[HN Gopher] Let there be more biographies of failures
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       Let there be more biographies of failures
        
       Author : commons-tragedy
       Score  : 220 points
       Date   : 2021-03-17 16:02 UTC (6 hours ago)
        
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       | olivertaylor wrote:
       | Amen! I've found that 9 times out of 10 successful people follow
       | the same advice and believe the same things as unsuccessful
       | people (at least they SAY they do). So it's really useful to look
       | at people who failed yet followed the same advice.
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Survivorship_bias
        
         | forgotmypw17 wrote:
         | I think the important bit is to pay attention to what the
         | successful do differently from common sense advice, not the
         | bits that everyone follows. For example, Elon Musk's housing
         | choices when traveling, Steve Jobs' higher education, Tesla's
         | approaches to thinking.
        
           | beforeolives wrote:
           | I don't see how that helps either with survivorship bias or
           | with attribution bias.
        
         | bjt wrote:
         | On top of the survivorship bias I would add the fundamental
         | attribution error, or a close cousin to it. Our stories about
         | successful people tend to attribute their success to inherent
         | qualities and under-emphasize the role of their environment,
         | especially just getting lucky.
        
           | hellbannedguy wrote:
           | Yes--the wealthy sympathetic parent. This is always left out
           | of the speeches.
           | 
           | It's not a hard equation. The wealthy can afford to take
           | risks. They want their kids to succeed. Can take care of that
           | marginal DUI. I could fill up a page of entitlements?
           | 
           | They know important people, or have the money, to influence
           | important people. They can get their kids out of trouble. Can
           | pay for schooling. Can risk money on multiple business/career
           | ideas.
           | 
           | I grew up with Gavin Newsom. Went to the same high school. He
           | was voted "Most Fashionable". If this guy didn't have that
           | powerful, wealthy family, there is no way he would be where
           | he is now. His younger year screwups, and learning
           | difficulties, would have hobbled most of us for life. (I like
           | Gavin. I think he's a good guy. I'm just using him as an
           | example. Marin County has many fine examples of wealthy kids
           | getting ahead, but figured most of you wouldn't know them.)
           | 
           | I grew up in a wealthy enclave, and pretty much every
           | successful kid had a wealthy encouraging parent. A few middle
           | class kids came out as good financially as dad if they went
           | into his line of business, and didn't work at screwing it up
           | when "finding themself" in their 20-30's.
           | 
           | A few low income kids succeeded if they finished college, and
           | got a professional degree.
           | 
           | (I don't equate success with money, or career. Some of the
           | worst people I know are considered successful.)
        
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         | mdip wrote:
         | > So it's really useful to look at people who failed yet
         | followed the same advice.
         | 
         | Both are useful, yes. With no evidence, what-so-ever, my gut is
         | that both are a _lot less_ useful than we give them credit for.
         | My Dad is a success by most of societies measures (and all of
         | my own). A biography of his life couldn 't possibly share
         | enough advice to teach someone else to be successful. I could
         | do it pretty easily: Work harder than you are capable of, then
         | harder than that, and do so without a paycheck (but with a very
         | large mortgage) for a few years while still managing to pay
         | your employees. You'll be driving over to your office every 2.5
         | hours to change paper in your color printer to print paper
         | catalogues (at 2:00 AM, 4:30 AM ...) so you won't be sleeping a
         | lot the first few years, and you'll do so on the family-room
         | floor because getting up and down all night long isn't going to
         | work for Mom.
         | 
         | Meanwhile, once a month or so, have some crisis happen that
         | threatens to shut the place down. Do this for _several_ years
         | until your customers -- all of whom have far less faith in your
         | company continuing to exist (in a space where that 's _really_
         | important) -- are _finally_ willing to send orders big enough
         | your way for you to get _any_ financial benefit from the work
         | you 're doing (and give most of it to your tireless staff who
         | -- while _paid on time every month_ -- went without raises for
         | a _long_ time and barely complained[0]). It was 90% struggle,
         | 90% problems, solving one at a time, moving on to the next, and
         | never getting overwhelmed. Unsurprisingly, he was also a very
         | good small plane pilot (IFR /Weather and a mess of others; he
         | flew multiple times/week often cross-country with a breathing
         | mask hooked up to a tank due to the altitude and lack of
         | pressurization on a Cherokee).
         | 
         | So basically my lesson was that in order to be successful, you
         | have to suffer for a long time, work harder than you're capable
         | of at the peek of your health, and if you can figure out all of
         | the problems while still providing something your customers
         | want, you'll be successful. The first two parts are almost
         | always "minimum requirements" -- there is the occasional "lazy
         | genius" and the more frequent "trust-fund successful", but if
         | you're starting at 19 years old, newly married out of high
         | school (no kids) doing construction, you're very unlikely to
         | become wealthy without a lot of hard work (outside of the
         | lottery/similar luck-related ventures that don't serve any
         | educational value to the consumer). As irony would have it, the
         | story of my Dad's life is one of the (smaller) reasons I chose
         | to work for someone rather than run a business[1].
         | 
         | I think most of us watch/read these things more for the
         | entertainment value. Perhaps I tell myself it's learning, but
         | it's a mix of curiosity and voyeurism. But nobody has to tell
         | me watching a biography about a successful person means
         | "success is easy" or more common than failure. I've watched,
         | participated in, read about or seen on TV nearly every form of
         | failure there is. Thankfully the "participated in" category
         | isn't as bad as it could be.
         | 
         | [0] It's hard to complain when the owner will _pull crap out of
         | a toilet with his bare hands_ before asking an employee to find
         | a plunger, can and does do any job on the factory floor and
         | seemingly lives at the place. There wasn 't a menial task below
         | him and he'd take it if someone could do the more important job
         | better ... he was always a humble guy.
         | 
         | [1] I'm not afraid of hard work -- it was mostly about _what_
         | he had to work on and knowledge (from a brief stint running my
         | own business) that if I had to do that with the majority of my
         | time, I 'd be miserable. The products/services my Dad's
         | business sold weren't "his life's passion" even though what he
         | provided was extremely important to his customers and
         | ultimately, anyone who drives a car. Running the business,
         | managing the finances, and making "the machine" operate were
         | his life's passions, so spending almost all of his time on
         | finances/growing the business was what drove him.
        
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       | mjfl wrote:
       | the problem with wanting to write biographies of failures is the
       | same problem with publishing negative results in science: there
       | are too many failures, and too many ways to fail. It's like
       | entropy - there are so many ways to do something wrong that it's
       | not very efficient to learn how to do something by enumerating
       | all the ways you cannot do it. Much rarer is success, which is
       | why it's more worth the time to study. Maybe this is a
       | controversial opinion.
       | 
       | Maybe adjacent failures are worth study - studies of people who
       | very nearly succeeded compared to someone who did, where subtle
       | differences ended up being significant. These kinds of things can
       | create "what to watch out for" kinds of guides.
       | 
       | In addition - what is failure? Was Nikola Tesla a failure? He
       | died broke... but he still invented AC generators...
        
       | pmastela wrote:
       | > The real benefit that reluctant young lawyers like Otlet get
       | from their career is boredom. Their minds wander.
       | 
       | This reminds me of Einstein's stint as a patent clerk where he
       | "hatched the most beautiful ideas [1]". Sometimes a boring job is
       | simply a means to an end -- time to let one's mind wander and
       | pursue one's raison d'etre.
       | 
       | 1: https://www.amnh.org/exhibitions/einstein/life-and-
       | times/car...
        
       | vuciv1 wrote:
       | Haha, well you can read about my failure to make a cartoon
       | episode. It was very depressing, a lot of love went into it, and
       | it crashed and burned after hundreds of hours.
       | 
       | https://jerseyfonseca.com/blogs/failingkiwi
        
         | IsopropylMalbec wrote:
         | That's honestly a heart wrenching story. Your bravery to write
         | it as straight as you have is testament to you. You obviously
         | cared a lot about the film and the people you worked with. That
         | will go with you.
        
           | vuciv1 wrote:
           | Damn, I never thought anyone would read it or care. I very
           | deeply appreciate your comment, and that you took the time to
           | read it.
           | 
           | I really hope I can try again one day in the future with
           | actual animators!
        
             | jesselangdon wrote:
             | I enjoyed your story too. Good on you for going for it! At
             | the very least, you tried!
        
               | vuciv1 wrote:
               | Thank you, I really appreciate it :)
        
       | flybrand wrote:
       | As someone who has failed as a CEO - I can't write about it,
       | because it would have a bad impact on my former team, who is
       | still working away.
       | 
       | Not only must you find someone willing to document their failure
       | (I am), they have to be free and clear (I am not).
        
       | julienreszka wrote:
       | My definition of learning is "Increasing the likelihood of
       | success" My definition of success is "Having Expectations met" =>
       | learning is increasing the likelihood of having expectations met.
       | My definition of failure is "Having expectations not met" People
       | don't learn to fly a plane by crashing it but by flying it with
       | more control. The aviation industry was the product of people's
       | success at improving the control of the plane. People who claim
       | they can learn from failure never seem to care to explain how
       | they do it, they only rage and scream: IT SHOULD BE THAT WAY.
       | That would be nice...But it isn't that way. That's wishful
       | thinking.
       | 
       | They only way to learn is to carefully examine how to prevent
       | failure, and that's how eventually, people succeed and learn and
       | succeed and learn and succeed and so on.
        
       | mdip wrote:
       | When I saw the title, I initially rolled my eyes[0], but I have
       | to concede a lot of the points the author is making with regard
       | to the examples he's chosen. There _is_ value in biographies
       | covering failures.
       | 
       | My first thought was "there's no market for it". But yes, there
       | definitely is -- at least, I'm part of it. I remember watching a
       | documentary on covering an early .com failure that with a few
       | tweaks would have been a biography about the failures of the CEO
       | and the tragedy of that experience in his life. It was a _very
       | unique_ failure and it interested me because it was a failure at
       | a level I had not experienced in my life[1].
       | 
       | There is a very similar market in the "failure biography"
       | category: True Crime. I feel it's the closest analog. Outside of
       | the books that are written simply because the crime is so
       | gruesome, many are about particularly clever criminal(s) and the
       | errors that led to their capture[2]. While these books often
       | focus on the whole process, and might center around an
       | investigator's hunt for a criminal, there are plenty where "A
       | Biography of Stabby McMurderFace" would be a better title. I'm
       | sure there's an abstraction and a way to map the
       | successes/failures from a true crime book to adequately apply to
       | non-criminal life. Everything I know about software development
       | says it must be true. /s
       | 
       | [0] There seems to be a growing trend with hating on people who
       | are successful, whether it's entirely dismissing their success as
       | "luck" or pointing out the obvious fact that "reading a Biography
       | will not teach you how to become a multi-millionaire". Or worse,
       | that reading about a successful person's life is a harmful way to
       | use your limited entertainment time <rant>(when did it become
       | popular to write articles talking to adults like they've not been
       | on this planet their whole, adult, life? Do we need to be told
       | that wild success is an _outlier_ just because a few adults need
       | instructions to operate Shampoo?). </rant>
       | 
       | [1] I won't deny it, I was watching it 80% for the "train-wreck"
       | of it all and only 20% for the cautionary tale aspects, but you
       | consume both.
       | 
       | [2] There is the third, "unsolved", category and I don't know
       | what percentage all of these books represent of the whole, but
       | I'd consider only the "failed criminals" which at-a-glance
       | appears to be the most common.
        
         | notsureaboutpg wrote:
         | I think balancing success biographies with failure biographies
         | helps emphasize the HUGE risk inherent in entrepreneurship, and
         | for that reason it's worth it.
         | 
         | Failure can often ruin your personal relationships, future,
         | etc, just as success can enhance all of those.
        
       | pototo666 wrote:
       | I think of this topic this very morning.
       | 
       | I am entering the fourth month of second entrepreneurial attemp.
       | It feels harder than my last attemp, which failed. I have no
       | funding (yet) and I have a child now. I can't keep 8 hours
       | straight sleep.
       | 
       | Will my body cracks? I interviewed my mom this morning, who
       | failed her several attempts in business and got lupus
       | erythematosus.
       | 
       | She said that she never felt tired at that time. She just worked
       | and worked. She used to be called the Never Tired Woman. But her
       | businesse just didn't work. Then one day, she felt so tired. It
       | turned out that she had this problem called lupus erythematosus.
       | Then she gave up her career as entrepreneur. That was fifteen
       | years ago, when she was in her fourth year as businesswoman
       | rather than clerk.
       | 
       | I heard successful entrepreneurs adviced us to work as hard as
       | you can. But what does that acutally mean? Should I work so hard
       | as to hurt my health? My mom's story tells me, health is the
       | prerequisite for entrepreneurship. As for working hard, there is
       | bottom line there.
        
       | prepend wrote:
       | Almost Perfect by WE Pete Peterson [0] is the story of
       | WordPerfect and how it burned up. I think it was a good example
       | of 80s/90s software startups and think the author, CEO I think,
       | was frank about what went wrong. And it's free.
       | 
       | [0] http://www.wordplace.com/ap/
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | omgJustTest wrote:
       | Failure is depressing, people who advocate this advise have
       | succeeded after failure.
       | 
       | I posit that if you wrote your biography of failure while
       | failing, it only wastes precious time to correct course.
       | 
       | "Winners" should write fewer lines and attribute it to: genes and
       | luck.
        
       | agumonkey wrote:
       | Same for education. Let students see how many failures and wrong
       | theories occured in the past, even from the smartest brains of
       | their days. And stop forcing godspell like knowledge onto brains.
       | Make them try, think, sweat, imagine, converge or diverge and
       | correct themselves with some guidance to avoid too much
       | confusion.
        
         | sumtechguy wrote:
         | I used to play a particular game of code golf with my co-
         | workers. Basically write the most awful code you could. We
         | would usually pick some rule for the start of the game that
         | week to have a theme. Something like 'write a loop that finds a
         | string' or 'make a case statement'. There were no real rules
         | other than every language construct and library is on the table
         | to do it and it had to fit on the whiteboard with everyone
         | else. So for example you may be a C++ shop that avoids throw in
         | all cases that you can. In this game you could use them.
         | 
         | It had a really interesting side effect. The code in the office
         | that was checked in went up dramatically in quality. As we
         | learned first hand what was 'bad code' and why.
         | 
         | We basically forced bad things just to have a bit of fun but
         | accidently learned something while doing it.
        
           | agumonkey wrote:
           | real data + fun + no pressure often leads to improvement it
           | seems
        
       | jplr8922 wrote:
       | Thinking that everybody understand life as a pass or fail
       | exercice is neurotic mindset projection. We have no idea about
       | how Otlet experienced his existence. COVID put brakes on a lot of
       | life projects... are these humans all failures?
       | 
       | There is intelectual life outside the Boomer-Brains their
       | Corporate-Pax-Americana-Safety-Bubble. Here is a list of loosers
       | to ponder about ;
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diogenes
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Socrates
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gautama_Buddha
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Niccol%C3%B2_Machiavelli
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Napoleon
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Maurice_de_Talleyrand-...
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_E._Lee
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erwin_Rommel
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hillary_Clinton
       | 
       | Obviously I am all in studying the past in order to not repeat
       | the same mistakes. But please, do it without the self whipping of
       | clasifying humans as 'exceptionals' and 'failures'. Getting a few
       | bruises along the way might help to open your mind and help you
       | becoming yourself.
        
       | parenthesis wrote:
       | Check out The Library of Mistakes:
       | 
       | https://www.libraryofmistakes.com/
        
       | zerealshadowban wrote:
       | Henry Petroski has written several excellent essays and books
       | about engineering failures, why it is inherent in engineering
       | pursuits that there will be failures, why it is important to
       | learn the right lessons from these failures, and why each new
       | generation will forget past lessons.
       | 
       | Start with: "To Engineer Is Human: The Role of Failure in
       | Successful Design" (1985)
        
         | mdip wrote:
         | My thinking is that many of the kinds of engineering failure
         | stories you refer to are about the failure, itself, or the
         | victims of the failure (Therac-25, for example), but not often
         | primarily about a single individual's life of failure (or even
         | a single individual's sole role in a failure).
         | 
         | They might also be about the engineering teams/groups involved
         | (Challenger explosion) and sometimes about a specific engineer
         | (Allan McDonald).
         | 
         | I'd argue that all of these have _immense_ value. The Allan
         | McDonald story can be seen as both success /failure (failure to
         | stop the launch, success for being right and standing firm on
         | that belief). And while "pure failure biographies" related to
         | engineering failures probably exist, I was able to come up with
         | a number of examples while writing this comment for every other
         | form of engineering failure that _doesn 't_ qualify, but
         | couldn't think of a good example that _does_ which I have seen
         | /read. Many on business failures that focus on a CEO (and
         | sometimes those CEOs _are_ the engineer, but, again, nothing
         | that wouldn 't require reaching out to Google).
         | 
         | Thinking about it -- I'm glad about that. The kinds of
         | "excellent essays and books about engineering failures" that
         | you mention are the kinds of things _I love to read_. I wish
         | there were more of them.
         | 
         | What I _hate_ when I 'm reading these things is the colorful,
         | biography-like nonsense that major publications (and self-
         | important "journalists") like to toss into stories: "I pulled
         | up to the diner at 8:00 PM, the paint on the door was clearly
         | done in another era; when this small part of (nowhereville) was
         | an up-and-coming metropolis, and the place that Bob Thomas grew
         | up and learned that hard work and determination can do
         | anything. The "O" in the "Open" sign had failed long ago,
         | leaving only "pen". It was a sign from the universe as I was
         | here to write about the startup-to-empire-to-bankrupcy of ePens
         | Custom Pens. Though I was a half-hour early, Bob was waiting
         | for me, his hair and beard flowing together not knowing where
         | one begins and the other ends. One can't help but being
         | reminded of the race condition that would ultimately lead to
         | the unraveling of the machine he'd spent his life building".
         | 
         | No thanks. Tell me what went wrong. Tell me what led up to the
         | failure -- include technical details _and_ process
         | /technical/decision-making that led to the failure. I don't
         | _know_ the engineer and my interest is in the idea /technology,
         | not the person. And I care even less about the guy writing
         | about the person... :)
        
           | hutzlibu wrote:
           | "Tell me what led up to the failure -- include technical
           | details and process/technical/decision-making that led to the
           | failure. I don't know the engineer and my interest is in the
           | idea/technology, not the person."
           | 
           | I agree with the emphasis on the technical side of things,
           | but I would argue that some failures might have indeed
           | something to do with the person. Their characteristics and
           | habits. Their way of life. Even their taste in music and art.
           | That all influences failure or succed of projects. But it is
           | surely harder to get meaningful data out of it ..
        
           | zerealshadowban wrote:
           | Yes, the populist-biography kind of writing you describe is
           | unsatisfactory, to say the least; the reason I point to
           | Petroski's work is that he did _not_ write like that.
           | 
           | Another great book to read to examine modes of engineering
           | failure is Feynman's "What Do You Care What Other People
           | Think?" which includes some of his thoughts on the Challenger
           | disaster.
        
           | gwerbret wrote:
           | > What I hate when I'm reading these things is the colorful,
           | biography-like nonsense that major publications (and self-
           | important "journalists") like to toss into stories
           | 
           | I've noticed that many supposedly serious, non-fiction books
           | written in the past two decades begin (and are liberally
           | interspersed) with such "prose"; I personally find it so
           | irritating that I invariably drop the book immediately and
           | read no further. As such writing doesn't seem to be
           | associated with any particular author, publisher or theme, I
           | imagine it represents an effort, across the publishing
           | industry, to make non-fiction books more appealing to the
           | general public.
        
             | animatedb wrote:
             | Or a bit of the ego of the writer is getting in and
             | becoming the story.
        
             | potta_coffee wrote:
             | It's the "long form journalism" style; try to make
             | journalism into "art", stretch the length of the content,
             | and slap a minimalistic design with a fresh logo on the
             | website in an effort to get a certain kind of audience.
        
             | jryle70 wrote:
             | Good story sells and can help reach a wider audience.
             | Wouldn't that be valuable if you want people to learn from
             | these failures?
             | 
             | As an example, the wiki page for Falcon 1 rocket is jam
             | packed with information [0] There is a recent book pretty
             | much depicting the same period [1]. I already knew the
             | details thanks to the wiki page. That doesn't mean I'd want
             | to skip the book.
             | 
             | [0] - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Falcon_1
             | 
             | [1] - https://www.harpercollins.com/products/liftoff-eric-
             | berger?v...
        
           | bumby wrote:
           | The engineer in me completely agrees with you, but I have a
           | feeling the non-fiction books are geared to be as much
           | entertainment as they are enlightening. If you want to forgo
           | the former, look for case studies and mishap investigations
           | instead. The government oversight agencies have a lot
           | available online. They are more dry but leave out the prosaic
           | fluff
           | 
           | E.g., https://www.nasa.gov/columbia/home/CAIB_Vol1.html
        
       | teddyh wrote:
       | The almost-autobiography of Scott Adams is literally titled "
       | _How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the
       | Story of My Life_ "
        
       | russellbeattie wrote:
       | I've thought of this before. I think a Studs Terkel style oral
       | history from some otherwise successful Silicon Valley
       | entrepreneurs where they recount times they failed horribly would
       | actually be pretty amusing, if not cathartic if done correctly.
       | 
       | I did a startup of my own in the 2000s... I decided to change the
       | domain/company name to something shorter. I assumed I'd just
       | redirect requests and all would be fine. I totally didn't think
       | about the effect that the change would have on my Google SEO.
       | Things were fine, then suddenly the traffic dropped to almost
       | nothing. The new domain wasn't being indexed and the old domain
       | disappeared because of whatever stupid HTTP header I put on it.
       | Cut from this event to three months later having my car
       | repossessed and it's a "fun" story.
       | 
       | I would definitely enjoy a book of fuckups like this from others.
        
       | throwaway28203 wrote:
       | Steve Martin's biography "Born Standing Up" is all about his life
       | before he became a sensation. It's not engineering, but it
       | details a lot of failures.
        
       | geocrasher wrote:
       | I find that whenever I post about my failures, my blog gets more
       | comments and readers are just more engaged in general. They can
       | relate to it! There's way too much "look what I can do!" out
       | there. https://miscdotgeek.com/first-qrp-portable-ops-failure/
        
       | datavirtue wrote:
       | "Let there be more biographies of failures, people who were
       | ignored by the world, whose ideas came before their time, whose
       | great work was left in ruins."
       | 
       | Alan Kay.
       | 
       | Simply because everyone misunderstood OOP and completely missed
       | the point. The idea was too far ahead of it's time to have not
       | been misunderstood.
        
       | teddyh wrote:
       | There's the _Museum of Failure_ : https://museumoffailure.com/
        
       | IceHegel wrote:
       | You shouldn't be afraid of failure, but it's a bad fetish. If
       | failure can help future endeavors great, but there's nothing
       | inherently interesting about failing a lot.
        
         | mdip wrote:
         | > but it's a bad fetish
         | 
         | Thanks for that -- I couldn't agree more.
         | 
         | I read comments talking about how awful it is that there are
         | success biographies and I can't help but feel pity half the
         | time. Like it or not, if you go into something expecting
         | failure, you might as well skip it. For a lot of folks, the
         | "failure fetish" serves only to reinforce an attitude that "the
         | reason they're (insert desire here) and I'm not is luck. The
         | vast majority fail, so I shouldn't bother.". My Dad's attitude,
         | to us kids, was to finish that of with ", but they're not me."
         | But he had _many, many_ failures along the way, he just
         | addressed each problem and landed on the right decisions enough
         | that his company continued to grow /establish itself until the
         | scariest of those problems started to vanish.
         | 
         | Inwardly, my Dad's attitude was less certain, but still landed
         | somewhere at "It's just another problem, I've solved the last
         | several successfully, I can solve this one", but ultimately, he
         | knew the totality of the risk he was taking -- outright
         | bankruptcy, losing a really, really nice house, not to mention
         | the emotional effects such a catastrophic failure to provide
         | for your family would be. He didn't focus on the "worst-case
         | scenario" (partly because every one of his problems had the
         | same worst-case scenario), because your options are rarely that
         | binary -- while it might be "fail to pay the bill and they cut
         | off service" it's often "if I call before the bill is due, I
         | can get another month or a partial payment will cover us" --
         | another problem created, but an improvement to having the
         | lights shut off. When the engine fails in-flight, the choice is
         | one of many, many bad options, but "an emergency landing at a
         | different, nearby, airport" beats "setting her down in the
         | clearing just after those trees". As much has he flew, there
         | are tens of stories that should have ended with the plane
         | creating a burning crater, but even when the engine cut out
         | over Lake Michigan in the "you're swimming" zone, he managed to
         | problem solve his way to an airport.
         | 
         | It really feels sometimes there's a plague of jealousy-
         | masquerading-as-concern (or worse, Nanny-ism) -- it hasn't
         | gotten terrible here compared to other forums, but it's
         | _everywhere_ these days. It 's almost shun-worthy to imply that
         | someone achieved success through hard work[0]. As if saying so
         | implies that people who are unsuccessful _don 't_ work hard, or
         | that _working hard_ , alone, will only guarantee you'll be
         | tired, that knowing your market/product and being a really good
         | problem solver are as important and that even then, you're
         | going to put up with a lot of external BS for the privilege of
         | choosing how you want to make money. And if you want the
         | privilege of offering work to someone, there's a _whole lot
         | more_ you 're going to enjoy. If you ever make the mistake of
         | implying that the person who worked so hard for said money
         | _deserves_ the money they took such risks /worked so hard for,
         | well, good luck with that (oops).
         | 
         | [0] I even feel the need to bullet-point-out that "obviously
         | that's not the only factor, it's just the only one that's going
         | to work for you since Mom/Dad aren't paying your paycheck".
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | agumonkey wrote:
         | A good life is often a fine balance between pleasure risk
         | taking, size of risk, and increase of good outcome/experiences.
        
         | TheAdamAndChe wrote:
         | If you work on things with a 5% chance of success but 1000x
         | potential return, it absolutely makes sense to keep trying if
         | you have the capacity to take on that much risk.
        
           | Judgmentality wrote:
           | > If you work on things with a 5% chance of success but 1000x
           | potential return
           | 
           | Let's say you do this 10 times in a row. There is still a 60%
           | chance you fail every time. You've only got one life to live.
           | 
           | And if we're talking startups, because this is HN, I'd
           | ballpark each one as having _at most_ a 1% chance of success,
           | and I consider that incredibly charitable. Series B companies
           | are already derisked and don 't count (there's unlikely to be
           | more upside than going to FAANG anyway), I'm talking
           | companies trying to get seed funding.
           | 
           | Taking risks is fine, but don't assume it'll work out just
           | because you want it to.
        
             | mdip wrote:
             | Sure; but nobody who takes the 1000x risk does so believing
             | they don't hold something that reduces that 1000x risk,
             | either, whether deluded in that thinking or not.
             | 
             | My Dad _knew_ the statistics about his chances for success,
             | and he had a very realistic picture (which turned out to be
             | true) of what those statistics would look like when the
             | variable being applied was  "him".
             | 
             | But the 1000x risk issue applies in some ways. My Dad was
             | and is successful -- wealthy, retired, married to the same
             | woman since his 20s, spent the latter part of his working
             | life working when he didn't have to, financially. But I'm
             | sure he really would have preferred if it came without a
             | new, dream-ruining, potential problem every other day weeks
             | with sleep replaced with work, being away from home more
             | than home at times, and the myriad of other grief involved.
             | Even though he _never_ let on to us kids, I don 't doubt
             | that my Dad probably felt like he was failing for a solid
             | decade, much of which he went without a paycheck, part of
             | which he spent in court filing suit against the former
             | owner of his last business venture (and ended up "winning",
             | which cost him more -- financially[0] -- than had he just
             | ignored it, entirely).
             | 
             | The flip side is that _if you really do_ have something
             | that would reduce that 1000x risk (for your niche product
             | /narrow case/whatever it is that you're doing), explore it,
             | test it, try it. This isn't a "you can't win the lottery if
             | you don't play" sort of things, it's a "you're clearly a
             | smart person or you probably wouldn't understand half of
             | the stuff that's written about on this site, so maybe that
             | idea you think is 'unrealistic' could use a little prodding
             | before you 'bin it'"
             | 
             | Maybe the HN crowd has different problems in this area than
             | the world-at-large, but "an unrealistic expectation of
             | success in business" is not common among grown-ups. Most
             | adults suffer from motivation to simply "learn something
             | new" and their experience (personal and through stories
             | shared by others in our lives/24-Hour News) tell them that
             | most people fail most of the time. If the thing they're
             | trying would benefit them "greatly", that's when the _real_
             | failin ' begins!
             | 
             | Some of the world needn't take the 1000x risk to have a
             | total failure -- life throws that at you on its own and
             | while successes come, too, I tend to focus on the failures.
             | Sometimes they prevent me from taking acceptable risks to
             | achieve something greater. I might have failed at that, but
             | the vast majority of the time, the downside to that failure
             | is just "lost time". Usually the thing I want to make is
             | 100x easier/simpler than things I've done countless times.
             | Doesn't matter, no point, it won't work out. My only hope
             | in those cases is that the thing I'm done has some other
             | benefit, like "at least I'll learn something about this
             | technology if it doesn't work", but I find that focusing on
             | the failure modes is probably the strongest demotivating
             | factor to doing anything, for me.
             | 
             | Conversely, focusing on what (realistically) could result
             | "if this is successful" is a very strong motivator to doing
             | that thing. Granted, the things I'm doing require minimal
             | investment and don't carry with them a risk to loss of
             | life/limb/life-savings, so I can't say that focusing on the
             | success side of things would make much of a difference
             | against those odds, but focusing on the loss of
             | life/limb/savings would result in either "not doing it at
             | all" or "losing said life/limb/savings"
             | 
             | ---
             | 
             | [0] It was an issue of sale of the business. Nobody but
             | this individual wanted to sell and this individual didn't
             | have the ability to make that choice without the others'
             | involvement but he believed they'd be unwilling to sue him
             | knowing the result would be losing more money than they'd
             | hope to get out of a positive outcome. And if the guy had
             | gotten to know my Dad well enough, he'd not have been
             | surprised when my Dad took the attitude of "let's see who
             | goes broke, first". While Mom wasn't too pleased, I think
             | my Dad actually joked that it was "money well spent" at one
             | point. Mind you, he did this while starting his new
             | business, not collecting a paycheck, and having a very
             | large mortgage on a brand new home in his late 40s, so his
             | opponent's bet that he wouldn't sue was probably a good
             | bet; except that my Dad's humility ended at being stolen
             | from.
        
               | Judgmentality wrote:
               | > Maybe the HN crowd has different problems in this area
               | than the world-at-large, but "an unrealistic expectation
               | of success in business" is not common among grown-ups.
               | 
               | Have you never met someone who opened a restaurant? Peter
               | Thiel actually uses this as a talking point. The surest
               | way to lose money is to open a restaurant, and yet there
               | are always people lining up to do so.
        
               | carbonguy wrote:
               | Are you making the argument that "people who think it's a
               | good idea to start restaurants" are representative of
               | "grown-ups?"
               | 
               | I think you're right insofar as you point out that
               | opening a restaurant is a fraught enterprise, but I don't
               | really think that refutes the comment you're responding
               | to - the overwhelming majority of adults don't open
               | restaurants, even though there are always plenty of
               | dreamers who think it's a good idea.
        
               | Judgmentality wrote:
               | My point was many adults do have unrealistic expectations
               | of success. Sure, most people don't start restaurants,
               | but an irrational amount of people do it thinking they'll
               | make it. This is hardly unique to restaurants, this was
               | just an obvious counterexample to poke holes in his
               | argument. I live in San Francisco and see people start
               | companies for the stupidest fucking shit all the time,
               | convinced of their assured success because of their Ivy
               | league degrees. I also watch as almost all of them fail
               | (some just haven't had enough time to fail yet, but
               | obviously one might surprise me some day).
               | 
               | Questioning his assumptions is not meant to refute his
               | argument, only to question it.
        
         | prepend wrote:
         | There's bad failure and good failure. I try to find the
         | "validated learning" in a failure and that helps me distinguish
         | good from bad.
         | 
         | It's funny when people talking about how great failing is and
         | fetishizing it without getting the point that lots of failures
         | are good because it gets you to success faster.
         | 
         | But big, stupid, so if failures that are repeated over and over
         | should be a bad sign (eg, "I failed because all my co-workers
         | are idiots" x10 is a really bad failure because it probably
         | means I'm the idiot and aren't getting better)
        
       | giantg2 wrote:
       | How about biographies of mediocre people? I'm not really
       | successful or a failure. Granted my professional and personal
       | life is very boring. I don't see people wanting to read it, but
       | it would be more accurate of the average experience than either
       | end of the bell curve.
        
         | mdip wrote:
         | > How about biographies of mediocre people?
         | 
         | I hear this from time to time and my own response to it is
         | "that'd work about as well as a reality show based on your
         | life".
         | 
         | I think it's the best way to put it: A biography and reality TV
         | cherry pick the most interesting parts of a person's life. I
         | have had some interesting things happen to me -- some would fit
         | well in a Reality TV show, others would fit well in a biography
         | of successes (the failures fitting into the Reality TV space).
         | We're not interested in biographies about average people --
         | yes, average people always have a few stories that are worth
         | hearing/sharing, but rarely have a life that is so filled with
         | stories as to warrant someone else to want to catalogue them.
         | Much like if you put a bunch of cameras in my house and filmed
         | for a year you might end up with _minutes_ of Reality TV worthy
         | entertainment, if you did a biography of a mediocre person, you
         | 'd have no market (itself, mediocre). Heck, I'd be willing to
         | bet that the majority of the time spent awake in the most
         | interesting peoples' lives ends up being pretty mediocre, so
         | it's something _everyone_ has knowledge of /experience with and
         | probably not something worthy of "fun time".
         | 
         | Aside from nobody wanting to buy it, it'd be hard to give away.
         | Of the various reasons I have for reading and writing, using
         | that skill to "do something I experience with the vast majority
         | of my existence -- reading mail, preparing food, writing boier-
         | plate, fixing various broken thing around the house -- and
         | something, at that, which I don't particularly enjoy" is going
         | to land very low on a long to-do list :) My house will become
         | self-aware before I get to that task.
        
         | schrijver wrote:
         | I think a lot of literature is normal people writing about
         | their normal lives--except that they happen to be particularly
         | good at writing. A Dutch example is the writer J.J. Voskuil who
         | wrote 5000 pages about his live as an office employee--and
         | quite a few people read it too! But there must be many more
         | examples.
        
       | petercooper wrote:
       | This post is more historical and highbrow than my usual tastes,
       | but one of my favorite such reads in the tech space, at least,
       | was _" Boo Hoo: A dot.com Story from Concept to Catastrophe"_
       | about the development and failure of boo.com -
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boo.com - a British e-commerce
       | business that burnt through $135m of VC money in 18 months. Worth
       | a flick through if you get the chance, and it's almost like a
       | period drama now given how 1998 was on the Internet compared to
       | now.
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | Judgmentality wrote:
       | I really enjoyed this story because it introduced me to an
       | interesting person I had never heard about.
       | 
       | I did not enjoy the last paragraph where it tried to shoehorn a
       | bunch of bizarre lessons learned from this story, some of which
       | didn't make sense and at least one seemed contradictory.
        
         | toss1 wrote:
         | Yes, the small treasure here is the story of Paul Otlet's ideas
         | and work. The 'lessons learned', not so much.
         | 
         | It's a sound concept to learn lessons from the failures of
         | others, even, and perhaps especially those others who otherwise
         | excel in their field. However, as this piece shows, it's easy
         | to draw the wrong lessons from singular biographies.
         | 
         | A better approach might be how failures are investigated,
         | analyzed, and cataloged in various fields such as aviation and
         | rock climbing. Those seemingly dry failure reports can make
         | surprisingly fascinating reading, and the collections that
         | bring them closer to data than anecdotes can provide powerful
         | insights.
         | 
         | So, maybe some kind of Institute For The Study of Career
         | Disasters? Not entirely joking, it'd be genuinely helpful to,
         | for example, go beyond just the "90% of all small businesses
         | fail in X years", and provide actual analyzed insight (not just
         | more anecdotes) into what makes the difference between success
         | and failure, and what failures have good prospects of
         | successful restarting (i.e., their death was more likely just
         | bad luck /Force Majeure vs pilot error)...
        
       | zimpenfish wrote:
       | "Banvard's Folly"[1] is a good read about "people who were
       | ignored by the world, whose ideas came before their time, whose
       | great work was left in ruins".
       | 
       | [1] https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Banvards-Folly-
       | by-...
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | lawwantsin17 wrote:
       | It's like saying, let there be less biased news. No one would
       | read it. I often thought of storing the world's diaries or
       | journals or sketchbooks or even the mundane blogs somewhere but
       | no one would look at those bits. If the biographer is a great
       | story teller, the subject is secondary to the worth of the
       | biography, so even failures require greatness to tell their story
       | right.
        
       | amelius wrote:
       | Yes. Also in sports journalism, I'm not really interested in the
       | stories of people who finished first, second or third. I want to
       | read about those who always finish 10th place or lower. Their
       | struggle must be much more interesting.
        
         | clairity wrote:
         | as a basketball fan, i'm fascinated by the players barely
         | hanging on to a roster spot on any given team. the storylines
         | vary widely, from veteran there to teach the youngsters, to
         | scrappy upstart who barely made the cut, to the sibling of a
         | star player.
         | 
         | in the nba, these are guys who are literally better than
         | 99.9999% of the planet, and yet, they often seem to be treated
         | like hangers-on rather than some of the best.
        
           | duxup wrote:
           | I like to think that's part of the appeal of Crash Davis and
           | just the lifestyle of a minor league baseball team in Bull
           | Durham.
           | 
           | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bull_Durham
        
         | ProAm wrote:
         | You might really like this documentary on Netflix called
         | "Losers" [1][2]
         | 
         | "Storyline
         | 
         | In a "winning is everything" society, how do we handle failure?
         | This series profiles athletes who have turned the agony of
         | defeat into human triumph."
         | 
         | [1] https://www.netflix.com/title/80198306
         | 
         | [2] https://www.imdb.com/title/tt9817218/
        
         | Igelau wrote:
         | It's out of print, but if you can get your hands on a used
         | copy, Rob Trucks' _Cup of Coffee_ might be right up your alley.
         | https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/476455.Cup_of_Coffee
        
       | roflc0ptic wrote:
       | The whole TV show "Halt and Catch Fire" was basically about
       | serial failure by a bunch of technically minded narcissists. I've
       | never related more to a television show. Notably, it got
       | ignominiously cancelled.
       | 
       | I think failure is bad entertainment.
        
         | prepend wrote:
         | I loved that show and think it finished rather than was
         | cancelled.
         | 
         | But many of the folks I recommended it to, didn't like it.
         | Various reasons provided but I remember stuff like "depressing"
         | and "failure" coming up a lot.
        
           | mrguyorama wrote:
           | It just felt so contrived to me, above and beyond what is
           | normal for a TV show. These 6ish people are responsible for
           | pretty much every revolution and success in the tech sector?
           | Yeah fuck that. It felt like tech-bro worship, completely
           | ignoring the same folks everyone else always ignores who tend
           | to be the ones putting in the uninteresting work that keeps
           | those types able to make their successes.
           | 
           | But I watched every second of it with interest so I don't
           | know what that says about me.
        
           | as1mov wrote:
           | I tried watching it, couldn't get past the first season
           | because of the characters. I've dealt with enough asshole
           | Steve Jobs wannabes and the 10x rockstar programmer types in
           | real life that watching them on screen gives me PTSD.
        
             | hinkley wrote:
             | At least with Silicon Valley you get to laugh through the
             | tears.
        
             | jrmg wrote:
             | Part of the joy of that show is seeing how the characters
             | evolve personally throughout the seasons. It's often not
             | predictable - but I would say it is believable.
        
             | cableshaft wrote:
             | Yeah, that's what's stopped me from continuing with the
             | show so far, the characters are all insufferable. At least
             | in Silicon Valley they're insufferable and hilarious.
        
           | mikestew wrote:
           | I grew up in that era, and maybe that's the problem, but it
           | struck me as a poorly-done "Mad Men" for geeks. The nostalgia
           | wasn't just tacked on, it was duct-taped and painted bright
           | green to make sure you noticed. One scene that stands out in
           | my mind was when the older business owner is ordering some US
           | Robotics modems. As the scene cuts away from him with a phone
           | in his hand: "Of _course_ I want the V.32!!!11! "
           | 
           | I cringed so hard my shoulders ached for two days.
        
       | chris_wot wrote:
       | My favourite book ever is "The Book of Heroic Failures". It
       | celebrates failure. In the introduction, Stephen Pile wrote:
       | 
       |  _Success is overrated. Everyone craves it despite daily proof
       | that man 's real genius lies in quite the opposite direction.
       | Incompetence is what we are good at: it is the quality that marks
       | us off from animals and we should learn to revere it. Of course,
       | the occasional Segovia does slip through the net with the result
       | that we all cut sandwiches and queue in the rain for hours to
       | watch him play the guitar without once dropping his plectrum down
       | the hole. But this book is not for the likes of him. It is for
       | us: we, the less than good, who spend hours shaking the plectrum
       | out and impress only our mothers. Here, collected in one
       | anthology for the first time, are the great names: Coates,
       | Falconer, the abysmal Nuttall, the immortal Carolino, the dire
       | Foster-Jenkins and McGonagall. People who were so bad in their
       | chosen sphere of endeavour that their names live on as a beacon
       | for future generations. _
       | 
       | _I am sure that I am not the only one who cannot do things and
       | the slightest investigation reveals that no one else can do
       | anything either. This being the case, it seems to me that Mankind
       | spends a disproportionate amount of time talking about the things
       | he does well, when these few blades of grass are surrounded by
       | vast prairies of inadequacy which are much more interesting._
       | 
       | More and more I find myself agreeing with the author.
        
         | lioeters wrote:
         | "The funniest book of the year." - Irish Times
         | 
         | Pile, Stephen. The Book of Heroic Failures: The Official
         | Handbook of the Not Terribly Good Club of Great Britain. 1980.
         | 
         | ..I see he has a newer book published too:
         | 
         | Pile, Stephen. The Ultimate Book of Heroic Failures. 2011.
        
       | medium_burrito wrote:
       | Reporting failure is not rewarded, unfortunately. Unless the
       | incentives change, things won't change.
        
       | blacktriangle wrote:
       | The problem with failure is there are infinite ways to fail. So
       | from a pov of looking to reduce my chances of failure, reading
       | about a failure means there are now Inf - 1 ways I might fail,
       | not too useful. Pragmatically reading about success and seeing if
       | I can repurpose their techniques to my situation is far more
       | useful.
       | 
       | Where reading about failure is useful is to help remove the
       | general stigma around failure that prevents people from even
       | trying, but there's only so much of that form of self-help a
       | person needs before they move on.
        
         | hermitcrab wrote:
         | If you read these 13 stories of failed software products that I
         | collected you'll see that they have quite a lot in common:
         | https://successfulsoftware.net/2010/05/27/learning-lessons-f...
         | 
         | Also, hanging out on forums for software entrepreneurs, I see
         | people making the same standard mistakes again and again.
        
           | marshmallow_12 wrote:
           | can you tell me some of them?
        
         | AshamedCaptain wrote:
         | Not so many ways to _recover_ from failure and go on, though.
        
           | crowbahr wrote:
           | That's usually seen as success though.
           | 
           | I'm fairly confident in saying no success has come without
           | recovery from failure
        
           | riebs wrote:
           | The lesson is: failure is an indespensable step towards
           | success, so we need not to gloss over failure as if it's
           | taboo
        
             | hinkley wrote:
             | Perhaps your purpose in life is to serve as a warning to
             | others.
        
         | BiteCode_dev wrote:
         | You can derive pattern though. You can learn about recuring
         | weak links. And you can learn about solutions. Those are nice.
        
         | MathematicalArt wrote:
         | Actually, there are only finite ways to fail. It just happens
         | to be a large number. Thinking of interactions of the world as
         | propagations of signals and considering Kolmogorov-style
         | descriptions of entropy would lead one to this conclusion of
         | finiteness. See: "Kolmogorov complexity"
         | 
         | Further, there are a finite number of patterns of failure,
         | which is of course less than the number of absolute ways things
         | could fail.
         | 
         | The biggest detriment is not that things can fail, but that
         | people get overwhelmed by believing that such things are
         | infinite in scale.
        
           | MathematicalArt wrote:
           | As an example, there are only 16 categorical manifestations
           | of software exceptions based on the following categories:
           | 
           | - Synchronicity, Scope, Origin
           | 
           | For _Synchronicity_ we have:
           | 
           | - Synchronicity
           | 
           | - Asynchronicity
           | 
           | For _Scope_ we have:
           | 
           | - Process-specific
           | 
           | - Cross-process
           | 
           | For _Origin_ we have:
           | 
           | - Data origin
           | 
           | - Temporal origin
           | 
           | - External origin
           | 
           | - Process origin
           | 
           | Then you combine them such as "Synchronous-CrossProcess-
           | Temporal Origin." The total is 16 ways. Even if something
           | were somehow to be missing from this categorization scheme,
           | it would only add a finite amount of possibilities to the
           | permutations. Yet this taxonomy seems quite complete as is.
           | 
           | See: "Error Handling in Process Support Systems" by Casati &
           | Cugola.
        
         | SkyMarshal wrote:
         | You also need to read about failure to account for survivorship
         | bias.
         | 
         | Eg, did some entity fail even though they were doing the same
         | things as the successful entities?
         | 
         | If you detect that, then it's evidence that the techniques of
         | the successful entities are no guarantee of success. That some
         | other technique or factor or luck was the actual
         | differentiator.
         | 
         | That's useful information when you're trying to decide what
         | techniques of successful entities may be worth repurposing to
         | your situation or not.
        
         | TimTheTinker wrote:
         | Reminds me of a quote from Tolstoy: "All happy families are
         | alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."
        
           | staunch wrote:
           | Like most proverbs, it only seems insightful and true if you
           | _don 't_ think about what it is claiming at all.
        
         | bumby wrote:
         | > _The problem with failure is there are infinite ways to fail_
         | 
         | Do you mean infinite ways _in life_? I'm trying to reconcile
         | your statement as it would apply to a specific domain rather
         | than something as broad as the scope of ones life.
         | 
         | Reliability engineering would tend to disagree with the above
         | quote. For a specific engineering application there are a
         | certain number of fault modes that can be ideally mitigated and
         | quantified as a reliability risk. Good engineering practice
         | documents these in the form of fault trees, failure mode
         | effects analysis etc. Sure, unknown failure modes still may pop
         | up, but to the point of the article, if they get discussed and
         | documented they can be mitigated in future iterations. While
         | maybe never reaching zero, over time the remaining unknown
         | risks become smaller and smaller probability events.
        
           | blacktriangle wrote:
           | I was thinking of it more in ways businesses fails given
           | we're on HN and that's a bit more narrow than the "in life"
           | version of the article so that it's more useful.
           | 
           | However that's a really great point that in the context of a
           | specific engineering application failure can be enumerated to
           | the point where such study of failure is incredibly powerful.
           | Thanks for pointing that out.
        
         | hinkley wrote:
         | There are categories of failure though. Those not only tell you
         | where to look but give you starting points and substitutions.
         | 
         | Substitute one set of problems for a better known set, and go
         | from there. When engineering figures out how to solve the less
         | known set, then you can do something "new".
         | 
         | Today you might solve liquefaction by running pillars to
         | bedrock and then design for earthquake damage caused by being
         | anchored to bedrock.
         | 
         | Some day you might use the Dutch trick of building houses that
         | can float instead.
        
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