[HN Gopher] The days are long but the decades are short (2015)
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       The days are long but the decades are short (2015)
        
       Author : baxtr
       Score  : 84 points
       Date   : 2021-02-08 15:08 UTC (7 hours ago)
        
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       | aerovistae wrote:
       | I'll be honest, I really hate this guy's essays. Every single one
       | is designed to make you feel like you're not good enough unless
       | you're spending every day changing the world and being "high
       | impact."
        
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         | inglor_cz wrote:
         | Thank you for expressing this sentiment that whirled in my head
         | when reading that particular blogpost.
         | 
         | It felt like an impersonal scolding from a person I do not even
         | know, a list of bullet points where you failed, or at least
         | didn't do well enough.
        
         | CharlesW wrote:
         | I give him props for leading with the caveat, "I'm somewhat
         | hesitant to publish this because I think these lists usually
         | seem hollow...". It'd be difficult for a list like this not to
         | sound trite.
        
         | tiffanyh wrote:
         | Keep in mind, Sam has started just one business and it failed
         | (Loopt).
         | 
         | I know what I'm about to write might sound like I'm trolling
         | but hear me out because it comes from a genuine place ...
         | 
         | His essays typically come across as "if you personally are not
         | BUILDING something massive, you're wasting your time" ...
         | though it's ironic since he himself doesn't build anything at
         | all.
         | 
         | Instead, he spends his day looking for wagers to bet using
         | other peoples money in hopes he'll produce a positive return
         | (and keep some of the proceeds). Much like going to a casino
         | with someone elses money.
         | 
         | Using his own definition of how people should spend their time,
         | I don't understand how his own activities fall into that
         | category.
         | 
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sam_Altman
        
           | somethoughts wrote:
           | My take on the point of some of his (and PGs) essays is to
           | roughly encourage the following set of actions:
           | 
           | 1.) Make you uncomfortable staying at your current cushy
           | FAANG company (or any "cushy" tech job) by encouraging you to
           | work on the weekends with your friends to write a business
           | plan
           | 
           | 2.) Convince all of you to leave your comfort zone and quit
           | your day jobs
           | 
           | 3.) Apply to accelerators like YCombinator for additional
           | runway and advice from people who have done it
           | 
           | 4.) YCombinator can then potentially fund your idea
           | 
           | And to be honest it is a win for society to create some
           | discomfort among tech employees to dislodge them and turn
           | them into potential founders as there is probably a
           | significant amount of underutilized tech talent within
           | "cushy" tech companies [1]. So its a triple win if it works
           | out (tech employee who becomes a founder wins, YC wins,
           | society wins).
           | 
           | [1] There's probably some aspect of this Google strategy that
           | goes on at lower levels of many tech companies.
           | 
           | https://venturebeat.com/2015/05/09/google-has-a-secret-
           | bench...
        
           | Anon3343 wrote:
           | You are ignoring Sam's objectively excellent performance at
           | YCombinator.
           | 
           | I have one big problem with Altman which sullies my otherwise
           | incredibly high opinion of him: he explicitly denies the
           | orthogonality thesis and has created a culture at OpenAI
           | that, to analogize scaling modals with nuclear energy, feels
           | like one that knows something cool will happen when you
           | collide large enough enriched uranium lumps together at high
           | speed, but does not believe nuclear explosions are possible.
           | 
           | How he can deny the is/ought distinction when his own
           | organization published Faulty Reward Functions in the Wild is
           | beyond me.
           | 
           | And now many of those most concerned with safety, such as
           | Paul Christiano, appear to be leaving OpenAI.
           | 
           | To accuse him of being incapable of building and scaling is
           | incredibly obtuse. How much did YCombinator grow under his
           | stewardship? I am more worried that he is too good at that.
        
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             | rytill wrote:
             | I am a safety advocate, and your analogy to nuclear
             | explosions is pretty interesting. However, simplified
             | analogies may be doing more harm than good because they
             | fuel the straw-men people create of arguments for AI
             | safety.
             | 
             | I am not sure what the proper technique to get someone
             | already entrenched in their perspective to broaden their
             | possibility distribution is, though. Do you have any tips
             | on that, as someone that appears to be engaged in the space
             | and appears to advocate similarly?
        
             | alecst wrote:
             | I'll be honest, I have no idea what you're saying. Seems
             | like you have some interesting points to make though.
        
               | marvin wrote:
               | The orthogonality thesis says that advanced artificial
               | intelligence (yet to be built) can be both vastly
               | powerful and have arbitrary goals -- in particular, goals
               | that are catastrophic for humanity. (More specifically:
               | capability and morality for AIs are not correlated).
               | 
               | GP says that Altman explicitly denies this theory and
               | fosters a culture that might end up creating dangerous
               | AI. Implied here is that there is a risk this might cause
               | a truly catastrophic accident.
               | 
               | The parts about "safety" refers to acknowledging this
               | danger and attempting to mitigate it.
               | 
               | I don't know enough about Altman or OpenAI to make any
               | judgements on their approach, but that's a brief
               | explanation.
        
           | elefanten wrote:
           | Someone has to (intelligently and successfully) allocate
           | capital. That's the first step to new things getting done in
           | this world.
           | 
           | The fact that he has an economic interest in doing so is very
           | uninteresting -- everyone has an economic interest in their
           | job. And when you're wealthy, the potential returns tend to
           | be higher as well. I wouldn't confuse the fact that he stands
           | to earn a lot of money from good bets with the fact that he's
           | spending his time making bets that he thinks are impactful.
           | 
           | Alternatively, your view could be stated as "only operators
           | BUILD things, and capital does not." That's a fine
           | perspective, but it seems like it comes down to semantics.
           | You need both capital and operators working in concert to
           | make things come to reality and fruition. Imo, that's a close
           | enough proxy to "BUILDING" but, again, semantics..
        
             | tiffanyh wrote:
             | >>"That's a fine perspective, but it seems like it comes
             | down to semantics. You need both capital and operators
             | working in concert to make things come to reality and
             | fruition."
             | 
             | Just curious, do you consider bankers part of that
             | equation. Because for either bootstrapped business or years
             | ago prior to VC existed, bankers are the only channel of
             | capital.
        
               | elefanten wrote:
               | In short, yes. You need capital willing to fund a given
               | idea for it to happen.
               | 
               | That doesn't have to come from a bank or a VC, but it
               | can.
               | 
               | So the capital allocators who allocate to successful
               | projects are a necessary component of the equation.
               | 
               | They may not "deserve" "most" of the credit, but you
               | still need them around. So to loop back to your point --
               | if people like Sam have convictions about what to fund /
               | how to choose, they can be a useful (even integral) part
               | of BUILDING things.
               | 
               | Just because he's not an _operator_ in the equation,
               | doesn 't mean that his exhortation is hypocritical. IMO
               | 
               | edit typos
        
             | deeeeplearning wrote:
             | > intelligently
             | 
             | As much as VCs would love to convince you they are oracles,
             | the "Pros" often fare hardly better than chimps throwing
             | darts at a board to pick investments.
        
               | elefanten wrote:
               | You can have a VC which never funds anything that ends up
               | being meaningful. Or you can have a VC that hits a grand
               | slam 0.1-1% of the time and helps bring world-changing
               | businesses to reality.
               | 
               | I'd rather have the latter kind.
        
               | deeeeplearning wrote:
               | The difference between those 2 firms is almost certainly
               | due to chance. Again, VCs will tell you otherwise until
               | they are blue in the face.
        
             | Bakary wrote:
             | There are two points that come to mind here.
             | 
             | The first is that, in the most literal sense, maybe 99.9%
             | of the work/insight/decisions of such a capital allocator
             | are going to be utterly useless since the creation of value
             | will come from those rare investments that balloon out of
             | proportion. I might be paraphrasing here as I recall a
             | high-profile VC mentioning this exact concept. Maybe it was
             | Altman himself?
             | 
             | The second is that even in an optimal case, it's up for
             | debate how exceptional capital allocators are. If 99.9% of
             | their qualities amount to nothing, are they really useful
             | or actually gambling middlemen that could be excised from
             | the process? We could imagine for the sake of argument that
             | they do in fact contribute quite a bit and generate the
             | insight necessary for that fateful 0.01% to happen (in
             | similar fashion to the apocryphal tale of the specialist
             | charging $1 for the hammer and $9,999 for having learned
             | where to smash it), but it's unclear that a moderately
             | energetic and highly but not superbly intelligent
             | individual couldn't also do the same if given the
             | opportunity to do so.
             | 
             | Even then, following the most charitable interpretation of
             | the work of an allocator, is it efficient to give them the
             | lion's share of the profits compared to those who do the
             | actual work? I can't say I have the answers to these
             | questions, nor am I advocating for an immediate Marxist
             | revolution, but I am generally skeptical of the culture
             | fostered in the tech world around this topic.
        
               | scottLobster wrote:
               | Even the best business plan with the most competent
               | people behind it is a wild gamble filled with
               | idiosyncratic risk and its success or failure will hinge
               | on a substantial amount of luck. If professional hedge
               | funds can't consistently beat a passive index fund, what
               | makes VCs and bankers special?
               | 
               | Steps to being a VC:
               | 
               | 1. Have lots of money
               | 
               | 2. Establish procedures that filter out the obvious
               | losers, increasing odds of success from 1 in a million to
               | maybe 1 in a thousand.
               | 
               | 3. Leverage said money and procedures such that you
               | statistically make money on that 1 in a thousand.
               | 
               | It's the same way someone with infinite money can keep
               | going back to the Casino until they hit the jackpot
               | (assuming no house limits, this is why house limits exist
               | actually), or buy up all the lottery tickets until they
               | find the winning ticket.
               | 
               | So anyone who privately funds businesses out of their own
               | pocket is gambling, but they can't be removed because
               | where else is the funding going to come from? Maybe you
               | can crowd source if you have really good marketing and a
               | popular idea. Beyond that nothing really exists on the
               | scale of what VCs offer. If you hypothetically created a
               | government office with a large enough budget to replicate
               | the various VCs, perhaps it would be slightly more fair
               | in terms of who gets access, but it would just be
               | bureaucrats doing the gambling with taxpayer dollars
               | instead of private entities out of their own budget,
               | which wouldn't necessarily be any better if you look at
               | the current state of government contracting/grants.
               | 
               | So sadly, their money and willingness to gamble is
               | largely their use and why they're entitled to profits.
               | The system isn't fair and it rewards the lucky more than
               | the deserving, but without said system a lot of cool,
               | revolutionary stuff would never have happened.
               | 
               | Even SpaceX and Tesla are indirect effects of the success
               | of Paypal, which was initially funded by Peter Thiel.
        
       | ed25519FUUU wrote:
       | > _On work: it's difficult to do a great job on work you don't
       | care about. And it's hard to be totally happy /fulfilled in life
       | if you don't like what you do for your work._
       | 
       | Here's a trend I see repeating itself. People in their 20s and
       | 30s tend to say things like: "work on what you love."
       | 
       | But if you ask people in their 40s, 50s, even beyond, the advice
       | is: "Learn to love what you do, no matter what it is."
        
         | jefurii wrote:
         | This reminds me interviews with Japanese artisans who approach
         | their swordmaking/pottery/baking/tofu-making as a spiritual
         | practice. These all seem to be older people.
        
         | pwinnski wrote:
         | "Do what you love" is advice that comes from the enormous
         | privilege some people have to make money doing what they love.
         | I'm one of those people, so I get it, but many, many people
         | don't love computer programming or something else profitable.
         | 
         | So yes, "learn to love what you do" is much, much better
         | advice.
         | 
         | I've watched people (younger than I am) struggle with being in
         | jobs they didn't love, as if they were failing. The jobs may
         | have been failing them, but they weren't failing the jobs.
         | 
         | If you're lucky--as I am, as Sam Altman is--then you can do
         | what you love. Otherwise, you have to do what pays the bills
         | and leaves you enough free time to pursue what you love.
        
       | neronero wrote:
       | I find Sam Altman's essays completely devoid of any insight. He's
       | trying really hard to be like PG, while he simply doesn't have
       | the street-cred required. Case in point, when they did a series
       | of Y Combinator interviews a few years back Sam apparently
       | thought to himself that it would be appropriate for him to be
       | interviewed third following Elon and PG - in what world does that
       | make sense?
        
         | karagenit wrote:
         | For me, the value of a piece of writing has very little to do
         | with who wrote it. Successful people say silly or stupid things
         | all the time, so I try not to get caught up in their echo
         | chambers. Sure, most successful people are smart, but I'd argue
         | most smart people aren't that successful.
         | 
         | As for this essay, a lot of the points resonated with me, so I
         | liked it. I have no clue who Sam Altman is, and I don't think
         | it really matters.
        
           | neronero wrote:
           | That's the correct way to look at it. You want to evaluate
           | ideas on their own merits, but you also want to use
           | heuristics and proxies when determining which ideas to
           | consider in the sea of ideas on the Internet. A correct
           | heuristic to search for good ideas is to seek the opinion of
           | the previously successful people.
        
       | mistermann wrote:
       | > 25) Remember how intensely you loved your boyfriend/girlfriend
       | when you were a teenager? Love him/her that intensely now.
       | Remember how excited and happy you got about stuff as a kid? Get
       | that excited and happy now.
       | 
       | I find this one to be interesting. We typically take such things
       | as little more than obvious platitudes, but if you think about it
       | from a psychology/neuroscience perspective, it's actually very
       | interesting. Like, _why can 't_ the mind manifest such states as
       | easily when it is older? What are the _actual_ (as opposed to the
       | "just so"[1] theories) underlying causes, and can they be
       | circumvented?
       | 
       | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Just-so_story
        
       | cvaidya1986 wrote:
       | Timely read
        
       | zaptheimpaler wrote:
       | Look at any of his latest essays - its pretty hilarious how bad
       | they are, and how much they try to sound like PG. Makes me think
       | he landed the job by mimicking (and flattering) PG.
        
       | CPLX wrote:
       | I've always wondered how the philosophy and life insight of the
       | ruling elite varies between public and private comments. Most of
       | the advice here seems fairly anodyne and unobjectionable. Perhaps
       | a little overly focused on a certain kind of "success" but still
       | nothing I would think of as wrong or manipulative or anything.
       | 
       | But when he goes to something like Bohemian Grove and has
       | conversations to share insights and advice with the small
       | transnational group that essentially rules the global political
       | and financial system, do they also sound like this?
       | 
       | I don't have any first hand knowledge whatsoever but my gut
       | feeling says the answer is likely no.
        
         | Bakary wrote:
         | If you are a very wealthy or influential individual, you are
         | essentially trapped into certain sets of behavior.
         | 
         | You can still relate to other people, but the fact that you
         | could solve most of their problems on an individual basis with
         | an instant donation that would take you all of thirty seconds
         | creates a gulf that can't be reached over.
         | 
         | You can do a variety of activities, but these probably feel
         | much less interesting than doing things that have an influence
         | over a very large number of people. If you are, say, a CEO of a
         | successful company that CEO role will be the only source of a
         | certain type of feeling that can't be achieved elsewhere.
         | 
         | I'm certain you are right: within their technocratic circles,
         | they probably make far less wholesome and family-friendly
         | pronouncements about life. But it's not fundamentally
         | contradictory, just like a person can be crippled by an
         | addiction that turns them into a monster on a regular basis
         | while remaining normal, wise and approachable the remainder of
         | the time.
        
       | nobodyknowsyoda wrote:
       | 37) If you find something "Open", make sure to Close it
       | 
       | /s
        
       | jk7tarYZAQNpTQa wrote:
       | Every time I read some list of advices on life I can't help but
       | remember Mary Schmich's apocryphal speech "Wear Sunscreen" [1]
       | (and made famous by Baz Luhrmann [2]), from way back when the
       | Internet was young and wild.
       | 
       | Even though I think "Wear sunscreen" is not a great advice.
       | 
       | [1] https://www.chicagotribune.com/columns/chi-schmich-
       | sunscreen...
       | 
       | [2] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI
        
         | gautamcgoel wrote:
         | This was great, thanks for the recommendation!
        
         | svantana wrote:
         | In the same vein, I highly recommend the ironic self-help album
         | "Dancing For Mental Health" by Will Powers (sic).
         | 
         | https://open.spotify.com/album/4242hiYk7PAArDAd6XSWbZ
        
         | lotsofpulp wrote:
         | >Even though I think "Wear sunscreen" is not a great advice.
         | 
         | Why not?
        
           | glial wrote:
           | One person's answer:
           | 
           | https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/05/23/ssc-gives-a-
           | graduation...
        
             | lotsofpulp wrote:
             | I see. It wasn't even until a couple years ago that non
             | metal sunscreens were found to be useless.
        
       | Bakary wrote:
       | The advice isn't bad at all, but then you've heard it all before.
       | Most people tend to figure most of this out by the time they are
       | in their mid-thirties, or never do.
       | 
       | I can only speak from my own perspective, but the irony is that
       | the people I tend to be deeply impressed by don't tend to follow
       | this sort of mechanistic or "optimized wisdom" approach to life.
       | They tend to be more chaotic, less rational (sometimes
       | dangerously so), often dickish but always displaying a vision of
       | life that is deeply felt and never sterile. It may sound
       | paradoxical and counter-intuitive, but you could follow all of
       | the advice from the post and still lead an uninspired existence
       | that doesn't amount to much in the end. Some other posters here
       | mentioned how the list felt like an accusation, but I would say
       | in my case that I felt a rush of melancholy from its
       | superposition of being both solid actionable advice but also
       | deeply wrong in ways I can't fully express.
       | 
       | A person like the author does impress me, as they probably are
       | living up to whatever potential they were granted. I envy their
       | wealth, freedom to work on interesting things, and the fact that
       | they worked towards something and achieved it. But I don't get
       | that sense of unstoppable awe and desire that I get with people
       | like Hemingway, Napoleon, or even those few anonymous,
       | adventurous and idiosyncratic souls you once met that you still
       | think about from time to time. You probably have an example of
       | the latter in your own life that instantly came to mind when
       | reading this, or perhaps you can extrapolate a description of
       | them through the knowledge of the world you've garnered so far.
        
         | munificent wrote:
         | _> They tend to be more chaotic, less rational (sometimes
         | dangerously so), often dickish but always displaying a vision
         | of life that is deeply felt and never sterile._
         | 
         | Here's a chain of logic I'm pondering:
         | 
         | 1. Few things cut as deeply and personally as failure,
         | especially failure where the stakes are high.
         | 
         | 2. That implies that our failures are our most meaningful,
         | individual experiences.
         | 
         | 3. Which in turn implies that a life with a minimum of failure
         | is a life with little meaning or individuality to it.
         | 
         | 4. Does that therefore mean that those who have failed the
         | most, who have the greatest ratio of failure to success, are
         | the ones who are living life most vividly? How should I balance
         | that against the obvious reality that failing sucks?
         | 
         | In other words, if your goal is to live a unique life, the Anna
         | Karenina principle [1] implies that you should aim for
         | unhappiness.
         | 
         | [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anna_Karenina_principle
        
           | CPLX wrote:
           | If that's true than the most meaningful failure will be the
           | one with the highest stakes, which is your own death.
           | 
           | Following from that first principle you rationally conclude
           | you should kill yourself today.
           | 
           | Which points to a useful insight -- when the real world does
           | not agree with logic, examine your first principles.
        
             | munificent wrote:
             | Ah, no. The rational conclusion is that you should take the
             | world down with you. Which, I certainly hope would be
             | unsuccessful. But it would definitely be interesting!
        
           | clairity wrote:
           | that's putting the causality backwards. you should aim to
           | have interesting experiences and thoughts. the failure and
           | unhappiness will follow if that's what's in store. if you aim
           | for failure and unhappiness (the poor proxy), it's likely
           | you'll miss out on the interesting experiences and thoughts,
           | which is the meaningful part.
           | 
           | this is, again, how we get unintended (and unwanted)
           | consequences in so many aspects of our lives (partisanship is
           | another good example).
        
             | munificent wrote:
             | _> that 's putting the causality backwards._
             | 
             | Sure, I didn't necessarily claim that my list was literally
             | true. Just a thought exercise.
             | 
             |  _> you should aim to have interesting experiences and
             | thoughts._
             | 
             | I think is as prone to Goodhart's Law as my suggestion to
             | aim for unhappiness. If you try to deliberately aim for
             | interesting experiences and avoid uninteresting ones,
             | you'll need to gather some data first. So you ask around
             | and see what experiences other people find interesting.
             | But, of course, what could be more uninteresting than doing
             | what everyone else thinks is interesting?
        
         | redisman wrote:
         | I think that's true but people also need chances for the first
         | time to find out about things so repetition is fine. I remember
         | learning a few important things about myself from reading a
         | dubious self-help book when I was a teenager. I wouldn't
         | recommend that book to anyone as I now think it's mostly BS but
         | it did give me a few pointers to guide my life. It was
         | something akin to stoicism and hard work having meaning on
         | itself. I just had never had anyone talk to me about such
         | things. I really like posts that make you stop and think about
         | your life for a second.
        
         | bumby wrote:
         | > _But I don 't get that sense of unstoppable awe and desire
         | that I get with people like Hemingway, Napoleon, or even those
         | few anonymous, adventurous and idiosyncratic souls_
         | 
         | Here's what I wonder: is it possible to admire such people
         | while simultaneously acknowledging they live a semi-tortured
         | existence that may not be worth emulating?
         | 
         | I think the author was shooting for equanimity which may be
         | somewhat different than how those types would be described
        
         | matwood wrote:
         | Your last paragraph reminded me of this quote,
         | 
         |  _It is only possible to succeed at second-rate pursuits --
         | like becoming a millionaire or a prime minister, winning a war,
         | seducing beautiful women, flying through the stratosphere, or
         | landing on the moon. First-rate pursuits -- involving, as they
         | must, trying to understand what life is about and trying to
         | convey that understanding -- inevitably result in a sense of
         | failure. A Napoleon, a Churchill, or a Roosevelt can feel
         | himself to be successful, but never a Socrates, a Pascal, or a
         | Blake.
         | 
         | Understanding is forever unattainable. Therein lies the
         | inevitability of failure in embarking upon its quest, which is
         | none the less the only one worthy of serious attention._
         | 
         | --Malcom Muggeridge
        
           | Bakary wrote:
           | When I was younger, I was more impressed with the "second-
           | rate" category. Then I switched to that "first-rate" ideal he
           | describes. Now my understanding lies in the middle and I find
           | both types to be awe-inducing as long as they testify to a
           | lust for life or some degree of active curiosity. In fact, I
           | came to reject the binary and hierarchical classification
           | altogether. If you asked me to delineate precisely by what
           | criteria I find someone impressive or not, I could not for
           | the life of me give you a useful answer.
           | 
           | Even if a person were to attain an understanding of life
           | (which I agree is unattainable), they would still be faced
           | with the impermanence of it and the fact that some actions
           | are so intense and deeply felt as to need no further
           | justification for their undertaking. Life still has to be
           | lived after you come to conclusions about it. Or rather, the
           | full expression of life as far as we can understand it isn't
           | only to be found in contemplation but also in action,
           | creation, and simple serendipity whether thoughtless or
           | thoughtful.
           | 
           | A bit like that joke where a person picks wisdom instead of a
           | million dollars as a wish, then concludes that they should
           | have picked the money. I mean this in a metaphorical sense,
           | of course.
        
       | stanpinte wrote:
       | looks like https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FCuEEf4mGsk
        
       | mrmonkeyman wrote:
       | 30? Life lessons?
       | 
       | Give me a break.
        
       | 11thEarlOfMar wrote:
       | 5) On money: ... it can buy freedom
       | 
       | +
       | 
       | 14) Summers are the best.
       | 
       | = It's always Summer Somewhere.
        
         | kaybe wrote:
         | I'm not sure whether the summer experience is the same without
         | having lived through winter as well.
         | 
         | In spring every bit of green is celebrated by the winter
         | survivors, but if you just came in from the other hemisphere it
         | just feels empty.
        
           | baxtr wrote:
           | Winter is Great, for exactly 2 to 3 weeks. That would be
           | enough for me to appreciate the other seasons.
        
       | steve_adams_86 wrote:
       | > 5) On money: Whether or not money can buy happiness, it can buy
       | freedom
       | 
       | I strongly disagree, but only on a technicality or matter of
       | perception of what freedom means.
       | 
       | To me, money has nothing to do with true freedom. Money in and of
       | itself is a prison, like any external currency, and something I
       | have influence over but virtually no control.
       | 
       | Today I have money. Tomorrow, my currency could become worthless
       | or my home could burn down by no fault of my own. I could lose my
       | job, and what money seems available for me to enjoy myself with
       | will become essential for supporting myself in an uncertain
       | future.
       | 
       | There are other interesting facets of this, like - how many
       | people do you know who have much more money than you, but still
       | want more? How hard do they work for it, or how often do they
       | think about it? Are we ever free from wanting more of this kind
       | of freedom?
       | 
       | Certainly if we find a good balance and we have the fortune of
       | earning enough money to have disposable income, it can be freeing
       | in a sense. But it's dangerous to conflate wealth with freedom in
       | general. It requires a lot of good sense and responsibility to
       | use wealth wisely, I think.
       | 
       | I don't mean to be nit-picky or overly critical when the intent
       | of communication was fairly clear. I'm sure Sam knows better than
       | to equate money and freedom directly. I only think it's dangerous
       | to use language like this in a culture like the one I live in,
       | where people want more money so badly in order to be free, but it
       | never affords them anything you'd recognize as freedom.
       | 
       | > 19) Go out of your way to help people. Few things in life are
       | as satisfying. Be nice to strangers. Be nice even when it doesn't
       | matter.
       | 
       | 27) Forgive people.
       | 
       | 28) Don't chase status. Status without substance doesn't work for
       | long and is unfulfilling.
       | 
       | 31) Be grateful and keep problems in perspective. Don't complain
       | too much. Don't hate other people's success
       | 
       | 35) Don't judge other people too quickly. You never know their
       | whole story and why they did or didn't do something. Be
       | empathetic.
       | 
       | I love this advice!
        
         | Bakary wrote:
         | To come up with a definition of freedom, I'd say we have to
         | start from the premise of a certain degree of reliability. If
         | we take into account all the ways you can lose everything or
         | die early, it will always seem like a meaningless concept. But
         | in practice, these things don't always happen and many are able
         | to live long lives as evidenced by actuarial tables.
         | 
         | It's true that wealth can become a trap but it all depends on
         | your inherent personality. Many would have no problem
         | forgetting about the grind and be content using their newfound
         | wealth to do what they want in their own zone. It just so
         | happens that a propensity to be content is probably negatively
         | correlated with amassing large sums so you hear about those
         | people less often despite their great numbers. So I'd say that
         | yes, a significant but not absurd amount of money can already
         | go a really long way towards letting a person be free in a
         | sense we'd all recognize.
        
           | steve_adams_86 wrote:
           | I'm probably only remarking on this above because of my own
           | personal struggle with a desire for "freedom" and a false
           | equivalence of money and freedom at some point in my 20s. I
           | really believed I needed to earn more and I was a slave to
           | that notion without realizing it.
           | 
           | I grew up quite poor, and it took me a lot of years earning
           | more money than I needed to realize the dysfunction that was
           | occurring. I'm weary of it now, but having written that, I'm
           | realizing that most people here and reading this article are
           | likely well aware of this and the dissection of Sam's words
           | is unnecessary.
        
         | avrionov wrote:
         | You are missing his point on money. He is talking for way more
         | money than the regular person could get. In that case a person
         | doesn't need a job and can rebuild his house easily.
        
           | steve_adams_86 wrote:
           | Of course. I suppose what I meant to say too though is that
           | having no job and rebuilding your house has nothing to do
           | with freedom. At least, not the kind I want to exercise in my
           | own life. These things have value, but they don't define me
           | and they are almost entirely external. I don't want to define
           | my happiness or value by my ability to retire and rebuild a
           | house.
           | 
           | I don't mean to say everyone should feel this way, but I
           | think it's important to recognize the limitations of wealth
           | within the extents of what freedom can mean.
           | 
           | As I mentioned in another comment though, I'm realizing my
           | comment was totally unnecessary here. I'll leave it, but in
           | retrospect, it mostly served as a reminder to myself and
           | probably belongs in a journal, not on Hacker News.
        
       | pizza234 wrote:
       | > Aim to be the best in the world at whatever you do
       | professionally.
       | 
       | This is one of the things that sounds cool on paper, and make
       | people feel inspired, but doesn't really work like that in real
       | world.
       | 
       | Being extremely good in something requires a resource (time,
       | attention...) expenditure that easily eats the rest of life
       | (unless you're one of the few geniuses who can afford a balanced
       | life). In practice, if one aims really high, they will need to
       | take a conscious decision to sacrifice a significant part of
       | their life. This is in conflict with the "live a balanced life"
       | message underlying many of the points of the article.
       | 
       | This subject is in my opinion explored with much more depth (and
       | honesty) by Carmack in his graduation speech. [I] Advocate long,
       | hard work [...] embrace the grind :)
        
         | thundergolfer wrote:
         | Are you referring to John Carmack's speech at UKMC?
        
       | sharkweek wrote:
       | My god, am I feeling this right now. But absolutely not related
       | to starting a company or anything of the like.
       | 
       | Parent of a three year old and an infant. I cannot tell you how
       | fast those three years have gone by relative to any other time
       | period in my life. It is scaring me shitless if I'm being honest.
       | 
       | I brought this up to my dad who laughed and was like, "How do you
       | think I feel staring at my 30somethings son who now has his own
       | kids?"
       | 
       | When I remember to pause, slow down, and enjoy the littlest of
       | moments I find I'm the happiest. Simple, but difficult to
       | remember. Enjoy the long day as much as possible.
        
       | hikerclimber wrote:
       | both go at the same pace one just seems faster.
        
       | jdlyga wrote:
       | The 1990s felt like an entire lifetime. I was in Kindergarten
       | though High School.
       | 
       | The 2000s felt long too: High School through college to my first
       | job.
       | 
       | The 2010s was over super quick. I worked full time, changed jobs
       | twice, and got married. Hurricane Sandy in 2012 still feels like
       | yesterday.
       | 
       | I can imagine the 2020s will feel even shorter. And now we know
       | why all of our relatives always said "Wow you got so big!" every
       | time they saw us.
        
         | 11thEarlOfMar wrote:
         | If you're really in need of a depressing thought, there will
         | come a day when you actually ask the Internet: "How much longer
         | do I have?"
        
           | afdgadfgadfh wrote:
           | At least we can rely on fake news, spam and noise for one
           | thing: getting the answer wrong.
        
       | readingnews wrote:
       | "How to succeed: pick the right thing to do..."
       | 
       | Yes. And when you wake up every 10 years and go "dang, that was
       | not the right thing to do", you realize that, even if you were
       | successful, you are now unhappy. This one statement "pick the
       | right thing to do" is what mankind has struggled with for 1000s
       | of years. I have had a number of jobs, all of my previous
       | employers would tell you I am great, work hard, have exemplary
       | output, but you know what, every 5 years or so, I wake up and go
       | "wait a second, this is not what I want to do. This is not
       | right".
       | 
       | Not to bash the author, but "ok kids, be sure you are right, then
       | go for it" is great... if only any of us knew what was right.
        
         | samanator wrote:
         | I took it as "pick the right thing to do" as in what you
         | personally feel is normally right. As in "do the right thing".
        
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