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       We live in an age of distractions, dealing with constant mental
       stimulus
        
       Author : iamsanteri
       Score  : 371 points
       Date   : 2021-02-20 19:49 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | BannedQuick wrote:
       | You get what you where trained to beg for.
        
       | cutler wrote:
       | And then there's Javascript.
        
       | kthxb wrote:
       | This reads a lot like the author just read Newport's "Deep Work".
       | I highly recommend it if you liked this article.
        
         | iamsanteri wrote:
         | I haven't read the book, but now I definitely will. Thank you
         | for the tip!
        
       | ArcMex wrote:
       | Unpopular opinion but I've embraced it. I'm OK with doing
       | everything in small chunks anyway. So yeah, in between three
       | pages of a novel, I'll check my notifications. When my pomodoro
       | counter hits during a coding session, I'll stand take a walk and
       | stretch. Five minutes later, I'll check my phone. Then return to
       | my desk. While relaxing and watching Netflix, when an episode
       | finishes, I'll stop watching, close Netflix, check my phone. If
       | it's bed time, bed. If it's something else, do it for a small
       | amount of time with notable progress. Small chunks, always. A
       | hacker news post or a Reddit meme. Never hours of /g/. But my
       | phone is my companion, not my enemy.
        
       | lrossi wrote:
       | Sorry to say this, but HN is a problem as well.
       | 
       | I'm looking for that 1% of the posts that interest me, and when I
       | find them it's fantastic, since it's info I would not be able to
       | find anywhere else. But going through the other 99% is a waste of
       | time.
       | 
       | These two combined have a harmful effect on me. I don't know if
       | there's a name for it, but it's the same as the one causing
       | addiction in gambling/bets/games. Gathering energy/motivation to
       | do something productive instead takes effort.
       | 
       | Just a few days ago I was thinking of adding a dns block for it.
       | But that 1% of the links is sweet...
        
         | mc10 wrote:
         | > I'm looking for that 1% of the posts that interest me, and
         | when I find them it's fantastic, since it's info I would not be
         | able to find anywhere else. But going through the other 99% is
         | a waste of time.
         | 
         | Would this really help with HN addiction? I imagine it might
         | exacerbate it since everything you see is so much more engaging
         | (by definition), and probably count(posts that interest you)
         | >>> count(posts that you've read).
        
         | benhurmarcel wrote:
         | This has helped me cut down on the time I read HN:
         | https://hckrnews.com/
        
         | latexr wrote:
         | > Just a few days ago I was thinking of adding a dns block for
         | it.
         | 
         | In your profile you'll find _noprocrast_ , _maxvisit_ , and
         | _minaway_ , which you can use to limit your time on the site.
         | 
         | > But that 1% of the links is sweet
         | 
         | You can use RSS feeds to be notified of stories with over N
         | points[1] (or another rule), lessening the desire to look at
         | everything.
         | 
         | [1]: https://hnrss.github.io/#activity-parameters
        
           | alsetmusic wrote:
           | > You can use RSS feeds to be notified of stories with over N
           | points[1] (or another rule), lessening the desire to look at
           | everything.
           | 
           | Thank you for this tip! HN is one of the only websites I
           | don't consume via RSS. I had no idea I could customize
           | parameters and do this.
           | 
           | Unfortunately, I'll still be loading the site to find the
           | rare links that are of high interest to but that get a low
           | number of hits. But this will definitely help me optimize my
           | interaction with the site. Again, thank you.
        
           | lrossi wrote:
           | I had no idea about this. Thanks, I will try it out.
        
         | aserafini wrote:
         | The name for this is 'variable reward', and yes it is the root
         | of gambling addiction as well.
        
         | haasted wrote:
         | An alternative is to stop visiting the site and sign up for
         | Hacker Newsletter instead: https://hackernewsletter.com/
        
       | atleta wrote:
       | I keep remembering that episode from The Outer Limits (the 90s
       | series). I think the title was "The stream". It was set in the
       | future, where everybody had an implant that they could use to
       | access 'the stream' to get access to all the world's knowledge
       | and information. (I.e. the internet, but back then even dialup
       | internet was an uncommon thing for most people to have.)
       | 
       | The story was that there was a single guy who could not have the
       | implant and he was, of course, and outcast. And then there was a
       | virus that started to spread through the stream and people
       | started to show strange symptoms. Well, maybe not that strange:
       | they started to consume more and more information. First the
       | infected just started to look up and quote seemingly irrelevant
       | pieces of information. You know, like the things you'd see on
       | Quora (or during a random trip to Wikipedia) and then they would
       | spend more and more time fetching more knowledge and have more
       | and more information hunger.
       | 
       | I'd say it's not unlike what we see around ourselves the past few
       | years.
        
       | RGamma wrote:
       | The fallout of a decade of senseless pushing, growing and
       | disrupting in the attention economy.
       | 
       | We'll get the smartphone zombie outbreak under control, but not
       | before it becomes worse. And if not.. not sure we'll even care or
       | notice anymore.
        
       | thewarrior wrote:
       | Glad I found this useful post while refreshing HN for some mental
       | stimulus.
       | 
       | A book I found silly when I read it was Future shock. It said
       | that change and information would be so rapid in the future that
       | people would be in permanent state of shock. Seemed like a
       | ridiculous notion at the time but not anymore.
       | 
       | 22 year old me read about the Jewish tradition of Sabbath day and
       | found it so silly. A day where you're not supposed to use any
       | technology or do any productive work ? How silly !
       | 
       | I totally get it now. They were onto something. We've now
       | reinvented it as "digital detox" and "dopamine fasting".
       | 
       | Got my hit by writing this comment now off to the the next post I
       | go.
        
         | bquest2 wrote:
         | I fed your addiction by giving you an upvote. I hope you enjoy
         | that number next to your username, representing Karma go up.
         | You should try to get the high score.
        
         | Nasrudith wrote:
         | I think future shock is something for the non-young period. If
         | you are young you don't have a set of norms embedded and are
         | adapting to the new. Phenomenally messed up things like
         | domestic violence can be assumed normal because that is their
         | baseline. This is because of a lack of a strong baseline
         | trained in to have dissonance towards.
        
       | Ralo wrote:
       | Every time I see a post like this, I like to remind myself of a
       | quote from Blaise Pascal in the 1600s,
       | 
       | "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit
       | quietly in a room alone,"
       | 
       | This has been an internal battles for most, for much longer than
       | smartphones have been around.
        
       | ruslan wrote:
       | Go in to team sports (ice hockey, soccer, volleyball) reguarly,
       | this will get your mind well disconnected for sufficient amount
       | of time to recuperate.
        
       | soheil wrote:
       | I bought the iPhone 12 mini so it forces me to use it less due to
       | its small screen size, it's been working pretty well so far.
        
       | fxtentacle wrote:
       | I wonder if we see a rise in ADHD in kids nowadays because it is
       | an increasingly useful adaptation to our environment.
       | 
       | "Hyperfocus is the experience of deep and intense concentration
       | in some people with ADHD. ADHD is not necessarily a deficit of
       | attention, but rather a problem with regulating one's attention
       | span to desired tasks."
       | 
       | I don't know, but "hyperfocus" on a hobby you love sounds exactly
       | like what most people need nowadays to get off their phone and
       | stop wasting their life staring on ads and ad-financed content.
       | Also, I remember that most things we covered in school were
       | completely irrelevant for the real world. So a difficulty to
       | concentrate on school stuff may actually be better than doing the
       | homework.
       | 
       | In short, ignoring what society considers normal and instead
       | being super focused on your own things ... sounds more healthy to
       | me than the average "normal" person.
        
         | PragmaticPulp wrote:
         | > I wonder if we see a rise in ADHD in kids nowadays because it
         | is an increasingly useful adaptation to our environment.
         | 
         | We like to think of focus and attention span as innate
         | abilities encoded by our genes, but the truth is that genetics
         | are only a part of the story. Focus and attention are learned
         | skills that can be trained and developed over time.
         | 
         | Likewise, focus and attention can be diminished over time
         | through constant cycles of rewarding ones' self with quick
         | distractions. If instead of studying on a difficult topic, a
         | person scrolls Twitter for an endless stream of quick context
         | shifts and semi-rewarding posts, they're training their brain
         | to associate Twitter with reward and studying with pain. It
         | takes conscious effort to suppress the desire for short-term
         | reward and focus on long-term reward that comes at a cost of
         | additional up front work.
         | 
         | The rise in ADHD diagnoses is partially due to ever-expanding
         | criteria for ADHD. Decades ago, ADHD diagnoses were mostly
         | limited to severe cases that were refractory to therapy
         | interventions. These days, drug companies push ADHD quizzes on
         | the internet that make common everyday struggles feel like
         | ADHD. Take a look at Takeda Pharmaceutical's Adult ADHD site:
         | https://www.adhdadulthood.com/adhd-test With testimonials such
         | as "I had to write everything down to maintain organization and
         | memory" you'd think that non-ADHD people never had to write
         | anything down to stay organized.
         | 
         | > I don't know, but "hyperfocus" on a hobby you love sounds
         | exactly like what most people need nowadays to get off their
         | phone and stop wasting their life staring on ads and ad-
         | financed content.
         | 
         | The idea of "hyperfocus" is that the person loses focus on the
         | wrong things. For example, if someone "hyperfocuses" on video
         | games instead of doing their homework. It's a failure of time
         | management and prioritization rather than a special ability to
         | accomplish things.
         | 
         | The idea of hyperfocus as a symptom of ADHD is a new
         | phenomenon, and it's more prominent in pop culture than actual
         | ADHD research. Just look at the only 6 hits for hyperfocus AND
         | adhd in pubmed:
         | https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/?term=%22hyperfocus%22+AND+%...
         | 5 of the 6 papers are from the last 4 years and most aren't
         | from top quality journals. Before that, hyperfocus was only
         | listed as an adverse effect of taking too high of a dose of an
         | ADHD medication.
         | 
         | > So a difficulty to concentrate on school stuff may actually
         | be better than doing the homework.
         | 
         | It's a mistake to think that children's schoolwork is only
         | about learning how to do fractions or write cursive or just the
         | core material. The kids are learning how to learn, learning how
         | to focus, learning how to manage their time, learning how to
         | follow through on tasks, and many other very valuable learned
         | skills in the process.
         | 
         | On HN we like to talk about the hypothetical genius child who
         | would be studying engineering in their spare time if they
         | didn't have to do a couple hours of homework at night, but in
         | reality the vast majority of children are not worse off by
         | doing schoolwork. It's training and learning how to function in
         | the world. It's not perfect, but kids definitely do learn life
         | skills from it.
         | 
         | > In short, ignoring what society considers normal and instead
         | being super focused on your own things ... sounds more healthy
         | to me than the average "normal" person.
         | 
         | The reality is that most people aren't forced to choose between
         | being "normal" and being successful in their area of expertise.
         | It has never been easier for someone to access information
         | about their chosen topic online, but you only need to look at
         | the traffic stats of major social media sites to see what
         | people are actually choosing to do with their free time. It's
         | also important to accept that good ideas don't always stand out
         | on their own. Knowing how the world works and how to be
         | "normal" is a critically important skill for working with
         | others, getting your ideas out there, communicating, and so on.
         | 
         | Obviously I'd never discourage anyone from pursuing study in
         | their chosen field, but in my experience the people who didn't
         | grow up in environments with strong structure, frameworks, and
         | feedback loops from their educators and parents is often ill-
         | equipped to follow their academic desires when they arrive at
         | college or the business world.
         | 
         | There are always exceptions, of course. However it's more
         | common to hear kids complain that their early academic years
         | were "not challenging enough" rather than too difficult,
         | leaving them ill-prepared for reality when they finally
         | encounter something challenging enough that they can't coast
         | through it.
        
           | sedeki wrote:
           | > Obviously I'd never discourage anyone from pursuing study
           | in their chosen field, but in my experience the people who
           | didn't grow up in environments with strong structure,
           | frameworks, and feedback loops from their educators and
           | parents is often ill-equipped to follow their academic
           | desires when they arrive at college or the business world.
           | 
           | Eloquently summarizes my situation precisely.
        
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         | EvilEy3 wrote:
         | What makes you think this is a useful adaptation and not an
         | exploit of our system?
        
         | tluyben2 wrote:
         | I wonder what the officially diagnosed number for adhd is and
         | it it is rising over the decades; literally all my kids of my
         | friends and acquaintances 'have adhd'. Most are not diagnosed
         | by a medical professional but self diagnosed. A lot of people I
         | talk with (people over 35-40) have self diagnosed themselves as
         | having adhd to explain their issues in life.
         | 
         | Did the actual number increase? Did the definition broaden? Why
         | does it seem like a plague now?
        
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           | toto444 wrote:
           | Also I have literally never met anyone in my life telling me
           | 'I have ADHD'. However on the internet it seems that everyone
           | has it. My pet theory is that it is a very American thing,
           | not that people feel more free to talk about it on the
           | internet.
        
           | imesh wrote:
           | I don't even know how you would notice if you had ADD while
           | working construction or some other manual labour job. While
           | performing office work makes everyone feel like they have ADD
           | if they aren't performing as they expect themselves too.
        
       | PragmaticPulp wrote:
       | It is interesting how manufactured distraction-free sessions like
       | yoga, meditation, paid retreats, have emerged to fill the demand
       | for idle time. We're forgetting how to unplug unless it's a
       | product or service that we can buy.
       | 
       | The distraction issue is the number one issue holding back most
       | of the young people in the mentorship group I'm part of. They're
       | so glued to their phones to check minute-by-minute updates about
       | COVID death tolls, how big their stimulus checks are going to be,
       | the value of their crypto portfolio, GameStop, and every other
       | popular topic under the sun that they don't have any attention
       | left for their own lives.
       | 
       | Bitcoin is especially distracting right now, as they're all
       | nervously watching the real-time changes of their $1000
       | portfolios to see if they need to be sad about losing money
       | because it's crashing or sad about not investing more money
       | because it's going up.
       | 
       | These are all smart students. I always wonder how much more they
       | could accomplish if they'd simply pick four hours each day to
       | turn off their phones. That's a tough sell, though.
        
         | zzzeek wrote:
         | > It is interesting how manufactured distraction-free sessions
         | like yoga, meditation, paid retreats, have emerged to fill the
         | demand for idle time. We're forgetting how to unplug unless
         | it's a product or service that we can buy.
         | 
         | I meditate every day and it's cost me nothing, uses nothing,
         | does not require going anywhere, literally brushing my teeth is
         | more of a commercial activity than meditation is.
         | 
         | Meditation is exactly what your students could use most
         | effectively to learn to manage distracted minds, so given you
         | are in a position of mentorship it's kind of sad you seem to
         | think the basic act of sitting and doing exactly nothing but
         | observing how it feels is some kind of corporate fad that
         | should be avoided.
        
           | hybridtupel wrote:
           | I think what was meant here are the countless (monetarized)
           | apps and courses which gamify the meditation experience of
           | course. You are totally right that the original intention of
           | meditation is quite the opposite. No app, gadget or anything
           | else required.
           | 
           | Edit: Grammar
        
             | tayo42 wrote:
             | > countless (monetarized) apps and courses which gamify the
             | meditation experience
             | 
             | What do these apps do? Ive been giving meditation a shot
             | recently. (Because i have similar thoughts about my
             | distractions) So im aware of them, ive been mediating just
             | by setting the timer on my phone and finding some quiet
             | time and then well mediate. Mediate as i understand it is
             | just sitting still and being present and aware of your mind
             | wandering then bringing it back to being present.
             | 
             | What am I missing?
        
               | pencildog wrote:
               | The main advantage of an app is guided meditation. If you
               | only want to sit quietly, or you're already trained in
               | meditation, or you've read some books on practice, then
               | the apps may not provide an advantage to you.
        
               | thombee wrote:
               | It's kinda like having a meditation teacher, but in an
               | app. Totally not necessary, but I like it :D
        
             | abnercoimbre wrote:
             | Agreed, but I would need to vouch for the Waking Up app for
             | my own meditation. It was training wheels before venturing
             | off on my own -- don't think anything is wrong with that!
        
         | mandelbrotwurst wrote:
         | I am personally finding myself getting caught in exactly these
         | kinds of traps much more often since COVID showed up and all of
         | the opportunity for in person social interaction dried up.
         | 
         | Stillness has become difficult and while the digital
         | interactions haven been an imperfect substitute, they're better
         | than nothing and it's even more challenging to engage in good
         | digital habits when you're leaning on these networks for such
         | basic needs.
         | 
         | It's been a challenge.
        
         | heroHACK17 wrote:
         | > It is interesting how manufactured distraction-free sessions
         | like yoga, meditation, paid retreats, have emerged to fill the
         | demand for idle time. We're forgetting how to unplug unless
         | it's a product or service that we can buy.
         | 
         | I never thought of it this way, very interesting. But it's not
         | surprising. There's obviously a demand for these types of
         | products.
        
         | hauget wrote:
         | This, and undiagnosed and untreated ADHD. By the way, for
         | anyone struggling with ADD, check out a book called" by Johhn
         | Ratey the way. It's GREAT. He also wrote Spark, which I think
         | everyone should read.
        
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           | rexpop wrote:
           | > a book called" by Johhn Ratey
           | 
           | I think you may have accidentally omitted some words.
        
             | EvilEy3 wrote:
             | One of the symptoms of ADHD, btw, lol.
        
         | shortandsweet wrote:
         | Curious about your mentoring program. How does it work? I
         | always feel that who am I to really provide advice?
         | 
         | I was recently asked to attend a virtual mentoring session and
         | I didn't due to scheduling conflicts but I had no idea what to
         | say had I attended. I was going to kick it off if they had any
         | questions about anything and then move into my career over the
         | years. I didn't want to share too much because I feel it would
         | be bragging.
        
           | cher88 wrote:
           | Not the OP, but my advice is to tailor your advice / sharing
           | of experiences to what your mentee(s) need. Always start by
           | listening before sharing your experiences, and for each
           | experience, distill the key learning so you can help your
           | mentee see how they can apply it to their situation.
        
         | sp332 wrote:
         | You could start smaller. Set aside 15 minutes to think about
         | life. Once they see the benefits, selling them on longer
         | stretches might be easier.
        
         | lm28469 wrote:
         | > It is interesting how manufactured distraction-free sessions
         | like yoga, meditation, paid retreats, have emerged to fill the
         | demand for idle time. We're forgetting how to unplug unless
         | it's a product or service that we can buy.
         | 
         | This is the most interesting part to me, people managed to
         | monetize these things. After vacations, entertainment, now they
         | monetize idleness, I really don't know what to think of it. The
         | funny thing is that they're really two sides of the same coin,
         | they both compete for your time and money
        
         | dominotw wrote:
         | > We're forgetting how to unplug unless it's a product or
         | service that we can buy.
         | 
         | For me I never want to unplug because it brings me all the
         | stress from things I have going on (and not going on) in life.
         | This continuous online state has allowed me to putoff major
         | life decisions.
        
         | warent wrote:
         | > Bitcoin is especially distracting right now, as they're all
         | nervously watching the real-time changes of their $1000
         | portfolios to see if they need to be sad about losing money
         | because it's crashing or sad about not investing more money
         | because it's going up.
         | 
         | Great way to articulate this! This very experience is relatable
         | although in my case with normal stocks, and something very
         | interesting happened.
         | 
         | I sold some stocks for a modest profit, checked a few days
         | later, and read that if I had just held a little longer then my
         | profit would have been like double. It was very frustrating,
         | and there was that negative emotional reaction. Then I realized
         | I'd somehow misread the numbers, and in fact I would have had
         | my initial investment _cut in half_. My frustration melted into
         | relief and happiness. But more than that, it shocked me into
         | realizing something very important: in the moment, my emotions
         | seemed real, but were actually completely disconnected from
         | reality. Further, the sense of  "control" I thought I had was
         | revealed to be a complete illusion.
         | 
         | After that, these "bets" (gambles) have completely stopped
         | affecting me, and I haven't experienced FOMO since.
         | 
         | Hope more people have the same liberating realization!
        
           | agumonkey wrote:
           | Trading is a soulless activity but the psychological, social
           | and superstitious aspect of it are quite interesting. It taps
           | deep into the fear/hope/chaos part of our brains.
           | 
           | Everybody is angry to see $crypto reaching 300% but when it
           | dips back half, nobody wants it anymore, until it grows
           | again. Trading flips our natural reflexes upside down.
           | 
           | The guru/superstition aspect is also something rare.. the
           | actual knowledge of traders is really thin, but it can sound
           | sophisticated if not advanced for the average crowd. Paired
           | with the fact that all that is said comes with a "work 70% of
           | the time" there's always enough room to justify errors and
           | failures and still look like a guru to your crowd of
           | wannabee-rich.
           | 
           | That said it's also a good tool to learn about calculated
           | risk, adventurous and also balance (many start glue to their
           | screens but with time you know how to not overspend your time
           | like this).
        
           | antoniuschan99 wrote:
           | It's also compounded because our Peer groups are doing it too
           | so there's that additional FOMO.
           | 
           | I get the same feelings as you do (we all do). I read that if
           | the price goes up, we get an elated feeling but it's minor.
           | But when we lose money, that negative feeling is twice as
           | strong.
        
             | aaaxyz wrote:
             | There's also the fact that the more often you look at your
             | portfolio, the less likely you are to see it go up
             | (assuming typical returns and volatility). Something like
             | ~51% if you look at it every hour vs ~70% if you look every
             | month. Taleb uses that example in Fooled by Randomness.
        
             | rubicon33 wrote:
             | People seem to have a strange way of 'investing'. For me,
             | it falls into 2 categories:
             | 
             | 1) Long term investements which I almost never look at.
             | Regular scheduled deposits going into an index fund.
             | 
             | 2) Bets. Fun little side gambles which I always do for one
             | purpose - aquiring something in the real world. Example: I
             | want a new M1 macbook, but rather than drop $1k, I gamble
             | $3k bitcoin. If it makes enough profit for the macbook, I
             | sell immediately, and buy. If it drops, I just hang onto it
             | until it goes up. But ultimately, this category of
             | investment is never anything other than a bet, which I am
             | OK losing. And, it's always a means to and end. I have a
             | product in mind, and I justify gambling some money (which
             | is fun) as a means to acquiring said product.
        
               | alsetmusic wrote:
               | > which I am OK losing.
               | 
               | This is the most important concept of investing. You
               | should never place an amount you wouldn't be ok losing.
               | If losing every cent of an investment could cause
               | financial ruin, you're investing too much.
        
               | ajfjrbfbf wrote:
               | I would agree with you if you replaced every "investing"
               | word with "speculating" or "gambling". Otherwise what
               | else am I suppose to do with my money but invest it?
               | Leave it in the bank so they can profit off of it? There
               | are entire categories of equity with variable degrees of
               | risk, and a lot of them won't make me "lose every cent"
               | in any situation but the end of the world.
        
               | prox wrote:
               | I had an economics teacher who very interesting and he
               | taught us exactly this. He also actually owned a shop, so
               | every economic theory he could explain with a real world
               | example.
        
               | whobar wrote:
               | You are erroneously conflating investing with gambling.
               | Astute investing in index funds is essentially risk-free
               | if your retirement is far enough away. As you get closer
               | to retirement, you should start moving from funds to
               | bonds (or cash if you want to be extra safe), so you are
               | protected in the case of a crash.
               | 
               | I am not OK with losing the money I have invested, but it
               | is so unlikely that I do not need to worry about it.
               | 
               | A situation where the global stock market crashes, and
               | never recovers, is basically an apocalypse. That is not
               | worth planning for.
        
               | djrobstep wrote:
               | But there is a risk in not taking risk too. If you had
               | taken this advice over the last ten years (my grandmother
               | did, for instance) you'd have missed the greatest decade
               | in stocks and property for many years, and are much
               | poorer because of it.
        
               | i5heu wrote:
               | You can not not invest ,,money". If you let the ,,money"
               | exists in Fiat money form your money is invested in this
               | exact fiat money.
               | 
               | This is all a big gamble with different risks. But
               | generally: if you have "money" you have a risk to lose
               | it.
               | 
               | I use here ""Money"" as a synonym for buying power, or
               | value that can be exchanged. So it is not like Money
               | because it dose not describe the meta value and is part
               | of the big gamble ;)
        
           | suketk wrote:
           | Yes! I had this same realization recently, which led me to
           | write about it because it was so striking. It's scary how
           | quickly we can becomes engrossed in our perception as opposed
           | to reality. https://suketk.com/thought-space-vs-reality
        
           | hikarudo wrote:
           | Your story reminds me of the Indian allegory of the man who
           | mistakes a rope for a snake.
        
             | ta988 wrote:
             | Mind sharing that one?
        
               | dilawar wrote:
               | I think he meant this one. Grerk also had something
               | similar but can't locate the reference.
               | 
               | https://oxford.universitypressscholarship.com//mobile/vie
               | w/1...
        
               | hikarudo wrote:
               | I like how this story is told in Buddhist contexts:
               | 
               | http://www.1netcentral.com/articles/the-snake-rope-
               | essential...
        
               | agumonkey wrote:
               | Very nice, do you know where to read about maya ? (fun
               | fact Alias Maya was one of my favorite software ever, yet
               | it's the first time I get interested in the philosophical
               | concept behind the name thanks to you)
        
           | godmode2019 wrote:
           | If you set a small algo to buy $50 every day when you see
           | down days you feel happy because you get a discount.
           | 
           | Your time horizon is set at 10 years so any gains or loss is
           | just a paper loss.
           | 
           | If you need to check just do it once per day to get a idea if
           | the market. But not in the morning because if your port is
           | big enough it might affect your day. Try for lunch time to
           | not affect your sleep.
           | 
           | Good luck!
        
           | p0d wrote:
           | I sold my $1000 in bitcoin as it was proving a distraction. I
           | was constantly checking it's value. I also came to the
           | conclusion I don't believe in bitcoin. I was just hoping to
           | make money which doesn't resonate with my values. I am good
           | for money. I am thinking of turning my attention to micro
           | loans to get my mind off the topic of myself.
           | 
           | It took a long walk to break the bitcoin distraction and
           | start to see sense. I think we should be wise about the
           | technology we let into our heads. Especially when that
           | technology is tied to money. I have 6 bank/share apps on my
           | phone I check frequently. This may be my next area to tackle.
        
             | spookthesunset wrote:
             | Stuff like that is exactly why I just invest in boring
             | market-wife index funds.
        
             | Viliam1234 wrote:
             | > I sold my $1000 in bitcoin as it was proving a
             | distraction. I was constantly checking it's value.
             | 
             | One more reason to HODL. Buy some bitcoins, forget that
             | they exist, check the situation 10 years later... either
             | bitcoin doesn't exist anymore (more likely), or you are a
             | millionaire (less likely, but the chances are better than
             | in lottery).
             | 
             | My colleagues are watching bitcoin prices all the time...
             | most of them don't even own any! I bought some, and they
             | were like "hey, did you notice the price went up, are you
             | happy?" or "hey, did you notice the price went down, are
             | you sad?" every day. I told them "guys, please do not talk
             | to me about bitcoins; I am going to check their price in
             | 2030, and until then, I don't care".
             | 
             | I have an approximate idea of where the bitcoin is now,
             | because seeing the headlines on HN, it is hard to avoid the
             | information. But I don't know what happened yesterday, or
             | during the last week. I could check the current price in 5
             | seconds... but I won't, because emotionally I just don't
             | care. Instead I will submit this comment, and then try to
             | forget that bitcoin exists.
             | 
             | (And this is not specific to bitcoins; I would do exactly
             | the same thing with gold or stock market. Unless active
             | trading is my job, which it is not, I do not need the daily
             | numbers.)
             | 
             | I wonder why this is so emotionally easy for me, and many
             | other people seemingly can't do it. It's not like I don't
             | need money. I don't even feel particularly stoic. It is
             | suspiciously similar to learned helplessness. Maybe I just
             | focus my attention elsewhere... like writing comments on
             | HN.
        
           | hedberg10 wrote:
           | Notice how your mood changed by just thinking differently.
           | This can be done with anything. Its not the event(e) that
           | makes us feel, its the callback(us).
        
             | agumonkey wrote:
             | Yeah one can go full panic attack over the wrong
             | interpretation. This alleged reality vanishes as fast as it
             | came, although the potential mistakes it triggered can last
             | long.
        
           | steve_adams_86 wrote:
           | I posted something recently here about a similar epiphany. We
           | really do get to decide what we believe to be true, and we
           | even get to decide how we respond to the truth. We can change
           | how we feel about things over time. None of this is static.
           | 
           | What sent me down that rabbit hole in a big way was stoic
           | philosophy. I'm not 100% on board with it, but when it comes
           | to this it has literally changed my life. I now take an
           | active role in how I perceive things and how I react to those
           | perceptions, and I actually enjoy that exercise a lot.
           | 
           | So you lost some money. Can you still eat? Pay rent? Still
           | have a job? Then it's not a problem at all, is it?
           | 
           | Not long ago I would have gotten worked up too, and maybe I
           | still would. Who knows. But there really isn't any need for
           | it.
        
             | raister wrote:
             | Me too. I understand what you mean. I'll leave here a
             | classic Stoic passage:
             | 
             | After being told (of his exile), "Your case is being tried
             | in the Senate," Agrippinus responded:
             | 
             | "Good luck betide! But it is the fifth hour now" (he was in
             | the habit of taking his exercise and then a cold bath at
             | that hour); "let us be off and take our exercise."
             | 
             | After he had finished his exercise someone came and told
             | him, "You have been condemned."
             | 
             | "To exile," says he, "or to death?"
             | 
             | To exile.
             | 
             | "What about my property?"
             | 
             | It has not been confiscated.
             | 
             | "Well then, let us go to Aricia and take our lunch there."
        
         | keiferski wrote:
         | The blank page is unpopular these days. People have lost the
         | ability to be creative, as in "create from scratch." Everything
         | must be appified and scheduled, offered with multiple
         | preplanned choices and not with anything open-ended. This is
         | easy to see with an example like kids toys or Legos: most of
         | their new (and lucrative, I imagine) products are branded
         | franchise ones, which is a far cry from the freeform building
         | blocks of just a few decades ago.
        
           | lm28469 wrote:
           | > Everything must be appified and scheduled
           | 
           | You see it very often on HN with all the articles about
           | tweaking your productivity, scheduling everything, writing
           | what you're doing every 15 minutes in a logbook as to not
           | lose a single second of your life to "unproductivity", &c.
           | 
           | We're applying machine concepts to human life as if all that
           | mattered was how much "things" you can produce and how much
           | other things it allows you to consume
        
             | benhurmarcel wrote:
             | I enjoy to read/watch about productivity apps and new tech,
             | but it seems to me that all this "optimization" doesn't
             | have any strong effect on output. It's not negative, you
             | can do it if that brings you joy, but don't expect it to
             | increase your output.
             | 
             | One of my last year's most productive days, I was stuck in
             | a small hotel room on a business trip for a entire day,
             | with a 13-inch laptop on shit wifi. In just a few hours I
             | wrote one of the most useful document for my job in the
             | last couple of years. I guess I had nothing else to do, and
             | had no distractions.
             | 
             | Both at my office and home, I have all kinds of ergonomic
             | setup, great connection, comfortable drinks, whatever. And
             | I work ok there most of the time, but I got more focused
             | and productive stuck in a hotel on a small laptop and a
             | wooden chair...
             | 
             | Recently this video [1] got my the same impression. A dozen
             | content producers in the "productivity" niche show their
             | workplace. Obviously there are some high-tech desks full of
             | expensive latest tech, but also some simple laptops and a
             | wooden chair. In the end it doesn't matter, they're all
             | producing good output regardless of their productivity
             | setup.
             | 
             | So it looks more like a hobby than an actual link to being
             | productive. It's really not about the apps or setup.
             | 
             | [1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cs7TCNDQy1E
        
         | teach420 wrote:
         | > they're all nervously watching the real-time changes of their
         | $1000 portfolios to see if they need to be sad about losing
         | money because it's crashing or sad about not investing more
         | money because it's going up.
         | 
         | I'd say those students are learning a lot.
         | 
         | A few could make a profit or loss that is life-changing to them
         | (this might also be a surprisingly small amount of money), and
         | they are also presumably learning how to assess their risk
         | profile in reality (as user warent describes in their comment)
         | and be less likely to squander a much larger portfolio later.
        
           | PragmaticPulp wrote:
           | In this case, these are mostly software engineering students.
           | They stand to gain more from their first signing bonus or
           | even first paycheck than what they'd see from 10Xing most of
           | their investments.
           | 
           | From a mentor perspective, it's exhausting to hear students
           | complain that they don't have any time to study or schedule
           | interviews, then watch them spend 4 hours talking in the
           | group Slack about their Dogecoin speculation theories.
        
         | baxtr wrote:
         | _> I always wonder how much more they could accomplish if
         | they'd simply pick four hours each day to turn off their
         | phones._
         | 
         | I think most of them sincerely wouldn't know what to do in
         | those 4 hours. Working on their laptops? I guess I wonder: How
         | can people "accomplish things" nowadays without being on a
         | device?
        
           | vaylian wrote:
           | I think the question should rather be: How can people
           | accomplish things today by using devices that are connected
           | to the internet?
           | 
           | Having internet access increases the potential for
           | distraction by a lot. Some websites are specifically designed
           | to be addictive. The easiest way to deal with this is to
           | block them on your device during certain times of the day.
        
         | Balgair wrote:
         | One (hopelessly futile) tactic may be focusing on the ROI of
         | various reading material. Internet comments take ~5 minutes to
         | write, 30s to read (6x ROI). Blog posts are ~4 hours to write,
         | 10m to read (24x). Magazine articles are ~3 months to write,
         | 30m to read (960x). Books are ~5 years to write, 8h to read
         | (1300x). Obviously, reading books is one of the best sources of
         | reading. But it also works with video and audio material.
         | Movies are better than YT vlogs which are better than
         | ticktocks. Albums are better than singles which are better than
         | soundcloud covers. I know that teenagers are _never_ going to
         | listen to this advice (I sure wouldn 't have), but there is
         | that fleeting chance!
         | 
         | (Also, the ROI stuff is a rough guide, read/view/listen to
         | whatever you'd like, I'm not your dad!)
        
         | burade wrote:
         | It's called being young. They're emotional and inexperienced.
         | 
         | 50 years ago this used to be normal. Now for some reason
         | everybody expects perfection out of everybody at all times.
         | 
         | Insanity.
        
           | EvilEy3 wrote:
           | 50 years ago it was different. You could work some grocery
           | job and still be okay. Nowadays working minimum wage means
           | being left behind and poverty. Given how competitive world
           | has become it's only natural that it came to that.
           | 
           | 50 years ago you would compete with your surroundings, now
           | you compete with the whole city, country or even world in
           | some cases. And this applies to everything: work,
           | relationships, sex life, etc.
        
           | imesh wrote:
           | Very good point. I'm 30, check reddit/instagram/FB more than
           | I ever did in college, yet I'm more more disciplined during
           | my work and study than I was in college.
        
         | dreamer7 wrote:
         | Seems like there's an app opportunity here! Free time as a
         | service. "Choose how many hours in a day you would like to be
         | free and we will automatically block your calendar, cancel
         | meeting invites, setup an email auto-responder and disable
         | access to the internet" /s
        
           | hetspookjee wrote:
           | It's good that you explicitly made the /s. Otherwise you
           | surely would've fallen victim of Poe's law.
        
         | agumonkey wrote:
         | It might be a shallow conclusion but the level of absurdity of
         | 2000s life is getting to me. Everything good that was free is
         | now ~offered as paid services to compensate for all the subtle
         | toxicity of the average mainstream life.
         | 
         | I just came back from a very free (for now) walk in the woods.
        
         | callamdelaney wrote:
         | There is a lot of talk about investments / trading on this
         | thread so I thought I'd drop some of my thoughts and
         | experiences here.
         | 
         | 1) You can be right and still lose significant amounts of
         | money. I've lost many thousands myself on something that I was
         | eventually right about, timing is key - and it doesn't do to
         | dwell on any decision - whether because you lost or could have
         | made more. Sure, if I'd just invested my pocket money in
         | bitcoin when I first mined it in 2012 I'd be retired already -
         | but I didn't - shit happens.
         | 
         | 2) If you are attaching emotion to your positions you're doing
         | it wrong. This is a huge point, not one I've personally
         | mastered - which is why I don't play with stocks anymore.
         | 
         | 3) The whole cycle of emotions surrounding markets is explained
         | brilliantly by George Soros in 'The Alchemy of Finance'. This
         | is an excellent read. It's interesting and illuminating that
         | Soros was a student of Philosophy and not strictly mathematics
         | or business.
         | 
         | In my own experience there are two layers to markets - what
         | actually is and what people think is or will be; usually the
         | latter is much more powerful in terms of short term positions.
         | One of Soros's points is that the two interact and influence
         | the other eventually.
        
         | rubicon33 wrote:
         | I am going to make a counter point, albeit one that I don't
         | like:
         | 
         | Advising kids to lean away from modern life and push back on
         | the progress of distracting technologies will actually be a
         | more anti-social move than not.
         | 
         | What I mean is that to exist and live in the modern world
         | increasingly requires adept skills at managing bespoke
         | technological platforms. To be a social being in the 21st
         | century is largely about navigating these platforms and being
         | 'plugged in'. Disconnect, and you'll miss out on the flow of
         | humanity.
         | 
         | I mention I don't like this because frankly, I miss the idea of
         | small towns with supportive communities that had inherent
         | dependencies on each other. The baker, the butcher, the doctor,
         | the pastor, etc, everyone had a feeling of purpose and a
         | connectivity to their community. Of course this ideological
         | view of society is long gone so there's just no sense trying to
         | push back. Accept that today's child is a highly connected,
         | distracted, techno-proficient being and let that be that.
        
           | imbnwa wrote:
           | I wager the sexual success of most young men does not hinge
           | on their social media read/write frequency.
        
             | ramphastidae wrote:
             | I wouldn't be sure -- being off social media is seen as a
             | red flag these days among young people, esp on dating
             | sites, where linking your Instagram / Snapchat in your
             | profile is considered par for the course. This is obviously
             | satire but there is truth to it too:
             | https://youtu.be/GEWnXmDfVZg
        
             | jpster wrote:
             | You haven't been paying attention. Look into "thirst
             | traps".
        
               | EvilEy3 wrote:
               | And what's there?
        
               | [deleted]
        
           | Barrin92 wrote:
           | >To be a social being in the 21st century is largely about
           | navigating these platforms
           | 
           | No, you aren't navigating the platforms, the platforms are
           | configuring you so to speak as to work as just another
           | input/output or relay, which is obvious in the language
           | you're using here: 'connectivy'. (that's how we talk about
           | switches and routers). As Baudrillard pointed out in his
           | piece 'The Ecstasy of Communication', being a sort of input
           | at some terminal and endless exchange of meaningless symbols
           | isn't socialisation, it's the opposite. It's the destruction
           | of the social through mass communication. It's like some sort
           | of morbid dance that has no actual meaning at all, people
           | mechanically switching tinder results back and forth to
           | optimise an algorithm that makes that process easier in an
           | endless feedback loop.
        
           | DSingularity wrote:
           | What if, hypothetically speaking, we knew that this is a
           | sickness on the species-scale? Would you still say accept --
           | and thus - succumb to it? I am not unconvinced that we have
           | let these platforms go too far with our kids and minds; to
           | the point where they have become cancers in our societies.
        
           | lm28469 wrote:
           | > Of course this ideological view of society is long gone so
           | there's just no sense trying to push back
           | 
           | It's only gone in ultra dense cities, as soon as we leave our
           | techno bubbles the old world comes back real fast.
           | 
           | > Accept that today's child is a highly connected,
           | distracted, techno-proficient being and let that be that.
           | 
           | I don't think you have to be that fatalist to be honest. When
           | I see two years old kids already holding phones in their
           | stroller, while the mom/dad is pushing the stroller with one
           | hand and looking at the phone they hold in their other hand I
           | feel like we went too far.
           | 
           | You can teach kid to use tech as a tool to navigate the
           | world, but the vast majority of gadgets and services are pure
           | distraction that are designed to trigger addiction mechanisms
           | and milk your attention/time/money. I'd rather teach my kids
           | how to become a master of google maps or how to use an app
           | that let you navigate the night sky and its stars/galaxies
           | than put them on fortnite and tiktok, I don't think these
           | things exist on the same plane. I don't think people fully
           | grasp how important the first decade of a child's brain
           | formation is.
           | 
           | Self reported loneliness and teenager suicides have never
           | been so high so I kinda cringe when I hear people saying
           | restricting kids access to internet/tech will make them more
           | disconnected and anti-social. A very large part of internet
           | interactions are shallow and fabricated, they can't replace
           | real world relationships in any way, shape or form.
           | 
           | I agree in some capacity that cutting out all these things
           | would be very hard and probably damaging in some way, but
           | embracing them completely without any restrictions is, imho,
           | much worse
        
           | PragmaticPulp wrote:
           | > Advising kids to lean away from modern life and push back
           | on the progress of distracting technologies will actually be
           | a more anti-social move than not.
           | 
           | It's not about telling kids to unplug completely.
           | 
           | It's about balance.
           | 
           | There are so many endless digital distractions available
           | today that people need to know how and where to draw the line
           | on their consumption. Or they don't recognize that the short-
           | term value they derive from scrolling Twitter or making a
           | $100 gain on their Robinhood app comes at the expense of
           | setting back their desired career goals, or personal fitness
           | goals, or even their social goals.
           | 
           | It's exhausting to listen to mentees complain that they don't
           | have enough time in the day to work out, or read a book they
           | want to read, or cook the healthy meals they want to eat, but
           | then they go on to discuss things like Bitcoin and Dogecoin
           | for 4 hours straight in Slack or recruit their friends into
           | another Twitter argument.
           | 
           | > Accept that today's child is a highly connected,
           | distracted, techno-proficient being and let that be that.
           | 
           | Part of our role as mentors and/or parents is to guide young
           | people in healthier directions.
           | 
           | There's nothing wrong with being connected and techno-
           | proficient, and there's nothing wrong with having some fun on
           | Twitter or Tik Tok. However, that doesn't mean we should go
           | full laissez-faire and tell young people there's nothing
           | wrong with being distracted all day every day.
           | 
           | There are a lot of parallels to diet: There's nothing wrong
           | with eating donuts or cookies or bacon in moderation.
           | However, if you overindulge in sweets, eat 3000 calories a
           | day, and never moderate your intake of anything you're going
           | to accumulate major health problems over the course of your
           | life.
        
             | burntoutfire wrote:
             | > It's exhausting to listen to mentees complain that they
             | don't have enough time in the day to work out, or read a
             | book they want to read, or cook the healthy meals they want
             | to eat, but then they go on to discuss things like Bitcoin
             | and Dogecoin for 4 hours straight in Slack or recruit their
             | friends into another Twitter argument.
             | 
             | It's practically never about time, but rather about energy.
             | People need some downtime from work and chores and
             | "improving themselves", and BS arguments on Slack or
             | Twitter is a way to unwind for some.
        
             | coffeefirst wrote:
             | The food analogy is really good.
             | 
             | Like food, hyper-distraction affects different people
             | differently, I've watched really bad habits affect real
             | peoples lives in bad ways, and many people who grow up in a
             | culture where that's normal may never break those habits.
             | 
             | Also like food, I'm spending way more time in front of
             | screens in order to cope with the pandemic. Is it okay? Eh,
             | not really, but I think it's okay to accept the necessity
             | of overindulgence given the circumstances.
        
               | saiya-jin wrote:
               | > it's okay to accept the necessity of overindulgence
               | given the circumstances
               | 
               | Yes and no. To be honest I am not very happy with all the
               | articles/folks advocating that people should en masse
               | self-medicate during covid with gaming/hours on internet.
               | Its like unless you sit in front of computer/phone there
               | is literally nothing to do at home, just slowly go crazy.
               | I wish governments did recognize this since early
               | pandemics and actually encouraged people to do individual
               | sports outdoors, not effectively banning like in France.
               | That's much better way to keep one fit mentally, and as a
               | bonus physically too which helps not only with covid.
               | 
               | The reason for my opinion is this behavior creates
               | patterns that will be _very_ hard to shed off for many
               | people, once things go +-back to as they were (although I
               | don 't think we ever get there 100%). Unfortunately,
               | humans are creatures of habits and wired to create many
               | dependencies, ie on substances, but also activities that
               | produce dopamine rush.
               | 
               | I hope I am wrong in this. Maybe it won't be as bad and
               | the same people would end up with these 'addictions'
               | regardless of covid, maybe a bit less pronounced.
        
               | coffeefirst wrote:
               | Yeah, I've thought about that, but at least for the
               | people I know personally, they're all bored to death with
               | these stopgap habits and the second it's safe to hang
               | them up and go back to parties, music, and weddings, it's
               | going to be a second roaring 20's.
               | 
               | (But agreed on the "don't take a walk" style lockdowns.
               | And I'm honestly surprised the backlash to them isn't
               | stronger.)
        
           | Loouu wrote:
           | >Of course this ideological view of society is long gone so
           | there's just no sense trying to push back.
           | 
           | I mean, the amish and mormons exist, and their birth rate is
           | quite healthy.
        
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           | astrobe_ wrote:
           | > will actually be a more anti-social move than not.
           | 
           | Anti-social is the whole point. Because, precisely, society
           | has been hijacked by consumerism.
           | 
           | It's nothing new, it started with the industrial revolution.
           | Now that (almost) everyone has a fridge, a TV, a car, a
           | washing-machine, a computer, a phone, attention is being
           | siphoned in order to generate revenue.
           | 
           | > Of course this ideological view of society is long gone so
           | there's just no sense trying to push back. Accept that
           | today's child is a highly connected, distracted, techno-
           | proficient being and let that be that.
           | 
           | I think "attention economy" should be treated as a threat
           | and, on the contrary, mercilessly fought against (with
           | education, and not just kids). Because it damage people's
           | mind just like the industry damaged the environment. Don't
           | make the same mistake twice.
        
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         | brightball wrote:
         | This is honestly one of the reasons I stopped investing in my
         | twenties. I cashed out everything and put it all towards paying
         | down debt because I was absolutely obsessed with the stock
         | market...but after doing the math the guaranteed returns on
         | debt payment were a better focus than the up and down nature of
         | the stock market.
         | 
         | I invest now but I have to be conscious of obsession mitigation
         | techniques otherwise I will constantly be watching fluctuations
         | and wondering if I need to sell, buy something else, etc.
         | Instead I buy big boring companies that pay a dividend...and
         | never sell. Just watch for whatever looks like the best deal at
         | the time when I have new money to invest.
        
           | Tarsul wrote:
           | I had/have the same problem. I now invest in companies that
           | are big in sustainability. Saying to myself that even if the
           | earnings fall flat, at least I can look in the mirror and
           | live with it.
        
           | PragmaticPulp wrote:
           | I think it's more important than ever to clarify the
           | difference between long-term investing and short-term
           | speculation with young people.
           | 
           | Many young people are entering the market with an expectation
           | that cryptocurrency prices only go up and that they can
           | outperform Wall Street by getting hot tips (DD) from meme-
           | infused posts on Reddit.
           | 
           | When it doesn't work out, they swear off "investing" when
           | they never actually did anything beyond speculation and
           | daytrading.
           | 
           | I hope apps like Robinhood find a good way to encourage
           | portfolio balance, dollar cost averaging, and risk management
           | over time.
        
         | AtlasBarfed wrote:
         | Exercise is shoes and a trip out the door away.
         | 
         | It's really reflective of a (hopefully) near-endgame of
         | marketing: turning over the last stones available. Well, I
         | don't really believe that.
         | 
         | Again, a failure of economics. EVERYTHING shouldn't be
         | monetized, that is truly a path to dystopia, where you pay for
         | the air you breathe.
        
       | MikeTheGreat wrote:
       | I love how, just 2 spots up from this post, is another post
       | entitled "Debian Packages That Need Lovin' (debian.net)".
       | 
       | I do hope the Debian packages get the help they need (and this is
       | a great place to ask for such help) but it's hilarious for my
       | mind to ping-pong between "Hey, maybe that's a new hobby (that I
       | probably don't have time for)" and "Huh. There are a lot of
       | distractions out there" :)
        
       | mybrid wrote:
       | What information consumes is rather obvious: it consumes the
       | attention of its recipients. Hence, a wealth of information
       | creates a poverty of attention and a need to allocate that
       | attention efficiently among the overabundance of information
       | sources that might consume it. --Herbert Simon, economist
        
       | frogpelt wrote:
       | Check out out Nir Eyal's book "Indistractable"[1].
       | 
       | It's about 5 hours long with plenty of useful tips for becoming
       | indistractable.
       | 
       | 1: https://www.nirandfar.com/indistractable/
        
       | tluyben2 wrote:
       | It seems though that people like this kind of thing, so it will
       | get worse. Even in jobs that require focus like software
       | development. Many people seem to like the bustle of constant
       | chats in Slack instead of pre arranged meetings, face to face
       | adhoc talks, open offices, living in a big city, notifications
       | etc and then on a more technical level: setting up and
       | configuring things that have nothing to do with the task at hand
       | (which is writing code to answer to a business demand), spending
       | strange amounts of time on 'automating their pipeline and
       | processes' (which appears to be never finished and so is a
       | perpetual distraction), checking out or even changing their
       | stack/tools every week to adhere to the latest hype (which came
       | from distractions like reddit and hn) etc etc.
       | 
       | Not saying good or bad but not sure if people will ever like a
       | life without these things even though they feel it is far from
       | optimal, productivity wise.
        
       | eingineer43 wrote:
       | I love how you summarize the dilemma of a digital native. May I
       | add some juicy polarization by referencing the quote "I don't
       | know how to live, but I got a lot of toys" from the song 21st
       | Century Digital Boy? Your article gives great reason to rethink.
       | How to use the time we have been given in a meaningful way, to be
       | labelled as a sentient being rather than a robot. It is
       | definitely a daily test to one's choice: Rather to be a creator
       | than consumer. Creating things is usually a sequential process,
       | without a secret passage, lots of effort, making own
       | (in-)abilities public and taking real risks - consumption can be
       | found the exact opposite. So it's a path that needs decent
       | courage. In the end it makes life brighter - and as you point
       | out: it doesn't matter if you write about thoughts, read a book
       | in length or build a trustful relationship with a person you
       | love. It will be a lasting and enriching experience.
        
         | UnpossibleJim wrote:
         | I've been reading technical books for so long, hunting for
         | information and with my shortened attention span, I now have
         | difficulty reading for the sheer pleasure of it. I tried
         | reading fiction not too long ago and found it laborious. It was
         | the most disappointing feeling in the world to me.
        
           | defterGoose wrote:
           | This is interesting, and I kind of know what you're getting
           | at. I've never been a super avid reader, but ive always
           | enjoyed fiction and most sci-fi type stuff. As i get older i
           | find myself gravitating towards more non-fiction. I recently
           | read "Shadow Divers" which is the true story of some divers
           | who discover an unknown U-Boat off the coast of New Jersey
           | and spend years and several divers' lives in the pursuit of
           | an identification. It was completely riveting which id rarely
           | if ever experienced in a piece of non-fiction; felt like i
           | remember the Harry Potter books feeling when i was a
           | teenager. So maybe try expanding the scope of your search a
           | little.
        
           | rrrrrrrrrrrryan wrote:
           | It's definitely is a muscle that can atrophy, and can be
           | rebuilt. It takes about 3 weeks of reading most days for me
           | to re-learn how to do it. Even after that period, it still
           | takes me 10 - 15 minutes to properly slip back into a novel,
           | which feels like an eternity when we're so used to instant
           | gratification, but it's not so long if your average reading
           | session is the length of an average film.
        
         | iamsanteri wrote:
         | Yes! To your comment, if you could commit yourself to balancing
         | and trying to produce an equivalent of just 1/10th of all the
         | stuff you consume, I think you would end up being a major and
         | great creator.
         | 
         | And just like you said, although creating and publishing takes
         | a decent amount of courage, it is very rewarding, especially
         | when the main purpose to do it comes for the sake of your own
         | observation, learning and joy.
        
           | eingineer43 wrote:
           | Which "funny book" are you reading?
        
             | iamsanteri wrote:
             | The book was "Crossing the Chasm" by Geoffrey Moore.
             | 
             | Actually, even just by searching online you can find this
             | small chapter from the book where he tells his "high tech
             | parable", illustrating an (unfortunately) common story of a
             | fast growing start-up that struggles to expand beyond its
             | early adopter market into the critically important
             | majority. I think you might consider it pretty funny too,
             | although my humor might be dry here.... Even if it's a bit
             | early to tell, the book seems like a nice read!
        
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       | ppf wrote:
       | I've spent the last year or so trying to control my smartphone
       | usage, by removing apps and trying to set rules for myself like
       | "your phone stays in the kitchen for most of the day". I recently
       | took the plunge and got rid of it entirely, and it was truly
       | surprising to realise how much of my time and attention it had
       | still taken, despite my best efforts.
       | 
       | If you think you're ready for that step, I highly recommend it.
       | Just as mindless browsing, refreshing, and scrolling is self-
       | perpetuating, so is the obverse. Once you start removing apps and
       | accounts, and habits are broken, you will start asking yourself
       | "Why am I on my (phone/computer/laptop)? What else could I be
       | doing?"
        
         | alexpetralia wrote:
         | Similarly, everytime I decide to relegate my phone to another
         | room, I am better off for it.
         | 
         | The problem is that, one week or another, it eventually
         | liberates itself and somehow makes its way back into my day-to-
         | day.
         | 
         | One day, I hope to solve this.
        
         | elijaht wrote:
         | I haven't gone as far as that, but have deleted anything on my
         | phone that provides "infinite content". Twitter, the reddit app
         | (still use logged out in browser so I get the ~20 top posts for
         | a couple specific subreddits), things like that.
         | 
         | I notice the same phenomena- I haven't restricted any behavior
         | on my computer, but notice I am spending a lot less time on it
        
         | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
         | Will it even be possible for many people to give up smartphones
         | in favour of a dumbphone any more?
         | 
         | Thanks to COVID, you may have to own an Apple or Android
         | smartphone to do certain things. Several countries have
         | announced that their vaccination certificate will exist mainly
         | in digital form, with one official app that generates limited-
         | time QR codes. For instance, I can't find any information on
         | what Israelis without a smartphone are supposed to do at
         | restaurants etc., since the news is reporting that the QR code
         | will be mandatory to enter such places.
         | 
         | Nearly all people entering Poland must now quarantine, and
         | after you hand over your details at the border, the police send
         | you an SMS saying "Installing our quarantine app from the
         | Google Play store or Apple's store is legally required".
         | 
         | Then you already had the problem of some banks no longer
         | offering code cards or SMS verification, and requiring you to
         | use their app for 2FA for online banking.
        
           | ppf wrote:
           | Fortunately, I live in a country where I think there is less
           | chance of such things happening. However - is mandated
           | smartphone ownership the future we want? It goes without
           | saying that almost all government over-reach is done "for
           | your own good".
        
         | esperent wrote:
         | I've considered doing this, but it's not possible for two
         | reasons: all my banking apps require using a smartphone. And
         | second, I'm a web developer and need to test sites on a phone
         | daily.
         | 
         | There's also one killer app I don't want to stop using: maps
         | (Google, Apple, Open Street Map, doesn't matter which).
         | 
         | However, I have switched to NextDNS and locked out a large
         | chunk of the internet on the phone. That helps.
        
           | throwawayboise wrote:
           | Maps are definitely the one thing that still keeps me owning
           | a smartphone. The navigation is just super convenient.
           | 
           | That said, before smartphones, I managed to find my way to
           | where I needed to be, using paper maps and written
           | directions. It's not _that_ hard.
        
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       | acwan93 wrote:
       | One way to combat this (if you're physically capable): long
       | distance running without headphones.
       | 
       | It forces you to focus on one thing alone: finish your route.
       | I've found that my mind wanders, but the pain exerted by running
       | for an hour or so inevitably brings you back.
        
         | nicbou wrote:
         | Bicycle and motorcycle travel works too. You can think about
         | things, but you're mostly focused on staying in movement.
        
           | pascalo wrote:
           | Came on here to say it's exactly what I use cycling for. 5
           | hours on the bike means 5 hours not looking at my phone or
           | laptop. Just turn the legs over and let your mind wander or
           | stare into the landscape (or deal with traffic, which sucks).
        
             | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
             | I spend a lot of every year bike touring, and on popular
             | routes I have met other tourers and talked about this very
             | issue, or observed their behavior. Apparently, a lot of
             | cyclists still feel a compulsion to stop every X minutes so
             | that they can take out their phones and look at their
             | social media.
        
               | nicbou wrote:
               | Everyone travels their own way
        
             | iamsanteri wrote:
             | Hi Pascalo, I have exactly the same feeling when going on a
             | bike tour. We just did a 5-day, 250km bike ride along the
             | Danube river here in south-Germany and it was one of the
             | most incredible experiences I've had. On the saddle I feel
             | free and my mind is resting. High-five!!
        
               | nicbou wrote:
               | I've done the same route, with the same results! When you
               | get to your stop, you're usually too tired to check your
               | social media.
        
               | iamsanteri wrote:
               | Now how awesome is that, a fellow human riding the
               | "donauradweg" here on Hacker News. Love it.
        
         | dylkil wrote:
         | isnt the pain of running long distance a distraction too
         | though?
        
           | ph2082 wrote:
           | Man, I am reading this book Awakening Intelligence by Jiddu
           | Krishnamurthy. It says same thing. Everything we do is trying
           | to distract us from our true selves.
        
           | redisman wrote:
           | Sure, but on a scale from 0 to 10 - it's a 2. You can also
           | walk or hike and then the only distraction is the scenery.
        
       | jcynix wrote:
       | Good points. And it reminds me that this is neither a new problem
       | nor solved:
       | 
       |  _I find myself in these kinds of situations often, checking
       | email or Twitter, or Facebook, with nothing to gain except the
       | stress of a work-related message that I can't answer right now in
       | any case._
       | 
       |  _It turns out that digital devices and software are finely tuned
       | to train us to pay attention to them, no matter what else we
       | should be doing. The mechanism, borne out by recent neuroscience
       | studies, is something like this: [...]_
       | 
       | Source: https://medium.com/@hughmcguire/why-can-t-we-read-
       | anymore-50...
        
       | dash2 wrote:
       | I think by now, the post title is a cliche. That makes me wonder
       | what I'll gain by reading another lament about how we're Stuck In
       | The Shallows. That in turn makes me wonder if the post isn't an
       | example of what it complains about.
        
       | 50 wrote:
       | We live in distraction because we give attention to _what does
       | not matter_ which, if we let our hair down, is the external
       | world. The imperative of dying to the external world is a process
       | of rediscovery of _what does matter_.
        
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