[HN Gopher] For those who can afford it, quitting has become the...
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       For those who can afford it, quitting has become the ultimate form
       of self-care
        
       Author : fortran77
       Score  : 34 points
       Date   : 2021-05-11 17:05 UTC (5 hours ago)
        
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       | Hoasi wrote:
       | > For those who can afford it, quitting has become the ultimate
       | form of self-care.
       | 
       | It makes for a good title, and it is true. If you think about it,
       | it has always been the case.
       | 
       | If you can afford not to, why would you work for the man, right?
        
         | m0llusk wrote:
         | Work can be rewarding and profitable. Being part of a skillful
         | team that accomplishes meaningful goals can be a fun and
         | personally enriching experience.
        
       | ro_bit wrote:
       | > For those who can afford to quit, claiming burnout may be an
       | effective way to signal one's essential employability, a way to
       | reassure your future bosses that you will work yourself to the
       | bone for them, too -- right after this break.
       | 
       | I'm not a hiring manager, but I'd imagine from the perspective of
       | one that claiming burnout as a reason for leaving actually
       | signifies the opposite - you're unable to manage a proper work-
       | life balance and there's a risk you'll burn out in a new job too.
        
         | bluefirebrand wrote:
         | The simple solution is to not tell the hiring manager that you
         | burned out. They don't need to know exactly why you left your
         | job. Hell you don't really have to tell them you are
         | unemployed.
         | 
         | If you leave a long gap in your resume they will be curious of
         | course. Say you quit to pursue a self-employment opportunity
         | and it didn't work out.
        
           | pmoriarty wrote:
           | _" Say you quit to pursue a self-employment opportunity and
           | it didn't work out."_
           | 
           | That assumes you get a chance to explain.
           | 
           | A lot of time your resume will just go in the trash as soon
           | as they see a big gap in your work history.
           | 
           | And if you do get a chance to say you were pursuing some
           | self-employment opportunity in the gap, that'll rarely be
           | good enough, because what most hiring manager want to see if
           | that you kept your skills up to date in the interim and
           | continued to do something related to your field (which people
           | who are burnt out are unlikely to do). Otherwise you're going
           | to fall behind... at least in the tech field.
           | 
           | Other things that matter are:
           | 
           | - how long were the gaps?
           | 
           | - how frequent were the gaps?
           | 
           | - how long did you work at each of your jobs?
           | 
           | If the gaps are long and/or the jobs are short, they're red
           | flags. It doesn't mean you won't get hired, or won't get an
           | interview, but every red flag lowers your chances.
           | 
           | With each gap you're digging yourself deeper and deeper in to
           | a hole that will be progressively harder to climb out of.
           | 
           | My advice is to switch careers as soon as possible.. the
           | longer you wait the harder it'll be. Your choice of alternate
           | career doesn't have to be perfect, and it doesn't have to be
           | "your calling" (often people don't even know their calling
           | until they try it). It's important to try, and maybe try a
           | whole bunch of different stuff until you find a good fit, and
           | not to just languish and rot.
           | 
           | Easier said than done for someone suffering from burnout..
           | but that's the way out instead of sinking further in.
           | 
           | Of course breaks, therapy, and medication work for some, and
           | I hope they work for you.
        
         | PenguinCoder wrote:
         | That's some grade A victim blaming right there. As if it's the
         | workers fault for not 'maintaining work life balance properly'.
        
           | Mountain_Skies wrote:
           | Perhaps but isn't it probable that those doing the hiring
           | will, right or wrong, engage in exactly that type of
           | thinking?
        
           | ro_bit wrote:
           | I think you misunderstood the tone of my comment. I'm not
           | saying that that is the case, but that I imagine that kind of
           | victim blaming or whatever you want to call it is what a
           | hiring manager would use with an applicant claiming burnout.
        
       | agf wrote:
       | The latter part of the article, about "The Burnout Society", maps
       | much more to how I and others I know use the term. There was a
       | period at my job where I was burned out -- but that ended when I
       | decided that I was never going to achieve what I had hoped for
       | the organization. I had become an "achievement-subject", and just
       | deciding not to be one largely removed the feeling of burnout.
       | 
       | My last day at my current job is Friday, after nearly nine years.
       | I'm not leaving because of burnout, but because I no longer need
       | the job (right now -- it's not like I never need to work again)
       | and it's no longer rewarding in non-financial ways day to day.
       | 
       | While my time will be very lightly scheduled and contain almost
       | nothing that looks like work, I do have goals for my time off and
       | a rough timeline for when I'd like to return to work. Those goals
       | would be very difficult to achieve (for me, not necessarily for
       | others) while also working full time. I am the perfect example of
       | someone quitting as an act of self care.
        
       | m0llusk wrote:
       | Terminology may be a source of complication here. The word
       | "burnout" became closely associated with drug addicts
       | experiencing serious problems back in the 60s and 70s and has had
       | stigma about it ever since.
       | 
       | In my experience "exhaustion" is a less provocative while also
       | being a more accurate description of what is going on. Being in a
       | competitive, high productivity mode as much as possible can take
       | a toll on people especially in the modern always connected
       | environment.
        
         | bluefirebrand wrote:
         | This seems like a weird quibble to have. "Burned out from work"
         | has been an acceptable term for "extremely stressed and
         | exhausted from work" for at least a decade.
         | 
         | The workaholism comparison to drug addiction is actually pretty
         | apt, too.
        
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