysphoria = trans"
           | pushed? This is really bizarre -- could you give me some
           | references?
        
             | recursive wrote:
             | I wouldn't think of it as an ideology. I mean, maybe it is,
             | but it doesn't seem at all bizarre. I'm not really aware of
             | the details, but I'd be hard-pressed to name a difference
             | between the two. I don't (think I) have a position on the
             | issue.
        
             | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
             | There are competing ideologies between the United States
             | and the Rest of the World, essentially culminating in two
             | approaches of diagnosing psychological and psychiatric
             | health concerns.
             | 
             | One comes from the American Psychological Association,
             | called the DSM and another comes from the World Health
             | Organization called the ICD.
             | 
             | https://www.apa.org/monitor/2009/10/icd-dsm
        
           | brundolf wrote:
           | This is a wonderfully nuanced thread on the subject from a
           | trans woman in her thirties:
           | https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1385411504669790208.html
           | 
           | Edit: I just noticed the original poster already converted
           | this into a longform post, so the "reader app" version isn't
           | really necessary https://liminalwarmth.com/the-hard-thing-
           | about-hard-things-m...
        
             | zozbot234 wrote:
             | A 77-fold tweet storm, that has got to be some kind of
             | world record. It's surprising how much of it is just plain
             | old common sense that would never be seen as sensitive or
             | "political" in a halfway sane environment, stated in what
             | comes off as a painfully diplomatic way, going to extreme
             | lengths to not ruffle any feathers.
        
             | btilly wrote:
             | Thank you for posting it. Some definite food for thought.
        
             | fao_ wrote:
             | It's also important noting, semi-related to your post, that
             | nobody is pushing for trans-surgeries for teenagers -- they
             | are pushing for _puberty blockers_. What this means is that
             | puberty is medically halted until the teenager is a legal
             | age, when they will be able to decide which puberty they
             | want.
             | 
             | This avoids a lot of dysphoria-provoking secondary sexual
             | characteristics from progressing, and also avoids
             | accidentally "transing" a cisgender teenager.
             | 
             | Nobody hesitates to give puberty blockers to cisgender
             | teenagers, for other medical reasons. I knew a young girl
             | who had to have puberty blockers because she had a
             | precocious puberty and it was literally destroying her
             | young body -- she was not old enough physically or mentally
             | to be able to deal with it.
             | 
             | However, for whatever reason, there is a huge backlash
             | against giving it to transgender teenagers, despite it
             | representing the best and ultimate choice in self-
             | determination -- "Take these for a few years and then when
             | you are 18 you can decide which puberty you want to go
             | through". It leaves room for the individual to decide. If
             | the person decides against it before then, they can stop
             | and puberty immediately resumes as normal.
             | 
             | When the suicide rates are as high as they are for
             | transgender people, and there is the option of halting the
             | things _causing_ the suicidal feelings, the dysphoria, all
             | of the physical and emotional and societal _pain_. Halting
             | an onslaught of pain that is _utterly soul destroying_ ,
             | and just giving them more time to make a choice and more of
             | an informed decision, how can there be any empathically-
             | cogent argument against that?
        
               | bradleyjg wrote:
               | What, if any, are the permanent consequences of being on
               | puberty blockers from, say, 13-18?
               | 
               | I'd guess they'd be significant but that's just a guess.
        
         | pmoriarty wrote:
         | _" There are more blind people than trans people. There are
         | more people with Alzheimer's than trans people. There are more
         | people in the US who have lost a limb than trans people."_
         | 
         | There are more white people than black people in the US. More
         | Christian people than Jewish people. More able-bodied people
         | than disabled people. More descendants of immigrants than
         | Native Americans.
         | 
         | That's what makes all these people _minorities_.
        
         | matthewmacleod wrote:
         | I think there will be rather a lot of us who are quite animated
         | by this issue--one that doesn't directly affect us--because of
         | our own past experiences.
         | 
         | As a gay man growing up in the 90s, I very acutely remember
         | some of the public discourse around gay rights while I was a
         | teenager. In the UK, that specifically included a coordinated
         | campaign against mentions of homosexuality in education, with
         | some pretty stark attempts to smear gay men in particular as
         | dangerous predators and paedophiles intent on sneaking their
         | agenda into schools so that they could abuse children.
         | 
         | If I'm honest with you, I wouldn't be particularly animated
         | about trans rights myself (beyond being generally supportive)
         | if it weren't for the fact that I see exactly the same
         | techniques and accusations levelled against the trans community
         | --specifically trans women--as were used against people like
         | myself 20 years ago.
         | 
         | So I've personally gone from generally supportive-if-
         | disinterested, to being absolutely fucking furious that this is
         | being allowed to happen again. I've observed absolute outright
         | lies about a minority group being repeated by people in
         | positions of influence, and while it might not affect that many
         | people directly I am so absolutely disgusted by it that I fully
         | intend on being extremely vocal about it.
        
           | munk-a wrote:
           | Back in the nineties I remember scare campaigns about gay
           | schoolmates in locker rooms taking advantage of other
           | students - it is literally the same playbook.
        
         | plank_time wrote:
         | This is how the ruling class controls us peons. They have us
         | fight each other vociferously over things like this or abortion
         | or gay marriage, while they stay above it and do nothing except
         | minor moral victories.
         | 
         | The sad thing is that this works.
        
           | jfengel wrote:
           | It wouldn't work if we didn't subject ourselves to it. The
           | "ruling class" may be working to control us, but they don't
           | have to work very hard. They don't even make the lies
           | plausible. There are an awful lot of people willing to die on
           | the hill of the most astonishing idiocies, just because it's
           | their idiocy.
        
         | psychlops wrote:
         | Here's a chart I love showing how the news distorts based on
         | what people want to read (or what they are pushing) versus
         | reality:
         | 
         | https://ourworldindata.org/does-the-news-reflect-what-we-die...
         | 
         | I'm not sure how the world would be if proportional importance
         | news were the norm, but it's certainly not the case today.
        
       | throwaway284534 wrote:
       | There's a lot that's already been said in this topic but I feel
       | compelled to bring up the damage imposed by TERF talking points.
       | The conversation goes something like this: "Transgender women
       | possess an innate maleness that carries a non-zero threat to
       | female spaces." They believe that dictionary definitions of woman
       | are prescriptive, declared at the chromosomes during birth,
       | rather than descriptive, as in how one presents in both dress and
       | phenotype.
       | 
       | In my experience this is the center of every "debate." It's less
       | about the merits of the cause and more about convincing this
       | point against the hypothetical risk of a male who's taken
       | advantage of self identified gender. TERFs are generally not
       | interested in dynamics of trans men, who seem to be more like
       | "gender traitors" than their deceptive counterparts.
       | 
       | Personally I find this whole movement a farce. Every talking
       | point not only misaligns with trans women, it causes more harm to
       | cis women at scale. "Real women" give birth -- except hundreds of
       | thousands who cannot. "Real women" look like the contemporary
       | feminine ideal, yet 1 in 10 women suffer from PCOS enduring
       | testosterone levels higher than any trans woman has to contend
       | with. And the cake topper of them all, "trans women fuel negative
       | stereotypes of femininity," while simultaneously not appearing
       | feminine enough, often barred from HRT until after puberty. This
       | Goldilocks zone of womanhood is always out of reach, and
       | therefore transness is never acceptable.
       | 
       | - a trans woman
        
         | tabtab wrote:
         | CIS (as born) women may also have (traditional) male-like
         | traits. If you separate people by traits in prison, then why
         | separate based on trans-ness alone? For example, large women
         | are more likely to rape small women in prison simply because
         | they can. If you separate based on such risks, then separate
         | large women from small women also; why focus on _just_ trans?
         | 
         | Many prisons _already_ separate by ethnic group simply to keep
         | the peace. Yes, it 's segregation, but the alternative is more
         | prison riots.
         | 
         | Thus, if separation happens for practical reasons, then don't
         | limit the separation practices to one group; otherwise, you
         | will be accused of discrimination, perhaps justifiably. Use
         | statistics, not stereotypes, to find the split points.
         | 
         | Or get better security so mixing doesn't result in problems.
         | Lowest-bidder security has down-sides.
        
           | lovegoblin wrote:
           | > "Regular" women
           | 
           | The word you're looking for is "cis".
        
             | tabtab wrote:
             | I corrected it; however, keep in mind many readers don't
             | know that means.
        
               | mkl wrote:
               | It's not an acronym, it's a prefix, like "trans" but the
               | opposite.
        
             | teh_infallible wrote:
             | The world you're looking for is "real"
        
               | freemint wrote:
               | What you just said will understood as extremely hurtful
               | and a purposeful attack on trans people by (some) trans
               | people or trans advocates. Did you do that on purpose?
        
               | pumaontheprowl wrote:
               | It's the truth. Trans women are not real women as they do
               | not have the same DNA and cannot birth children (amongst
               | many other differences).
               | 
               | I may be offended when people talk negatively about my
               | under-performing sports team, but that doesn't give me a
               | right to delete their comments just because I perceive
               | them to be hurtful.
        
               | dang wrote:
               | Trolling will get you banned here. You've unfortunately
               | been doing this repeatedly lately. Please stop.
               | 
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
        
               | ta122347 wrote:
               | Its this sort of thing that backlash is all about. You
               | cant have an unapproved opinion or refuse to use their
               | terminology or authoritarians will silence you, label it
               | as trolling or hate speech etc. Real is absolutely the
               | simplest and best description. Trans and cis are poisoned
               | terms their use designed to support the legitimacy of the
               | identity. There is only real and fake.
        
               | lovegoblin wrote:
               | I assure you it is not.
        
             | josteink wrote:
             | "Real" and most people will know what you're talking about.
             | 
             | The only people using the term "cis" are trans-activists.
        
             | worik wrote:
             | I like the term "natal women/men".
        
         | AnimalMuppet wrote:
         | That seems to me a very uncharitable take on the TERF position.
         | For example, approximately 1/4 of women have been raped at some
         | time. It's not very hard to see that such women could have a
         | problem with someone who's biologically male in the women's
         | room - a serious, traumatic problem.
         | 
         | You can say that and still be sympathetic to the plight of
         | trans people.
        
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           | ENIanDEM wrote:
           | Sorry, I don't buy this concept that hordes of (or any, for
           | that matter) predatory trans women are queuing up for the
           | chance to prowl round changing rooms. Do you, really?
           | 
           | Say you're right. What stops them sneaking in right now? It's
           | not like there are mandatory ID checks at the entrance.
        
             | meragrin_ wrote:
             | > predatory trans women
             | 
             | How about predatory men pretending to be trans-women?
        
               | eropple wrote:
               | If you're going to hypothesize, doesn't it obligate you
               | to substantiate the claim?
               | 
               | Are predatory men pretending to be transwomen a problem
               | on any statistically noticeable level?
        
               | ENIanDEM wrote:
               | Can we please return to some semblance of reality?
        
               | throwaway384028 wrote:
               | In a thread related to women thinking they're men and men
               | thinking they're women
        
             | long_time_gone wrote:
             | This is what I don't understand. How many examples are
             | there of the horrible ills these bathroom bills will
             | "solve"? Trans people exist today, they use bathrooms,
             | where are the problems?
        
               | delecti wrote:
               | Virtually none. In fact trans people are vastly more
               | likely to be victims of the sorts of things that the
               | people pushing those policies argue those bills are meant
               | to prevent.
        
               | worik wrote:
               | Use the bathroom you are comfortable using.
               | 
               | Gendered bathrooms are a concrete expression of the fact
               | that it is gender that is the major fault line through
               | our society. The fact we need them is a damming
               | indictment on our society (on men probably)
        
             | thereddaikon wrote:
             | That's a strawman.
             | 
             | Without proof to the contrary the assumption should be that
             | the trans population has a similar proportion of rapists as
             | any other does.
             | 
             | Since its been well established that essentially all rape
             | no matter who is raping who goes under reported it is
             | completely rational for women to be just as fearful as they
             | would with any other stranger.
        
               | notahacker wrote:
               | The question isn't whether women should assume that a
               | transperson is less likely to rape them than any other
               | stranger. That's not what "bathroom bills" are about.
               | 
               | The question is whether bathroom bills forcing
               | transpeople who wish to not break the law (potential
               | rapists are obviously not part of this set...) into men's
               | bathrooms, and a surrounding climate of generalised
               | hostility towards anyone with any remotely masculine
               | element of their physique or style in women's bathrooms
               | actually meaningfully reduces the risk of rape, or just
               | makes the environment more intimidating for everyone.
        
               | ENIanDEM wrote:
               | It's literally in response to the posit that trans women
               | would rape strangers in changing rooms. I've tried to
               | make it as far from a strawman as possible by arguing
               | against even a single occurrence of that happening.
               | 
               | Cis women can perpetuate rape. Should we ban them from
               | changing rooms too? How far through the looking glass
               | does this have to go?!
        
               | worik wrote:
               | > That's a strawman.
               | 
               | It is a dessicated vegetative hominoid surely?
        
         | MyHypatia wrote:
         | I don't see how it is unreasonable for a female inmate to be
         | uncomfortable sharing sleeping quarters with a person who has a
         | penis (regardless of how that person identifies).
         | 
         | The fear that cis-women have of rape is real. The fear that
         | transgender women have of rape in a men's jail is real. I think
         | the fairest thing to do is take both of these fears seriously
         | and house intact trans-women in a space where they neither feel
         | threatened with rape, nor impose that threat on cis-women.
         | 
         | I think referring to this fear as a "TERF talking point" is as
         | disrespectful as it would be to minimize the fear that trans-
         | women experience in men's prisons.
        
           | tomp wrote:
           | Why would trans women have any greater fear of rape (by men)
           | than (smaller, weaker) men have?
        
             | mkl wrote:
             | There are a lot more straight male rapists than non-
             | straight male rapists, just because there are a lot more
             | straight people. Yes, there is also situational
             | homosexuality, but trans women change the situation.
        
             | fastball wrote:
             | I can't really speak to the psychology of rapists in
             | prisons, but I imagine there are a good number of people
             | that, if they're gonna rape someone with a penis anyway, it
             | is more enjoyable to rape the person that is presenting as
             | a woman.
             | 
             | Also because rape in prison is very much about power, and
             | exerting power over people you dislike for one reason or
             | another (in this case trans people because they are trans)
             | especially.
        
           | notahacker wrote:
           | Fear of rape or pressurised sex amongst prisoners is
           | perfectly real, but if a tiny minority of transpeople are a
           | distant third in terms of sexual threat to female prisoners
           | behind male warders and natal females and a campaign
           | organization proposes rehousing transpeople (all 125 of them)
           | in different prisons as their solution to prison rape over
           | better safeguarding practises or single occupant cells which
           | might offer many more women more protection from more
           | pervasive threats it sounds suspiciously more like a "talking
           | point" against the target group than a practical solution to
           | sexual violence in prisons. Especially if the campaign groups
           | responsible have long lists of other issues with transpeople,
           | and somehow the sexual activity involving people with penises
           | _and keys_ doesn 't get the same attention...
        
             | hackinthebochs wrote:
             | >but if a tiny minority of transpeople are a distant third
             | 
             | Here's the problem I have with this line of defense: it
             | doesn't accommodate the reality of self-id and the likely
             | downstream effects if it becomes the accepted norm. If all
             | it takes for a male to be housed in a female prison is a
             | checkmark on a form, we should expect that many cis-men
             | will take advantage of the situation, thus creating a very
             | real threat of abuse for women in women prisons. If I were
             | being locked up for an extended period of time and all it
             | took was a declaration to be housed in a female prison, I
             | would do it. I would go from one of the smaller and weaker
             | inmates to one of the biggest and strongest. It is a no-
             | brainer in terms of my personal safety. And I have no
             | interest in abusing anyone or taking advantage of forced-
             | proximity. Imagine how many abusers would take advantage of
             | that circumstance? An argument in defense of gender-
             | affirmation in prison assignments that doesn't accommodate
             | this likely reality isn't substantive.
        
             | worik wrote:
             | The prison debate is a red herring
             | 
             | People who run prisons are often sadists.
             | 
             | In double bunked men's prisons rapists get to ply their
             | trade. Get double bunked along with the rest.
        
             | MyHypatia wrote:
             | I think housing intact trans-women in single occupant cells
             | in women's prisons is a reasonable middle ground. The
             | trans-women are in a space that affirms their gender
             | identity, but it does not require cis-women to share a cell
             | with someone who can rape and impregnate them.
        
               | jolux wrote:
               | Cis women rape other cis women too, and not all trans
               | women can impregnate people.
        
               | MyHypatia wrote:
               | These are true statements. Cis-women can be raped and
               | impregnated by people with penises is also a true
               | statement. Perhaps the complete solution is to house all
               | in-mates in separate cells regardless of sex or gender. I
               | do not think that creating situations where female
               | prisoners can be sexually assaulted and impregnated by
               | their cell mate is a positive step forward.
        
               | jolux wrote:
               | > I do not think that creating situations where female
               | prisoners can be sexually assaulted and impregnated by
               | their cell mate is a positive step forward.
               | 
               | You keep combining impregnation and sexual assault as if
               | they're the same thing. Cis women are already sexually
               | assaulted by other cis women in prisons! This is not a
               | problem created anew by housing trans women in women's
               | prisons. I venture that the problem is not trans women,
               | the problem is the assumption that prisons cannot stop
               | inmates from sexually assaulting each other.
        
               | MyHypatia wrote:
               | Impregnation and sexual assault are obviously not the
               | same thing, and I am not combining them as if they are.
               | Housing cis-women and trans-women creates a unique
               | situation where cis-women can be sexually assaulted AND
               | impregnated. I don't dispute that cis-women can sexually
               | assault other cis-women, and that sexual assault is a
               | problem in men's prisons and women's prisons and exists
               | with or without the presence of trans men and women.
               | 
               | To completely stop sexual assault in prisons, people
               | would have to be housed in separate cells. Housing cis-
               | women and trans-women in the same cell does not stop the
               | sexual assault problem.
        
               | jolux wrote:
               | > I don't dispute that cis-women can sexually assault
               | other cis-women, and that sexual assault is a problem in
               | men's prisons and women's prisons and exists with or
               | without the presence of trans men and women.
               | 
               | In that case you're hard pressed to argue why housing
               | trans women in women's prisons exacerbates this issue,
               | unless you think trans women are more likely to be
               | rapists. Excluding an entire population on the basis that
               | some of them might rape people is not just if rape is
               | already a problem.
               | 
               | > To completely stop sexual assault in prisons, people
               | would have to be housed in separate cells.
               | 
               | I mostly agree, but it's very easy to construct a
               | solution to these problems while ignoring the present
               | reality. Almost no trans people are currently housed in
               | prisons that accord with their gender identity, and 35%
               | of trans people in prisons themselves report having been
               | sexually assaulted in the past year as of 2015 [1]. The
               | status quo is pretty dire for them too, and their safety
               | should be weighed against the safety of the cis people
               | they might otherwise be housed with.
               | 
               | https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/transgender-
               | women-ar...
        
               | MyHypatia wrote:
               | No, I don't think trans-women are more likely to be
               | rapists. Trans-women are at high risk of sexual assault
               | in male prisons and that should be taken seriously. Cis-
               | women are at risk of sexual assault and being impregnated
               | from that sexual assault if they are housed with intact
               | trans-women.
               | 
               | I think both of these concerns can be addressed. None of
               | the options address everyone's needs and preferences, but
               | are certainly better than leaving trans-women completely
               | vulnerable in men's prisons.
               | 
               | 1) House trans-women in a separate part of men's prisons
               | so that they are not at high risk of sexual assault. Some
               | people do not like this because it doesn't affirm their
               | gender identity.
               | 
               | 2) House trans-women in prisons for trans people. This is
               | likely unrealistic because the number of people is small
               | and for most inmates it would mean spending prison time
               | far away from their community, making it harder for
               | friends and family to visit.
               | 
               | 3) House trans-women in women's prisons, but not force
               | cis-women to share a cell with intact trans-women. This
               | scenario would remove the threat that trans-women face,
               | affirm their gender identity, but not impose an unfair
               | burden on cis-women who fear being sexually assaulted and
               | impregnated by intact trans-women.
               | 
               | I think scenario (3) goes most of the way in protecting
               | trans-women from sexual assault, allows them to serve
               | their sentences (hopefully not too far away from family),
               | yet still acknowledges that many cis-women in prison have
               | been sexually assaulted or fear sexual assault by people
               | with penises because it can result in pregnancy which
               | creates an entire new set of physical, psychological, and
               | moral challenges for that cis-woman.
        
               | jolux wrote:
               | Are you also in favor of enforcing that only cis women
               | are allowed to be correctional officers at women's
               | prisons, which is not currently the case?
        
               | fastball wrote:
               | Without any stats for transwomen in particular, human
               | males are more likely to be rapists, and an intact
               | transwoman is closer to a man than a ciswoman is, no?
               | Unless _you_ think that the reason men are more likely to
               | be rapists is purely a result of their gender identity
               | and has nothing to do with biology.
               | 
               | With regards to the danger of trans people being sexually
               | assaulted in prisons: yes, it is absolutely a problem.
               | MyHypatia literally made the same point you're making in
               | their original comment.
        
               | jolux wrote:
               | Side request: if it doesn't bother you too much I would
               | prefer you refer to trans women with penises as trans
               | women with penises rather than as "intact" trans women.
               | Such phrasing suggests that trans women without penises
               | are damaged.
               | 
               | > Without any stats for transwomen in particular, human
               | males are more likely to be rapists, and an intact
               | transwoman is closer to a man than a ciswoman is, no?
               | 
               | This argument is rather tangential. Is there any
               | empirical evidence that trans women are more likely to
               | sexually assault people than cis women? Is the median
               | trans woman more likely to sexually assault people than
               | cis women who have been convicted of sexual assault, or
               | who have already committed sexual assault in the prison?
               | 
               | > MyHypatia literally made the same point you're making
               | in their original comment.
               | 
               | Specifically, they said that putting trans women in
               | women's prisons would be imposing the threat of rape on
               | cis women. After I pointed out that cis women already
               | rape other cis women in women's prisons, they clarified
               | that it was actually impregnation they were really
               | worried about introducing, not rape as such. I don't
               | think my criticism of this concern has been addressed.
        
               | fastball wrote:
               | Sure, no problem. Though I would point out that "intact"
               | is also a word used to describe uncircumcised males,
               | without strictly implying that circumcised males are
               | damaged.
               | 
               | I don't think there are enough transwomen in prisons to
               | make any reasonable statistical statement about
               | transwomen in particular being more or less likely to be
               | rapists. And I don't really think the argument is
               | tangential. People with penises are more likely to be
               | rapists than people without them, this is a clear
               | statistical reality. If a large population of people are
               | being held together, historically because they did not
               | possess penises, and are worried about the introduction
               | of someone with a penis (who statistically is _much_ more
               | likely to be a rapist by nature of having a penis), I
               | think the burden is on you to demonstrate that gender
               | identity is a confounding factor in those statistics. And
               | if there _isn 't_ a difference between having a penis and
               | not having one in this circumstance, why do we even need
               | to have gendered prisons?
               | 
               | With regards to MyHypatia, I was referring to the fact
               | that, in the second half of your comment to which I
               | initially replied, it seemed like you felt MyHypatia did
               | not recognize the direness of the trans situation in
               | prisons. But they clearly do, as evidenced by this from
               | their first comment:
               | 
               | > The fear that transgender women have of rape in a men's
               | jail is real
        
               | jolux wrote:
               | > Though I would point out that "intact" is also a word
               | used to describe uncircumcised males, without strictly
               | implying that circumcised males are damaged.
               | 
               | It may be used to describe their foreskin, but I've never
               | heard or seen it used to describe them as whole people.
               | It sounds very odd. What is the negation of intact? You
               | can't really use a word to describe a category
               | exclusively without implying the opposite of the other
               | category.
               | 
               | > People with penises are more likely to be rapists than
               | people without them, this is a clear statistical reality.
               | 
               | I don't think you can argue this is a clear statistical
               | reality without data about trans women. As far as I know
               | contemporary research suggests sexual assault by women
               | has been historically undercounted. I don't know if the
               | numbers come out similar in the end, but it seems like
               | the kind of thing that is easily colored by social bias.
               | 
               | > If a large population of people are being held
               | together, historically because they did not possess
               | penises
               | 
               | Is it because they didn't have penises? Or because they
               | weren't men? I don't know of any specific information,
               | but this is an important distinction, because the general
               | perception for a long time has been that men are more
               | violent than women, and I think it's more because of male
               | secondary sexual characteristics (muscle tone and height,
               | mainly) than primary. Would a burly intersex person with
               | high testosterone and ambiguous genitalia who sexually
               | assaulted somebody have been put in a women's prison?
               | Should they be today?
               | 
               | > And if there isn't a difference between having a penis
               | and not having one in this circumstance, why do we even
               | need to have gendered prisons?
               | 
               | I don't know, but I do think it's worth asking the
               | question! Do we segregate people by gender because it's
               | fundamentally necessary, or because our prison system is
               | so brutal that we can't imagine inmates of different
               | genders living together peacefully? There could very well
               | be science on this subject that I'm not aware of, but on
               | its face the sexual segregation of American prisons seems
               | hard to separate from their brutality and corruption.
        
               | eropple wrote:
               | I think your posts in this thread are downright
               | admirable, and for that reason, in case you're not aware
               | (and if you are, readers probably aren't)--it is probably
               | worth noting that "intact" is common TERF watchwording,
               | pushed and intended to normalize the position that trans
               | women are not women.
        
           | throwawayboise wrote:
           | You would have to place them in solitary confinement then, as
           | a trans woman could rape another trans woman.
        
             | baldanders wrote:
             | By that line of reasoning every inmate should be held in
             | solitary confinement by virtue of the fact that rape is
             | possible between every possible pair of gender identities.
        
             | MyHypatia wrote:
             | No, you don't have to place them in solitary confinement.
             | You can place them with other trans-women.
             | 
             | Men are housed with men in jails. Yes, sometimes they
             | commit violence against each other, including rape. But we
             | don't put all men in solitary confinement.
        
               | Latty wrote:
               | This begs the question of why it is acceptable for men
               | and trans women to be raped, but unacceptable for cis
               | women to be raped?
               | 
               | There is no justification for accepting _any_ prison rape
               | --or, for that matter, sexual assault, which cis women
               | are entirely capable of.
               | 
               | (And, to be clear, sexual assault is not inherently a
               | lesser crime than rape, rape is just a specific form of
               | sexual assault, and depending on jurisdiction, may be
               | defined in such a way as a cis woman can be a rapist).
        
               | MyHypatia wrote:
               | It is not acceptable for men nor trans-women nor cis-
               | women nor anyone to be raped in prison. My comment does
               | not condone rape. If you think that all men and all
               | trans-women should have separate cells to prevent this
               | possibility, I think that could be a positive step
               | forward. I do not think that subjecting cis-women to the
               | fear of rape is a positive step forward.
        
               | Latty wrote:
               | Then why did you present it as a zero-sum game where you
               | were quite willing to suggest putting trans-women into a
               | situation you find unconscionable for cis-women?
               | 
               | You have thoroughly proved the original poster's point:
               | TERF talking points are damaging. You bought one up,
               | defending it as "reasonable", but when pressed you accept
               | that there is a preferable solution that doesn't involve
               | throwing trans people under the bus.
               | 
               | The talking point is there to push a narrative that trans
               | people are dangerous, just as was done with gay people
               | before. It is designed to imply that we must choose
               | between women's rights and trans people's rights, which
               | is a false dichotomy.
        
               | nepeckman wrote:
               | There is no evidence that trans women are more a threat
               | to cis women than cis women are to each other. If a cis
               | women is afraid of being assaulted by a trans women, that
               | is a fear rooted in bigotry, not reality. If the
               | individual in question is a convicted rapist, than
               | precautions should be taken regardless of that persons
               | genitals or gender to make sure they dont assault anyone
               | else. Prison rape is horrific and needs to be addressed,
               | and concern trolling about trans women doesnt help anyone
               | and does hurt public perception of trans women.
        
               | rmah wrote:
               | It turns out there is evidence...
               | 
               | plank_time wrote: _In the UK prisons, transgender women
               | sexually assault women 5x more than cis women sexually
               | assault women.https://archive.is/iYD5T_
               | 
               | Haven't dug into it to see how strong that evidence is,
               | but to say none seems incorrect.
        
               | nepeckman wrote:
               | It is actually incorrect, I just responded to that
               | comment. See below:
               | 
               | If you read the article you linked, you will find that is
               | not true. From the article: "between 2016 and 2020, there
               | were seven sexual assaults against females in women's
               | prisons by trans women." 7 assaults in 4 years is not 5x
               | more.
               | 
               | If you are referring to the statistic that "trans inmates
               | are 1% of the population and commit 5.6% of the
               | assaults", you will find that the trans inmates in
               | question are actually trans men being incorrectly housed
               | in women's prisons.
        
               | rmah wrote:
               | I see, thanks for the clarification
        
               | MyHypatia wrote:
               | The fear of being impregnated from a sexual assault is
               | not rooted in bigotry. It places cis-women in a very
               | uncomfortable position of having to birth and raise a
               | child created from sexual assault or have an abortion.
               | This is not concern trolling. It is a very real fear.
               | Prison rape is horrific for everyone, not just cis-women.
               | It is horrific for men and trans-men and trans-women as
               | well. Housing cis-women with intact trans-women does not
               | solve or address the prison rape problem.
        
               | nepeckman wrote:
               | > It places cis-women in a very uncomfortable position of
               | having to birth and raise a child created from sexual
               | assault or have an abortion.
               | 
               | I want to be very clear: I do not want this to happen. I
               | don't want any woman to be raped, especially not
               | impregnated as well. But my point still stands: this does
               | not happen on any sort of regular basis. I do not think
               | you're arguing in bad faith here, and I hope you see that
               | I'm not either. Segregating trans women from cis women
               | does nothing to protect cis women. Implementing this
               | segregation across the prison system would not impact the
               | occurrence of prison rape by half a percent. But by
               | insisting that trans women are a threat to cis women, you
               | are hurting trans women. You are playing into and
               | amplifying a very popular narrative in our society that
               | trans women are deceptive, dangerous predators. And this
               | leads to legislation that harms the whole trans
               | community.
        
             | Latty wrote:
             | Even beyond that, a cis woman can sexually assault another
             | woman (Rape has different definitions depending on where
             | you are, but clearly the distinction is irrelevant--sexual
             | assault isn't inherently of a different impact, just
             | different exact actions).
             | 
             | It's the exact same argument that was used as justification
             | to try and criminalise homosexuality, that they would all
             | be assaulting people in bathrooms, changing rooms, and
             | prisons.
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | Trans people are way more likely to be raped then non trans.
           | And cis women do get attacked by trans men. Like, if your
           | concern is prison rape, it is quite odd to start with lowest
           | probability events and ignore high probability events.
        
             | MyHypatia wrote:
             | My comment was in response to the parent comment referring
             | to cis-women's concerns as "TERF talking points". I am
             | saying that cis-women's concerns shouldn't be invalidated,
             | and that we can figure out a path forward that acknowledges
             | the threat that trans-women may face in men's prisons and
             | also acknowledge the threat that cis-women may face being
             | cell mates with a person who has a penis.
             | 
             | Basically, I think that sexual assault in prisons should be
             | taken far more seriously for everyone. That may mean every
             | prisoner should get their own cell regardless of sex or
             | gender. I don't think housing cis-women and intact trans-
             | women in the same cell alleviates this.
        
               | watwut wrote:
               | I am cis woman. I happened to look at prisom rape and
               | sexual violence statistics a while ago.
               | 
               | The trans men in jail abusing cis women is real thing.
               | They are housed together now. The trans women being raped
               | or abused is incredibly frequent thing - includig by
               | guards. (Male on male rape is a joke, basically.
               | Transwomen in prison are assumed to enjoy sexual abuse
               | basically.)
               | 
               | But despite the former being literally about cis women
               | safety too, it just dont interest people. There are many
               | ways to make prisons safer and making it so trans women
               | or gender non conforming men are a bit safer is topic
               | only for radical trans activists and no one else.
               | 
               | If there is heated discussion about issue that dont
               | currently exist which ignores issues that do cureently
               | exist, it is ok to call it talking point.
        
           | throwaway675309 wrote:
           | Additionally if you only have to vocally identify as a woman
           | without having to take any further steps (Hormone
           | replacement, srs, etc) this seems exploitable.
        
             | freemint wrote:
             | While you are throwaway I am still gonna remind you of
             | "assuming good faith" is one of core tenants of hn.
             | 
             | Other things that are exploitable: driving vans/cars in
             | cities as they can be driven into crowds.
             | 
             | I agree that it is thinkable that some people might want to
             | exploit these rules. However I haven't seen anything that
             | suggest abuse will be rampant enough and not be able to be
             | dealt using existing laws and shaming exploiters. So I
             | think we should give trans people their rights and deal
             | with perverts and abuser separately.
             | 
             | A cost on switching can be imposed but it shouldn't make it
             | more stigmatising or harder on trans people ideally.
        
               | fastball wrote:
               | How would you see anything to suggest abuse will be
               | rampant before the abuse is even viable?
               | 
               | There have already been people I would describe as
               | attempting to abuse[1] the nascent systems that do exist.
               | 
               | [1] https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2019/10/23/canadian-
               | transge...
        
           | brandmeyer wrote:
           | Alternatively, this could be an opportunity to address sexual
           | assault in prisons more broadly. No inmate, no matter how
           | heinous their crimes, should be subjected to sexual assault.
           | 
           | The prevalence and sexual assault in prisons is an example of
           | a normalization of deviance that should be opposed, instead
           | of tolerated.
        
             | MyHypatia wrote:
             | I agree that it can be an opportunity to address sexual
             | assault in prisons more broadly. My comment does not
             | normalize or tolerate sexual assault.
        
           | noobermin wrote:
           | Given rape is a fear in general (women without penises can
           | rape, you know) may be people shouldn't share sleeping
           | quarters.
        
           | SketchySeaBeast wrote:
           | > house intact trans-women
           | 
           | Why would a rapist stop wanting to rape regardless of the
           | state of their genitals? Is sexual violation with a penis so
           | much more horrific than other violations it deserves special
           | consideration?
        
             | vmception wrote:
             | Its also about the possibility of being impregnated
             | 
             | Just personalize the idea, your sister or female
             | significant other was thrown in jail, and then housed with
             | a male who is a trans woman who has sex with her with or
             | without her consent and creates an ongoing consequence that
             | is impossible if trans women were not there
             | 
             | That would be the expectation you would start with to form
             | a conclusion
             | 
             | Sex in male prisons does not result in pregnancy
        
               | Latty wrote:
               | By this logic, it would be fine if they were infertile,
               | which is obvious nonsense.
               | 
               | Sexual assault does not hit some magic breaking point
               | where it becomes an unacceptable risk at the chance of
               | impregnation. If there is a significant risk of sexual
               | assault, then the prison has fundamentally failed and
               | that is the thing that needs fixing.
               | 
               | It simply doesn't matter if someone is trans or not, cis
               | people are just as capable of sexual assault, and prisons
               | must be protecting _all_ inmates, not only cis-women,
               | from assault.
        
               | vmception wrote:
               | the rest of us are _starting_ with the premise that
               | prisons have all failed equally, and find them equally
               | incompetent at any additional vector of assault such as
               | the one that introduces pregnancy
               | 
               | its not nearly as gendered as you are making it out to
               | be, this a condition statement satisfied by some gendered
               | combinations
        
               | freemint wrote:
               | In good faith and not as whataboutism: Do you think being
               | forced to impregnate someone against your will is
               | similarly horrific although less burdensome for the first
               | 9 months?
        
               | vmception wrote:
               | Yes
               | 
               | What circumstance made you think of that?
        
               | werber wrote:
               | Some trans men get pregnant and some trans men commit
               | crimes. It's interesting that conversations on gender
               | identity tend to zero in on trans women
        
               | vmception wrote:
               | That was the prompt so the replies will be towards that
        
             | hackinthebochs wrote:
             | >Why would a rapist stop wanting to rape regardless of the
             | state of their genitals?
             | 
             | Testosterone is correlated with sexual aggression. Chemical
             | castration is a treatment for rapists after all.
        
             | MyHypatia wrote:
             | Yes, because women can get pregnant. Then not only do you
             | have to deal with trauma of your sexual assault, you have
             | to deal with the trauma of having a child born from that
             | sexual assault or have an abortion.
        
               | SketchySeaBeast wrote:
               | So, if someone were infertile it would reduce the threat
               | and be acceptable? You said intact, not fertile.
        
           | plank_time wrote:
           | In the UK prisons, transgender women sexually assault women
           | 5x more than cis women sexually assault women.
           | 
           | https://archive.is/iYD5T
        
             | nepeckman wrote:
             | If you read the article you linked, you will find that is
             | not true. From the article: "between 2016 and 2020, there
             | were seven sexual assaults against females in women's
             | prisons by trans women." 7 assaults in 4 years is not 5x
             | more.
             | 
             | If you are referring to the statistic that "trans inmates
             | are 1% of the population and commit 5.6% of the assaults",
             | you will find that the trans inmates in question are
             | actually trans men being incorrectly housed in women's
             | prisons.
        
             | robocat wrote:
             | From article:
             | 
             | "there were 125 trans prisoners in 2017, 60 of whom were
             | serving sentences for sexual offences. Of those 60, 27 were
             | serving a prison sentence for rape." which is more shocking
             | than your 5x statistic. Note the 5x statistic appears weak
             | to me because "Between 2016 and 2020, there were seven
             | sexual assaults [reported] against females in women's
             | prisons by trans women.".
        
         | teakettle42 wrote:
         | > They believe that dictionary definitions of woman are
         | prescriptive, declared at the chromosomes during birth, rather
         | than descriptive, as in how one presents in both dress and
         | phenotype.
         | 
         | If you were responsible for compiling a dictionary, what is the
         | accurate definition of "woman" that you would provide?
        
           | throwaway284534 wrote:
           | I must admit that I'm apprehensive to give an answer given
           | this thread's...liveliness, but I'll do my best.
           | 
           | "Woman" describes a collection of chromosomal and
           | phenological traits observed within an ongoing and temporal
           | culture lens. A human is often perceived as a woman when she
           | simultaneously embodies a variety of these traits, especially
           | so when those traits contrast that which is considered male.
           | 
           | Much like the concept of feminism, consensus on what is and
           | isn't in these categories continues to evolve as it's
           | observed and informed by the experienced of both genders.
           | 
           | I can understand why a definition like this wouldn't be as
           | satisfying as something more concrete and well, definitive.
        
         | slibhb wrote:
         | I don't think your explanation of "TERF talking points" is
         | fair. Contra Judith Butler it's not clear that feminism has any
         | meaning without some essential idea of "womanhood". That is
         | fundamentally what disturbs "TERFs".
         | 
         | When you talk about "this Goldilocks zone of womanhood," I
         | think you've rediscovering one of the oldest philosophical
         | discoveries: mental concepts and ideas (in this case "woman")
         | do not apply perfectly to the world of appearences. But this
         | does not mean we can jettison concepts and ideas altogether. In
         | fact they seem necessary. So the fact that we cannot seem to
         | come up with a perfect criterion for defining "biological
         | woman" does not mean that we can dispense with that category.
         | 
         | And that's what's being asked of us. We are told "trans women
         | are women". What does that mean? It if means "there is a
         | category, women, and in that category there are trans women and
         | biological women," that's fine with me. If it means "there is
         | no distinction between biological women and trans women," that
         | seems wrong to me and to the vast majority of people.
        
           | worik wrote:
           | I am with you until "...the vast majority of people".
           | 
           | I am not sure it is true, and utterly sure it does not matter
        
             | analognoise wrote:
             | I don't think "trans women are women" is a literal
             | statement - I think it means "we should give trans women
             | the rights and protections afforded to women"; it's an
             | expression of support.
             | 
             | Kinda like "Black Lives Matter" - obviously they do, but
             | the fact that you have to say it out loud and directly
             | highlights the disparity and systemic injustices faced by
             | people of color.
             | 
             | At least, that's what I think those things mean, someone
             | with a more sophisticated understanding will probably
             | correct me if I'm wrong.
        
         | merhart wrote:
         | Just want to say thank you for taking the time to express your
         | perspective on this, particularly as a heavily affected
         | individual in these matters.
        
         | Latty wrote:
         | Indeed, well said. Even outside of the realm of gender, the
         | rhetoric of biological essentialism is harmful.
         | 
         | When I see people say things like "biology is what is real", I
         | think about the harm done to every adopted child who is being
         | told that their parent isn't _really_ their parent, that their
         | relationship should not be respected as much as someone who is
         | biologically related to their parents.
        
         | metalliqaz wrote:
         | Sorry to break it to you, but chromosomes _are_ prescriptive.
         | You cannot simply ignore that there are differences between X
         | and Y chromosomes. Society 's distinctions between the sexes is
         | not arbitrary. Why do we have separate bathrooms in public but
         | not at home? Why do we have segregated sports? Why do we
         | celebrate feminists but not MRAs? It's because there is a real-
         | world difference.
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | dang wrote:
           | Flamewar tropes like "Sorry to break it to you" are not
           | acceptable on HN in any case and certainly not on a painfully
           | divisive and inflammatory topic like this.
           | 
           | If you can't keep in mind that you're talking to other human
           | beings who may have deep and good reasons to feel differently
           | than you do on a topic, then please don't post here. This is
           | a difficult enough topic without poisoning it with swipes and
           | snark.
           | 
           | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
        
           | jbay808 wrote:
           | > Sorry to break it to you, but chromosomes are prescriptive.
           | 
           | ... Except when they aren't. Even biology doesn't paint such
           | a simple picture. Chromosomes are important, but not as
           | important as hormones -- and how the body responds to those
           | hormones.
           | 
           | If you're not aware of CAIS, it is probably the clearest way
           | for you to re-evaluate your view that chromosomes are
           | prescriptive.
           | 
           | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Complete_androgen_insensitiv.
           | ..
           | 
           | Edit - puzzled by the downvotes here. Do you _know_ what
           | chromosomes you have? Have you checked? If you do, there 's a
           | nonzero chance that they aren't the chromosomes you're
           | expecting to find.
           | 
           | If you were to test your chromosomes and found they didn't
           | match your expectations, you would either have to change your
           | belief about the prescriptiveness of chromosomes, or your
           | belief about your gender. Which belief would you change?
           | Which belief do you hold more strongly?
        
           | tsimionescu wrote:
           | Chromosomes are not detectable from the outside. Phenotype is
           | not entirely dependent on genotype. Trans women may suffer
           | from both certain "female" diseases and certain "male"
           | diseases.
        
         | benjohnson wrote:
         | I don't think it's fair to dismiss what seems to be a
         | reasonable discussion as simply "TERF talking points" and then
         | reframe what your opponents are saying in an un-sympathetic
         | way.
        
           | loopz wrote:
           | Maybe it's like telling ME patients it's all in their head,
           | and they can be cured psychologically. It may work on some,
           | but for many they get permanently damaged from too much
           | pressure and stress. After such abuse and being ground down,
           | it's hard to be sympathetic to ignorance and abuse.
           | 
           | I don't know enough to conclude, but trying to understand and
           | ask more questions is a first step.
        
       | postmodernbrute wrote:
       | Right. Another loud article published on a very mainstream media
       | about how a very established academic is being silenced and
       | prevented from "debate". I wonder, if one collates all the
       | articles on British media about transgender people, how many of
       | them would actually concern the daily experiences of real
       | transgender people, versus how many that consist of an
       | established writer complaining loudly that they have been
       | silenced?
       | 
       | Or to put it more quantitatively: how many words uttered by real
       | transgender people have been published on British media, and how
       | many words of these brutally silenced "gender-criticals"?
        
         | hn_throwaway_99 wrote:
         | To put it bluntly, this is irrelevant.
         | 
         | You put "debate" in quotes like it's somehow a dirty word,
         | which is shocking and depressing to me. I DO care about what
         | real transgender people have to say, and to be honest,
         | especially on college campuses in the US, it is very easy to
         | see they have a voice and are able to speak there opinion.
         | 
         | I have no idea whether this academic's opinion is one I agree
         | with. Primarily because she wasn't allowed to speak.
        
           | postmodernbrute wrote:
           | She was allowed to speak far more than any trans people has
           | been allowed to speak - she is speaking on The Economist. I
           | do not see any trans people speaking on The Economist. The
           | same applies across the entirety of published British media.
           | That you willfully ignore this epistemological injustice,
           | does not render it irrelevant.
           | 
           | The university ground is one of the very few places where
           | real transgender people, along with other socially
           | marginalised groups, are generally allowed to speak, and
           | allowed to speak for themselves. They are particularly
           | visible on campus, precisely because they are effectly not
           | allowed to speak in other places. Such as The Economist and
           | other print media.
           | 
           | And yes, certain "debates" are quite dirty. Debates are not
           | neutral fields of free intellectual inquiry, but potent
           | manifestation of prevailing epistemological injustices. It is
           | shocking and depressing, that certain people must again and
           | again defend their own existence in "debates" premised on a
           | claim to the absurdity of their condition. It is shocking and
           | depressing, that sincere experiences of trans people are not
           | taken, but rather must be put under the forensic lens of
           | "debate" to be constantly challenged and invalidated. These
           | "debates" are dirty constructs, serving as a powerful
           | mechanism of collective gaslighting.
        
             | hn_throwaway_99 wrote:
             | I am not British, so I can't quite comment as well on the
             | media landscape there, but I see tons of articles about
             | transgender issues, with lots of commentary by trans
             | people, in mainstream American media. A few simple
             | examples:
             | 
             | 1. https://www.newsweek.com/trans-air-force-officer-trump-
             | ban-1...
             | 
             | 2. https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2015/opinion/transge
             | nder...
             | 
             | 3. https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/public-
             | safety/trangende...
             | 
             | And your last paragraph about claiming people are debating
             | about forcing certain people to, as you put it, "again and
             | again defend their own existence", is what I find so
             | frustrating, because this is absolutely NOT what is going
             | on _in this instance_. Yes, there are a tons of examples
             | where this DOES happen, but lumping all honest debate about
             | difficult problems (say, how does one determine if someone
             | is eligible to compete in women 's-only sports) as
             | "defending your own existence" is just silencing all views
             | that don't 100% agree with you.
        
       | altcognito wrote:
       | Hey look another outrage article about censorship.
        
       | zapdrive wrote:
       | Slightly off topic, but where can I get some popcorn?
        
       | fungiblecog wrote:
       | I think the irony of the current battle around identity is that
       | we have been making steady progress based on the idea that
       | personal characteristics shouldn't matter. However this whole
       | debate is reversing that by not only saying it matters a great
       | deal but that other people should be forced to defer to others
       | personal choices even when it directly affects them
        
         | colechristensen wrote:
         | You can notice this in a few fields of popular ideologies these
         | days, that is overcorrecting for a problem to the point of
         | becoming exactly the thing one was originally fighting against.
         | 
         | I am of the somewhat progressive-unpopular opinion that some
         | people have an unhealthy interest in how they label themselves
         | and how others perceive them, and in the attempts to be
         | supportive the popular opinion is doing more harm than good.
         | Don't get me wrong, I'm not against anyone with a certain
         | genotype or phenotype having any particular interest in whom
         | they love, how they dress, their hobbies, behaviors, etc. as
         | long as they don't put hurts on other people. I do have doubts
         | about the amount of "identifying" people do with their
         | preferences though. It can be a subtle point that is hard to
         | make just right without getting pitchforks raised, I'm never
         | sure i've done it right.
        
           | throwaway894345 wrote:
           | I agree and I'll add to that activists claiming to speak on
           | behalf of a particular group are often not actually
           | representing that group. I think there is currency in
           | identity these days, to your earlier points, and some wish to
           | spend others' currency for themselves.
        
             | colechristensen wrote:
             | Whatever the situation, people in positions of power and
             | authority have a tendency (not absolute) to be in it for
             | the power and authority.
        
           | TimTheTinker wrote:
           | The problem is that people entangle their sense of identity
           | with their opinions. (I think PG had an essay on HN recently
           | that talked about this - he called out religious and
           | political opinions in particular.)
           | 
           | So their opinions aren't up for discussion. If you disagree
           | with them, they feel offended and personally attacked.
        
           | umvi wrote:
           | > You can notice this in a few fields of popular ideologies
           | these days, that is overcorrecting for a problem to the point
           | of becoming exactly the thing one was originally fighting
           | against.
           | 
           | I've noticed this too, it's not only gender ideology but
           | racial ideology and more. Seems to be form of ideological
           | "pilot-induced oscillation"[0]
           | 
           | [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pilot-induced_oscillation
           | 
           | "[Pilot-induced oscillation] occurs when the pilot of an
           | aircraft inadvertently commands an often increasing series of
           | corrections in opposite directions, each an attempt to cover
           | the aircraft's reaction to the previous input with an over
           | correction in the opposite direction" (in this case the
           | "pilot" is "society")
        
             | adav wrote:
             | I can't comment on a particular field or ideology per se,
             | but perhaps it's social media newsfeed algorithms that are
             | creating the similar effect to pilot-induced oscillation
             | that you're identifying?
        
             | colechristensen wrote:
             | And the mechanism of this oscillation is people joining and
             | leaving a movement.
             | 
             | In the beginning the radical idea is a basic kind of
             | equality where some kind of person shouldn't be
             | disadvantaged for some characteristic.
             | 
             | There is then a growth phase where many people join and
             | small specific victories turn into general victories.
             | 
             | There is then a shrinking phase where people leave the
             | movement or lose zeal as general victories are had.
             | 
             | The movement keeps much of its ideology capital and with
             | the more moderate people losing interest, the median
             | ideology moves towards special privileges for hyper-
             | specific characteristics defended by a very real "the
             | problem still exists".
             | 
             | The end stage is a movement that tries to conflate its
             | extreme views as being equally as beyond question and
             | equally morally right as the views during the growth phase,
             | and you get conflict when people have a hard time sorting
             | out the complexities of which is right and which is too
             | far... and you get the backlash where the basic right is
             | threatened by the connection with the extreme views... and
             | so it goes.
             | 
             | The 21st century is the century of complexity, the basic
             | problems are often solved and the complex ones need more
             | nuance than the basic ones took... and the struggle is
             | getting this point across that things aren't as simple as
             | they were before.
        
             | flavius29663 wrote:
             | Speaking of racial ideology, I honestly don't understand
             | how we're supposed to become less racists if we're drawing
             | so much attention to race and putting it left, right and
             | center of any policy discussion?
        
               | munk-a wrote:
               | Because, honestly, shutting up about it and ignoring it
               | is the solution we tried from the 70s through the 2000s
               | and it didn't accomplish anything - racist folk were just
               | empowered by not being called out on it.
               | 
               | At least when it comes to America - there are some very
               | deeply entrenched societal issues that we'd need to
               | resolve to achieve anything near equality including
               | generations of depriving wealth accumulation in
               | communities (i.e. Native Americans).
        
               | whydoibother wrote:
               | How can you fix what you never talk about? If people
               | speaking out and identifying discrimination makes you
               | more racist, well buddy, you were always racist to begin
               | with.
        
           | karpierz wrote:
           | I don't think it's an issue of people being interested in how
           | they label themselves so much as society being interested in
           | labels for people. If you come out as gay, suddenly there are
           | a load of assumptions placed on you about how you speak,
           | dress, act, what your hobbies are, etc. People adopt
           | identities in these cases because society has preconceived
           | notions of the identity, not because the individual
           | themselves has decided that they want to make a big deal out
           | of their identity.
        
             | inglor_cz wrote:
             | This is a vicious circle. Gays or non-whites are now
             | expected to vote for certain parties (depending on country)
             | etc., and reap bewilderment at the very least if they do
             | not comply with the expectations.
             | 
             | There is, for example, a fairly famous author (Ayaan Hirsi
             | Ali), who is a Somali ex-Muslim, and she says she was
             | having really hard time from the Dutch left when she lived
             | there. Her ideas simply did not fit the preconceived
             | concept of an African immigrant.
        
             | colechristensen wrote:
             | Well there are three separate interests
             | 
             | * self labeling
             | 
             | * others labeling you
             | 
             | * how others are labeled
             | 
             | any of the three can become unhealthy when overdone, and
             | different people have different amounts of interest in the
             | three. They each have a set of problems associated with
             | them.
             | 
             | I wouldn't go out of my way to say any one in particular is
             | more of an issue. (i.e. they're all issues in different
             | ways)
        
         | mike00632 wrote:
         | Do you feel the same way about nicknames? If you call someone
         | by a nickname that they don't like and they let you know they
         | prefer their own name then do you consider it too onerous to
         | defer to them about it?
        
           | jotux wrote:
           | Wouldn't this be the opposite of that scenario? As in,
           | someone has a given name at birth but they prefer a nickname
           | and some people find using the nickname too onerous and use
           | their given name instead?
        
             | mike00632 wrote:
             | Yeah, my legal name is "Michael". If I asked you to call me
             | "Mike" is that really such a pain for you?
        
               | jotux wrote:
               | No, it wouldn't be a pain for me or most people.
               | 
               | The point I was making is that giving someone a nickname
               | they don't like is completely different from not calling
               | someone a nickname they prefer.
               | 
               | Regarding nicknames, I do sometimes interact with people
               | that have nicknames that I'm not comfortable with or the
               | thought of using that name for them doesn't seem
               | respectful. For example, I took a two week class that was
               | taught by former astronaut Sherwood "Woody" Spring. His
               | peers all called him Woody but it seemed too personal for
               | the teach-student relationship we were in and I defaulted
               | to calling him Mr. Spring. He didn't mind that. I suspect
               | the majority of people that go by nicknames don't really
               | mind when people call them by their given name or a
               | formal version of their name.
               | 
               | Generally I think nicknames are just a bad analogy for
               | gender, so we shouldn't use the comparison at all.
        
               | textgel wrote:
               | No, but if you ask me to call you a chartered mechanical
               | engineer when you aren't then that changes things.
        
               | mike00632 wrote:
               | Trans people aren't asking to get credit for
               | certifications or degrees they didn't receive. Calling
               | someone by their preferred pronouns isn't bestowing an
               | honorific upon someone (as if it's up to you to be the
               | arbiter of that anyways). It's basic decency.
        
               | textgel wrote:
               | Pronouns are defacto and typically dejure certifications.
               | 
               | Do you think previously male transgender women should be
               | permitted to enter women's athletic competition?
               | 
               | Do you think it is trans-phobic to say you wouldn't date
               | someone who was transgender?
               | 
               | Do you think misgendering a transgender individual should
               | be a "hatecrime"?
        
               | kofejnik wrote:
               | If I asked you to call me "Your Majesty" and bow your
               | head every time (only slightly, tho), would it really be
               | such a pain to you?
        
               | mike00632 wrote:
               | I will leave it as an exercise to you to describe the
               | difference between calling someone by their preferred
               | pronouns and treating them like royalty.
        
               | inglor_cz wrote:
               | _I will leave it as an exercise to you_
               | 
               | Not the OP, but what a smug reply. This is not
               | mathematics, you are not the professor, and it would be
               | only fair if you started with your own description of
               | said difference, as you see it. You cannot expect that
               | everyone sees it in the same way, can you?
        
           | throwaway_8Z3E wrote:
           | Can my nickname be, "My lord and master" ?
           | 
           | I assume you will call me by my preferred nickname.
        
           | Causality1 wrote:
           | I have that exact situation at work, twice in fact. One
           | woman's nickname is Pookie. Some people are uncomfortable
           | with using that term and they use her legal name. It doesn't
           | bother her. Another man insisted on people calling him
           | "PawPaw". Nobody was comfortable with that, especially the
           | women he borderline harassed every day. He was fired for
           | stealing food out of the break room before the name situation
           | came to a head.
           | 
           | You don't have the right to compel speech in other people in
           | any way. You don't even have the right to make people call
           | you by your birth name. Some jurisdictions like NYC have laws
           | against malicious miss-naming by an employer or landlord, but
           | even that only applies if they essentially make it a
           | harassment campaign.
        
           | handmodel wrote:
           | I don't think that is what commenter is saying. I,
           | personally, of course defer to nicknames and pronouns.
           | 
           | I think it is more similar to race-blind versus race-
           | conscious policies - along with gender-blind versus gernder-
           | concious.
           | 
           | Is it better to assume that men and women are pretty much the
           | same in academia and each are capable of the same thing? Or
           | is it better to assume that men and women are intrinsically
           | better at different things with certain characteristics.
           | 
           | I think the answer is in the middle but clearly there has
           | been a move in the last five years to say that gender
           | inherently effects your worldview/characteristics while
           | simultaneously saying that men/women should have equal
           | outcomes in all fields. Its not internally consistent.
        
             | sophacles wrote:
             | It's certainly consistent. Worldview happens as a result of
             | experiences - if ones biological sex and/or gender is used
             | as a reason to allow or deny certain experiences to
             | someone, then maybe it affects their worldview, no?
             | 
             | This is different than whether the gating on biological sex
             | makes sense.
             | 
             | (Note I don't mean strictly mechanical stuff like peeing
             | your name into the snow, I'm talking about things like
             | teachers "not wasting time on helping girls understand
             | math"[1] - because I suspect that teachers not helping
             | girls with math is probably more causal to fewer women in
             | math than their vaginas.
             | 
             | [1] I've personally heard math teachers say this, and heard
             | stories of others saying it too.)
        
             | klyrs wrote:
             | > Is it better to assume that men and women are pretty much
             | the same in academia and each are capable of the same
             | thing? Or is it better to assume that men and women are
             | intrinsically better at different things with certain
             | characteristics.
             | 
             | This is something I think a lot of people misunderstand
             | about [id]-consciousness. Is it better to assume that you
             | as an individual have biases that align/oppose with
             | overarching biases in our society, or is it better to
             | assume that you alone, or society at large, are bias-free?
             | Can we address inequality by treating everybody the same in
             | this moment and ignoring the historical context they exist
             | in, or do observed biases need to be compensated for in
             | some manner?
        
           | xupybd wrote:
           | This is common in many of the team sports I've played in. The
           | more someone hates their nickname the more likely it will
           | stick. Generally it's only done with close friends.
        
             | watwut wrote:
             | It is also done with people you want to bully. Also, this
             | mocking relationship is very often one way instead of
             | symmetric.
        
             | mike00632 wrote:
             | Yeah, but is such behavior acceptable in the workplace? And
             | is it right to use this behavior as a guide to lessen the
             | legal status of trans people?
        
           | just_to_reply wrote:
           | It's not just like a nickname, though. It's about who you're
           | willing to date, who is put in which prison or who is allowed
           | to compete in which sports competitions.
        
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             | mike00632 wrote:
             | Are you in prison or competing at the highest level of
             | sports? If not then why not just respect the preferences of
             | trans people?
        
               | a1369209993 wrote:
               | > > It's about who you're willing to date, who is put in
               | which prison or who is allowed to compete in which sports
               | competitions.
               | 
               | > Are you in prison or competing at the highest level of
               | sports?
               | 
               | I assume they're dating.
        
           | cheeseomlit wrote:
           | Not really an apt comparison since there's nothing about a
           | nickname that defies observable reality, a name is a social
           | construct to begin with. Sex however is a biological
           | construct in which the characteristics are directly and
           | quantitatively observable.
        
             | saxonww wrote:
             | The idea is that sex and gender are different though;
             | gender _is_ a social construct. I think lack of agreement
             | on this is a big part of the issue right now.
             | 
             | Edit: as pointed out below, gender roles are something
             | we've made up, but preferences and behavior themselves
             | (which we're calling gender) are not. Still separate from
             | sex.
        
               | teakettle42 wrote:
               | > gender _is_ a social construct.
               | 
               | If gender is distinct from sex, then can you explain the
               | qualifying characteristics of a "gender"?
               | 
               | What is the definition of "woman"? What is the definition
               | of "man"?
        
               | whateveracct wrote:
               | That's kind of the point. There isn't one.
               | 
               | Wearing high heels isn't related to being a woman
               | intrinsically, and you don't have to be a woman to wear
               | high heels.
        
               | teakettle42 wrote:
               | That's largely the source of my confusion.
               | 
               | The way I see it, either:
               | 
               | - 'gender' is a synonym for 'sex'
               | 
               | - 'gender' is being misused as a synonym 'gender roles',
               | which are defined by one's sex.
               | 
               | If that's not correct, then what _is_ the actual correct
               | definition of gender?
        
               | saxonww wrote:
               | I don't think I'm exactly right about this, but consider
               | three sets of words:
               | 
               | - man/woman
               | 
               | - male/female
               | 
               | - masculine/feminine
               | 
               | There is a concept of grammatical gender, where words can
               | be masculine or feminine (or neuter in some cases, and
               | there are other systems as well with different words).
               | You don't talk about man words or male words, it's
               | masculine. So, I tend to think of gender as masculine or
               | feminine. That covers most people (although not all:
               | nonbinary, gender fluid, genderqueer, etc. are all real).
               | 
               | I tend to think of sex as male or female. At least for
               | human beings, that covers most people (not all, intersex
               | is a real thing, and there are other unusual but
               | 'natural' configurations as well)
               | 
               | So one way to look at this - which again, is probably not
               | exactly correct, but it's how I think - male/masculine
               | and female/feminine are what we've traditionally thought
               | of as man and woman. But, I think it's pretty clear now
               | that we need to account for the other combinations, i.e.
               | male/feminine and female/masculine. That's where cis- and
               | trans- come in: male/masculine is a cis male,
               | female/masculine is a trans male, both are subsets in the
               | set of all men. Same with women.
               | 
               | We've got nonbinary, genderqueer, etc. as well. I don't
               | really understand the latter, but the former is pretty
               | easy to explain: imagine being told you had to be
               | masculine or feminine, and your response was "No, I
               | don't. I prefer or reject some of each."
               | 
               | Overall, to me, gender is about what you like and how you
               | behave, while sex is more biology (i.e., what's in your
               | pants). It's easier to understand the arguments if you
               | completely separate gender from sex, and don't make
               | assumptions about one based on the other. In fact, I
               | think the assumptions - e.g. gender roles - are the
               | entire problem, and if people would just stop with that,
               | a lot of things would get better.
        
               | cheeseomlit wrote:
               | This distinction doesn't sit right with me though. What
               | is Gender really, in the modern definition (since it
               | seems to have changed over the years)? From what I gather
               | it's a way for people to tell others that one of their
               | physical characteristics (Sex) does not match their
               | mental state (Gender). To me this doesn't really seem
               | like a positive thing, it comes off like a potentially
               | harmful delusion from someone who can't come to terms
               | with their own biology.
               | 
               | There's absolutely nothing wrong with a feminine man or a
               | masculine woman, people can behave however they wish
               | regardless of biology. But the most feminine man on the
               | planet is still a man and saying so shouldn't turn you
               | into a pariah, it's true after all.
               | 
               | Imagine we came up with 'Gender' like terms for other
               | physical characteristics, it seems to me like the logic
               | quickly breaks down when you think about it-
               | 
               | Gender is to Sex as ____ is to Race as ____ is to Age as
               | ____ is to Height as ____ is to Weight as ____ is to Eye
               | Color etc.
        
               | MontyCarloHall wrote:
               | As I wrote in another comment, trans individuals' gender
               | identity is hardwired to the same extent that people's
               | sexual orientation is hardwired, so there must be some
               | innate physiological component to gender identity. My
               | guess is it's neurological, since there aren't
               | discernible hormonal, genetic, or anatomical differences
               | between trans and cis people.
               | 
               | Your analogies don't apply because, with the exception of
               | age (mental age vs. physical age), there is no mental
               | analog to race, height, eye color, etc.
               | 
               | I'd analogize gender identity to sexual orientation:
               | there is nothing physiological that distinguishes
               | heterosexual people from homosexual people, but the
               | former are hardwired to be sexually attracted to members
               | of the opposite sex, while the latter are hardwired to be
               | sexually attracted to members of the same sex.
        
               | throwaway8582 wrote:
               | > My guess is it's neurological, since there aren't
               | discernible hormonal, genetic, or anatomical differences
               | between trans and cis people.
               | 
               | That's exactly the point. If someone's "gender identity"
               | doesn't refer any observable characteristic other than
               | their "gender identity", then the entire concept is
               | circularly defined and therefore meaningless. It's like
               | if I were to say my biological height is 5'7" but my
               | "height identity" is 6'3". What meaning does "height
               | identity" have and why should anyone take a concept like
               | this seriously?
        
               | cheeseomlit wrote:
               | >Your analogies don't apply because, with the exception
               | of age (mental age vs. physical age), there is no mental
               | analog to race, height, eye color, etc.
               | 
               | Why? What specifically makes transrace/race-identity any
               | less valid of a concept than transgender/gender-identity?
               | You say there is no mental analog to race but there's
               | just as much proof of that as there is for gender
               | identity. I've always loved african-american music and
               | culture, I use black slang a lot, I felt like I didn't
               | fit in with my white peers growing up- maybe I identify
               | as black and will designate myself as such on my
               | job/college applications going forward. Who are you to
               | tell me my race-identity isn't valid? Maybe I'm just
               | hardwired that way.
               | 
               | >I'd analogize gender identity to sexual orientation:
               | there is nothing physiological that distinguishes
               | heterosexual people from homosexual people, but the
               | former are hardwired to be sexually attracted to members
               | of the opposite sex, while the latter are hardwired to be
               | sexually attracted to members of the same sex.
               | 
               | If there is nothing physiological to make that
               | determination I think 'hardwired' isn't the right term
        
               | MontyCarloHall wrote:
               | > Why? What specifically makes transrace/race-identity
               | any less valid of a concept than transgender/gender-
               | identity?
               | 
               | Because there aren't any (or infinitesimally few) people
               | who believe from a very young age that their "race
               | identity" doesn't match their genetically defined race.
               | Gender dysphoria is rare but not infinitesimally so (~1%
               | of the population), and it usually first emerges in
               | childhood.
               | 
               | > If there is nothing physiological to make that
               | determination I think 'hardwired' isn't the right term
               | 
               | Sorry, I was a bit sloppy with my language. I should have
               | written "there is nothing _grossly_ physiological that
               | distinguishes heterosexual people from homosexual
               | people." Colloquially, we don't generally consider
               | neurology to be physiological, since we don't yet have
               | the technology to identify subtle differences in neural
               | topology. Doesn't mean that neurological phenomena aren't
               | hardwired, and thus "physiological" on a microscopic
               | level we aren't yet able to detect. As an extreme
               | example, mental retardation is certainly hardwired, even
               | though there's often nothing grossly physiological (i.e.
               | detectable physical brain abnormalities) that causes it.
               | 
               | I suspect that as science and medicine advance, we will
               | identify the neural wiring patterns that determine one's
               | sexuality and gender identity (assuming we are allowed to
               | study such things), at which point we can actually point
               | to a definitively physiological determinant of both.
        
               | HideousKojima wrote:
               | Attempts to separate sex from gender are prescriptive,
               | not descriptive. And the academic who first attempted to
               | separate their meanings was a child molester with strong
               | personal and ideological motivations for doing so:
               | 
               | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Money
        
               | delecti wrote:
               | Various societies throughout history have recognized
               | gender identities as distinct from biological differences
               | for about as long as there have been societies. That the
               | modern English terms for those two categories emerged
               | from academia is pretty irrelevant.
        
               | saxonww wrote:
               | This has no bearing on whether the idea is right or not,
               | and shame on you for trying to shut down conversation by
               | comparing adherents to child molesters.
        
               | tomp wrote:
               | But "gender" is a made-up concept with no clear (non-
               | self-referential) definition, seemingly made up
               | specifically to cause confusion and conflict.
               | 
               | It's as if there were two concepts, "race" and "grace",
               | and you could be "biologically" white but "identify" as
               | black, or "height" and "gheight", and you could be
               | "factually" 180cm tall but "identify" as 165cm.
        
               | rmah wrote:
               | Um... this actually makes no sense to me. Could you
               | clarify or elaborate?
        
               | MontyCarloHall wrote:
               | Certain _gender roles_ are social constructs, but gender
               | as a whole cannot be a social construct because gender
               | dysphoria exists. A transgender person's gender identity
               | is hardwired (and opposite of their genetic sex and
               | outward sex characteristics), which is strong evidence
               | that gender is an innate physiological characteristic.
               | It's likely something neurological, since trans people's
               | obvious physiological characteristics (e.g. hormone
               | levels and anatomy) are consistent with their genetic
               | sex.
               | 
               | (This is why trans-exclusionary feminists exist, because
               | the existence of trans people nullifies their belief that
               | gender is 100% a social construct.)
        
             | zehnfischer wrote:
             | Well, while it could be argued that sex is biological
             | given, it is surely that our society overstates the
             | difference between men and women - plus our current society
             | still aims to standardises / normalizes all other sexes.
             | The social meaning of being male, of being female etc. is
             | still socially constructed and therefore which sex you are
             | born into has measurable impact on your life, your chances
             | in terms of career.
        
             | mike00632 wrote:
             | Sure there is. My legal name and the name I sign on
             | documents is "Michael" but I could have a preference for
             | "Mike". Are you really going to deny that to me because
             | there is an "observable reality" that is different from my
             | preference?
        
               | cheeseomlit wrote:
               | A name is not an intrinsic trait of a person, it's a
               | legal abstraction. Your name has no meaning outside of
               | it's designation as a name and you can change it at any
               | time. 'Mike', 'Michael', and 'Michelangelo' all mean the
               | same thing- it's just an arbitrary word used to identify
               | a person. 'Him' and 'Her' on the other hand are not
               | arbitrary and do not mean the same thing, they refer to
               | directly observable biological traits that cannot be
               | changed.
        
               | karpierz wrote:
               | How do you tell if someone is a 'him' or 'her'? What are
               | the criteria you use to make that decision, and why are
               | they immutable?
               | 
               | (Please don't say XY chromosomes, you don't do a genetic
               | test on everyone you meet.)
        
               | cheeseomlit wrote:
               | We can tell instinctively based on a whole slew of
               | traits, within a split second of looking at a person your
               | brain identifies their sex whether you want to or not.
               | Skeletal structure alone is a dead giveaway.
        
               | karpierz wrote:
               | So if your brain instinctive recognizes someone as a
               | "her", they're a "her"?
        
               | blindmute wrote:
               | Yes.
        
               | jlawson wrote:
               | A him is someone who was born with a penis.
               | 
               | A her is someone who was born with a vagina.
               | 
               | The very, very few people who don't fit clearly into
               | either of these categories (intersex) are exceptions and
               | can be handled on a case-by-case basis.
               | 
               | They are immutable because their reproductive role is
               | immutable. A her can never impregnate. A him can never
               | gestate.
               | 
               | (Either can choose not to perform their particular
               | ability, or lose the ability to do so, but that doesn't
               | change the meaning of these words.)
        
               | frumper wrote:
               | We use our best judgement. In my experience it's most
               | often confused in babies because it can be difficult to
               | tell at times. I do not get upset when they say my son is
               | adorable even though I don't have a son. I accept the
               | spirit of their comment and try to politely correct them
               | with something like: Thank you, she loves to flash a good
               | smile. Then I go on my way.
        
               | LanceH wrote:
               | Are you going to lose your shit, call my boss and try to
               | get me fired when I call you Michael because it's what's
               | written down for everyone to see?
        
               | mike00632 wrote:
               | I think it's pretty clear that other people's preference
               | for nicknames (or gender pronouns) are not a burden on
               | you and your insistance to call people by the wrong name
               | (or gender) is for some other reason. That was my point.
               | This isn't about trans people causing undue burden on
               | you.
        
               | turfwars2 wrote:
               | Pretending people are not the biological sex they
               | actually are, to me that's an undue burden. I don't have
               | to pretend a furry is an actual dog. The truth,
               | evidential truth about the World, is central to _my_
               | identity; why do I have to yield my identity to others?
               | You identify as the third coming of Moses, well that 's
               | nice for you, why do I have to get involved in your
               | delusion?
               | 
               | You're a male that feels like a female, well ok, why do I
               | need to care again?
        
           | briffle wrote:
           | I had this exact same argument with a family member who's
           | legal name is William, but has gone by 'Bill" his whole
           | life...
        
           | omginternets wrote:
           | Do you think legislators and employers should get involved in
           | decisions about nicknames? If so, that would make you some
           | sort of authoritarian.
           | 
           | And this is what the debate is really about: authoritarian vs
           | libertarian political attitudes. I'm certainly ready to have
           | that debate, but it would require the "woke left" [0] to
           | abandon the moral high-ground.
           | 
           | [0] There's surely a better term to use, but I can't think of
           | it right now.
        
             | klyrs wrote:
             | Freedom to choose one's gender _is_ a libertarian value.
             | Would you rather the government pick one for you?
        
               | omginternets wrote:
               | As I've said before: we _agree_ on this point.
               | 
               | Where we seem to disagree is on the question of whether
               | government, employers or other institutional powers have
               | the power to silence those who don't see it our way. If
               | we do indeed disagree, then by definition you lean
               | towards authoritarian politics. You are willing to go
               | further than I in restricting freedom of expression to
               | defend trans people. You may even be right, but that
               | makes you more authoritarian than me.
               | 
               | Why does this matter? Because it's the actual subject of
               | debate. I want trans people to be treated with respect
               | too, but my political opinion is that authoritarianism is
               | the wrong way to achieve this outcome.
               | 
               | I think you will find that many people who reject
               | identity politics / CRT / etc don't actually hate trans
               | people. They fear authoritarian mobs and the governments
               | they elect.
               | 
               | (Apologies for the multiple stealth-edits. It sometimes
               | takes me a few tries to articulate my thoughts.)
        
               | klyrs wrote:
               | Woah there, you're putting a whole lot of assumptions on
               | me. I'm not against the rights of white men being up for
               | debate in the public sphere any more or less than the
               | rights of transgender people.
               | 
               | But we live in an authoritarian system which limits the
               | rights of transgender people by various means. It's
               | better in the US than it is in the UK, which in turn is
               | much better than Saudi Arabia. The Gender Critical folks
               | want more authoritarianism. They want the government to
               | decide your gender, and segregate transgender people from
               | cisgender people.
        
               | omginternets wrote:
               | >you're putting a whole lot of assumptions on me
               | 
               | Not at all, I promise.
               | 
               | If you reread, you'll surely notice the qualifier
               | "seems". I used it precisely because I can't be sure what
               | you actually think, and can therefore only talk about
               | surface-level appearances. Please be assured that I am
               | doing my best to interpret your comments charitably, and
               | assuming the best of your character :)
               | 
               | >But we live in an authoritarian system which limits the
               | rights of transgender people by various means.
               | 
               | I believe you are confusing authoritarianism with
               | something else. Authoritarianism is roughly the idea that
               | institutions (government, businesses, etc.) should exert
               | more control over individuals. The presence of inequities
               | don't qualify as authoritarianism on their own, and
               | neither does outright discrimination. To illustrate:
               | discriminating against a group doesn't imply that
               | government should have more control over individuals.
               | It's definitely bad, but it's something else.
               | 
               | I would urge you not to conflate the two, as this is
               | precisely what prevents the majority of liberals from
               | adhering to CRT _et al._
               | 
               | >They want the government to decide your gender, and
               | segregate transgender people from cisgender people.
               | 
               | I don't know if you're talking about the US, the UK or
               | Saudi Arabia here, but in the US and UK -- two countries
               | in which I have, incidentally, lived for quite some time
               | -- this is not what the majority of CRT-critics want. The
               | majority are attached to liberal values, and are
               | concerned that the confusion of ideas that permeates CRT
               | discourse (of which your earlier conflation is an
               | example) lead its proponents to the conclusion that
               | authoritarian measures are desirable.
        
               | klyrs wrote:
               | > You are willing to go further than I in restricting
               | freedom of expression to defend trans people. You may
               | even be right, but that makes you more authoritarian than
               | me.
               | 
               | Sorry, no. I'm not sure how many "seems" you've inserted
               | since my first reading, but those two sentences are what
               | I characterize as putting assumptions on me. You continue
               | to respond to things I haven't said, so I'll stop trying.
               | Have a nice day.
        
               | alach11 wrote:
               | > Where we seem to disagree is on the question of whether
               | government, employers or other institutional powers have
               | the power to silence those who don't see it our way
               | 
               | Isn't it the default case that employers can set rules
               | about how employees speak to each other? Do you see
               | anything wrong with an employer saying "you must make a
               | good-faith effort to call people by their preferred name
               | and pronouns"?
        
             | mike00632 wrote:
             | My point was that this is not about how personally
             | difficult it is for you to respect someone else's
             | preferences. It's actually very easy and we do it all the
             | time for other things, like nicknames. If you're so against
             | trans people having similar status as you then you
             | shouldn't claim that it's because trans people are causing
             | you a burden.
        
               | omginternets wrote:
               | >If you're so against trans people having similar status
               | as you then you shouldn't claim that it's because trans
               | people are causing you a burden.
               | 
               | Yes, I understand. But, much of the opposition you're
               | seeing isn't because people are "against trans people".
               | It's because they're opposed solving the problem of
               | intolerance through authoritarian methods.
        
               | mike00632 wrote:
               | Aren't you being the "authoritarian" by insisting on
               | calling people by the wrong nicknames (gender), promoting
               | laws that outlaw nickname (gender) preference and going
               | as far as violence if that person continues to disagree
               | with your name (gender)?
               | 
               | The proposed protections for trans people are in response
               | to real acts of violence that are not in line with laws
               | like the 14th Amendment which promotes equality for all
               | people.
               | 
               | And let's remember that these laws to protect trans
               | people are only being proposed. Many laws on the books
               | are against trans people. What you're reacting to is
               | _social_ pressure to treat trans people with respect, not
               | authoritarian legal pressure. If anyone is feeling
               | authoritarian legal pressure it 's trans people.
        
               | omginternets wrote:
               | >Aren't you being the "authoritarian" by insisting on
               | calling people by the wrong nicknames (gender) ...
               | 
               | Of course not. I'm perhaps being an asshole, but
               | authoritarianism is a concept applied to policymaking,
               | not manners. It roughly translates to the belief that
               | institutions should have more power over individuals.
               | Calling people the wrong name, no matter how mean-
               | spirited, is expressing no such belief.
               | 
               | The point is that certain things -- bad though they may
               | be -- are not to be legislated. You may disagree with
               | this premise, and you may even be correct, and that would
               | definitionally make you lean towards authoritarianism.
               | 
               | To reiterate, many people -- myself included -- agree
               | with you that it is unkind to call trans people the wrong
               | name. Where you seem to disagree with us is that we find
               | the prospect of things like compelled speech to be
               | terrifying and fundamentally at odds with the principles
               | of liberal government.
        
           | newsbinator wrote:
           | I defer to nicknames, but if the State or my university or my
           | company forced me to, on pain of getting fired, expelled,
           | fined, or worse, then I wouldn't want to defer to nicknames
           | anymore on principle.
           | 
           | I don't care what gender someone calls themselves, and as a
           | nice person I'll try to remember and use it, so long as they
           | don't attempt to get me fired if I get it wrong.
        
             | mike00632 wrote:
             | What if you insist on calling that person by the wrong name
             | even though you know it's not what they prefer? That seems
             | like a pretty good example of creating a toxic work
             | environment and you should be fired over it.
        
               | RealStickman_ wrote:
               | That's called being an asshole
        
               | omginternets wrote:
               | It would depend on the specifics. There is a difference
               | between harassing someone and not deferring to their
               | request on the basis that you don't agree with it
               | (however misguided you may be).
               | 
               | Conflating these two things is precisely why there's a
               | backlash against CRT _et al._ from otherwise left-leaning
               | individuals.
        
               | golemiprague wrote:
               | Name has no factual meaning, it is an ID, referring to
               | someone as male or female indicates a fact, the way you
               | see the world. It is like demanding saying about someone
               | that he is tall even though he is short factually. So I
               | don't think it is a good comparison. Sometimes people
               | sugarcoat reality, especially women when they compliment
               | other women's kids in social media, but that's out of
               | their own will and reasons, not because someone is
               | demanding it from them.
        
         | kwanbix wrote:
         | 100% Agree. At least in my home country, this is mostly fueled
         | by the left (I consider myself center).
         | 
         | Lots of them just "work" of doing nothing but protesting, so
         | once they get something they wanted, they have to move to the
         | next thing.
         | 
         | For example, they start by making changes to the language so,
         | instead of being "los" (male) or "las" (female) they started to
         | say "les" (does not exists in spanish) as they say it is more
         | inclusive (nor male nor female).
         | 
         | But it is not that they say "los", "las", and "les", they want
         | you to say "les". So first it was an "innocent" thing, and now
         | they are trying to pass laws and indoctrinate everyone,
         | included kids from any age, 6 years old or less.
        
           | lotu wrote:
           | Language is defined by the people who speak it, not by some
           | authority. If people are using "les" than it is part of
           | Spanish.
        
             | throwaway894345 wrote:
             | The parent is pretty clearly saying that "les" wasn't
             | previously a Spanish word, because HN is an English
             | language forum and some of us don't know that. Let's not
             | nitpick the English of folks for whom it's a second
             | language.
        
             | kwanbix wrote:
             | If it was natural an used by all, it could be, but it in
             | this case it was not natural, not used or liked by all, and
             | forced.
             | 
             | For example, thief's use their own words and it is not
             | considered part of Spanish for example.
             | 
             | They started with gender ideology and then started to
             | escalate. And it is not more inclusive if you force me to
             | leave my believes. If you want to be called "les", and you
             | ask nice, I will probably have no problem. Now, if you want
             | me to embrace that "les" is more inclusive because you just
             | say so and you force me to do it, is not part of Spanish.
             | 
             | A similar thing happened with abortion. First they started
             | saying it has to be legal, then that it had to be free, and
             | then that if you are a doctor and you don't agree with
             | abortion you have to do it anyway (they force you to do it
             | by law).
        
               | Djvacto wrote:
               | Do you have any more information on the abortion policy
               | you're using as a comparison?
               | 
               | Tried to guess which country you were referring to but
               | couldn't find concrete info after a bit of googling.
               | 
               | I don't think the comparison between using more inclusive
               | language to refer to people, and you being forced to
               | abandon your beliefs, makes much sense. Putting aside
               | potential issues with beliefs and their effect on a
               | person's treatment of those around them, no one is
               | forcing you to stop believing whatever it is you believe.
               | 
               | Potentially limited may be how you treat or talk to
               | people, but that is a separate limit than what you are
               | allowed to believe, since once it becomes words or
               | actions, now it's not just in your head but out in
               | reality and potentially affecting others.
        
               | kwanbix wrote:
               | This is in Argentina.
               | 
               | MY MISTAKE: apparently the law does allow a doctor to say
               | no for his believes. I cannot edit the previous post.
               | 
               | Again, so this people today say that you have to say
               | "les", what prevents me from saying I am not filling
               | included, I want everybody to start saying "lus" or
               | "chimichangas" for that matter? The problem for me is
               | that they force you to behave however they want you to
               | behave.
        
               | munk-a wrote:
               | Honestly though, in my day job I've been trying to eschew
               | gendered pronouns across the board - my coworker's gender
               | is not relevant to them being my coworker. For a long
               | time we've promoted gender as the single most defining
               | trait as a person in a way we don't promote with height,
               | weight or even skincolor. It's Mr. Smith and Mrs. Smith
               | that are used as common forms of address - but not Tall
               | Smith or British Smith. I'm pretty much done with such an
               | emphasis being placed on gender in common social
               | interactions, the only thing it's relevant to is who's
               | going to sleep with who which isn't really something I
               | want to discuss at work anyways.
        
               | jhgb wrote:
               | Mr. and Mrs. are not adjectives, though.
        
               | heswrong wrote:
               | >Do you have any more information on the abortion policy
               | you're using as a comparison?
               | 
               | No, s/he doesn't because is talking nonsense:
               | conscientious objectors rights/persons are protected in
               | Argentina by its Constitution and plenty of case law.
               | 
               | Re: Abortion: Doctors can (and have) very much deny to
               | perform or "facilitate" abortions on moral or religious
               | grounds but by law ("Ley del Aborto") they also have the
               | legal obligation to refer the woman/patient WITHOUT delay
               | of any kind to another doctor or another hospital (mostly
               | public ones) to have the procedure.
        
               | kwanbix wrote:
               | My bad, apparently you are right. Doctors can say they
               | don't want to do an abortion.
               | 
               | Just no need to be smartass about "nonsense". I read it
               | somewhere and I don't follow all the news all the time.
        
             | inglor_cz wrote:
             | Some languages actually do have a central authority. IDK
             | about Spanish, but my native language (Czech) definitely
             | has an official standard.
             | 
             | Anyone _can_ , of course, use any weird construction they
             | want, it is just not correct Czech.
        
               | kwanbix wrote:
               | Spanisch also hast it. Real academia espanola
               | 
               | But he post of the other member was about that languages
               | naturally evolve, which is true, but this is forced and
               | unatural.
        
               | joshuamorton wrote:
               | What makes it forced or unnatural? It's intentional, to
               | be sure, but hope does that make it less natural? Or put
               | differently, how do you distinguish between a natural and
               | unnatural change to language?
        
               | kwanbix wrote:
               | Unnatural because they thought of inventing it, they
               | started saying "tod@s" (todos is everyone), didn't catch,
               | they then moved to "todxs", didn't catch, then they said
               | "todes", and because people don't naturally use it. They
               | even use it wrongly all the time. But more importantly,
               | unnatural because if you have to impose it and call me
               | names for not using it, you are doing it wrong.
        
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             | jhgb wrote:
             | > Language is defined by the people who speak it, not by
             | some authority.
             | 
             | This may be true in case of English, but not necessarily in
             | case of many national languages.
        
           | kenjackson wrote:
           | > But it is not that they say "los", "las", and "les", they
           | want you to say "les".
           | 
           | Trying to indoctrinate kids to use a non-gender specific
           | term? It seems like using the term indoctrinate seems a tad
           | strong.
        
             | kwanbix wrote:
             | No, left people in my home country do it all the time.
             | 
             | In general they are "militants" of the Peronist party.
             | 
             | There are videos and books for kids that shows Peron,
             | Evita, and more recently our current Vice President as
             | heroes and such.
             | 
             | https://i.imgur.com/zgVUcjS.jpg There it literally says:
             | Peron is the leader, everybody loves Peron, everybody sings
             | long live Peron!, long live the leader! hurrah!
             | 
             | https://i.imgur.com/gkqespa.jpg This one is about Evita,
             | Peron's wife: Evita loves the kids. The boys and girls love
             | Eva. Long live Evita! Hurrah! Hurrah!
             | 
             | This two are pages of books for kids of elementary school
             | from 60 something years ago.
             | 
             | However, you can still see in school:
             | 
             | https://i.imgur.com/MJuFrQx.jpg This one shows Cristina
             | Kirchner, our current VP, in a book that tries to
             | "leftiside" the kids.
             | 
             | https://i.imgur.com/YIgEDja.jpg that is the results, kids
             | with the "La Campora" a militant group from peronism.
             | 
             | https://i.imgur.com/Ei2VWG0.jpg And there again.
             | 
             | It is what has brought Argentina to is knees.
        
         | tshaddox wrote:
         | I don't see any irony there, because there is a huge difference
         | between accepting that certain personal characteristics
         | _shouldn 't_ matter, and accepting that people nevertheless
         | _do_ face a wide range of problems because of their personal
         | characteristics that shouldn 't matter. The former has
         | experienced some progress as you mention (at least for what's
         | considered acceptable to voice publicly), but the latter
         | appears to be highly controversial.
        
         | evo wrote:
         | There's a nuance here: it's possible to both want systemic
         | change on the macro scale, but also meanwhile seek a local
         | maximum for oneself given the current system dynamics at play.
         | 
         | By proxy, I might advocate that income inequality is too high,
         | and that some form of wealth redistribution should be
         | considered. You might say that, therefore, I ought to donate my
         | entire salary to charities. Someone might do that, as a radical
         | stand against capitalism, and I would support that. However, I
         | would also support someone that is trying to seek better wages
         | under the current system, even if they do support wealth
         | redistribution on the wider political scale--in context, it's
         | understandable.
         | 
         | Translating that back to the original space, it seems that you
         | advocate that someone that might today identify as a trans
         | woman might instead identify as a man (or person) with
         | phenotypically female presentation, due to medical treatment,
         | and with a significant number of traditionally feminine
         | attributes, as 'personal characteristics shouldn't matter'.
         | This would place them in the vanguard of challenging gender
         | dynamics. I think that's admirable of people that choose to do
         | that. I understand that many other trans folk want to challenge
         | the status quo less severely, and identifying as their gender
         | allows them increased safety, sanity, and happiness within the
         | confines of the current world.
        
         | yanderekko wrote:
         | >However this whole debate is reversing that by not only saying
         | it matters a great deal but that other people should be forced
         | to defer to others personal choices even when it directly
         | affects them
         | 
         | Yep, and the problem is that this is obviously a principal that
         | is not going to be impartially implied, but instead that
         | deference towards personal identity is going to be parceled out
         | based on tribal lines - look how common it is for many on the
         | left to argue that black conservatives are "not really black"
         | (or maybe they're black, but not Black?)
         | 
         | The battle for trans rights is intertwined much more tightly
         | with a battle for control of language - extending to
         | affirmative demands that others deeply change their normal
         | language to avoid giving unintentional offense - than any other
         | civil rights push I can think of, and I wonder if this will
         | become more commonplace in the future.
        
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         | smoldesu wrote:
         | This was ironically one of the things that was hardest about
         | coming out as gay, for me. Nobody ever treated me the same way
         | again. I was either uncomfortably praised or silently judged,
         | with practically no in-between. Suffice to say, my sexuality is
         | on a need-to-know basis, now.
        
           | r00fus wrote:
           | As someone who is CIS, I also don't try to imply a sexuality
           | in myself or others unless I'm with people I know. I try not
           | to speak about my wife, but my "spouse" and try to use
           | gender-neutral terms where appropriate.
        
             | lovegoblin wrote:
             | > As someone who is CIS
             | 
             | I often wonder where this misconception originated: why do
             | people think that "cis" is an acronym? What do they think
             | it stands for? It's just a prefix; the antonym of "trans."
        
               | delecti wrote:
               | I've seen people mistakenly assert the backronym
               | "comfortable in skin". I'm not sure why else it would be
               | so common.
        
           | koonsolo wrote:
           | > my sexuality is on a need-to-know basis, now.
           | 
           | Ideal solution, because the people who don't care also don't
           | care to know. And those who do care definitely don't need to
           | know.
        
           | f38zf5vdt wrote:
           | As a visible minority because of my race, I wish I had the
           | option. I just try to avoid meat space.
        
             | a1369209993 wrote:
             | > I just try to avoid meat space.
             | 
             | This is really the best solution, to the extent possible.
             | On the internet no one knows you're a dog, as the saying
             | goes.
        
               | throwkeep wrote:
               | This is changing tho, with avatars and pronouns and
               | emojis that display skin color. Now a thumbs up in Slack
               | is segregated by color. Why people don't see this as an
               | incredibly bad idea, I don't know.
        
               | munk-a wrote:
               | We've got that happening by gender as well - dancing is a
               | gender independent activity, I don't understand why I
               | need to pick a gender to express when I want to say "I
               | feel like dancing".
               | 
               | It honestly feels extremely regressive.
        
               | smoldesu wrote:
               | In all fairness, the good old yellow ones still work fine
               | too. It's not like they were overwritten by the constant
               | burden of choosing a race for your ephemeral internet
               | hand.
        
           | jacquesm wrote:
           | And the reverse: your sexuality - or anybody else's who is
           | not my mate - is not on my list of 'want-to-know'. I simply
           | do not care about the choices and/or attributes of other
           | people though I believe they should be 100% free to make
           | whatever choice they want and be whoever they are, and have
           | gone out of my way to ensure that this is the case for people
           | who find their life's choices frustrated or their reality
           | denied by others.
           | 
           | This is probably a sign of my advancing age, I'm probably a
           | prude by today's standards, but I simply don't find these
           | subjects for semi-public or even public discussion with
           | strangers.
        
           | robotnikman wrote:
           | Same here. I only address my sexuality when the topic comes
           | up or with good friends. Otherwise I have noticed people do
           | treat me differently, as was apparent at my previous
           | workplace.
        
           | TimTheTinker wrote:
           | It's weird to me that sexuality and identity are so
           | intertwined. Why should someone "come out" as anything?
           | 
           | (I know a lot of people "come out" as various things in a
           | mere bid for attention... I'll leave that issue aside.)
           | 
           | If I knew someone casually for a while who never talked about
           | his/her sexuality, but one day they said "I never said this
           | before, but I'm a heterosexual", I'd certainly feel awkward
           | about it. Why did he/she say that to _me_?
           | 
           | To take it further, why phrase it "I am ..." instead of "I
           | have ... desires"? If the latter sounds awkward, why is the
           | former any _less_ awkward?
        
             | watwut wrote:
             | People come out, because they keep their gayness secret for
             | a whole lot of good reasons. The alternative to coming put
             | is not dating your boyfriend and going to reataurant. It is
             | making sure no one ever see you with him, kiss him, hold
             | his hands.
             | 
             | Also, parents and relative reacting badly on finding out
             | ypu are gay are not exactly unheard of. There are also
             | plenty of accepting parents, sure. But as heterosexual,
             | they already assume you are one and you dont have to guess
             | whether it will be breaker for them or not.
        
             | delecti wrote:
             | It's because it was ostracized for so long. If most of
             | society is telling you that something is wrong with you,
             | then you'll seek out other people who share that trait and
             | develop a sense of community with them. It's normal to
             | identify with your community.
        
             | ssully wrote:
             | Because it is something they felt the need to repress for a
             | potentially long portion of their life. Coming out is the
             | start of a process to release the pressure that has built
             | up from that repression and letting the person's personal
             | view of themselves realign with the public view of
             | themselves.
             | 
             | Also, yes it is weird that sexuality and identity are
             | intertwined, but that is not something that is new and it
             | is something that is tied to all sexualities, including
             | heterosexuals.
        
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             | smoldesu wrote:
             | The experience of "coming out" (to me) was reconciling my
             | sexuality with my family. In America, you're basically born
             | straight and everyone in your family assumes so. The
             | easiest part of it was coming out to my close friends, who
             | already know that I'm not vain or chasing attention with
             | it. The harder half is finding some way to frame it to your
             | parents (and grandparents). Knocking on their door, sitting
             | down in their home and eating their food is just
             | irreversibly ruined. In some sense, I know it's my fault:
             | I'm basically telling them that their bloodline ends here,
             | I hope they enjoyed their transient acknowledgement on this
             | earth while it lasts. That's a tough pill to swallow for a
             | generation that's all about making the idyllic "50s family"
             | a reality.
             | 
             | > To take it further, why phrase it "I am ..." instead of
             | "I have ... desires"? If the latter sounds awkward, why is
             | the former any less awkward?
             | 
             | I wish we could do that too, but if I told that to people
             | now I'm gay _and_ a freak. Society won 't care one way or
             | the other, because queerness is political now. You're
             | either with "them" or against "us", and never the two shall
             | meet.
             | 
             | That's just my view on it though. I'm only 1 (one) gay
             | person out of millions, so take my anecdata with a grain of
             | salt.
        
               | throwaway894345 wrote:
               | > In some sense, I know it's my fault: I'm basically
               | telling them that their bloodline ends here, I hope they
               | enjoyed their transient acknowledgement on this earth
               | while it lasts. That's a tough pill to swallow for a
               | generation that's all about making the idyllic "50s
               | family" a reality.
               | 
               | That is an uncommonly insightful and empathetic
               | characterization.
        
             | orthecreedence wrote:
             | I think many times coming out is about reconciling
             | expectations with reality. If people assume one thing about
             | you but that is not the case, coming out can be a way to
             | correct assumptions. In a sense, _not_ coming out can feel
             | like lying to those close to you.
             | 
             | It can also have the effect of making a relationship more
             | close...sharing something intimate with someone can
             | strengthen a friendship (or, obviously, break it in some
             | cases).
        
             | notJim wrote:
             | > Why should someone "come out" as anything?
             | 
             | > Why did he/she say that to me?
             | 
             | Isn't this just the process of getting to know someone? As
             | you get to know someone, you share more information about
             | yourself. I think it's a pretty normal desire for people
             | you spend time around to understand you, and part of that
             | is understanding the way you relate to other people.
        
             | dougmwne wrote:
             | It's only weird to you because you are almost certainly
             | straight, cis and male. Let me explain.
             | 
             | All of society is structured around your identity. Like the
             | fish, you can't even see the water because you have always
             | been in it. I'm unlikely to help you see the water, but let
             | me at least try.
             | 
             | If you meet a friend, he might comment he saw a movie with
             | his new girlfriend. He shows you a photo on his phone and
             | you say she's really cute and nice catch. He asks if you
             | want to grab a beer later. You say you have to pick up your
             | wife from the airport later and pick up the kids from their
             | school.
             | 
             | All of this, the girlfriend, the comment she's cute, the
             | wife the kids, they are your life. It is who you are. If
             | someone asks what you are doing later, it's all you have to
             | say, because that's what you do. It is your identity.
             | 
             | I have a partner. We have lived together for 14 years. In
             | order to tell you anything about myself, I have to tell you
             | about him too. It is my life. It is what I do. This is who
             | I am.
             | 
             | Coming out is something you do with each and every new
             | person you meet. I am not rubbing your face in my
             | sexuality. I'm just talking about me. If I tell you I went
             | out for lunch, but avoid telling you with who, that is in
             | the closet. If I tell you it was with my boyfriend, that is
             | out of the closet.
             | 
             | So yup, done hiding here, and not going to start again
             | because some people might be clueless or treat me as less.
             | 
             | Edit: nice, downvotes. Did I make you feel silly for
             | listening to taking points from bigots?
        
               | jfengel wrote:
               | Thank you, that was very nicely said.
               | 
               | It's distressing the degree to which people want to blame
               | others for their identities while regarding their own as
               | some kind of fundamental default of nature. It's only
               | "identity politics" when it's somebody else's identity.
        
               | dougmwne wrote:
               | Thanks. I think that gets lost easily in these
               | discussions. This is my family. My partner, my mother and
               | father-in-law, my sister-in-law, my nephew, my home, my
               | plans for the future. It's connected to everything I
               | might tell you about my life over the past 14 years.
               | Having someone label all that as "awkward" or "political"
               | is pretty extreme, especially when the person suggesting
               | it doesn't even have a hint at the enormity of what they
               | just said. It's the very definition of "casual erasure",
               | something that sounds political and till someone comes up
               | to you and tries to erase you.
               | 
               | Edit: to the people down voting my mother-in-law, she is
               | a kind and caring woman!
        
               | oceanplexian wrote:
               | I don't think you deserve to be downvoted but I don't
               | believe having a conversation about heterosexual
               | relationships is somehow free of consequences. Even if I
               | had a conversation about a partner who is straight,
               | people are going to make snap judgements about the their
               | appearance, what they do for work, what religion they
               | belong to (Be prepared to be judged if it is the wrong
               | one!) etc.
               | 
               | Many children have been disowned by their parents because
               | they fell in love with someone from the wrong family.
               | There is no shortage of thousand year old stories and
               | plays describing this exact situation. So, the idea that
               | "Like the fish, you can't even see the water because you
               | have always been in it." doesn't really resonate with me.
               | That doesn't mean our society is free from discrimination
               | and unfair treatment, but painting people with a broad
               | brush serves to alienate those who might be your allies,
               | and is ironically the very thing you are advocating
               | against.
        
               | dougmwne wrote:
               | I think you need to experience some discrimination to see
               | the "water." It gives you an ability to better understand
               | what other people deal with, even if you don't share
               | their identity. I absolutely think experiencing religious
               | discrimination, gender discrimination and so on can give
               | you lots of empathy for a person not like you, but
               | dealing with similar challenges.
               | 
               | To me it's pretty clear the person I was responding to
               | had zero frame of reference to what discrimination feels
               | like, which is why I said so. I really don't know how to
               | get that through to a person with words alone. I think
               | there needs to be a parallel experience to build on.
               | 
               | It's no broad brush to say that a person who thinks
               | sexual orientation has no bearing on identity must be
               | squarely within the favored majority.
        
               | smoldesu wrote:
               | > To me it's pretty clear the person I was responding to
               | had zero frame of reference to what discrimination feels
               | like, which is why I said so.
               | 
               | I sympathize with you here, I really do: but making such
               | broad assumptions is a bad way to foster real, productive
               | conversations. Identity and queerness are deeply personal
               | topics with all sorts of nuance and interplay between
               | them. I appreciate that you're living your truth, but
               | coming off with this "scorched earth" rhetoric isn't
               | going to win you any fans.
        
             | bob_roberts wrote:
             | > Why should someone "come out" as anything?
             | 
             | Because the choice is either to hide important aspects of
             | yourself, or else come out, whether that's explicitly by
             | saying something, or implicitly by your actions.
             | 
             | In my case, if I didn't explicitly come out as nonbinary /
             | trans, the change in my wardrobe and appearance was going
             | to "out" myself regardless. It seemed healthier and
             | emotionally safer to be upfront about it with the people I
             | know.
             | 
             | In your example, a person doesn't have to "come out" as
             | heterosexual, they can just introduce their spouse, or
             | mention who they are dating. Maybe in an ideal world that
             | would be the case for everyone, but it's not today.
        
             | Karrot_Kream wrote:
             | > If I knew someone casually for a while who never talked
             | about his/her sexuality, but one day they said "I never
             | said this before, but I'm a heterosexual", I'd certainly
             | feel awkward about it. Why did he/she say that to me?
             | 
             | That's because the dominant mode of society in _most_
             | cultures involves a heterosexual identity; it's just so
             | deeply embedded in culture that most people can't tell. For
             | the longest time, it was (and still is in many cultures)
             | socially acceptable for men to ogle women. Why? Because
             | there was a tacit understanding that part of being a man
             | meant being hypersexual, and because all men are attracted
             | to women (in this trope), ogling women is just part of
             | "being a man". This ties a man's behavior and identity with
             | his sexuality.
        
       | anoncake wrote:
       | "Gender critical" people claim that someone's sex cannot be
       | changed, not even using surgery and hormones. So what is sex
       | then? Obviously not one's hormones as those can be replaced just
       | fine. That leaves chromosomes, primary and secondary
       | characteristics.
       | 
       | They also claim that gender is more important than sex. When
       | they, for example, address someone as "Dear Mr. Smith", they must
       | be referring to their sex then. Which means they mean something
       | like:
       | 
       | - "Dear Smith, who has XY chromosomes"
       | 
       | - "Dear Smith, who has a natural grown penis"
       | 
       | - "Dear Smith, who has a penis that works well enough that I
       | consider them a man
       | 
       | - "Dear Smith, who can grow a beard"
       | 
       | - "Dear Smith, whose shoulder width is typical for a human male"
       | 
       | All of these are either bafflingly irrelevant, fucked up or
       | inaccurate. So how exactly is one's sex relevant to anyone except
       | their doctors and partners?
       | 
       | > In February, when Donna Hughes, a professor of women\u2019s
       | studies at Rhode Island University, published an article critical
       | of gender ideology, petitions sprouted calling for her to be
       | fired.
       | 
       | The article, which the Economist didn't bother to link to:
       | 
       | https://4w.pub/fantasy-worlds-on-the-political-right-and-lef...
       | 
       | It's more of a pamphlet filled with lies, sexism and conspiracy
       | theories. I think academic freedom is too important to fire her
       | over this, but I understand the petitions.
       | 
       | > In February Holly Lawford-Smith, a professor of philosophy at
       | the University of Melbourne, launched a website which invited
       | women to describe their experiences of sharing female-only spaces
       | with trans women. It is not a research project and its reports
       | are unverified. Most describe a feeling of discomfort rather than
       | any form of physical assault.
       | 
       | So? I'm sure some women feel uncomfortable around black women. Or
       | lesbians. Someone feeling uncomfortable around people of a given
       | group is a common cause of discrimination and bigotry.
       | 
       | > If Maya Forstater, a British researcher who lost her job
       | because of her gender-critical views
       | 
       | No, Mr. Forstater lost his job not because of his views but
       | because "It is a core component of her belief that she will refer
       | to a person by the sex she considered appropriate even if it
       | violates their dignity and/or creates an intimidating, hostile,
       | degrading, humiliating or offensive environment".[1]
       | 
       | [1] https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-50858919
        
         | mkr-hn wrote:
         | Maya Forstater might be a trash goblin and disgrace to
         | humanity, but she's still a she last I heard.
        
           | anoncake wrote:
           | She's in no position to complain, is she?
        
             | mkr-hn wrote:
             | A huge part of advocating for the right to self-identify is
             | about respecting identity whether you like/respect someone
             | or not. She didn't get her contract renewed because she
             | made it clear she was going to be an asshole to coworkers
             | on this exact dimension.
             | 
             | Correct gendering/identification is not something you have
             | to earn. I still write J.K. Rowling's name out like that
             | because it's how she goes by even though I wouldn't waste
             | spit on her in hell.
        
               | anoncake wrote:
               | I was being petty, yes.
        
               | mfarris wrote:
               | J.K. Rowling has stated her love of transpeople and her
               | wish to see them be fully accepted members of society.
               | She has differences of opinion about the best political
               | approach to achieving equality.
               | 
               | Because she makes a rational, temperate argument that you
               | do not like, you "wouldn't waste spit on her in hell."
               | 
               | Which of you is the more hateful?
        
               | [deleted]
        
       | pgcj_poster wrote:
       | I'm not going to read or respond to any of the comments in this
       | thread because I don't want to self-harm today. However, I have
       | to comment on the site linked in the article,
       | noconflicttheysaid.org, because it's absolutely hilarious. It has
       | stories about the supposed negative impact of trans women in
       | women's spaces. I'm not cherry-picking; from the top, the stories
       | on the first two pages are:
       | 
       | 1. A woman and her two daughters went into a _unisex_ bathroom.
       | As you might expect, there were men there. Then nothing happened.
       | Also, several years earlier, she went into a women 's bathroom
       | that indicated it allowed transgender women, but there weren't
       | any there. https://www.noconflicttheysaid.org/post/scienceworks-
       | immunol...
       | 
       | 2. A trans woman in a Facebook group for mothers was trying to
       | simulate a pregnancy and asked people there to share their
       | experience with miscarriages since she knew she couldn't have a
       | baby in the end. She also said she would like to breastfeed
       | someone else's baby. As far as it's indicated, these requests
       | were not made to anyone in particular, they were just posted in
       | Facebook group. https://www.noconflicttheysaid.org/post/online-
       | group-for-bre...
       | 
       | 3. Some trans students at a girl's school don't have to wear the
       | uniform, miss school a lot, and do school projects on transgender
       | issues. Apparently, other students resent them for this.
       | https://www.noconflicttheysaid.org/post/all-girls-senior-sch...
       | 
       | 4. A trans woman cursed at some counter-protesters at a trans
       | rights rally. In the included video, we see that this was in
       | reaction to the counter-protesters (although not the same ones
       | apparently) spraying water(?) at people.
       | https://www.noconflicttheysaid.org/post/who-s-unsafe-on-camp...
       | 
       | 5. A woman who was previously sexually assaulted by men says that
       | she gets nervous and her body tenses up when she's sees a large
       | man. She claims that this is something trans women will never
       | understand. This is completely ridiculous: I myself have this
       | reaction too if I'm alone or it's at night (in a way I did not
       | before I transitioned), and I know other trans women who have
       | similar anxieties about men in general. Anyway, the story is that
       | a trans woman on a bus (where trans women have always been
       | allowed) told some young women that they were pretty and asked
       | them where they bought clothes and underwear. I'll admit that's a
       | bit creepy, but no more so than things men already say to women
       | in public spaces. And again, is the suggestion to ban trans women
       | from buses? https://www.noconflicttheysaid.org/post/trans-woman-
       | harassin...
       | 
       | 6. There was a trans woman in a women's bathroom lingering near
       | the sink. https://www.noconflicttheysaid.org/post/women-s-
       | toilets-in-h...
        
       | foolinaround wrote:
       | while this article focusses on the gender ideology issues, IMHO
       | the censorship in universites is on a wider range of issues, with
       | the common denominator being the viewpoints espoused in far-left
       | circles (not passing judgement here on whether they are right or
       | wrong)
       | 
       | Enforced group-think is going to be the death of these
       | universities.
        
         | metalliqaz wrote:
         | "Enforced group-think is going to be the death of these
         | universities."
         | 
         | How?
        
           | jollybean wrote:
           | By expunging, shaming, expelling, disinviting, cancelling,
           | eschewing, not offering positions, denying grants, avoiding
           | publication, demoting those that don't meet the requirements
           | of a radical orthodoxy.
           | 
           | Noam Chomsky of all people (!), and a bunch of other
           | staunchly centre-left luminaries had to take out a full page
           | ad in Harper's to make the point. [2]
           | 
           | How far would an ugly trend have to exhibit itself in order
           | for these fairly respectable and otherwise mild mannered
           | people to not only 1) notice but 2) act and then 3) make a
           | big show out of it in a worldwide signal?
           | 
           | They tried to cancel Stephen Pinker [2] for postulating that
           | the problem of Law Enforcement in the USA is a generally
           | overbearing justice system, not necessarily specific to one
           | race, although conceding that's a problem. For that utterly
           | reasonable statement, they tried to remove his Chair and
           | participation a bunch of groups. He was fine, but 'they came
           | for him' and were he to have been less prominent, 'they'
           | would have won.
           | 
           | It's intellectual cowardice and social bullying by angry
           | people. My belief is that it's not even ideological at the
           | end of the day, rather, it's the petty expression of power by
           | those who've never had it before and who were transgressed
           | themselves at some earlier point in their lives.
           | 
           | [1] https://thehill.com/blogs/in-the-know/in-the-
           | know/506314-jk-...
           | 
           | [2] https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/15/us/steven-pinker-
           | harvard....
        
             | breckenedge wrote:
             | Here's the actual letter rather than a blog about it:
             | https://harpers.org/a-letter-on-justice-and-open-debate/.
             | Very brief, only three paragraphs.
        
             | selimthegrim wrote:
             | The late (devout Christian!) William Stuntz wrote an entire
             | book (in front of me right now) about the overbearing
             | justice system and and never got cancelled for it.
        
               | jollybean wrote:
               | Pinker's mistake wasn't about 'the justice system' - it
               | was disagreeing with BLM populist orthodoxy.
               | 
               | It's revolutionary 'Reign of Terror' stuff around
               | ostracizing the impure (i.e. Trumpers destroying Romneys,
               | Rubios), not academic disagreement.
        
           | arminiusreturns wrote:
           | Mostly because it is a rejection of first principles
           | thinking, which is a key tool in the toolbelt of critical
           | thinking, supposedly part of any university's mandate.
        
         | bachmeier wrote:
         | > Enforced group-think is going to be the death of these
         | universities.
         | 
         | I've been working at universities for a couple decades now and
         | have never experienced "enforced group-think".
        
           | jollybean wrote:
           | Well then you're both 1) of the same political mindset of the
           | majority and therefore less likely to notice and 2) unwilling
           | to take the social temperature of such things because it's
           | obviously happening [1] and there is a mountain of empirical
           | evidence to support the fact that students and faculty are
           | wary of speaking their minds.
           | 
           | [1] https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/rabble-
           | rouser/201811...
        
             | bachmeier wrote:
             | I very seriously doubt that a middle-aged white male
             | economics professor (who grew up in the sticks in North
             | Dakota, no less) is of the same political mindset of "the
             | majority".
             | 
             | > students and faculty are wary of speaking their minds
             | 
             | If you're worried about disapproval of others, being an
             | academic is the wrong industry for you. If academic freedom
             | and the first amendment aren't enough to protect your
             | speech, you'd really be in trouble working in any other
             | industry.
             | 
             | Now if you're going to claim that _in society at large_ you
             | have to use restraint when talking, and that you 'll be
             | attacked by people of all political views, I'd probably
             | agree. That's pretty different from what you wrote.
        
           | notahacker wrote:
           | Funnily enough, I spoke earlier this week with an academic
           | whose concern about recent developments was that legal/policy
           | papers he was writing for government departments were much
           | more likely to be unpublished or partially redacted than in
           | previous decades, for reasons which had nothing to do with
           | culture warring.
           | 
           | Easy to see why governments would prefer the public believe
           | the real threat to university research was a handful of
           | students picketing the intentionally provocative...
        
       | danielodievich wrote:
       | One of my favorite sci-fi authors is Ian M. Banks (discussed here
       | on HN with regularity). His Culture series describe a post-
       | scarcity interstellar society of human(oid)s who among many, many
       | things can change their own gender just by thinking about it.
       | After suitable body alteration time, you can be a male, female,
       | or even something in between (that happens to be important part
       | of one of the characters in one of the books), with most citizens
       | transferring back and forth at least once to act as both a father
       | and a mother at least once in their long lifetime.
       | 
       | In this society, there is no gender inequality. Ian's own "A Few
       | Notes on the Culture" essay
       | http://www.vavatch.co.uk/books/banks/cultnote.htm states it best:
       | 
       |  _A society in which it is so easy to change sex will rapidly
       | find out if it is treating one gender better than the other;
       | within the population, over time, there will gradually be greater
       | and greater numbers of the sex it is more rewarding to be, and so
       | pressure for change - within society rather than the individuals
       | - will presumably therefore build up until some form of sexual
       | equality and hence numerical parity is established._
       | 
       | Until our science invents this, this is a great thought
       | experiment to conduct.
        
         | dekhn wrote:
         | You may also enjoy some of John Varley's early work (the short
         | stories and books about the Eight Worlds). Physical sex changes
         | (by cloning a new body and plopping the brain in, plus some
         | extra "science magic" to make that work) are routine.
        
         | JabavuAdams wrote:
         | I really loved Banks' work. Sadly he's gone. But there was
         | always this split between the humanoids and the Minds. I want
         | to be a Mind, not a humanoid.
        
         | kerkeslager wrote:
         | The Ian M. Banks quote equates gender and sex. That's probably
         | a product of when it was written (1994) and I don't think too
         | badly of Banks for writing it, however, in the contemporary
         | dialogue, these are not equivalent terms. I caution you against
         | getting caught up in an uninteresting semantic argument here:
         | the question isn't one of definitions, but rather whether the
         | phenomena classified as gender (clothing, hairstyles, etc.) are
         | or should be tied to the phenomena classified as sex (genitalia
         | and/or chromosomes). I won't comment my opinion on that as I
         | don't have the time to do it justice, but I will say that to
         | ignore the fact that those phenomena are very much in debate,
         | misses a pretty big point:
         | 
         | That point being, that you _can_ actually change your
         | presentation of gender with relative ease. Norah Vincent did it
         | (dressed as and pretended to be a man) for a year and wrote the
         | book _Self Made Man_ about her experience. The fact that the
         | majority of people never change their presentation of gender
         | and those who do change their presentation tend to feel
         | strongly about it, says that there 's more complexity to the
         | choice of how to dress or style your hair than an economic
         | cost/benefit analysis. The fact is, _people want to be their
         | gender_ even while claiming that their gender is treated
         | poorly, and in the case of trans people, choosing to present in
         | a way that is _obviously_ treated poorly. If the hypothesis
         | that people will gravitate to the gender presentation which is
         | treated most positively were true, few people would choose to
         | be the gender that gets spit on in the grocery store (happened
         | to a trans friend of mine).
        
         | at_a_remove wrote:
         | Sort of a star-bellied sneetches deal, yes.
        
         | jollybean wrote:
         | This won't happen though. It reminds me of 'Star Trek' futurism
         | where we crudely apply some neat technology to our own
         | circumstances, without thinking about the real dynamic changes
         | that would come about if the tech did exist.
         | 
         | If we ever get to the point of this level of technology, then
         | the notion of 'gender' would be completely arcane.
         | 
         | People would be 'growing' wings, tails, horns, extra limbs,
         | extra large brains, fur, hoofs, cross breeding with animals,
         | creating new species in petrie dishes.
         | 
         | The 'regular humans' in that culture would be viewed like we
         | view Amish people or Mennonites.
        
         | dryrun wrote:
         | This seems very interesting, however instinctively I would have
         | thought otherwise, meaning a society would tend towards the
         | most rewarding, to the extreme of resulting in a non viable
         | civilization. If you can change at will, why pick up the losing
         | side?
         | 
         | As much as I would like it to be different, I wouldn't trust
         | the human race with this capability.
         | 
         | Will definitely read, thanks.
        
       | otde wrote:
       | On other subjects on HN (software, mostly), I find curious,
       | questioning people, who will, for the most part, engage very
       | seriously with the subject matter. I think this is because users
       | here engage with software -- the creation, maintenance,
       | collaboration, the joy and misery of it all -- frequently and
       | with a passion for nuance.
       | 
       | When high-visibility articles on trans people show up, it's
       | almost inevitably when our transness -- our ability to move
       | through the world, to exist in certain spaces, or even if we
       | exist at all -- is the subject of debate. I don't know how many
       | cisgender folks here really get how fundamentally exhausting it
       | is to have some part of your identity always be part of a debate,
       | to be talked _about_ or on rare occasions talked _to_ , but
       | almost never engaged _with_ in a substantive way.
       | 
       | It's just fear fear fear, 24/7 -- simulating hypothetical
       | nightmare worlds where trans rapists lurk in bathrooms and
       | prisons, where every Olympic gold medal is taken by a man
       | masquerading as a woman, roving hordes of red-faced trans
       | activists screaming incoherently online at nice, well-meaning,
       | harmless people who just want to learn.
       | 
       | I just wanted to put out there that the flattened, simplified
       | perspectives trans people are portrayed with may not give you the
       | whole picture, and I'd encourage people here to give perspectives
       | from trans people the same (well, more, preferably) curiosity and
       | interest that you might give to scare quotes and soundbites about
       | prisons, bathrooms, and sports.
        
         | worik wrote:
         | I agree that there is more heat than light in these debates.
         | 
         | The Gender Critical Feminists do make up bogeyman stories about
         | rapists in prisons, trans women disrupting breast feeding
         | groups etcetera.
         | 
         | The Trans lobby though has also been guilty of the same sort of
         | thing. E.g. I am no fan of professional sport (I hope this
         | kills it dead) but to claim that trans women have no advantage
         | over natal women is opinion not fact. The main fault line ion
         | our society is gender, and to claim otherwise is simply wrong.
         | (Not all Trans activists do that, just as not all Gender
         | Critical Feminists are mean).
         | 
         | To me it is heartbreaking that this is not about fixing that
         | fault line. No person has the right to take a interest in
         | another person's gender unless they are their doctor or fancy
         | them and are fussy. That is the issue we should address - how
         | boys are raised to be violent sexual predators requiring female
         | admiration and women are raised to be weak victims requiring
         | male support.
         | 
         | That is getting lost, instead of helping fix the fault line,
         | this debate (the excess of heat, deficiency of light) is making
         | it worse.
        
       | 9wzYQbTYsAIc wrote:
       | > _But it would be better if universities, which owe their
       | success to a tradition of dissent and debate, did in fact defend
       | it._
       | 
       | From the article
        
       | dalbasal wrote:
       | I'm surprised that the article isn't more sports-centric.
       | 
       | This "battle," has been mostly an elite-ish, university-centric
       | one this far. Gender studies departments were always known as
       | bastions of avant garde quirkiness. The Germaine Greare's of the
       | world have always been at war with someone, name-calling and
       | whatnot. Theatrical protests aren't new, and neither is their
       | intensity.
       | 
       | Leakage into the real world was indirect at best, and leakage
       | into the elite world was usually in the form of recreational
       | rhetoric. When ordinary people hear about it, it's usually from
       | the politically polar... reaching for examples of crazy social
       | progressives.
       | 
       | Sports though... sports is something people actually care about.
       | That's where "gender ideology" is now, and this is where things
       | start to get serious... where we see what sticks and what
       | doesn't.
       | 
       | Prisons and shelters... those are bystanders, one way or another.
       | 
       | ^ I'm not talking about the actual changes or lack thereof
       | affecting trans people. I'm talking about the war over abstract
       | philosophical points.. which manifest in specific areas such as
       | prisons, sports, etc. The "fat man on a rail cart" scenarios.
        
         | neartheplain wrote:
         | The battle has very much leaked off-campus, and not just in
         | sports. One intense area of disagreement involves the rights of
         | trans children to medically transition without their parents'
         | knowledge or consent. Research consistently shows that most
         | children who identity as trans revert to their original gender
         | identity post-puberty [0]. However, more states are now
         | enabling children to seek and obtain irreversible gender
         | transition care on their own, without parental consent, to
         | include surgery and hormone therapy [1]:
         | 
         | >[Seattle] minors age 13 and up are entitled to admit
         | themselves for inpatient and outpatient mental health treatment
         | without parental consent. Health insurers are forbidden from
         | disclosing to the insured parents' sensitive medical
         | information of minor children--such as that regarding "gender
         | dysphoria [and] gender affirming care." Minors aged 13 to 18
         | can withhold mental health records from parents for "sensitive"
         | conditions, which include both "gender dysphoria" and "gender-
         | affirming care." Insurers in Washington must cover a wide array
         | of "gender-affirming treatments" from tracheal shaves to double
         | mastectomies.
         | 
         | >Oregon passed a law permitting minors 15 and older to obtain
         | puberty blockers, cross-sex hormones, and surgeries at
         | taxpayers' expense--all without parental consent. In 2018,
         | California passed a similar bill for all children in foster
         | care, age 12 and up.
         | 
         | Similarly, in a Canadian family court case involving a 14 year
         | old trans child [2]:
         | 
         | >Attempting to persuade AB to abandon treatment for gender
         | dysphoria; addressing AB by his birth name; referring to AB as
         | a girl or with female pronouns whether to him directly or to
         | third parties; shall be considered to be family violence under
         | s. 38 of the Family Law Act.
         | 
         | In the event where the trans child de-transitions post-puberty,
         | these procedures may leave them with severe body dismorphia or
         | render them unable to produce or bear children.
         | 
         | I don't have kids (yet), but I had body dismorphia as a young
         | adult. It almost killed me, but I grew out of it in time.
         | Fortunately, it wasn't the kind that compelled me to seek life-
         | altering medical procedures. I fear that my future child may
         | suffer from a similar case of _temporary_ body dismorphia, seek
         | and obtain _permanent_ life-altering procedures which I am
         | legally unable to prevent, and later come to deeply regret the
         | damage done to their body by these procedures. Again, the best
         | data we have on trans kids shows that most choose to revert to
         | their original gender identity post-puberty [0].
         | 
         | [0]
         | https://www.thestranger.com/features/2017/06/28/25252342/the...
         | 
         | [1] https://www.city-journal.org/transgender-identifying-
         | adolesc...
         | 
         | [2] https://www.bccourts.ca/jdb-txt/sc/19/06/2019BCSC0604.htm
        
       | Animats wrote:
       | Sudden outbreak of common sense.
       | 
       | We need, on social media, to learn how to deal more effectively
       | with excessively loud, but not very numerous, activists. As some
       | previous articles noted, trolling gets more clicks than facts.
       | This empowers extremists, from Q-Anon on to trans activists.
        
         | ausbah wrote:
         | it's very disingenuous to equate Q-Anon to trans rights
         | activists
        
           | bart_spoon wrote:
           | I'm not sure it is. There are disimilarities of course, but
           | there are enough similarities to support the point they were
           | making. That it makes you uncomfortable doesn't invalidate
           | that.
        
       | lr4444lr wrote:
       | _A flyer with an image of a gun and text reading "shut the fuck
       | up, terf" (trans-exclusionary radical feminist, a slur) was
       | circulating_
       | 
       | Not accepting incivility from people is hardly what I'd call a
       | "backlash". We don't operate our universities on the heckler's
       | veto.
        
         | JanneVee wrote:
         | > We don't operate our universities on the heckler's veto.
         | 
         | I've seen a few videos from various Universities where invited
         | speakers are shouted down because of supposed wrong views. But
         | then it isn't the heckler's veto if their views are wrong or
         | what?
        
           | nemo44x wrote:
           | What's weird is that not long ago is popular to say "I
           | disagree with everything you have to say, but I'd die for
           | your right to say it". It's amazing how times have changed
           | from that shared belief.
           | 
           | The videos you haven't seen are the ones that were never made
           | because the wrong-view person was stopped from even giving
           | their scheduled talk via "de-platforming".
        
             | Latty wrote:
             | Someone having a right to say something doesn't mean they
             | are entitled to every platform to broadcast it.
             | 
             | Not everyone can go and speak at a University, there is not
             | enough time and space for that to be viable, just as not
             | everyone can demand to be broadcast on TV.
             | 
             | If you can't get enough support at a University to speak,
             | the public square and the soapbox are always at your
             | disposal. The government can't arrest you. That is the
             | freedom of expression that is protected.
             | 
             | You are talking about enforced speech, where private
             | individuals must listen to a speaker, and/or use their
             | platform to amplify the speaker's words. It is a violation
             | of _their_ freedom of expression to tell them they cannot
             | refuse or protest against what someone else wishes to say.
        
               | nemo44x wrote:
               | The person in the article was invited by the university.
               | This isn't a random person demanding to be heard. This is
               | the university succumbing to pressure from a small group
               | to ban a guest from sharing their ideas with the student
               | body that choose to attend.
        
               | Latty wrote:
               | The students have a right to freedom of expression in
               | protest.
               | 
               | The University should _absolutely_ be providing speakers
               | that challenge the student 's views and offer ideas they
               | may not agree with, but that's an educational decision,
               | not a free speech one.
               | 
               | If the student body wants to lobby the University not to
               | accept you as a speaker, that's their freedom of the
               | speech, and it is up to the University to weigh that
               | against the potential educational value.
               | 
               | For example, to start somewhere obvious, someone coming
               | in to talk about how your friends are subhuman doesn't
               | provide a lot of educational value, and students rightly
               | don't want their tuition spent enabling it.
               | 
               | Don't like it, use your freedom of speech to demonstrate
               | enough value to your ideas the University and student
               | body are willing to listen. Students are at University
               | for an education, and they have a right to say what they
               | find valuable and demand value from the University.
               | Denying them that is limiting _their_ freedom of
               | expression.
        
               | nemo44x wrote:
               | I think another point of the article is the masses of
               | silent people are starting become less silent. Their
               | politeness has been mistaken for agreement.
               | 
               | The university should only allow speakers that the
               | students agree with? That's sort of ridiculous and an
               | abdication of the university's responsibility to expose
               | their students to challenging and possibly hurtful
               | intellectual thought. I listened to no shortage of
               | intellectuals that criticized white men in western
               | society in many ways for example. And that's Ok if it's
               | thoughtful and with a point, however idiotic I might
               | think it is.
               | 
               | The university has the job of determining what this level
               | is. This speaker wasn't claiming anyone was subhuman. And
               | you don't have to attend - it's simple.
        
             | tetranomiga wrote:
             | It was popular to say, but I challenge the idea that people
             | have somehow become less tolerant of speech they disagree
             | with than, say, Christians in the 1980s or the US
             | government during the Red Scare.
        
               | lr4444lr wrote:
               | They were wrong then, and these people are wrong now.
               | Unfortunately, they also have an indelible record of the
               | internet to hunt down those they don't like for words
               | uttered back to their pubescent years.
        
             | ribosometronome wrote:
             | Among a certain sect of internet libertarians, maybe. And
             | we saw that the result of that was the proliferation of
             | communities on popular websites dedicated to legal but
             | sexually suggestive pictures of girls (ex. /r/jailbait on
             | Reddit), communities dedicated to voyeuristic photography,
             | vitriolic hate against people who are overweight, etc.
        
               | busterarm wrote:
               | I'm sorry but Evelyn Beatrice Hall first wrote those
               | words in 1906, as a description of the beliefs of
               | Voltaire, who died in 1778 and whose ideas were extremely
               | mainstream at the time the US was founded.
               | 
               | These ideas long predate the internet and the Libertarian
               | political party and to box them in as such and dismiss
               | them carelessly is extremely intellectually dishonest and
               | bordering on flamebait.
               | 
               | Additionally, if your best evidence against freedom of
               | speech is Reddit, I suggest you retool your arguments
               | from scratch.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | I'm not convinced the US considered these values
               | mainstream, as exclusion of most people from voting, and
               | from slaves their natural rights shows
        
               | busterarm wrote:
               | Following on nemo44x's response, we also don't really
               | have much written evidence to the contrary.
               | 
               | Literacy rates in late colonial America were 85-90% north
               | of Virginia and around 60% in Virginia and south of it.
               | If large numbers of people were disagreeing, they surely
               | weren't writing about it.
        
               | nemo44x wrote:
               | Western Liberalism is a self correcting, evolving system
               | of ideas and rigorous analysis of what is considered
               | knowledge. So yes, per the people that were considered
               | "the people" during those times, this belief was very
               | strongly held indeed.
        
           | digbybk wrote:
           | > I've seen a few videos from various Universities
           | 
           | I've also seen a few videos from various Universities.
           | _Remarkably few_, given how much attention this topic gets.
        
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         | underseacables wrote:
         | It's too late. The University is now the violent echo chamber,
         | paranoid that the slightest disagreement or questioning of
         | radicalism and power-obsessed minority tribalism, will lead to
         | a collapse of the university's cushy well-paid status as the
         | true halls of higher learning.
        
         | DaiPlusPlus wrote:
         | Also, I'm not aware of anyone who seriously considers "TERF" an
         | _offensive_ slur...
         | 
         | It's like saying "bigot" is a slur, or being more afraid of
         | being labelled a racist than actually being racist...
        
           | ribosometronome wrote:
           | Plenty of TERFs consider it a slur and negative. JK Rowling,
           | for example, wrote: "...activists who clearly believe
           | themselves to be good, kind and progressive people swarmed
           | back into my timeline, assuming a right to police my speech,
           | accuse me of hatred, call me misogynistic slurs and, above
           | all - as every woman involved in this debate will know -
           | TERF."
        
       | noobermin wrote:
       | >"shut the fuck up, TERF" (trans-exclusionary radical feminist, a
       | slur)
       | 
       | I stopped reading there. The protestors are framed as crazy and
       | insane but TERF is a slur, there's no "opinion" marker on the
       | article, it's pretty clear the author is coming from a biased
       | perspective although framed as objective. When they can't even
       | start the article of a controversial topic with even a weak
       | attempt at objectivity I know enough not to indulge.
        
         | kerkeslager wrote:
         | Why don't you quote the whole sentence there?
         | 
         | > A flyer with an image of a gun and text reading "shut the
         | fuck up, terf" (trans-exclusionary radical feminist, a slur)
         | was circulating.
        
           | noobermin wrote:
           | How does that help??? TERF is not a slur, it is definitely
           | used as an epithet, but only the targets of the term call it
           | a slur making it obvious the authors are sympathetic to the
           | terfs.
        
         | octernion wrote:
         | TERF is not a slur, lol. what?
        
         | weakfish wrote:
         | Yeah, asserting TERF, an acronym subsection of feminism, as a
         | slur shows the true feeling behind the article.
        
       | SamoyedFurFluff wrote:
       | I don't know if this article is describing this phenomenon
       | accurately, as the first paragraph contains an obvious falsehood:
       | " A flyer with an image of a gun and text reading "shut the fuck
       | up, terf" (trans-exclusionary radical feminist, a slur) was
       | circulating. ".
       | 
       | TERF isn't a slur. No one has successfully beaten and killed a
       | woman while calling her a TERF and then got away with it in court
       | like the gay panic defense and the trans panic defense has. No
       | one was lynched for being a TERF like black people have been.
       | This is a gross talking point trying to claim victim positioning
       | and is inaccurate journalism. The whole article is suspect to be
       | sympathetic to anti-trans politics as a result.
       | 
       | I do want to talk about how much gender has invaded the academic
       | life in a way that gets in the way of education. Obviously, I
       | don't want even more gender politicking from the other "side"!
        
         | at_a_remove wrote:
         | Well, you could consider counter-examples from terfisaslur.com.
         | You probably even know that such a thing exists, but you failed
         | to bring it up.
         | 
         | An experiment you can perform at home: do an exact search on
         | Google for the phrase "punch a terf" and wonder if this is
         | meant to suggest violence.
        
         | beervirus wrote:
         | > TERF isn't a slur. No one has successfully beaten and killed
         | a woman while calling her a TERF and then got away with it in
         | court
         | 
         | That's hardly the defining characteristic of a slur.
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | SamoyedFurFluff wrote:
           | I've associated the term slur in the common understanding
           | with an actual history of marginalization, and I think the
           | claim is totally unnecessary politicking in the reporting.
        
             | beervirus wrote:
             | A slur is any term that's "a disparaging remark or slight"
             | according to dictionary.com. It's hard to argue they're not
             | using the term TERF as disparaging.
        
               | mike00632 wrote:
               | The problem is that you are saying "TERF" is a slur by
               | using a wide definition but then using the narrow
               | definition to claim it's a travisty to be called a
               | "TERF". The point is that "TERF" is not on the same level
               | as the n-word, f-word or the t-word which you are
               | likening it to when you insist it's a slur. It's simply
               | not harmful to call someone a "TERF" like it is to use
               | slurs against the groups that TERFs are marginalizing.
        
               | beervirus wrote:
               | You're putting words in my mouth. All I'm saying is that
               | it was silly to insist that it _isn't_ a slur.
        
               | mike00632 wrote:
               | Ok, but do you understand why it's incorrect to consider
               | it a slur in this context?
        
               | beervirus wrote:
               | No. Like I said, it's silly to insist that it isn't a
               | slur. The whole argument is rather silly, frankly.
        
         | spiffotron wrote:
         | A slur is an insult, no one has to have died for something to
         | be a slur, not sure where you got that idea from.
        
           | DaiPlusPlus wrote:
           | Right, but "slur" by itself is used as shorthand for
           | "offensive slur" - typically racially-offensive slurs or
           | homophobic slurs, and so on - I'm not aware of normal public
           | discourse referring to everyday insults as "slurs" - whatever
           | the original definition slur had it now has a connotation of
           | insulting the target by way of comparing the target to an
           | intentionally hurtful stereotype. (I could enumerate examples
           | but nothing good can come from that, methinks...)
           | 
           | Whereas "TERF" is an acronym - it isn't appealing to anyone's
           | emotional opinions about what a "TERF" represents - that is
           | if _anyone_ is even clued-up enough to know what it actually
           | means.
           | 
           | Maybe the people complaining are _assuming_ that TERF is an
           | offensive slur without doing their research first? I 'll
           | admit it does have that feel to it, the way it sharply rolls
           | off the tongue...
        
             | kian wrote:
             | TERF both manages to connote something that should be
             | stepped upon and is used to box in a person's opinions to a
             | caricature so that a label can be applied (a stereotype, in
             | other words), rather than listening to what they say. I'd
             | say that between that, karen, anti-vaxxer, and anti-masker,
             | a number of niche slurs have been popularized recently.
        
             | [deleted]
        
         | fwn wrote:
         | Wikipedia writes about that thought in their two opening
         | paragraphs and concludes:
         | 
         | > In academic discourse, there is no consensus on whether or
         | not TERF constitutes a slur.
         | 
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TERF
         | 
         | Sure, if someone uses it in their paper on, for example,
         | history of feminist thought I wouldn't assume it to be
         | offensive. On the other hand I don't think that the intention
         | behind a sentence like "shut the fuck up, terf" is very
         | unclear.
        
           | terfisaslur wrote:
           | Oh yeah Wikipedia has NEVER shown ANY bias on political
           | topics
        
         | seneca wrote:
         | > No one has successfully beaten and killed a woman while
         | calling her a TERF and then got away with it in court like the
         | gay panic defense and the trans panic defense has. No one was
         | lynched for being a TERF like black people have been.
         | 
         | That is a bizarre standard for what constitutes a slur, and
         | would exclude the vast majority of slurs. This reads more like
         | an attempt to inject an emotional appeal to deny a point you
         | personally disagree with.
         | 
         | TERF is a phrase pretty much always used to attack its target.
         | Coupling it with "shut the fuck up" makes the intention pretty
         | clear.
        
           | SamoyedFurFluff wrote:
           | I don't actually care about the term itself, I care that a
           | supposed journalism piece is actually inserting it's own
           | politics so blatantly.
        
         | sorenjan wrote:
         | 1a : an insulting or disparaging remark or innuendo
         | 
         | b : a shaming or degrading effect
         | 
         | https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/slur
        
           | SamoyedFurFluff wrote:
           | It's not shaming to say someone is against trans people nor
           | is it disparaging unless someone is bringing politics and
           | moralism into it. Like I said I don't want even more gender
           | politics from the other "side" as some kind of "backlash"
           | journalistic piece. It's all a wash of nonsense.
        
             | terfisaslur wrote:
             | No one in the mainstream is "against trans people," what
             | they're against is denying biological realities like sexual
             | dimorphism in pursuit of a fashion trend.
             | 
             | I don't care if you're a man and you want to go by she/her,
             | that's totally fine, but you're still not going to be
             | placed in a cell with a female in prison if you've raped
             | someone and happen to be trans identifying, sorry.
        
             | sorenjan wrote:
             | It's a disparaging remark to make it clear that the other
             | person's opinions are wrong and that they as a person is of
             | lesser value and should be ignored or attacked. It's used
             | as a conversation stopper and to polarize the discussion,
             | i.e. rally support from like minded and suppress the other
             | party.
             | 
             | It's also not used merely to say that someone is against
             | trans people, like you suggest. It's used by a toxic
             | community that are immune to nuance and opposed to debate
             | other than to force their own view on everyone else. Very
             | few people are against trans people, but maybe some doesn't
             | buy all of the identity politics. Saying that women
             | menstruate is enough to be labeled a terf by the online
             | mob. There's also rarely any radical feminism expressed by
             | the people being labeled as terfs.
        
         | jdross wrote:
         | A slur is an allegation that is likely to insult them or damage
         | their reputation. That's clearly why terf was used in this
         | context.
         | 
         | I've noticed leftist communities frequently attempting to
         | redefine incendiary words (such as 'racism') as a political
         | tactic, to a lot of success.
        
           | terfisaslur wrote:
           | The onslaught of neologisms and redefinitions come directly
           | from the academic Critical Social Justice fields
           | 
           | These are federally subsidized academic fields
           | 
           | So if you want to see the Left stop redefining words, the
           | public needs to stop funding their careers in academia
        
         | burnished wrote:
         | It seems like the critical thing at stake in this thread is
         | what 'slur' means. Like you, I think of slurs as being only the
         | words associated with minority violence, maybe curse-words+,
         | the sort of thing that would make me feel uncomfortably
         | speaking aloud due to the associations. Evidently other people
         | feel that it means something more like 'insult'. I can't say
         | what this means in the broader context, but it might be a good
         | signal to re-evaluate how you interpreted its use-age in the
         | article.
        
         | gumby wrote:
         | > TERF isn't a slur.
         | 
         | I think the economist's usage was OK, as it appears in the
         | supplied context to have been used _as_ a slur (I 'm not
         | adequately connected on the topic to know what the "normal"
         | usage would be).
         | 
         | > The whole article is suspect to be sympathetic to anti-trans
         | politics as a result.
         | 
         | Clearly, given what I said above, _I_ don 't agree with this
         | diagnosis. In particular I think a few articles like this are a
         | good antidote to the "the universities are insane and have been
         | taken over by crazy extremists" narrative.
         | 
         | Perhaps if this commend page doesn't descend into vitriol, more
         | contextual discussion could lead me or you to modulate our
         | opinion. As I said I don't follow this topic particularly
         | closely, so my interpretation could be naive.
        
           | SamoyedFurFluff wrote:
           | There's a difference between saying it's used as a way to
           | disparage someone and as a slur here. I've generally
           | associated the term slur with a significant history of using
           | it against a demographic, such as f _ggot, n_ ggr, ch*nk,
           | etc. saying that TERF is on the same level as those terms
           | struck me as politicking and not journalism, which made me
           | suspect the rest of the piece as political nonsense from the
           | right.
        
             | AnimalMuppet wrote:
             | Language is dynamic. Use something as a slur often enough,
             | and it becomes a slur. And here it's clearly being used as
             | a slur. That doesn't make it _always_ a slur (yet), but
             | here it clearly is.
        
         | terfisaslur wrote:
         | It is a slur, it's used as an insult against women who refuse
         | to bow to the gender ideology insanity. You don't get to be the
         | arbiter of that.
         | 
         | So-called "anti-trans" politics is actually more sensitive to
         | the needs of real transsexuals while the transgender movement
         | makes life harder for women, homosexuals, and transsexuals
         | primarily for the benefit of non binary and transgender people
         | 
         | TERF is a slur used by transgender activists against anyone who
         | understands the difference between sex, gender, transsexuality,
         | and transgenderism, and refuses to deny certain biological
         | realities, like the fact that only women produce ova.
         | 
         | The fact that you don't realize it's a slur shows how
         | uneducated you are on this topic. You're going to need to do
         | better next time.
        
         | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
         | I would suggest that it is a slur because it is used as a term
         | of disparagement that often doesn't even accurately describe
         | the target. The label gets thrown at women who are not RF, and
         | sometimes women who, for whatever reason (for example, a
         | religion they adhere to) would be reluctant to even call
         | themselves F. At that point, I don't see how the word is any
         | different than people e.g. referring to any Arabs as "camel
         | jockeys".
        
       | rootusrootus wrote:
       | What a tough problem to solve. My current thought on the gender
       | identity issue is that society should default to the absolute
       | minimum amount of categorizing people by their gender. What you
       | identify as only matters to the extent that we divide people.
       | Nobody would care if you used the women's bathroom, if such a
       | thing did not exist. And when it is absolutely necessary for a
       | distinction to exist, then we can spend the effort required to
       | justify why, and along with that justification we should be able
       | to clearly identify how it applies to transgender individuals.
       | 
       | This would mean throwing out a lot of the more epheremeral
       | complaints "I feel unsafe if there is a man in the bathroom."
       | Why? Let's fix that part, then. Because there are going to be
       | scary women too.
       | 
       | I don't know. I don't have a really good answer I feel
       | comfortable with. I do think a significant part of the problem,
       | however, is not ideological, it is technological. It's way, way
       | too easy to pile on with very little effort.
        
         | iammisc wrote:
         | > This would mean throwing out a lot of the more epheremeral
         | complaints "I feel unsafe if there is a man in the bathroom."
         | Why? Let's fix that part, then. Because there are going to be
         | scary women too.
         | 
         | You realize having a woman's bathroom was a thing many early
         | feminist groups fought for right?
        
         | LatteLazy wrote:
         | I sympathise. Sadly society seems to be moving the other way
         | recently: my gym and pool both have significant women's only
         | hours and classes. My previous employer had women only sessions
         | with the ceo to promote more women faster.
         | 
         | There was a brief moment a few years ago when the government
         | here (limey Britian) said people would be allowed to pick their
         | gender without involving doctors/bureaucrats. I liked the idea,
         | it's equality on steroids. Long queue for the ladies? Identify
         | as a man for 5 minutes! Accidently go to the gym at 7 on a
         | Wednesday? Be a girl for 90 minutes so you can work out!
         | 
         | Link for when the policy was dropped
         | 
         | https://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/sep/22/uk-governmen...
        
           | dang wrote:
           | Trolling will get you banned here. Please don't do this on
           | HN.
           | 
           | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
        
           | TedDoesntTalk wrote:
           | > Long queue for the ladies? Identify as a man for 5 minutes!
           | Accidently go to the gym at 7 on a Wednesday? Be a girl for
           | 90 minutes so you can work out!
           | 
           | I like this.
           | 
           | I've already identified to my employer that I'm partially
           | Black even though, to the best of my knowledge, I'm not.
           | 
           | They can't deny it and it only benefits them (they can
           | increase their ratios of minority employers which is public
           | data).
           | 
           | I can choose to identify as black if I like.
        
             | long_time_gone wrote:
             | ==I can choose to identify as black if I like.==
             | 
             | What is the benefit for you? Is it trolling?
        
               | inglor_cz wrote:
               | Let us say that the OP believes in reincarnation and
               | believes that his soul is black, used to live in black
               | bodies, and was mistakenly reincarnated into a white body
               | on this occasion, but still feels black and carries
               | memories of being black.
               | 
               | Quite a lot of people on Earth believe in reincarnation
               | and would find such a situation entirely possible. The
               | question is, is a Western country obliged to respect a
               | religious argument like this?
               | 
               | Maybe yes. After all, race is said to be a social
               | construct. Why not add reincarnation into the mix.
        
               | long_time_gone wrote:
               | This person willfully admitted they are not black, which
               | is far different than your criteria of someone who
               | "believes that his soul is black, used to live in black
               | bodies, and was mistakenly reincarnated into a white body
               | on this occasion, but still feels black and carries
               | memories of being black." The analogy falls apart because
               | the stance is based on trolling, not actual beliefs.
        
               | LatteLazy wrote:
               | I'm not OP.
               | 
               | I generally answer the ethnicity question randomly. This
               | is because:
               | 
               | * I don't like be lumped into "white British"
               | 
               | * the whole question is rude imho (why does the gym need
               | to know my race and sexuality!?)
               | 
               | * services I use shouldn't shouldn't lose "points"
               | because of my colour/religion/sexuality/shoe-size
        
               | zo1 wrote:
               | There are race-based laws in some countries that
               | incentivize, prioritize and make legal the practice of
               | hiring certain races over others.
               | 
               | E.g.:
               | 
               | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_Economic_Empowermen
               | t
        
             | HideousKojima wrote:
             | Federal government gives small business grants and loans
             | preference based on race and gender? I am now a black
             | female.
        
             | LatteLazy wrote:
             | I have a terrible problem: I actually am gay.
             | 
             | But I hate identifying so at work because I don't want to
             | be "the gay guy". I don't want to be promoted early to
             | boost the company stats. I don't want people thinking I was
             | promoted for that reason either.
             | 
             | I don't know why anyone would want those things. I'm gay,
             | but I'm here because I'm good at my job and I work hard.
             | I'm taking your bonus, but not using my genitals, using my
             | impressive mathematical skills!
             | 
             | I am very happy to just be dumped into the same pool as
             | everyone else (metaphorically and for swimming)
             | 
             | /rant
        
         | HideousKojima wrote:
         | >"I feel unsafe if there is a man in the bathroom." Why?
         | 
         | Because men (biological males if we're being pedantic) are
         | statistically overwhelmingly more likely to commit rape and
         | other forms of sexual assault (and other violent crimes) and to
         | be horny creepy perverted sex pests in general. Add to that the
         | fact that men are much more physically strong than women (a
         | ~5th percentile male is about as strong as a ~95th percentile
         | female) and the options a woman has to defend themselves
         | against such a creep are severely limited.
         | 
         | But if you insist on creating a New Soviet Woman that isn't
         | afraid of men, be my guest. Just do it far away from me in a
         | different country, please.
        
           | makeworld wrote:
           | Can't violent men just enter these bathrooms or dress up as
           | women anyway? Rape is already a crime, no matter what gender
           | you are. I don't see what a bathroom bill would meaningfully
           | solve. Plus bathroom bills have already been shown to force
           | trans men into women's washrooms.
        
             | HideousKojima wrote:
             | Sure they still can, but without such a bill the women in
             | the bathroom can't take actions like calling security until
             | the man actually starts doing something
             | violent/criminal/creepy/whatever. With such a bill their
             | mere presence is enough.
        
               | makeworld wrote:
               | What if that man turns out to be a trans man, who's just
               | obeying the bathroom bill?
        
               | HideousKojima wrote:
               | I think you're highly overestimating the rate at which
               | trans people pass. In the rare cases that might happen
               | it'd be easy enough to handle
        
           | Rebelgecko wrote:
           | IMO bringing statistical likelihoods into it is a dangerous
           | road to go down and could lead to some seriously problematic
           | outcomes.
           | 
           | For example, what if people in certain socioeconomic groups
           | are more likely to commit rape? Or people of certain
           | ethnicities?
           | 
           | Would it make sense to require them to use separate
           | bathrooms? Or is it only ok to slice and dice the stats based
           | on certain characteristics? To me it's kind of a scary idea--
           | just because a certain demographic is more likely to commit a
           | crime doesn't mean we should make life difficult for all
           | members of that demographic. Even if their facilities are, in
           | theory, separate but equal.
        
             | HideousKojima wrote:
             | My rule for any of these things are all or nothing, in the
             | margins lie chaos. I think a private business should be
             | able to have as many or as few bathrooms for as many
             | categories and groups as they feel like. But if you're
             | going to block them from doing that, you'd better block
             | them from splitting up bathrooms on _any_ basis, otherwise
             | all sorrs of special interest groups and lobbying groups
             | will be looking to make special exceptions and cutouts that
             | help their group and hurt their enemies, it 's inevitable.
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | All bathrooms should be a single private stall, first
               | come first serve. If you need more than one stall, then
               | install them.
               | 
               | On average females take twice as long males in the
               | bathroom. Sometimes some events have a disproportionate
               | ratio of male/females. Both are evidence that having the
               | same number of stalls for each of the two genders is
               | wrong - even before talk about more than two genders.
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | stickfigure wrote:
           | From a statistical perspective, black Americans _are_ more
           | likely to commit violent crimes than white. Yet we got rid of
           | white /colored restrooms, and claiming "I'm afraid of blacks"
           | is rightly considered racist and offensive.
        
             | CapmCrackaWaka wrote:
             | The counter argument to this is that African Americans are
             | more likely to commit crimes because they are, on average,
             | more poor because of systemic racism, not because they are
             | biologically predisposed to committing crimes.
        
           | dang wrote:
           | Please don't post ideological flamewar comments to HN. We're
           | trying for a different sort of internet here, to the extent
           | possible.
           | 
           | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
        
         | exporectomy wrote:
         | I agree except that I don't think we understand which ways of
         | dividing ourselves are really biologically (including
         | psychologically) important and which are just cultural and can
         | be changed with the right environment. Culture often encodes
         | biological needs that we don't really understand.
        
           | freemint wrote:
           | I would rephrase it as: "Culture often encodes biological
           | needs that we are not sure we did understand because nothing
           | like that was written down and today we have a very good idea
           | of our biological needs and can probably design more
           | consistent or at least more utilitarian rules of culture"
           | 
           | Do you think you could agree with that?
        
         | IncRnd wrote:
         | > This would mean throwing out a lot of the more epheremeral
         | complaints "I feel unsafe if there is a man in the bathroom."
         | Why? Let's fix that part, then. Because there are going to be
         | scary women too.
         | 
         | Do you recognize that there are actual reasons that a woman
         | might not want to go into a bathroom with 5 men in it?
        
           | Udik wrote:
           | That they peed all around the toilet?
        
           | TedDoesntTalk wrote:
           | I recognize that. But isn't that also a form of
           | discrimination? The suggestion is that all men are capable of
           | being perverts, using their camera phones inappropriately,
           | bathroom harassment, etc.
           | 
           | To build gender-specific bathrooms because of that
           | generalization of men is hypocritical of the entire gender
           | discrimination movement. Reverse discrimination.
        
           | LatteLazy wrote:
           | Careful, it sounds like you might be banning 99% of a
           | minority because 1% behaved badly. I know that's not what you
           | intend.
           | 
           | :)
        
           | distrill wrote:
           | There are other solutions than what you're describing. I've
           | been in a number of bars with unsexed bathrooms, where the
           | sinks are all in the open and there are private secure
           | individual stalls. I don't know that this is the best
           | solution, but it does remove the gender distinction from the
           | bathrooms and it certainly isn't "a bathroom with 5 men in
           | it".
        
           | tomp wrote:
           | It took a lot of mental self-awareness on my part, and
           | reading a lot of such statements, to recognise how strongly
           | I've been mentally programmed (brainwashed) by society to
           | think of _men_ as _evil_ , and not even flinch when I used to
           | read statements like the one above (implying / assuming that
           | men are, by default, extremely violent and dangerous, and
           | that everyone is _justified_ by judging _every_ man as such).
           | 
           | It's easier to see if you replace " _men_ " (currently a non-
           | favoured demographic) by e.g. " _black_ " (currently a
           | favoured demographic).
           | 
           |  _> Do you recognize that there are actual reasons that a
           | white person might not want to go into a bathroom with 5
           | black people in it?_
        
             | CapmCrackaWaka wrote:
             | This is a sore subject, but the difference here is that
             | rape is an evolutionary artifact left over from when it was
             | advantageous (from a reproductive standpoint) to do so. It
             | was, quite frankly, an evolutionary advantage for men to
             | rape women. I personally doubt this urge is different based
             | on race. In fact, women's fear or rape is one of the only
             | times I find it acceptable to use phrasing like you
             | described.
        
               | read_if_gay_ wrote:
               | We are already so far into hating men that we're fine
               | with basically saying the desire to rape is evolutionally
               | wired into all male brains? No complaints about sexism or
               | anything?
        
               | CapmCrackaWaka wrote:
               | You can acknowledge that premise without 'hating men'. I
               | am a man, and I have no problems admitting that rape was
               | a legitimate tactic for our ancestors to pass their
               | genetics along. It's a fact that we'll have to deal with.
               | On the other hand, when it comes to issues of race, I'm
               | hard pressed to believe there are massive
               | evolutionary/biological differences that need to be
               | accounted for.
        
             | IncRnd wrote:
             | Classes of people are different from each other. That's not
             | to say that one person is better than another. It's also
             | not saying that any class of person is better than another.
             | It is saying that all people are different, and there are
             | classes of people, such as men, women, blacks, whites,
             | trans, cis, and all sorts of classifications that differ in
             | aggregate.
             | 
             | The reason we humans can get through life is by
             | discriminating, in the sense of distinguishing, classes of
             | people. This is NOT prejudice but is sensible. After all,
             | there is a difference between discrimination and prejudice.
             | 
             | Please consider this: "Honey, stay here. Don't play with
             | those 5 men at the end of the block." Are all strangers
             | bad? Are all men bad? Are older people bad? Are all people
             | at the end of the block bad? No, of course not. But, we
             | need to remain sensible to circumstances and sensitive to
             | people's situations.
        
             | bjoli wrote:
             | I am a man, and I don't want to go in to the same bathroom
             | as 5 other men, especially not of they are a group and
             | drunk. The reason is simple: I have found it much more
             | common for men to take pleasure in having power over other
             | people by threat of violence.
             | 
             | They are assholes of course, but that shit is pretty
             | common. I would even claim that anyone that says otherwise
             | probably never did more than 4 pub rounds. Or went to a
             | public school.
        
               | read_if_gay_ wrote:
               | There's also actual data that black people commit an
               | outsized percentage of violent crime in the US yet any
               | statement like this with "black" substituted for "men"
               | would be downvoted into oblivion. The common argument is
               | that it's really society's mistreatment of black people
               | which is to blame for the criminality. Why is that same
               | argument not applied here?
        
       | motohagiography wrote:
       | One shouldn't expect courage from The Economist, but it's always
       | wise to bet on their prudence.
       | 
       | I don't read The Economist for facts or details so much as to get
       | a sense of what topics a current establishment can no longer
       | afford to ignore. The details are secondary to the neccessity
       | that a writer, a sub-editor, and a senior editor with tremendous
       | personal stake in maintaining access to the circles that define
       | establishment media, have collectively recognized that to remain
       | relevant as a publication, the risk/reward on any ensuing
       | controversy still means the magazine has to acknowledge which way
       | the wind is blowing.
       | 
       | When The Economist says something is just starting, it means it's
       | been brewing for at least several years and they need to comment
       | on it. I don't think direct discourse on the topic improves the
       | discussion on gender because the participants use a critical
       | theory in which the promise of discourse is just bait to corner
       | political targets for their mobs. However, we (and even The
       | Economist) can recognize that popular tolerance for these tactics
       | has finally reached an inflection point, and this change in
       | attitude is what will finally allow real analysis and insight by
       | thoughtful people into topics about gender.
        
         | yuy910616 wrote:
         | Can't agree more - on both of your points.
         | 
         | It is interesting to look at the Economist like their BigMac
         | index - an encapsulation of something complex that is weirdly
         | reliable
        
         | karaterobot wrote:
         | As an Economist reader who sometimes scratches his head at how
         | late they are to the party, I love your framing here. I
         | appreciate their sobriety though.
        
         | worik wrote:
         | The Economist has been talking about this for many years.
        
           | pas wrote:
           | Could you link something worth reading from them on this?
        
       | plank_time wrote:
       | I think we should accommodate trans people as much as we can, up
       | to and including letting them be legally be considered the sex of
       | their belief as long as they have transitioned to some degree, by
       | taking hormones or surgery.
       | 
       | However, I disagree with getting rid of biological sex. It's
       | absurd. Even down to the genetic level there is a biological
       | definition of male and female and to say there isn't is anti-
       | science. We shouldn't destroy science over this.
       | 
       | Because of that I also don't believe that trans women should be
       | allowed to compete in competitive sports especially those that
       | have dedicated their lives towards it. To put it in perspective,
       | Serena Williams, one of the greatest if not the greatest tennis
       | athlete of all time. She and Venus Williams were destroyed in her
       | prime by the 200th ranked tennis player. The male tennis player
       | felt like they were equivalent to a 600th ranked male player. The
       | point being, you can't make up for some genetic differences
       | between men and women.
        
         | MeinBlutIstBlau wrote:
         | >I think we should accommodate trans people as much as we can,
         | up to and including letting them be legally be considered the
         | sex of their belief as long as they have transitioned to some
         | degree, by taking hormones or surgery.
         | 
         | See as they make up a smaller minority than most minority
         | people in the US, I personally think that helping poor and
         | working class people first would uplift them a lot quicker than
         | letting trans people be trans. I mean it's great an all you get
         | to be your own gender, but everybody will despise you knowing
         | you got that way by tax payer money. If you got that way
         | through working and paid for it yourself but were able to via
         | worker protections and rights, the cultural stigma around it
         | would be significantly far less vitriolic.
        
           | plank_time wrote:
           | I don't think there's an if/else clause. Allowing trans women
           | to legally be claimed as women is really just an adjustment
           | in a database, as well as just treating people the way they
           | want to be treated. It doesn't cost anything to be respectful
           | to people regardless of who they are.
        
             | MeinBlutIstBlau wrote:
             | The comment stated:
             | 
             | >up to and including letting them be legally be considered
             | the sex of their belief as long as they have transitioned
             | to some degree
             | 
             | What you're suggesting is something simple. What the parent
             | was suggesting was 1% of the population multiplied by $40k+
             | in surgeries and drugs leading up to $120million for
             | funding people transitioning meanwhile telling lower class
             | people who work at crappy general labor jobs "yeah just
             | pull yourself up by your bootstraps."
             | 
             | Universally we can agree, helping all of the working class
             | helps out all minorities seeing as most minorities
             | are...working class.
        
         | anoncake wrote:
         | > I think we should accommodate trans people as much as we can,
         | up to and including letting them be legally be considered the
         | sex of their belief as long as they have transitioned to some
         | degree, by taking hormones or surgery.
         | 
         | Why do you think it's any of your business what other people do
         | with their body?
         | 
         | > To put it in perspective, Serena Williams, one of the
         | greatest if not the greatest tennis athlete of all time. She
         | and Venus Williams were destroyed in her prime by the 200th
         | ranked tennis player.
         | 
         | Looks like she is only the 201th greatest tennis player.
        
       | adventured wrote:
       | The same has occurred in regards to race.
       | 
       | For _decades_ the ideological left preached, quite aggressively
       | and consistently, that we must move to a post racial society,
       | that race should not matter. This was the clear majority belief
       | on the left as recently as the beginning of Obama 's first term.
       | My entire childhood was filled with that preached gospel: a
       | person's character is what matters, do not pay attention to their
       | skin color, look beneath that, their skin color is not what's
       | important, what is important is what's on the inside. And so on.
       | That ideology made tremendous sense to me.
       | 
       | Now they are saying the exact opposite 24/7. Their messaging has
       | entirely changed. Now race is paramount, the color of a person's
       | skin matters in a huge way, everyone is to be divided by race,
       | everyone is to be treated differently depending on their race.
       | Society must be splintered by race. They're segregating everyone
       | into tribes and pitting them against eachother.
       | 
       | So was the former ideology bullshit, or is the new ideology
       | bullshit. Their credibility is shot, not that anyone cares. Next
       | week they'll switch it again if it serves their pursuit of power,
       | and proceed to memory hole whatever the last ideology was that
       | they were pushing as though it never happened.
        
         | wetmore wrote:
         | I think the "they" in your post is actually a bunch of
         | disparate groups. You are acting like there is internal
         | inconsistency, but that's because the conflicting beliefs came
         | out of different camps.
         | 
         | Anyway, I think most people in support of the "new" ideology,
         | as you call it, would say that the "old" ideology was flawed.
         | Some might say it was bullshit, some might just say it was
         | misguided or overly hopeful.
         | 
         | Ideas change over time, I'm not sure why you think society's
         | views on race should remain static, especially considering that
         | the Civil Rights Movement was only a few generations ago. Every
         | generation our theories of race change.
         | 
         | The ideological right has also changed its stance on a lot of
         | things. Do you also think that makes them have no credibility?
        
           | jollybean wrote:
           | It doesn't matter if the ideas are nuanced, we know they are.
           | 
           | It's deeply hypocritical and exposes lack of intellectual
           | consistency if morally shaming people into doing 'XYZ' for
           | several decades, then castigating them as _literally_
           | 'Upholding White Supremacy' for doing those very same things
           | some time later.
           | 
           | The 'internal conflict' that will arise in anyone of those
           | people will be insurmountable, and the 'New Camp' will never
           | have legitimacy in their eyes, just the opposite in fact,
           | even if there is some validity in their ideals.
           | 
           | This is borne largely out of the absolution, radicalism, lack
           | of self awareness, inflexibility and binary thinking of the
           | 'New Camp' (it's usually that way with 'New Camps') and
           | because those who are 'just a bit older' have the life
           | experience to reflect back on their own experiences of being
           | 'too black and white' and can therefore contextualize any of
           | the supposedly 'New' ideals at least in terms of individual's
           | own life progress.
           | 
           | The assumption by the 'New Camps' is that they are the
           | righteous inheritors of the fairly unambiguous social
           | victories of the 1960's, that among them are the MLK's and
           | JFK's who will have statues made and words etched in stone as
           | the new moral impetus etc. - but this would be wrong. Despite
           | some obvious things that can and will be improved, most of
           | today's social populism is nowhere near unambiguously on the
           | right side of history.
           | 
           | And finally: I'm not discounting any single idea presented by
           | any individual or group acting in good faith. I'm discounting
           | whether or not they should or will be recognized universally,
           | and pointing out the problems with their assertive posture.
        
           | robertlagrant wrote:
           | > Anyway, I think most people in support of the "new"
           | ideology, as you call it, would say that the "old" ideology
           | was flawed. Some might say it was bullshit, some might just
           | say it was misguided or overly hopeful.
           | 
           | While there are of course real injustices, which different
           | people think motivate different responses, what we're talking
           | about here feels manufactured in (mostly) American
           | universities. Nothing like deliberately splitting people
           | along the lines of immutable characteristics to create
           | problems for social scientists to "solve".
        
         | dang wrote:
         | We detached this subthread from
         | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=27608388.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | tabtab wrote:
         | I suspect you are confusing using characteristics to correct
         | for existing bias versus using characteristics for
         | discrimination itself. Specific scenarios may help us explore
         | this better.
        
           | jpttsn wrote:
           | Okay, how about Michael Jackson's "Black or White?" Is this
           | scenario "correcting for existing bias" or "discrimination
           | itself?"
        
         | mudil wrote:
         | May I also add that prior to the current wave, educators were
         | of opinion that kids need to be protected, at any cost, even to
         | the point that grading system discriminates against kids, it
         | can make them feel inferior. Now they basically shove every kid
         | into corner, either as an oppressor or a victim.
        
         | at_a_remove wrote:
         | That's been my feeling -- _one_ of them had to be wrong. And if
         | you 're wrong once, you can be wrong again, so perhaps it would
         | be wise to be less certain of oneself.
        
         | blacktriangle wrote:
         | By the reasoning of today's left, MLK's I have a dream speech
         | is white supremacy.
        
       | oofabz wrote:
       | I don't think gender ideology is an appropriate topic for HN.
       | There is little to be gained and much to be lost from discussing
       | it here. Little to be gained because it has nothing to do with
       | software development, and because gender issues are thoroughly
       | covered elsewhere. Much to be lost because gender issues are so
       | divisive that we risk alienating members of our community.
        
         | oramit wrote:
         | I agree that this isn't the most productive HN thread ever,
         | with a lot of comments repeating tired talking points or going
         | for quick jabs instead of reasonable discussion. However, I
         | would prefer to keep this topic open because it signals to me
         | that there is still so much work to be done to educate people.
         | 
         | Trans people are a tiny minority that is only now coming into
         | the public consciousness. We're going to have to work through a
         | lot of ignorant discussions and bad faith actors to get to a
         | healthier place.
        
         | nyczomg wrote:
         | "it has nothing to do with software development,"
         | 
         | So the next time one of my co-workers suggests we should do
         | more to be inclusive when our software asks a user if they are
         | male/female, I should tell them that gender has nothing to do
         | with software development?
        
         | fiftyfifty wrote:
         | I have 3 kids in college right now, actually one just graduated
         | with a computer science degree. All 3 of my kids have talked
         | about how much gender ideology has creeped into the classroom
         | at the college level, to the point where virtually every class
         | including computer science, engineering and science courses,
         | has to start off with addressing pronoun preferences. It is a
         | political hot-topic for sure, and those often go horribly in
         | online forums but to say that it's not related to software
         | development and startup culture is a bit disingenuous. It is
         | effecting higher education in a big way, and it is creeping
         | into corporate culture.
        
           | eropple wrote:
           | _> has to start off with addressing pronoun preferences_
           | 
           | To which I can only respond: "so?".
           | 
           | There are a decent number of folks in my circles who are
           | gender-nonconforming. I'll bet, sans decades-plus of social
           | pressure, there are more in your kids' classes. What's the
           | problem with asking? And why does asking make you
           | characterize the effect upon higher education as "big"?
           | 
           | How is it "bigger" than a prof or a TA asking if I want to be
           | called Edward, Ed, or Ted?
        
           | oramit wrote:
           | Can you expand on what Gender Ideology in the classroom looks
           | like for your kids? Is there more to this than addressing
           | pronouns?
        
         | mdoms wrote:
         | I don't believe anyone here was holding off discussing any
         | particular topic until we got the go-ahead from oofbaz. You
         | don't get to decide what we discuss. If you don't want to
         | discuss it you can close the tab and move on.
        
           | dang wrote:
           | Please don't be a jerk on HN. It only makes things worse and
           | you can make your substantive points without it.
           | 
           | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
        
         | ping_pong wrote:
         | If you don't want to read the topic, ignore it and move on. I'm
         | not interested in Django but I don't try to stifle
         | conversations on it.
         | 
         | Why are there so many gatekeeping people around that want to
         | prevent discussions on topics that they aren't interested in?
        
         | TaylorAlexander wrote:
         | Certainly I am finding it very difficult to be heard. As a
         | member of the trans community I've tried to be kind and helpful
         | in my comments in this thread but I'm getting downvoted to
         | hell.
         | 
         | I just really want people in this thread to learn about
         | emotional labor and to consider what they're asking of
         | marginalized people when they want to "discuss" the validity of
         | their needs.
        
           | dang wrote:
           | Yes, that's not good. I will take a closer look. Thanks for
           | remaining kind and helpful, even when it's not easy.
        
             | TaylorAlexander wrote:
             | Wow thanks I appreciate it. It had been an upsetting
             | experience and this helped.
        
           | supernintendo wrote:
           | Trans people are a hot button issue these days but it feels
           | like we don't really have a seat at the table in that debate.
           | The healthiest thing you can do for yourself is just live
           | your life, surround yourself with people who make you feel
           | safe, valued and loved, and stop trying to convince random
           | strangers online that you're worth something. I take a lot of
           | inspiration from the ball room / drag culture - how it
           | creates families for LGBTQ folks where none exist and uses
           | expression as a form of activism. It's not my place to change
           | anyone's mind; all I can do is live my life and hopefully
           | others will grow as a result of observing me.
        
             | arkaniad wrote:
             | This is the goal and the ideal and what I myself choose to
             | manifest, but it does bring me sadness to see a place I go
             | to lurk on the tech and science grapevines and stay away
             | from the 'discourse' start featuring threads articles
             | debating how many rights I should have and in which ways
             | should I be segregated from the people that need to be
             | protected from me, particularly when honest attempts to
             | reach out and foster understanding and sort out confusions
             | get talked past.
             | 
             | I'm a trans individual. I celebrate this and all the
             | healing and personal growth that's come from coming to
             | terms with this fact and so does mostly everyone I've ever
             | been close with, and I live far outside the 'liberal
             | bubble' of SV/etc. I am comfortable with having discussions
             | and educating, but merely existing and advocating for one's
             | own safety and happiness seems to be enough to start
             | debates, even here. I don't want to have a 'culture war' or
             | participate in a 'gender agenda', but as an adult human who
             | wishes (i'd argue that it's somewhat of an obligation) to
             | have an active role in civil society I must also advocate
             | for myself and people like me.
             | 
             | I urge people to listen more if they haven't been through
             | it themselves. I know there's a lot of information out
             | there about trans individuals that has inspired a lot of
             | confusion and concern. It can be a confusing topic! Trans
             | people tend to know a lot about it by necessity but seem to
             | be listened to the least when the topic comes up. I
             | personally think there's more intellectual curiosity to be
             | had in the meta-conversation around why this discourse is
             | the way it is given the fact that we have plenty of
             | testimony, data and research to indicate the talking points
             | being wheeled into the discussion are mostly facile and
             | misconstrued to stoke fears, much like we did already over
             | homosexuality?
        
         | dang wrote:
         | HN is for topics that gratify intellectual curiosity, not
         | "software development". Please see the site guidelines:
         | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html.
         | 
         | You're certainly right that this is an inflammatory topic with
         | strong political and ideological overlap, and as the guidelines
         | explain, we don't want flamewar here, and we don't want
         | ideological or political battle. The site exists for
         | intellectual curiosity, and those things aren't compatible.
         | There's a great deal of established moderation practice around
         | this, if anyone wants to read past explanations:
         | 
         | https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&so...
         | 
         | https://hn.algolia.com/?sort=byDate&dateRange=all&type=comme...
         | 
         | https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&sor...
         | 
         | That doesn't automatically make a story like this off topic for
         | HN. It depends on whether there's enough new information in a
         | story to support a substantive discussion. In this case, the
         | topic is not just "gender ideology", it's ongoing developments
         | at universities and in the discourse at large. All of these are
         | significant and interesting phenomena. For that reason I turned
         | the flags off on this submission. That's also established
         | moderation practice (https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page
         | =0&prefix=true&que...). It requires a judgment call, of course,
         | and we don't always make the right calls--but not making any
         | would be an even worse call.
         | 
         | Of course it's commenters' responsibility to stick to the side
         | guidelines if posting in such a thread. That means curious,
         | thoughtful conversation and respect toward other commenters
         | (and other people generally). Flamewar, flamebait, snark, name-
         | calling, personal attacks and so on are not ok. People
         | sometimes think that just because a topic is inflammatory it
         | means they get carte blanche to spew what they will (e.g. "if
         | you don't want me to post like this then you shouldn't allow
         | this thread in the first place"). I call that argument "the
         | topic made me do it", and not only is it false, the opposite is
         | true: commenters here are under a _greater_ obligation in cases
         | like this, as the site guidelines make clear:  " _Comments
         | should get more thoughtful and substantive, not less, as a
         | topic gets more divisive._ "
        
           | bachmeier wrote:
           | > HN is for topics that gratify intellectual curiosity
           | 
           | I think that's the problem with a topic like this on HN.
           | There will be little learning going on, with many statements
           | made with certainty by individuals that have never studied
           | any of these concepts in any detail. The level of dismissal
           | in the comments is itself a reason to pull the plug.
        
             | IshKebab wrote:
             | You don't have to read the comments. The article itself was
             | very good I thought.
        
             | dang wrote:
             | That's certainly a big problem, but HN can't be a site for
             | intellectual curiosity and at the same time exclude every
             | story with political or ideological overlap. People
             | sometimes imagine that that would be better, but only in
             | the context of a specific story or thread they don't like.
             | If you try to imagine it as a general policy it breaks down
             | altogether. Nor would this community accept such severe
             | restrictions on the range of topics. I don't think we have
             | any choice but to patiently work together at having more
             | thoughtful conversation.
             | 
             | I've written extensively about this: https://hn.algolia.com
             | /?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&so.... Some good
             | threads to start with might be
             | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=21607844 and
             | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=22902490.
             | 
             | If anyone has a question that hasn't been answered there,
             | I'd like to know what it is, and if you know a better way
             | for HN to relate to political topics while fulfilling its
             | mandate of curiosity, I'd really like to know what it is.
             | Just please familiarize yourself with the past material
             | first, because if it's something simple like "just ban
             | politics" or "just allow everything", I've answered many
             | times already why it won't work.
        
               | f38zf5vdt wrote:
               | It feels like why subreddits or /pol/ exist: to segregate
               | that to a place where people are most interested.
        
               | dang wrote:
               | HN is a non-siloed site, meaning we don't have
               | subreddits, or any of the other ways that large
               | communities segregate themselves. Here we're all in one
               | big room together, like it or not. It's always been that
               | way and I think it's part of its DNA.
               | 
               | This has advantages and disadvantages, as with all such
               | design choices, but it's good to be conscious of what
               | one's design actually _is_ , since otherwise one might
               | end up fucking with the DNA, which doesn't seem like a
               | great idea.
               | 
               | https://hn.algolia.com/?query=silo%20by%3Adang&dateRange=
               | all...
               | 
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=23308098
        
               | Nicksil wrote:
               | >fucking with the DNA
               | 
               | This is the first time I've "heard" you curse.
               | 
               | I don't know, it was just a little jarring. Not in a bad
               | way. Just... different, I guess. Well done.
        
               | dang wrote:
               | Predictability is bad for curiosity :)
               | 
               | I was going to link you to https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRa
               | nge=all&page=0&prefix=true&que... but it looks like most
               | of those are quoting other people.
        
               | Miraste wrote:
               | Looks like he started using "fuck" outside of quotes in
               | 2016.
               | 
               | https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=4&prefix=true&
               | que...
               | 
               | Understandable.
        
           | pomian wrote:
           | I wanted to express thanks to Dang for the moderation of this
           | site, precisely because we can learn, discuss, and evaluate
           | difficult topics like this, without flame wars, and rudeness.
           | There are a lot of good comments here today, that satisfy and
           | stimulate, our moral, cultural, ideological and biological
           | curiosities. Thanks Dang!
        
           | pseudalopex wrote:
           | Most of the discussion is the same old talking points.
           | Probably because the only new information in the article is
           | scant detail about a handful of disconnected events. The
           | likes of which have gone on for years. The title is
           | inflammatory too. Multiple ideologies are involved but only 1
           | is called that.
        
           | bendbro wrote:
           | Insightful, thanks. Great moderating!
        
           | joe_the_user wrote:
           | I too like nuanced discussion on HN and I generally don't shy
           | from political questions.
           | 
           | That said, HN is the watering hole for people with multiple
           | political approaches on a fairly wide spectrum.
           | 
           | I think debate between these people is best facilitated by
           | prompts and articles which raise multiple nuanced questions.
           | And I think we do have useful debates at this point.
           | 
           | What isn't useful is something like an overt manifesto for
           | one or another "side" on this political spectrum. And HN
           | generally avoids such things.
           | 
           | But there's a kind of article, like this one imo, that is
           | more or less a manifesto - an article that stake out a
           | position and only give apparent gestures at balance. These
           | have the same low-quality potential as manifestos. In
           | important questions, it's unfortunate have a lot of
           | uninformed posts even when they aren't flame bait.
           | 
           | In the case of the present article, I don't think readers of
           | the article will come away with any greater understanding of
           | "Gender Theory" and what gives rise to it and so it's not
           | really a generator of good quality discussion even when
           | people are not shouting at each.
           | 
           | Edit: Another thing I should add is that in the case of
           | article that are effectively manifestos, upvotes and
           | downvotes are going to gravitate to being just around the
           | popularity of various positions and that too lowers the
           | quality of discussion.
        
         | casion wrote:
         | Hacker news is not about software development.
         | 
         | See: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
         | 
         | n.b. "anything that gratifies one's intellectual curiosity."
        
         | f38zf5vdt wrote:
         | For a while I'd really enjoyed HackerNews for the lack of
         | politics. It was great not to hear about Trump during the Trump
         | presidency, but since then and COVID times I find more and more
         | highly politicized editorials being propelled to the top of the
         | front page.
         | 
         | I'm pretty close to no longer visiting here.
        
           | bosswipe wrote:
           | I agree. There also seems to be more right-wing outrage-of-
           | the-day bubbling up here.
        
           | supernintendo wrote:
           | Yeah, I just tend to avoid political posts and threads
           | altogether. Speaking as a trans woman who doesn't use Twitter
           | or most other social media, it can feel like I don't have a
           | voice and I'm just seeing this debate play out. But in a way
           | I'm fine with that. Online it's like people either hate me
           | because I'm trans or hate others on my behalf because they're
           | not trans-inclusive enough. My lived experience is nowhere
           | near as extreme. To most of my friends, family and coworkers,
           | I'm the only trans person they know and the topic of gender
           | rarely comes up. Aside from a few friends and family who
           | disowned me early in my transition, I've found that people
           | are generally respectful. Strangers can sometimes be mean /
           | scary / creepy and dating isn't easy (most guys aren't into
           | trans girls or if they are it's usually a fetish thing) - so
           | I just try to avoid situations where I'm unsafe or feeling
           | bad vibes.
           | 
           | I know that was a bit off-topic but I guess what I'm trying
           | to say is, it's okay to create distance between you and the
           | things that bring you down. I've found so much interesting
           | content through Hacker News and it would be a shame to throw
           | that away just because the politics here don't always align
           | with my own.
        
           | hotz wrote:
           | You're not alone.
        
           | dang wrote:
           | This is normal fluctuation. People have been saying such
           | things since the early years of HN--see
           | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17014869.
           | 
           | There was a great deal of Trump discussion here, too. Such
           | perceptions are prone to sample bias.
        
           | zuminator wrote:
           | I'm not sure why you couldn't simply skip the topics that you
           | don't like, and completely avoid them, regardless of whether
           | the reason for your lack of interest is politics or just that
           | you never owned a ZX Spectrum or whatever.
        
             | arkaniad wrote:
             | True, but a counterpoint: One may not like the topic but it
             | may be best to be aware of what the conversation is should
             | one find oneself someday blindsided by some political
             | decision with negative consequences informed by these
             | discussions.
             | 
             | Supporting evidence: I've gotta keep tabs on which places I
             | shouldn't travel to in my own country where I was born and
             | raised because people keep trying to make it illegal to use
             | the bathroom safely [1] after getting scared by
             | conversations such as the ones I've seen in this thread.
             | 
             | [1] - https://www.ncsl.org/research/education/-bathroom-
             | bill-legis...
        
         | simonh wrote:
         | I think HN is an excellent forum for this topic. It's not just
         | about development here, it's also about the business of
         | building tech companies. It's not an accident HN was built on
         | the side of Y-Combinator. Also if we can't have a productive
         | and civil discussion about it here, where can we? Sure we get
         | trolls and wing nuts here, but fortunately there are enough
         | adults that even divisive issues can get discussed
         | productively. Not always, not on every topic, but it happens.
        
         | throwaway894345 wrote:
         | For what it's worth, I _like_ that we discuss controversial
         | topics here if only because it 's the only online forum I'm
         | aware of where this stuff can be discussed with any degree of
         | productive dialogue or without a constant barrage of bad faith
         | (which isn't to say there aren't bad faith commenters here, but
         | the signal/noise ratio is much higher here).
        
           | maybeOneDay wrote:
           | In my experience browsing HN almost daily, over the last year
           | it has become something of an echo chamber for "anti woke"
           | lines of thinking. I've seen little to no healthy discussion
           | on the topic - by which I mean productive disagreement. It's
           | usually just a top comment decrying twitter/etc and then a
           | pile on of agreement.
        
             | weakfish wrote:
             | I'm in the same boat. Its a bit tiresome and I feel it's
             | getting worse (?)
             | 
             | Fwiw, current college student. My school isn't particularly
             | "woke" beyond having a LGBT support center, but that
             | strikes me as common decency rather than wokeness.
        
             | MeinBlutIstBlau wrote:
             | I disagree with this only because I frequently get
             | downvoted for comments that don't "fit the narrative."
             | Could I be a little less brash in the way I word it? Sure,
             | but I keep vulgarities at a minimum to at least come across
             | as somewhat refined.
             | 
             | People like me are very much liberal, left leaning, and
             | dislike fascism. But as of now, it feels like freedom of
             | speech is more of "freedom to speak about only certain
             | things." Simply because so many people are kowtowing to
             | these zealots. Of course you're going to get more vocal
             | people opposed to this line of thinking. It's the exact
             | same thing left leaning people like myself got away from in
             | our psychotic religious upbringings. Only for us to see the
             | exact same thing on the left, but with even more drastic
             | and unfair measures.
        
               | inglor_cz wrote:
               | Oh, the silent downvoting, I noticed it once than more.
               | 
               | And on two occassions, it seemed as if somebody was so
               | vindictive as to visit my comment history and downvote
               | tens of older comments from threads that were a few days
               | old. At least I cannot explain the unexpected loss of
               | precisely 1 karma point from multiple comments in
               | multiple threads at once.
               | 
               | I wonder how such people look into the mirror without
               | feeling even a slight pang of doubt about themselves.
        
             | fagbag123 wrote:
             | > HN ... an echo chamber for "anti woke" lines of thinking
             | 
             | Nigger are you retarded
        
             | zo1 wrote:
             | It's entirely plausible that most were thinking that but
             | didn't say anything for fear of backlash. If so then the
             | mere act of them speaking what's really on their mind is,
             | what I would argue as, "healthy discussion".
             | 
             | Either way, I've been finding a lot of what's being said
             | here today as interesting and mentally engaging on some
             | level.
        
             | shkkmo wrote:
             | I would disagree. I think that there is a strong pro free
             | speech group, most of who are also literally woke, but who
             | also want to keep the overton window broad.
             | 
             | There are, of course, some pretty reptitive comment
             | threads, but you can collapse those and generally find more
             | interesting discussion somewhere (don't forget there are
             | often multiple pages of comments.)
        
         | pc86 wrote:
         | > What to Submit [0]
         | 
         | > On-Topic: Anything that good hackers would find interesting.
         | That includes more than hacking and startups. If you had to
         | reduce it to a sentence, the answer might be: anything that
         | gratifies one's intellectual curiosity.
         | 
         | > Off-Topic: Most stories about politics, or crime, or sports,
         | unless they're evidence of some interesting new phenomenon.
         | Videos of pratfalls or disasters, or cute animal pictures. If
         | they'd cover it on TV news, it's probably off-topic.
         | 
         | Yes, gender ideology is pretty political (should it be?). But
         | learning about it can obviously gratify one's intellectual
         | curiosity if they're approaching it in good faith. So I don't
         | think you're necessarily able to just make a blanket statement
         | like "this isn't appropriate."
         | 
         | As for having much to lose, if you feel alienated by a good
         | faith intellectual discussion -- regardless of topic -- that's
         | your problem. This sort of thing is discussed daily in liberal
         | arts programs across the US and in most of the world. You have
         | to be able to discuss and learn about topics, even divisive
         | ones, without losing your shit.
         | 
         | [0] https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
         | 
         | Edit: And it looks like in the period of time it took me to
         | type this half a dozen other people said the same thing.
        
       | metalman wrote:
       | My personal experience of living and working,traveling
       | with,family,friends,etc of all kinds of people including
       | trans,gay,all the variants has left me with no conclusions
       | whatsoever. On occasion someone would comment on another "that it
       | takes all kinds to make the world go around" and I have never
       | agreed,quite,my take is that there ARE all kinds and the world
       | goes around anyway,and if you think that you are adjusted and are
       | good with everyone then you dont get out much,cause if you are
       | out there meeting new people in new situations well outside of
       | your core group ,then you will find that there is no damn normal
       | and a great deal that is just plain incomprehensible. Gender has
       | become a team sport,and I have heard it said while with friends
       | that so and so is "profesionaly gay" in that they have employment
       | as a cultural sensitivity officer in a large organization and
       | tend to become insuferable to all. I have also heard anicdotaly
       | that F to M tranies often bail out of the "therapy" and come out
       | with a new respect for men,in that having testosterone in thier
       | system drives them to rage and anger and violence and they are
       | astounded that men are not much much much worse that we are.
       | Backlash you bet,and a good bit of it is comming from good honest
       | people who are not strait and gendernormative. We need peace and
       | prosperity for all,and pronouns will not supply that.
        
       | theknocker wrote:
       | The word TERF is not a fucking "slur."
        
       | zwieback wrote:
       | I think the courts are the right place for this battle, some
       | fundamental free speech rights for both sides need to be
       | enforced. I didn't think this would the necessary in academia but
       | with universities turning into service industries it seems
       | inevitable.
        
         | MeinBlutIstBlau wrote:
         | As an adult return student in college currently, while I could
         | engage in "free speech," the college is also free to expel me
         | for creating a hostile environment for my views (I'm speaking
         | generally here).
         | 
         | Everybody hates Illinois Nazi's. But if a group them sprouted
         | up at your school, can you really say it's fair freedom of
         | speech-wise to shut them down at a publicly funded institution?
         | No you can't. Not only that, but instructors can at whim grade
         | you based on if they like you as opposed to legitimately
         | getting good grades.
         | 
         | Ultimately it just creates a system to be gamed by those wise
         | enough to survive it. It's never been about education in the
         | US. It's always been about "who can navigate the waters without
         | getting labeled."
        
         | throwaway0a5e wrote:
         | Right or wrong courts pretty much always lag popular consensus
         | in a democracy so the debate will happen elsewhere first.
        
       | throwawaysea wrote:
       | This is great news, because gender ideology has corrupted free
       | inquiry and discourse in society as a whole, not just at
       | universities. For example, the Royal Academy of Arts just issued
       | an apology to an artist whose work they had removed from their
       | shop due to pressure from trans rights activists (https://www.the
       | guardian.com/artanddesign/2021/jun/23/royal-a...). There was also
       | the case of Maya Forstater, who was allegedly let go from her job
       | because of tweets saying that biological sex is real - she
       | initially lost her case about employment discrimination but won
       | upon appeal (https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-57426579).
       | 
       | The trend in universities fighting for free speech and free
       | inquiry is welcome and necessary. I have been concerned that
       | things were going in the other direction when I saw the phrase
       | "academic transphobia" appear, which was being used to de-
       | platform certain people or stop certain research (see
       | https://www.spectator.co.uk/article/stonewall-and-the-silenc...
       | or https://www.starobserver.com.au/news/university-of-
       | melbourne...). Apart from the linked Economist article, another
       | related recent positive news is that Open University launched a
       | "Gender Critical Academic Research Network"
       | (https://thecritic.co.uk/the-new-network-for-gender-
       | critical-...).
       | 
       | PS: if you support free speech in academia, check out FIRE
       | (https://www.thefire.org/). Since the ACLU is less focused on
       | free speech issues these days
       | (https://www.tabletmag.com/sections/news/articles/the-
       | disinte...), FIRE has become the new defender of basic civil
       | liberties.
        
       | tetranomiga wrote:
       | Gender politics is a cancer on the left, even though I agree with
       | it, it takes up so much time and energy away from things that
       | would benefit everybody including trans people, like universal
       | healthcare, better employee protection laws and better, more
       | available education. Such a small percentage of the population
       | has been the center point of so much discussion and debate, and
       | for what benefit? All I see it doing is give the right-wing more
       | ammunition to harden their bases.
        
         | ixacto wrote:
         | Yeah I'm not on the left any more and now an independent due to
         | the left trying to use identity politics for political
         | engagement. Still support what Bernie/Yang are doing though
         | with trying to universalize healthcare and income though.
        
         | busterarm wrote:
         | > it takes up so much time and energy away from things that
         | would benefit everybody including trans people, like universal
         | healthcare, better employee protection laws and better
         | 
         | Distraction working as intended then? Neither political party
         | has really shown any clear legislative intention on delivering
         | on those things you ask for.
        
         | istorical wrote:
         | The same could be said for most wedge issues. In the US, gun
         | rights and and abortion also become a focal point of US
         | politics despite the existence of issues that deal with
         | millions of preventable deaths (automobile safety, obesity
         | epidemic, poverty), issues that deal with hundreds of thousands
         | of displaced peoples and killed civilians (Afghanistan and Iraq
         | war, war mongering over Syria, Libya, Iran, etc), and climate
         | change, which our brightness minds continue to tell us could
         | lead to not insubstantial percentages of all forms of life on
         | our planet going extinct and billions or trillions of dollars
         | of economic cost.
         | 
         | But we just focus on emotional trigger point issues. See focus
         | on and mass protests because of police brutality (hundreds of
         | deaths a year) compared to zero widespread action on the
         | injustice of the prison system (hundreds of thousands of lives
         | ruined, literal slavery and imprisonment in cages over
         | antiquated unequally applied drug laws).
        
           | shigawire wrote:
           | Difference is it is fairly clear cut to say that the state
           | does not need to murder people already in custody.
           | 
           | It is harder to get a clear consensus on how to handle crime
           | and imprisonment in general. It's a problem without a single
           | good solution.
           | 
           | Whereas the solution to police brutality incidents like
           | George Floyd should be pretty simple in comparison.
        
           | edrxty wrote:
           | There's truth here, feels-over-reals is very much a problem
           | in US politics. That said, feelings/perceptions have
           | consequences if left unchecked. A few hundred people being
           | "made an example of" by the police each year can functionally
           | oppress an entire ethnic group in a country.
           | 
           | All that said, in light of the previous example, it makes the
           | abortion fight seem particularly...whimsical...given the
           | stakes. The evangelicals believe they themselves are going to
           | heaven regardless of what the non-evangelicals do and those
           | getting abortions don't care so it's rather hard to point to
           | a group being oppressed by their beliefs here.
        
         | bob_roberts wrote:
         | > Such a small percentage of the population
         | 
         | That's not a good argument for the left to stop defending trans
         | people's rights.
        
           | dgb23 wrote:
           | It's almost like those who are opposing acceptance are
           | slowing things down for little reason.
        
         | edrxty wrote:
         | Gender politics are interesting because they are mostly just a
         | source of in-fighting within various factions of the left [1]
         | but because they cover a set of topics that seem so foreign to
         | the right, it gives them lots of ammunition for cruel memes to
         | distract themselves from their own internal struggles.
         | 
         | That said, it's a nuanced issue that touches a lot of aspects
         | of life and effects more people than one would initially
         | assume. It's very much worth sorting out, but it's the kind of
         | issue that's easily going to be derailed by toxic personalities
         | because much like guns and religion, it's an attack on one's
         | self image. If you're a billionaire wanting to cause havoc to
         | prevent wealth taxes or environmental regulation, throwing
         | money at either side of this cause seems like a pretty good way
         | to get high political-chaos ROI.
         | 
         | [1] - https://xkcd.com/1095/
        
         | tdeck wrote:
         | This is the same thing people said about gay rights 15 years
         | ago.
        
       | nepeckman wrote:
       | One thing I find very troubling about articles like this is the
       | tendency to frame hot political topics as essentially academic,
       | while they are in fact very practical. Across the US and England,
       | trans people are being denied access to health care, medically
       | necessary operations, and effective therapeutic treatment. But
       | this article doesn't discuss those issues, it only discusses the
       | ramifications of this political reality.
        
         | mdoms wrote:
         | This article also doesn't discuss the plight of the Uyghurs,
         | bee colony collapse or the atmosphere of Venus. Because that's
         | not what this article is about.
        
           | nepeckman wrote:
           | The plight of the Uyghurs does not relate to the political
           | oppression of trans people. Political oppression of trans
           | people is inextricable from the discussion of anti trans
           | ideology on college campuses. To make an analogy, this
           | article is like writing about the Uyghur genocide, but
           | instead of discussing concentration campus or the Chinese
           | government, focusing instead on one individual who wasnt
           | allowed to speak because they said "China has done nothing
           | wrong." Do you see the problem? Instead of focusing on actual
           | tragedy, I have derailed the conversation by framing the
           | plight of this poor pro China individual as the real issue.
           | Now the comments are debating the subjects of academic free
           | speech and cancel culture instead of the real issue at hand.
        
       | weeblewobble wrote:
       | This article is the number one most active post on Culture War
       | (Hacker) News today. I'm not sure what that says about this forum
       | but it's not good.
        
       | joe_the_user wrote:
       | A relative of mine taught at a small art college a few years ago.
       | 
       | The situation for college students, at least a certain segment,
       | is that people with the transgender identity are far more common
       | than they once were. That's the base reality, not the product of
       | any ideology. And whatever it's point of origin, this reality for
       | these isn't going to change.
       | 
       | Now, you can object to various qualities of current gender
       | ideologies and I'm not necessary uncritical myself. But these
       | ideologies also mechanisms for accommodating the ability of
       | transgender people existing minimally in the world. If someone
       | intends to simply discard entirely these processes, they are
       | essentially taking aim at this ability of transgender people to
       | minimally exist.
       | 
       | It's active question, to say the least. Transpeople today have a
       | significant and growing chance of being murdered for being trans
       | [1]. The attention put on this by the right wing also has
       | resulted in violence masculine-appearing women.
       | 
       | It should be noted that the Economist was talking about debate
       | concerning whether transwomen should be put in men's or in
       | women's prisons. How much do you think that's a matter of
       | survival for these people?
       | 
       | I'd love to see the details of gender ideology, the complex
       | choices involved with hormones and surgery, etc debated more
       | deeply but when the "debate" allows the question "should we allow
       | these people to continue living?", you will see people willing to
       | completely shut down discussion.
       | 
       | [1] https://www.hrc.org/resources/fatal-violence-against-the-
       | tra...
        
         | neartheplain wrote:
         | >The situation for college students, at least a certain
         | segment, is that people with the transgender identity are far
         | more common than they once were. That's the base reality, not
         | the product of any ideology. And whatever it's point of origin,
         | this reality for these isn't going to change.
         | 
         | A significant number of people who identity as trans later
         | return to their original gender identity. This is known as
         | "detransitioning:"
         | 
         | https://www.thestranger.com/features/2017/06/28/25252342/the...
         | 
         | It's a controversial topic, as many trans people see the
         | existence of detrans people as a threat to the validity of
         | their own identity. For their part, many detrans people resent
         | the medical practitioners who they feel didn't adequately
         | provide council or obtain informed consent before facilitating
         | their transition, sometimes involving expensive, painful, and
         | irreversible medical procedures. Some research also indicates
         | most (!) children who identify as trans abandon this identity
         | post-puberty:
         | 
         | https://www.kqed.org/futureofyou/441784/the-controversial-re...
         | 
         | The Blocked and Reported podcast, which I generally find to be
         | fair-minded and evenhanded, recently interviewed a detrans
         | person who had worked at a SF gender transition clinic. I found
         | their experience illuminating:
         | 
         | https://barpodcast.fireside.fm/50
         | 
         | The BBC and 60 Minutes have also produced reporting on this
         | issue.
        
           | joe_the_user wrote:
           | _A significant number of people who identity as trans later
           | return to their original gender identity._
           | 
           | Whatever the percentage of people who chose to do this, that
           | situation doesn't actually change my point - that significant
           | number of trans people exist and their situation is quite
           | threatened.
           | 
           | And the way that you (and other) think that this is a
           | "counter argument" is something of a demonstration that
           | people making these points aim to threaten the existence of
           | transpeople, which is why such points get a lot of flak.
        
       | cryptica wrote:
       | My view on gender is the same as anything else. We should accept
       | the cards we're dealt and focus on our strengths.
       | 
       | Nobody is making you focus on your problems, you can choose what
       | to focus on. If you were born as the wrong gender, why would you
       | focus on that? You will probably never win that battle. You can
       | never be satisfied because you will never have what most other
       | people have. You should try to focus on other things where you
       | actually have a reasonable chance of success; of feeling
       | satisfied.
       | 
       | Most people are deepy dissatisfied with certain aspects of
       | themselves and if you ignore these things long enough and focus
       | on other things intensely, eventually, after a decade or two you
       | may stop caring about your complexes completely.
        
       | syngrog66 wrote:
       | excellent to see. its been one of the more Orwellian trends I've
       | seen in the US in recent years. I wouldnt say its even a top 5 or
       | top 10 problem, but it is bad. its been increasingly unpleasant
       | having to always worry whether any given sentence or idea shared
       | on social media will be jumped on by an indoctrinated online mob,
       | blind to all nuance.
        
       | kelvin0 wrote:
       | We should focus on giving ALL humans a nurturing environment and
       | allow them to grow to achieve their full potential and in turn be
       | able to share their talents to help others.
       | 
       | There is pain, sorrow. There is also place to grow and live a
       | meaningful life and be happy.
       | 
       | Anything else is just nitpicking and a red herring. Creating an
       | infinity of subcategories of humans is not the solution, because
       | it incentives the us-them paradigm, and of course polarization of
       | discourse.
       | 
       | Intolerance in any forms is destructive in nature.
        
       | mabub24 wrote:
       | One thing I find quite odd is how the study of gender emerged out
       | of an approach that demanded a critical understanding of
       | _assumptions_ and the things society insist upon (that there are
       | only 2 genders, that gender is essentially related to biological
       | sex rather than something that is manifest in social behaviour,
       | ect.) and yet that view has twisted into a sort of all or nothing
       | view that is extremely antagonistic to critical inquiry. The
       | tendency for a number of trans activists and talking points to
       | revert back to a kind of gender essentialism; the logical
       | inconsistencies in the idea that one identifies a _private_
       | gender identity, rather than a personal desire to transition or
       | live as another gender; the insistence that a trans person has
       | special insight into the concept of gender --- raise up any of
       | these points and you bear the risk of being labelled a
       | "transphobe" even though you are entirely committed to the
       | protection of a trans persons rights and dignity.
       | 
       | A small, extremely vocal minority insists that anyone that voices
       | the slightest hesitation in accommodating trans people into
       | gender/sex segregated social functions _must_ be a transphobe or
       | be complicit in the violence against trans people. It makes the
       | entire conversation exhausting.
        
         | tetranomiga wrote:
         | I dunno if I'd agree that it's a small vocal minority, zero-
         | tolerance to anybody questioning the current dogma is seen
         | everywhere where trans acceptance is a focus. Ten years ago I
         | was told, by trans people, that there are physical differences
         | between trans and cis brains. Say that today, and you get
         | kicked out of LGBT spaces for being a transmedicalist or
         | truscum.
         | 
         | I have no idea whether it's true or not because you can't even
         | find _research_ on the subject because of how absurdly
         | politicized the topic is.
        
           | zozbot234 wrote:
           | "Truscum" being the word for someone who thinks that changing
           | one's gender and sexual characteristics might not be the
           | greatest idea ever unless you actually _have_ , like, gender
           | dysphoria. Never mind the many, many people who are now
           | pursuing "detransition" after going one step too far. I mean,
           | what could possibly go wrong?
        
             | dang wrote:
             | Please don't take HN threads further into flamewar. We're
             | trying for a different sort of internet here, to the extent
             | possible.
             | 
             | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
        
               | a_conservative wrote:
               | Its interesting that you didn't actually tell the poster
               | what they did wrong.
        
               | zozbot234 wrote:
               | I'm also genuinely puzzled by dang's remark. I had tried
               | to limit the unpleasantness in my comment as far as
               | possible, while providing clarifying info and staying
               | accurate to (i) what the trans activism movement _itself_
               | seems to be stating internally, as well as (ii) the
               | easily foreseeable consequences of these attitudes, if
               | stated only obliquely for the sake of general politeness.
               | If even that counts as  "furthering a flamewar", this has
               | some remarkably unpleasant implications about the overall
               | debate re: gender issues.
        
               | dang wrote:
               | As I read it, your comment fit the genre of boilerplate
               | ideological rhetoric and that is the last thing we need
               | here.
        
               | zozbot234 wrote:
               | OK, I'll just agree to disagree then. I understand that
               | boilerplate ideological rhetoric is an unavoidable hazard
               | in a thread about gender issues (or indeed, politics more
               | generally) and I'll keep trying to write comments that
               | are as far as possible from any 'boilerplate'.
        
             | anoncake wrote:
             | "many, many people" -- do you have numbers as to how many
             | people detransition, not due to being pressured but because
             | they aren't trans after all, and only after making
             | irreversible changes?
        
               | busterarm wrote:
               | The idea that you can even detransition is fairly recent.
               | Before then you just had to live with it...and the
               | suicide rate historically has actually been 20 times
               | higher post-op.
               | 
               | You might want to look up what Danielle Bunten Berry,
               | rest in peace, had to say on the matter. The important
               | quote is on her wikipedia page.
        
               | yownie wrote:
               | Seems like https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Detransition
               | might be a point to start. YMMV with how much weight a
               | controversial topic like that on WP should carry.
        
           | JohnBooty wrote:
           | I do not know anything about the subject of the linked
           | article, nor her views. Did not venture past the
           | pay/registration wall. I have no opinion about her.
           | zero-tolerance to anybody questioning the current dogma is
           | seen everywhere
           | 
           | Generally, of course dogma should be questioned.
           | 
           | However, academic freedom does _not_ mean that universities
           | must provide a platform to literally anybody that wants one.
           | Their resources are finite and choices need to be made.
           | 
           | Surely, we can agree that some discussions by their very
           | nature are harmful or at least deeply insulting. Imagine
           | discussions such as "should women be allowed to vote?" or
           | "are $ETHNICITY people worthwhile of being treated like other
           | human beings?" or "was Hitler right?" or some other such
           | topic.
           | 
           | I would certainly not say such speech should be banned, but
           | it is equally clear to me that no institution should be
           | obligated to provide a _platform_ for such ideas.
           | 
           | It's worth noting that "teach the controversy" is the
           | disingenuous rallying cry of creationists seeking to wedge
           | anti-evolution religious dogma into US public school systems.
           | Those people know that merely giving creationism a figurative
           | seat at the table serves to legitimize it to some extent.
           | They also hope to wear down their opposition (in this case,
           | already-overworked educators) by consuming massive amounts of
           | their time and energy. Well, such religious teachings
           | _should_ be denied a seat at the table, at least in publicly-
           | funded secular schools.
        
             | freemint wrote:
             | I am not sure if your definition of academic freedom
             | applies equally all over the world. I understand Humboldts
             | definition of "Freiheit von Forschung und Lehre" an
             | university is obligated to support you once you have been
             | taken on and to fire people because of their research alone
             | would violate it.
        
               | JohnBooty wrote:
               | In this specific case she was a guest of Essex University
               | and not a tenured professor there, so they were under no
               | specific obligation to provide a platform for her.
               | Jo Phoenix, a professor of criminology          at
               | Britain's Open University, was due to          give a
               | talk at Essex University
               | 
               | To your point though, I wouldn't find it good for a
               | tenured professor to lose their job for such a thing.
               | However, even the idea of tenure really is meant to be
               | more like "freedom from interference" and not "unlimited
               | freedom without consequences", right? And of course the
               | tenure track prior to tenure is of course a period of
               | intense vetting.
        
             | MeinBlutIstBlau wrote:
             | Why are publicly funded institutions allowed to decide
             | who's opinion matters and whose doesn't? Assuming the
             | discussion is poised and not straight up slandering
             | nonsense, what harm does it do? Are we trying to curtail
             | freedom of speech? They shouldn't be allowed to take a
             | stance because they are the government. Although for some
             | reason colleges can operate as some separate entity that
             | just happens to siphon government funds...
        
               | JohnBooty wrote:
               | Why are publicly funded institutions allowed to
               | decide who's opinion matters and whose doesn't?
               | 
               | At a very minimum, there are real-world constraints at
               | work.
               | 
               | There are a limited number of lecture halls and
               | auditoriums. It costs money to run the facilities. Staff
               | is required to maintain them. Somebody has to sweep the
               | floors. There are heating and cooling bills to be paid
               | and new boilers to be purchased every few decades. There
               | are a limited number of hours available in students'
               | academic careers.
               | 
               | A university cannot provide platforms for an unlimited
               | number of professors and guest speakers; a student cannot
               | _attend_ an unlimited number of talks /lectures.
               | 
               | Therefore it is obvious. Choices must be made. One could
               | even say that this curation is one of the most elementary
               | duties of an educational institution.
               | 
               | What's _your_ alternative? Should publicly funded
               | institutions make zero curatorial choices whatsoever?
               | Should literally anybody be able to teach there? If that
               | is not your position, then you surely accept that _some_
               | curation needs to occur.
               | 
               | This is not incompatible with the wishes of the people
               | nor does it suggest that educational institutions should
               | have dictatorial carte blanche. They must make choices,
               | but must also be accountable to the public.
               | Are we trying to curtail freedom of speech?
               | 
               | No.
               | 
               | Nobody is arguing that the subject of the linked article
               | should be barred from expressing her views. This is
               | strictly a question about who should (or should not) be
               | obligated to give her a soapbox and a megaphone.
               | They shouldn't be allowed to take a stance
               | because they are the government.
               | 
               | There would be considerable benefits to getting the
               | government out of the education business entirely. The
               | downsides would be considerable as well.
               | 
               | It would be worth looking for examples of times and
               | places when government kept its nose out of education
               | entirely. I do not think you will enjoy the correlation
               | between "governments disinterested in education" and...
               | well, anything good.
        
             | a1369209993 wrote:
             | > Their resources are finite and choices need to be made.
             | 
             | By your own description[0][1], choices had _already_ been
             | made, and resources had already been committed.
             | 
             | 0: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=27609417
             | 
             | 1: > Jo Phoenix, a professor of criminology at Britain's
             | Open University, was due to give a talk at Essex University
        
               | JohnBooty wrote:
               | Yes. Decisions are made all the time. Sometimes they are
               | reconsidered and sometimes even reversed. That is not
               | _inherently_ a bad thing, particularly when new
               | information comes to light subsequent to the initial
               | decision.
               | 
               | What are you getting at? I can guess, but these things
               | work better if we don't make assumptions or guesses about
               | what others are saying.
        
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         | randcraw wrote:
         | Given that reproduction in mammals is inescapably binary, and a
         | really big fraction of social interaction in humans is shaped
         | by courtship, both overt and covert, it's hardly surprising
         | that our historical perspective on gender roles has been
         | predominantly binary too.
         | 
         | I think another reason "things are different now" is that more
         | of us think abstractly today than in years past. Many of the
         | perspectives and possibilities we entertain today would have
         | been alien to more of us 50 or 100 years ago, when the world
         | was more conventional, more black and white.
         | 
         | Finally, with the multitudes of voices that no longer remain
         | hidden behind mainstream media outlets, we're more aware of
         | nontraditional, complex, and nuanced POVs today. That helps us
         | realize that many psychological variations exist "between the
         | lines", not as pathology but as a matter of natural variation.
        
       | Moodles wrote:
       | > The arguments the two sides put forward, in other words, are
       | complex and debatable. But many trans activists think that any
       | disagreement is tantamount to hate speech and try to suppress it.
       | 
       | This is 100% my personal experience also. Even on HN last week
       | someone said I should try to be a "better human" and compared my
       | _suggestion_ that _maybe_ someone might oppose transgender women
       | in women 's spaces for reasons other than pure hatred or phobia
       | of trans people, to segregation of blacks and whites. It's just
       | absolutely impossible to have any disagreement with them without
       | them trying these inane mob bully tactics. Being outraged should
       | not be your only argument.
       | 
       | Take the case of Fallon Fox
       | (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fallon_Fox): a mixed martial
       | artist transgender woman (who didn't even disclose she used to be
       | a he while she was competing against women), or Laurel Hubbard,
       | the New Zealand transgender olympic weightlifter in the news this
       | week. Even mentioning these cases which _clearly_ have more to
       | them than pure hatred or phobia of trans people, still get
       | lambasted with abuse.
       | 
       | What's really frustrating is that they don't really listen to
       | what you actually say, but instead "read between the lines" and
       | assume everything you say is just a ruse hidden behind some
       | immense hatred and bigotry. How about no? Just take what I say at
       | face value. No, I'm not full of hate. Yes, I know being
       | transgendered must be hard. Yes, I do know some transgendered
       | people (why is this relevant?). Yes, I am cisgendered myself. No,
       | I really do think transgender women have an advantage in combat
       | sports. No, again, I'm not full of hate... It's quite ridiculous.
       | 
       | ... OP was flagged because...?
        
         | dang wrote:
         | It looks like your account has been using HN primarily for
         | ideological battle. Can you please not do that? It's against
         | the rules here because it destroys the curious conversation
         | that HN is supposed to exist for. We ban accounts that do this,
         | regardless of what their ideology happens to be. See [1] for
         | more explanation.
         | 
         | If you wouldn't mind reviewing
         | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and taking the
         | intended spirit of the site more to heart, we'd be grateful.
         | 
         | [1]
         | https://hn.algolia.com/?sort=byDate&dateRange=all&type=comme...
        
           | Moodles wrote:
           | Is this rate limiting on commenting ever going to be lifted
           | or is it permanent?
        
             | dang wrote:
             | We're happy to take off rate limits if people give us some
             | reason to believe that they sincerely intend to follow the
             | site guidelines in the future.
        
               | Moodles wrote:
               | Ok I promise. My last topics I posted on were about this,
               | a security blog post, the news, Simone Biles and accents.
               | I do actually talk about lots of topics on HN but I tend
               | to get drawn into political discussions which are replied
               | to a lot more. Also it's hard for me not to respond when
               | someone calls me a bigot, etc. I'm definitely not on HN
               | just to troll about politics. I really think it's unfair
               | to say I'm on HN to "battle" anyone. I don't think my
               | comments here have been particularly confrontational?
        
         | threatofrain wrote:
         | But why would you discuss someone's medical suffering by
         | leading with a topic on trans elite sports, which focuses on an
         | extreme niche and elite phenomena?
        
           | Moodles wrote:
           | Because I am making the point that _even mentioning something
           | as extreme as that_ still gets me lambasted with abuse. So if
           | we can 't even discuss that civilly, how on Earth are we
           | meant to discuss more nuanced issues?
        
             | threatofrain wrote:
             | So you are saying you choose to lead with elite trans
             | sports, a niche phenomena of a niche phenomena, in order to
             | demonstrate that you will be lambasted with abuse?
             | 
             | And that is how you choose to lead with your speech?
             | 
             | And you are saying if we can't discuss elite trans sports
             | with nuance with civility, then how can we discuss an even
             | more nuanced topic than trans elite sports?
             | 
             | So did you want to discuss trans elite sports or were you
             | trying to demonstrate that people cannot handle a
             | conversation with greater nuance? Or both at the same time?
        
               | Moodles wrote:
               | > And you are saying if we can't discuss elite trans
               | sports with nuance, then how can we discuss an even more
               | nuanced topic than trans elite sports?
               | 
               | That's all i'm saying. It's pretty obvious having an
               | objection to Fallon Fox fighting biological women has
               | more to it than pure hatred and bigotry towards trans
               | women. If the gender ideology crowd can't acknowledge
               | that or debate that civilly, I really see no chance of
               | debating less clearcut topics. I deliberately chose it as
               | the most extreme example I could think of to demonstrate
               | how unreasonable and emotional I think that segment of
               | the political spectrum is.
               | 
               | > So did you want to discuss trans elite sports or were
               | you trying to demonstrate that people cannot handle a
               | conversation with greater nuance? Or both at the same
               | time?
               | 
               | The latter, but if you want to talk about the former we
               | can do that too.
        
               | threatofrain wrote:
               | What do you have to say about the primary phenomena of
               | clinical suffering? Its etiologies and its course in
               | medical debate across the west? That is a discussion
               | which hits squarely on "What is trans?"
               | 
               | But when you lead with Joe Rogan, I'd have to ask, is Joe
               | Rogan the best you have?
        
               | loopz wrote:
               | Good discussion is give and take. There should be no
               | competition, even if someone decides to bring up sports
               | as an example.
               | 
               | Maybe if people tried to listen and understand more, they
               | could ask followup questions and try to get what the
               | other person had in mind, instead of trying to tear down
               | opponents?
        
               | threatofrain wrote:
               | In order to partake in give and take, you have to have
               | something to give.
               | 
               | When you pick up the microphone, that is your chance to
               | make an offering of what you have to give. What we have
               | here an offering of Joe Rogan debates.
               | 
               | > What do you have to say about the primary phenomena of
               | clinical suffering? Its etiologies and its course in
               | medical debate across the west? That is a discussion
               | which hits squarely on "What is trans?"
               | 
               | The response is "I think clinical suffering is bad?"
        
               | Moodles wrote:
               | You ask me "what do you think of suffering?". I honestly
               | have no clue what you expect as a response. Yeah, it's
               | bad. I don't want people to suffer. What is your point?
               | What has this got to do with what I was saying?
               | 
               | And again, the only person who keeps bringing up Joe
               | Rogan is you. What has this got to do with anything? Can
               | we just focus on actual points being made here?
               | 
               | My OP was about how impossible it is to have sensible
               | debates about trans issues without being lambasted. Where
               | is this thread going now? What direction are you taking
               | it?
        
               | threatofrain wrote:
               | I'm mostly bothered by the focus on trans elite sports,
               | because I find it to be a niche phenomena, and it
               | suggests the curation of those who lead with such an
               | argument.
               | 
               | By tactical argument, I mean an argument you make which
               | you don't think is your leading argument, but you make it
               | anyway because you want to demonstrate an effect.
               | 
               | Discussing trans elite sports warrants a broad biological
               | and medical discussion on sex. The trans phenomena
               | includes those who have received clinical classification
               | under gender dysphoria to hormonal differences with
               | sexual effects.
               | 
               | You keep wondering why I bring up Joe Rogan. It's because
               | I don't think any discussion here will rise above the
               | playground of arguments made by Joe Rogan, a major player
               | on the conversation of trans elite sports.
               | 
               | You might look to the entire discussion stemming from the
               | article to see if anything ever rises to this level of
               | discussion.
        
               | Moodles wrote:
               | > I'm mostly bothered by the focus on trans elite sports,
               | because I find it to be a niche phenomena, and it
               | suggests the curation of those who lead with such an
               | argument.
               | 
               | The reason I mentioned combat sports is because it's
               | literally the _clearest_ example I can possibly think of
               | where one can have objections to transgender women in
               | women 's spaces without having hate in their heart, and
               | yet _still_ one gets lambasted for bringing it up. So my
               | overall point is about the lambasting, as the Economist
               | article talks about.
               | 
               | > By tactical argument, I mean an argument you make which
               | you don't think is your leading argument, but you make it
               | anyway because you want to demonstrate an effect.
               | 
               | My leading argument is: "the gender ideology community
               | lambast people way too much. Here's an obvious example of
               | something which they shouldn't lambast about but they do
               | anyway.". I honestly don't know how I can be any clearer
               | here. There is no hate. No hidden agenda. Just what I've
               | actually said at face value multiple times. Please stop
               | trying to read between the lines.
               | 
               | > You keep wondering why I bring up Joe Rogan. It's
               | because I don't think any discussion here will rise above
               | the playground of arguments made by Joe Rogan, a major
               | player on the conversation of trans elite sports.
               | 
               | I find this ironic since you're the one bringing down the
               | quality of discussion with all the red herrings. What do
               | you actually want to discuss? Where am I going wrong and
               | what do you want to convince me of?
        
               | threatofrain wrote:
               | This is an invitation to track the course of medical
               | debate through the west. That's a very open platform from
               | which to discuss transgenderism, its etiologies and its
               | impacts.
               | 
               | >> What do you have to say about the primary phenomena of
               | clinical suffering? Its etiologies and its course in
               | medical debate across the west? That is a discussion
               | which hits squarely on "What is trans?"
               | 
               | And surely you don't think we're the only conversation in
               | town. Look at this entire post and see if there's
               | anything which rises above the Joe Rogan level of debate.
               | It won't.
               | 
               | > I find this ironic since you're the one bringing down
               | the quality of discussion with all the red herrings. What
               | do you actually want to discuss? Where am I going wrong
               | and what do you want to convince me of?
               | 
               | I don't accuse you of hate. I accuse you using the topic
               | trans elite sports as an intellectual point to push
               | around.
        
               | Moodles wrote:
               | I have no idea what you're saying.
               | 
               | I think clinical suffering is bad? I have not mentioned
               | Joe Rogan. I have no idea what point you're trying to
               | make.
        
               | pixxel wrote:
               | Like racist, nazi, or phobe, Joe Rogan is used by certain
               | types as a dismissive. They had that one locked and
               | loaded without looking at the target.
        
               | Jotra7 wrote:
               | Anyone listening to Joe Rogan is showing the quality of
               | their brain.
        
               | AnimalMuppet wrote:
               | I think threatofrain is proving your point. Their
               | approach seems to be to try to find something, _anything_
               | , that they can argue, no matter how unrelated to the
               | point at hand, and to keep arguing forever. Points that
               | they can't answer get silently dropped, with no admission
               | that the other side has a point.
               | 
               | I've seen this pattern before. At best it's someone so
               | committed to a position that they are determined to do
               | battle rather than actually have a conversation. At worst
               | it's someone arguing in bad faith.
               | 
               | Or, I suppose, most charitably, it's someone who lost the
               | thread of the conversation and replied to the wrong
               | person.
        
               | threatofrain wrote:
               | > Because I am making the point that even mentioning
               | something as extreme as that still gets me lambasted with
               | abuse. So if we can't even discuss that civilly, how on
               | Earth are we meant to discuss more nuanced issues?
               | 
               | I'm not the person who setup a discussion by leading with
               | a tactical argument. If you want an argument on
               | substance, you should lead with a proposition that you
               | have something of substance to give, not that you have
               | tactics to offer because you don't trust real
               | conversation.
               | 
               | There are very few cases of transgender elite sports.
               | Leading with that discussion implies that you have very
               | little to say on actual transgenderism, and it implies
               | your taste in curation or how you choose to lead in a
               | discussion.
               | 
               | > What do you have to say about the primary phenomena of
               | clinical suffering? Its etiologies and its course in
               | medical debate across the west? That is a discussion
               | which hits squarely on "What is trans?"
               | 
               | I asked a question to invite display of expertise on the
               | underlying primary subject -- actual transgenderism. The
               | response is that medical suffering sucks.
               | 
               | So far this debate has never elevated past the Joe Rogan
               | level of discourse. You can look at any other branching
               | thread to see the intellectually inspiring quality of
               | opening discussion with trans elite sports.
        
               | AnimalMuppet wrote:
               | You're the person who entered the discussion by assuming
               | that the original post was a tactical argument, rather
               | than a good-faith post of a reasonable position.
               | 
               | And, _what on earth_ does Joe Rogan have to do with the
               | original topic? _You_ keep bringing him up, and he 's
               | irrelevant to Moodles' point. What on earth does clinical
               | suffering have to do with the original topic? _You_ keep
               | bringing that up, and it 's irrelevant to Moodles' point.
               | 
               | You're giving off this _really strong_ "only here to do
               | ideological battle" vibe. That's not what HN is for.
        
               | threatofrain wrote:
               | You can choose not to offer people your faith. In this
               | case it was validated by an admission that an argument
               | was tactically made.
               | 
               | > Because I am making the point that even mentioning
               | something as extreme as that still gets me lambasted with
               | abuse. So if we can't even discuss that civilly, how on
               | Earth are we meant to discuss more nuanced issues?
               | 
               | >> So did you want to discuss trans elite sports or were
               | you trying to demonstrate that people cannot handle a
               | conversation with greater nuance? Or both at the same
               | time?
               | 
               | > The latter, but if you want to talk about the former we
               | can do that too.
               | 
               | But you're still focused on whether we afford good faith
               | to tactical arguments.
               | 
               | You're accusing me of bad character while espousing
               | whatever it means to offer faith, but whether anyone is
               | here to do ideological battle is easily confirmed by
               | simply clicking on their account history.
               | 
               | And what does Joe Rogan have to do with discourse on
               | elite trans sports? He's a benchmark for conversation
               | quality and focus and a major player in discussing trans
               | issues. There are other branching threads here. See if
               | anything ever rises above Joe Rogan's playground of
               | debate.
               | 
               | > What on earth does clinical suffering have to do with
               | the original topic? You keep bringing that up, and it's
               | irrelevant to Moodles' point.
               | 
               | And surely one does not ask, "What does transgenderism
               | have to do with transgendered people in elite sports?"
               | 
               | > What do you have to say about the primary phenomena of
               | clinical suffering? Its etiologies and its course in
               | medical debate across the west? That is a discussion
               | which hits squarely on "What is trans?"
               | 
               | This is what I wanted to discuss. An open invitation to
               | discuss the course of medical debate across the west, one
               | which squarely hits at "What is trans?"
        
               | Moodles wrote:
               | > In this case it was validated by an admission that an
               | argument was tactically made.
               | 
               | Huh? Essentially all I have said is this:
               | 
               | "I agree with the Economist article. This is my personal
               | experience also. Here's an example."
               | 
               | Tactually made? What does this even mean? Do you think I
               | have a hidden agenda of bigotry towards trans people or
               | something? What exactly am I doing wrong in your eyes? Is
               | there any actual specific sentence I have written you
               | disagree with?
        
               | AnimalMuppet wrote:
               | From your original post:
               | 
               | > > The arguments the two sides put forward, in other
               | words, are complex and debatable. But many trans
               | activists think that any disagreement is tantamount to
               | hate speech and try to suppress it.
               | 
               | > This is 100% my personal experience also.
               | 
               | And it's looking a lot like your experience here. You're
               | getting told that you can't have put forth your comments
               | in good faith, that it was "tactically made". (Which I
               | interpret as meaning that it's to push an agenda rather
               | than in good faith. I could be mistaken, but threatofrain
               | is not clarifying what that accusation means.)
               | 
               | So, yeah, I stand by my statement that this whole thread
               | proves your point...
        
               | Moodles wrote:
               | Yeah, so perceptive to have read between the lines and
               | seen the darkness in my soul. \s
        
               | yownie wrote:
               | I see no part where OP mentioned Joe Rogan?
               | 
               | Am I mistaken here?
        
               | Moodles wrote:
               | I'm so confused. I never mentioned Joe Rogan. But even if
               | I did say "Joe Rogan said X", then let's talk about X?
               | How is the fact that Joe Rogan said something
               | automatically invalidating the argument itself? I don't
               | even like the premise that it's a bad thing to even speak
               | the guy's name.
        
             | TaylorAlexander wrote:
             | People don't like their identity being debated. Bringing up
             | trans women in sports as a talking point would be pretty
             | upsetting to most trans women as it is likely to feel like
             | you're invalidating their personal experience of being
             | trans.
             | 
             | There's this thing with marginalized communities where
             | people outside of the communities "just want to have a
             | discussion" but the stakes of that conversation are way too
             | high for marginalized people. Trans people's existence is
             | not for you to challenge or debate. The best thing to do in
             | situations like this is to let the marginalized people
             | figure out what they need and then quietly listen to their
             | conclusions. It's not really something that's there for you
             | to "discuss".
        
               | Moodles wrote:
               | I'm sorry, but this is a classic example of what I'm
               | talking about.
               | 
               | > People don't like their identity being debated.
               | 
               | But this is reframing. I'm not debating that someone is
               | trans or should be treated with respect or anything like
               | that.
               | 
               | > Bringing up trans women in sports as a talking point
               | would be pretty upsetting to most trans women as it is
               | likely to feel like you're invalidating their personal
               | experience of being trans.
               | 
               | Ok? Feelings might be hurt. Feelings are subjective.
               | That's not an argument. It's also pretty upsetting for
               | the women who are now competing at a biological
               | disadvantage. Particularly in combat sports where there's
               | potentially dier consequences for losing. What about
               | their feelings?
               | 
               | > Trans people's existence is not for you to challenge or
               | debate.
               | 
               | Again... That's not what I'm challenging or debating at
               | all. I'll be honest, I _fucking hate this_ debate
               | switcheroo. I 'm not challenging someone's existence.
               | _Listen to what I 'm actually saying_. This is so
               | annoying to me.
               | 
               | > The best thing to do in situations like this is to let
               | the marginalized people figure out what they need and
               | then quietly listen to their conclusions
               | 
               | No, it isn't. Not when it affects more than just the
               | marginalized community. If their actions affect others
               | (e.g. women) then it's not primarily up to just them to
               | figure out what they want to do.
               | 
               | Again, _this is nothing to do with hate or bigotry_. I 'm
               | not "debating their existence". I literally don't know
               | how much clearer I can be here.
               | 
               | Sorry, I can't respond anymore since my account has been
               | rate limited.
        
               | TaylorAlexander wrote:
               | You can say you're not debating their existence till
               | they're blue in the face, but I'm telling you that's how
               | it will feel to 9/10 trans people when you try to discuss
               | this topic with them.
               | 
               | You can ignore their feelings but that's the problem. You
               | don't care that it's upsetting. To you it's just some
               | abstract intellectual thing to discuss but to them it
               | could be a source of trauma and pain. I don't think
               | you're appreciating what you're asking a trans person to
               | do when you bring up topics that relate to trauma they've
               | experienced.
        
               | Moodles wrote:
               | > You can say you're not debating their existence till
               | they're blue in the face, but I'm telling you that's how
               | it will feel to 9/10 trans people when you try to discuss
               | this topic with them.
               | 
               | Indeed. Though I'm honestly not sure if it's "9/10 trans
               | people" or just the gender ideology crowd. Regardless,
               | having strong feelings doesn't win the debate. I can give
               | platitudes all day about how sympathetic I am to people
               | with gender dysmorphia or any other difficulties in life,
               | but when it comes to debating issues, we need to be more
               | dispassionate as my original point and the point of the
               | Economist article is that these topics are nuanced and
               | shutting down the conversation as "hate speech" is not
               | productive at all.
               | 
               | > You can ignore their feelings but that's the problem.
               | You don't care that it's upsetting.
               | 
               | No, in my view, this type of comment is the problem.
               | You're assuming I don't care at all just because I
               | disagree. Please just take my comments at face value. I
               | said in my original comment I have sympathy for trans
               | people.
               | 
               | > To you it's just some abstract intellectual thing to
               | discuss but to them it could be a source of trauma and
               | pain
               | 
               | Take the women in mixed martial arts. To them, it's a
               | source of actual, physical pain.
        
               | mike00632 wrote:
               | But people are literally proposing a separate a set of
               | laws and class of citizen for trans people over a fear
               | that, as you admit, something that happens so seldomly
               | that it's irrelevant.
               | 
               | The same thing happened with the "debate" about gays in
               | the military. Bigots brought up the problem of shared
               | showers in the military even though most gym showers are
               | individual stalls. Still, this was used actually used as
               | a rational to keep a ban on gay people, not recognize gay
               | marriage (which means less pay for gay people in the
               | military) and more.
               | 
               | Now we have proposals to ban trans people from public
               | facilities, outlaw medical procedures for trans people
               | and defund any publicly funded trans-related medical
               | drug. And what is fueling this "discussion"?: bullshit
               | stories about trans women assaulting people in bathrooms
               | and sports being dominated by trans athletes (both of
               | which are demonstrably false).
        
               | textgel wrote:
               | Yes funnily enough those who wanted to "Just have a
               | discussion" were the ones who forced us into this mess in
               | the first place.
               | 
               | People might not like "having their identity being
               | debated" but people also don't like having their
               | opportunities taken away or being forced into situations
               | they don't feel comfortable in or ones that threaten
               | their safety.
               | 
               | I think the best thing for you to do in situations like
               | this is quietly listen to the counter points being given
               | to you and gently and wholesomely get your hands off of
               | the people and their lives that you are reaching for.
               | It's really not something you are entitled to have or
               | control.
        
               | TaylorAlexander wrote:
               | Trans people are not "reaching for" anyone's lives they
               | just want to be able to exist in society without being
               | harassed.
        
               | throwaway894345 wrote:
               | Everyone here agrees that they oughtn't be harassed. We
               | disagree on whether or not folks who disagree with trans
               | activists have the right to speak on the matter.
        
               | textgel wrote:
               | And the definition of harassed
        
               | throwaway894345 wrote:
               | > There's this thing with marginalized communities where
               | people outside of the communities "just want to have a
               | discussion" but the stakes of that conversation are way
               | too high for marginalized people.
               | 
               | Presumably the "high stakes" are that they might fall out
               | with the majority population, right? In that case why not
               | do all you can to engage productively with them? There
               | was a time when civil rights activists _wished for_ good
               | faith participation.
               | 
               | > The best thing to do in situations like this is to let
               | the marginalized people figure out what they need and
               | then quietly listen to their conclusions.
               | 
               | There are a couple of problems here.
               | 
               | The first is that "their conclusions" are often the
               | conclusions of certain activists and not the marginalized
               | people in question (e.g., "defund the police"). I find
               | this to be the most repulsive kind of rhetoric, because
               | it exploits marginalized groups to the harm of everyone
               | else and to the exclusive benefit of the activist and
               | their ideological comrades.
               | 
               | The second is that it dehumanizes everyone else: others
               | are to simply keep quiet and listen to the marginalized
               | group's needs; to acquiesce. We are all (aspirationally,
               | at least) equal participants in a free society, and we
               | need to find something that works for all of us. Debate
               | is how we do that, even if the topic hits closer to home
               | for some than others.
        
         | burnished wrote:
         | Without doing a deep-dive into the way you communicate I'd
         | recommend that you broadly reconnect on shared values, like the
         | importance of human dignity and compassion, before trying to
         | proceed further in a conversation where it is starting to feel
         | like other parties are treating you like a faceless adversary.
        
         | TaylorAlexander wrote:
         | I'd like to see some introspection here. Can you imagine why
         | they would respond so strongly? I'll tell you.
         | 
         | The trans experience is one that is in many ways beautiful and
         | joyous but is sadly also fraught with trauma. Trans people
         | experience a lot of pain that stays with them. Much of that
         | pain has to do with people who refuse to accept who they truly
         | are. Or people will "just want to have a discussion" where they
         | try to see invalidate the persons identity.
         | 
         | When a cis person enters a discussion like this, to the cis
         | person it's just an intellectual discussion. But to the trans
         | person it can be threatening and it can trigger memories of
         | past trauma they've gone through.
         | 
         | So yes, trans people get upset when you bring things like this
         | up because you're bringing up a topic that may have been used
         | as a "gotcha" to invalidate their identity, and it can be
         | unclear if that's what you'll try to do. This makes the whole
         | conversation upsetting to them.
         | 
         | Imagine if a man who didn't believe in women's rights wanted to
         | discuss it with a woman who has been discriminated against.
         | That would be a difficult conversation and it wouldn't be
         | surprising if she got upset and didn't want to have a "rational
         | debate" about her rights.
         | 
         | What you're doing when you bring up difficult topics to a
         | marginalized person is you're forcing them to re live traumatic
         | memories in order to educate you. I learned this from learning
         | about the experiences of people of color. (If you're white) DO
         | NOT go ask a random black person to explain to you the everyday
         | racism they feel, because inevitably it won't make sense to you
         | and when you challenge something they say it will become a lot
         | of emotional labor for them to try to make it make sense. Sure
         | some people are fine explaining this stuff but not everyone.
         | 
         | Instead what people of color say about this is: go do the
         | learning on your own. Go find out what people in this
         | marginalized group say about your issue without making one of
         | them explain it. Their identity is not up for you to debate.
         | But you can read articles written by people within the
         | community or listen to YouTube interviews. You can find the
         | answers without making a marginalized person re live their
         | trauma to educate you.
         | 
         | This is all surrounding the topic of "emotional labor".
         | Debating someone's trauma requires huge amounts of emotional
         | labor for them to stay civil and most people don't have the
         | energy for that, so you should not ask that of them. There are
         | other better ways to educate yourself.
         | 
         | EDIT: Folks, I'm trying to honestly tell you the experience
         | I've had. I had to learn this stuff too. I know that this
         | community hates being told they have to change their behavior,
         | but I'm kindly and honestly explaining what I know and you're
         | downvoting me. Please stop.
        
           | throwaway894345 wrote:
           | People who have had trauma have my empathy, but I really
           | don't think there's a tenable path forward besides
           | dispassionate debate. How do we work through a conflict
           | without dispassionate debate? If trans people insist that the
           | only parties to the debate are trans people or those who
           | already agree with them (ignoring that trans people aren't
           | the homogeneous entity that activists make them out to be),
           | then how are they going to gain acceptance in society more
           | broadly? By fiat?
           | 
           | Yeah, it sucks that individuals in the majority don't have
           | the same emotional skin in the game as in the minority, but
           | progress of any kind requires that we can talk through stuff.
           | For those of us with trauma (i.e., my trauma isn't "trans
           | trauma"), we should excuse ourselves when the debates hit too
           | close to home too often. We explicitly cannot use our trauma
           | to discredit others (e.g., to conflate their criticism with
           | 'hate') is not going to garner sympathy even if a lot of
           | people who are already "allies" upvote our post on social
           | media or wherever.
           | 
           | And indeed, if it's not in the best interest of the
           | legitimately traumatized to use their trauma to silence
           | others, who in their right mind would allow their "allies" to
           | use their trauma to bludgeon others? What rational person
           | would let someone else spend their credibility in
           | contradiction with their own best interests? If the
           | traumatized person overreaches, it might be overlooked on
           | account of the trauma, but what excuses can we make for the
           | mere "allies"?
        
             | TaylorAlexander wrote:
             | > I really don't think there's a tenable path forward
             | besides dispassionate debate. How do we work through a
             | conflict without dispassionate debate?
             | 
             | I will explain my understanding of the answer. I do not
             | claim my answer is the right one, but it is what I see.
             | 
             | Let's say there are two groups. One group we will call a
             | marginalized minority and another group we will call the
             | majority or dominant group.
             | 
             | The answer is not for the marginalized people and the
             | dominant group to debate directly. Imagine people from the
             | black civil rights movement debating whether or not they
             | should be guaranteed the right to vote with no
             | interference. What really was there to debate?
             | 
             | Instead of direct debate I see it like this. First, both
             | groups recognize their position. Trans people have been
             | marginalized by a broadly cisgendered society. If you learn
             | a little bit about the murder of trans people throughout
             | the last 5 decades and the lack of investigation, I think
             | that is evidence enough that they are a marginalized group.
             | 
             | Okay so step one is recognize the power dynamic. Step two
             | is for the people in the dominant group to listen, without
             | challenge or debate, what the people in the marginalized
             | group want.
             | 
             | Step three: the people in the dominant group discuss with
             | themselves how to make those changes. How do we make sure
             | trans people feel welcome and comfortable in bathrooms and
             | sports? How do we make sure trans kids grow up feeling
             | welcomed by society as their whole self?
             | 
             | Fourth, the people in the dominant group discuss their
             | difficulties they have with the changes, and they do their
             | best to work it out on their own.
             | 
             | Five, some members of the marginalized group who have
             | agreed to discuss this will talk to people in the dominant
             | group and try to address their questions.
             | 
             | Six. Having made some changes, the people in the dominant
             | group ask for feedback, and the process repeats.
             | 
             | At no point in that course of action do random members of
             | the dominant group need to discuss these changes with
             | members of the marginalized group. As a white person I
             | simply do not challenge what people of color say. There is
             | no need for me to challenge them and I recognize that as a
             | member of the dominant group it could be emotionally
             | distressful for them to have to discuss it with me.
             | 
             | Anyway that's my answer. I hope it helps. Sorry I didn't
             | answer the rest of your post but I found this the part that
             | felt most salient to me.
        
               | throwaway894345 wrote:
               | I appreciate your perspective. I agree with a lot,
               | including that trans people are legitimately marginalized
               | in our society in some measure (certainly the extent to
               | which authorities fail to investigate murders of trans
               | victims is abhorrent).
               | 
               | > The answer is not for the marginalized people and the
               | dominant group to debate directly.
               | 
               | To be clear, this isn't "trans people" vs "non-trans
               | people". There are lots of trans people who don't think
               | it's appropriate to change our bathroom policies and non-
               | trans people who think we should change those policies.
               | The parties to the debate are different ideologies, not
               | different trans/non-trans identities.
               | 
               | With respect to your steps vs debate, I think your steps
               | describe a national debate, except for the earlier caveat
               | that the debate isn't "trans vs non-trans" but rather
               | different ideological positions and also that at any
               | given moment different individuals in the debate (on any
               | side) are at different "steps" in the process, and also
               | that individuals on all sides vary in their willingness
               | to listen or participate in good faith.
               | 
               | So basically a debate is a mess because people aren't
               | uniformly acting in good faith nor are they uniformly
               | disciplined about listening before speaking nor are they
               | acting in synchrony (everyone within a group meets to
               | listen to an ambassador for the other group, and then
               | carefully considers together, and so on). However, over
               | the course of months or years, things do tend to converge
               | in a direction that _most people_ feel pretty good about.
               | That 's what progress looks like.
               | 
               | > At no point in that course of action do random members
               | of the dominant group need to discuss these changes with
               | members of the marginalized group. As a white person I
               | simply do not challenge what people of color say. There
               | is no need for me to challenge them and I recognize that
               | as a member of the dominant group it could be emotionally
               | distressful for them to have to discuss it with me.
               | 
               | With respect, I disagree in the strongest possible terms
               | here. No doubt you mean well, but black people and white
               | people are equal, and race doesn't confer anyone with
               | either authority or fragility with respect to having
               | their positions criticized. If any given black person or
               | white person feels triggered (in the clinical, not
               | pejorative, sense), they are certainly not obligated to
               | engage with the criticism, but to assume that someone is
               | fragile on the basis of their race is the height of
               | racism (however well intended).
        
               | TaylorAlexander wrote:
               | I appreciate the thoughtful response. I'm in the go so I
               | will try to make a quick reply.
               | 
               | > The parties to the debate are different ideologies, not
               | different trans/non-trans identities.
               | 
               | I think the concept of intersectionality is useful here.
               | Ideology is one component but identity is another. If we
               | treat this like a simple ideological debate the potential
               | trauma of the marginalized group could be ignored,
               | potentially causing the mere act of the debate to re
               | traumatize people in that group.
               | 
               | > No doubt you mean well, but black people and white
               | people are equal, and race doesn't confer anyone with
               | either authority or fragility with respect to having
               | their positions criticized.
               | 
               | Respectfully I think this is a misunderstanding of my
               | view. I learned to keep my mouth shut not because people
               | in marginalized groups are fragile. I learned to keep my
               | mouth shut because I learned that my outsider status
               | means a lot of things marginalized people say night not
               | make immediate sense to me. Trying to interrogate
               | (neutral sense) their reasoning can be a traumatic
               | experience for them. I learned this when I asked women at
               | Google to explain their sexual harassment to me. A female
               | friend took the time to explain to me that even asking
               | the question could cause distress in women. Now when
               | someone says something I disagree with I stay silent and
               | I go and google the thing and learn more about it on my
               | own.
               | 
               | Certainly in some cases the person wants to discuss the
               | thing with me, but I don't assume that to be the case.
               | 
               | I also learned this from a person of color who did not
               | appreciate similar questions from me. While there is a
               | LOT of worthwhile criticism of Robin DiAngelo, her talks
               | helped me understand that concept better.
        
         | pqs wrote:
         | The proof is that this article, a "The Economist" article, has
         | been flagged. It shows [flagged] next to the title.
        
         | recursivedoubts wrote:
         | The idea is to set up rhetorical either-or's and then browbeat
         | the majority into silence:
         | 
         | Either you support unlimited immigration or you are a racist.
         | 
         | Either you are 100% on board with the entire vaccine schedule
         | or you are an anti-vaxxer.
         | 
         | Either you say that Covid was a natural occurrence or you are a
         | conspiracy theorist (and probably a racist too).
         | 
         | And so on.
         | 
         | Say what one will, but it's effective.
         | 
         | I think one reason it works so well in the US is our puritan
         | heritage, which has always had a strong manichean current in
         | it. As the elites lost their religion, they retained this
         | characteristic and it now manifests itself in the secular
         | realm.
        
           | zozbot234 wrote:
           | Sometimes the either-or's are not just either-or's, they're
           | catch 22's. Trans people are suffering from gender dysphoria
           | and denying that is transphobic, but if you say trans people
           | are suffering from gender dysphoria you're a transmedicalist
           | truscum. Checkmate atheists!
        
             | underseacables wrote:
             | Transgender is a psychiatric disorder with potential
             | medical treatment. The problem is that it's also a lifeline
             | for people who are seeking an identity, and they become
             | hyper sensitive to any questioning of something that,
             | again, is all in their heads.
        
               | anoncake wrote:
               | Being transgender is as "curable" as homosexuality.
        
               | have2throwaway wrote:
               | For many years I experienced gender dysphoric feelings.
               | Did that make me "transgender"? I used to believe that I
               | was, even though deeply closeted.
               | 
               | I didn't seek help. I didn't transition. I wanted to seek
               | help but was too scared. What happened?
               | 
               | Well, after some years, the gender dysphoric feelings
               | went away.
               | 
               | That happens sometimes - gender dysphoric feelings can
               | spontaneously remit, go away by themselves. I don't have
               | them any more.
               | 
               | I know from the literature I am not unique, see e.g.
               | https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10929795/
               | 
               | If it can happen spontaneously, is it impossible that
               | sometimes therapy might speed that spontaneous process
               | along? Would that be a "cure"?
               | 
               | I have struggled with obsessive behaviour ever since I
               | was a child. I probably have undiagnosed ASD (I have many
               | other traits of ASD than just obsessions). I'm actually
               | on a waiting-list to see a psychiatrist for an ASD
               | assessment. Some of my obsessions are more ASD-like
               | (pleasurable rather than anxious), others more OCD-like
               | (anxiety-driven), so sometimes I wonder if I might have
               | OCD too. I'll let my psychiatrist work that one out, when
               | I see him. But what I realise now is that my gender
               | dysphoric feelings were just another one of these
               | obsessions. And like most of my obsessions, with time
               | they fade and get replaced with new ones. If I had this
               | self-understanding 15, 20 years ago, I think my gender
               | dysphoric feelings might have remitted faster.
               | 
               | If I'd sought help back then, would they have helped me
               | gain that self-understanding of my own obsessiveness? Or
               | would they have encouraged me towards transition? I'm
               | glad I never transitioned, I think I'd be in a far worse
               | place now if I had. But I worry with this idea of
               | "affirmative care", people like me may be encouraged in
               | that direction whether it is the right thing for them or
               | not.
               | 
               | What about your comparison with homosexuality? Does
               | homosexuality ever "spontaneously remit" in the same way
               | that gender dysphoric feelings sometimes do? I honestly
               | have no idea. My feelings about my birth gender (male)
               | have waxed and waned, but a constant for me has been
               | attraction to women with never more than fleeting
               | feelings for men; given that, the equivalent question for
               | homosexuality is beyond my personal experience.
               | 
               | (Sorry for the throwaway. I hope one can understand why.
               | I wish I had the courage to talk about this stuff under
               | my real name. I hope that one of these days I will, but
               | not today.)
        
               | progman32 wrote:
               | > If it can happen spontaneously, is it impossible that
               | sometimes therapy might speed that spontaneous process
               | along? Would that be a "cure"?
               | 
               | I think we need to be careful and precise when using the
               | word "cure". Is one outcome preferable over another?
               | Preferable to who, and why? What, precisely, are we
               | curing? What effect does using the word "cure" have on
               | people? Anecdote: When I realized I had dysphoric
               | feelings, my mental health _improved_ overnight and has
               | stayed that way. I took up piano. Became more expressive.
               | I even began working out! What would my cure be?
               | Everyone's different - as you seem to suggest (correct
               | me), pushing for self-understanding is a good way to
               | navigate this. I think my personal positive outcome is in
               | no small part due to key people in my life making it
               | clear that no outcome is preferred over another, and that
               | they'll support me no matter what I find. I count myself
               | as extremely privileged in this regard, and by my
               | reckoning anything we can do to foster this kind of
               | support is time well spent.
               | 
               | > But what I realise now is that my gender dysphoric
               | feelings were just another one of these obsessions.
               | 
               | That may be. And that's OK. Very few people figure
               | everything out the very first try. And people can
               | sometimes change over time. But equally, sometimes they
               | don't. In any case, we can't expect people to understand
               | themselves if we take away the tools to learn. In some
               | sense, aren't these transient obsessions a vehicle for
               | experimentation and learning? For mine, they are.
               | 
               | You, have2throwaway, are valid. Here's to your journey.
        
               | have2throwaway wrote:
               | > Is one outcome preferable over another? Preferable to
               | who, and why?
               | 
               | For me personally, I believe the outcome in which these
               | feelings went away without me acting on them (by which I
               | especially mean hormones and surgery) is much better _for
               | me_ than one in which they stuck around and I did act on
               | them. And I 'm sure I'm not the only person for which
               | this true.
               | 
               | On the other hand, I totally accept there are other
               | people for whom the feelings are unlikely to ever go
               | away, and for those people, if they believe that acting
               | on them is the best option for them, it isn't my place to
               | disagree with them.
               | 
               | The problem is how do we tell the two groups apart? How
               | do we help people having these feelings work out which
               | group they belong to? I don't have any confidence that
               | the current system is good at doing that. Part of the
               | reason why, is that those who transition have their
               | stories celebrated by much (of course, not all) of the
               | culture, while those who remit without transitioning (or
               | who detransition) are mostly hidden in the shadows. That
               | ends up presenting the former stories as more valid than
               | the later, something which I see as problematic.
        
           | AnimalMuppet wrote:
           | > Say what one will, but it's effective.
           | 
           | Yes and no. Yes, it's effective at shutting people up. No,
           | it's not very effective at convincing people that you're
           | right. It's more effective at convincing people that you're
           | completely unreasonable, and that it's better to just not
           | talk to you at all.
        
             | BitwiseFool wrote:
             | "Yes, it's effective at shutting people up. No, it's not
             | very effective at convincing people that you're right."
             | 
             | I see things differently, through the lens of power and
             | influence. How much power does the opposition have if it's
             | been effectively silenced? Members of the other side
             | certainly aren't convinced of your cause, but what
             | difference does it make? You've already gotten them to
             | submit.
             | 
             | As time goes on the younger people will pretty much only
             | hear from the intolerant folks because the people who were
             | silenced can't propagate their worldview effectively.
        
               | AnimalMuppet wrote:
               | Fair point - _if_ it continues for long. I 'm hoping that
               | the pendulum swings back before we get to that point...
               | but maybe I'm just a crazy optimist.
        
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           | 908B64B197 wrote:
           | > Either you say that Covid was a natural occurrence or you
           | are a conspiracy theorist (and probably a racist too).
           | 
           | Interesting how media coverage completely changed. Under the
           | previous administration it was considered racist to even
           | mention the theory and it's proponents were considered
           | racists or conspiracy theorists. Why such a sudden change?
           | China certainly didn't change its position on the issue...
        
             | layoutIfNeeded wrote:
             | You're onto something... Keep lurking!
        
             | Udik wrote:
             | > Why such a sudden change?
             | 
             | Trump is gone. Since he was the main proponent of the idea,
             | and he was despised by half of the nation, they had to
             | despise the idea too, even if it was quite fitting in the
             | context of the anti-China rhetoric of the last few years.
             | Now Trump is gone and the other half of the US is free to
             | pick up his ideas.
        
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       | omegaworks wrote:
       | >trans-exclusionary radical feminist, a slur
       | 
       | Bigots offended at being called out on their bigotry.
        
       | alfl wrote:
       | I think in 10 years we'll look back at what is now contemporary
       | discourse as a reaction formation[0].
       | 
       | Essentially the left-wing version of homophobic closeted
       | Republicans.
       | 
       | [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reaction_formation
        
       | twirligigue wrote:
       | There seems to be a new background assumption that one's identity
       | can be chosen, whereas I think in reality it's inherited.
        
         | ed25519FUUU wrote:
         | How do you define "identity"?
        
         | bob_roberts wrote:
         | You shouldn't assume that nonbinary and trans people "choose"
         | their identity. They might choose to acknowledge it, to
         | themselves or to others. At least, that's been my experience.
         | It was a realization, not a choice.
        
         | dgb23 wrote:
         | It's not really a choice, rather than an often very difficult
         | process of discovery, if they manage to accept it at all. A
         | good friend of mine struggled for years with their self
         | acceptance and I only realized that in restrospect. But coming
         | out liberated them and an avalanche of happiness, productivity
         | and positivity happened.
         | 
         | It's a real struggle, and by belittling or ignoring it we can
         | only make it worse. It's time to listen, respect and embrace.
        
         | ausbah wrote:
         | so you can't gain an identity by choosing to do certain things?
         | I can't identify as a runner because I didn't inherit the genes
         | that make me in the top 0.1% of all runners?
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | anoncake wrote:
         | So if you're female, it's because your parents are female?
        
       | rasengan0 wrote:
       | LGBT+ are humans. And humans rights are for all. I tend to ignore
       | articles about squabbling but groups influence change and
       | adaptation is key to getting along [1]
       | 
       | I learned new terms in the article like TERF and gender-critical.
       | I'm sure there will be more jargon and terminology to fill the
       | DEI consultancy industry. Not sure of the downstream effects but
       | so far my USB cables are not gender fluid, but maybe that is not
       | a good thing. Meanwhile, the globe is warming.
       | 
       | [1] https://www.npr.org/2021/06/02/996319297/gender-identity-
       | pro...
        
       | jeffrallen wrote:
       | All fundamentalism is bad. Including this comment.
        
       | ixacto wrote:
       | Freedom of expression/free speech doesn't mean freedom not to be
       | offended or that you have to agree with the views.
       | 
       | If we do not support even the most offensive speech then we risk
       | a very slippery slope leading to censorship and 1984.
        
         | tetranomiga wrote:
         | There's no historical reason to think that not supporting
         | extreme speech will lead to fascism. There are historical
         | reasons to think that curbing extremist speech protects
         | democracy (see the Weimar Republic).
        
           | ixacto wrote:
           | What exactly is extreme speech? I don't recall for advocating
           | for illegal speech.
           | 
           | Everything up to imminently calling for violence in the US is
           | protected so if that is what you are saying then I'd agree
           | with you.
           | 
           | However what is "hate" or "intolerant" depends on the person
           | and identity group. E.g. "All lives matter, marriage is
           | between a man and a woman, men can't get pregnant, Muhammad
           | was a pedophole, flipping the bird to a police officer" all
           | would offend different groups of people but are protected
           | speech.
        
           | tarboreus wrote:
           | Why focus only on fascism? What about authoritarianism? Look
           | at the USSR and the modern CCP.
        
             | tetranomiga wrote:
             | Because the west and especially the US has, very
             | specifically, a fascism problem.
        
               | dang wrote:
               | It looks like your account has been using HN primarily
               | for ideological battle. Can you please not do that? It's
               | against the rules here because it destroys the curious
               | conversation that HN is supposed to exist for. We ban
               | accounts that do this, regardless of what their ideology
               | happens to be. See [1] for more explanation.
               | 
               | If you wouldn't mind reviewing
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and
               | taking the intended spirit of the site more to heart,
               | we'd be grateful.
               | 
               | [1] https://hn.algolia.com/?sort=byDate&dateRange=all&typ
               | e=comme...
        
           | AnimalMuppet wrote:
           | There are also historical reasons to think that tyranny has
           | to suppress free speech in order to survive. So even if
           | extreme speech can lead to tyranny, free speech can lead you
           | back out - _if_ you can keep the tyranny from destroying the
           | free speech.
        
             | tetranomiga wrote:
             | That's an "if" so big I don't know what your point is.
        
               | AnimalMuppet wrote:
               | My point is to keep track of the order of cause and
               | effect. Unlimited free speech may create a tyranny. But
               | tyranny always at least tries to limit free speech. So
               | when you see a limiting of free speech, you should ask
               | "Is this really in defense of liberty? Or is it just
               | tyranny trying to preserve and extend itself?"
               | 
               | Note that tyranny trying to preserve and extend itself
               | almost always _says_ that it 's in defense of liberty...
        
               | jl2718 wrote:
               | > Unlimited free speech may create a tyranny.
               | 
               | Citation required.
        
               | Natsu wrote:
               | The usual citation is the Paradox of Tolerance but that
               | posited a right to protect against people using _fists or
               | pistols_ , rather than ideas, to debate and premised it
               | on the right of self-defense from physical harm.
        
               | AnimalMuppet wrote:
               | tetranomiga's claim, not mine. I merely acknowledged that
               | I wasn't claiming to refute it.
        
               | tetranomiga wrote:
               | "Is this person defending free speech in favor of
               | liberty? Or because his anti-liberty extremism won't be
               | tolerated otherwise?".
               | 
               | It works both ways so this isn't a practical way of
               | looking at implementation of free speech. You can't keep
               | a system that doesn't protect itself free forever -
               | propaganda travels faster and further than truth, and I
               | doubt the founding fathers wrote the first amendment with
               | mass media in mind.
               | 
               | You can start the argument of who gets to decide what
               | should be allowed and what shouldn't, and in the current
               | political climate (at least in the USA) the answer to
               | that is obviously nobody. Ideally those decisions would
               | be made during a time of cultural unity, where a whole
               | nation can say "These are our values that we want to
               | write in stone", like Germany did with the new
               | constitution in the 20th century where it put well-
               | defined limits on what kind of speech should be
               | forbidden.
               | 
               | It's doubtful if that kind of unity is even possible in
               | the USA anymore, so I'm worried that, on a long enough
               | time-scale, unfettered free speech will inevitably lead
               | to tyranny of a kind because there is no system in place
               | to protect it.
        
           | waterhouse wrote:
           | > There are historical reasons to think that curbing
           | extremist speech protects democracy (see the Weimar
           | Republic).
           | 
           | You think the Weimar Republic is a point in _favor_ of that
           | claim?
           | 
           |  _In my research, I looked into what actually happened in the
           | Weimar Republic and found that, contrary to what most people
           | think, Germany did have hate-speech laws that were applied
           | quite frequently. The assertion that Nazi propaganda played a
           | significant role in mobilizing anti-Jewish sentiment is
           | irrefutable. But to claim that the Holocaust could have been
           | prevented if only anti-Semitic speech had been banned has
           | little basis in reality. Leading Nazis, including Joseph
           | Goebbels, Theodor Fritsch, and Julius Streicher, were all
           | prosecuted for anti-Semitic speech. And rather than deterring
           | them, the many court cases served as effective public
           | relations machinery for the Nazis, affording them a level of
           | attention that they never would have received in a climate of
           | a free and open debate.
           | 
           | In the decade from 1923 to 1933, the Nazi propaganda magazine
           | Der Sturmer -- of which Streicher was the executive publisher
           | -- was confiscated or had its editors taken to court no fewer
           | than 36 times. The more charges Streicher faced, the more the
           | admiration of his supporters grew. In fact, the courts became
           | an important platform for Streicher's campaign against the
           | Jews.
           | 
           | Alan Borovoy, general counsel of the Canadian Civil Liberties
           | Foundation, points out that cases were regularly brought
           | against individuals on account of anti-Semitic speech in the
           | years leading up to Hitler's takeover of power in 1933.
           | "Remarkably, pre-Hitler Germany had laws very much like the
           | Canadian anti-hate law," he writes. "Moreover, those laws
           | were enforced with some vigour. During the 15 years before
           | Hitler came to power, there were more than 200 prosecutions
           | based on anti-Semitic speech..._
           | 
           | https://www.cato.org/policy-report/may/june-2015/war-free-
           | ex...
        
             | tetranomiga wrote:
             | An American libertarian think-tank is not a source of
             | historical interpretation I'm going to trust at face value
             | and neither should you. I'll reply more thoroughly to this
             | after work.
        
             | hodgesrm wrote:
             | This is a great comment. It seems to me that some in the US
             | far right and left wings have an analogous view of using
             | the political system as a way to garner publicity rather
             | than governing. It's less obvious in the court cases. Many
             | of the people associated with the Jan 6 attack on the
             | Capitol folded pretty rapidly once they were indicted.
        
             | onemoresoop wrote:
             | I did not know that, thanks for pointing out.
        
         | briandear wrote:
         | We've already skipped so far down the slope that it's
         | unrecoverable. We're in the midst of a Cultural Revolution.
         | 
         | It's bonkers how being gender-critical can get you fired or
         | silenced or violently protested. Or how being anti-Marxist
         | makes you a racist. Or how even having traditional values is
         | worthy of being firebombed.
        
           | staplers wrote:
           | Being pro-marxist 70 years ago meant jail time. It's always
           | been this way, just for a different sect of people.
        
           | busterarm wrote:
           | > Or how being anti-Marxist makes you a racist.
           | 
           | Especially given the historical record on empowered Marxists
           | and saying/doing things that are extremely racist and
           | homophobic.
        
           | Jotra7 wrote:
           | This comment right here shows where discourse is at with the
           | right wing. Screaming and crying about some imagined
           | persecution while controlling everything. I'm so sick of it.
        
         | afpx wrote:
         | Should teachers be allowed to say anything they want to
         | students, regardless if it offends them? If a student asks a
         | teacher not to call them something that offends them, is the
         | teacher required to stop using the slur?
        
           | ixacto wrote:
           | Yes they should offend their students because history is
           | offensive.
           | 
           | We should also teach about the Holocaust and read the
           | uncensored version of huckleberry Finn, even though it may be
           | offensive.
           | 
           | People (students) will be offended but they will learn how
           | history has changed, be able to think for themselves, and not
           | fall into ideological line. If this scares the left/right
           | establishments that is a great thing.
           | 
           | Living in a 1-party state would suck.
        
       | seph-reed wrote:
       | When I was in high school, we read both "1984" and "Brave New
       | World."
       | 
       | At the time I kind of thought: "liberals are more like BNW with
       | drugs and 'karma' and such, and conservatives are more like 1984
       | with endless wars and refusing to acknowledge things."
       | 
       | At some point in my life, it feels this has flipped.
       | 
       | I now see conservatives as consuming soma (tv) to lull them into
       | a false and simple world, and liberals as enforcing wrong-think.
       | 
       | Obviously, life is much more complex than two books, and
       | similarities can be drawn in any direction. But I still find it
       | interesting having watched my perceptions flip.
        
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