[HN Gopher] I Miss My Bar
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       I Miss My Bar
        
       Author : interweb
       Score  : 384 points
       Date   : 2021-02-19 02:14 UTC (20 hours ago)
        
 (HTM) web link (imissmybar.com)
 (TXT) w3m dump (imissmybar.com)
        
       | dep_b wrote:
       | I need some downtime from people in order to recharge my social
       | battery. I really enjoy being around people but I just can't do
       | it 24/7. Having your whole family around all of the time is
       | really stressing since my social battery is empty and stays
       | empty.
       | 
       | This is where an office or a commute happens, by the time you get
       | home you really missed everybody, at least when everything is
       | going right ;)
        
       | C4stor wrote:
       | I really like it :-)
       | 
       | (It's telling a lot about the state of the internet that this
       | site loads google malware, but won't remember where I let the
       | sliders when I refresh the page though.)
        
       | andygcook wrote:
       | For anyone missing the sounds of their local coffee shop,
       | checkout Coffitivity: https://coffitivity.com
       | 
       | Not affiliated. Just like to put it on sometimes with a good
       | indie playlist while I'm drinking coffee and doing work.
        
         | Balgair wrote:
         | YT is great for this as well! I've been using these 'ambiance
         | soundscapes' to help me get in the right mood a lot during the
         | pandemic. It's also really useful for DnD sessions, writing
         | fiction (or non-fiction too!), and for getting house/work done.
         | 
         | Here's some links, but searching for the right mood is fairly
         | straightforward on YT:
         | 
         | Summer ambiance :
         | https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=summer+ambience
         | 
         | Aircraft Carrier ambiance :
         | https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=aircraft+carrie...
         | 
         | 'Epic' music :
         | https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=hero+music
         | 
         | Cafe ambiance :
         | https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=cafe+ambience+
         | 
         | Hufflepuff ambiance :
         | https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=hufflepuff+comm...
         | 
         | Such is the width of YouTubers that you can pretty much find
         | anything you'd like!
        
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       | mysql wrote:
       | I use http://phanary.com/ which has a ton of sounds and similar
       | controls.
        
       | Nightshaxx wrote:
       | This is amazing! The playlist is really great!
        
       | at_a_remove wrote:
       | I miss quarterly visits with a friend in a town midway between
       | us. Just us in a hotel room, watching movies, going out to
       | dinner, looking for new places or revisiting the old, chit-
       | chatting away. We still communicate now but it lacks the
       | spontaneity of our usual routine.
       | 
       | On a weekly basis, I miss "camping out" at my Starbucks and
       | reading, growing slowly more wired on caffeine. This is the lack
       | that seems to have put me off of my game the most, despite it not
       | having a whole lot of personal interaction.
        
         | ivan888 wrote:
         | Just being able to go out into the social world without a plan
         | is something I miss a lot. It feels like every time I leave the
         | house now, I have a very direct objective and I try to
         | accomplish it as quickly as possible with as little human
         | interaction as possible
        
           | kelnos wrote:
           | I hadn't thought about this aspect of it, but that's
           | completely the case for me as well. It's emotionally draining
           | in a way I didn't realize.
        
       | rchaud wrote:
       | Thanks for making this! I love these types of independent
       | creative projects that don't rely on third party content to work
       | (minus the Spotify embed).
       | 
       | There is something about ambient noise from people that helps me
       | work and focus. Offices and coffee shops closing has saved me a
       | ton of transit and coffee money but it's hurt my productivity a
       | lot.
       | 
       | With Youtube 1hr mixes of ambient people sounds and Pomodoros,
       | I'm doing a bit better.
        
       | unicornporn wrote:
       | https://gossips.cafe/
        
       | tomcooks wrote:
       | Maybe it's the rural setup where I'm from, but I'm glad that in
       | 2020 and 2021 I barely visited bars. Summer was spent by lakes
       | and forests, drinking beers, cocktails, appetizers, and eating
       | freshly grilled BBQ for a fraction of the price, having quality
       | time in the sun with friends.
       | 
       | I don't miss commercial society, I don't miss their tropes and
       | their rituals. Fake friendship and banter from people hanging
       | around to get some of my money in exchange of half a glass of ice
       | and a dribble of liquor.
       | 
       | Bonus annoyance this year: the eternal covid lamentations of bar
       | and restaurant owners, as if governments purposely wanted to
       | destroy their businesses, as if one's bar is more important than
       | other people lives, as if they didn't paint themselves and their
       | stupid restaurant for years as an example of entrepreneurship
       | (apparently the free market is a good idea only when your
       | business goes well).
       | 
       | To hell with paid service, picnics and aperitivi in the main
       | square with cheap liquor and (honestly) friendly smiles.
       | 
       | "I command this dump to wither, board its doors and windows
       | forever" as Dan Feeder says.
        
         | leehuffman wrote:
         | > Maybe it's the rural setup where I'm from
         | 
         | Nah, it's almost certainly (at least in this context) your
         | privilege. I should hope that you'd never have your income,
         | overnight, ganked out from under you. Not to mention the dozens
         | of other hard working, honest humans on your payroll.
         | 
         | I also hope nobody has the completely disconnected uppity
         | spirit to post paragraphs of text telling you why you're
         | worthless, as you're inhaling water and drowning. Because that
         | would be shitty.
        
           | globular-toast wrote:
           | Eh? Are you suggesting this site is for bar _owners_. You
           | parent and probably everyone else is assuming the perspective
           | of a bar patron.
        
             | corobo wrote:
             | You guys know people lost their jobs during the pandemic
             | right?
        
               | globular-toast wrote:
               | Of course I do, but what does that have to do with this?
               | Are you suggesting bar owners or workers will be on here
               | seeking some kind of comfort? This is clearly for people
               | that go to hang out in bars as customers.
        
               | jaywalk wrote:
               | So because _those people_ probably aren 't here, it's
               | fine to demean them and act like all of the horrible
               | things that have happened to them and their employees are
               | actually _GOOD THINGS_ because some people  "got to"
               | spend more time by lakes and forests?
               | 
               | My tech job is very safe. My financial situation has not
               | changed. But many of my friends own and work in bars and
               | restaurants, and I have seen firsthand how their lives
               | have been so negatively impacted by all of this.
               | 
               | In all sincerity: go fuck yourself.
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | leesalminen wrote:
               | No, they don't know anyone outside of their tech bubble,
               | so of course they don't. As long as it doesn't affect
               | them, they don't care.
        
         | Nursie wrote:
         | > having quality time in the sun with friends.
         | 
         | Here in the UK we're not really even allowed to see friends
         | outside.
        
         | deadmetheny wrote:
         | >Bonus annoyance this year: the eternal covid lamentations of
         | bar and restaurant owners, as if governments purposely wanted
         | to destroy their businesses, as if one's bar is more important
         | than other people lives, as if they didn't paint themselves and
         | their stupid restaurant for years as an example of
         | entrepreneurship (apparently the free market is a good idea
         | only when your business goes well).
         | 
         | Fuck off into the sun. Of course people are going to lament
         | when their jobs vanish and the business they built over years
         | of hard work is in a very real danger of tanking. I should
         | know, my food service business is down quite a bit - and we're
         | one of the _lucky_ ones that is doing well enough to stay
         | afloat given that we had a strong takeaway focus even before
         | the C-19 hit. An entire segment of jobs blown away - what do
         | those people do? Shit like  "learn to code" is not a helpful
         | answer, and history suggests that what they do end up doing
         | after a long enough period of hopelessness is not pretty.
        
         | esotericn wrote:
         | Maybe we should make your preferred hobbies illegal with strict
         | enforcement.
         | 
         | Fuck you, buddy.
        
           | vultour wrote:
           | Yes, if they're helping a deadly virus spread during a
           | pandemic then go ahead. Except unlike you I'm going to accept
           | that, because I don't want to be stuck at home for another
           | year while morons continue to spread the disease everywhere.
        
             | [deleted]
        
             | cassalian wrote:
             | [edit]
        
               | vultour wrote:
               | Yes, I understand how damaging this is for people who are
               | alone. It's also the reason why I've been staying inside
               | since march, to help get this whole thing behind us.
               | Unfortunately some people just don't give a shit.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | I give a shit, just not to the level that I'm willing to
               | kill myself for the cause.
        
               | jeofken wrote:
               | No one has a moral responsibility to not live their
               | lives, if ethics are universal. And no one has the
               | ethical right to hinder others from living and letting
               | live. End these government lockdowns
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | Thank you.
               | 
               | I don't know what I have to say to explain this to these
               | people. Maybe it's not quite explainable.
               | 
               | Restrictions haven't pushed their buttons in the same
               | way. The only way to get this across is to describe all
               | of their needs disappearing. But it doesn't hit the same,
               | and it seems petty.
               | 
               | So it goes.
        
               | cassalian wrote:
               | I do not think it's easy to convey to someone what this
               | last year has been like for a lot of people who live
               | alone. As such, I can't really blame the crowd that
               | pushes for more intense lockdown measures - their motives
               | for doing so are generally good. Thankfully the vaccine
               | is being distributed so I'm fairly confident this will
               | all end soon
        
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         | kungito wrote:
         | Well it's easy to say this about summer but in the winter you
         | have no options. It's too cold to hang out outside, play sports
         | or whatever. You could hand out at each other's houses but
         | people prefer to have neutral ground where no one has to
         | prepare for everyone else
        
           | 3np wrote:
           | In some countries, you're even forbidden from having visitors
           | in your home.
        
             | tinus_hn wrote:
             | In some countries you get put in a concentration camp if
             | your religion is the wrong one.
             | 
             | Does that make it acceptable in your country?
        
             | esotericn wrote:
             | Yep, the UK went full authoritarian pretty much straight
             | out of the gate, it's been illegal for me to have anyone in
             | my house for 97 days now (and was also illegal or heavily
             | restricted a number of times before that)
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | > Yep, the UK went full authoritarian pretty much
               | straight out of the gate
               | 
               | We really didn't. Had we done that, we may have succeeded
               | in controlling this thing. Instead what happened was too
               | little, too late, over and over again the government shut
               | the stable door after the horse bolted.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | edit: Nah, I'd rather we go back in time and not
               | normalize draconian, authoritarian restrictions on
               | everyday life.
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | We closed things down too late, this is pretty well
               | understood.
               | 
               | The last lockdown was imposed when it was, essentially,
               | because the powers that be wanted christmas retail open,
               | and christmas day to happen, when cases were already
               | massively on the rise. I'm not saying "it wasn't harsh
               | enough", I'm saying that every time it's been done too
               | late, and ramped up too slowly. It could have been
               | shorter and well controlled had it been sooner, like it
               | has been in other countries.
               | 
               | There's no need to be so incivil. Perhaps think about
               | your own words.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | edit: Nah, I'd rather we go back in time and not
               | normalize draconian, authoritarian restrictions on
               | everyday life.
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | No, I'm quite seriously talking about how it should have
               | been done sooner, and if it had been, could have been
               | shorter.
               | 
               | I'm sorry you're so upset about this. It's not easy on
               | any of us and it's been handled appallingly. But there
               | really is no need to call someone that disagrees with you
               | a "lockdown ####" and fantasise about violence upon them.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | edit: Nah, I'd rather we go back in time and not
               | normalize draconian, authoritarian restrictions on
               | everyday life.
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | I think you probably ought to seek some counselling if
               | you're fantasising about violence towards others on a
               | daily basis. What you're expressing is deeply unhealthy.
               | 
               | I'm not saying this as some sort of point of argument or
               | to belittle you - it really sounds like you could use
               | someone to talk through this with.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | edit: Nah, I'd rather we go back in time and not
               | normalize draconian, authoritarian restrictions on
               | everyday life.
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | If you are fantasising, daily, about committing violence
               | against people in favour of public health measures, as
               | you said you were, please seek some sort of mental health
               | support.
               | 
               | I'm calling for less locking down, but done earlier so
               | that it can be shorter, and I'm largely talking about how
               | it could have been done better last year. If that's
               | enough for you to want to physically harm me, I really
               | think you need to get that support.
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | It's a no from me.
               | 
               | I'd rather we go back in time and not normalize
               | draconian, authoritarian restrictions on everyday life.
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | I think I'm going to stop responding to this now. I hope
               | you feel better soon.
        
               | jwlake wrote:
               | My new favorite tree in hn
        
               | [deleted]
        
         | nicbou wrote:
         | The bar was the meeting point, and the place where we closed
         | the week. I met my friends there, and sometimes made new ones.
         | 
         | You may not like bars and the fact that they exchange services
         | for money, but that doesn't mean you don't have to show
         | sympathy for people who are losing everything because of a
         | force majeure.
        
         | toby wrote:
         | > apparently the free market is a good idea only when your
         | business goes well
         | 
         | This statement is so confusing. Forcing millions of businesses
         | which were previously legal to shutter under questionable
         | authority is literally the opposite of a free market.
        
         | Aeolun wrote:
         | > apparently the free market is a good idea only when your
         | business goes well
         | 
         | The free market is a (sort of) good idea when acts of god don't
         | interfere.
        
           | tinus_hn wrote:
           | _acts of government_
        
       | jvm_ wrote:
       | This song captures that feeling well.
       | 
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8isMSg0Tpe4
        
       | itsphilos wrote:
       | This reminds me of that website which provides several
       | soundscapes, from the ambiance of a cafe to a walk in the woods.
       | Its at https://mynoise.net
        
       | dkdk8283 wrote:
       | In my area there are no lockdowns and businesses are thriving.
       | Very thankful to be where I'm at.
        
       | EdwardCoffin wrote:
       | Similar is Sounds of the Bodleian [1], which offers ambient
       | noises from four different reading rooms in the Bodleian library
       | (the main research library at the University of Oxford).
       | 
       | [1] https://www.ox.ac.uk/soundsofthebodleian/#radcam
        
       | sapsan wrote:
       | To add to the collection of websites recreating acoustic
       | environments, there's https://imisstheoffice.eu for office
       | sounds.
        
       | keyle wrote:
       | This is very interesting but I picture the image of sitting alone
       | in a bar, which is not the kind of thing I'd want to picture.
       | 
       | Meaning, all this stuff I usually try to tune off or ignore when
       | I am(was) out.
        
       | dominotw wrote:
       | I think not knowing when this is ending is worst part. I now know
       | what the protagonist of the movie 'oldboy' meant by that.
       | 
       | also on a unrelated note, "you will see in two weeks" crowd seems
       | to have completely disappeared.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | mStreamTeam wrote:
         | The "two weeks to flatten the curve" feels like gaslghting in
         | retrospect.
        
           | OminousWeapons wrote:
           | The problem is people saw China bring the situation under
           | control in under six weeks and thought that containment
           | rather than management was also an achievable goal here. They
           | therefore interpreted the term "flatten the curve" in that
           | context and assumed it would lead to containment. What they
           | didn't see (and what was never really talked about) is just
           | how extreme China's eventual response to COVID was relative
           | to the constraints placed on Americans.
           | 
           | The Chinese were placing everyone under house arrest,
           | mandating mask use, monitoring everyone's movements at
           | checkpoints, temperature checking anyone who left their house
           | when possible, banning people from going outside more than X
           | times per week, forcibly quarantining, arresting non-
           | compliant people, shuttering every non-essential business
           | under the strictest interpretation of "essential", blocking
           | internal travel, physically isolating cities, requiring
           | quarantine when returning from traveling abroad, etc. The US
           | government didn't really do any of that. To anyone aware of
           | the contrast in national responses, it was very obvious that
           | we would not be able to replicate China's success and that
           | COVID would be around until we got a vaccine.
        
             | rtkwe wrote:
             | They didn't have to maintain the draconian initial lockdown
             | the whole year though. A few months in they were opening
             | things back up and thoroughly testing everyone that came
             | into the country to keep it from being reintroduced while
             | maintaining the monitoring to catch new cases. To all
             | outward appearances it worked. The failure in the US wasn't
             | inevitable, the US didn't even implement the basic versions
             | of fever monitoring and test and trace, this whole time
             | there have been two places that have temperature checked
             | me; the courthouse and an store for a shared glass blowing
             | studio. We have a lot of the same tools, medical
             | quarantines, food distribution so people don't have to
             | leave their houses, etc, there's just a massive difference
             | in the attitude towards collective action in the US.
        
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               | nradov wrote:
               | Fever monitoring is a pointless waste of effort. Those
               | thermometer guns are generally inaccurate, most infected
               | people don't have a significant fever, and those who do
               | have a fever often knock it down using OTC medication.
        
             | bingohbangoh wrote:
             | That's if you buy the numbers from China at all.
             | 
             | For all we know, China just stopped counting and is
             | accepting whatever new cases or deaths come up.
             | 
             | We know they fake other numbers. There's not reason not to
             | think they aren't faking them here.
             | 
             | If the news wasn't telling me about the Virus all the time,
             | I would not know there was a "raging" epidemic. I only know
             | one person who contracted the virus among my entire family
             | and friends group.
        
               | OminousWeapons wrote:
               | Show me the data. All existing data points to the fact
               | that the Chinese largely beat this and have handled it in
               | a way that is orders of magnitude more effective than the
               | Americans. That includes anecdata I have coming from
               | internal sources who have no reason to lie. If there was
               | ANY data suggesting otherwise, you would have heard about
               | it: they couldn't contain news about the original
               | outbreak or any follow on outbreaks.
               | 
               | A few months into this, basically every single American
               | media outlet was tripping over themselves to defend
               | American values when it was abundantly clear that they
               | were impeding our ability to successfully respond to this
               | crisis. There was a huge appetite for bashing China /
               | authoritarianism and pointing out the universal
               | superiority of our system. The fact that we have largely
               | heard nothing about the Chinese response (no criticism,
               | no praise, no critique, not even general acknowledgement
               | that it was much different than ours) from the government
               | or the media suggests that it was a success whereas our
               | efforts were a colossal failure and we don't want to talk
               | about it or admit it: this situation doesn't align with
               | the story we tell ourselves ((freedom and democracy) >
               | authoritarianism, always).
               | 
               | > If the news wasn't telling me about the Virus all the
               | time, I would not know there was a "raging" epidemic. I
               | only know one person who contracted the virus among my
               | entire family and friends group
               | 
               | We are basically a year into this with 500K dead and
               | counting. How many citizens need to die before people
               | stop feeling the need to create throwaway accounts to
               | announce that this whole thing is overblown.
        
               | bingohbangoh wrote:
               | > Show me the data.
               | 
               | What data am I gonna show you? the only available data
               | says "they defeated it" and it comes from the state
               | government.
               | 
               | >We are basically a year into this with 500K dead and
               | counting. How many citizens need to die before people
               | stop feeling the need to create throwaway accounts to
               | announce that this whole thing is overblown.
               | 
               | Like I said, I literally only know one soul who got this.
               | They recovered in two days. My Aunt & Uncle are emergency
               | room nurses and say that it's overblown _now_ (last
               | April? was definitely bad).
               | 
               | I also don't know anybody who dies from the seasonal flu
               | that claims a lot of people too.
        
             | cullinap wrote:
             | Any sources showing that china brought it under control?
        
               | OminousWeapons wrote:
               | https://www.who.int/director-general/speeches/detail/who-
               | dir...
               | 
               | https://covid19.who.int/region/wpro/country/cn
               | 
               | https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/05/world/asia/china-
               | covid-ec...
               | 
               | I am also getting anecdata from people living in Shanghai
               | and Beijing. Life has largely returned to normal outside
               | of people wearing masks.
        
               | cullinap wrote:
               | Was there a reliable test in Feb 2020 at the time of the
               | WHO article?. Who is to say that they are reporting the
               | numbers correctly? For most of Jan 2020, china claimed
               | covid was mild and wasn't spread human to human (and the
               | WHO backed them up for some time as well).
        
               | OminousWeapons wrote:
               | If your response to me posting sources is going to be "I
               | don't believe any data that emerges from China" then why
               | did you ask for sources?
        
               | bingohbangoh wrote:
               | I guess there aren't any non-chinese sources then?
               | 
               | OP was likely asking because he wanted to see non-Chinese
               | sources on this.
        
               | caeril wrote:
               | I see what you're getting at here.
               | 
               | On one hand, yes, obviously China's numbers cannot be
               | trusted, at all.
               | 
               | On the other hand, most of their neighbors, whose numbers
               | are substantially more trustworthy, also managed to get
               | it under some semblance of control.
               | 
               | Given the latter point, I'm guessing they _mostly_ got it
               | under control.
        
           | majewsky wrote:
           | We _did_ flatten the curve. You just don 't get to see the
           | alternate reality where we didn't.
        
             | mStreamTeam wrote:
             | I'm not questioning the flattening the curve part.
             | 
             | I'm saying the 2 weeks part was gaslighting. What they
             | should have said is "one year or greater to flatten the
             | curve." That would have been honest
        
               | blamestross wrote:
               | What the parent comment is trying to say is that we did
               | accomplish the goal of those two weeks. The curve was
               | flattened. Your perspective is a result of not living in
               | the universe were it was a lot worse. This isn't the best
               | time line, but it is one of the better ones.
        
               | watwut wrote:
               | Even if it would be lying, not every lying is
               | gaslighting. Gaslighting is very specific abuse tactic.
        
               | steve_adams_86 wrote:
               | I think the error here is perceiving errors from medical
               | authorities as having emotional or manipulative
               | motivations.
               | 
               | First masks were unnecessary and hand washing was
               | crucial. Now it's essentially the reverse. It helps to
               | wash hands of course but we realize it's less of a
               | vector.
               | 
               | Then various governments said it'll be over by summer.
               | Then various governments said it'll be a year.
               | 
               | No one was attempting to gaslight; this was the
               | culmination of millions of professionals doing their best
               | to make sense of the situation, and occasionally,
               | uncertain terms being communicated incorrectly. This is
               | normal. The decision to perceive non-optimal performance
               | in an incredibly complex situation as an attack on a
               | population is yours, and you're welcome to it. I simply
               | don't see the point.
        
               | dominotw wrote:
               | > I think the error here is perceiving errors from
               | medical authorities as having emotional or manipulative
               | motivations.
               | 
               | I think you might be forgetting medical authorities
               | approving certain protests as being more important than
               | containing covid. Dont want to start was flamewar here
               | but just pointing out a flaw in your response. That was
               | factually a 'emotional or manipulative motivation', right
               | or wrong.
               | 
               | > This is normal.
               | 
               | Obviously not.
        
               | marcosdumay wrote:
               | Hum... Define "normal".
               | 
               | If you mean "perfectly fine", then no, it isn't. But it's
               | normal1 meaning is "what happens most of the time", and
               | it certainly is.
               | 
               | 1 - That's intended.
        
               | camgunz wrote:
               | > I think you might be forgetting medical authorities
               | approving certain protests as being more important than
               | containing covid.
               | 
               | Can you provide some examples? I googled around and found
               | this [1] which seems like a reasonable summary of the
               | Covid-related consequences of the George Floyd protests.
               | The "reasons it seems like it was OK" doesn't seem too
               | divergent from what many medical professionals are saying
               | (don't gather indoors, wear masks, wash hands).
               | 
               | I'd also like to point out that institutional racism and
               | police brutality are public health crises with
               | uncountable effects on the health of Black Americans.
               | Further, when you consider that Covid-19 has had far
               | worse effects on communities of color, and that many
               | essential workers are people of color, the protests don't
               | seem that unrelated.
               | 
               | Edit, found some:
               | 
               | - https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/political-and-
               | health-l...
               | 
               | - https://abcnews.go.com/Health/people-protest-george-
               | floyds-d...
               | 
               | - https://time.com/5848212/doctors-supporting-protests/
               | 
               | - https://www.cnn.com/2020/06/05/health/health-care-open-
               | lette...
               | 
               | Here are some quotes:
               | 
               | > "Protesting against systemic injustice that is
               | contributing directly to this pandemic is essential,"
               | Dhillon said. "The right to live, the right to breathe,
               | the right to walk down the street without police coming
               | at you for no reason . . . that's different than me
               | wanting to go to my place of worship on the weekend, me
               | wanting to take my kid on a roller coaster, me wanting to
               | go to brunch with my friends."
               | 
               | > "Staying indoors all the time in a pandemic is
               | equivalent to an abstinence-only policy,"
               | 
               | > For her part, Patel says the core tenants of harm
               | reduction fit into public health doctors' broader
               | obligation to protect human rights while also helping
               | people stay safe. "You're describing a broader human
               | rights-based approach to policy and medicine," Patel
               | said. "These are the tenants of human rights."
               | 
               | > "There's broad recognition that racism is one of the
               | top public health issues of our time," Beletsky said.
               | 
               | > "Racism is a public health problem," the health
               | department tweeted Monday. "In New York City, Black and
               | Brown communities face the disproportionate impact, grief
               | and loss from the COVID-19 pandemic on top of the trauma
               | of state-sanctioned violence."
               | 
               | > "If people were to understand that racism, and all of
               | the social and political and economic inequalities that
               | racism creates, ultimately harms people's health," Boyd
               | says, they would see that "protest is a profound public
               | health intervention, because it allows us to finally
               | address and end forms of inequality."
               | 
               | > "We created the letter in response to emerging
               | narratives that seemed to malign demonstrations as risky
               | for the public health because of Covid-19," according to
               | the letter writers, many of whom are part of the
               | University of Washington's Division of Allergy and
               | Infectious Diseases. "Instead, we wanted to present a
               | narrative that prioritizes opposition to racism as vital
               | to the public health, including the epidemic response. We
               | believe that the way forward is not to suppress protests
               | in the name of public health but to respond to protesters
               | demands in the name of public health, thereby addressing
               | multiple public health crises."
               | 
               | [1]: https://www.vox.com/2020/6/26/21300636/coronavirus-
               | pandemic-...
        
               | stolenmerch wrote:
               | The point isn't really about institutional racism or
               | police brutality, per se. The virus doesn't know or care
               | about your cause or ideology, it spreads through a crowd
               | regardless.
               | 
               | The point is that there might be reasons why violating
               | social distancing and lockdown mandates might be worth
               | it. Protesting police brutality is one reason. Avoiding
               | unemployment and accompanying mental health issues is
               | another. One of these protests got the public approval of
               | health care professionals and the other didn't. There was
               | an entire movement called White Coats for Black Lives who
               | endorsed the protests. Again, worth it. However, there's
               | an entire class of folks who don't have options for
               | remote pajama jobs. The protests against lockdowns was
               | about avoiding the devastating effects to their lives.
        
               | camgunz wrote:
               | Sure and I don't want to minimize the suffering of people
               | affected by COVID-19, either directly or economically.
               | But there really is no comparison with the systemic
               | violence and racism that Americans of color have
               | experienced for 400 years.
        
               | stolenmerch wrote:
               | Ok, fair but it's not really a comparison. It's more a
               | question of what is a threshold for acceptable violation
               | of lockdown orders. It doesn't really matter if Reason X
               | is N% worse than Reason Y. The scale of each protest
               | fully explains the scale of the problem.
        
               | camgunz wrote:
               | Totally, and I think it's wholly unreasonable to tell
               | someone who's lost their income for months to just chill
               | and stay inside. I think that's the correct advice, but I
               | also think it's not gonna work. I fault our idiotic
               | government for failing to help us when we needed it most.
               | People were right to be infuriated, and I think this
               | shows that when government fails--either to address
               | systemic racism or to provide assistance in a pandemic--
               | everything gets worse.
               | 
               | We shouldn't be faulting protestors or doctors here, we
               | should be faulting our leaders.
        
               | kelnos wrote:
               | Not sure why the response was surprising: one group was
               | protesting police brutality, and the other was protesting
               | the exact pandemic rules that the CDC (etc.) was pushing.
               | It would be a bit weird for the CDC to say "hey, we need
               | to keep businesses shut down and people should stay
               | inside, but it's cool if you want to go out and protest
               | that requirement, in direct violation of the requirement
               | itself".
               | 
               | And sure, there's a political/optics component.
               | Disapproving of protests against police brutality would
               | have been an incredibly bad look, much worse than
               | disapproving of protests against pandemic safety
               | measures. That shouldn't require any kind of explanation
               | or evoke any surprise.
        
               | stolenmerch wrote:
               | One group was violating the lockdowns out of a need to be
               | heard concerning police brutality, the other group was
               | violating lockdowns to preserve their livelihood because
               | they can't work remotely. It wasn't just "hey we think
               | this is dumb and we wanna go to Disneyland". This
               | shouldn't evoke surprise either.
        
               | dominotw wrote:
               | examples for what?
               | 
               | From your cnn link
               | 
               | '"Prepare for an increased number of infections in the
               | days following a protest," the letter says. '
               | 
               | > "The right to live, the right to breathe, the right to
               | walk down the street without police coming at you for no
               | reason . . . that's different than me wanting to go to my
               | place of worship on the weekend, me wanting to take my
               | kid on a roller coaster, me wanting to go to brunch with
               | my friends."
               | 
               | This is obviously an emotional response. She didn't do
               | A/B testing of various activity outcomes on public health
               | and base her conclusions on that. Can't somone simply say
               | going to church is good for metal health of the
               | population, she didn't obviously measure the outcomes of
               | that activity.
        
               | camgunz wrote:
               | Sure, my point is that the medical professionals
               | responding to the protests were acknowledging that racism
               | is a public health crisis and that the protests are both
               | deeply relevant to the COVID-19 pandemic, and even more
               | important than containing COVID-19. They also compared
               | those protests to other gatherings like religious
               | services, social events, and anti-mask/lockdown protests
               | and said those gatherings were not as important as
               | containing COVID-19.
               | 
               | From where I sit, I think they pretty well explained why
               | they think the BLM marches in the wake of George Floyd's
               | murder were justified. I certainly wouldn't say they had
               | "emotional or manipulative motivations", a
               | characterization which seems completely off base.
        
               | dominotw wrote:
               | anything that's not based on scietific hypothesis is
               | obviously an 'emotional response', how is this even a
               | controversial statement.
               | 
               | Can you point me to the study for public health outcome
               | differences from protests vs going to church. And what
               | what their scietific criteria for where to draw the line
               | was.
        
               | camgunz wrote:
               | I don't think we need a scientific study to know that
               | centuries of systemic violence is worse than Zoom church.
        
               | dominotw wrote:
               | we also know that social isolation causes depression and
               | anxiety.
               | 
               | "As the pandemic ushered in isolation and financial
               | hardship, overdose deaths reached new heights" [1]
               | 
               | Again, What is their basis for what is ok and what is
               | not. Emotions. correct?
               | 
               | Who are they to decide which population is expendable.
               | 
               | 1. https://www.statnews.com/2021/02/16/as-pandemic-
               | ushered-in-i...
        
               | camgunz wrote:
               | Overdose deaths definitely spiked in the early months of
               | the pandemic. I haven't been able to find anything after
               | 5/2020, but I think it's a reasonable assumption that no
               | one's in the pink of mental health right now, and that
               | means the vulnerable among of us are much more at risk.
               | 
               | But I don't think doctors are making decisions about
               | advice based on emotions. COVID-19 is the most likely
               | cause of death for people 25-44 [1] (supplanting
               | unintentional opioid overdose deaths). COVID-19 has a
               | hugely disproportionate effect on communities of color
               | [2]. Systemic racism also causes deaths; look at asthma
               | for example [3].
               | 
               | Finally, even the CDC is kind of at a loss as to what to
               | do about overdose deaths [4]. Essentially they're like
               | "get more naloxone and get more treatment."
               | 
               | > Who are they to decide which population is expendable.
               | 
               | I get where you're coming from here but, I don't think
               | it's as simple as "lockdowns kill people" because:
               | 
               | - Not imposing a lockdown also kills people
               | 
               | - Even in the absence of a lockdown order, people are
               | hesitant to get together
               | 
               | - There are lots of ways to socialize and get outside
               | that are very low risk (pods, outdoor activities)
               | 
               | - COVID-19 deaths are far, far outstripping opioid
               | overdose deaths due to lockdowns (the numbers I've found
               | show that COVID-19 deaths exceed _all_ opioid overdose
               | deaths, not just the total YoY increase).
               | 
               | But if I could summarize what I think your points have
               | been, I think your argument is broadly that doctors
               | treated George Floyd's murder and the subsequent protests
               | differently than hardships in other communities, and that
               | at least indicates some level of emotional reaction if
               | not outright bias. But I think they themselves have
               | explained why they reacted differently, and I think the
               | data (gathered by medical researchers and social
               | scientists) back them up.
               | 
               | [1]: https://www.news-
               | medical.net/news/20201026/COVID-19-now-like...
               | 
               | [2]: https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/health/2020/09/1
               | 6/covid-...
               | 
               | [3]: https://minorityhealth.hhs.gov/omh/browse.aspx?lvl=4
               | &lvlid=1...
               | 
               | [4]:
               | https://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2020/p1218-overdose-
               | death...
        
               | dominotw wrote:
               | I don't understand how protests had any effect on asthma
               | outcomes among POC.
               | 
               | Are you saying that they calculated
               | 
               | deaths caused by covid protests < deaths prevented from
               | potests effecting health outcomes of POC.
               | 
               | Hence Protests OK.
               | 
               | deaths from depression caused from isolation < deaths
               | from covid
               | 
               | Isolation OK.
               | 
               | If so, can you show me how they calculated,
               | 
               | 'deaths prevented from potests effecting health outcomes
               | of POC'
               | 
               | > > I think the data (gathered by medical researchers and
               | social scientists) back them up.
               | 
               | what data is this ? There is no way they gathered any
               | data within 1 week of when the protests started. Thats
               | just too crazy of a timeline. If they are saying that
               | collected some secret data to prove that protests will
               | save more lives than lockdowns in less than week, then
               | that proves how brazen they are in in their lying.
        
               | speeder wrote:
               | Problem is assuming it was "errors"
               | 
               | What I saw:
               | 
               | 1. Lots of outright lies, for example Chinese people
               | saying the truth getting arrested, WHO toeing the CCP
               | line (for example claiming there was no human-human
               | transmission) when it was obviously a lie already, etc...
               | 
               | 2. Lots of governments around the world using the lies
               | for their own gains at expense of population, for example
               | in Brazil the media was quick to paint the president as
               | evil, to allow a inconstitutional power grab by governors
               | and mayors (mind you, I am not saying quarantine is bad,
               | I am saying it was done in a extremely illegal manner,
               | and often for corrupt reasons, now a ton of the people
               | involved are going to jail after quickly stuffing all
               | money they could on their own pockets).
               | 
               | 3. Lots of politicians lying and trying to pin the blame
               | on scientists, see Cuomo lying about deaths on nursing
               | homes to avoid Trump criticizing him.
               | 
               | 4. Tons of corruption in procuring vaccines, masks,
               | remote working tools, catering, etc... some examples are
               | various politicians from multiple countries getting
               | caught getting bribes from chinese manufacturer,
               | politicians forcing lockdowns but maintaining their own
               | business open, that crazy case in hollywood where open
               | air restaurants were shut down but there was even a
               | catering company serving movie production crew in a
               | makeshift open air restaurant right in front of a local
               | restaurant that was forced to shut down...
               | 
               | 5. Lockdowns used for supression (see Iran executing the
               | guy that asked why he had to lockdown but religious
               | people didn't...)
               | 
               | the list goes and goes and goes on.
        
               | steve_adams_86 wrote:
               | I suppose an important thing I meant to express here, and
               | which is useful to consider in response to you, is that
               | we shouldn't generalize.
               | 
               | Were some authorities gas lighting? Maybe. Were all?
               | Certainly not. We should focus on and isolate the bad
               | actors who are doing this, not generalize.
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | notatoad wrote:
               | Maybe health officials were more misleading where you
               | are, but from everything i saw the "2 weeks" messaging
               | wasn't intended to say that everything would be solved in
               | two weeks of lockdown, it was that after two weeks we
               | would begin to see if a lockdown was effective or not.
               | and it never was effective because our lockdowns are more
               | of a polite suggestion to please not lick strangers than
               | an actual lockdown.
        
               | TameAntelope wrote:
               | It's not lying if we didn't understand reality at the
               | time.
               | 
               | Hindsight is powerful, but I don't think in March anyone
               | seriously thought this'd go through the year.
        
           | Axien wrote:
           | The curve was flattened, but the goalpost changed. We went
           | from flattening the curve to eliminating the virus. With
           | flattening the curve, the question should be "how full are
           | the hospitals"?. Instead, the metric was infection rates.
        
           | rz2k wrote:
           | Unless you live in New Zealand you probably haven't ever
           | written down your contact information when entering a store,
           | and probably don't even know what that is.
           | 
           | Flattening the curve was really about overloading hospitals.
           | The end game is to make covid-19 extinct in the wild, or
           | domesticated in the sense that only relatively harmless
           | variants remain.
           | 
           | Without serious testing and contact tracing that may take a
           | very long time. We completely fumbled the early 2020 chance
           | to contain the virus. The vaccines should decrease the
           | numbers enough that there will be a second chance to contain
           | it, this time with real efforts at contact tracing if we
           | actually want to make the virus extinct.
        
             | kelnos wrote:
             | We did (still do?) that in San Francisco, but it's
             | incredibly inconsistent. Some restaurants would make a
             | reservation in their reservation system on the spot for you
             | to keep a record of you being there. Others didn't keep
             | track at all.
             | 
             | Meanwhile, we spent last month in Honolulu, and every
             | single restaurant took down our contact info.
             | 
             | Nothing for regular stores in either place, though.
        
             | Nursie wrote:
             | > Unless you live in New Zealand you probably haven't ever
             | written down your contact information when entering a store
             | 
             | We did that for bars and restaurants in the UK, but it
             | doesn't seem to have done as much good as it was probably
             | just lost or ignored by our abysmal track and trace
             | services...
             | 
             | We also had a QR code system to tag yourself in places, but
             | it fell down because it was firstly optional, and secondly
             | there was no way to tag out so the records weren't that
             | accurate.
        
       | esotericn wrote:
       | It's cool. I wish I could be happy.
       | 
       | But for me, this sort of thing just sends me further into a deep
       | depression.
       | 
       | It ain't right. Pictures of food don't fix hunger.
       | 
       | I hope that we snap out of all of this soon. Writing these
       | comments, just to leave a log, in case someone cares, if it all
       | goes wrong.
       | 
       | I miss having the ability to miss. Having the feeling that others
       | exist. Right now I feel that other people stopped existing.
        
         | FriedrichN wrote:
         | I've been joking that I don't know what a woman looks like
         | anymore. But it's kind of true, if I see people at all it's
         | either through a camera or they're wearing a face mask.
         | 
         | I really miss just having a cup of coffee and talking to other
         | people about nothing at all. Sure you can call people but it's
         | hard to talk about nothing or just sit and look at the people
         | going by on the phone.
        
         | PraetorianGourd wrote:
         | Don't be afraid to ask for help, don't be afraid to seek
         | support. We are all feeling this right now, some more than
         | others. I am just some rando on the internet, but if you need
         | to talk to someone let me know.
         | 
         | <3
        
           | esotericn wrote:
           | edit: every day it gets worse, not better.
           | https://esotericnonsense.com
        
             | PraetorianGourd wrote:
             | I think this is somewhat tongue in cheek, almost a form of
             | gallows' humor. Sometimes people deal with this sadness,
             | pain, and isolation with humor, others create silly shit as
             | a way of distracting themselves.
             | 
             | People are still people, we are just being told that people
             | are unsafe, with an invisible enemy attacking. I think
             | these lockdowns are too far, I think we can't hide from
             | danger. Most people disagree with me. I can't say I've
             | found a way to deal with this. I am depressed. I take
             | medicine, but that only worked when things were normal. I
             | am more depressed than I can remember, but it feels numb.
             | When I was depressed in the past, I was actively sad,
             | actively self-harming through excessive drug use. Now I am
             | just, existing, like you said. But there is hope. We can
             | get out of this mess, things are getting better. Hopefully
             | things will be better soon.
        
         | mixmastamyk wrote:
         | And some of us have been cooped up with spouse and kids for
         | almost a year. When I get a little alone time I'm especially
         | grateful.
         | 
         | Still, I'd love to go to this bar! Or the pub down the street.
        
           | esotericn wrote:
           | The way things are going at the moment, I'll have to emigrate
           | to somewhere "sane" like Belarus in order to even meet
           | another person.
        
             | possiblelion wrote:
             | Estonia is a better option. Bars and restaurants are open,
             | all without a bloody dictator.
        
               | 74d-fe6-2c6 wrote:
               | Give EKRE a few more years ...
        
               | Doctor_Fegg wrote:
               | Also the highest Covid rate in Europe right now, I
               | believe?
        
               | 74d-fe6-2c6 wrote:
               | My s/o is Estonian. The thing is - yes, rates are high -
               | but ... that's about it. There is not much going on
               | beyond incidence rates being high. Which makes me
               | question the panic.
        
               | yao420 wrote:
               | I feel the same in Texas, we don't have strict lockdowns
               | and I've been going to gym, restaurants, and bars since
               | June.
               | 
               | Sure our rates are 'high' but are on par with places like
               | California and New York who have very strict lockdowns.
        
               | mixmastamyk wrote:
               | It has a lot to do with density, so both policies can
               | make sense at the same time.
        
             | pjc50 wrote:
             | You can meet new friends at the street protests against the
             | dictator!
        
             | FDSGSG wrote:
             | Dubai is the place to be right now, everything is normal
             | here.
        
           | [deleted]
        
             | germinalphrase wrote:
             | That's got to be really tough. Take care of yourself.
        
           | rusk wrote:
           | Preach Brother
        
       | heikkilevanto wrote:
       | I tried the background sounds for a while. Didn't really make me
       | feel like my usual bar - none of the regular customers there, no
       | good discussions, no meeting new people. After a while I didn't
       | hear the noise at all, it just blended in the background. Then I
       | switched it off, and realized how much it had been filling. Fun
       | experiment.
        
       | UI_at_80x24 wrote:
       | What I find most interesting about this whole pandemic, is that
       | my life hasn't changed in any noticeable way.
       | 
       | I work from home more then I did before, but I still need to go
       | do work in-person on our servers occasionally. I go get groceries
       | on Saturdays (although I need to stand in line now). I wake-up,
       | work, eat supper, watch something on TV and/or have computer
       | time, goto bed, repeat.
       | 
       | My wife hasn't left the house since March or so. But she's an
       | introvert like me.
       | 
       | But by any measurable metric, my life hasn't been inconvenienced.
       | And I know that I am lucky.
        
       | possiblelion wrote:
       | I love the music choices. Cool to see Lexsoul Dancemachine in the
       | playlist too, cheers from Estonia!
        
       | ms123 wrote:
       | Hey I miss going to pubs as well! That's why I've opened
       | https://midnight.pub
       | 
       | cheers!
        
       | underseacables wrote:
       | I miss being spontaneous about going out. I'm not even sure what
       | restaurants are still open, what bars have gone out of business,
       | why can't we return to normal already?
        
         | luxuryballs wrote:
         | https://time.com/collection/great-reset/
        
         | tomcooks wrote:
         | There's no normal, there's only what you create now
        
         | Gibbon1 wrote:
         | Saw blurb that Marin county thinks they've vaccinated 68% of
         | everyone over 75. And 50% of 65-75 year olds. Everyone in a
         | long term care facility plus staff. They had an average 60
         | active infections in January, this month it's 4.
         | 
         | Bay Area Counties are starting to extend eligibility to
         | essential workers.
         | 
         | Same time noises are that the amount of vaccine shipped is
         | going to double in the next few weeks.
        
         | psychstudio wrote:
         | Death and disease?
        
           | [deleted]
        
         | forgotmypw17 wrote:
         | It's a great opportunity for non-commercial spontaneity,
         | choosing not between "what bar to go to", but which direction
         | to walk in, and really taking in reality.
        
           | tomcooks wrote:
           | Exactly. Just like with open source software, if you don't
           | like something make your own instead of creating cargo cult
           | around the ashes of a mediocre past.
        
           | 74d-fe6-2c6 wrote:
           | Legally, though, in solitude. In Germany only one person can
           | officially visit another household. I think that is excessive
           | bullshit which is why I do break this rule occasionally.
        
             | jeofken wrote:
             | Good! The relationship between you and the Bundesrepublik
             | is a non-voluntary one, where you never signed a contract
             | with them to follow their laws. It's a state created by the
             | victors of the last great war. There is no moral
             | responsibility to please people who are in your life
             | involuntarily
        
               | 74d-fe6-2c6 wrote:
               | With your attitude you have to be willing to not use tax-
               | funded hospitals, community-financed health insurance or
               | state-sponsored cultural events. Not sure if I'd like to
               | take that step. There has to be a healthy balance in the
               | relationship between society and citizen.
        
               | jeofken wrote:
               | The same argument applies to a slave being fed and housed
               | by their master.
               | 
               | I think it's very healthy to avoid some government funded
               | "services", such as having children far away from
               | government schools. If you are not paying, you are the
               | product.
        
           | LandR wrote:
           | In my country, the UK, you can be fined for going a walk to a
           | park if it isn't the closest park to your home. Basically if
           | the police want to be arses to you they can ask you where you
           | are going and why you are where you are, if they dont like
           | your answer you can be fined.
           | 
           | There was an article in the BBC a while back about two
           | friends that met up for a walk in the country side, they
           | drove to the meetup point. It wasn't the closest place they
           | could have walked so they got fined.
           | 
           | Also IIRC, they were carrying a cup of coffee each so the
           | police said technically they met for a picnic.
        
             | DoingIsLearning wrote:
             | What I think is under discussed is the fact that we allow
             | for all of these social restrictions measurements but yet
             | air travel across all the EU countries is still allowed.
        
               | karlerss wrote:
               | Air travel worldwide is just fine. In airport transit
               | zones all you need is a mask.
               | 
               | We flew from Northern Europe to South Asia a week ago and
               | the flights were filled 60-70%.
        
               | DoingIsLearning wrote:
               | Absolutely false. I am not saying airports are a source
               | of infection. What I am pointing out is that air travel
               | is allowing for all these variants to propagate to new
               | populations.
               | 
               | The pervasiveness of the UK variant in Europe would have
               | been contained or at least decelerated with travel
               | restrictions.
               | 
               | A living proof of this is both New Zealand and Australia.
               | These countries still allowed for sea and air freight but
               | banned travel. Both countries are roughly back to normal
               | life, while we in Europe are still trying to blame
               | pharmaceutical manufacturing vaccine output, as if that
               | is the sole cause of our problems.
        
             | Nursie wrote:
             | > Also IIRC, they were carrying a cup of coffee each so the
             | police said technically they met for a picnic.
             | 
             | It's both sad and hilarious that going for a picnic is
             | currently a criminal act.
        
             | [deleted]
        
             | richrichardsson wrote:
             | After the furore surrounding that everything was overturned
             | and they apologised [1].
             | 
             | > if the police want to be arses
             | 
             | This is what's completely wrong about the situation.
             | 
             | Police officer had an argument with their spouse that
             | morning and is in a shitty mood? Police officer was bullied
             | at school and is using their power to punish the kind of
             | person that looks like their bullies? Any number of
             | entirely random things can change the "rules". Not good.
             | 
             | [1] https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-derbyshire-55625062
        
           | esotericn wrote:
           | This is illegal in my country.
        
             | tomcooks wrote:
             | Which country more or less is it? When the hot season will
             | arrive will you be able to go out and make an impromptu bar
             | with friends somewhere free (public squares, forests,
             | beaches, etc.)
        
               | oarsinsync wrote:
               | Predicting the future is difficult. After the overall
               | incompetence of leadership that 2020 brought in many
               | western countries, making any rational predictions about
               | 2021 is irrational in itself.
               | 
               | Based on their website, GP is likely in the UK. There's
               | vague hope based on vaccination rates, but given the
               | number of self-inflicted own-goals by this government,
               | anything more than vague hope now feels like setting
               | oneself up for disappointment.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | Vaccination has literally fuck all to do with this. Our
               | restrictions are randomly generated.
               | 
               | It's illegal for me to have a friend over because they
               | made it illegal.
               | 
               | We have adverts trying to scare people into working from
               | home, as if that's a choice.
               | 
               | The government is literally trolling us, just showing us
               | that we'll do whatever as long as there's propaganda
               | backing it.
               | 
               | Fuck this reality.
        
               | tinus_hn wrote:
               | Same in the Netherlands and any restriction introduced
               | for whatever reason is forever. For instance, when bars
               | had to close at 22:00, people would flood the
               | supermarkets to get booze for drinking at home. So they
               | made a rule that supermarkets can't sell alcohol after
               | 20:00.
               | 
               | Now the bars have been closed for 3 months. Think anyone
               | would remove that now useless limitation on selling
               | alcohol after 20:00? Think again!
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | UK Government 2020:
               | 
               | It seems that most people are catching coronavirus in
               | private homes.
               | 
               |  _makes pubs shit to be in with distancing rules and
               | masks etc_
               | 
               |  _people start to socialise at home more_
               | 
               | It seems that most people are catching coronavirus in
               | private homes.
               | 
               |  _closes pubs earlier_
               | 
               |  _people start to socialise at home more_
               | 
               | It seems that most people are catching coronavirus in
               | private homes.
               | 
               |  _close everything else, make meeting up outside illegal_
               | 
               |  _people start to socialise at home more_
               | 
               | It seems that most people are catching coronavirus in
               | private homes.
               | 
               | I literally cannot come up with an explanation for this
               | that isn't conspiratorial. For all of Boris' fluff, I
               | don't believe that our Government is this incompetent or
               | stupid - there has to be an ulterior motive here.
        
               | oarsinsync wrote:
               | > I literally cannot come up with an explanation for this
               | that isn't conspiratorial. For all of Boris' fluff, I
               | don't believe that our Government is this incompetent or
               | stupid - there has to be an ulterior motive here.
               | 
               | I do believe the PM is this incompetent and stupid. He's
               | demonstrated a total lack of belief in anything, and is
               | utterly spineless.
               | 
               | (Un)fortunately, the same cannot be said for some of his
               | staff. There's a certain special advisor who drove to a
               | castle (and got a raise) who has an interesting history
               | when it comes to his views on eugenics.
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | Socialising inside a home was restricted pretty early.
               | Those socialising at home are breaking the law, it's just
               | not something that can be enforced very easily.
               | 
               | Our government demonstrably _is_ this incompetent. Not
               | just on coronavirus.
        
               | tinus_hn wrote:
               | Yeah it's like '30% of infections are happening in bars'
               | so let's close the bars. Well now '30% of infections are
               | happening in gyms' so let's close these.
               | 
               | Wow now that everything is closed, 60% of infections are
               | happening at home! Let's restrict that!
               | 
               | Its just dumb.
        
               | dTal wrote:
               | Are you implying that the total number of infections is
               | held constant somehow, and restrictions merely move them
               | around? Because that's false. Restrictions work.
        
               | michaelt wrote:
               | _> It seems that most people are catching coronavirus in
               | private homes._
               | 
               | It comes as no surprise to me that, if one person in a
               | household gets infected, everyone else would too.
               | 
               | What's the government supposed to do about that? Social
               | distancing on the sofa?
        
               | ersii wrote:
               | Come over to Sweden, things are quite dandy here.
               | 
               | Never thought I'd say that in a positive manner though.
               | 
               | Wish you the better and best.
        
               | eybbus wrote:
               | isn't Sweden proposing to shut down businesses, limiting
               | time spent at some places and adding new rules regarding
               | gatherings and public event?
               | 
               | Thats at least I gather from a Norwegian news site, but
               | my Norwegian is not up to snuff.
        
               | jjgreen wrote:
               | A lot of us wish we could; but in the UK it is illegal to
               | leave the house for anything but food-shopping, a medical
               | appointment or (limited) exercise. I don't think
               | "escaping a police state" falls under any of those.
        
               | leesalminen wrote:
               | Wait are you seriously saying that you can't leave the
               | country?!?
        
               | jjgreen wrote:
               | Yes, there are exceptions (vaguely stated, a funeral or
               | what the police would regard as essential), but a holiday
               | would be illegal.
               | 
               | https://www.gov.uk/foreign-travel-advice
        
               | leesalminen wrote:
               | Wow, I'm sorry to hear that. Sounds tyrannical to me.
        
               | Sorrop wrote:
               | I live in Greece and what you describe is very much
               | applicable here too.
               | 
               | Especially the part about government trolling us.
               | 
               | Fuck this reality.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | UK.
               | 
               | I don't know, indefinite lockdown.
               | 
               | It's currently illegal to sit on a park bench.
               | 
               | I'll do it anyway, of course, but it might not be legal.
               | 
               | https://esotericnonsense.com 97 days since it was last
               | legal for me to have a friend over for a cup of tea.
               | 
               | You know in the movies where at some point the psychotic
               | main character thinks "I'm not the crazy one, it must be
               | them"? I flip flop on this every other hour.
        
               | dTal wrote:
               | I think we should be clear. The lockdown, in more or less
               | its current state, is necessary. Without it we will see a
               | spiralling death toll, the collapse of health services,
               | and many people saddled with chronic conditions for life,
               | yes even the "young". I personally know some. Their
               | lifestyles will _never_ be the same.
               | 
               | However, it didn't have to be this way. The UK
               | practically beat the pandemic over summer, and then
               | snatched defeat from the jaws of victory by persistently
               | ignoring reality. Reopening schools, Eat Out To Help Out,
               | failing to stop international travel - these are the
               | things that led to the current situation.
               | 
               | Get mad, by all means. But place the blame where it
               | belongs. We are doing the right thing _now_ , in order to
               | deal with the idiocy of _before_.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | Unfortunately, 300 days in, I am neither mentally capable
               | of adhering to restrictions, nor do I have the trust any
               | more to follow through if I did.
               | 
               | For me, it's the risk of death and/or a chronic
               | condition, or the certainty of psychosis.
               | 
               | Hourly reminder that it's been almost 100 days since it
               | was last legal for me to have a friend over for a cup of
               | tea.
               | 
               | Best of luck, glad you're holding up well; sorry that
               | I've failed you.
        
             | forgotmypw17 wrote:
             | My condolences on your loss of freedom.
             | 
             | May you find a way to move about freely in the near future.
        
           | renewiltord wrote:
           | Yeah but you can't meet strangers. We're all bubbled in. And
           | I love my friends, they're my pillar of peace in this
           | pandemic, but there is a different part of me that craves the
           | interaction with strangers in strange places.
        
             | forgotmypw17 wrote:
             | It's a great opportunity to connect with non-humans:
             | mushrooms, plants, insects, birds, mammals.
             | 
             | When is the last time you have even looked at one of them
             | closely, let alone formed a close relationship?
             | 
             | It is something we humans have done our entire existence,
             | until recently, yet many today go their entire life without
             | such an experience.
        
               | renewiltord wrote:
               | I've formed close relationships with mammals all my life.
               | In fact, that's where all my close relationships are.
        
               | slaymaker1907 wrote:
               | I know you're trying to be helpful, but these kinds of
               | posts just come off as incredibly condescending and out
               | of touch. Lack of nature is not considered to be actual
               | torture, but complete isolation from other people
               | (solitary confinement) is.
        
               | forgotmypw17 wrote:
               | I apologize if that came off as condescending. That is
               | exactly what I mean, however, you are writing off non-
               | human companionship and interaction as worthless, when it
               | can bring endless joy and comfort when humans are not
               | available.
        
               | throwanem wrote:
               | It's not the same, in a way that matters.
               | 
               | I grew up outside a small rural town, running barefoot
               | all over creation every chance I got, and most of the
               | time by myself. These days I'm a wildlife photographer by
               | avocation, and over the last couple of years I've gotten
               | deeply into macro - I take pictures of wasps while
               | they're doing wasp things, and as a result of that, I'm
               | not only no longer afraid of them, I've kind of fallen in
               | love with them. They are at this point by far my favorite
               | insects, and high up among my favorite animals overall. I
               | like them better than most mammals at this point, and
               | some of the best pictures I've ever taken of a spider
               | wasp, I got in my backyard last October. Aside from that,
               | research papers on wasp ethology have been a gateway into
               | entomology as a special interest, to an extent where if I
               | had it to do over I might go into that instead of
               | software engineering. I've even learned to make and bind
               | books from scratch, initially because I wanted paper
               | textbooks instead of PDFs.
               | 
               | All of that means a great deal to me. None of it makes up
               | for the fact that, over the course of the last year, I've
               | only been able to spend a few hours in the company of a
               | friend, and none in that of colleagues. I'm somewhat
               | solitary by inclination, and I think that makes it less
               | hard on me than on most. But even for me, it's been hard.
               | I can't imagine what it's been like for anyone who came
               | into this both alone and _without_ the good fortune of
               | knowing how to be satisfied with their own company. These
               | aren 't good circumstances under which to have to learn
               | that, and even the most cursory glance at the comments in
               | this thread overall is enough to show that the success
               | rate has probably not been high.
               | 
               | Yes, every so often you get someone like me, who can feel
               | good for days about the pompilid wasp who turned up in
               | his home office for an impromptu visit. Every so often
               | you get a Birdman of Alcatraz, too. To suggest that
               | everyone should just instantly _be_ a Birdman - I mean, I
               | get that you 're trying to help, and I respect that. But
               | you seem not to have given any thought to how to make
               | your advice potentially useful to someone whose
               | perspective differs greatly from your own.
               | 
               | It's an easy mistake to make - I do it often enough
               | myself. But it's still a mistake, and it's why the
               | criticism you're getting is warranted. The intention is
               | obviously good, but the execution needs a deal of
               | improvement.
        
               | forgotmypw17 wrote:
               | I see what we're saying, and you're right that it is a
               | huge negative impact.
               | 
               | Perhaps, then, it is worth re-evaluating how much we
               | allow our lives to be controlled by threats and mass
               | media messages.
        
             | taurath wrote:
             | Nothing has changed in the Pacific Northwest - people won't
             | talk to you Covid or not
        
           | brailsafe wrote:
           | It is, but then when your paranoid friends only want to walk
           | around it gets old quick, and isn't ideal on shitty days.
           | Even a coffee inside or shooting some pool would be fine.
        
       | twostorytower wrote:
       | This is a fantastic alternative to Noisly. Thank you!
        
       | baud147258 wrote:
       | I miss the bars a little (I wasn't too much for going out), but
       | the current 6 pm curfew is rather annoying, how I can't do
       | anything after work. Of course I adjusted my habits, going
       | shopping or running during lunch breaks or the week end, but
       | still
        
         | skynet-9000 wrote:
         | A 6pm curfew? In heavily urban parts of the U.S. and perhaps
         | other parts of the world, people don't even get home from work
         | by then, and the virus doesn't pay too much attention to what
         | time it is either.
        
           | baud147258 wrote:
           | here in France, a lot of people who went to work aren't back
           | home at 6 pm, but I think they aren't really the people
           | targeted by the measure, but rather those who go see friends
           | to have a drink in the evening
        
             | skynet-9000 wrote:
             | That's tough. Seems like if they're going to a tiny and
             | consistent group of friends' homes in the evening to have a
             | drink, then they're effectively an extension of your family
             | and any spread would be limited to that relatively small
             | group (unlike in a bar).
             | 
             | And if they're actually going to a bar instead, then just
             | close the bar at 6pm. A general curfew seems like a
             | chainsaw approach, instead of a scalpel.
        
         | snakeboy wrote:
         | In France, I've slowly started returning to nighttime walks and
         | runs, and I haven't been hassled by any police yet. I guess
         | I'll gladly take the fine if some cop is on a power-trip one
         | night. Some desobeissance civile is healthy :)
         | 
         | Though you're right grocery shopping is a pain.
        
       | globular-toast wrote:
       | When I see stuff like this it reminds me just how different I am
       | to many people. It feels like I'm an alien trying to understand a
       | new civilisation.
       | 
       | I used to go to "bars" and the like, but it was only to meet
       | women and get laid. Now that I've secured the means to
       | reproduction I don't have to force myself through that hell any
       | more. Sites like this suggest there is something attractive about
       | such places even if you take the sex away. I'm so happy, happier
       | than I've ever been, that I don't have to go to bars or drink
       | alcohol ever again.
        
         | Nursie wrote:
         | > suggest there is something attractive about such places even
         | if you take the sex away.
         | 
         | Erm, you don't just like going to a pub or a bar with friends?
         | Even if you don't, lots of people do. Perhaps what's different
         | about you is that you assume your own tastes are universal...
         | actually that's all too common with humans!
        
         | whywhywhywhy wrote:
         | Culture is very different across the world.
         | 
         | Bars/Pubs are an integral part of both socializing and
         | unwinding with your work colleagues and also a destination to
         | meet up with your close friends. In many places, it's actually
         | far more about socializing.
        
         | ycombinete wrote:
         | "Secured the means to reproduction", sure does sound like
         | something an alien, trying to act human, would say about
         | finding a partner.
         | 
         | A lot of people, especially in pub cultures like the UK
         | socialise at their locals, they don't just go there to
         | aggressively pursue sex with strangers. It's where they meet
         | their friends after work, where they go to watch sport on the
         | weekend etc.
        
           | globular-toast wrote:
           | I know. I live in the UK. I literally started my comment
           | saying how different I am to other people and people keep
           | replying about how not everyone is like me. Is reading
           | comprehension really this bad or am I just rubbish at
           | writing? I'm always happy to learn if it's the latter.
        
             | np- wrote:
             | Saying you don't "understand" something when it's clearly,
             | obviously understandable with a shred of empathy -
             | especially since you live in the UK and have likely met
             | many people who go to the pub for reasons beyond
             | "reproduction" sounds extremely condescending at best, and
             | malicious at worst. If that wasn't your intention, then
             | yes, I suggest you go back and try to improve your writing
             | style.
        
             | coldpie wrote:
             | You're rubbish at writing.
        
             | ycombinete wrote:
             | Well when you say this:
             | 
             | > Sites like this suggest there is something attractive
             | about such places even if you take the sex away.
             | 
             | It implies that you don't know what that "something" is.
             | This is what the replies to your comment are addressing.
        
         | esotericn wrote:
         | When I see comments like this it reminds me just how different
         | I am to many people. It feels like I'm an alien trying to
         | understand a new civilisation.
         | 
         | I used to have "sex" and the like, but it was only to
         | experience certain transmitters firing in my brain. Now that
         | I've discovered my right hand I don't have to force myself
         | through that hell any more. Comments like this suggest there is
         | something attractive about such acts even if you take the
         | pleasurable transmitters away. I'm so happy, happier than I've
         | ever been, that I don't have to interact with another human
         | ever again.
        
           | globular-toast wrote:
           | Good for you. Finding happiness that works for you and the
           | rest of society is the most important thing there is. I tried
           | a way of life similar to yours for many years, but I always
           | found before long I would want sex with a real person. Also
           | that person has to want to have sex with me. It can't be
           | overtly a business transaction.
           | 
           | You are very, very lucky to have been able to find true
           | happiness alone. You'll always have yourself and you won't be
           | responsible for anyone else or have to worry about them. Some
           | people might look down upon on you because you're not "doing
           | your part" or something, but remember Stockholm syndrome is a
           | real thing and you don't owe anyone anything.
        
         | mensetmanusman wrote:
         | GTP-3?
        
           | globular-toast wrote:
           | Not the first time someone has suggested that. here, ill
           | right like a moron so you know imz a realboi
        
             | mensetmanusman wrote:
             | These are great inside jokes, there was one thread where
             | myself and another both accused each other of being GTP-3
             | (not realizing until later).
             | 
             | Especially in this age where all of our interactions are
             | through text, and there lingers the possibility that
             | everyone else does not exist, solipsism is becoming
             | increasingly true.
        
       | JebusAustralia wrote:
       | Please donate ethereum to this address as I am being kept hostage
       | by a psychopath called Satoshi Nakamoto. He has scattered all of
       | my personal information and economical research all over youtube,
       | cnbc, techcrunch, the local mainstream media in the netherlands.
       | https://ibb.co/74qYknK
        
       | dep_b wrote:
       | For a second I thought the title was about a developer that
       | bought an M1 MacBook Air and realised he or she liked the Touch
       | Bar after all.
        
       | mam2 wrote:
       | who care about lockdowns lol. just make private parties like
       | everybody else
        
       | edmundofuentes wrote:
       | That's our local bar in Monterrey, Mexico [1]! We received some
       | paper flyers with a QR when we had our first lockdown, it's nice
       | seeing it pop up in HN.
       | 
       | If anyone's wondering, the bar is still open and operating on a
       | very limited capacity, which has made it much nicer in my
       | opinion. Also, the usual jazz quartet has been replaced with a
       | trio with much younger musicians, since understandably the older
       | musicians don't want to play in a bar during a pandemic.
       | 
       | [1] Maverick Monterrey - Lugar de Encuentros
       | https://www.maverickmty.com
        
         | nomdep wrote:
         | When you see the owner, please tell they to add their address
         | including city and country somewhere. I was wondering where in
         | the world they were located and I couldn't find it anywhere,
         | not even in their FB page.
        
           | edmundofuentes wrote:
           | Just did! I bet they weren't expecting their website to be
           | trending outside of Monterrey.
        
         | jdxcode wrote:
         | How is Monterrey for tourism? I've always been more interested
         | in what Mexico is for most Mexicans than the typical tourist
         | spots. It seems that Monterrey is the most "metropolitan" city
         | in Mexico.
        
           | edmundofuentes wrote:
           | I've lived here for 10 years, so I might be a little biased.
           | Monterrey is by far the most "americanized" city in Mexico,
           | no doubt, and it's mostly a business and industrial hub.
           | 
           | As for tourism, there's not much to do, at least not when
           | compared to other Mexican cities with more heritage and
           | culture. Being a big metropolitan city, there are many fine
           | restaurants and entertainment attractions, and for me the
           | stand-out landmark is Chipinque, a federal park in the
           | mountains inside the city. You can go there to walk, hike, or
           | ride, and you get a very nice view of the metropolitan area.
           | 
           | All in all, if you were making a tourist trip to Mexico, I'd
           | recommend you pick some place else before coming to
           | Monterrey. However, if you get to come here as a business
           | trip, you'll definitely have a nice time!
        
       | wayanon wrote:
       | I gave up booze in Dec 2019 as a (temporary?) experiment so
       | lockdown has been helpful for me as I don't have to not drink
       | with friends in bars. But I know lots of people miss it and I
       | hate seeing business owners in trouble.
        
         | CaptainZapp wrote:
         | That's actually a great suggestion.
         | 
         | While I didn't give up booze I introduced a rule that I won't
         | drink during work week unless I'm in company and pretty much
         | stuck to it.
         | 
         | That was before the whole mess started. But this, and sticking
         | to a rigid daily work schedule (rigid in terms of time, in
         | which I really fully work) helped me a lot to cope with it all.
         | 
         | Alcohol (and other drugs) may help to keep boredom away, but it
         | comes with a heavy cost.
        
         | jlengrand wrote:
         | Congrats on being over a year sober then!
        
         | Glawen wrote:
         | never really understood this severance. You can drink without
         | getting drunk. I like to drink good beverages, but I don't like
         | being drunk, so I just take a few glasses.
        
           | Nursie wrote:
           | I haven't given up but I have cut down a lot. There are some
           | pretty tasty alcohol free beers now. Not all of them, by any
           | means, but there are some good ones.
           | 
           | If beer is your poison.
        
           | tuyiown wrote:
           | > never really understood this severance.
           | 
           | I suggest you should try to have a soft in a situation where
           | you would have a drink. See if you're missing something, is
           | it the taste ? the lack of alcool ? It really puts the
           | relationship with the substance in the light, moderation
           | doesn't mean you have total control, even if it does the
           | trick for the body health.
        
           | kortilla wrote:
           | > You can drink without getting drunk.
           | 
           | No shit. The problem is that when you get into the habit of
           | drinking 2-3 drinks every night you're bordering substance
           | abuse. Also, "a few glasses" is enough to be arrested for
           | drunk driving, so you might not be the caricature of a drunk
           | but you're drunk nonetheless.
           | 
           | Severance is a great way to understand your relationship with
           | alcohol. The only reason it even seems weird is because the
           | shit is so deeply embedded in our society. If you give up
           | caffein, nobody gives a shit. Give up alcohol and suddenly
           | people express incredulity at the very notion!
        
             | oarsinsync wrote:
             | > The problem is that when you get into the habit of
             | drinking 2-3 drinks every night you're bordering substance
             | abuse
             | 
             | If you're drinking 3 bottles of beer a night, 7 days a
             | week, you're likely consuming 6 units of alcohol a day, or
             | 42 a week.
             | 
             | The NHS (UK health service) recommends less than 14 units a
             | week, spread across at least 3 days (so less than 5 units a
             | day, 3 days a week, tops).[0]
             | 
             | Drinking 3 beers a day 7 days a week results in you
             | drinking more than 3 times the maximum weekly recommended
             | allowance.
             | 
             | I think we're largely in agreement about how one can drink,
             | but 2-3 drinks a day is not 'bordering' on substance abuse
             | from a health perspective. Societally we've normalised
             | drinking to this level, but it's not healthly, and is
             | absolutely substance abuse.
             | 
             | It took me tracking my alcohol consumption daily before I
             | realised that my 1-2 beers a weekday / 4-6 beers a
             | weekendday was so far beyond what is healthy, that I
             | stopped entirely for 6 months. I've since backslid back
             | into 1-2 beers a day. I know it's wrong, but most of life
             | is right now anyway that it doesn't seem like that big a
             | deal anymore.
             | 
             | [0] https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/alcohol-
             | support/calculating-alc...
        
               | jjgreen wrote:
               | Could you link to the science behind those limits?
        
             | alexilliamson wrote:
             | Agree, except when I gave up coffee all my coworkers were
             | extremely incredulous and unsupportive. Caffeine is also
             | super ingrained in culture but arguably less dangerous.
        
             | Glawen wrote:
             | What I meant was that you should appreciate the quality and
             | forget about quantity. At 2-3 glasses every night, I bet
             | that you just drink the same thing over and over, so yes I
             | agree with you that you are bordering abuse. I used to do
             | this with whisky, but nice bottles are pricey so I drank
             | cheap whisky and quickly got bored. Now I buy expensive
             | bottles and appreciate it from time to time.
             | 
             | Alcohol is embedded in our society because it is the
             | traditional way for people to let off steam.
        
         | 74d-fe6-2c6 wrote:
         | I'm drinking more since the lockdown. Not excessive by any
         | means but about a bottle (.5l) of beer every day and sometimes
         | a small glass of scotch.
         | 
         | It makes it easier to draw a line between work and leisure
         | time. The alcohol signals to me and my brain that now it's time
         | for some relaxed activities ... well, youtube, netflix, mubi,
         | reading (hacker)news.
        
           | whywhywhywhy wrote:
           | Think I've drank almost every day, probably the least amount
           | was maybe the odd week where I drank like 3 days.
           | 
           | Work wise I'm probably working on the most important project
           | of my life there's nowhere to offload that stress. Can't meet
           | any friends not even allowed to meet outside, everyone
           | stopped doing virtual meet ups months ago and just became
           | introverted instead so what else is there.
        
           | askvictor wrote:
           | I found exactly the same in our lockdown; by not having the
           | physical act of leaving the workplace, you need something to
           | replace that, and a beer fits that pretty well. Too easy to
           | continue that habit though
        
         | TaylorAlexander wrote:
         | I gave it up March 2020 and I'm coming up on one year. Feels
         | great!
        
       | m12k wrote:
       | For some reason I went in expecting either someone complaining
       | about a UI redesign where a bar had been removed, or a former
       | lawyer commiserating about being disbarred.
        
       | bookmarkable wrote:
       | Cool bit of audio mixing. I'd appreciate "IMissLiveSports"
       | personally, and "IMissLiveMusic" that could played in the
       | background of any other music would be fun, too.
        
         | depingus wrote:
         | The NFL was piping crowd noise in to their empty stadiums all
         | season. Some games seemed to have a live person controlling the
         | crowd reactions. Not the same, but I got used to it. For the
         | music, can't you just listen to recordings from live concerts?
         | Those usually have plenty of crowd noise.
        
       | rusk wrote:
       | Dunno if anyone missed it but there's a really sweet playlist
       | down the bottom.
       | 
       | The opener. What a tune
       | https://open.spotify.com/track/6uDF1hOBaZmVNRGZm1NE7g?si=RQz...
        
       | Animats wrote:
       | Cross-Origin Request Blocked: The Same Origin Policy disallows
       | reading the remote resource at
       | https://api.airtable.com/v0/appFuV5HKjidiZXoS/imissmybar.
       | (Reason: CORS request did not succeed).
        
       | brodouevencode wrote:
       | Me being a meathead thought this was about lifting weights.
        
         | mikestew wrote:
         | Yeah, we miss that, too. My wife bought a gym membership at the
         | local "meathead" gym (i. e., not a national franchise) _right_
         | before I went into the hospital December 2019. While I spent
         | about three months and another surgery recovering, man, I was
         | going to _so_ hit that gym when I was ready. Yeah, well, I was
         | ready to hit that gym smack in the middle of March 2020.
         | 
         | Point is, we paid for a year's membership we never used. And
         | we're going to pay again this year just so the place stays in
         | business (Eastside Gym for you Redmond, WA folks). One of these
         | years we'll actually darken the doorstep of the place. In the
         | meantime, our garage now has a new treadmill and rowing
         | machine, and I finally tracked down some adjustable dumbbells.
         | I'm a distance runner, so that should tide us over. If you're a
         | lifter and don't have a big stack of plates at home already, my
         | sympathies.
        
         | woutr_be wrote:
         | The only time I felt the pandemic affected me was when they
         | closed the gyms. I was on a 5 day workout routine before, and
         | suddenly being without that was the moment I started
         | struggling.
         | 
         | The gyms have finally opened up again two days ago, and while
         | most of my body is hurting now, my mental well-being is going
         | up again.
        
       | RhodoGSA wrote:
       | I don't miss my bar - because me and all my friends never stopped
       | going. What people who 'Listened' don't realise is that people
       | still go out... in every city. Most sheriff's in California have
       | flat out refused to comply with the lockdown regulations. Since
       | when did America get the ability to shutdown business'? Never....
       | 
       | During this Pandemic i've lost three 'Friends' (Social Media
       | acquaintances I knew from HS) to suicide and have not heard of a
       | single person who's had any long-term damage from Covid and the
       | majority of my friends have has it at one point in time by now. I
       | got it in early March in SF and again in July in Miami. Both
       | times i caught a little sniffle. I got tested and quarantined but
       | it did not stop me or scare me away from living my life. Most of
       | my friends have the money, willpower and social distain for
       | authoritarian governments to move to wherever state is not trying
       | to follow China's example. (Mainly Socal, Florida, even Mexico)
       | 
       | Smoking cigs, riding motorcycles, and a million other things can
       | kill you in this life. Live your life and anyone who tells you
       | "You must do this for the saftey of others" can go fuck
       | themselves. You have no right to tell me what I can and can't do
       | as long as i am not causing DIRECT harm to you. If you're scared
       | of COVID stay inside, but let the rest of us live our lives.
        
         | misterS wrote:
         | > anyone who tells you "You must do this for the saftey of
         | others" can go fuck themselves. You have no right to tell me
         | what I can and can't do as long as i am not causing DIRECT harm
         | to you.
         | 
         | Do you not count spreading a virus & possibly infecting others
         | as causing direct harm?
        
           | RhodoGSA wrote:
           | No - I don't. If you are at a bar at the height of the
           | pandemic, i'm definitely not causing you any harm by being
           | there also. However, I do avoid my family who might be older.
           | I don't go to large family gatherings. I do, however, believe
           | American Ideals of freedom and free speech have definitely
           | been harmed through this ordeal. No one can have any
           | different opinion about COVID without being canceled.
           | 
           | As we are getting more and more data, the infection rate to
           | death ratio is dropping lower and lower. At what point does
           | Forcing people to lose their job and their entire lively-
           | hoods, Taking on massive amounts of national debt that MY
           | GENERATION will have to pay for, massive suicide increases
           | going to be counted as direct harm? When we find out in the
           | future after scrubbing all the data that the death toll was
           | less than 1% but the suicide rate spiked by 30%, increased
           | our total debt by 20% and fueled a massive recession in 5
           | years; how will future generations feel about the decisions
           | we made?
        
       | speedgoose wrote:
       | The TLS certificate expired a while ago.
        
       | whywhywhywhy wrote:
       | Extremely unlikely any of the ones I frequented will reopen in my
       | country.
       | 
       | They survived the first lockdown but this one will surely have
       | killed them off. Probably result in the historical buildings
       | being sold off to be turned into luxury apartments.
        
       | RalfWausE wrote:
       | I think the psychological toll of the lockdowns in different
       | countries is highly underestimated.
       | 
       | I myself have no real economical shortcomings due to the
       | lockdown, but even as a person who is normaly a total loner and
       | who can spend weeks completely alone on a excessive hiking trip i
       | am slowly going crazy... For my wife, who is a highly social
       | character, its even worse.
       | 
       | And i am not the only one in this mindset... what i hear and see
       | in my region let me believe the mood is slowly turning into some
       | sort of "Torches and Pitchforks" way...
        
         | simplestman wrote:
         | As an introvert, I really enjoyed it. I do love bars and miss
         | going there but not a big deal. We had tons of happy hours on
         | Zoom. Yes Zoom is not perfect replacement for in-person
         | socializing but it is not that bad.
         | 
         | On other hand, my wife really didn't like socializing on Zoom.
         | So she didn't socialize as much. Also she really misses in-
         | person gatherings. And my biggest issue been trying to cheer
         | her up.
        
         | esotericn wrote:
         | Different countries, and different situations.
         | 
         | Living in a big old house in the country with your family? Your
         | life is probably basically the same as it always was.
         | Potentially better, depending on the work situation. Okay,
         | sure, you're not going on as many holidays, and depending on
         | how strict the rules are where you are, dinner parties are off
         | the cards.
         | 
         | Living in a flat as a single person in the big exciting city?
         | Literally everything you do has been illegal or restricted in
         | some form for almost a year now.
         | 
         | I have no issue with how people choose to live their lives. I'm
         | sure one day when I settle down I'll be in that group too. It
         | sounds lovely.
         | 
         | But we have to be very, very clear about this - a month or two
         | more and I'm going to be in the 'pitchforks and torches' group.
         | There are limits, you can't just delete my lifestyle for a year
         | and counting as a risk-aversion play and expect me to roll over
         | and take it. Nah.
        
           | schwartzworld wrote:
           | What a weird comment. You think people with families don't
           | miss their social lives? You think it has been easy? People
           | aren't meant to spend so much time together. Not to mention
           | work and full-time child care don't really go together.
           | 
           | I'd say if anything, I considered maintaining a social life
           | to be a form of self-care, one I was already struggling to
           | get enough of.
           | 
           | > A month or two more and I'm going to be in the 'pitchforks
           | and torches' group
           | 
           | Why wait a month or two? I'm not saying I agree with you, but
           | nothing's going to change in 2 months. I'm pretty sure
           | nothing's going to change in the next 5 years.
        
             | esotericn wrote:
             | > Why wait a month or two?
             | 
             | Because I have just about enough left in me, and by then,
             | in the UK we will have vaccinated the groups which make up
             | ~99% of preventable mortality.
             | 
             | At that point, the moral argument of "go outside and you're
             | putting people at risk" completely falls apart in my view.
             | 
             | If there are variants which escape the vaccines, then at
             | that point it's game over since I know I definitely won't
             | be able to make it through another year.
        
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             | rrrrrrrrrrrryan wrote:
             | The parent comment was wrong to assume that people with
             | families aren't also struggling due to dampened social
             | lives - we're all struggling.
             | 
             | The people who are isolated by themselves are struggling
             | much more.
             | 
             | In prison, the worst punishment you can receive is to be
             | taken _away_ from the all rapists and murderers, and put in
             | solitary confinement. Being stuck in a prison cell with a
             | partner and family probably sounds like a dream to the
             | person stuck in a prison cell alone.
        
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               | watwut wrote:
               | Depends on how abusive that family is. Because in
               | reality, being alone with internet in appartment is not
               | comparable to prison solitary lock down.
               | 
               | They are massively different.
        
             | standardUser wrote:
             | The idea that nothing will change in the next two months is
             | absurd because things are already changing. There's already
             | been an easing of restrictions over the last few weeks as
             | the rate of new cases declines. And this is before the
             | vaccine has had a chance to make much of an impact. Because
             | of the vaccines, we have very reason to believe the rate of
             | hospitalizations and deaths will only go down, which will
             | inevitably lead to a further easing of restrictions.
        
             | CaptainZapp wrote:
             | > I'm pretty sure nothing's going to change in the next 5
             | years.
             | 
             | Given the speed in which effective vaccines were developed
             | I think this is a rather bleak outlook.
             | 
             | Sure, a lot is still unknown with the new virus variants
             | and as has been expected vaccination drives had their
             | teething problems. But in a few month time (almost)
             | everybody who wants their jabs can get it (in rich
             | countries, that is).
             | 
             | I for one, see myself on a 3 week vacation in Asia later
             | this year. Optimistic? Maybe, and certainly dependent on a
             | number of factors beyond my control. But I think it's a
             | much better perspective than wallowing in misery and not
             | seeing a way out.
        
               | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
               | It is worth reading what the epidemologists advising
               | Western governments actually think. Many of them are
               | arguing for social distancing and border closures to
               | continue until the entire world is vaccinated, regardless
               | of how many people are vaccinated within your own
               | country. That is expected to take probably until 2026, so
               | the OP's worries about five years are founded. Some
               | outliers among those advisors are even arguing for social
               | distancing for the rest of the 2020s, or (because they
               | want to take the opportunity to end flu transmission as
               | well) in perpetuity.
        
               | spdionis wrote:
               | That would be pretty dystopian.
        
               | packetlost wrote:
               | Do you have a source for that?
        
               | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
               | Many of these advisors are speaking directly to media.
               | Devi Sridhar, one of the advisors to the UK government,
               | for example, has been doing interviews recently about
               | maintaining long-term border closures and requiring
               | expensive hotel quarantines.
               | 
               | Right after I posted my comment above, at 15:12 comments
               | regarding Canadian forecasts appeared in The Guardian's
               | COVID live blog, in which epidemologists say that
               | restrictions must be preserved within the country because
               | the vaccine rollout is a global problem, not a local one.
        
               | packetlost wrote:
               | The only article that seems to be quoting Devi Sridhar is
               | behind a paywall, but doesn't seem to be supporting your
               | argument.
               | 
               | I can't find anything on The Guradian's COVID live blog
               | talking about what you're referring to, can you provide a
               | link?
        
               | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
               | If you go to Google News, set your location to the UK,
               | and search for "devi sridhar", you'll find abundant
               | content that is not behind a paywall. Here is just one
               | article[0] of many in which she advocates for an approach
               | where borders stay closed until the whole world is
               | vaccinated.
               | 
               | Apparently this[1] is the permalink for _The Guardian_
               | post.
               | 
               | [0] https://www.heraldscotland.com/news/19036150.covid-
               | scotland-...
               | 
               | [1] https://www.theguardian.com/world/live/2021/feb/19/co
               | ronavir...
        
               | birktj wrote:
               | Are you sure this is the case? From the Norwegian news it
               | seems very much like the epidemiologists that are
               | advising the government in many cases are advising
               | _lesser_ restrictions than what is actually implemented.
        
               | standardUser wrote:
               | Thank god the epidemiologists are not the ones making
               | policy. Most state and local governments in the US have
               | not shown a willingness to follow such a hardline
               | approach, and we're already seeing reopenings as numbers
               | drop, long before the vaccine has even had a major
               | impact.
        
               | leesalminen wrote:
               | Pretty sure one of Biden's main talking points of his
               | election campaign was that America would start listening
               | to the scientists more closely.
        
               | standardUser wrote:
               | Nothing Biden has said or done has implied he wants to
               | take a hardline approach to COVID restrictions, aside
               | from briefly floating the idea of limited domestic
               | travel. And he made no effort to tie the massive relief
               | package to restrictive state polices. Beyond that, he has
               | limited authority over state and local restrictions.
        
               | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
               | One of the Biden administration's first moves was to
               | reinstate the ban on travel to the USA from Schengen that
               | was about to expire. And it was just announced that this
               | ban would now be extended indefinitely. The US ban on
               | travel does not just affect tourism, it affects family
               | reunification as well, and I would consider that a
               | hardline approach.
        
               | standardUser wrote:
               | That travel "ban" is riddled with exemptions.
        
               | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
               | Can you cite those exemptions? There is a longstanding
               | campaign on Twitter (loveisnottourism) that complains
               | that the US policy is preventing partners from seeing one
               | another. Also, even if in some cases one could
               | theoretically board a flight, that means nothing if you
               | need a visa and your local US consulate won't issue you
               | one, because it says no visas will be issued during the
               | pandemic.
        
               | ghaff wrote:
               | To say nothing of control over how people actually act.
               | 
               | In any case, listening to scientists means you take their
               | input and factor that into the tradeoffs that drive
               | policy. Which may well involve simultaneously that there
               | is e.g. some risk associated with allowing people to
               | travel by air while allowing them to do it anyway.
        
               | Notorious_BLT wrote:
               | So far no meaningful action has been taken that indicates
               | he's particularly concerned. He's focused on trying to
               | reopen schools, last I heard.
               | 
               | Some people have argued that the vaccinations are
               | evidence of his success regarding Covid-19 but I don't
               | see any part of that that wouldn't have been proceeding
               | with or without him. As far as I can tell, the only
               | difference between Trump and Biden's handling of covid
               | has been "Biden knows to keep his mouth shut about
               | specifics and predictions, because he might be wrong"
               | which is exactly the kind of playing-both-sides I've seen
               | from many state and city governments for the last year
               | (talking a lot about how we need to follow the science
               | and keep locking down to keep the spread low, but also
               | taking no steps to enforce the rules or financially
               | support people/businesses.)
        
               | ghaff wrote:
               | Oh I'm sure he's concerned. But there's precious little
               | he can do other than doing what he can to get vaccines
               | rolled out faster and closing borders to foreigners. Most
               | people certainly support the former and most are at worst
               | indifferent to the latter. He can also set a "good
               | example."
               | 
               | But getting into a tussle with states he thinks are
               | opening up too much, etc. is almost certainly
               | counterproductive at this point.
        
               | ghaff wrote:
               | There is zero chance that democracies will conform to
               | those kind of restrictions. Once most people are
               | vaccinated, people are going to shift back to business
               | (mostly) as usual subject to changes like more remote
               | work. Governments can't enforce policies if people won't
               | follow them.
        
             | jm__87 wrote:
             | I think it may be tough to imagine what being alone and
             | isolated for a year does to a person if you are someone who
             | is stuck inside with the same people all day. I would
             | imagine the situation for those with family is very
             | difficult and exhausting... but not suicidal ideation level
             | of difficult, which has been my experience with this
             | extreme social isolation. This is in spite of devoting a
             | lot of time and energy to self care: exercising daily,
             | eating healthy, not drinking alcohol, and many other
             | things. Maybe my assumption here is wrong and there are
             | plenty of people out there living with their families who
             | are in as precarious a situation as I currently find
             | myself. Either way, everyone is suffering right now, but my
             | experience has been that long term social isolation is a
             | unique form of torture that can really push a person to the
             | edge.
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | > Living in a big old house in the country with your family?
           | 
           | This might be exactly situation where you might desperately
           | need to go out to keep sanity, to escape the family.
        
           | Nursie wrote:
           | I'm in between the two groups. I live with my partner in a
           | mid-sized house in the centre of a small city.
           | 
           | Financially I'm doing great, I've worked throughout and
           | there's literally nothing to spend the money on. My mental
           | health is starting to deteriorate though. I'm not sleeping
           | well most nights, I've turned very much inwards, I feel angry
           | and despairing a lot.
           | 
           | Part of the current problem is that we don't have a
           | timetable. There is no plan. There isn't even a set of
           | criteria around which a plan could be built.
           | 
           | I don't agree that this is "a risk aversion play" here in the
           | UK though - we have well over 100k people dead from this
           | disease, hospitals beyond capacity and all sorts. Cancer
           | treatments being pushed out, causing more death down the
           | line. I don't think you can say that trying to control the
           | spread is unwarranted.
           | 
           | Poorly communicated, yes. Mishandled, screwed up, too little,
           | too late every time, yes. But unfortunately necessary to stop
           | it just getting worse.
        
             | michaelt wrote:
             | _> Part of the current problem is that we don 't have a
             | timetable._
             | 
             | I can understand why people want things to look forward to
             | - and why businesses and people whose jobs will reopen
             | would want dates in advance so they can plan.
             | 
             | But the dumbest thing the government could do is schedule
             | reopenings before we know if it'll be safe to reopen.
             | 
             | That's what they did with the second lockdown - announced
             | upfront that it was from to 31st October to 2nd December.
             | Then they kept to their timetable and reopened things even
             | though every metric on https://coronavirus.data.gov.uk/
             | made it clear we hadn't stopped the second wave - and now
             | we have a third lockdown.
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | > But the dumbest thing the government could do is
               | schedule reopenings before we know if it'll be safe to
               | reopen.
               | 
               | Sure. But while there is no end in sight, despair will
               | rule. Whether it's reasonable to want a fixed timetable
               | or not.
               | 
               | This is also why I mentioned criteria - even if not a
               | fixed timetable, we could at least know what sort of
               | criteria would trigger a rule change. I.E. when we get
               | down to X cases per day, X deaths etc etc, the schools
               | will open. If it keeps falling then the rule of six
               | reapplies in outdoor public spaces ...
               | 
               | At least something rather than just being locked down
               | indefinitely.
               | 
               | I agree the lifting of Lockdown 2 was a really poor
               | choice.
        
               | kelnos wrote:
               | > _Sure. But while there is no end in sight, despair will
               | rule. Whether it 's reasonable to want a fixed timetable
               | or not._
               | 
               | Damned if you do, damned if you don't. After the second
               | timeline turns out to be completely made up, people will
               | stop trusting them and add "more distrust of government"
               | to their despair.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | So come up with a timeline that's not made up, then.
               | 
               | In the absence of Government leadership, I've had to do
               | it for myself - I have a set date beyond which I will no
               | longer follow social distancing. If I didn't have that,
               | I'd have snapped long ago, which is strictly a worse
               | outcome.
               | 
               | People individually snapping and choosing to do whatever
               | they want is more dangerous than the alternative of the
               | Government explicitly announcing that lockdown is a time-
               | limited policy (and as such providing more support to the
               | hardest-hit individuals).
               | 
               | Perfect is the enemy of the good.
               | 
               | Well, if that's even a good analogy, since lockdown is
               | clearly nowhere near perfect, it's trading life for life.
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | Again, I think that's why criteria need to be set out,
               | rather than a strict timetable.
        
             | nicbou wrote:
             | One thing that helped for me was to treat this period as
             | _also_ life, rather than something I must sit through.
             | 
             | I still highlight dumb holidays (next week is International
             | I Hate Cilantro Day), read by the candlelight, explore
             | abandoned buildings, ride my bicycle around etc.
             | 
             | I had to delay the plans for which I have strived for many
             | years, but I don't consider that time lost. I got to try
             | things I wouldn't have tried otherwise, and to invest my
             | time in different places.
             | 
             | When I get hit by a wave of despair (usually after they
             | push the dates further), I do something that reaffirms
             | this.
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | I'm trying to treat it as a good time to _get things
               | done_.
               | 
               | I can't go anywhere so I have time to finish painting the
               | hallway, fixing the garden etc etc. It helps I also have
               | a home-based hobby (brewing) so I can carry on with that.
               | 
               | I should cycle more, and I'm sure I will when the weather
               | picks up a bit. It really helps my state of mind.
        
             | brailsafe wrote:
             | I'm so confused as to how excess money can be enough fuel
             | for so many people's positive feedback loops that it keeps
             | them working. That already wasn't working for me, but as
             | soon as there was almost nothing to do, I crashed and lost
             | my job.
        
               | ghaff wrote:
               | I guess I don't know what the alternative would be. I
               | miss travel/events and getting together with people
               | socially. But it's not like those would exist if I
               | weren't working either. I almost certainly have more
               | personal contact than if I weren't working. Plus I'm
               | fairly close to retirement so I might as well put some
               | more money away.
        
               | saalweachter wrote:
               | The part of me that isn't horrified by the death toll or
               | frustrated by the inconveniences in my own life has
               | thought about a million times, "man, I bet we're getting
               | _so much_ interesting data out of this pandemic. "
               | 
               | Beyond the bucket of cash dumped onto new vaccine
               | technologies, the international DiRT for all of our
               | emergency preparedness, the data on pandemic spread and
               | transmission reduction strategies, we're also getting all
               | sorts of psych and social data on how people respond to a
               | crisis, to government orders and to isolation. A thousand
               | dissertations and new departments of study will spring
               | from this.
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | In my case there's a goal. I'm putting together enough
               | money for a house deposit in another country when we
               | emigrate later in the year.
               | 
               | When I'm tired as all hell and wishing I could just go
               | back to bed, that's what keeps me going. When I'm not
               | tired as all hell I actually still enjoy the work, so
               | that helps.
        
               | Nextgrid wrote:
               | Out of curiosity, where are you planning to go? I am
               | planning to leave the UK too and would like to know some
               | options. So far my plan is to end up somewhere in Eastern
               | Europe. Cost of living is low enough that I can actually
               | afford a property instead of burning piles of cash for a
               | shitty London flat.
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | Western Australia. I lived there for a couple of years
               | about 10 years ago as a skilled migrant, then came back
               | to the UK. I was (really, really unexpectedly) lucky
               | enough that when I applied to reinstate my long-expired
               | visa they said "sure, you have a one-year window to get
               | back over here".
               | 
               | Cost of living is pretty high, salaries are pretty OK
               | (better than a lot of UK perm, not as good as UK fintech
               | contracting AFAICT), houses are big if you live out of
               | the city centres, the sun shines and the beaches go on
               | forever :)
        
             | nicoburns wrote:
             | There is actually a provisional timetable now:
             | https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9267563/Roadmap-
             | loc...
        
               | Nursie wrote:
               | Heh, the old "leak it to the press and if there's no
               | immediate outpouring of rage, announce it properly next
               | week" trick.
               | 
               | Been very popular over the last year or so. Yeah I've
               | heard a few of the trickles of info. I'm hoping for the
               | official reveal on Monday. Guess we'll see.
               | 
               | (and thanks for the link)
        
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           | LandR wrote:
           | Also my city feels much more dangerous now. PReviously with
           | loads of people always milling around I would feel safe
           | walking around alone at 2-4am going home from bars.
           | 
           | Now it can feel pretty dodgy as soon as its dark in the city
           | centre. No one has any reason to be there so the junkies,
           | homeless and others have seemingly gotten more brave.
           | 
           | I was in the city centre around 9-10pm a little while ago and
           | it was almost 100% drunk / high / homeless looking at me
           | really weirdly and got approached by a couple in a semi-
           | aggresive way.
           | 
           | That had never happened to me in the five years I've lived
           | here previously.
        
             | dashundchen wrote:
             | Anecdotally my experience has been the opposite in my mid-
             | sized US city. Previously the only people out during the
             | weeks at night would be drunks from bars.
             | 
             | Now even in the dead of winter, on my nightly walks I see
             | people strolling around at night. Many times the same
             | people, assuming they're just looking to get out of the
             | house.
             | 
             | Summer was even more drastic, I don't think I have ever
             | seen more people take to cycling and walking for enjoyments
             | sake in my area before.
        
           | SyzygistSix wrote:
           | >Literally everything you do has been illegal or restricted
           | in some form for almost a year now.
           | 
           | I've more had the mindset that everything I normally do can
           | put other people in danger and potentially kill them or
           | someone close to them. Or leave them with lingering side
           | effects from illness for who knows how long.
           | 
           | But yeah, also kind of going crazy.
        
             | Layke1123 wrote:
             | I feel better now that we have competent leadership
             | enforcing rules and rushing to get us vaccines. It has made
             | all the world a difference for my mental health knowing
             | that others are now doing what I am doing and we are all
             | pulling our weight. It makes me feel connected again even
             | without going to bars, theaters, vacations, etc. I don't
             | know why that makes all the difference for me but it does.
        
           | pjc50 wrote:
           | Yes, it's terrible. Even those of us who are "coping" aren't
           | coping terribly well. But ironically the disconnection has
           | made the costs of the disease invisible as well. The zoom
           | funerals. I personally know a couple of people who are now
           | effectively long-term disabled with respiratory issues - well
           | enough to leave hospital, but their previous lifestyle can't
           | come back.
           | 
           | The death toll dwarfs every single "disaster" in UK modern
           | cultural history. Aberfan, Lockerbie, Dunblane, Piper Alpha,
           | Grenfell, Bloody Sunday, Hillsborough, Herald of Free
           | Enterprise, Marchioness, Titanic, Lusitania, Harold Shipman:
           | COVID exceeds all of those put together. Invisibly. Any given
           | one of those is dwarfed by the _daily_ COVID death toll.
           | 
           | A rate that starts to rival wartime deaths. At the recent
           | peak the death toll for 19 January was almost one _HMS Hood_
           | per day.
        
             | skocznymroczny wrote:
             | The death toll is greatly exaggerated. Remember the
             | "shocking" scenes from China? People dying on the streets,
             | running out of coffins. Now we are in theory in multiplies
             | of those infection rates and we don't see that anymore.
             | What happened?
        
               | pjc50 wrote:
               | The media chose to stop covering it?
               | 
               | Or maybe not even that. The 6pm BBC radio news just read
               | out the latest 500+ dead and apparent R number. It's just
               | ... not important to the discourse somehow?
        
             | willyt wrote:
             | The death toll in Britain so far is about 3 times the
             | number of British civilians killed in WW2.
        
             | Clewza313 wrote:
             | But those mostly killed people still the prime of their
             | lives, while COVID _mostly_ (not entirely, but mostly)
             | advances the Grim Reaper for the old and sick who likely
             | only had a few years anyway. If we measured the toll in
             | disability-adjusted life years instead, the comparison
             | would be quite different.
             | 
             | Cynical thought: COVID lockdowns are extreme largely
             | because unlike most public health problems it affects the
             | rich too, and the decision-makers behind them fall into the
             | high-risk categories.
             | 
             | Sobering thought: if you think COVID-19 is bad now, wait
             | until there's a pandemic of something like the Spanish Flu
             | that _does_ target and kill the young and healthy too.
        
               | Damogran6 wrote:
               | More to the point, I think these statement show a lack of
               | empathy on the part of the person making them.
               | 
               | 'at least they're old'
               | 
               | This has wiped out FAMILES. 2.4M worldwide and nearly
               | 500k in the US. And it flies past people due to fatigue
               | and habituation.
        
               | pb7 wrote:
               | 2.4M people is 0.03% of the global population. Heart
               | disease alone kills 0.23% of the global population per
               | year.
        
               | Uberphallus wrote:
               | > 2.4M people is 0.03% of the global population. Heart
               | disease alone kills 0.23% of the global population per
               | year.
               | 
               | One would have thought that by now we wouldn't be
               | comparing fatality rates of a disease that propagates
               | exponentially when left unchecked, with a more or less
               | stable family of diseases that isn't contagious, but here
               | we are, apple pies to orange sorbets.
        
               | pb7 wrote:
               | Masks and social distancing alone would have sufficed.
               | South Korea is proof of that.
        
               | kelnos wrote:
               | If we're talking about South Korea, you need to add
               | widespread testing, mandatory quarantine for confirmed
               | cases, and isolation for people possibly exposed.
               | 
               | Regardless, areas of the US that have mask and social
               | distancing mandates still have high case rates. It seems
               | like the driver of surges in those areas are mainly due
               | to people violating other restrictions, like having
               | indoor gatherings.
        
               | gregmac wrote:
               | > COVID mostly (not entirely, but mostly) advances the
               | Grim Reaper for the old and sick who likely only had a
               | few years anyway
               | 
               | What a disgusting attitude.
               | 
               | How is this different from "Why bother treating cancer
               | patients? Most are going to die early anyway"? Do you
               | think old and sick people simply provide no value to
               | society?
               | 
               | I _think_ you 're trying to argue that it's _worse_ if a
               | young, otherwise healthy person dies, but it 's really
               | not necessary to rank lives against each other in this
               | way.
               | 
               | This attitude seems to be what's largely made this
               | pandemic so bad: it was viewed as "just the flu" and
               | "only affects people with pre-existing conditions" and so
               | rather than fast, decisive action (reducing burden on
               | healthcare system, preventing deaths, reducing the need
               | for lockdowns and shortening the time they take), many
               | countries instead delayed and did half-measures, causing
               | an exponential increase in cases, which causes
               | _everything_ to be worse. The completely obvious outcome
               | of willing to let old and sick people die to  "save the
               | economy" was an economy that's in turmoil as well as a
               | massive death toll.
        
               | derefr wrote:
               | > I think you're trying to argue that it's worse if a
               | young, otherwise healthy person dies, but it's really not
               | necessary to rank lives against each other in this way.
               | 
               | No, the GP is pointing out the well-established social-
               | psychology theory that people _already_ implicitly rank
               | things this way, and that this is _why_ the death toll
               | doesn't have more of a mental impact on people in
               | changing their decisions, even when they hear about it.
               | 
               | It's the same reason that news like "baby of suburban
               | WASP nuclear family gets kidnapped" turns into a whole-
               | community man-hunt with special ribbons that gets
               | remembered for years, while news like "baby of urban
               | black single mother gets kidnapped" never even gets
               | acknowledged by the community.
               | 
               | When people who are high-status to society go away, the
               | whole of society mourns. When people who are low-status
               | to society go away, only those directly affected mourn.
               | 
               | Any death-toll number, in the mind of most human beings
               | (or rather, of any human being who's only engaging with
               | the problem using System 1 thinking), isn't interpreted
               | as "raw numbers" of lives lost, or even QALYs lost --
               | instead, it's _felt_ as an aggregate of _social-status
               | lost_ , subjective to the listener's personal social-
               | status ranking function.
               | 
               | For the same reason that people don't tend to worry much
               | about disasters half-way across the world (the aggregate
               | social-status weight computed through _their_ status
               | ranking function still sums low), people won't tend to
               | worry much about the impact of a local disaster if it's
               | only directly hurting local low-status people. Even if
               | it's _indirectly_ impacting high-status people by taking
               | away people _they_ care directly about, that still
               | doesn't generate the sort of _performative shame for not
               | having acted_ that comes when high-status individuals are
               | taken+.
               | 
               | And since that very performative shame is what policy-
               | makers rely on as a group impetus to for getting changes
               | pushed through on a society-wide level, a lack of it
               | means that nothing can really change, even when there are
               | clear _rational_ reasons to implement change.
               | 
               | ------------
               | 
               | + Evo-psych just-so hypothesis (i.e. take this with 50
               | grains of salt): people are expected to sacrifice to
               | protect high-status people; people who do so are rewarded
               | by the high-status people; and so, over generations, it
               | became a eusocial instinct to feel an urge toward
               | performative shame when you "fail to protect" a high-
               | status person in your community--even one you never
               | personally knew.
               | 
               | But people _aren't_ expected to sacrifice for low-status
               | affiliations _of_ high-status people (since it'd "only"
               | be the high-status person, and not the rest of the
               | community, enforcing the norm on you), so a similar
               | eusocial instinct toward performative shame for failing
               | to protect _those_ people never arose.
        
               | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
               | At some point the exuberance of the young and their
               | ability to determine their own lives has to take priority
               | over the comfort of the old. I am nearing middle age
               | myself and I might be in a risk group, but I want
               | restrictions lifted. People in their teens and twenties
               | need to have their big social coming-of-age and courtship
               | rituals. I see restrictions as an approach to COVID, as
               | the greatest betrayal of young people since May '68.
               | 
               | > rather than fast, decisive action
               | 
               | It is worth noting that even if there had been the "fast,
               | decisive action" that epidemologist advisers wanted, that
               | would have still imposed border closures in perpetuity.
               | Life might have gone on "like normal" within a country,
               | but people could not interact with their neighbors.
               | 
               | We see already some Australians advocating for hotel
               | quarantine to be obligatory even after COVID, because a
               | year of closed borders has made them regard outsiders as
               | dirty. How long before border closures awaken old
               | nationalist conflicts that freedom of movement and
               | actually getting to know the other side had largely put
               | to rest?
        
               | rcpt wrote:
               | But that's real far off from how the US does things. 30%
               | of Medicare is spent on people who die within a year for
               | example.
               | 
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Healthcare_rationing_in_the
               | _Un...
               | 
               | And global warming might as well not exist as far as
               | lawmakers are concerned. The comfort of the old is our
               | nation's top priority.
        
               | jdminhbg wrote:
               | > How is this different from "Why bother treating cancer
               | patients? Most are going to die early anyway"?
               | 
               | You do realize that every day we decline to treat cancer
               | patients because they are close to dying anyway, right?
        
               | kelnos wrote:
               | Treating elderly cancer patients does not negatively
               | affect the lives of other people.
               | 
               | Locking down the near-entirety of life has long-term
               | physical and mental health implications that we probably
               | don't fully understand. There have already been suicides
               | directly attributable to COVID-imposed isolation.
               | 
               | It's possible -- and even likely -- that the lockdowns
               | are the right move overall, but the lockdowns themselves
               | have destroyed lives too. Taking measures to protect
               | against something that overwhelmingly affects one segment
               | of the population has a big negative effect on everyone
               | else as well.
        
               | Kluny wrote:
               | > the old and sick who likely only had a few years
               | anyway. If we measured the toll in disability-adjusted
               | life years instead, the comparison would be quite
               | different.
               | 
               | It's a hell of a thing for someone who only had a few
               | short and precious years left, to have those ripped away
               | from them as well.
               | 
               | I'm hard of hearing - people joke that there's no point
               | in wearing ear protection since I'm already deaf. No, the
               | opposite. Because I have only a little hearing left, it's
               | so much more precious to me than normal hearing is for
               | most people. I protect it jealously.
               | 
               | I get your point, but I can't forget the human part of
               | that equation.
        
               | iancmceachern wrote:
               | Boo! Life is life, who are we to judge who's is more or
               | less valuable?
        
               | rebuilder wrote:
               | We are doing so now, by choosing to take the suicides and
               | mental health problems lockdowns will result in over the
               | deaths the pandemic would cause without lockdown. I mean,
               | I'm not opposed to the lockdowns generally, but you can't
               | pretend we aren't making choices about who suffers.
               | 
               | Mostly we're choosing to take our chances on the unknown
               | long-term consequences over the fairly well-understood
               | risks we face now. The people who pay the cost will be
               | different.
        
               | kelnos wrote:
               | Yup, and I wish more people would recognize/admit this.
               | The lockdown decisions may be the best decisions, but
               | let's not pretend we're not trading some deaths for
               | others.
        
               | robocat wrote:
               | > while COVID mostly (not entirely, but mostly) advances
               | the Grim Reaper for the old and sick who likely only had
               | a few years anyway.
               | 
               | The average years lost is 10 years of life in the US and
               | 16 world wide[1] - and I think you need to reconsider how
               | callous your comment comes across (to me at least, and I
               | would guess others too). [edited: added detail]
               | 
               | I also feel your comment entirely disregards the point
               | made by the parent comment: "I personally know a couple
               | of people who are now effectively long-term disabled with
               | respiratory issues - well enough to leave hospital, but
               | their previous lifestyle can't come back."
               | 
               | https://www.google.co.nz/search?q=years+lost+covid
        
               | Clewza313 wrote:
               | I'm sorry if it comes off as callous, but we're comparing
               | incidents of mass death here and disability-adjusted life
               | years is how insurance companies and demographers do it.
               | To be clear, I'm not saying it's a _good_ thing that 500k
               | people have died from COVID in the US, but simply that
               | having same number of young, healthy people getting
               | gunned down in the Battle of the Somme is almost any
               | measure objectively worse.
        
               | solosoyokaze wrote:
               | Do you really not know any young people who have been
               | permanently damaged by COVID? I know multiple people in
               | their 20s and 30s that spent _weeks_ in the ER and will
               | never be the same. I 'm always surprised to find people
               | who think the lockdown is excessive. COVID is absolutely
               | no joke even if you're young, it's not the flu. Not even
               | close, you don't want it.
        
               | AndrewUnmuted wrote:
               | My anecdotal experience is the opposite of yours -
               | everyone I know in their 20s and 30s who had a positive
               | COVID-19 test got through it within a week and it was
               | about the same as the flu.
               | 
               | If my anecdata is irrelevant, then so is yours.
               | 
               | The only people I know who have had permanent damage from
               | COVID-19 in this age range, have all had their trauma
               | caused by excessive lockdown policies.
               | 
               | You know what's even less of a joke than COVID-19? Our
               | histrionic, insane, and completely violent overreaction
               | to it.
        
               | solosoyokaze wrote:
               | > You know what's even less of a joke than COVID-19? Our
               | histrionic, insane, and completely violent overreaction
               | to it.
               | 
               | Quick question: how would you propose dealing with a
               | global pandemic? Social isolation seems like the most
               | common sense solution, since in 2021 we know how disease
               | is transmitted and how to deal with that.
        
               | AndrewUnmuted wrote:
               | Social isolation may be the best solution. Fine. Don't
               | force it on us. If it's the right solution, then it will
               | be followed.
               | 
               | I am not going to entertain further the notion that we
               | have locked people into their homes, given trillions of
               | dollars to multinational corporations, and restricted the
               | lives of everyday people, just because of a pandemic that
               | kills less than 1% of the people infected. This is such
               | an obvious cash-grab and overt attempt to impose further
               | fascism upon people, just like what happened after 9/11
               | in the US with the imposition of the Patriot Act.
        
               | m0deran wrote:
               | > Fine. Don't force it on us. If it's the right solution,
               | then it will be followed.
               | 
               | Do you actually, really believe this? Do you really
               | believe that if that the research studies come out and
               | say "hey stay inside" that everyone will read the studies
               | front-to-back and go "oh, it's in the public interest for
               | everyone to stay inside"? Is this a thing that you think
               | will happen in America?
               | 
               | > impose further fascism
               | 
               | What is fascism?
        
               | scubbo wrote:
               | > What is fascism?
               | 
               | When the government does something I don't like /s
        
               | the_af wrote:
               | > _If it 's the right solution, then it will be followed_
               | 
               | Social isolation isn't an opt-in kind of measure.
               | Furthermore, the average person doesn't have the
               | background or tools to evaluate whether it works. It's a
               | public health matter, and you do have to follow the
               | advice of the relevant authorities.
               | 
               | This is like the law against drinking and driving in many
               | countries: you cannot decide to opt-out of this
               | restriction. It negatively affects others who do decide
               | to comply with the restriction. If caught, you will be
               | subject to some kind of penalty (such as having your
               | license revoked), for good reason.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | Awesome.
               | 
               | I'm opting out anyway.
               | 
               | "What are you in for, son"?
               | 
               | "Being outside without an excuse."
               | 
               | Clown world.
        
               | the_af wrote:
               | "What are you in for, son?"
               | 
               | "Drinking and driving, but I actually drive better while
               | I'm drunk, these cops know nothing!"
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | Outside without an excuse.
               | 
               | It's illegal in the UK to take a picnic to a park bench.
               | 
               | I'm sorry for your loss. But no, it's not drunk driving,
               | it's existing as a human being.
               | 
               | Best of luck.
        
               | the_af wrote:
               | It's not a dystopian martial law and you're not summarily
               | shot or arrested. Maybe it's different in the UK, do they
               | arrest you there?
               | 
               | It's about not being selfish and helping contain or
               | flatten the contagion. It's about thinking about others
               | and not just yourself.
               | 
               | > _it 's existing as a human being_
               | 
               | A selfish human being, yes.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | 300 days of restrictions.
               | 
               | If your country is less restrictive, I'm happy for you.
               | 
               | It's been illegal for me to have a friend over for 100
               | days.
               | 
               | It's illegal to have a picnic on a park bench.
               | 
               | So yeah, I'm not doing this any more. If you think that's
               | selfish - cool, I'm selfish according to you. I'm not
               | going to kill myself for your social credit score, stop
               | trolling.
        
               | the_af wrote:
               | > _300 days of restrictions._
               | 
               | What country is that? We've had about 295 days of social
               | distancing -- we recently moved from almost total
               | lockdown to a less restricting stance, which also
               | requires social distancing and discourages gatherings of
               | people.
               | 
               | > _If you think that 's selfish - cool, I'm selfish
               | according to you. I'm not going to kill myself for your
               | social credit score, stop trolling._
               | 
               | I really hope nobody gets sicks or dies needlessly
               | because of you then.
               | 
               | As for your accusation of trolling: please follow HN
               | guidelines and do not encourage flamewars.
        
               | esotericn wrote:
               | I'm simply refusing the concept that my mental health is
               | "opt-in".
               | 
               | If you don't want to interact with me, that's cool. If
               | you want to ban large gatherings and restrict smaller
               | ones for a period of time, I get it.
               | 
               | When it gets to the point that it becomes illegal to be
               | outside without an excuse, 300 days in, you're just
               | subjecting people to cruel and unusual punishment at this
               | point.
               | 
               | The idea that people are going to die in greater
               | proportion than the damage caused by preventing people
               | from going for a walk to the park and sitting down with a
               | cup of coffee is not backed by evidence, and I absolutely
               | believe that you are trolling if you think we can all
               | just endure this indefinitely. You're just gonna have to
               | throw me in prison because I will treat those basic
               | freedoms as absolute until the day I die.
               | 
               | I hope you stay safe, best wishes.
        
               | scubbo wrote:
               | > If it's the right solution, then it will be followed.
               | 
               | I'm sorry, I simply cannot let this go unchallenged. Even
               | a moment's thought should demonstrate that that's not the
               | case:
               | 
               | * It may be the objectively-best-solution for society as
               | a whole, but not-best for an individual (for instance, a
               | young healthy individual who is at low-risk for long-term
               | impact for COVID, but who could act as an incubator and
               | carrier to spread it to more vulnerable folks). The
               | overall-harm-done by these free-circulating individuals
               | will, I am willing to bet, be much more than the "harm"
               | done to them by asking them to stay home. * It may be the
               | best solution, but to recognize that as such requires
               | specialized scientific knowledge that the average person
               | doesn't have. Meanwhile, propagandists are free to
               | influence society as they wish with more-easily-
               | consumable (but, possibly, less true) messages. *
               | Similarly to the 2nd point - it may be the right
               | solution, but that might not be obvious until late in the
               | process. In this situation, trusting experts and
               | following their advice earlier will reduce the overall
               | harm done.
               | 
               | The calculus of impact here is "what is the harm done by
               | following advice if it's wrong?", vs. "what is the harm
               | done by not-following advice if it's right?". Folks are
               | free to make their own decision on this, but almost-every
               | analysis I've seen suggests that "staying home" is the
               | massively better choice, _even if_ the global pandemic
               | turns out to have been less-severe than first expected
               | (in fact, the opposite seems to be true). All of that is
               | leaving aside the fact that much of the harm done by
               | isolation could have been offset by basic social welfare
               | programs (stimulus cheques, UBI, etc.)
               | 
               | Contrary to the common American mindset _, freedom is
               | not, in fact, always an unalloyed good - especially when
               | incentives for an individual are in opposition to
               | incentives for a group. (ironically, I wrote this summary
               | _before_ reading your second paragraph, but it works even
               | better. Your argument that "a previous social program
               | restricted freedoms in an unproductive and unhelpful way,
               | therefore any social program which restricts freedoms is
               | unproductive and unhelpful" does not hold)
               | 
               | * I'm not assuming that you are American, but I _am_
               | contrasting my position with a mindset that I have
               | noticed disproportionately _among_ Americans._
        
               | solosoyokaze wrote:
               | I'm not making any cash on this, and I want the lockdown
               | to continue. Because I don't want COVID and have a
               | rudimentary knowledge of how disease is transmitted.
               | 
               | > Social isolation may be the best solution. Fine. Don't
               | force it on us. If it's the right solution, then it will
               | be followed.
               | 
               | I think your own statement is proof that this is not the
               | case. We _know_ social distancing works, yet you don 't
               | want to implement it.
               | 
               | > just like what happened after 9/11 in the US with the
               | imposition of the Patriot Act.
               | 
               | I agree that governments will always do this. That
               | doesn't make COVID any less of a threat though. The
               | lockdown isn't the only lever of authoritarian control.
               | There's plenty of others you can fight to increase
               | individual liberty. Things that won't put millions of
               | others (and yourself) at risk.
        
               | AndrewUnmuted wrote:
               | > I think your own statement is proof that this is not
               | the case. We know social distancing works, yet you don't
               | want to implement it.
               | 
               | I said I don't want to force it on people - I never said
               | it was a bad idea to remove yourself from close contact
               | with strangers during a pandemic. Forcing it on people is
               | how you get deaths of despair, run everyone's businesses
               | to the ground, and ruin every healthy person's life who
               | isn't at risk.
               | 
               | You don't have to force it. Social distancing is a
               | decision an individual makes, and a rational individual
               | would choose to do this if they wanted to live without
               | the risk of getting infected.
        
               | kelnos wrote:
               | > _I said I don 't want to force it on people - I never
               | said it was a bad idea to remove yourself from close
               | contact with strangers during a pandemic._
               | 
               | Allowing anyone to opt out disproportionately negatively
               | affects people who are unable to isolate for whatever
               | reason: essential job, medical emergency, etc. People not
               | isolating creates more risk for the grocery checkout
               | person or power plant operator, for example.
               | 
               | > _Social distancing is a decision an individual makes,
               | and a rational individual would choose to do this if they
               | wanted to live without the risk of getting infected._
               | 
               | It's just selfishness (or at best rank ignorance) to
               | believe that whether or not you personally isolate only
               | affects your health.
        
               | macintux wrote:
               | Consider this: influenza almost disappeared due to the
               | lockdowns and other measures we took.
               | 
               | Yet 3000 people in the U.S. are dying each day from
               | COVID.
               | 
               | Does that not indicate that this virus is a particularly
               | nasty virus worthy of special measures? That it's still
               | spreading widely when the flu can't?
        
               | AndrewUnmuted wrote:
               | I have considered it for an entire year. And my response
               | to that is: who cares?
               | 
               | People are still dying from respiratory viruses at a
               | totally unacceptable rate. We're a very sick culture who
               | cannot handle a respiratory illness without freaking-the-
               | fuck out.
               | 
               | We have way bigger problems than COVID-19, which is
               | nothing more than a symptom of those problems.
        
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               | selectodude wrote:
               | I know zero people that have been permanently damaged by
               | COVID. I don't think my social circle is all that small,
               | either.
        
               | rcpt wrote:
               | Here: https://www.medrxiv.org/content/10.1101/2021.01.16.
               | 21249950v...
        
               | robocat wrote:
               | "Findings: 236,379 patients survived a confirmed
               | diagnosis of COVID-19. Among them, the estimated
               | incidence of neurological or psychiatric sequelae at 6
               | months was 33.6%, with 12.8% receiving their first such
               | diagnosis. Most diagnostic categories were commoner after
               | COVID-19 ... including stroke, intracranial haemorrhage,
               | dementia, and psychotic disorders."
               | 
               | It would be interesting to do a relative comparison of
               | physical and psych effects of lockdown versus post-Covid
               | complications. It isn't clear what the severity for the
               | "33.6%" was.
        
               | rcpt wrote:
               | > physical and psych effects of lockdown versus post-
               | Covid complications
               | 
               | The control group in that study is people who had the flu
               | during lockdown.
        
               | solosoyokaze wrote:
               | Consider yourself lucky. Would your opinion change if you
               | knew a few people your age that almost didn't make it?
               | 
               | It's anecdotal for sure, but once you see it with your
               | own eyes it definitely makes you take it seriously.
        
               | selectodude wrote:
               | My mother died of cancer in her mid-40s. She had me
               | pretty young so I had a front row seat to the entire
               | thing. Terrible, terrible thing to go through. I do
               | nothing to reduce my risk of cancer. I just can't live my
               | life like that. Some people can and do. I wish I were one
               | of them.
        
               | solosoyokaze wrote:
               | Thank you for the honest answer and personal anecdote.
               | Sorry about your mom.
        
               | kelnos wrote:
               | Not the parent poster, but I still think a bunch of
               | people getting killed in a war is worse than dying from
               | COVID, even if they are literally the same people dying
               | in both cases.
               | 
               | The latter is just nature being nature, and while we can
               | respond in some ways to reduce deaths, it will never be
               | perfect. I get that in some ways that feels worse,
               | because there's a feeling of powerlessness. But the
               | former is humans being shitty and murdering each other in
               | the name of nationalism, land, resources, religion,
               | whatever.
        
               | solosoyokaze wrote:
               | It's "natural" for humans to fight too, it doesn't make
               | it pleasant. I don't know that war and disease need to be
               | ranked. Both are horrible and humanity has a long history
               | suffering with both.
               | 
               | We now know enough about the nature of disease that we
               | can be somewhat effective dealing with it. If people
               | embrace the science that is.
        
               | ravenstine wrote:
               | That's not how anyone should assess risk. You can't take
               | an average and assume that it applies to everyone. The
               | elderly hare _far_ more likely of losing 10 years off
               | their lives than young people who are very _unlikely_ to
               | lose 40+ years off their lives. For instance, the chance
               | that _I_ will die from COVID at my age and health are,
               | for all intents and purposes, _0%_ , according to the
               | CDC. It would be ridiculous for me to take a statistic
               | that is more apt for the sick and the elderly and use
               | that to determine the course of my life.
               | 
               | By the way, the truth can be very callous. I don't think
               | it's particularly useful for you to point out how callous
               | someone sounds _on the internet_ unless the other person
               | has some demonstrable intent of cruelty. We all know that
               | we have the potential to sound like bad people through
               | text online.
        
               | rcpt wrote:
               | The metric you're looking for is QALY "quality adjusted
               | life year". It's studied a lot in health economics but
               | generally disregarded wrt covid because we don't have
               | 2060's actuarial tables yet.
               | 
               | Yes there is evidence that 10-30% of covid infections
               | have not resolved at 6 months
               | 
               | https://www.medrxiv.org/content/10.1101/2021.01.16.212499
               | 50v...
               | 
               | which is roughly what SARS 1 looks like (and those people
               | are still sick). But we still can't definitely say that
               | 35 year olds who catch covid will lose 10 years off the
               | end of their life so it's disregarded in our decision
               | making.
        
               | robocat wrote:
               | "A study published in the Journal of Public Health finds
               | that for each person in the U.S. who died after
               | contracting COVID-19, an average of nearly 10 years of
               | life had been lost." - https://www.sciencedaily.com/relea
               | ses/2020/09/200923124557.h...
               | 
               | > But we still can't definitely say that 35 year olds who
               | catch covid will lose 10 years off the end of their life
               | so it's disregarded in our decision making.
               | 
               | That isn't relevant to the 10 year statistic although it
               | is an interesting point - you are saying the final result
               | for years of life lost due to Covid could be a higher
               | number than 10 years (after we get to finally tally the
               | numbers in the decades to come as people die). Depends on
               | how you paint your statistics I guess. [para edited to
               | add clarity]
        
               | robocat wrote:
               | The point I made is that an average of 10+ years lost is
               | strikingly different from the canonical "nearly dead
               | elderly don't matter" argument that I see far too many
               | people use (and which my comment replied to). Obviously
               | averages are very poor indicators when a distribution is
               | wonky, and it is preferably to deep dive into the data.
               | 
               | Note I am all for people doing whatever they want with
               | their own lives - if you want to go to a Covid party I
               | would love to support that. I love taking certain risks
               | myself.
               | 
               | However, when the choices of one age group can kill my
               | mum, dad or friends, I would hope we agree to serious
               | restrictions to help prevent that. With engineering
               | balance to the compromises, given that prevention
               | techniques cause significant human costs.
               | 
               | I am from New Zealand, so I can resoundingly support
               | everyone acting together in concert to protect everyone
               | else (as most kiwis did, with a good outcome for us).
        
               | graeme wrote:
               | > If we measured the toll in disability-adjusted life
               | years instead, the comparison would be quite different.
               | 
               | I think you missed this part of their comment. They were
               | arguing the deaths weren't the same kind of deaths as in
               | past catastrophes, but the long term ailments are bad and
               | real.
               | 
               | Though I agree the years lost is bigger than people
               | think.
        
             | esotericn wrote:
             | The problem of course being that after extreme isolation
             | and/or social breakdown, even those of us that know full
             | well how large those numbers are start to snap.
             | 
             | Approximately 0.2-0.3% of the UK population has died due to
             | coronavirus.
             | 
             | But my personal risk of psychosis as a result of lockdown
             | is far higher than that, it's starting to approach 1, and
             | when it happens, it doesn't matter if those figures are
             | 10%.
             | 
             | Maybe it's just me, but I really doubt it is. Social unrest
             | is coming if we do this for much longer, I can't see any
             | other way.
             | 
             | I can't live in a world that doesn't allow me to have a
             | friend over for a cup of tea indefinitely; compromise
             | really needs to happen soon.
        
           | AltruisticGap2 wrote:
           | I understand your sentiment but for me the realization is
           | different.
           | 
           | For me seeing the streets of my capital city completely empty
           | at beginning of lockdown, as well as the trams and buses
           | (even though you could ride them), made me realize that I was
           | living in an environment that is fundamentally not pleasant.
           | That it was people that made it alive.
           | 
           | Without people, I saw that this city which I always thought
           | of as "the place where I can do anything, almost any time of
           | the day" is really just a conglomerate of gray buildings,
           | commerce, lots and lots of roads and noisy traffic, and very
           | little green.
           | 
           | The spell was good while it lasted. That said I am also past
           | 45 now... if I was younger I might still want to come back to
           | a big city when I can in order to have access to more
           | activities.
        
             | lmm wrote:
             | Wasn't that something we all knew already? People are what
             | make cities worth living in, the point of living in a city
             | is to be close to more people, and that naturally involves
             | some compromises (though I'm all for non-grey buildings and
             | minimising the space devoted to cars - something my city is
             | fairly good at).
        
               | wayoutthere wrote:
               | I was living in the center of a major city on the east
               | coast when the pandemic hit. I was renting a 400 sq ft
               | apartment, but that was ok because I really only slept
               | there -- the coffee shop nearby was my living room, the
               | park was my backyard, the restaurants my kitchen. That's
               | city life.
               | 
               | With all of that gone, the 400 sq ft apartment stopped
               | being livable. That apartment wasn't cheap, but I was
               | able to afford to buy a house in another part of town. So
               | I did -- as did every other person in that downtown area
               | that I knew.
               | 
               | Those areas are now severely depopulated to the point
               | it's not safe to walk around in after dark, despite being
               | one of the nicest areas of town a year ago. Businesses
               | are continuing to fail because their customers keep
               | moving away. City centers will be absolutely dead for a
               | decade or more. People are underestimating the long term
               | impact to cities because office workers aren't coming
               | back en masse any time soon either -- if ever. People are
               | what makes a city great, and they're not coming back for
               | a long time.
        
               | michaelt wrote:
               | To an extent - but city-dwellers also often deal with the
               | high density by ignoring one another, to a much greater
               | extent than they would in a smaller community.
               | 
               | I've heard city-dwellers claim (perhaps partly in jest)
               | to have spent decades standing with the same people at
               | the commuter rail station every day without giving them
               | so much as a nod or smile, let alone learning their
               | names.
        
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           | CydeWeys wrote:
           | > Living in a flat as a single person in the big exciting
           | city? Literally everything you do has been illegal or
           | restricted in some form for almost a year now.
           | 
           | And _unsafe_ , too. I'm not not going to restaurants because
           | I'm not allowed to (they're actually opening back up a little
           | bit here now), but because under the present circumstances
           | it's not safe to do so.
        
             | esotericn wrote:
             | Nah, me staying inside for years on end with no or very
             | limited social contact is less safe for me.
             | 
             | It guarantees a horrible outcome (psychosis), versus a
             | slight risk of a bad outcome.
             | 
             | I'm not going to put myself into a coma for multiple years
             | on the off chance that someone else gets ill. Best of luck.
        
             | zo1 wrote:
             | That argument means nothing unless you're also able to
             | decide for yourself what to do about something "unsafe".
             | Consent is key, and we're watching in real time as we are
             | turned into human livestock under the care of the "state".
             | 
             | It boils down to: "Shut up, stay in your pen". I'm not a
             | crazy person and I agree with herd immunity and generally
             | think we should strive for it and not fight it for the sake
             | of the unhealthy, but excuse the language, holy-shit
             | people... it's been a year of "flatten the curve",
             | "lockdowns" and "stay at home orders"!! I stand by this
             | fully: This disaster could have been solved in a month with
             | closed borders, tracking and a dedicated, absolute and
             | draconian effort. But, we didn't get that and instead
             | treated the potentially "misbehaving" people like cattle
             | because they threatened the wider herd.
             | 
             | It all rests on what happens after a wide rollout of the
             | vaccine.
        
               | kelnos wrote:
               | > _I 'm not a crazy person and I agree with herd
               | immunity_
               | 
               | You're not crazy, but you _are_ incorrect. Herd immunity
               | only works for COVID if a) you can get 60-70% of people
               | infected, and b) getting the disease confers immunity,
               | and for a meaningful amount of time.
               | 
               | Getting to that 60-70% in the time frame that most people
               | would tolerate would absolutely destroy our health care
               | system, resulting in many _more_ deaths (due to people
               | being unable to get the treatment they need). Consider
               | that hospitals in many areas were overwhelmed _without_
               | most people going out and trying to get the disease.
               | 
               | And the immunity bit is still an open question. Many
               | people have suffered re-infection, and it's not clear
               | that post-infection immunity lasts more than a few
               | months, which might not be good enough for herd immunity
               | to stick.
               | 
               | The second bit is a bit of a gamble, so I'm totally open
               | to argument there as to whether it's a gamble worth
               | taking, but the first bit includes unacceptable outcomes.
               | I'm not saying our _current_ outcome is acceptable, but
               | trading one bad thing for another isn 't clearly better
               | here.
        
             | toby wrote:
             | Open-air dining with six feet of separation is almost
             | certainly safe. There's literally no evidence to the
             | contrary despite multiple court orders to produce any.
        
               | CydeWeys wrote:
               | It's below freezing here right now, currently snowing,
               | and with high winds. No one's eating outdoors. I did it a
               | bit before winter started but this entire season has been
               | a wash.
        
               | Uberphallus wrote:
               | Unfortunately when restaurants around here could open,
               | they didn't have the required distancing between tables
               | because that'd mean they'd make half the money. Your
               | country culture may vary.
        
             | Wintamute wrote:
             | Have you quantified that? How unsafe it is to your
             | personally?
             | 
             | I don't know anything about your personal situation, but if
             | you're healthy and relatively young the risk from Covid
             | (first catching it, then having a bad time with it) in
             | resuming these aspects of normal life may be extremely low,
             | even compared to activities you wouldn't think twice about
             | doing pre-pandemic - like taking a short car ride for
             | example.
             | 
             | I think there are probably a lot of people struggling with
             | this sort of thing. Cognitive behaviour therapy
             | incorporating aspects of exposure therapy could be useful
             | here.
        
               | CydeWeys wrote:
               | > How unsafe it is to your personally?
               | 
               | That's a very selfish way of looking at things. The
               | problem with being a communicable disease is that even if
               | I'm fine, others I give it too might not be. I'm trying
               | to be a team player here.
               | 
               | Also, I'm not in a low-risk group personally anyway.
        
               | Wintamute wrote:
               | No, not selfish. See answer below
               | 
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=26194718
        
               | Damogran6 wrote:
               | Are the young as at big a risk as older folks? No. CAN
               | THEY COMMUNICATE IT TO OLDER FOLKS? Yes. Yes they can.
               | 
               | This kinda falls into the 'social obligation' column.
               | Just because it doesn't affect you personally, doesn't
               | mean you shouldn't be part of the solution. Sooner or
               | later something WILL happen to you and you'll benefit
               | from being a member.
        
               | Wintamute wrote:
               | I understand that aspect. Vaccinations, social
               | distancing, mask wearing, mass testing, self isolating
               | with symptoms or while vulnerable - these are all tools
               | designed to get society running again, while minimising
               | risk. The OP said they felt unsafe about going into
               | restaurants which were open in their region. My opinion
               | is that is incumbent on all of us to get back to
               | normality as swiftly as possible within the guidelines
               | set out by our local governments. That is my idea of
               | social obligation, thanks.
        
               | criddell wrote:
               | > within the guidelines set out by our local governments
               | 
               | Your local government may not care about you. I'd look to
               | respected civilian experts or at least government
               | agencies staffed by respected experts.
               | 
               | I'm basing this on Texas' Lt. Governor Dan Patrick being
               | willing to tolerate a lot of death for the sake of the
               | economy:
               | 
               | https://www.texastribune.org/2020/04/21/texas-dan-
               | patrick-ec...
        
               | Wintamute wrote:
               | I understand that aspect too.
               | 
               | I mention local guidelines since I wouldn't want anyone
               | to get in trouble with the state.
               | 
               | The economy is not an abstract thing, it represents
               | living people and their lives. People who feel its
               | important to prioritise the economy and a return to
               | relative normality generally don't think that way because
               | they're callous about Covid deaths, they're simply more
               | concerned about the death, ill health and strife that
               | result from a long term economic downturn. We can discuss
               | the degree to which those views represent reality without
               | impugning people's characters.
        
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         | kashyapc wrote:
         | I live in a small and wonderful city-town in Western EU.
         | Unsurprisingly, much of the atmosphere is in doldrums. As a
         | long-time remotee, I'm often used to working from the library
         | or a pleasant coffee shop. It's tough not to have this access
         | to the gentle human buzz around me, or a stranger's smile, much
         | as I'm used to long stretches of solitude. And this extended
         | lockdown has aggravated the ability to deal with a recent
         | personal setback.
         | 
         | It helps that I built a healthy lifestyle, and have no problems
         | giving structure to my attention. Long walks in nature, hours
         | of dedicated reading of offline books (the medicine of the
         | mind) help immensely. And my studies in areas like ancient
         | Greek philosophy, psychology, neuroscience all help, and
         | continue to provide some relief. But it's strenuous to keep
         | grinding through it, without access to much of humanity, in the
         | normal sense. So far, it's been a potent stress-test of
         | resilience.
        
         | ravenstine wrote:
         | Your region might be different, but I've heard others say the
         | same thing about my area and, frankly, I see it as wishful
         | thinking. People aren't happy in general, but they both have
         | surrogate outlets for their frustration(Netflix, porn, junk
         | food, weed) and have been conditioned to accept lower
         | standards; being able to eat outdoors in someone's parking lot
         | with plastic dividers is considered "exciting" now, depending
         | on where you live. Even people who were against lockdowns
         | behave like their masters are giving them an extra scoop of
         | kibble every time that restrictions are loosened. As long as
         | people tirelessly hang on to the hopium, I think there's no way
         | we'll see "torches and pitchforks" manifest in any substantial
         | way. To reiterate, I'm sure this is region-dependent, and I'm
         | speaking primarily for America in general.
        
           | solosoyokaze wrote:
           | Those "torches and pitchforks" would quickly be followed by
           | ventilators and graves. I absolutely despise authority and
           | loss of individual liberty, but this isn't a fabricated
           | crisis. Once you see multiple people you know _devastated_ by
           | COVID, you quickly realize it 's not a hoax. I'm talking
           | about younger people too (20-40), permanently damaged
           | respiratory systems and near death experiences.
        
         | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
         | > what i hear and see in my region let me believe the mood is
         | slowly turning into some sort of "Torches and Pitchforks"
         | way...
         | 
         | In several countries with lockdowns there is definitely
         | collusion between ruling parties and mainstream media on which
         | the ruling party has a close relationship or outright tight
         | grip. In Poland, independent media across the ideological
         | spectrum have been reporting that the majority of the
         | population opposes lockdown, and support for business owners
         | opening their restaurants regardless has risen. Yet you won't
         | hear a word about this in state-controlled media. The ruling
         | party is, however, aware of sentiment turning against them,
         | because party functionaries have privately expressed to
         | independent media that they fear that lockdown might cost them
         | the next election.
         | 
         | The problem, however, is that when mainstream media refuses to
         | report common sentiment, the average person feels that he or
         | she is all alone in feeling that way. This prevents people from
         | organizing and pushing together for change (which is just the
         | way that many ruling parties like it).
        
         | corobo wrote:
         | Yeah I once spent 2 months not talking to anyone but I was
         | doing things at the time. This is just
         | 
         | My wires are coming loose
        
         | DebtDeflation wrote:
         | I think we're turning the corner. I was firmly in the "doomer"
         | camp before, but there are strong reasons for optimism now.
         | 
         | New cases, daily deaths, and hospitalizations have all been
         | falling rapidly for weeks now.
         | 
         | The current estimate is for 50% of the US population to have
         | received their first shot of vaccine by June 28:
         | 
         | https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2020/us/covid-19-vaccine...
         | 
         | That's at the current pace. The pace will almost certainly
         | continue to accelerate. You also need to add in the
         | unvaccinated who have immunity from prior infection.
         | 
         | We're on track for a quasi-normal (as far as restrictions go)
         | Summer, and there will be an enormous push to get kids back in
         | school full time and people back in the office regularly right
         | after Labor Day.
        
           | coldpie wrote:
           | IMO Summer is a bit optimistic to be calling anything
           | "normal," but I broadly agree we're near the end. Maybe by
           | Fall or Winter we can hang out in bars again without feeling
           | like we're killing somebody. In either case, now is not the
           | time to give up. A few more months and we'll start seeing
           | things ease up, I think. But we won't get there if we make
           | things worse now. It sucks. Stay strong. Do what you can.
        
             | ghaff wrote:
             | In the US, it's probably going to be more like late
             | summer/early fall for truly widespread vaccination at which
             | point, I have trouble believing things don't open back up
             | because at that point, people are going to be "We've done
             | what we can. F' it. We're not continuing like this
             | indefinitely."
             | 
             | But, truth be told, come late spring especially younger
             | people are going to be out and about and restrictions are
             | going to start to be widely ignored even if they're still
             | officially in place.
        
             | Mediterraneo10 wrote:
             | > But we won't get there if we make things worse now.
             | 
             | I have seen this claimed a lot, but is it really true? In
             | some countries the authorities ended restrictions (or
             | ostensibly maintained restrictions but stopped enforcement
             | of them) because the population simply wasn't observing
             | them. In those cases just "giving up" really worked in
             | terms of the majority of people being able to get back to
             | normal socializing.
        
               | jaywalk wrote:
               | The studies that have been done have shown that whatever
               | benefits that lockdowns may have had were far outweighed
               | by the toll they've taken on mental health and the
               | economy. Short of literally locking everyone in their
               | houses for 2-3 weeks (including essential workers)
               | lockdowns just _feel_ like they 're doing _something_.
        
         | _Microft wrote:
         | I bet it is.
         | 
         | Sadly, this is a self-inflicted problem. Instead of trying to
         | understand the purpose of the imposed measures and trying to
         | maximize their impact to get us through this as fast as
         | possible, lots of people saw them as pure nuisance instead.
         | They tried to bend the rules to work around them and so we are
         | still stuck with these measures for far longer than would have
         | been necessary otherwise.
         | 
         | Now we all reap what they sowed.
        
         | johnwalkr wrote:
         | This is true, BUT, loss of loved ones is surely worse than
         | loneliness, when talking about depression.
         | 
         | And it's still an indication of early/strict lockdowns. People
         | in China, Vietnam, Taiwan and New Zealand are enjoying social
         | contact, punctuated by periodic lockdown. Some countries are
         | basically placing the burden of reducing R0 on volunteers.
        
         | anyonecancode wrote:
         | This is an odd framing to me. The psychological toll is from
         | there being a deadly global pandemic. I guess we could have
         | made the choice to trade the toll of social restrictions for
         | the toll of even more people getting seriously ill and dying,
         | but whatever choices we made and are making, the fact of the
         | matter is that pandemics majorly suck. I think railing against
         | lockdowns is a coping mechanism -- as policies we've chosen, we
         | have some measure of control, so complaining about social
         | restrictions gives us a sense we can change something, whereas
         | going on a rant about bits of protein that don't quite qualify
         | as even being alive doesn't really grant much relief.
         | 
         | We're all tired. This is a crappy situation. And if complaining
         | about lockdowns help people feel better, well we all do what we
         | need to try and feel a bit better I guess. But, in our more
         | calm and reflective and honest moments, we should remember that
         | the psychological toll here is from the pandemic, and there's
         | not some magical other option where the pandemic is anything
         | other than a very difficult situation.
        
           | orangecat wrote:
           | _The psychological toll is from there being a deadly global
           | pandemic._
           | 
           | I agree that there's going to be an ambient level of anxiety
           | from knowing that there's a nasty disease out there, but are
           | you really saying that not being able to see your friends and
           | family, or losing your job, or having to scramble to work
           | from home while managing your children's remote "learning"
           | has no additional impact?
           | 
           |  _there 's not some magical other option where the pandemic
           | is anything other than a very difficult situation_
           | 
           | Lockdowns aren't binary. We're allowed to consider the costs
           | and benefits of individual measures. Banning large indoor
           | events: probably worth it. Forbidding people from leaving
           | their homes: probably not. And then you get into the more
           | controversial areas like shutting down schools and trying to
           | forbid small gatherings, where different governments have
           | made different choices and it is not at all clear that
           | stronger measures lead to better Covid outcomes.
        
             | anyonecancode wrote:
             | > I agree that there's going to be an ambient level of
             | anxiety from knowing that there's a nasty disease out
             | there, but are you really saying that not being able to see
             | your friends and family, or losing your job, or having to
             | scramble to work from home while managing your children's
             | remote "learning" has no additional impact?
             | 
             | Of course it has an impact. If we didn't have social
             | restrictions and consequently had much higher rates of
             | infection, death, and long term disability, that also would
             | have an impact. There's no world where, given a global
             | pandemic, there are no severe impacts. Most arguments
             | against social restriction that I've seen don't acknowledge
             | this though. I mean, the other reply to my comment said
             | "why not put some of the blame on the millions of people
             | who died from this thing, who probably could have lived
             | through it had they lived healthier lives", to which I can
             | only reply "what?" For at least the most vocal opponents of
             | social restrictions, they seem to have a radically
             | different understanding of how respiratory infections work
             | than I do.
             | 
             | >Lockdowns aren't binary. We're allowed to consider the
             | costs and benefits of individual measures
             | 
             | Absolutely. It's not the people who are able to do nuance
             | I'm taking issue with here.
             | 
             | > it is not at all clear that stronger measures lead to
             | better Covid outcomes.
             | 
             | Well, I think the evidence is pretty clear that taking
             | either none or very few measures has led to worse outcomes.
             | Among places that have taken measures, I agree it gets
             | hazier as you then have to go from the general "lockdown or
             | freedom" argument into "which specific measures work best."
             | The latter discussion is where we should be; the former one
             | is, to my mind, based on an unrealistic set of assumptions.
        
               | orangecat wrote:
               | I appreciate your reasonable response. I wish we could
               | have more discussions like this rather than the shouting
               | matches of "masks in grocery stores are tyranny" and
               | "you're a selfish asshole for occasionally wanting to
               | have human contact".
        
           | sensanaty wrote:
           | >The psychological toll is from there being a deadly global
           | pandemic
           | 
           | My friends and I could not possibly care less about the virus
           | even if we tried, and half of us were even infected with
           | Corona. The only thing affecting anyone in my friendgroup
           | mentally are these lockdowns that are keeping us from living
           | our lives, because I can guarantee you that every single one
           | of us would rather be sitting in a crowded, closed space
           | without even wearing masks than being forced to deal with
           | god-knows how long of not being able to do anything, so I
           | really wouldn't say the pandemic has any effect on us other
           | than the fact that it brings with it lockdowns that none of
           | us want.
        
           | AndrewUnmuted wrote:
           | > The psychological toll is from there being a deadly global
           | pandemic.
           | 
           | How do you know? I think this claim, if it is to be believed,
           | deserves some solid and objective evidence.
           | 
           | How come the pandemic is the deadly one? Why not put some of
           | the blame on the millions of people who died from this thing,
           | who probably could have lived through it had they lived
           | healthier lives? There has been ZERO discussion of how to
           | improve the body's natural immunity to viruses, which is
           | without a doubt the most efficacious way to prevent death
           | from coronaviruses.
           | 
           | > I think railing against lockdowns is a coping mechanism
           | 
           | This is so condescending I have a hard time believing you're
           | being honest. No business owner would choose to completely
           | shutter their enterprise as so many have had to do under
           | threat of government violence. The complete upending of
           | normal life was not something anyone did because it was the
           | right thing to do. We did it because we were all under threat
           | of fines, violence, and losing our freedoms even further if
           | we didn't.
           | 
           | > But, in our more calm and reflective and honest moments, we
           | should remember that the psychological toll here is from the
           | pandemic, and there's not some magical other option where the
           | pandemic is anything other than a very difficult situation.
           | 
           | The "pandemic" has done absolutely nothing to me. All of my
           | difficulties have been tied to the complete shutdown of my
           | local, state, and federal government. I haven't gotten sick
           | nor have any of my close friends and family. I have, however,
           | been assaulted by random prisoners let out of prison too
           | early, have been price-gouged by corporations, and have had
           | my basic liberties stripped. Those were all lockdown policies
           | causing those things - not the pandemic.
           | 
           | To me, it's overwhelmingly obvious that our infrastructure is
           | failing and the government is using ridiculous histrionics
           | regarding the virus and regarding "anti-racism," to cover it
           | up.
        
         | adrianb wrote:
         | The link posted is cute and all but such initiatives are so
         | easy to dismiss - what, you guys can't live without going to a
         | bar? What are you, some kind of alcoholics? You don't want to
         | save some lives?
         | 
         | When in reality the lockdowns ask us to give up everything that
         | makes us human - closeness and interaction with other people,
         | hobbies, and many people can't even work or see their families
         | any more. And we're making this effort without even being sure
         | it's worth it - sure, there's a vaccine now and that's an
         | amazing achievement but we still have the risk of vaccine
         | resistance so long-term not sure how we can avoid the
         | (mitigated) risks.
        
           | theandrewbailey wrote:
           | You can't avoid risk. Life is full of risk. If one thing
           | doesn't get you, something else will, but we don't shut down
           | society because of them.
        
         | rpadovani wrote:
         | I feel you: my life is as good as it can get during this
         | challenging time, I live with my SO in a somewhat large
         | apartment, we both still work, I from home and she from office,
         | we don't have any sick relative, nor kids, so we have our
         | space, and we don't have to worry about money or anything at
         | all.
         | 
         | I'm quite loner on my own, and the first lockdown was quite a
         | breeze. But these days I'm becoming more and more tired, and I
         | spend my time after work doing basic nothing. Also watching a
         | movie is boring! I have no idea how people with kids, or
         | without job stability, or with relatives to take care off
         | haven't gone crazy yet!
        
           | germinalphrase wrote:
           | I know others feel differently, but my toddler has actually
           | been a reprieve. Each day has been some small step forward,
           | some word or new idea discovered. There's bad with the good,
           | of course - but I don't know that I would have had the time
           | to see all this if I weren't home.
        
         | eplanit wrote:
         | "the mood is slowly turning into some sort of "Torches and
         | Pitchforks" way..."
         | 
         | That mentality can actually be helpful, and provided it stays
         | metaphorical, it is called for. We're coming up on the one year
         | anniversary of authoritarian rules. We accepted them because we
         | were (rightfully) scared. The facts are that it is now getting
         | under control, and it would be healthy and cathartic to assert
         | normalcy again. We're rightful in being optimistic now, and
         | should reclaim our rights and freedom. The craziness comes from
         | trying to contain it.
        
           | robotresearcher wrote:
           | What do you think happens if we go back to normal behavior
           | before we have a large fraction of people vaccinated?
        
           | kelnos wrote:
           | > _We 're coming up on the one year anniversary of
           | authoritarian rules._
           | 
           | What exactly is "authoritarian" about them? These rules were
           | imposed and enforced[0] under authority granted to the
           | government through democratic processes. And if enough people
           | don't like it, most states have recall/impeachment processes
           | that can allow the citizenry to remove the elected officials
           | and replace them with people who will take a different path.
           | 
           | The fact that none of that has happened shows that the people
           | who truly believe the measures taken were incorrect are in
           | the minority, likely a small vocal minority.
           | 
           | If you want to talk about authoritarianism, look to actual
           | authoritarian states, where curfews, lockdowns, and
           | quarantines were implemented, along with severe restrictions
           | on people's movement... with no avenue for citizens to oppose
           | these measures (and if they try, they get arrested). That is
           | not at all what has been happening in the US, UK, and similar
           | nations.
           | 
           | [0] Also consider that many of the rules imposed on
           | individuals have essentially been voluntary and under the
           | honor system. In most (but not all) places in the US you
           | don't get ticketed or arrested for failing to wear a mask or
           | socially distance, or for violating a quarantine or curfew.
        
         | e67f70028a46fba wrote:
         | Even the term: lockdown
         | 
         | Free societies don't have lockdowns. Prisons do. One would
         | think that the government would come up with a better term, if
         | only out of self interest.
         | 
         | But then perhaps that's the point.
        
           | marcosdumay wrote:
           | The term is perfect, because it means the government stepping
           | over your liberty during an emergency, so that there isn't a
           | fundamental society crisis.
           | 
           | It should require a huge amount of justification, and people
           | should have little patience with it. The euphemisms some
           | places use are Orwellian.
        
           | soared wrote:
           | "Safer at home" was commonly used in my state.
        
             | packetlost wrote:
             | WI? Nearly everyone I know still refers to it as 'lockdown'
             | even if that's not what it's officially called.
        
           | brink wrote:
           | What happened last spring was more or less incarceration. We
           | weren't free. We weren't allowed to leave our houses. The
           | term "lockdown" works quite well.
        
             | ssully wrote:
             | You very clearly have zero clue what life is like while
             | incarcerated. You should be embarrassed by this comment.
        
             | dashundchen wrote:
             | Outside the US maybe. Nowhere in the US was locked down. In
             | fact a good portion of states never enforced restrictions
             | at all.
        
               | da_big_ghey wrote:
               | Thankfully, while there were a few places that attempted
               | to restrict outings to "essential" trips, it never was
               | enforceable. I am not a fan of many things police do, but
               | I am proud that my local sheriff announced that he would
               | not enforce any such order.
        
           | Izkata wrote:
           | A lot of places used "shelter-in-place", and officially over
           | here it's still "stay-at-home". The colloquial term having
           | switched so totally to "lockdown" is another symptom of
           | people caring for it less and less.
        
             | standardUser wrote:
             | I was endlessly annoyed by the misuse of the term "shetler-
             | in-place" by so many state and local governments. At no
             | point should anyone, anywhere have sheltered in place due
             | to this pandemic, which is an established term in emergency
             | management where people are instructed to shelter in
             | whatever structure they happen to be located at the time of
             | the emergency.
        
         | jorl17 wrote:
         | Lockdown has allowed me to properly realize how much I really
         | do not care about going out. I may enjoy social outings, and
         | for a while I used to have weekly scheduled social outings
         | having much fun in them. In spite of that, I've always been
         | "homey", and I've always been very affected by going out
         | multiple times -- especially weekends. It just drains me and
         | physically exhausts me. Weekends should be sacred. I absolutely
         | hate going out in them. It screws my whole week.
         | 
         | Thus, lockdown has not impacted me negatively in the slightest.
         | At least not directly (it has indirectly through the mental
         | health of those around me). I really do not care about going
         | out. Even more so than I thought.
         | 
         | I like it this way, and I think that while I knew I could stay
         | "home" for long periods, and liked it, I was never aware just
         | how much I really am not affected by "staying home". I have
         | basically been living for almost a year in a "leave the house
         | on average 0.75 times per week", and for at most 4 hours. In a
         | week, I go out an average of 3 hours. I live just fine.
         | 
         | Some of my close friends who considered themselves to be just
         | like me are slowly going a bit crazy. I guess it's not even
         | their need to go out, but the fact that they _know_ they can't.
         | 
         | I understand other people function in other ways. I'm sorry if
         | you're in this group (or your loved ones). Nevertheless, to me,
         | I just really don't feel the impact at all. If anything, having
         | other people "live more like me" has made my life somewhat
         | better, because they can empathize with me more and because the
         | whole world has become "easier to live in", more adapted to my
         | ways of living.
         | 
         | Mind you, this doesn't mean I can live anywhere because I live
         | "mostly remotely, and mostly in my head". I live 5 minutes from
         | my parents (and for a while I was living 1h away from them).
         | Even though I may not go there every day, not even every week
         | or every two weeks, the fact that I'm here gives me immense
         | happiness and calmness. Staying at home does not mean not
         | caring about my immediate and even my "nearish" surroundings.
        
           | ryantgtg wrote:
           | I feel a fair amount of guilt about this. I live with my
           | spouse and toddler, and not having a commute and spending
           | lots of time with my daughter everyday has been great. Also,
           | it's now easy for me to fit in exercise every day, so I'm in
           | the best shape I've been in in a while.
           | 
           | When relatives ask how I'm doing, I immediately say, "Great!"
           | But then I realize - oops, I should probably give a less
           | selfish response, and acknowledge that the grandma I'm
           | speaking to is perpetually bummed because she can't see her
           | daughter (which I absolutely believe sucks).
           | 
           | On the original topic: I've always thought that Baldur's Gate
           | did a good job with their atmospheric music. That's usually
           | my go-to when I want to listen to "tavern sounds." It
           | basically sounds like the Prancing Pony from Fellowship. And
           | there are lots of similar options on YouTube. It's fun
           | background music!
        
             | jorl17 wrote:
             | You have no idea how much I feel the same too. I sometimes
             | journal my thoughts, and I have a bit of my journal here to
             | share with you which reflects exactly what you mentioned
             | about "feeling bad about feeling good":
             | 
             | ---
             | 
             | For most people, (...) 2020 was a mostly terrible year. A
             | dark spot in the book of life, filled with misery, missing
             | loved ones, habit changes and an overall feeling of "this
             | is too bad, too fast". For some, it's like we're still in
             | 2019, ending in a shitty way. For others, it's like a pit
             | of awfulness that's been going on forever and doesn't seem
             | to end.
             | 
             | I can't say I relate, though. I'm sorry if you're reading
             | this and you're one of those people, but I just can't
             | relate.
             | 
             | (...)
             | 
             | 2020 sucked for these people. Some lost their job. Some
             | lost their routines -- and to some people routine _really
             | is important_.
             | 
             | But 2020 didn't suck for me. Or, rather, it didn't suck as
             | much. Sure, 2020 still sucked in many ways, but they're not
             | really that related to the pandemic we're living. Maybe
             | they are indirectly (...), but I cannot personally say that
             | I felt really negatively affected by the pandemic. Some
             | things still hit me, but many didn't.
             | 
             | It feels like I'm committing some kind of heresy by saying
             | this, but it's true. I _feel bad_ that 2020 didn't _make me
             | feel bad_. But, really, it didn't.
             | 
             | (...)
             | 
             | This was 2020. COVID didn't really mess with me directly. I
             | already worked remotely most of the time. Here's how COVID
             | has impacted my life, in the most blunt honesty I can have:
             | - It enabled me to be much more easily socially accepted
             | when I wanted to do remote meetings. - It enabled me to
             | multitask: I can do many tasks at home (dishes, clothes,
             | etc) while having remote meetings without my camera on. -
             | It made it so that instead of going every weekend to visit
             | (...) family, we started doing it much more sporadically
             | (...). - It reduced the amount of traffic on the street,
             | noise around the house, etc.
             | 
             | (...)
             | 
             | Personally, COVID didn't do much for my life. You could
             | very fairly make the point that, in terms of my _direct
             | personal life_, it bettered it. I didn't really stop doing
             | things I liked. Sure, we can't really go out or go to
             | concerts, but I don't need that. I have never needed that.
             | Similarly, I stopped hanging out with my friends, and while
             | I'd like to do that, I'm at a stage of my life where I
             | don't need it. It's not a part of my personality. I don't
             | need to go out. I don't want to go out most of the time.
             | (...) I don't _need_ to go out. I can stay for months
             | inside my home just fine.
             | 
             | ---
        
             | steve_adams_86 wrote:
             | In my opinion - Don't give a less selfish response, it's
             | good if you're doing great. Don't feel ashamed or selfish
             | for being in a healthy state. But of course, don't hold
             | back your sympathy either. You're in a good place to offer
             | support to those around you. I think this is an important
             | facet of how humans work together, personally.
        
               | kelnos wrote:
               | Yeah, agreed. I think it's a sort of "read the room" type
               | situation. If it feels like the person you're talking to
               | really needs some commiseration, downplay your good mood.
               | Otherwise, being in a good mood yourself could help boost
               | the other person's spirits.
        
           | 0xffff2 wrote:
           | Glad to see I'm not the only one. I've seen _so many_ posts
           | across the internet along the lines of  "I'm a total loner,
           | but I can hardly take it anymore". Meanwhile, I'm definitely
           | an introvert, but not even that much of a loner and I'm doing
           | just fine.
        
             | solosoyokaze wrote:
             | I'm an introvert that's doing fine as well. As long as
             | we're talking about positives (which we should!) I'd say no
             | business travel is the #1 benefit for me. I've gone from
             | being forced to take a dozen trips a year to zero. It's
             | been wonderful. No more rushing around filthy airports,
             | crammed next to strangers for hours in coach, disgusting
             | hotel rooms... all in the name of my job.
             | 
             | I quite frankly hope business travel never returns. Better
             | for the environment too.
        
           | saberdancer wrote:
           | I feel the same way. Not sure if it is completely due to my
           | psyche or the fact that I have a partner and a child. That's
           | a lot of social interaction. If I lived alone, I might feel
           | differently. Hard to tell.
           | 
           | I did notice a bunch of people who got really anxious. They
           | were pro lockdown then against, then again pro and they were
           | noticeably nervous and unhappy.
        
         | powersnail wrote:
         | I feel that. I'm a loner, in normal times. But the prolonged
         | isolation had induced me to participate a lot more in online
         | forums, more than I should. They had grown to be increasingly
         | addicting, because how my life is now lacking inter-personal
         | interactions.
        
         | DyslexicAtheist wrote:
         | > I think the psychological toll of the lockdowns in different
         | countries is highly underestimated.
         | 
         | indeed it is:
         | 
         |  _The psychological impact of quarantine and how to reduce it:
         | rapid review of the evidence_
         | https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6...
        
         | mhh__ wrote:
         | The slightly weird thing for me is that I'm bored but I'm also
         | silently nonplussed about quite a few social venues being shut
         | because I simultaneously don't really enjoy but also get FOMO
         | over (say) nightclubs - I'm sort of doomed to be perpetually
         | normal enough to talk to but odd enough to weird people out.
         | 
         | Basically one less thing to be neurotic about, although the
         | fact that of my two real friends one is hard to talk to because
         | of a subtle cultural difference and the other clearly only
         | tolerates and has clearly reached the stage where a friendship
         | bifurcates and people trying to hurt each other suddenly, has
         | been cruelly exposed to me.
        
         | meheleventyone wrote:
         | I find this very interesting as well. I definitely have felt
         | way more anxious during the lockdowns we've had. There's
         | definitely a pervasive atmosphere which is very draining even
         | though objectively my family have had a very easy time of
         | things.
        
         | Cthulhu_ wrote:
         | Same, I mean we didn't really go out as a rule anyway, but we
         | would go into town for a stroll, shop and a beer or two, or the
         | cinema, little things like that.
         | 
         | We're all right, but it's slowly wearing us down. But there's
         | people who are seriously worn down by it. I for one am glad I'm
         | not alone, I'm not sure I would be in any good mental state
         | right now if my girlfriend hadn't moved in two years ago.
         | 
         | I can really imagine the torches and pitchforks more and more.
         | Because my country didn't do enough during the summer last
         | year, cases spiked after people went back to work and school.
         | The measures and carefulness of people failed because things
         | kept going on for too long.
         | 
         | And now the government has set a curfew, which messes with the
         | only time I actually go out during the day (taking the dog for
         | a walk just before midnight). It feels like we're being
         | punished for something other people did. They're still handing
         | out thousands of tickets a week (although those will likely all
         | be voided because a court decided the curfew was introduced on
         | the wrong grounds), they're still breaking up a hundred parties
         | a week, and there's still millions of people that go to work
         | every day even though they can work from home.
         | 
         | At the current rate, it'll take the rest of the year before we
         | get to an 80% vaccination rate. I mean I hope things will
         | return to a semblance of normality by the summer (last year the
         | number of cases went down sharply after flu season finished),
         | but I'm afraid we'll be stuck for another year at least.
        
       | intricatedetail wrote:
       | You miss the bar or the environment you ingested alcohol in? When
       | your brain misses the ethanol high it is reminding you about the
       | circumstances and makes you want to repeat it.
        
         | corobo wrote:
         | Spoken like a true HNer hahaha
         | 
         | I miss the PEOPLE.
        
       | samgranieri wrote:
       | Thank you for posting this. I've missed the spontaneous social
       | interaction of meeting up with friends at a bar after work with
       | this pandemic going on.
       | 
       | Things are starting to open up a bit in Chicago, but it won't be
       | the same for a long time.
        
       | WalterGR wrote:
       | On mobile Chrome on iPhone, adjusting the sliders doesn't seem to
       | have any effect.
       | 
       | I must be missing something?
        
         | hankchinaski wrote:
         | i seem to have issues with safari as well on mac, works on
         | chrome
        
         | bmn__ wrote:
         | Use the play buttons. They look like a triangle pointing to the
         | right.
        
           | WalterGR wrote:
           | I'm familiar with play buttons.
           | 
           | Adjusting the sliders does nothing, such as changing the
           | playlist. What am I missing?
        
         | bearbawl wrote:
         | No it's the same for me.
         | 
         | On mobile, the play/pause buttons work but the sliders don't do
         | anything.
        
       | skocznymroczny wrote:
       | Until people rise up against the restrictions, the restrictions
       | will continue and will be more restrictive over time. There's
       | always a third, fourth, fifth wave, there's always a new strain
       | immune to current vaccines. Just hold on for two weeks so we can
       | defeat the virus!
        
         | RhodoGSA wrote:
         | I don't really understand why this can get downvoted... Seems
         | like pure HN censorship to me. I fully agree. We need to do
         | something, whether that be writing your senators, protesting in
         | the streets or making your voice heard for what you believe in.
         | If you have an opinion that is different from others and your
         | opinion is valid. It should never be discounted even if others
         | believe it is wrong. Discourse is the key to rational thinking.
        
         | pragmatic8 wrote:
         | Indeed. It truly is mind-boggling that certain governments seem
         | like they want to literally obliterate the virus and drive the
         | number of cases all the way to zero. Heck, why don't they
         | enforce a quarantine until the common cold disappears as well?
        
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