[HN Gopher] Google Play Store Bans Polyamory Dating App
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       Google Play Store Bans Polyamory Dating App
        
       Author : pcthrowaway
       Score  : 36 points
       Date   : 2021-03-16 18:02 UTC (5 hours ago)
        
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       | alfalfasprout wrote:
       | This is the dangerous flip side to having two players be the
       | gatekeepers as to what can and cannot be an app (yes, I'm aware
       | on android apps can be installed outside google play
       | technically... but the audience is tiny).
       | 
       | With Parler, for example, I remember reading tons of posts in
       | support of taking the app down. But that same process can be
       | easily used to silence apps like these.
        
         | jasonvorhe wrote:
         | This has nothing to do with Parler. Google has been auto-
         | banning apps based on stupid blacklists and ML magic for years
         | because they don't have a human review process (or if they do,
         | it doesn't do good work). A couple of weeks ago it hit a Matrix
         | chat app and it's been restored now. The shit storm will now
         | lead to someone at Google escalating this and the app will be
         | back soon. I'm pretty sure that banning Parler was a decision
         | where a lot of people where involved.
        
           | tempaccount2342 wrote:
           | Blacklist is an out-of-date divisive term. We've moved on to
           | "banlist" and "allowlist" thx.
        
             | buzzerbetrayed wrote:
             | Ah yes, insisting that everything is racial is a great way
             | to overcome racism _eyeroll_
             | 
             | How long until night is no longer dark?
        
             | elastolin wrote:
             | You are in my blacklist.
        
               | drannex wrote:
               | HN rule: Don't snark -
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html.
               | 
               | > Be kind. Don't be snarky. Have curious conversation;
               | don't cross-examine. Please don't fulminate. Please don't
               | sneer, including at the rest of the community.
        
             | jsilence wrote:
             | No we have not. And we don't want to, so please stop this.
             | You are free to call it anything you want, but don't tell
             | us how to call it.
        
               | cthalupa wrote:
               | What do you have to lose by switching to a term that is
               | more descriptive and less likely to be offensive to
               | someone?
               | 
               | "We've called it that for a long time" isn't really an
               | argument to keep doing it.
               | 
               | For non-native speakers, they have to be familiar with
               | the idiom or it is a meaningless statement, and whether
               | or not the original intent was for it to be related at
               | all to skin color, it can feed in to people's unconscious
               | biases and perceptions.
               | 
               | There is zero downside in moving to block/denylist and
               | allowlist and plenty of upside.
        
               | lurquer wrote:
               | I agree.
               | 
               | For some time, I've been troubled by the name of this
               | site as well, as it brings to mind the notorious
               | insurrectionist, Samuel Hacker, of the Confederate 3rd
               | Tennessee Regiment.
               | 
               | I'd like to think naming the site after that racist was
               | accidental.
               | 
               | But, adding in "News" after his name -- (pronounce
               | similarly to "noose") -- must make many people very
               | uncomfortable.
        
               | cthalupa wrote:
               | While this is a pithy response, even if Samuel Hacker
               | wasn't fictitious, it would still not be a particularly
               | good one.
               | 
               | In the United States alone, there are more than 40
               | million black people. You do understand the difference
               | between 40+ million English speakers who must hear and
               | see the color of their skin be used in a negative
               | connotation vs. what would be incredibly obscure
               | connotations if it was even true?
        
               | jsilence wrote:
               | I have never argued that we have used the term whiteliste
               | or blacklist for a long time.
               | 
               | What I am arguing against is that the author of the
               | comment suggests in a passive aggressive way that the
               | above commenter using the term whitelist is somewhat
               | backwoodish while the majority of society ('we') has
               | progressed to a preferable wording. This is simply not
               | true and it is offensive.
               | 
               | Completely independant from the discourse whether the
               | proposed change of wording makes sense or is of any
               | benefit I refuse to stand by when self-righteous people
               | try to over generalise and try to force their point of
               | view onto 'us'.
               | 
               | Language does not change by dictating the change or by
               | forcing it onto others by derogating them, as has
               | happened in this example ('we use the better word, you
               | are so backwards').
               | 
               | Language is a convention that gradually changes through a
               | process called speaking. If you prefer the terms banlist
               | and allowlist, then by all means use it. It might also be
               | ok to simply state in a polite and unoffensive manner
               | that oneself would prefer these terms. If I hear these
               | terms often enough there is a good chance I'll pick it
               | up. I have zero stake in keeping the terms whitelist or
               | blacklist over the proposed terms banlist and allowlist.
               | All the same to me.
               | 
               | It is simply not ok to offend someone with the intention
               | of enforcing non offensive language to them.
        
               | cthalupa wrote:
               | I'm not a huge fan of the way it was stated - my response
               | shows how I tend to frame the discussion - but at a
               | certain point you do have to be an activist about other
               | people's usage of language.
               | 
               | While I would not say someone using blacklist or
               | whitelist today is the same as someone using a racial
               | slur, it took people actively admonishing others for
               | using racial slurs to push them further and further out
               | of common use.
               | 
               | I think it is totally fair to say that using them is
               | backwards, and that we should progress to using terms
               | that don't place negative connotations around words that
               | are the color of peoples' skin. I wouldn't say that
               | someone doing something that is backwards makes them as
               | an individual backwards, however - I've got plenty of
               | habits that are backwards. I try to rectify them -
               | sometimes I succeed, sometimes I don't. I don't feel
               | personally attacked by someone commenting on those things
               | when they happen, however, and instead take it as further
               | reinforcement that there's always room for personal
               | growth.
        
               | jsilence wrote:
               | Quickly looking up the origin of the term blacklist on
               | wikipedia reveals that there is no historic connotation
               | to race or color of skin in this word (https://en.wikiped
               | ia.org/wiki/Blacklisting#Origins_of_the_te...). Black and
               | white are just colors. These words in themselves have no
               | implicit judgemental meaning.
               | 
               | So by publicly arguing that the term blacklist carries a
               | racial negative connotation one would impose this view
               | onto the one who is using the word blcklist. This is
               | similar to using the term 'the n-word': By saying this
               | one is making me thinking the word 'nigger' in my head.
               | So while the other one is not saying it, it is projected
               | into my head, making me the bad guy. This is nefarious.
               | 
               | I am totally with you with the intention of becoming a
               | better person. Same here. I am ok with people stating
               | that they are personally offended by something I have
               | said. I'll think about it and probably apologize and
               | reconsider my language. I am not ok for someone from an
               | outside group correcting my language and taking the
               | offense for someone else. This person has no say in this.
               | 
               | On top of this I think that there is no right not to be
               | offended. That we as societies should not strive for a
               | language that is totally non-offensive to anyone. a) It i
               | not possible because there is no end to it. It is easy to
               | construct yet another sub division of a group that can
               | take offense in lmost anything. b) because beeing
               | offended is the starting point for societal discourse and
               | negotiations. The discourse itself should be performed
               | respectfully, and this is essential: While my opinion
               | might be offensive to you, we should both have enough
               | mutual respect and interest in each other to sort it out
               | and come to terms.
        
               | Dma54rhs wrote:
               | For the same reason I don't want Google to tell me if I
               | can use the polymory dating app. Not a native speaker and
               | tech community is global, as is HN. Everyone doesn't have
               | to dance in order to satisfy white activists from Silicon
               | Valley and their current social dogmas.
        
               | path411 wrote:
               | So we can no longer use words that are colors inside of
               | an idiom incase people think you are talking about race?
               | You have to find some kind of line of reasonability.
               | Sure, are there lots of remnants of racism/sexism rooted
               | around our culture. But does that mean just nuke anything
               | that has a color in it?
               | 
               | Heck, you aren't even thinking of the consequences of
               | your actions suddenly turning non racist words into
               | having racist meanings. What do you think will happen
               | post "blacklist" "culture"? You go from 100% of the
               | population using the word "blacklist" with literally 0
               | race connotations, to maybe 80-90% of the culture using
               | ban or block list, while some 5-10% of the country either
               | keeps saying blacklist or starts using n*ggerlist because
               | you have now added some new racism into the language.
               | 
               | Want some really really recent examples? "Banning" the
               | use of retard, now has everyone calling each other
               | autists. Which is waaaay worse lol
        
               | cthalupa wrote:
               | We should likely avoid putting negative connotations to
               | words that correspond with the colors of peoples' skin,
               | yes.
               | 
               | Does every person with black skin care about the use of
               | blacklist or whitelist? Of course not. Do some? Of
               | course.
               | 
               | If some percentage of the country moves to be actively
               | racist in their usage of the word, well, it becomes quite
               | clear who they are, and we've got plenty of other
               | remedies for dealing with them. Everywhere I have ever
               | worked active racism was a terminable offense, and using
               | slurs like that would make it readily apparent who was
               | being actively racist. It becomes a readily apparent red
               | flag for anyone dealing with them.
               | 
               | By no means do I think this sort of change solves all of
               | the issues faced by underprivileged groups in America or
               | around the world, but it's an easy thing to do that can
               | make an incremental improvement in the lives of people
               | that can use it.
        
             | zpeti wrote:
             | You're making a real difference. A true hero. Well done.
        
               | medstrom wrote:
               | HN rule: Don't snark.
        
               | User23 wrote:
               | The don't snark rule is obviously homophobic, because
               | everyone knows gay men culturally use snark all the time.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | throwawaysea wrote:
         | Taking down Parler was certainly not justified, but I agree it
         | was one step down the slippery slope that normalizes this kind
         | of brazen gatekeeping on essential public utilities like app
         | stores. Facebook played a much larger role in the planning of
         | the riot at the capitol riots (https://www.forbes.com/sites/tho
         | masbrewster/2021/02/07/shery...) and they faced no
         | consequences, presumably because they share the same political
         | culture as Google and Apple.
         | 
         | It's also a gross overreaction to shut down Parler because the
         | vast majority of people using Parler or supporting Trump did
         | not participate in the riot. Tens of thousands were in DC that
         | day for various rallies and protests, and thousands stayed
         | outside the barricades at the capitol. A few hundred went past
         | them as protesters (rioters?), but committed no additional
         | crimes beyond trespassing, which is the same as past incidents
         | at the capitol like the riots at Brett Kavanaugh hearings
         | (https://thehill.com/homenews/senate/405500-212-protesters-
         | to...). Ultimately only 10 were associated with the Oath
         | Keepers
         | (https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2021/01/29/us/oath-
         | keepe...).
         | 
         | And on the balance, Parler had 20 million users
         | (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parler) and Trump had north of
         | 70 million supporters. It's not justifiable to stop all those
         | people from having a voice. How was it at all justifiable for
         | AOC to demand Parler be shutdown, for tech companies to
         | immediately fall in line by banning the app, and for other
         | companies to also participate in a seemingly coordinated
         | deplatforming effort? It's also chilling to consider that a
         | sitting legislator can call for the shutdown of the speech of
         | private citizens - that amounts to the government coercing bans
         | of speech from private organizations, and is a first amendment
         | violation.
         | 
         | Either way, here we are, in a world where people depend on
         | their mobile phones as utilities, but are serviced by companies
         | that are not regulated as public utilities. They need to either
         | stop being gatekeepers, and act neutrally, or they need to be
         | regulated to enforce that requirement. After all, they are
         | effectively immune to competition.
        
           | elastolin wrote:
           | Agreed, it makes zero sense. And AOC is symbol of the decline
           | of the United States.
        
       | fallat wrote:
       | Is there not an open APK repository anyone can submit to? It
       | could be a community run endeavor and research project even. We
       | could develop software to detect APKs which exhibit possible
       | malicious behavior and give them scores.
        
         | bobsmooth wrote:
         | Not sure if you're being sarcastic, but isn't that F-Droid? But
         | that's only for open-source apps.
        
       | LinuxBender wrote:
       | Having never owned a smart phone I am curious if you need an app
       | for this, or could you simply have an old school forum and people
       | visit it on their phones browser? Is that even feasible? Too much
       | friction?
        
         | drannex wrote:
         | Ease of use. Just as most people in the dating scene these days
         | use apps ala Tinder, Match, eHarmony, Her, Bumble, &c this was
         | just a service that specifically catered to those looking to be
         | in poly relationships or to be part of a community of like-
         | minded people (they had overall community experiences built in
         | as well).
         | 
         | This allowed you to have separate accounts searching as a solo,
         | double, or as a couple as well as built in chat and matching
         | systems, traditional apps and forums are not exactly well
         | poised for searching nor focused enough for these sort of
         | relationships especially as most people are against* polyamory
         | in most cases. Most typical forums on the subject only cater to
         | the sexual aspect, even if not intended, and tend to bring in
         | less than stellar users. This was an attempt to focus more on
         | the relationship aspect (definitely more than the approved
         | Grindr)
         | 
         | There certainly needs to be an app in this space.
        
         | ttfxxcc wrote:
         | Boomers prefer apps because they have a hard time using a web
         | browser.
        
         | NullPrefix wrote:
         | >Having never owned a smart phone I am curious if you need an
         | app for this
         | 
         | Yes. No smartphone will make people think you're a creep.
         | /somewhat s
        
           | drannex wrote:
           | HN rule: Don't snark or shallow dismissals -
           | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html.
           | 
           | > Be kind. Don't be snarky. Have curious conversation; don't
           | cross-examine. Please don't fulminate. Please don't sneer,
           | including at the rest of the community.
           | 
           | > Please respond to the strongest plausible interpretation of
           | what someone says, not a weaker one that's easier to
           | criticize. Assume good faith.
           | 
           | > Please don't post shallow dismissals, especially of other
           | people's work. A good critical comment teaches us something.
        
         | joecot wrote:
         | Most apps could really be Progressive Web Apps, using html css
         | and javascript with local caching and storage. Both angular and
         | react can handle running PWAs as do many other frameworks, and
         | it's not rocket science to make a PWA. Even Parler had a PWA
         | people could use when they got pulled from the store.
         | 
         | The problem is that the extra few steps to install a PWA (which
         | is really just a webpage bookmark you put on your home screen
         | plus some local caching) are a lot of friction. The hilarity
         | after Parler got pulled was non techies trying to describe
         | installing a PWA to each other and failing at it.
         | 
         | You also lose a lot of "organic" search results with a PWA. You
         | don't get the app marketplace searching/related results like
         | Google Play or the Apple Store has if you aren't in the
         | marketplace. If you do both marketplace apps and encouraging
         | people to install PWAs instead of your app, that's now less
         | downloads in the app store and therefore lower rankings. It's
         | doable to make a PWA instead of or in addition to an app, and
         | that means you're still a usable service if you get pulled from
         | stores, but it's not straight forward or perfect right now. The
         | push to make Google and Apple let apps stay in their stores is
         | the wrong push -- instead the push should be for more straight
         | forward PWA support.
        
         | jfengel wrote:
         | It's certainly not necessary. A lot of apps are literally just
         | the web site packaged up with a call to the built-in browser.
         | 
         | Apps like that are always a little clunky, especially if you
         | want to use native features like the GPS or the camera -- both
         | of which a dating app will want. They are accessible in the
         | browser, but it's not quite seamless.
         | 
         | The experience isn't a forum. You want something a bit more
         | tailored to dating. But it's entirely within the realm of a
         | browser.
         | 
         | So why package it as an app? More than anything I think it's
         | because people expect it. The experience is tuned towards
         | interactions on a mobile device. That isn't a huge difference,
         | but you're trying to compete in a tough market, and they want
         | to feel perfect.
         | 
         | Like the difference between Tinder's "swipe" interaction (left
         | for no, right for yes) versus a couple of buttons. The
         | usability difference is small, but it's iconic. You could mimic
         | it with a browser, but you really want to nail it.
         | 
         | Similarly, having the app right on your front screen rather
         | than as just another bookmark... it makes it feel important.
         | Small things that make a big difference when you're trying to
         | sell an experience.
         | 
         | Experience is critical for a dating app. It's kind of a winner-
         | take-all (or most) situation: the more users you have, the more
         | likely a user will find somebody they want and who wants them.
         | The better it looks, the more likely you'll be the one people
         | want to spend time on.
        
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       | 8bitsrule wrote:
       | >Google's developer guidelines prohibit apps "that contain or
       | promote ... any content or services intended to be sexually
       | gratifying."
       | 
       | Very reminiscent of the language of the US Comstock Laws which
       | started 148 years ago. One hundred and two years ago, a judge
       | called those laws "haphazard and capricious".
       | 
       | Those words seem to fit in this case. And this is not the
       | Victorian Era. I imagine Google would rather not be called to
       | D.C. again to explain its behavior to a Congress that is
       | unwilling to explicitly define it's expectations.
        
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