[HN Gopher] Living Like It's 99, No Social Media, No Smartphone
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       Living Like It's 99, No Social Media, No Smartphone
        
       Author : betaman0
       Score  : 130 points
       Date   : 2021-03-23 16:42 UTC (6 hours ago)
        
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       | bszupnick wrote:
       | > trick I've developed, when giving my contact info to new
       | people, is to enter my phone number on their smartphone myself,
       | and install Signal for them
       | 
       | I too have no social media nor smartphone, but this made me
       | cringe...I TOTALLY understand his pain-point and it's tough to
       | not be on Whatsapp, but to go above-and-beyond for privacy
       | reasons, and then install an app on someone's phone without their
       | consent?
       | 
       | But it is a great article! I love the watch and it's something
       | I'm going to look into for myself!
        
         | enricozb wrote:
         | I'd like to assume he meant that he would walk them through
         | installing Signal, and not just install it without them asking.
         | I can't imagine what that interaction is like...
        
       | at_a_remove wrote:
       | I didn't get a Facebook account or a smartphone until 2018. I
       | could probably ditch the former. The latter is occasionally
       | handy.
        
       | kevwil wrote:
       | There's a lot I like here. I agree that the major toxin has been
       | mobile social media apps, and I deleted mine a few months ago.
       | 
       | Divorcing the smartphone completely is doable but I'm not sure I
       | want that pain. That's mainly because of niche apps I depend on,
       | contactless payments, and it's my primary camera, not because I
       | talk on the phone with people _shudder_. The smart watch is worth
       | looking into, but still would need the niche apps and the
       | contactless payments and the camera, and a GoPro would not fill
       | my camera needs.
       | 
       | When my current phone is paid off I do intend to look into
       | alternate ideas like this because There's Got To Be A Better Way
       | (tm).
        
       | beyondthecut wrote:
       | Sadly, the phone mentioned on the website is no longer being
       | made. Anyone have alternative suggestions for a non-Android
       | "wallet phone" that works in the US?
        
         | zikduruqe wrote:
         | https://www.thelightphone.com
        
         | twobitshifter wrote:
         | You might try this. I can't vouch for it but the concept seems
         | interesting to me.
         | https://www.punkt.ch/en/products/mp02-4g-mobile-phone/
         | 
         | It's a small candy bar phone but maybe not square enough to fit
         | in your wallet.
        
       | aeternum wrote:
       | Anyone else see the irony in making a big deal about giving up
       | social media but then writing a blog post about it and promoting
       | that post on various social media platforms?
        
       | e2021 wrote:
       | he problem I have with getting rid of the smartphone is the
       | camera - its _so_ much better than a dedicated camera for its
       | size, and once you have the camera its hard to resist using the
       | apps.
        
       | TrackerFF wrote:
       | Smartphones are a godsend as far as convenience goes.
       | 
       | I shudder to think how cumbersome a lot of things were just
       | _five_ years ago.
       | 
       | Things I use my smartphone for every day, or very frequently -
       | versus what I had to do before:
       | 
       | Sending money via apps - Had to go to the bank and do a bank
       | transfer, or login to my bank on my computer, and do a wire
       | transfer from there. I can also pay for stuff in stores, via
       | apps, so I don't need to have my bank/credit card on me.
       | 
       | Electronic signing and 2FA - Had to carry an external login
       | chip/dongle.
       | 
       | Listen to music - Had to carry an iPod or similar
       | 
       | Take photos - Had to carry camera or video camera, and transfer
       | the stuff to my computer
       | 
       | Record audio - Had to carry some physical audio-recorder
       | 
       | E-tickets - Had to purchase physical tickets/cards, and get them
       | re-filled in stores
       | 
       | E-drivers licence - Had to carry my physical drivers licence,
       | which could lead to fine/penalty if I forgot my wallet at home
       | 
       | Maps - Had to look up maps beforehand, buy a print, find a public
       | map. Same goes for directions.
       | 
       | Real-time public transit maps - Wasted so, so much time standing
       | outside, waiting for the bus or whatever, not knowing if it was
       | late, or I was too late.
       | 
       | Coupons - Had to bring physical coupons to store.
       | 
       | And the list goes on. I haven't even mentioned the most obvious
       | things, like being able to read emails everywhere, or getting in
       | contact with anyone, almost everywhere.
       | 
       | Sure - one can/will get dependent to phones, and losing it can be
       | extremely stressful.
       | 
       | But the net result has been overwhelmingly positive for me, as
       | far as convenience goes. I "side hustle" by buying/selling stuff,
       | both domestic and international, and the sheer ease of how things
       | work today is just incredible. 90% of that business happens
       | through my phone, because that's the fastest way.
        
         | ergot_vacation wrote:
         | This is what I was thinking reading this. I've never used
         | social media, smart phone or otherwise. But I DO really like my
         | cheap, incredibly outdated smart phone for the simple things it
         | provides: a camera whenever I need it that's good enough, the
         | ability to check something online quick (but never prolonged
         | browsing, that's just miserable), mapping and GPS, and hell,
         | even really simple "apps" like the calendar (I can never
         | remember anything important). Probably the most-used thing on
         | my phone for me is the stopwatch/timer, multiple times a day.
         | 
         | That said, I don't know if there's really a point to these
         | articles anymore. The people who CAN do this, and want to, will
         | just do it. For most of the population meanwhile, trends and
         | FOMO will keep them glued in place until the next corporate
         | SOMA comes along. Put another way, I don't think you can really
         | write an article like this without preaching to the choir. I
         | didn't avoid social media because some article convinced me it
         | was a good idea. I just have a (mildly) weird personality and
         | somewhat unusual priorities, and staying off social media was
         | one inevitable result.
        
       | ksm1717 wrote:
       | This is a super cool article and it's funny to me how much time
       | was spent detailing the features of the watch (suspiciously
       | similar to a smartphone's) and how some of the commentary is
       | steeped in 2018 anti social media sentiments that have since
       | become tropes in themselves.
       | 
       | Examples like posting pictures of meals and the idea that people
       | use social media to fool people into thinking your life is
       | exciting. I think the types of people interested in making these
       | posts realize that the social media mainstream considers it passe
       | at this point.
        
       | syntheticnature wrote:
       | The author says they're using Signal, but they obviously aren't
       | on their phone. It looks like getting access to Signal on a
       | "desktop" requires it being on your phone -- which seems like a
       | potential future chicken/egg problem.
        
         | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
         | With signal-cli and perhaps other third-party clients, you can
         | register a new Signal account on an ordinary computer. You do
         | need a phone to receive the Signal confirmation SMS, but that
         | can even be a dumbphone.
         | 
         | Obviously signal-cli is never going to be a solution for the
         | mass public, but using it is an option for some HN readers -
         | this is a "news for nerds" website.
        
         | mssundaram wrote:
         | Yeah that part confuses me too
        
       | jccalhoun wrote:
       | People without smart phones are the new people who don't watch
       | tv: They can't wait to tell you all about it.
        
       | dgellow wrote:
       | > A trick I've developed, when giving my contact info to new
       | people, is to enter my phone number on their smartphone myself,
       | and install Signal for them.
       | 
       | WTF. Don't do this! That's a complete sin, don't modify the
       | device of someone else when they trust you to enter your contact
       | information! You're violating every social expectation when
       | installing something without their consent.
        
         | filoleg wrote:
         | Yeah, I am fully onboard with the reasoning for why people hate
         | calls and prefer messaging (sync vs. async), but the passage
         | you quoted describes something that is straight up wrong on
         | human level.
         | 
         | They give you their unlocked device for a specific task of
         | entering your phone number, which already implies a high level
         | of trust, and you instantly break that trust by unsolicitedly
         | installing software on their device? That sounds like a quick
         | way to lose your connection to that person.
         | 
         | I know I wouldn't want to have any further interaction with the
         | person who breaks my trust right at the beginning by going out
         | of their way and sneakily installing software on my device.
         | Especially since they aren't a close friend of mine to begin
         | with, because if they were a close friend, we would have each
         | other's phone numbers already.
        
         | boring_twenties wrote:
         | Also never hand your unlocked smartphone to a stranger for any
         | reason whatsoever.
        
         | true_religion wrote:
         | I assume he'd tell them what he's doing since they are standing
         | right next to him and can see he's not just adding his contact
         | info.
        
       | danaliv wrote:
       | I've been tempted to do this. The thing that stops me is how good
       | texting is on smartphones. The author writes about this, and
       | pretty much confirms my fear that it would be a major step
       | backwards and would put me out of sync with almost everyone in my
       | life. I'm awkward enough as it is; I don't need to add _new_
       | barriers to interacting with me. :) ETA: Honestly if Apple would
       | open up iMessage, I could get rid of my iPhone, which is of
       | course the reason they don 't open up iMessage.
       | 
       | A couple other things I've thought about, more on the social
       | media angle, are (1) starting a personal web site again, and (2)
       | a different kind of social media site. For (1), I've already got
       | a little VM that runs my email and some quickie web apps I threw
       | together. Why not stand up a personal site too, like a lot of us
       | used to have, where I can share all the stuff I'd normally be
       | putting on Instagram, etc.? Obviously that's adding friction for
       | folks too, but I'm less concerned about that stuff getting
       | ignored.
       | 
       | For (2), and bear with me because this is going to sound a bit
       | woo-woo, I think a social gratitude list could be really
       | powerful. Maybe not a big hit, but definitely powerful for people
       | who would use it. I say this because I used to be on an email
       | list with some friends where everyone would write ten things they
       | were grateful for that day and then send it to the list. Now, if
       | this is not a practice you're comfortable with, you're probably
       | dry-heaving right now; I did too at first. But once I got past
       | the fact that it's not very cool, I found that it was a fantastic
       | way to keep up with folks. (That's in addition to the mental
       | health benefits, which I think are evidence-based but I'd have to
       | double-check that to be sure.) Amazingly, I didn't even notice a
       | tendency for it to degrade into performativity or attention-
       | seeking. Overall I just think it would be a structure that would
       | enable some of the positive aspects of social media while
       | discouraging or eliminating the negatives.
        
         | everdrive wrote:
         | >The thing that stops me is how good texting is on smartphones.
         | 
         | There used to be nice dumb phones with physical qwerty
         | keyboards. They were wonderful for texting. It's a real shame
         | they're not made anymore.
        
           | gman2093 wrote:
           | I think there's still a market for slide-out keyboards on
           | devices. They felt a bit janky in the 00's but I would still
           | be first in line for the next android (or even ios, unlikely)
           | device with such a feature. In high school I could send texts
           | without having to look away from my counter-strike games.
        
         | mikepurvis wrote:
         | > I don't need to add new barriers to interacting with me. :)
         | 
         | This is an issue for me too. I know the meme is "your _real_
         | friends will still make the effort and call you  / hang out
         | with you / whatever", but I don't think it's that simple-- we
         | (especially in the pandemic, but really always) rely on social
         | gatherings/media as a proving ground for acquaintanceships, a
         | place to banter back and forth and onramp a relationship to the
         | point where it would be not-weird to actually arrange an
         | intentional activity or get-together.
         | 
         | And the reality is, when I've had acquaintances fall off my
         | social media radar or be otherwise difficult to get ahold of, I
         | just can't be bothered. When every person but one is in a FB
         | Messenger group chat, and one person wants to be texted-with
         | about what the plans are, that person inevitably gets left
         | behind.
         | 
         | So maybe there's some FOMO going on here, but I don't think I'm
         | at a place in my mid-thirties where I'm ready to effectively
         | shut the door on those opportunities.
        
           | nineplay wrote:
           | The cheerful "your real friends will.." meme ignores the
           | possibility that you'll find you have no "real" friends.
           | Turns out even casual friends are better than none, and you
           | aren't likely to find any real friends if you are hiding
           | offline, waiting for everyone to come to you.
        
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           | astura wrote:
           | Agreed, all close friends I've made recently I wouldn't have
           | made the transition from casual acquaintance to close friend
           | without social media. Social media provides zero friction
           | interaction and the sum of interactions can grow a
           | friendship.
           | 
           | Plus I don't find social media AT ALL toxic and I only spend
           | maybe a half hour a week total on it. OTOH I find people
           | complaining about social media being toxic is becoming
           | extremely toxic.
        
         | boring_twenties wrote:
         | You could get a Google Voice number and use the web app to text
         | people. It rather sucks, or maybe it just sucks in Firefox, I
         | don't know. But it's usable enough, you just have to hard-
         | refresh the page every now and then. At least they finally
         | started allowing downloading of "unsupported" attachments,
         | which was the biggest problem before.
        
           | mantlepro wrote:
           | I opened an account with voip.ms after ditching my smartphone
           | last year and was pleasantly surprised with the reliability
           | and interoperability. Works decently well with Linphone, ATA
           | devices, forwarding to a dumb phone, land line, etc. With it
           | you can also receive SMS messages (and reply to them) by
           | email.
        
       | wojciii wrote:
       | I stopped using Facebook a year ago. Deleted the user. I created
       | a fresh one to be able to follow my kids in daycare which can't
       | be used for much else because I don't want to add more than one
       | friend. This is priceless. I'm not allowed to browse more FB
       | unless I add more friends. This is kind of asshole behaviour.
       | What if I don't have more than one friend? Fuck you Facebook.
       | 
       | I disabled all kinds of popups and notifications. I still use
       | Jodel which is fun and anonymous (as much as anything these
       | days).
       | 
       | I get mad when reading LinkedIn so I only go there once a week or
       | so. There is nothing noteworthy on linkedin.
       | 
       | I use Reddit for news only - private subreddit.
       | 
       | I guess that forums are the only kind of interaction that
       | interests me.
       | 
       | I just wanted to say that cutting the connection to social media
       | doesn't have to be 100%. Being selective is enough for me.
        
         | kjakm wrote:
         | >> I created a fresh one to be able to follow my kids in
         | daycare...
         | 
         | What does this mean?
        
           | wojciii wrote:
           | English is obviously not my first language. :)
           | 
           | My boy is in a private day care (Danish: dagpleje) - they
           | have a private FB group where they post pictures for their
           | parents to see most of the days.
        
             | heavyset_go wrote:
             | In the US, they'd have to have the parents sign media
             | releases to do this. Seems like a lot of effort to maintain
             | such a group.
        
               | filoleg wrote:
               | Wouldn't they make you sign media release at the point
               | when you sign up for daycare, along with a bunch of other
               | papers you already have to sign? Seems rather easy if
               | that's the case and not that you have to sign off on
               | every single picture uploaded.
        
             | kjakm wrote:
             | I think your English was fine, I just couldn't think of
             | reasons a day care might require Facebook. Groups makes
             | sense.
        
         | matwood wrote:
         | Your LI must be very different from my LI :) I see endless self
         | promotion, but nothing that makes me mad. More like bored, so I
         | rarely go to LI except to accept the odd connection request
         | from someone I met IRL.
         | 
         | Everything else is spot on though. I go days without looking at
         | my fairly selective twitter or reddit. HN is probably the only
         | thing I check daily, but if I'm busy I might not even do that.
         | 
         | The point is use the tools and don't let them use you. Social
         | media, smart phones, etc... are what you make of them.
        
           | wojciii wrote:
           | For some reason I get angry when reading LI. Self promotion
           | got worse last year. People now post that they are going to
           | change job a couple of days before job change. I don't
           | understand why.
           | 
           | The job offers are crap. I'm not going to move to Switzerland
           | or Germany for 3 months gig and I don't want to work for
           | Uber. I stopped responding to recruiters as they don't
           | understand that I really don't want to do Java for some
           | crappy bank. I would rather starve.
           | 
           | End rant.
           | 
           | HN is great. People are usually nice and often I learn
           | something new about a topic that I didn't know.
        
       | silvi9 wrote:
       | The best benefit I've seen is my increased focus and ability to
       | do deep work. I actually feel like I'm getting way more work
       | done, and have the ability to now focus for hours at a time.
       | Before, work usually consisted of surface level attempts at
       | "working" before I was notified on Discord or social media about
       | something.
       | 
       | Notifications and the constant desire to check for replies have
       | really hindered my productivity in ways unimaginable. Now,
       | without distraction, I can get meaningful work done. Hugely
       | beneficial and transformed my whole manner of working.
        
         | ncfausti wrote:
         | Would you say the same level of benefit could be had by simply
         | just turning your phone off and placing it in another room
         | while working?
         | 
         | I've done this with pretty great results. Actually, I will do
         | it again right now.
        
       | jeffreyrogers wrote:
       | This is really neat. I got rid of all social media years ago
       | because I thought the downsides outweighed the benefits for me
       | (well I have a LinkedIn that I almost never sign in to). I've
       | thought about getting rid of my smartphone too but I use maps too
       | much. The Garmin is a good way to get around that. If there were
       | a similar phone to the one he's got that was good for texting too
       | I might give this a try.
        
       | socialist_coder wrote:
       | It seems like his main reason for getting rid of his smartphone
       | was because he was unable to not use social media apps on his
       | smartphone.
       | 
       | For me, I have achieved mostly the same goal by just not using
       | social media apps. No reddit, no twitter, no fb, no linked in, no
       | whatever. I browse reddit and HN on my computer, thats pretty
       | much it. I use my smartphone pretty rarely but when I do need to
       | use spotify or maps or podcasts or some special app, I still can.
       | And you can still text, which like the author noted, is
       | important.
       | 
       | So, I say to the author - work on your self control and
       | discipline! Just don't use social media anymore! It's really not
       | hard! I think the trick is to not use it at all. You can't just
       | "use it in small amounts".
        
       | kristopolous wrote:
       | This reminds me of a small company with an non-smart e-ink phone
       | and I'm curious whether there was a market fit ... has anyone
       | tried the Light Phone and if so, does it achieve these goals?
       | 
       | I _feel_ like it may constitute a separate device class than a
       | dumb-phone but I don 't know how much is marketing versus
       | reality.
        
         | kweks wrote:
         | Try the Cat B26 phone. Nokia 3210 size, 4G + Wifi. KaiOS. T9
         | interface. Cutdown WhatsApp, cutdown Google Maps. Dual SIM. Can
         | act as a 4G hotspot. Certified water and dust proof. Weeks long
         | battery. 65EUR.
         | 
         | Very solid devices for cutting back internet dependance or for
         | traveling without but still having the basics.
        
           | kristopolous wrote:
           | oh it's by _that_ Cat; Caterpillar, the one that does
           | construction machinery. Out of curiosity, what 's the battery
           | tech? LiFePO? LTO?
           | 
           | I'd imagine heat tolerance and impact resilience would be
           | more important than slimness and lightweight for these
           | devices if they're intended to be used like say, at a
           | foundry.
        
           | boring_twenties wrote:
           | This one[1]? It says it's only 2G GSM?
           | 
           | 1- https://smile.amazon.com/CAT-Rugged-Phone-Factory-
           | Unlocked/d...
        
         | motohagiography wrote:
         | I almost bought one of these:
         | https://www.punkt.ch/en/products/mp02-4g-mobile-phone/
         | 
         | but I realized I barely talk on the phone, I just use it for
         | texting. Thinking old blackberry format would be better, as I
         | prefer the keyboard.
        
         | alectroem wrote:
         | I've had the Light Phone 2 since launch, but just got rid of my
         | old smart phone and switched over to it completely about a
         | month ago.
         | 
         | If your goal is to overcome a phone/internet addiction, or just
         | disconnect, then the LP2 will definitively help you achieve
         | that! Your going to have to give some stuff up (No Spotify, no
         | Directions yet), and deal with texting that worse then a smart
         | phone but better then a number pad. But to me its definitely
         | worth it.
         | 
         | I think the LP2 will eventually provide the same stuff that the
         | original author gets from his Garmin watch and GSM Calls phone,
         | which is pretty neat!
        
       | standardUser wrote:
       | This is great and all. Unless you travel a lot. Or have a wide
       | network of far flung friends and family to keep up with. Or have
       | niche hobbies and interests. Or are looking for a new job. Or
       | just generally like to keep up with modern trends and culture.
       | 
       | But yeah, sure, sounds great for the tiny number of people who
       | don't require any of the above.
        
         | mixmastamyk wrote:
         | All my job searches have been organized over email, and the
         | poster said no smartphone, not no phone. Exaggerating a bit?
        
         | Barrin92 wrote:
         | >But yeah, sure, sounds great for the tiny number of people who
         | don't require any of the above.
         | 
         | Most people actually need none of that stuff. I think there's a
         | lot of illusions that come with social media. Having 500
         | Facebook friends you chat with two times per year is not
         | friendship in a real sense of the term.
         | 
         | What many people are looking for arguably these days and what
         | has somewhat been lost is lifelong, strong bonds and real
         | conversations between people you have unconditional trust with.
         | Having two of those is better than a million Instagram
         | followers.
         | 
         | Same with 'keeping up with culture and trends'. Like what does
         | that actually mean. Is anyone really better off when they
         | follow Kim Kardashians daily drama? Is hooking into every trend
         | really producing independent, smart, autonomous, strong-willed
         | people? There's value in disconnecting and spending time with
         | yourself and alone that many younger kids in particular don't
         | have space for any more.
        
           | standardUser wrote:
           | "...friends you chat with two times per year is not
           | friendship in a real sense of the term" No, it is a different
           | sense of the term and has different value. That's not in any
           | way a bad thing, nor does it detract from other
           | relationships. It is purely additive.
           | 
           | "There's value in disconnecting and spending time with
           | yourself..." Right, but using social media does not stop one
           | from enjoying personal time. Why would it? Again, it is
           | additive.
           | 
           | I'd also point you to my other comment about unique
           | communities and opportunities that only exits on the
           | established social media platforms.
        
             | Barrin92 wrote:
             | >nor does it detract from other relationships
             | 
             | okay I'll invite you the next time you're at a bar or cafe
             | to pay close attention to how many people look at their
             | phone instead of focusing on the person they're with.
             | 
             | Time and attention are precious, we don't have a lot of it.
             | It's the opposite of additive, it's the scarcest thing in
             | the world, because attention and time are the only thing
             | you cannot make more of. Every moment spent on following
             | trends, liking dog pictures, getting that additional hit of
             | dopamine from getting some more followers or a notification
             | alert is a signal that disrupts focus and draws your mind
             | away from relationships or things that matter.
             | 
             | >unique communities and opportunities that only exits on
             | the established social media platforms.
             | 
             | An opportunity that only exists on a social media platform
             | and is intermediated by some third party is terrible and
             | takes agency and control away from you. You can do a
             | business without social media, you can find subcultures and
             | local communities in almost all places on the planet, where
             | you can make real and lasting connections rather than
             | superficial digital ones.
        
         | jc_811 wrote:
         | I don't think you need a smartphone and social media to do any
         | of the above listed tasks. The author's qualm isn't with having
         | an online presence, or being tapped into modern society, it's
         | having that modern society constantly tapping you on the
         | shoulder with a bombardment of notifications and algorithms
         | designed specifically to get you hooked.
         | 
         | I think you can easily travel, have a wide network of far flung
         | friends, be involved in niche hobbies, look for a new job, and
         | keep up with modern trends & cultures - all without a smart
         | phone and social media. If you have a laptop & internet
         | connection - you're good to go! This allows you to tap in _when
         | you want on your own terms_ instead of the other way around.
        
           | standardUser wrote:
           | I found a great website recently by a man who collects
           | crayons. A niche activity if there ever was one. Want to be
           | part of that community? It exists only on Facebook.
           | 
           | I moved abroad a couple years ago and needed a way to get
           | involved with the local ex-pat community. One guess where all
           | of their organizing and communicating was done.
           | 
           | Want to bootstrap a home business, like so many mask-makers
           | have done during the pandemic? How do you get your initial
           | traction without friends and family on the social media
           | networks?
           | 
           | If people want to opt out of the modern world that's fine,
           | but let's not pretend they aren't missing out.
        
             | Nextgrid wrote:
             | Even more reasons why anti-trust action against social
             | media monopolies and laws like the GDPR are important. You
             | might not be able to "beat" Facebook, but at least
             | regulation will tone down its scumminess and make it
             | slightly more tolerable.
        
         | PenguinCoder wrote:
         | Two things I _need_ and get from a smart phone that I can't get
         | from a dumbphone - GOOD GPS/Maps, and NFC/contactless payment.
        
           | tayo42 wrote:
           | I would include a camera too. I don't really want to carry a
           | dslr, i like that google photos are pretty much synced and
           | backed up. It not fun for me to run some crappy data back up
           | thing.
           | 
           | I like taking pictures, i like looking back on them. I use
           | them for painting inspiration too. I don't really need to be
           | a photographer though with a dslr or whatever is cool now
        
           | grillvogel wrote:
           | you could get a gshock watch with GPS, and don't most credit
           | cards have NFC options now?
        
       | AlexTWithBeard wrote:
       | Not having a FB account is great, until you want to join a local
       | running club and - !tada! - the only thing you can find is their
       | facebook group name.
        
       | chovybizzass wrote:
       | i'm back on irc no more discord/slack for personal use.
        
         | ajyotirmay wrote:
         | IMO, you can ditch a smartphone and still keep using the
         | services. I normally keep such services on my laptop, and I
         | just open one up when I need to use one.
         | 
         | It's a middle ground. I can't completely get rid of a
         | smartphone because I'm into motorcycle touring and GPS is
         | essential to me. I'm trying alternatives to Gmaps, but it's
         | pretty awkward and uncomfortable.
         | 
         | One thing that I've done is no notification tone, and I've
         | disable notifications for whatever selected IM apps I've got on
         | my phone
        
       | busterarm wrote:
       | I didn't entirely dump the smartphone, because that's hard to the
       | point of ludicrous.
       | 
       | What I did do was get a Pixel 4a and install GrapheneOS on it.
       | The only apps on the phone are one to sync my CalDAV/CardDAV and
       | the other for my one-time passwords.
       | 
       | I can use a browser if I'm desperate.
       | 
       | It's been the best decision I've made by far.
        
       | heavyset_go wrote:
       | I remember hoping that cell phones would just be a fad.
        
       | ggggtez wrote:
       | > Some of them even stopped texting me because they had to open
       | another app on their phone in order to write to me. Yeah, you
       | also read that right.
       | 
       | I guess they didn't live through the instant messenger wars. How
       | did they not expect this would happen?
        
       | jaynetics wrote:
       | > People Thought I Was Dead [...] Some of them even contacted my
       | family multiple times.
       | 
       | I've been wondering whether something has happened to a few
       | remote acquaintances of me who have suddenly stopped posting.
       | 
       | If you plan to quit facebook et al, that's awesome, but maybe
       | post a final status saying "I'm not dead, get in touch via mail
       | or phone".
        
         | username91 wrote:
         | I dropped off most of the WWW similarly a few years back. I was
         | exhausted and the last thing I had the energy for was composing
         | a post to several platforms and imagining all the incoming
         | replies.
        
         | DyslexicAtheist wrote:
         | if you really care why not just reach out. I was one of the
         | first people (that I know of) who decided to live this way so
         | never thought about it. only later after I constantly seen the
         | topic pop up (and finding myself justifying my "odd behaviour"
         | to others) noticed that also now I wouldn't announce it in fear
         | of being called "that guy" who thinks they are special. I
         | didn't want to be seen as "the vegan at the steak dinner"
         | telling everyone that they are better then them. Being so
         | disillusioned with superficial "online friendships" at the time
         | felt it was also my duty to not announce it to all those 95% of
         | my contacts who didn't care anyway.
        
           | spiritplumber wrote:
           | In a lot of cases, because people stopped checking their damn
           | email
        
       | motohagiography wrote:
       | I could joke that not having social media in my life has made
       | more time for my HN addiction, but I really like not knowing most
       | of you. Benefits of no social media engagement include:
       | 
       | - All of my personal relationships have normal adult boundaries
       | based on what we bring to it today, and don't operate on
       | precedents set when we were in middle school.
       | 
       | - Freedom from the awareness of people talking about me and the
       | urge to influence that conversation.
       | 
       | - I can try things and really suck terribly at them until I'm
       | good enough that I don't anymore, and do them for the pleasure of
       | doing them instead of whether they get me approval and likes.
       | 
       | - I'm a refreshing person to be around because the perceived
       | problems of the world seem alien and silly in my environment.
       | 
       | - I can engage deeply with complex ideas and problems without
       | being assigned to a "side."
       | 
       | The downsides are things like when I have an idea for a product
       | or do something creative, I absolutely lack a channel to put it
       | into to get fast feedback and refine it.
       | 
       | It can be a chore for people to "explain" you in business
       | contexts when you don't have a bunch of pictures of your food
       | they can just look up and confirm that you, too, are the sort of
       | person who takes pictures of their food, which creates risk you
       | can't be trusted to _just get it_ that people take pictures of
       | their food now, or you don 't value the same things they do. I
       | literally eat 3x+ a day, so it's not like an exotic holiday for
       | me, though I guess with the internet being global, that's not
       | true for everyone, so I can see why they take the pictures.
       | Having to explain why I don't take pictures of it is social
       | friction like being vegan 20 years ago.
       | 
       | Anyway, it's a balance, and there are good reasons to stay on it,
       | and sacrifices if you leave it. It's just a disequilibrium right
       | now.
        
         | helen___keller wrote:
         | > I can engage deeply with complex ideas and problems without
         | being assigned to a "side."
         | 
         | Without caring what side you are being assigned, it might be
         | more accurate to say.
        
           | motohagiography wrote:
           | By who? If some extremist wanted to put me on their list,
           | they'd only be elevating and complimenting everyone else on
           | it.
        
         | tomxor wrote:
         | > I really like not knowing most of you
         | 
         | I think you are spot on here. The first thing I look at when
         | reading a comment on HN is the comment, I rarely notice the
         | less opaque tiny piece of text at the top indicating which user
         | said what.
        
       | xwdv wrote:
       | What's the point of this really? Yea you can live like 1999, but
       | the world isn't in 1999. You're gonna miss out on the modern
       | human experience, you're gonna be "that guy", you're not gonna be
       | able to relate to anyone, you won't know about anyone's life and
       | no one will care to tell you.
       | 
       | Retreating to the past isn't controlling your addictions, it's
       | giving up. You can own a smartphone, use social media, without it
       | taking over your life, you just need self control. As the world
       | changes you're gonna be stuck grasping at a past that no longer
       | exists. It will be lonely.
        
         | grillvogel wrote:
         | >modern human experience
         | 
         | brought to you on a 5 inch screen
        
         | ueueshitashita wrote:
         | > You're gonna miss out on the modern human experience
         | 
         | Oh no, the horror!
        
         | blain wrote:
         | Giving up a new "cool" few things doesn't mean you will "miss
         | out" on new things. You still can try new things when they come
         | out.
         | 
         | I think the biggest benefit of living like in 99s, just like
         | the author pointed out is a "Peace of mind".
         | 
         | Also, regarding:
         | 
         | > Retreating to the past isn't controlling your addictions,
         | it's giving up.
         | 
         | as if addictions were a good thing. You can also look at it
         | this way: choosing self controlled addictions over "giving up"
         | a device over a dumber one.
        
       | drivers99 wrote:
       | I switched back to a flip phone between using an iPhone 4
       | (before) and an iPhone 6 (after), when iOS updates made the 4
       | slow to a crawl. I decided I was "done" with smart phones. There
       | wasn't a major disadvantage that I remember, however the killer
       | app that made me come back (and buy an iPhone 6) was Uber/Lyft.
        
       | squarefoot wrote:
       | I had a smartphone for about one year when Android was at version
       | 2, then ditched it for an older dumbphone. Never been on any
       | social network and don't miss them at all. I only have WhatsApp
       | on a tablet because of some friends and family, but they know it
       | stays home and turned off 23 hours and 50 minutes a day, if not
       | the entire day. The end result is that I don't spend hours
       | staring at a screen while walking (or driving!) waiting for
       | someone to like my new vertical video or political rant; instead
       | my dumbphone rings or beeps only when there is real need, and I
       | can spend those hours doing other stuff.
       | 
       | Technology however works actively against people like me: my bank
       | was recently acquired by a bigger one in which users must
       | authenticate through an app for online banking operations. I'm
       | not willing to use highly unsecure platforms for banking, which
       | means all Android/iOS/Windows cellphones on planet Earth,
       | therefore when yesterday I was asked if I wanted to activate that
       | service I hit the "remind me later" button, hoping to never see
       | the day it will become mandatory.
        
       | nonameiguess wrote:
       | Guy's making too much of this. I finally gave up Facebook and
       | disentangled from all that was left of Google services I still
       | used a while ago, and it's really not that big a deal. Maybe I
       | just have fewer friends and they mostly didn't know me from
       | social media, but nobody thought I was dead. I still have a
       | smartphone, but I barely use it and have always been in the habit
       | of not having it with me all the time because I worked in a SCIF
       | for years and was in an active duty combat arms unit before that
       | and couldn't bring a smart phone with me everywhere I go.
       | 
       | It's not that novel. First, more than half the world still lives
       | like this right now anyway. Second, 1999 was barely more than 20
       | years ago. As late as 2003, there were still no smartphones, no
       | Facebook, and Google was still just a search engine. Going back
       | to the life you had 18 years ago is just like riding a bike.
       | 
       | At least if you never made this kind of thing your entire life,
       | but plenty of people never made this kind of thing their entire
       | life. My dad still has never made a social account and doesn't
       | even have an email address. This is maybe hard to realize for
       | someone who maintains a personal blog, but not everyone made the
       | Internet the cornerstone of their existence.
        
         | cannam wrote:
         | > Second, 1999 was barely more than 20 years ago. As late as
         | 2003, there were still no smartphones, no Facebook, and Google
         | was still just a search engine. Going back to the life you had
         | 18 years ago is just like riding a bike.
         | 
         | The article appears to agree with you, more or less:
         | 
         |  _A lot of people around me don't understand how I can live my
         | life like that, they tell me they will never do it. What they
         | don't realize is that we all used to do it, smartphones have
         | only been mainstream these last 10 years. So unless you're ten,
         | you've lived your life just fine without it._
         | 
         | The ability to "just sit" is a wonderful thing. I never thought
         | about it until early adulthood - one day I was pacing anxiously
         | around, while my girlfriend and a friend of hers talked on the
         | sofa, and suddenly her friend looked up at me and said "Men
         | never just sit, do they?"
         | 
         | But this was almost 30 years ago, long before smartphones.
        
         | flatline wrote:
         | It would be no problem for me to go back; I don't really use
         | social media and would probably be fine without anything beyond
         | a land line to maintain social contacts.
         | 
         | My kids, by contrast, have grown up in a completely different
         | world. Especially since COVID, so many of their peer
         | interactions are through social media. They are highly
         | dependent on devices for a lot of basic needs. Perhaps this is
         | geared toward a younger audience that has no idea what 1999 was
         | like - it was 22 years ago!
        
         | unethical_ban wrote:
         | Don't just think about millenials and older, consider younger
         | M's and zoomers. These people have grown up (in the developed
         | world) with constant always-on connectivity. Parents want their
         | kids to be connected for safety reasons. Schools don't want to
         | pay for paper books so they get every kid to have a laptop or
         | tablet. In university, you cannot operate without a laptop, and
         | I doubt it would be easy to work without a cell phone.
         | 
         | I agree it's not very healthy, and I agree many people don't
         | understand. I personally am working on using "do not disturb" a
         | lot more on my phone, so that only calls will get through in
         | real-time. That said, to say "1999 was only 20 years ago"
         | really doesn't capture _how much has changed_ in those 20
         | years.
        
           | rchaud wrote:
           | > In university, you cannot operate without a laptop, and I
           | doubt it would be easy to work without a cell phone.
           | 
           | I was in uni 15 years ago and the first mistake I made was
           | trying to do course readings of JSTOR/ScienceDirect papers
           | directly on the screen. I thought I'd be saving paper, as
           | after all the readings amounted to 500 or more pages per
           | course.
           | 
           | After a semester of destroying my eyes and being unable to
           | remember key details, I thought "screw that". Printed out
           | every single reading after that. It took until 2017 to have a
           | consumer product like the ReMarkable that's large enough to
           | comfortably display PDFs and allow for marking up with a
           | pressure sensitive pen.
        
             | disgruntledphd2 wrote:
             | > It took until 2017 to have a consumer product like the
             | ReMarkable that's large enough to comfortably display PDFs
             | and allow for marking up with a pressure sensitive pen.
             | 
             | It blows my mind just how good the reMarkable is, and how
             | long it took to happen.
        
               | filoleg wrote:
               | I was seriously considering purchasing one, as it seems
               | to tick off a lot of boxes for me, including hackability
               | and a rather significant open-source enthusiast community
               | around it. The lack of a simple feature that is backlight
               | killed it off for me though.
               | 
               | After using ebooks for the past decade, I cannot go back
               | to using one without a backlight. I still use backlight
               | at a bare minimum, but a complete lack of it seems like a
               | serious oversight. Looking forward to remarkable v3, as I
               | expect them to address this, given how simple and
               | requested this feature is.
        
       | _kblcuk_ wrote:
       | > So I started calling people... and quickly discovered that a
       | lot of them have a call phobia, as if human interactions were
       | toxic. > Not in the sense that they'd be busy and would call me
       | later. But in the sense that they wouldn't pick up, only to text
       | me 5 seconds later to start the conversation. If I tried to call
       | them back, same thing again. They don't want to talk, they want
       | to text.
       | 
       | Problem with phone calls is that they are synchronous, yet quite
       | often things callers want to resolve can be resolved
       | asynchronously (= via text messages & emails), but you can handle
       | those when it's convenient.
       | 
       | So at least I'm glad that most of my contacts send me messages in
       | whichever messenger is convenient. We can always agree to call
       | each other if we feel like it will be more convenient, but then
       | it's a much different feeling then just randomly calling. Also
       | personally 100% of "random calls" I got within last 3 years were
       | telemarketers, so guess how often I answer the phone :-D
       | 
       |  _Edit:_ in general I agree strongly that dropping off social
       | networks and in general reducing notifications noise to a minimum
       | (and not only on smart phone but everywhere) does wonders,
       | strongly recommend.
        
         | angryasian wrote:
         | I find texting to be one of the worst forms of communication
         | for anything other than short Q&A type communication. Maybe
         | writing letters is a lost art form, like in the past but this
         | was out of necessity more than anything. Emoji's don't replace
         | hearing of a person's voice or reactions to what a person is
         | saying.
         | 
         | Text is too often misconstrued and again emoj's don't solve
         | this problem. The fact that emoji speak even exists is really
         | odd to me, but I guess thats an "ok boomer" for me.
        
         | irrational wrote:
         | At home we have a landline and I'll often call people on that.
         | It doesn't have any way to receive text messages. It seems to
         | me like there needs to be a universal way to indicate whether a
         | given phone number has the ability to receive texts or not. I'm
         | now wondering how many people I've called, who didn't pick up,
         | tried to text me back at that number and thought I was ignoring
         | their texts.
        
           | kjakm wrote:
           | In the UK you can (sort of) text a landline. It's been a
           | while since I've done it but I think the person receives it
           | as a call and then an automated voice reads the message.
        
         | dmortin wrote:
         | > Problem with phone calls is that they are synchronous, yet
         | quite often things callers want to resolve can be resolved
         | asynchronously (= via text messages & emails), but you can
         | handle those when it's convenient.
         | 
         | Very true. The OP doesn't understand phone calls interrupt
         | people most of the time unnecessarily. I like texts and emails,
         | because I can process them whenever it's convenient for me, not
         | when it's convenient for the other person.
        
         | hawski wrote:
         | What I found better than calls, at least with my wife, is Zello
         | - a walkie-talkie-over-IP-app. What seems to work for me is
         | that the talk over it feels natural. Like you're shouting
         | something from other room. It is synchronous and asynchronous
         | at the same time. I respond when I can, there is no call
         | hanging, the conversation is stretched in hours and it
         | naturally fills gaps when we don't see each other.
        
         | pc86 wrote:
         | If you call me and I don't answer, but text shortly after, _and
         | you call me again_ , you're just being a jerk.
        
           | unethical_ban wrote:
           | If you don't answer the phone simply due to conversation
           | anxiety, that is not normal and it should be worked on.
           | 
           | But yes, if someone doesn't answer and then starts a text, it
           | should be assumed/checked whether they're busy.
        
             | ggggtez wrote:
             | If calling on the phone is not part of your social
             | connection with other people (and obviously, here it
             | wasn't) then I think it makes sense.
             | 
             | Consider how most people communicate now a days. A call is
             | only for _long conversations_. No one is expecting to
             | receive a call without a reason, out of the blue. I could
             | certainly imagine people texting back, confused about what
             | their friend wanted to talk about, and whether they could
             | answer in a quick text instead.
             | 
             | That's not anxiety, it's just practical. No one is
             | expecting you to call just to say "hi", they assume there
             | must be some sort of problem that you want to talk about in
             | depth.
        
               | unethical_ban wrote:
               | My statement is opinionated, and I suffer from call
               | anxiety myself (dealing with appointments and what to say
               | to people if I'm setting something up).
               | 
               | It is my opinion that it is unhealthy, and that people
               | should be aware of that and do more to be less unhealthy
               | when it comes to social interaction.
        
             | nicky0 wrote:
             | The problem I have with this is the implication that the
             | only valid reason not to want to talk on the phone is
             | "being busy". Maybe they just don't want to talk to you
             | right now. Take the hint!
        
         | dgellow wrote:
         | > a lot of them have a call phobia
         | 
         | Yep, that's me. I hate phone calls. I don't see phone calls as
         | a natural human interaction at all and they make me really
         | uncomfortable. I never pick up my phone but am almost always
         | available for text messages.
         | 
         | No issues with video call or face to face chat though, so
         | that's not that I find human interactions toxic. But phone
         | calls are something I hate to do. They somehow feel too
         | intrusive and too intimate.
        
           | angryasian wrote:
           | Thats really interesting to me as a gen x'er. Grew up largely
           | before the internet was a thing. I'm in the complete opposite
           | opinion. I find face chat to be intrusive and too intimate.
           | For what could simply handled over voice, no need to see my
           | face or surroundings.
           | 
           | We live largely on zoom these days, and less and less people
           | have their cameras on and they are more like voice calls. I
           | really don't see the difference between this and a phone call
        
             | blaser-waffle wrote:
             | Same. Multinational company, no one uses face / camera
             | unless we need to. Uses up more bandwidth, and calls with
             | China or Brazil are already flakey enough as it is.
             | 
             | Face chat is for friends and family; for business I don't
             | want or need to see your face.
        
         | jotux wrote:
         | I prefer texting/chat because of the traceability, especially
         | for work. The chat history is a type of decision log for me,
         | and I really appreciate being able to go back and review or
         | search for conversations.
        
         | splithalf wrote:
         | People call when they want something. If I wanted something, I
         | would be the one to initiate the call.
        
         | ravenstine wrote:
         | So many people treat texts like they're synchronous, though.
         | Haven't you ever had people send you follow-up texts half an
         | hour after the first one to "remind" you to reply? I've found
         | this to be really common.
        
           | Jtsummers wrote:
           | Politely remind them, when you do get around to following up,
           | that unless it's critically urgent (in which case they should
           | call) you will only respond when you can. Which is not
           | _always_ immediately since you have other obligations (work
           | or family) or may be involved in a task where you can 't
           | (commuting, when we did that sort of thing).
        
           | blamestross wrote:
           | Keepalive pings don't stop them from being async. Every async
           | system has latency/wait-time limitations before a retry is
           | attempted.
        
         | kitsunesoba wrote:
         | In comparison to calls, texts/messages also bring the tangible
         | benefit of giving more space for one to compose and better
         | conduct their thoughts. This is true even when the people
         | involved are actively messaging each other -- it's fine to
         | delay a message for a few minutes whereas in a call there's
         | constant pressure to speak to avoid awkward silence and keep
         | the conversation flowing.
         | 
         | Of course people don't always capitalize fully on this but I
         | think it's a major reason why messaging has come to be
         | preferred over calls.
        
       | dmortin wrote:
       | The no smart phone part seems unnecessary. I have a smartphone
       | for maps, photos, notes, calendar and that's about it. Sometimes
       | looking up info on the net.
       | 
       | The smartphone itself is not the problem. The problem is you if
       | you can't stop browsing on it.
        
         | iFreilicht wrote:
         | The smartphone is not the problem, it's what you put on it.
         | Once you got twitter and instagram and reddit, boy oh boy are
         | you gonna reach for that thing when you're bored even just a
         | little.
         | 
         | So yeah, I agree. My smartphone also handles 2FA, PayPal and
         | bus tickets. None of that is harmful to me, but very useful,
         | and giving it up just for living without a smartphone seems
         | pointless.
        
           | dmortin wrote:
           | > Once you got twitter and instagram and reddit
           | 
           | Yep, that's why I have none of these installed on my phone. I
           | read reddit only when I'm sitting at my laptop.
        
       | avmich wrote:
       | Social media seems to be useful for a job search. Not everybody
       | still has their own startup, and for those who don't a network
       | like LinkedIn can mean less months sitting without income.
       | Privacy is great, but sometimes it's really hard to see ways to
       | simply exist - eat, sleep - without communicating in ways which
       | erode your privacy.
        
       | Taylor_OD wrote:
       | > A trick I've developed, when giving my contact info to new
       | people, is to enter my phone number on their smartphone myself,
       | and install Signal for them. This removed a lot of friction. I
       | would then explain my experiment to them and tell them I can only
       | be contacted via this app. I've always had a positive reaction.
       | Everybody's been curious and asking a lot of questions.
       | 
       | Yikes. I love signal but if I handed someone my phone and they
       | tried to install an app, even while explaining it, I'd be pretty
       | annoyed with them. Someone else holding your phone is a pretty
       | vulnerable place to be now a days.
        
       | greggyb wrote:
       | _Just_ like 99 -- even representing the year with only two
       | digits, just like we did back in 1999!
        
       | radicalriddler wrote:
       | It's coming up to a year of no social media, almost 3 years
       | without facebook. I kept Instagram around to keep in contact with
       | friends, I was posting and lurking 24/7 on Reddit, and also
       | browsing Twitter all the time, refreshing my feeeeeeed for those
       | new posts.
       | 
       | Realized I was heavily depressed, and that the stuff I was
       | reading online was having a really negative impact on my mood
       | everyday. Capitalism Bad, Black Lives Matter (what black people
       | went through made me sad, not the movement becoming prominent),
       | Coronavirus all around the world. Reddit and Twitter were a
       | cancer on my brain.
       | 
       | I deleted them, after a twitch content creator killed himself and
       | it sent me into a spiral, I didn't realize that the parasocial
       | relationships were that strong.
       | 
       | Like the OP, I went through a pretty severe withdrawal period, it
       | actually got worse before it got better, and I had to go speak to
       | a therapist, because I couldn't even get up to go to work. I'd
       | lost my lifestyle, and these senses of "community" that I had.
       | 
       | I can happily say I'm better now, but I'm also thinking of
       | discarding my smartphone. Buy a dumb phone, carry it around with
       | me, while leaving the iPhone at home on wifi for entertainment
       | purposes (Chromecast controller, or watching on phone). I've
       | started watching Twitch and reading reddit more regularly the
       | past couple of months and it's starting to worry me again, might
       | need to do another cleanse somehow, and I can't exactly delete
       | accounts that don't exist, so I need to delete the device that
       | I'm accessing it on.
        
       | figbert wrote:
       | I'm looking into doing something like this. Seems calming.
        
       | k__ wrote:
       | Calling people without asking and installing apps on their
       | smartphones.
       | 
       | Sounds like a complete sociopath to me.
       | 
       | Probably a good thing that they don't use social media...
        
       | acd wrote:
       | Deleted Facebook, deleting Whatsapp. LinkedIn also considering
       | deleting it.
       | 
       | Have a non touch phone. Why are technology which is additive and
       | invades your privacy called smart?
       | 
       | Why is a smart phone with gps tracking smart for privacy? Smart
       | tv? Smart speaker? Privacy?
        
       | bserge wrote:
       | > having used a smartphone and a "dumb phone", I've discovered a
       | big counter intuitive truth, that the real problem is being
       | online: it's the smartphone fault.
       | 
       | Is it the truth, though? It probably varies by people. My opinion
       | is social media is cancer. A cacophony of opinions that no one
       | really cares about. And yet here I am, sharing my worthless
       | opinions and reading other people's comments. It's addictive.
       | 
       | But a smartphone is simply amazing. It's my flashlight, my GPS,
       | my book reader, my video player, my music player, my learning
       | tool, my communication tool, my note taker, my camera, my
       | personal assistant... it's basically a full fledged computer.
       | 
       | Often with features blocked for the convenience of the companies
       | raking in cash from people addicted to vomiting their thoughts
       | online. Why can't I save images and videos in the browser
       | anymore? Used to be real easy, now browsers try their best to
       | hide this feature, Reddit and Imgur have redesigned their shit to
       | actively block downloading the source files, and other platforms
       | require you to log in (no Facebook minions, I don't think I
       | will). But it's an easy thing to solve... for now.
       | 
       | I'm trying hard to decouple the damn thing from the Internet,
       | though, it should work in the middle of nowhere imo. Why in
       | fuck's name do I need an Internet connection to send files
       | between my laptop and my phone? Local transfer tools are _worse_
       | than those made for the cloud bullshit that everyone fell for.
       | Ridiculous.
       | 
       | People now watch videos and listen to music online. No, give me
       | my files, I want them available anywhere, anytime. Perhaps I'll
       | need an Internet connection for the flashlight next. This sounds
       | like old man talk, "I want it the way it used to be", but really,
       | too few people notice the risk of losing everything digital if
       | someone cuts a fiber cable somewhere or some automated system
       | decides to terminate your account. Or if you simply travel to
       | some country where getting a prepaid SIM requires a cavity search
       | and you don't have money for the roaming mafia.
       | 
       | But I'm getting sidetracked. In short: Reduce or remove social
       | media and keep your smartphone :)
        
         | clipradiowallet wrote:
         | > And yet here I am, sharing my worthless opinions and reading
         | other people's comments
         | 
         | But...you clicked the thread. You had a [rough] idea of what
         | type of commentary to expect. Not some endless feed of things
         | an algorithm thinks you'll like/hate/buy. I think of HN as more
         | of a niche community. If we see a story about "acme widgets", I
         | like to read the comments to see what experts have to say.
        
       | 2suY374LPMfemWy wrote:
       | I quit all social media in 2015, and reached similar conclusions
       | to those of others.
       | 
       | One thing I realized that doesn't get talked about much is that I
       | was watering lots of dead flowers. It turned out that my posts on
       | Twitter and Instagram were prompting others to interact with me.
       | Without those regular prompts, I never again heard anything from
       | those who used to comment on my posts. Without me posting first,
       | in six years no one has reached out to find out what I've been up
       | to or if I were even alive.
        
         | unethical_ban wrote:
         | "Watering dead flowers"
         | 
         | This is a wonderful term for the phenomenon, thank you.
        
       | scaladev wrote:
       | > The cherry on top was to stop paying each year for a new
       | smartphone, that does nothing more than the previous one
       | 
       | Why were you buying new phones every year? This is such a non-
       | argument. I've been using the same Android phone for almost 7
       | years. It does everything I want it to do. Sure, I spent a couple
       | of days trimming down the system, and carefully selecting
       | applications (for example, the Google Clock from 2015 weighs
       | about 3 MB and is very fast, while the same application from 2020
       | is about 30 MB and is extremely slow to start, despite having the
       | same feature set).
        
         | AnIdiotOnTheNet wrote:
         | Not to mention that if you know people who are constantly
         | upgrading their phones, then you have a supply of free phone
         | upgrades anyway, just a year or two behind everyone else.
        
         | tdsamardzhiev wrote:
         | People are different. Perhaps he tends to go down slippery
         | slopes with this kind of things. I know I do.
        
         | Robotbeat wrote:
         | I use iPhones (the SE type versions) because they receive
         | updates for like 5 years. Ideally it'd be more like 10 years,
         | but this is still much better than typical Android and WAY
         | better than "once a year."
        
           | antihero wrote:
           | Yep! New iPhone SE for five years is the way forward. They
           | are powerful enough to use day-to-day with pretty much zero
           | lag, have screens large enough to read comfortably, and have
           | the useful features (Apple Pay) of the pricier phones. The
           | camera is still decent, but I prefer my mirrorless anyway.
        
         | coldtea wrote:
         | > _Why were you buying new phones every year? This is such a
         | non-argument._
         | 
         | Many people do. You'd be surprised.
        
           | mikepurvis wrote:
           | Right, but it's a choice. I still run an iPhone 6, and I
           | really haven't felt limited by it.
        
             | olyjohn wrote:
             | I miss my iPhone 6. I thought the SE would fill it's shoes,
             | but the lack of headphone jack makes me constantly
             | regretful. I'm shocked by how many people tell me to "Just
             | put a new stereo in your car" or "Upgrade to a Bluetooth
             | receiver" or "Buy new headphones" or "Just carry that
             | shitty adapter around with you all the time..." Not only
             | should I spend $600 on my phone, but I should also
             | apparently upgrade every single audio device that I own so
             | that smart phone makers can save $1 on each phone they
             | sell.
        
               | throwaway07650 wrote:
               | > so that smart phone makers can save $1 on each phone
               | they sell
               | 
               | What Apple mentioned in the iphone 7 reveal, which was
               | when they made headlines for removing the jack, was that
               | it is a bulky component that extends quite far into the
               | phone, competing for precious real estate with other
               | components.
        
               | olyjohn wrote:
               | Right, which makes the phone easier to build and thus
               | saves money. There's no getting around the fact that
               | money is the #1 reason they have started omitting the
               | jack. Apple has no other reason to leave out a feature
               | that adds a convenient redundancy to a common use-case.
               | There's literally no other negative to leave out the jack
               | other than cost.
        
               | throwaway07650 wrote:
               | > There's literally no other negative to leave out the
               | jack other than cost.
               | 
               | I believe there is. When designing a product, one always
               | operates within a given set of contraints. Removing one
               | of the constraints of the design makes it easier to hit
               | the rest of the objectives. You might argue that easier
               | design = reduced costs but IMO that would be too loose of
               | a definition of "costs" in this case.
               | 
               | Consider the lower end of the market: budget phones have
               | cheaper cameras, cheaper screens, cheaper processors -
               | why? Because these are indeed good targets for cost
               | cutting. They all have headphone jacks though. To me,
               | that suggests that cost is not the issue here.
        
         | everdrive wrote:
         | Does your 7 year old android phone receive security patches?
        
           | Qluxzz wrote:
           | Maybe I've been lucky here but my Oneplus One (April 2014),
           | now flashed with lineageOS is still receiving updates.
           | 
           | Android version: 10.
           | 
           | Android security patch level: March 5 2021.
        
             | heavyset_go wrote:
             | How old is the kernel?
        
             | techrat wrote:
             | > now flashed with lineageOS
             | 
             | Your device is not stock and is, therefore, an exception.
        
           | techrat wrote:
           | Does an Android phone without security patches cease to
           | function?
           | 
           | OS security patches are less of a concern for older devices
           | because the majority of the OS was still moved into Google
           | Play Services and as long as the apps are still updated (eg,
           | Chrome), the risk is very low.
        
           | Spooks wrote:
           | At least for me, I don't do banking on my phone and my main
           | email is not tied to my phone.
        
         | heavyset_go wrote:
         | > _Why were you buying new phones every year? This is such a
         | non-argument. I 've been using the same Android phone for
         | almost 7 years._
         | 
         | Most Android phones run forked kernels, so even if you put
         | LineageOS on them for security updates, they're still stuck on
         | ancient kernels. I have phones with LineageOS on them that will
         | never see a Linux kernel newer than the 3.0 fork the
         | manufacturer released.
        
         | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
         | There are only a tiny handful of Android phone models that get
         | security patches after 2-3 years are up, and they are generally
         | rather expensive phones. Sometimes phones are supported for
         | longer by LineageOS, but the LineageOS devs emphasize that they
         | are only a group of hobbyists, they don't work for you, and
         | they can drop support for a phone any time they want (because
         | they e.g. lost their phone of that model, or simply lost
         | interest).
        
           | lotsofpulp wrote:
           | That's still not every year though.
        
             | ajyotirmay wrote:
             | I don't think so
        
             | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
             | It could be. I have twice been burned by LineageOS. I
             | wanted a deGoogled Android phone, but the only LineageOS-
             | supported models that were available in my region, and
             | which I could afford, had been initially released already
             | 1.5-2 years before. Not only was my new phone soon
             | abandoned by the manufacturer, it was also suddenly dropped
             | by LineageOS after only about a year of my owning it.
             | 
             | The prospect of truly long-term support for years and years
             | is one reason I bought a PinePhone and have been keeping
             | track of its development. But sadly the current PinePhone
             | has too ancient and underpowered a CPU to be useful.
        
           | Solvitieg wrote:
           | Many people I know, who are much smarter than me, keep their
           | Android phones for 3, 4, 5 years. So I'm not sure this is an
           | issue.
        
             | andor wrote:
             | It's totally an issue.
             | 
             | There have been tons of critical Android vulnerabilities
             | over the last years that cannot be fixed by app updates,
             | e.g. remote code execution via Bluetooth stack or MMS.
        
               | marshmallow_12 wrote:
               | are there really people hunting around preying on old,
               | vulnerable Androids? The argument is, there are too few
               | of them for any serious actor to waste time trying to
               | hack one. It's just not worth it. This makes them pretty
               | secure, for the simple reason they are ignored. Obviously
               | old Androids are only scarce because the general
               | population keep buying the latest. They are essentially a
               | buffer zone to protect the Hackers..
        
               | blaser-waffle wrote:
               | > are there really people hunting around preying on old,
               | vulnerable Androids?
               | 
               | Yes. Because like windows the ecosystem is huge, and
               | there are plenty of grandmas who don't know how or why to
               | update things.
               | 
               | Much of the world can't afford to replace their phone
               | every 2 years.
        
           | bserge wrote:
           | Here's something horrifying for you. I ran Android 5.x with
           | updates blocked for 5 years, and even now that phone works
           | unchanged! I also disable Spectre/Meltdown mitigations in
           | Windows and undervolt my processors! I have no antivirus! I
           | don't lock my door at night and my dog is going deaf with old
           | age!
           | 
           | Oooh, even I shudder when reading that! :D
        
             | coldtea wrote:
             | It's all fun and games until you get some huge charges in
             | your credit card, or your bank details leaked, or some
             | fraud is commited in your name with you details and
             | everything...
        
               | rchaud wrote:
               | It's for this reason that I do online banking and
               | investing on my personal laptop. Seeing as how I pretty
               | much open both apps twice a month max, I have no need to
               | install the mobile app.
               | 
               | I don't use Google/Samsung Pay either. They literally do
               | the same thing as the credit + debit card in my wallet.
               | But their advertisements would have you believe they've
               | somehow reinvented consumer finance.
        
               | nightowl_games wrote:
               | After the Target credit card leak and the Equifax leak it
               | really doesn't matter anymore. Besides, Visa typically
               | just refunds you.
               | 
               | It's really about someone taking an undetected loan out
               | in your name, credit card fraud is not a big deal to the
               | regular consumer anymore.
        
               | blaser-waffle wrote:
               | If you really believe that give me your social security
               | number and credit card details.
               | 
               | I won't do anything with em, pinky-promise, but if
               | something _did_ happen, it doesn 't matter, right? Just
               | talk to Visa.
               | 
               | Like, why lock my car and house doors when insurance will
               | pay for it?
        
               | photojosh wrote:
               | > Like, why lock my car and house doors when insurance
               | will pay for it?
               | 
               | Because you'll have a really hard time with a claim if
               | there's no sign of forced entry, since many insurance
               | policies are void in this situation?
        
               | olyjohn wrote:
               | Name one big leak that would have been stopped by
               | patching his phone, patching Windows, running AV, or
               | locking his door at night...
        
               | coldtea wrote:
               | It's enough to name hundreds of thousands of personal
               | leaks that have happened by not doing those things...
               | 
               | If your attitude to security is "I can run my computer
               | with unpatched XP with a public IP and sync it to a 7
               | year unpatched phone because once in a blue moon some
               | credit card company or major business can leak my account
               | data there too", then sure...
        
               | olyjohn wrote:
               | If its enough to name hundreds of thousands of leaks that
               | have been caused by those behaviors, then you should be
               | able to name one.
        
               | coldtea wrote:
               | Sorry, you want me to name a person who had their
               | info/data leaked because of unpatched OS/broswer/mobile?
               | 
               | Might as well ask me to name "one" covid victim, lest
               | they're all "actors".
               | 
               | My uncle, for one, had a randomsware attack 3 years ago,
               | crippling his (small, construction services) company for
               | weeks.
               | 
               | You _are_ aware that there are tons of malware attacks,
               | computers controlled as bots (doing mining, DDoS, etc.),
               | ransomware, etc, right? Or is this some episode of the
               | Twilight Zone?
               | 
               | https://www.csoonline.com/article/2923557/many-
               | ransomware-vi...
               | 
               | https://krebsonsecurity.com/2019/12/ransomware-gangs-now-
               | out...
               | 
               | https://www.securityweek.com/google-sophisticated-apt-
               | group-...
               | 
               | https://www.securityweek.com/sierra-wireless-says-
               | ransomware...
        
           | DyslexicAtheist wrote:
           | guess the reasoning is that there is a lot less attack
           | surface when used in a way where number of apps is reduced to
           | 2-3 (I have such a set-up and for my purpose even an older
           | non-smart motorola flip phone would do the trick).
           | 
           | as soon as I want to do video calls at reasonable speeds,
           | it's probably in my interest to have moderately new hardware
           | and chipsets supporting things like beamforming or other
           | things that only more recent hardware can give me. but even
           | here my 8 yro phone does everything I want it to so that
           | argument kicks only in for truly ancient hardware (e.g. LTE
           | support etc)
        
           | lostmsu wrote:
           | Right now you can get vanilla Android on most recent devices,
           | same image for all of them thanks for the Treble project,
           | that separated kernel and hardware drivers from Android
           | system.
           | 
           | https://github.com/phhusson/treble_experimentations
        
           | boring_twenties wrote:
           | If I'm not mistaken, LineageOS support is good but not good
           | enough. Vulnerabilities in the higher level Android system
           | will be fixed, but updates to the kernel must be provided by
           | the vendor on many (most? all?) devices.
        
             | heavyset_go wrote:
             | This is true. Most Android devices run forked kernels
             | supplied by manufacturers. Once the manufacturers stop
             | updating the kernel, the device is stuck using the old
             | kernel forever. I have several phones running LineageOS
             | that I use as remotes for my TVs, and they'll never see a
             | kernel beyond the 3.x fork the manufacturers released 5+
             | years ago.
             | 
             | This issue is indicative of the larger problem ARM SoCs
             | pose to consumers: manufacturers choose not to design ARM
             | boards with SBSA-like features[1] because it's cheaper to
             | do so. While x86 machines have enumerable buses for
             | hardware discovery, as well as ACPI support, ARM SoCs
             | don't. As a result, mainline Linux kernels won't boot on
             | them, they require a kernel fork, and a kernel fork must be
             | maintained. Manufacturers have no incentive to maintain
             | that fork for more than a year or two.
             | 
             | As ARM SoCs take over what are considered general purpose
             | computing devices, like laptops, devices that we once
             | thought of as being upgradable, software-wise, suddenly
             | aren't. Apple's M1 Macs are an example of this. To get
             | Linux running on them is a massive undertaking, and running
             | Linux on them in the long-term means relying on a third
             | party to build and maintain M1-specific images in
             | perpetuity, because the SoCs can't run the generic ARM
             | images that ARM servers can run.
             | 
             | There are mitigations against this problem in Linux, like
             | Device Tree[2] support, but that is only one small part of
             | the big[2] undertaking when it comes to porting Linux to
             | ARM SoCs.
             | 
             | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Server_Base_System_Archit
             | ectur...
             | 
             | [2] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Device_tree
             | 
             | [3] https://elinux.org/images/a/ad/Arm-soc-checklist.pdf
        
           | M277 wrote:
           | I keep hearing this argument but I don't understand it. What
           | does not having security patches do?
           | 
           | I am using an HTC Desire 826 from 2016 running Android 6,
           | while my father is using a Galaxy Note 3 Neo running Android
           | 4.3.
           | 
           | I personally don't have much issues with regards to not
           | having security patches.. the phone itself does most of what
           | I want, although I am having issues _with other things
           | unrelated to security patches_ -- it 's getting a bit
           | sluggish, the 16GB storage does get annoying, and the battery
           | barely lasts two hours of web browsing. Also, it no longer
           | accepts SIM cards for whatever reason. But it's not a big
           | deal to warrant spending money (I don't get called at all and
           | I do have a dumb phone that I go out with for emergencies.
           | Besides, I no longer get annoying messages and calls from my
           | carrier)
           | 
           | Similarly, my father's is doing alright, and the issues he is
           | facing are unrelated to security patches -- many apps don't
           | support Android versions older than 6.. some of them are
           | essential things like Google stuff. YouTube and Gmail for
           | instance outright don't work, and Chrome occasionally brings
           | up messages along the lines of "Please update your Chrome
           | version". But nothing is caused by not having security
           | patches.
           | 
           | What am I missing? This is a genuine question.
        
             | yjftsjthsd-h wrote:
             | That you have not noticed problems as a result of not
             | having security problems doesn't mean that there aren't
             | problems, and doesn't mean that there won't be problems.
             | Maybe you've lucked out and haven't actually gotten malware
             | yet, and maybe tomorrow you open your phone to a ransomware
             | message, or maybe you've had spyware for 3 months and just
             | not noticed.
        
               | M277 wrote:
               | Good point, but wouldn't there have been more pressure on
               | the OEMs to increase security patch support if this were
               | a widespread issue? Because most do 2 - 3 years.
        
         | watwut wrote:
         | Yeah, I buy new phone when old breaks or is not sufficient for
         | my needs. No reason to buy more often.
        
         | ravenstine wrote:
         | You can get excellent quality refurbished(aka renewed) phones
         | for incredibly cheap that are only a year or two behind the
         | current models. I don't think I've ever bought a brand new
         | phone and paid full price. In fact, I only buy a new phone when
         | the battery starts to die and it's not serviceable. I can't
         | honestly say I understand why people believe they need to buy
         | the latest phone every year or two.
        
           | marshmallow_12 wrote:
           | Same with cars. I fail to understand why anyone would spend
           | 20k on a brand new Focus, for example, when for the same
           | money you can get a 5 year old Mercedes c (also an example)
        
             | GloriousKoji wrote:
             | I'm fairly confident in terms of total cost of ownership
             | and reliability of a new Focus will outlast the 5 year old
             | C class.
        
               | ravenstine wrote:
               | I'm pretty sure this isn't as true as it once was. All of
               | the used cars I've purchased that were manufactured in
               | the last 15 years have been nearly impossible to destroy
               | (without outright crashing them) even with extreme
               | negligence. Not only that, but they were always in pretty
               | good shape. That's just my experience, though. I've still
               | not even come close to the cost of buying new versions of
               | any of the cars I've owned.
        
               | marshmallow_12 wrote:
               | Buy one for 15k. It will still be better and i doubt the
               | difference will come to more than "total cost of
               | ownership".
               | 
               | of course it's a bigger car so more expensive to run. so
               | buy a 5yo focus and get the best of both worlds.
        
               | blaser-waffle wrote:
               | Yeah, was my thought too. A 2018 Focus will probably be
               | pretty reliable, still have some parts under warranty,
               | and have a lower TCO than having to insure and repair an
               | older Mercedes.
        
       | Brajeshwar wrote:
       | Not to this extreme, but I try to have a leaner digital life as
       | much as possible. I jump early (must have been 10+ years) onto
       | the idea of no newspaper, no news, no cable, etc. I don't try to
       | preach to others to practice what I do, but I believe it is about
       | not worrying about missing out.
       | 
       | I was very digitally involved and was one of those early adapters
       | and regular beta-testers of new software, including hardware,
       | etc.
       | 
       | People are surprised when I don't carry my phone most of the
       | time, not giving out my phone number when ordering tea; some are
       | even angry when I say "no phone calls"[1]. I use the phone
       | primarily as a camera.
       | 
       | One of the best things was to disable all notifications[2] except
       | for the must-haves such as Calendar.
       | 
       | I still use electronics and digital devices, and mediums, but I
       | have dumbed them down far enough. I will continue to prune and
       | minimize my attachments.
       | 
       | 1. https://no.phone.wtf
       | 
       | 2. [2014] https://brajeshwar.com/2014/missing-step-productivity-
       | activi...
        
       | ChrisArchitect wrote:
       | weird post/experiment. Everything so suspicious, cranky. Certain
       | type of relationships..... alot of this comes down to users on
       | both ends.
       | 
       | All can be dealt with via moderation/account choices etc. Also,
       | when did this take place? Not during the pandemic I don't think.
       | Big factor there
        
       | SamWhited wrote:
       | I haven't done the smart phone one (though I really should, the
       | only reason I don't is that I'd miss Conversations, the messaging
       | app I use), but I did give up on social media years ago and had a
       | similar experience. When I first deleted Facebook I did have a
       | few friends who would constantly get mad at me for not being at
       | movie night or something then realize they never invited me
       | because they just spammed an invite out on Facebook. This
       | actually offended me somewhat as much as it offended them that I
       | wasn't there: you care so little about our friendship that you
       | couldn't even be bothered to make sure I had RSVPed or invite me
       | personally? But after a while people got used to it and it
       | stopped changing anything except that I felt better and was less
       | angry day to day.
       | 
       | I only recently went back, but instead of any of the big networks
       | I went with a Mastodon account from social.coop. It's similar to
       | Twitter, but the lack of retweet-comments makes me less likely to
       | make snarky replies to things then feel bad about it and wonder
       | why I said something I wouldn't normally say in real life
       | afterwards.
        
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