[HN Gopher] Caricatures (2020)
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       Caricatures (2020)
        
       Author : gazzini
       Score  : 14 points
       Date   : 2021-03-13 05:47 UTC (2 days ago)
        
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       | mypastself wrote:
       | Perhaps all these people are reluctant to share their actual
       | personality and insights with people who "cleverly lob" tricky
       | questions, "filter for potential friends" based on binary answers
       | to binary questions, and think they're being magnanimous when
       | they avoid debate "kill-shots".
        
         | belval wrote:
         | No kidding, sorry I don't ask random people at the cafeteria
         | what their life plans are and I respond prudently to most
         | inquiries because I don't want to be used in your personal
         | crusade against whatever decision our manager took this
         | morning.
         | 
         | The blog post is well written and I enjoyed reading it, but
         | judging people on limited interactions will ultimately lead you
         | to discount their opinion because of your preconceived notions.
        
       | lainga wrote:
       | I guess my attempt to stall while thinking deeply about the first
       | question puts me in the caricature bin. I'll remember to lead
       | with "yes" or "no" next time to seem more genuine...
        
         | vessenes wrote:
         | Cue endless self-evaluation loop: I hereby term it the Gazzini
         | Gotcha
        
       | junippor wrote:
       | > The other example is actually our CEO - I think that there is a
       | certain caricature required for public appearances & earnings
       | calls, but he sometimes seems to speak genuinely at company all-
       | hands meetings
       | 
       | Dear Engineer. If you're not pattern matching him, he's pattern
       | matching you.
        
         | w0mbat wrote:
         | I'm not sure if that bit is sucking up to the CEO or damning
         | him with faint praise.
        
           | junippor wrote:
           | The author seems to me surperficial enough as to believe he
           | could get away with purposefully being ambigous and hoping
           | that he can be flattering in the CEO's eyes while damning him
           | with faint praise in the eyes of everyone else.
        
       | vessenes wrote:
       | I like this essay! I'll pull an arrow from my moderately large
       | experience bag and note that the attempt to categorize people at
       | work or elsewhere goes back a long time, at least pre-
       | Machiavelli.
       | 
       | To my mind, the good thing about these categorizations is that
       | there are so many of them, and when they're helpful, they are
       | really helpful. Like when you can say: well they're an ENFJ, but
       | an Enneagram 6 and high D, high I, and also they are resistant to
       | follow-through, you've got lots of information, (useful or not is
       | a second q)
       | 
       | I personally liked the "conduit" thoughts, I have worked with
       | people like that many times, and mostly they REALLY annoy me. I
       | tend to spend my energy teasing out micro-clues about what they
       | really think, but I think you probably hit the nail on the head -
       | the best way to engage is to use them to get a read on the lay of
       | the land without expending the direct effort, and then if you can
       | hold your nose and build up their rep in your org, you could use
       | them to tell everyone else what's up.
       | 
       | As you go up in management ranks, it can actually be
       | extraordinarily difficult to get real information about your
       | organization, so they can be valuable there as well.
       | 
       | Anyway, great thoughts!
        
       | glasss wrote:
       | >Be fun. Come on.
       | 
       | I think this statement should be tacked onto many more articles /
       | blog posts. While I don't know if the implications for this blog
       | post makes sense with it, I can appreciate the sentiment and
       | think more people would do well to drive it home.
        
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