[HN Gopher] What Is Social Cooling?
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       What Is Social Cooling?
        
       Author : dev_by_day
       Score  : 315 points
       Date   : 2021-01-12 12:51 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | jsight wrote:
       | I am curious, since this comes from being a good critical
       | thinker, is it provably true for each of these news sources?
       | 
       | "(Example - I have an advanced degree. This simple piece of data
       | predicts that: I despise and fear Donald Trump and the
       | Republicans; I am a good critical thinker who understands the
       | difference between the high journalistic standards of the New
       | York Times or the Washington Post and the non-existent ones of
       | Fox "News," Breitbart, etc.;"
        
         | musingsole wrote:
         | Are subjective professional standards ever provably true?
         | 
         | But to focus on that part of the statement misses the point of
         | this example from the article: it's about what the individual
         | is likely to believe predicted from a single datum. The
         | objective truth of those beliefs isn't relevant.
        
           | jsight wrote:
           | But is that true? I've known plenty of well educated folks
           | that do not "despise and fear" republicans. It seems that
           | details are not so easy to discern from a single data point
           | as he implies.
        
             | musingsole wrote:
             | If it's not specifically true, it's proverbial. Stories
             | such as this[1] abound.
             | 
             | Since I first read the post, it's been updated, but an
             | earlier version in that same example called out unlikely to
             | be Mormon. This similarly seems unlikely to me (of my
             | acquaintances, being Mormon would dramatically increase
             | your odds of having an advanced degree).
             | 
             | 1: https://www.networkworld.com/article/2878394/mit-
             | researchers...
        
       | touchpadder wrote:
       | I became interested in economics just because I was searching for
       | some boring stuff to post in my Facebook feed to lower my
       | insurance quote on a Camaro SS.
        
       | anovikov wrote:
       | I hope this is true. If that happens, the tragic events of last
       | week will not repeat.
        
       | RicoElectrico wrote:
       | Yeah. I see my friends sharing less and less content on FB these
       | days. But then again, most stuff you see on a typical FB feed
       | today is ads, groups, fanpages, Marketplace and whatnot.
       | Definitely way less content related to friends (other than their
       | fanpage comments). Can we just go ten years back where everything
       | was more spontaneous and candid? Where the thing to raise your
       | pressure was your crush's hot beach photos, not people making
       | themselves idiots in politically charged flamewars.
        
         | theshrike79 wrote:
         | The worst part is that FB is a really shitty platform for any
         | kind of group.
         | 
         | There's no way to collect all discussion of, say, a new product
         | the company the group is about released. You'll get dozens of
         | threads of the same thing for weeks and weeks without any way
         | of directing everyone to the same one.
         | 
         | You can pin posts with instructions - no one sees that shit,
         | because no one actually visits the groups "front page" after
         | they've joined.
        
         | cmdshiftf4 wrote:
         | > Can we just go ten years back where everything was more
         | spontaneous and candid?
         | 
         | No. That life is sadly dead and gone, the damage of politics /
         | identity politics as most dominant identity, bias enforcing
         | algorithms and creepy behavioural psychology manipulation as
         | "user experience" has not just corrupted the internet
         | permanently but likely how we see and deal with one another
         | online also.
        
           | xpe wrote:
           | Please keep in mind that even the term _identity politics_ is
           | fraught with misunderstanding. Even a quick skimming of
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Identity_politics shows how
           | complex even the term can be.
           | 
           | Here are only three examples of how _identity politics_ might
           | be used. It can be used to describe:
           | 
           | 1. how minority groups fight oppression based on skin color
           | 
           | 2. how a majority group, perceiving a threat, joins together
           | (often based on baser instincts)
           | 
           | 3. a tendency for political parties to connect primarily on
           | surface-level attributes of people, rather than substantive
           | root causes
           | 
           | Which of these (if any) do you mean when you talk about
           | _identity politics_?
           | 
           | Caveat: I am no expert on the term.
        
           | tachyonbeam wrote:
           | I keep hoping that eventually there will be some kind of push
           | back against identity politics, and that we will go back to
           | more of a "live and let live" kind of attitude. Maybe people
           | will get sick of outrage culture and the narrative will
           | eventually shift. Social dynamics are complex, but what you
           | need to change the attitude of the public is essentially a
           | number of thought leaders praising a different attitude.
        
             | xeeeeeeeeeeenu wrote:
             | >I keep hoping that eventually there will be some kind of
             | push back against identity politics
             | 
             | There is some, but it's tiny. /r/stupidpol subreddit is an
             | example of that.
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | What effects do you anticipate from this subreddit?
               | 
               | I wonder if such a subreddit is mostly for amusement
               | purposes; i.e. blowing off steam, laughing at the
               | spectacle.
               | 
               | Do you think it can help play a part in forming broader
               | coalitions (which I think is a hallmark of non-identity
               | politics)?
        
             | Noos wrote:
             | Why? It works spectacularly well. It's funny to watch all
             | these people who use it suddenly get up and bashful about
             | it now and then; the democrats won house, senate, and
             | presidency very much focusing on identity politics.
             | 
             | I think if anything, the scary thing is that it works
             | better than caring about the poor at all. It wasn't
             | democratic ideas about poverty that made them such a
             | force...just accuse people of homophobia and you've already
             | put them on the defensive if not won. "Alt-right" is such a
             | wonderful tool-just hint someone is it, and a person's mind
             | does all the rest even though they may have no idea what it
             | even means. Just say it long enough and loud enough in the
             | right tone of disapproval and you have magic.
             | 
             | I'm not sure how much of this is /s.
             | 
             | When I was against gay marriage, I sat down and tried to
             | think a lot about how marriage related to procreation or
             | was a special institution. How religion related to it, and
             | whether or not it needed protection. I did feel eventually
             | civil unions were the strongest compromise, because there
             | were legal aspects to recognizing couples that were
             | important but the special nature of heterosexual marriage
             | and its relation to tradition and religion mattered to. You
             | can disagree about gay marriage but realize that there are
             | definitely things gay couples should have in a legal sense
             | too; hospital visitation rights as one. A lot really was
             | uncertainty about metaphysical and philosophical ideas I
             | think.
             | 
             | But all you had to do to shut all that down was to accuse
             | me of homophobia and bigotry. It's insanely effective
             | because a person has to now defend that whatever he is
             | proposing isn't because of deep-seated irrational phobia or
             | anger. It really worked.
             | 
             | Now i pretty much just shrug and say "What are you going to
             | do, you're conquered." Pay the Dane the Danegeld when he
             | asks.
             | 
             | Gay marriage as an actual act is not really a success. In
             | my state last year all of 700 people got married in same
             | sex couples out of a population of 4 million, and even with
             | the low straight marriage rate here thats 700 out of 20,000
             | a year I believe, not even .05 percent. Ever since mid 2015
             | we have never seen even 1000 people a year use it. That's
             | the huge irony of all those identity politics...they were a
             | club to beat people with more than a vital need it seemed.
             | 
             | It's easier and more effective to use identity politics.
             | They aren't going away. I mean lord, "live and let live"-be
             | honest, you think you're going to allow us to do that with
             | climate change an issue? When you want us to learn to love
             | the veggie burger and electric bike everywhere instead of
             | using cars?
             | 
             | I mean it doesn't work well on the receiving end but hey,
             | like the simpsons treehouse of horror episode, sometimes
             | the dolphins just want it more. Luckily it seems people get
             | embarassed of conquering after a bit so it fades.
        
               | dutchCourage wrote:
               | > the democrats won house, senate, and presidency very
               | much focusing on identity politics.
               | 
               | I'd say the republicans did that. And even after the 4
               | years of gaslighting and bigotry, they almost did it
               | again. I wouldn't say it's the democrats who make topics
               | like wearing a mask or the destruction of the environment
               | political.
               | 
               | Now you have democrats who play that game too, but since
               | they have the facts "in their favor" it's to their
               | detriment (I'm putting quotes here because covid and
               | global warming being real isn't to anyone's favor, but
               | it's facts). Mud fights benefit those without good
               | arguments.
               | 
               | That said, I agree with your post, antagonizing people
               | doesn't help changing minds.
        
               | Noos wrote:
               | See, its easier to accuse people of bigotry than look at
               | their actual problems. Trump didn't win because the
               | modern left sucked hard at actually helping the poor,
               | they did because they were gaslighted by bigots.
        
               | concordDance wrote:
               | Not sure "live and let live" applies to things with
               | direct externalities like burning fossil fuels, for that
               | you need an emissions tax.
        
               | eulenteufel wrote:
               | Not allowing homosexual people the right to marry is very
               | much not "live and let live". There is a whole lot of
               | married heterosexual people who do not and will not have
               | kids, for all kinds of reason. If the US would like to
               | encourage/support people getting kids they could
               | legislate support for that.
               | 
               | What remains is not allowing homosexual couples the same
               | treatment as heterosexual couples, because heterosexual
               | couples are "special" for religious and traditionalist
               | reasons. This is very strong identity politics, but from
               | conservative side and very much contrary to the spirit of
               | "live and let live". It strikes me how many conservatives
               | do not realize that they very much support identity
               | politics and then go raging against it the next moment.
               | 
               | Treating people equally should be the default and is the
               | result of not caring about identity in the first place.
               | There are some good arguments that can be made for
               | identity politics after that, but the case against equal
               | treatment should have to be a really strong one.
               | Traditions and religious feelings do not suffice for that
               | in my opinions.
               | 
               | Even when the absolute numbers of homosexual marriages is
               | very small that doesn't justify not caring about unequal
               | treatment. Imagine if we would tax all identical twins 5%
               | more than everybody else. This nonsensical unequal
               | treatment would clearly be unacceptable injustice while
               | the percentage of people that are affected is still very
               | small.
               | 
               | On top of that there are social explanations why
               | homosexual people would be less likely to marry. Marriage
               | has long been a religious and traditionalist institution
               | and has been used to discriminate against them. It can be
               | hard to identify with such an institution and I know
               | queer people who would not like get married because of
               | that. If marriage had been available to everybody since
               | as long as they can remember considering marriage would
               | perhaps come more natural.
        
               | Noos wrote:
               | the "childless" het couple was a good argument that
               | caused no end of trouble. To be honest it was a darker
               | sign I think, that heterosexual couples themselves had
               | internalized cultural norms and the institution itself
               | was no longer special so much to be worth protecting.
               | 
               | I think there were conservatives who realized this, and
               | this was the reason why "the state should get out of
               | marriage entirely" was pushed as a solution. That too was
               | shot down harshly. At that point I personally gave up I
               | think. It's like abortion...the issue is not "should a
               | woman have a right to it," the issue is that now we live
               | in a society where premarital sex is the norm and
               | abortion is just restoring equity to the new norm.
               | 
               | The real numbers..look, it was literally hilarious to me
               | that the same people who were arguing "marriage was only
               | a piece of paper" in their own lives suddenly turned
               | around and became strict advocates of it in the lives of
               | a small minority of people. If religious people had said
               | "okay, we accept gay people, but they need to follow the
               | same teachings we do-be the husband of one husband, no
               | premarital sex, and no sex outside marriage" everyone
               | here would have railed against marriage as a tool of
               | straight fascism or something.
               | 
               | I'm not meaning the low numbers means its should be
               | revoked though. If anything it's the reverse. We did all
               | that trouble, all that hate and strife...can you all
               | please use it at least? When you fight desperately for
               | the right for something, and in reality barely anyone
               | seems to use it, what was the fighting done for?
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | > Now i pretty much just shrug and say "What are you
               | going to do, you're conquered."
               | 
               | Why do you use the 'conquered' language?
               | 
               | Very few things are static under a long enough time
               | horizon. In politics and public opinion, things can
               | change quite quickly. So, if you want to prioritize an
               | issue, go for it.
        
               | Noos wrote:
               | I use it because I feel people are fundamentally
               | dishonest sometimes about the implications of their
               | ideas.
               | 
               | Some political ideas are not "we must both give up
               | something to exist together." Some are "My idea is
               | morally right, and by necessity it must conquer yours." I
               | use SSM more because it's a pure example of this; what
               | exactly did marriage advocates "give up" in the bargain?
               | It was the opponents who more or less had to capitulate
               | near totally.
               | 
               | This is what culture war is. It is the use of politics to
               | establish ideas and defeat or subjugate those who
               | disagree with it. This does not mean it is inherently
               | immoral; one of the frustrating things about this is the
               | realization that no, the conquerors are not the rapacious
               | Mongols we think they are. But i think people often don't
               | get how much a political idea can be subjugation more
               | than compromise.
               | 
               | As for changing, nah. Can you imagine a world where it
               | has changed so much divorce becomes illegal again? What
               | would it take for people to cast it off? If we were
               | possible of this kind of change as a group I think we'd
               | have far less to worry about climate change for example.
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | > I use SSM more because it's a pure example of this;
               | what exactly did marriage advocates "give up" in the
               | bargain? It was the opponents who more or less had to
               | capitulate near totally.
               | 
               | I am fascinated by your language use of "capitulate"
               | here. You are framing this discussion very much with the
               | language of "subjugation".
               | 
               | Here is how I frame one category of public policy
               | involving allocation of scarce resources. In the case of
               | legislation that adjusts spending from general revenue,
               | each taxpayer shares the responsibility. Individuals who
               | attempt to withhold that portion of the tax will face
               | penalties. This is one way a government can wield power.
               | The power is often implied, but if necessary, it can be
               | backed up with various enforcement mechanisms. These
               | mechanisms may be coercive, but they are subject to the
               | rule of law.
               | 
               | Now, with regards to granting privileges to same-sex
               | couples, I do not see this as an issue involving scarce
               | resources. A person who opposes same-sex marriage is not
               | directly harmed by someone else's partnership receiving
               | the right for hospital visitation, for example.
               | 
               | In fact, I think the opponent of SSM, in practice,
               | benefits in ways they don't even recognize. Happier, more
               | fulfilled people tend to lead to a more vibrant culture,
               | stronger economy, and overall better quality of life --
               | for everyone. One of the classic ironic Hollywood
               | storylines is about a homophobic man who grows up to be a
               | father of a gay son. Over time, he realizes he was wrong.
               | 
               | At the same time, I can understand how this opponent of
               | SSM may _feel_ worse off. Unfortunately, this person
               | wants their _private morality_ to be imposed on
               | _everyone_.
               | 
               | For background on how I am using _public morality_ and
               | _private morality_ , see the writings of Robert Kaine. He
               | argues _against_ moral relativism while supporting the
               | importance of value systems that are compatible with
               | democratic ideals. In short, not all private moralities
               | are equal in this sense: not all are compatible with a
               | pluralistic public morality.
               | 
               | To be clear, Kaine's reasoning does _not_ demand a total
               | ordering of private moralities. Indeed, it steers clear
               | of that issue.
               | 
               | So, in conclusion, while I can _sympathize_ with people
               | who don 't get their way (which I frame as "having their
               | private beliefs codified into law"), I don't think they
               | have been treated unjustly. Not all private beliefs are
               | compatible with pluralistic democratic values. Sometimes
               | society has to choose.
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | > what exactly did marriage advocates "give up" in the
               | bargain?
               | 
               | This is poorly framed. This is not about "bargaining".
               | 
               | This is a case of _people_ demanding and advocating for
               | their rights. There is no principled reason to ask while
               | doing so they should  "bargain away" those rights.
               | 
               | Sure, opponents of same-sex marriage may disagree.
               | 
               | There are some schools of thought that try to separate,
               | shame, or exclude others based on some criteria, whether
               | it be sexual orientation, educational background, or
               | socioeconomic status.
               | 
               | I see a pattern around intolerance. People that have
               | exclusionary beliefs don't have a good track record --
               | here's what I mean -- these belief systems do not survive
               | contact with reality, unless the person with that belief
               | system digs in their feet and refuses to engage with real
               | people. For example, it may be "easy" for someone to be
               | homophobic if that is how they were raised, but this
               | belief system is unlikely to survive if the person has a
               | gay son _and_ they are open to talking with their son and
               | learning about the issue.
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | > Some political ideas are not "we must both give up
               | something to exist together." Some are "My idea is
               | morally right, and by necessity it must conquer yours."
               | 
               | I think I see what you mean, as a general concept,
               | although I think using "conquer" is a poor word choice.
               | The word "conquer" tends to imply force.
               | 
               | There are many tensions between ideas in law, life, and
               | philosophy that are resolved by economics, thinking,
               | compromise, persuasion, voting, organizing, and group
               | behavior rather than force.
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | > But I think people often don't get how much a political
               | idea can be subjugation more than compromise.
               | 
               | Based on your comment so far, I will say that I don't get
               | what you are trying to say.
               | 
               | Do you mean this: those who define the terms of a debate
               | shape how it is perceived, what options are considered,
               | and (to some degree) how it is evaluated?
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | Are you arguing that granting a particular kind of same-
               | sex union involves "subjugating" people who opposed it?
               | 
               | I (and most people I think) use the word subjugation to
               | mean "bring under domination or control, especially by
               | conquest: the invaders had soon subjugated most of the
               | native population." Traditional examples of subjugation
               | include occupations and forced religion.
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | > Pay the Dane the Danegeld when he asks.
               | 
               | For context, from Wikipedia:
               | 
               | > "Dane-geld" is a poem by British writer Rudyard Kipling
               | (1865-1936). It relates to the unwisdom of paying
               | "Danegeld", or what is nowadays called blackmail and
               | protection money. The most famous lines are "once you
               | have paid him the Danegeld/ You never get rid of the
               | Dane."
               | 
               | I don't follow why you reference blackmail or protection
               | money. Can you explain?
        
               | Noos wrote:
               | I guess I misused it some. I felt it more was "pay the
               | conqueror his due when he asks, and get on with the
               | business of living." The Dane is already here, and we
               | aren't getting rid of him.
        
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               | xpe wrote:
               | > When I was against gay marriage, I sat down and tried
               | to think a lot about... [many details] ... You can
               | disagree about gay marriage but realize that there are
               | definitely things gay couples should have in a legal
               | sense too; hospital visitation rights as one. A lot
               | really was uncertainty about metaphysical and
               | philosophical ideas I think.
               | 
               | Good points. I am glad you thought about it, even if you
               | came to different conclusions than I would have.
               | 
               | > But all you had to do to shut all that down was to
               | accuse me of homophobia and bigotry.
               | 
               | To state the obvious: I never accused you of that.
               | 
               | I'm not stating the obvious to be confrontational; I'm
               | saying it because I've heard this argument frequently
               | from people I know that disagree with my politically.
               | 
               | For example, I've met thoughtful people that feel
               | attacked because they want to think through issues rather
               | than jump on a bandwagon. I am very glad they are being
               | thoughtful and see nuance in the issues.
               | 
               | So here is what I hope to learn: I'd like to know why
               | _you_ feel this way. Do you _personally_ think that
               | someone like _me_ , perhaps from a different political
               | philosophy, is judging you (as opposed to the underlying
               | ideas)?
               | 
               | (I have some guesses, but I would rather not speculate.)
        
               | Noos wrote:
               | I'm saying it because the left learned very quickly that
               | you can bypass the hard work of arguing positions by
               | instead arguing the holder of them is irrational and or
               | evil in a sense. It's much more effective to call someone
               | else evil than to put forwards your ideas of good.
               | 
               | By calling me irrational, I do not need to be compromised
               | with or taken seriously; compromise and dialogue is based
               | on the fact that people are both making good faith
               | efforts to engage. Part of what is chilling about the
               | whole social media thing recently is that it's arguing
               | that it causes people to be in an irrational state and
               | not to be taken seriously. Go home trump voters; you are
               | drunk on social media.
               | 
               | So yeah, there is a lot of judging going on, because that
               | kind of judging is more effective than compromise. You
               | yourself sound like you are open minded more because
               | people will need time to come to the undeniable truth
               | than anything.
        
               | vladTheInhaler wrote:
               | A big part of the confusion is that you seem to treat
               | this like an abstract matter of philosophical debate,
               | because frankly, you don't really have a personal stake
               | in it. That's not meant as an insult, just a statement of
               | fact. As a straight, white male, neither do I. But it's
               | not reasonable to expect someone to engage in
               | dispassionate discourse about their own safety and their
               | right to be treated like a human being. It's easy to
               | forget because of how rapid and sweeping the change in
               | public opinion was in the US, but in many other countries
               | (and quite a few places in this one) LGBTQ rights are
               | still a matter of life and death.
               | 
               | And this is the problem with so many debates - the people
               | who are largely comfortable with the status quo are
               | confused because people in marginalized groups are
               | screaming at them, when they didn't really do anything to
               | those people. In fact they may, in some abstract way, be
               | supportive of their struggle. But the people are
               | screaming because a third party has a gun (literally or
               | figuratively) to their heads. So in order for there to be
               | a real conversation, first we need to get that guy to put
               | the gun down. Nothing else can happen until then.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | >Gay marriage as an actual act is not really a success.
               | 
               | I have friends who are able to enjoy the benefits of a
               | legal contract and existing case law and precedents that
               | was previously restricted to man/woman couples. Seems
               | like a success to me.
               | 
               | >live and let live"-be honest, you think you're going to
               | allow us to do that with climate change an issue? When
               | you want us to learn to love the veggie burger and
               | electric bike everywhere instead of using cars?
               | 
               | You can live and let live with gay marriage, it doesn't
               | affect you in any way. Neither does a veggie burger, and
               | no one has ever wanted you to love a veggie burger. I do
               | want it as an option for my kid in school, however.
               | 
               | Climate change, and cars are not live and let live
               | issues, since they have massive externalities that affect
               | everyone.
        
               | Noos wrote:
               | I don't think you understand how tiny the numbers are for
               | the war people fought.
               | 
               | Like let's assume in my state we take the fairly average
               | assumption of LGBT population at 5%. Now let's also take
               | a marriage rate of 5 per 1000, which is pretty low given
               | that this is a historic opportunity. Even granting this,
               | the actual numbers indicate a rate close to 3 per 1000.
               | This is close to half of the current rates, which are
               | widely seen as historic lows:
               | 
               | https://www.jec.senate.gov/public/index.cfm/republicans/2
               | 020...
               | 
               | This is in a new england state. So it's not something you
               | accuse due to being in the Bible belt. In actual numbers,
               | the impact of gay marriage is fairly tiny. Your friends
               | are outliers. It's actually tiny enough to hurt a lot of
               | compelling reasons for it; state-sanctioned marriage as a
               | tool to help combat gay male promiscuity for one, or any
               | form of economic benefit to it. Ironically SSM wasn't
               | something to worry about because the people who want or
               | need it are small enough a population not to impact
               | anything in practice; it was more of an ideological issue
               | it seems.
               | 
               | As for climate change, yeah my point is if we do identity
               | politics now, over things which are let or let live, what
               | is going to happen when there are things that we cannot
               | do so? I think it will ramp up more even.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | >It's actually tiny enough to hurt a lot of compelling
               | reasons for it; state-sanctioned marriage as a tool to
               | help combat gay male promiscuity for one, or any form of
               | economic benefit to it.
               | 
               | I'm not sure what this statement means. Are you claiming
               | combating gay male promiscuity is beneficial for society?
               | 
               | >Ironically SSM wasn't something to worry about because
               | the people who want or need it are small enough a
               | population not to impact anything in practice; it was
               | more of an ideological issue it seems.
               | 
               | I disagree. Freedom, for populations small or big, for
               | actions that have no effect on anyone else is very
               | important to worry about it. And I don't see what can be
               | wrong with that ideological issue, unless you're anti
               | freedom.
               | 
               | >As for climate change, yeah my point is if we do
               | identity politics now, over things which are let or let
               | live, what is going to happen when there are things that
               | we cannot do so? I think it will ramp up more even.
               | 
               | With any limited resource (such as the global environment
               | and natural resources like clean water and air), the ones
               | with power will end up with most of it, and the people
               | alive have more power than the people that have yet to be
               | born.
               | 
               | The only identity politics that matter in the climate
               | change situation is those who will consume today or those
               | who will sacrifice today. But I predict this will be an
               | unsolvable problem due to lack of buy in from the global
               | population, for variety of reasons.
        
               | XorNot wrote:
               | 700 out of 20000 is 3.5%.
               | 
               | The gay population is estimated at roughly 10% but we're
               | talking couples so 3.5% would imply a surprisingly high
               | rate of marriages amongst gay people within the year over
               | year married population.
        
               | Noos wrote:
               | The marriage rate is at 6 per 1000 in the states, and its
               | a historic low; it used to be high as 15 per 1000 maybe
               | 20-30 years ago? I posted a link upthread.
               | 
               | Actually what's ironic is that my state's capitol is
               | heralded as "one of the gayest cities in america" for
               | having a percentage of 4.6%. San fransico seems to be
               | 6.2%. This link is dated 6 years ago, though:
               | 
               | https://www.ctpost.com/living/article/Which-are-the-
               | gayest-c...
        
               | XorNot wrote:
               | And so what? If the % of gay people is lower then that
               | makes the proportion of gay couples getting married by
               | your own offered statistics even higher.
               | 
               | I have no idea what offering them marriage rate in
               | isolation is contributing otherwise.
               | 
               | To loop this back around to the topic at hand though, it
               | is bizzare to use the rate of utilisation of one's rights
               | as an argument as to whether or not people should have
               | them.
        
             | SulfurHexaFluri wrote:
             | The problem I see is that the US has some very serious and
             | widespread flaws. The live and let live attitude doesn't
             | push for resolution to these issues.
             | 
             | If we say for example the police system is not working as
             | it should and many people are dying or being locked away
             | unnecessarily, how do you fix this when the leaders of your
             | country are unwilling to do anything. The only options you
             | have make you one of those 'identity politics people'.
        
               | concordDance wrote:
               | Just don't tie police reform to identity politics
               | narratives.
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | > how do you fix this when the leaders of your country
               | are unwilling to do anything
               | 
               | We have to find and grow new leaders! :)
               | 
               | My general comment is: please, pick one issue you care
               | about, study it, find the leverage points, and make time
               | to get involved. This might mean joining an organization,
               | volunteering, making a tech project to share what you've
               | learned -- even running for office.
               | 
               | Based on your username, I would guess perhaps you are
               | already involved to some degree around pollution or
               | environmental issues [1]. Let me know if you want someone
               | to bounce ideas off of. I also can offer this
               | perspective: ongoing dissatisfaction, properly harnessed,
               | can be a great motivator for change.
               | 
               | [1] https://www.cdc.gov/niosh/npg/npgd0576.html
        
             | scythe wrote:
             | >be some kind of push back against identity politics
             | 
             | It's funny that this is expressed in a culture war kind of
             | way: the identity politics crowd versus the "against
             | identity politics" crowd.
             | 
             | Sometimes social phenomena don't dissipate because of push-
             | back, but because they simply fizzle out, like a fire that
             | consumed all of the underbrush. I think that's a more apt
             | analogy for how we can expect the current era of identity
             | politics to end, if it does. You can't shoot guns in the
             | name of peace, and you can't "push back" against too much
             | shoving.
        
               | tachyonbeam wrote:
               | I agree that some things fizzle out. It seems to me
               | people collectively get bored with some ideas and move to
               | something else. There's also infighting within the
               | radical left.
        
               | inglor_cz wrote:
               | "because they simply fizzle out, like a fire that
               | consumed all of the underbrush"
               | 
               | That depends on consequences.
               | 
               | For example, if there are jobs that depend on
               | continuation of social phenomena, their holders will
               | fight tooth and nail not to let this happen.
               | 
               | Universities now have special administrators dedicated to
               | diversity, equity and inclusion. These are someone's
               | livelihoods and also sources of power. Will the
               | incumbents simply say "there is no more interest in
               | identity politics, our task is done, we made ourselves
               | redundant"?
               | 
               | No. As long as they are paid to promote, say, inclusion,
               | they will always push the idea that more must be done.
        
               | vkou wrote:
               | You need to think bigger.
               | 
               | Consider that _all_ jobs depend on the continuation of
               | social phenomena.
               | 
               | Think, for a moment, about the sentiment of 'They took
               | our jobs'. (With 'They' being Jews, immigrants, Mexicans,
               | China, or some other boogieman of the week.)
               | 
               | As long as there are jobs, people with them will always
               | push the idea that some 'Other' is coming to take away
               | their livelihood.
               | 
               | It's all identity politics - it's just that when its
               | practiced by the political right, they don't call it
               | that. It wouldn't be part of their identity to engage in
               | them, after all.
               | 
               | But, of course, if you call out and challenge this, _you_
               | will be accused of engaging in identity politics.
        
             | vkou wrote:
             | > I keep hoping that eventually there will be some kind of
             | push back against identity politics, and that we will go
             | back to more of a "live and let live" kind of attitude.
             | 
             | "Live and let live" only ever worked for acceptable
             | identities. You did not have that luxury if you were, say,
             | gay prior to the early oughts.
             | 
             | I think you're looking at the past through rose-tinted
             | glasses. It was less 'live and let live' and more 'sit down
             | and shut up if you are different'.
             | 
             | Now those people have a voice, and a lot of folks are
             | finding it quite upsetting.
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | I feel the frustration of your post. I agree with what
               | you are saying.
               | 
               | Perhaps it can help to remember this: some of us here may
               | not realize that even the term _identity politics_ has a
               | complex history. From Wikipedia:
               | 
               | > The term was coined by the Combahee River Collective in
               | 1977. The collective group of women saw identity politics
               | as an analysis that introduced opportunity for Black
               | women to be actively involved in politics, while
               | simultaneously acting as a tool to authenticate Black
               | women's personal experiences. It took on widespread usage
               | in the early 1980s, and in the ensuing decades has been
               | employed in myriad cases with radically different
               | connotations dependent upon the term's context.
        
               | tachyonbeam wrote:
               | Depends. Not every part of the world has the same
               | culture, and it didn't suddenly become OK to be gay
               | everywhere on some specific date. In the 1960s, it was
               | probably much more OK to be gay in say, San Francisco
               | than in Detroit.
               | 
               | In the 1960s, I believe SF did have much more of a live
               | and let live attitude than much of the rest of the world,
               | but IMO, SF is now a not really tolerant place anymore.
               | There's very much a dominant narrative being imposed by
               | the big silicon valley players, but culture does change
               | over time. If you try to enforce certain political ideas
               | and suppress others, you inevitably give rise to some
               | kind of counter-culture, it seems.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | >If you try to enforce certain political ideas and
               | suppress others, you inevitably give rise to some kind of
               | counter-culture, it seems.
               | 
               | Is intolerance of intolerance intolerance?
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | I recommend thinking about this question in the context
               | of _public morality_ versus _private morality_.
               | 
               | I recommend this book by Robert Kane: "Through the Moral
               | Maze: Searching for Absolute Values in a Pluralistic
               | World"
               | 
               | GoodReads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1654373.Th
               | rough_the_Mora...
               | 
               | A book review by Bruce Ballard:
               | https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/abs/10.1086/490166
        
             | yaster wrote:
             | I just made this decision today. I'm out. I'm done with all
             | of it. If everyone wants to hate each other and spend each
             | minute of their short lives pointing fingers, fighting, and
             | stressing out, go ahead. I'm going to try to find whatever
             | peace I can and find people I can respect and whose company
             | I can enjoy. The rest of this is poison.
        
               | Karunamon wrote:
               | This is my take on it. I've blocked all political-related
               | terms on my social media, and will actively mute/unfollow
               | people who constantly bring the subject up.
               | 
               | 99% of this junk amounts to fear/outrage porn that is
               | non-actionable for me. There's no reason to devote even
               | an iota of mental energy to it.
        
             | cmdshiftf4 wrote:
             | My only hope is that the rest of the Western world takes
             | note from observing the dissolution and atomization of US
             | society at the hands of identity politics and makes a firm
             | choice to not let their own societies traverse the same
             | path.
             | 
             | I, sadly, do not see how America comes out of this
             | together, embracing a "live and let live" type attitude, in
             | a world where identity politics does not continue to
             | dominate the narrative, when a large bulk of the mainstream
             | has stoked, embraced and celebrated a loosely constructed
             | contextually and historically ignorant hierarchy and
             | narrative of the "oppressed" and of the "oppressors". Where
             | one half of the populace believes the nation itself to be
             | fundamentally good , worthwhile or indeed "the best", and
             | the other believes it to be rotten to the core not just now
             | but since its very beginning. Where one half believes that
             | the 2020 election was genuinely stolen from them by
             | socialists and communists, and the other genuinely believes
             | they've just defeated something in line with Adolf Hitler,
             | who himself stole the 2016 election thanks to Russians with
             | a couple million of FB ad spend.
             | 
             | I hope to be wrong.
        
             | potta_coffee wrote:
             | Pushback is absolutely crushed. It's impossible to really
             | be an active user of most of these platforms without
             | representing the desired view.
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | Can you think of examples of online platforms that combat
               | this tendency?
               | 
               | One that comes to mind for me is Lobsters. I'm interested
               | in other examples as well as mechanisms for striking a
               | balance between civility and diversity of opinion.
        
               | potta_coffee wrote:
               | Lobsters is invite only and I don't know anyone to give
               | me an invite, but it seems like discussions there are
               | pretty good from what I've seen.
               | 
               | The only other places I've seen that aren't this way are
               | various chan style sites and oldschool internet forums,
               | but those places have their own obvious problems.
        
             | xpe wrote:
             | What does _identity politics_ mean to you?
             | 
             | Do you see it as an opposite of "live and let live"
             | attitude?
             | 
             | (I don't quite follow)
        
               | tachyonbeam wrote:
               | The way I encounter it, identity politics is a divisive
               | ideology, or a political tool, used to make judgements
               | about groups of people based on external characteristics
               | such as skin color, gender and sexual orientation, with
               | little to no regard for the actual circumstances these
               | people came from or currently live in.
               | 
               | For example, cis-white-males are often demonized, binned
               | as oppressors. If you take a step back and think about
               | it, a lot of cis-white-males were born in US states with
               | huge meth and fentanyl addiction problems. Raised in
               | trailer parks, in poverty, with maybe one or both parents
               | missing and no access to education. If you paint poverty
               | and access to education as being purely a race problem,
               | and white males as always being oppressors, you are
               | leaving people behind. We can't afford to do that. We
               | collectively pay the price, as a society, somewhere down
               | the road.
               | 
               | With regards to "live and let live", many prominent
               | advocates of identity politics are very hostile people.
               | They do not welcome discussion, they do not want your
               | input. Either you have the same opinion as them, or you
               | are an alt-right, a bad person. The correct opinion has
               | been decided once and for all by social justice
               | academics, and either you're onboard, or you're
               | necessarily ignorant and wrong. Kind of like George W
               | Bush said "you're either with us, or against us".
        
         | potta_coffee wrote:
         | 10 years ago, social media platforms hadn't gamed their
         | algorithms to oblivion. Platforms are the problem, this is the
         | formula that maximizes engagement that benefits them and ad
         | revenue. The real answer is probably just to ditch social
         | media. I can't see any for-profit social media product ever not
         | turning into a toxic cesspool.
        
           | deckard1 wrote:
           | > the formula that maximizes engagement that benefits them
           | and ad revenue
           | 
           | The algorithms have only settled down on the extremes which
           | we've already known sell: sex, violence, fear, outrage.
           | 
           | Fox News was selling fear and outrage long before Facebook's
           | algorithms discovered that fear and outrage sells. Every
           | grocery store had tabloids right there at the checkout,
           | already optimized for engagement from those with obvious
           | self-control and critical thinking issues. In fact, the
           | grocery store is an excellent example of a place that has
           | been heavily optimized based on human psychology. They want
           | you to buy the cereal and other high margin items. They put
           | the basics on the periphery, etc.
           | 
           | Social media is _a_ problem, but I don 't think it's _the_
           | problem. We have deeper issues we need to dig to.
        
           | skinkestek wrote:
           | Many of post as much as before, you just don't see it because
           | we migrated to places were we feel safe. (And the use of
           | "feel" is very intentional, I'm fully aware that Telegram
           | groups and ordinary chats _might_ be backdoored or whatever )
           | 
           | My journey was something like
           | 
           | -Facebook,
           | 
           | - private blog with logins so my parents and siblings could
           | read, post and comment
           | 
           | - Started using Hangouts(or so I think, there's been so many
           | Google messaging apps) with my wife because it was convenient
           | to not have to dig out the phone everytime we worked at a
           | computer and needed to send som messages.
           | 
           | - Started using WhatsApp. Fell in love. "Sold it" to my
           | family and my wife's family.
           | 
           | - All our close friends picked it up too at around the same
           | time.
           | 
           | - Facebook announced it would buy WhatsApp. I felt
           | uncomfortable, but waited.
           | 
           | - Telegram showed up and was better but I didn't want to
           | switch as they were free and WhatsApp was still paid so
           | WhatsApp felt safer.
           | 
           | - Facebook made WhatsApp free and took away all guarantees.
           | 
           | - I started using Telegram. Soon after everyone around me
           | switched too.
           | 
           | I won't say I started the move to WhatsApp and later Telegram
           | among my friends but I have wholeheartedly supported it.
           | 
           | (Say what you want about the encryption in early WhatsApp and
           | later in Telegram, but there's more to security than
           | encryption and most of the stuff we post would otherwise have
           | gone on Facebook so it is a huge step forward anyways and it
           | is so liberating to know I can talk to anyone and know that
           | it doesn't automatically get pumped into Facebooks data
           | lake.)
           | 
           | Edit, FWIW, two more observations:
           | 
           | - Google Hangouts could have been the place we went to
           | instead of WhatsApp, but lacked polish especially on group
           | chats.
           | 
           | - Google+ could have been an alternative but didn't feel
           | private enough.
           | 
           | - After Google+ I gave up Google.[1]
           | 
           | - There's a number of interesting options at any time, but I
           | haven't found what we (my family and close friends) need:
           | hubzilla seems promising but lacks community it seems.
           | Mastodon is public by default so more like Twitter, while we
           | want 1-1 or group messaging. MeWe is focused on being a 1-to-
           | many network, and they lack pseudonym accounts so they still
           | don't come close to Google+. Ideas are welcome.
           | 
           | [1]: Maybe I won't work there even if I'm offered a job as it
           | feels like a minefield for anyone with a different background
           | like me and they also haven't managed to get a single service
           | to improve since 10 years ago as far as I remember.
           | 
           | Most services are even going backwards it seems, reducing
           | quotas, killing products, even search has been failing badly
           | for years and ad targeting is so bad it would have been funny
           | if it wasn't so insulting. (I always complain about this so I
           | should probably say the _last few months_ I 've seen ads from
           | stores I'd actually want to buy from instead of just the "hot
           | singles near you" scam etc.)
        
         | Swizec wrote:
         | > Yeah. I see my friends sharing less and less content on FB
         | these days.
         | 
         | How much of this is that we're getting older? I find that
         | outside thoughtfluencing and reputation building, I've simply
         | become tired of sharing. Just kinda don't care anymore.
         | 
         | Part of it is that there's less and less novelty. What was new
         | and exciting 5 years ago is mundane and boring now. Done it a
         | million times. What felt like a huge insight, became a normal
         | part of my worldview. Etc
         | 
         | To top it off I realized I simply don't care as much about
         | keeping in touch with people who aren't actually part of my
         | life.
         | 
         | Ultimately my time is limited and I can publish to build
         | leads/branding or to drive vanity metrics like a monkey acting
         | out in a cage. One of those is a good use of time.
        
           | SulfurHexaFluri wrote:
           | I'm under 25 and I can say that I don't think people are
           | publishing much publicly outside of the political nutcases.
           | Everything is inside private IM groups / discord voice chats
           | these days.
        
           | XorNot wrote:
           | Facebook lost its interest pretty rapidly once I was out of
           | University, concurrent with it rapidly morphing into brand
           | building exercises for those in high school year who went
           | into advertising.
        
           | tayo42 wrote:
           | > How much of this is that we're getting older
           | 
           | Especially if your social media is facebook, i think the
           | original users just got bored of it and adult life isn't that
           | interesting. Mine is slowly filling up with baby pictures now
           | and weddings now after what i think was a lull. Younger
           | people seem to be going strong on sharing stupid things on
           | snap chat and tiktok.
        
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       | jessehattabaugh wrote:
       | Experiencing negative consequences and adjusting your behavior to
       | avoid them is also called becoming a better person.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | hnaccy wrote:
       | It's pretty easy to post online pseudonymously so I don't feel
       | like it's a big issue.
       | 
       | I post online a lot and the vast majority is pseudonymous or
       | anonymous.
        
         | tachyonbeam wrote:
         | My policy is always to be considerate to other people, never to
         | try to hurt someone's feelings on purpose, but beyond that, I
         | feel like I'm generally being somewhat guarded even when it's
         | anonymous.
         | 
         | It's not impossible that there could be some kind of leak, or
         | that an algorithm could look at what you wrote, and compute
         | some kind of signature based on what you wrote (eg: n-gram
         | probabilities), and match it up with your other online
         | identities. In general, you kind of have to assume that
         | anything you write online could eventually be tied back to your
         | public identity.
         | 
         | That being said, I tend to assume that if you said something
         | your employer might disapprove of, it wouldn't be a problem
         | unless what you said somehow gathered _a lot_ of attention
         | online. For that you 'd have to be famous, or stir some serious
         | shit on twitter. Even if the identities of everyone on HN were
         | outed, I'm guessing mostly nobody would care, except if they
         | found out Jeff Bezos was secretly posting hateful messages.
        
         | gwright wrote:
         | While I understand the value of anonymous public communication,
         | I think it comes with a huge "bad-actor" problem that we
         | haven't figured out how to offset.
         | 
         | Anonymity is a problem when it is used to commit crimes and law
         | enforcement seems inadequately staffed to police cyber crimes
         | even when the perpetrator isn't even anonymous or pseudo
         | anonymous.
         | 
         | Do we need something like an Internet "drivers" license for
         | anyone who wants to post content to the public? Analogous to
         | needing a license to drive on public roads? Maybe that idea can
         | be tied into Section 230 concerns? I'm sure there are obvious
         | difficulties, just spitballing. Balancing liberty and safety
         | isn't easy.
        
           | rriepe wrote:
           | There should be several classes of license. One to read, one
           | to comment, one to create content, and of course one for
           | interactions like voting up or down, or liking.
           | 
           | Any violation in any of the categories would be cause for
           | revoking the license. We can't have people creating content,
           | for example, who have read illegal content. That's the
           | mechanic at work behind disinformation.
        
           | cmdshiftf4 wrote:
           | Oi! You got a licence for that post?!
        
             | potta_coffee wrote:
             | I thought it was called a "loicense"
        
           | [deleted]
        
         | SoSoRoCoCo wrote:
         | Your content isn't anonymous: who you are is distilled from
         | what you say, creating a unique fingerprint. Doesn't matter if
         | you your name is hnaccy or SoSoRoCoCo.
         | 
         | I change details, times, various things, just a little.
         | Whenever I need to make a reference as a citiation, 20% of the
         | facts change just slightly. Sometimes I'm a woman, sometimes
         | I'm from a different state, sometimes it is a different company
         | I worked for. These details don't matter to the content, but
         | there is so much contradiction in my history that I hope to
         | defeat the algorithms. I got the idea from how Firefox defeats
         | browser fingerprinting (or tries to).
         | 
         | I also create new accounts routinely.
         | 
         | However, even HN knows who I am because I occasionally forget
         | to use my randomized VPN, and HN keeps track of you.
         | 
         | I know this because I was banned from an IP address once and
         | had to renew it from my ISP to come back to HN.
        
         | erik_seaberg wrote:
         | Employers get sued and sometimes they demand social media
         | accounts during discovery. I decided a while ago that I'm not
         | prepared to quietly defy a court order by trying to conceal an
         | anonymous account, so instead I stifle a lot of what I really
         | think because moral fashions always change:
         | http://www.paulgraham.com/say.html
        
         | anfilt wrote:
         | Yet, I am seeing more sites require phone numbers to send an
         | activation code before you can even use or make an account.
        
         | smichel17 wrote:
         | Unfortunately, it's very hard to keep a pseudonymous identify
         | separate from your actual identify for a long period of time.
         | 
         | For example, in general my accounts related to video games go
         | by one identify, while my other personal/professional accounts
         | use my real name-ish. Problem happens when I have a discussion
         | on a game account and want to reference something that I know
         | because of activity in the other sphere. By linking to my real
         | identify, the pseudonymous one has been identified. So, now I
         | am careful what I say on those accounts, too, and I save my
         | controversial opinions for in-person, offline discussions.
        
           | wincy wrote:
           | My friend texted me the other day. He figured out my HN
           | account just while casually browsing. He just knew it was me.
           | I'm pretty easily identifiable based on tying up some of my
           | comments together here on Hacker News, as how many people
           | live in Kansas that are software engineers and have a kid
           | with a rare disability.
           | 
           | My wife on the other hand is an active member of the
           | Libertarian party and is much more likely to express opinions
           | than I am, but liberals think she's a conservative and
           | conservatives think she's some crazy liberal. She doesn't
           | work so unless they "came for me" for her stated opinions,
           | she's pretty safe.
        
         | rubatuga wrote:
         | That will probably still cause social cooling, because you have
         | to manage and be conscious what you are able to say on
         | different identities. You are essentially training to be less
         | spontaneous and more cautious about what you say in real life.
        
         | mastazi wrote:
         | Many aspects of data collection, however, are not related to
         | posting your thoughts online. As an example, think about
         | ordering food with Uber Eats and the like. What if health
         | insurers find a way to get their hands on that data, and start
         | changing your rates based on what you eat? There are so many
         | services that can't be used anonymously. Personally, I am using
         | online services less and less because of this.
         | 
         | (edit: grammar)
        
       | Buckaroo9 wrote:
       | Old site that I first saw on HN bringing up this issue:
       | https://www.socialcooling.com/
        
       | cwyers wrote:
       | A bunch of people just stormed the Capitol less than a week ago
       | on account of being Terminally Online, I don't think there's a
       | lot of evidence for this hypothesis.
        
       | watwut wrote:
       | I was always doing that, both online and offline. It is not like
       | I would be saying everything that I think everywhere.
        
       | zmmmmm wrote:
       | I have noticed I avoid watching "inappropriate" things on netflix
       | because I am afraid of the suggestions they will generate, which
       | inevitably everyone will see when I bring it up on the TV. The
       | few times I did, I thumbs-downed it to avoid that.
       | 
       | I wonder how much unconventional content is being harmed by this.
       | It's really annoying.
        
         | conception wrote:
         | You can remove items from your Netflix watched history on their
         | website. :)
        
           | ohazi wrote:
           | Now that storage is infinite and cheap, it's become trendy
           | for engineers to never actually remove anything, but to just
           | set a "deleted" flag in a database somewhere. This makes a
           | lot of tricky things easier, but there are pitfalls.
           | 
           | Years later, in the fifteenth re-implementation of some part
           | of some service, somebody is going to forget to read that
           | bit. Or an errant database migration isn't going to transfer
           | it properly. Or the database will be leaked, and all of the
           | "deleted" content will still be there (e.g. the Parler dump).
           | Or a race condition will cause the check to occasionally be
           | ignored every other Sunday.
           | 
           | Discovering that this is happening can be next to impossible.
           | An application might read the deleted bit correctly when
           | generating the ordered list of stuff you've looked at, but
           | might not read it correctly (or might deliberately ignore it)
           | when generating your advertising profile or when making
           | content recommendations. I swear I've seen this on Amazon,
           | though of course, I'll never be able to prove it.
           | 
           | Chilling effects / social cooling includes stuff like this.
           | "I'm not even going to click on that, because I don't trust
           | the platform to clear my history properly."
        
             | globular-toast wrote:
             | It's not trendy, it's how I've been doing databases my
             | whole life. You don't let users actually delete stuff from
             | your database. That's crazy.
        
               | Lio wrote:
               | How would you handle a user ceasing their account and
               | asking you to remove data you no longer need to provide
               | them with service?
               | 
               | Under GDPR you'd be required to really delete that.
               | Obviously GDPR laws don't hold everywhere but are you
               | saying you'd just hold the user's data forever or that
               | you'd have a later clean up process or something?
        
               | globular-toast wrote:
               | You wouldn't. GDPR didn't exist. That was my point. We've
               | been doing this for ages and only recently had to worry
               | about actually deleting stuff.
               | 
               | This is why I've never advocated "deleting" Facebook
               | accounts etc. If you "delete" it you're just giving them
               | another piece of information about you. Namely that you
               | want your account to be deleted.
               | 
               | The GDPR has not yet been shown to have any teeth, so I
               | assume nothing has really changed in this respect.
               | 
               | And, yes, holding users' data forever is normal. Storage
               | cost has only decreased relative to the size of these
               | databases. I've worked in places with customer data going
               | back decades.
        
             | parliament32 wrote:
             | This is exactly what happened with the AshleyMadison hack.
             | In fact, users _explicitly paid_ for a  "delete my account
             | permanently" action.. yet it was just that, a "deleted"
             | flag added to the DB which eventually got leaked.
        
             | debaserab2 wrote:
             | Soft deletes have been popular since the internet became
             | accessible to the average person. When I was younger I was
             | a huge advocate for soft deleting pretty much everything.
             | It felt like the obvious, easy choice - why not retain the
             | data incase you need to use it for something else down the
             | road? It took years to understand the ramifications of
             | storing that data in a secure way really means, and that
             | often times the reason it gets used later isn't something
             | you intended it to be used for when you designed the data
             | structure.
             | 
             | I don't think that way anymore and I truly believe hard
             | deletes should be the default unless you have a very
             | compelling reason to soft delete (and you should usually
             | only soft delete with some guarantee of future deletion via
             | a publicly accessible data retention/erasure policy)
        
               | 05 wrote:
               | It's not rocket science - encrypt with a one time
               | symmetric key, encrypt the key with a public key, store
               | blob and key marked as deleted. Store the corresponding
               | private asymmetric key on a hardware token to be used
               | when you decide you need the deleted data. That way no db
               | hack exposes any usable data.
        
               | debaserab2 wrote:
               | DB hacks aren't even close to being the only (or worst)
               | threat. Encryption means nothing in a company or
               | bankruptcy buyout where the purchaser may have a
               | completely different set of ethics than yours.
        
               | WJW wrote:
               | That is all good and well against simple actors, but does
               | not defend against the company being bought out and the
               | new owner(s) deciding to decrypt and sell the entire
               | database to some shady data broker. Or against the
               | FBI/your local equivalent coming over for a friendly
               | visit and confiscating both the hardware token and the
               | database.
        
             | dexen wrote:
             | _> This makes a lot of tricky things easier, but there are
             | pitfalls._
             | 
             | Some people are calling excessive data "toxic asset", due
             | to the future risks of it causing unexpected breaches of
             | privacy, damage to reputation, or other losses.
             | 
             | We'll certainly develop standard technical means of
             | handling that in due time, quite possibly ones based on
             | cryptography. A common scenario at present: instead of
             | trawling all backups & distributed stores to laboriously
             | expunge every bit of deleted data, you could delete the
             | relevant _encryption keys_ - a small piece of data, a known
             | quantity - rendering the encrypted data _inert_. This is
             | particularly suited for systems that use WORM approach to
             | backing up  & distributing data.
        
             | deckard1 wrote:
             | > just set a "deleted" flag in a database somewhere
             | 
             | this has been a thing since the 1980s, at least. It's not
             | new, and it's often important for auditing purposes and
             | because mistakes happen.
             | 
             | What's new is the ease with which databases can be accessed
             | and hacked over a global public network.
             | 
             | > Or an errant database migration isn't going to transfer
             | it properly. Or the database will be leaked, and all of the
             | "deleted" content will still be there
             | 
             | Backups are a thing, you know. When you issue a delete
             | command to your database it's not reaching back to time
             | immemorial through the archives and ripping out those
             | records. If we're playing what-ifs, then backup databases
             | can just as easily be leaked.
        
             | genghizkhan wrote:
             | Just look at Parler. That's the same thing which happened
             | there.
        
             | theshrike79 wrote:
             | > Now that storage is infinite and cheap, it's become
             | trendy for engineers to never actually remove anything, but
             | to just set a "deleted" flag in a database somewhere. This
             | makes a lot of tricky things easier, but there are
             | pitfalls.
             | 
             | Also deleting stuff for real for real immediately is really
             | hard.
             | 
             | You need to delete it from the database, the one that's
             | replicating to, caches, online backups AND offline backups.
             | And that's after you've confirmed and reconfirmed from the
             | user that they actually want to delete the data, not just
             | store it in the recycle bin or something idiotic like that.
             | 
             | The easiest way is just to flag as deleted and prune on
             | some kind of schedule. Backups will be overwritten at some
             | point and the data will go away eventually.
        
               | TeMPOraL wrote:
               | Or, though a more technically complex, encrypt every
               | "deletable" unit of data with its own key, have a
               | different backup policy for encrypted data and for keys
               | to it - one which, upon user request, would allow you to
               | quickly purge every trace of relevant keys.
        
               | jandrewrogers wrote:
               | This doesn't work well in practice at any kind of scale
               | -- these types of databases have existed for many years.
               | The key management overhead is considerable, causing
               | integer factor loss of performance for database-y
               | systems. Additionally, it very significantly increases
               | the storage footprint since most techniques for
               | minimizing storage utilization no longer work given this
               | requirement.
               | 
               | It isn't just "technically complex", the limiting factor
               | is your system may be 10x slower and use 10x more
               | storage. The economics of operating these systems is so
               | poor that they are only used in extremely niche
               | environments where the requirements justify the extreme
               | cost and performance limitations.
        
         | watwut wrote:
         | I did pirated some shows I had legal access to for exactly that
         | reason.
        
         | jtsiskin wrote:
         | Same with YouTube. I'm kind of curious to watch a QAnon
         | conspiracy video but don't want the suggestions. I guess that's
         | what incognito mode is for, but I don't trust them to not match
         | based on IP address...
        
           | godshatter wrote:
           | I stay logged out of YT, and clear my cookies every so often
           | when I start getting too many of the same kinds of
           | recommendations. They do match based on IP, since that's all
           | they really have from me. When I delete cookies, though,
           | things start over, basically. Then I get recommendations
           | based on what I've searched for in YT and what I've watched
           | since I last deleted them. It's nice, really. For a little
           | while, YT doesn't know enough about me not to show me both
           | sides of an issue I'm searching for. It's really touchy,
           | though. Two or three videos covering one particular side of
           | an issue in a row and the other recommendations disappear.
           | 
           | Of course, I can't subscribe, like, ring the damn bell, or
           | whatever it is they want me to do in every video. I do use
           | patreon for those content creators I really like.
        
           | ymarketing wrote:
           | https://github.com/iv-org/invidious
           | 
           | Public instances available - YouTube minus the tracking
        
           | Nextgrid wrote:
           | Invidious (https://github.com/iv-org/invidious) is how I've
           | been using YouTube for the past few months. It takes care of
           | this problem in addition to providing a faster, nicer UI
           | without dark patterns.
        
           | dexen wrote:
           | Tor Browser is a good option to avoid generating
           | "inappropriate" suggestions - decouples tracking from both
           | your login cookies (permanent incognito mode) and also from
           | your IP address.
           | 
           | Even better, restarting the browser clears the cookies &
           | other stored data, making tracking across session highly
           | unlikely.
           | 
           | YouTube videos take fractionally longer to load, but it's
           | manageable.
        
           | agiroth wrote:
           | Incognito won't help unfortunately. I've tried this on a few
           | occasions and it still pollutes my suggestions. I've noticed
           | that using Brave seems to blunt it -- I have to watch alot
           | more to notice the pollution.
           | 
           | Can't say more than that, I stopped experimenting and
           | basically stopped using Youtube except for the same music I
           | listen to over and over now. Nothing new.
        
             | kilroy123 wrote:
             | Wait are you sure opening in an incognito window does work?
             | How would it not?
        
             | hkon wrote:
             | What kind of person uses Brave? What are you hiding?
             | 
             | /s (for now)
        
           | godmode2019 wrote:
           | YouTube algo is pretty quick to respond. You just click
           | 'Don't show me videos like this' a few times and they won't
           | show you videos like this.
           | 
           | Make sure you don't comment, that shows strong engagement
           | which they like.
        
             | aww_dang wrote:
             | I'm assuming that a downvote with a negative sentiment
             | comment is the most severe signal you can send.
        
             | drdeca wrote:
             | I have been marking "not interested" in every "vtuber"
             | related video it has recommended to me, and I don't
             | remember clicking on a single one, but it still hasn't
             | stopped recommending them to me.
        
               | theshrike79 wrote:
               | Your graph of interests merges with "people who watch
               | vtubers" too strongly, so the recommendation engine keeps
               | pushing that stuff to you.
        
         | Cthulhu_ wrote:
         | lol, I do the same with my browser, going to anonymous browser
         | if I'm looking up shit on youtube or google I don't want to
         | show up in my suggestions or history.
        
         | bitwize wrote:
         | Weird Al:
         | 
         | "But I only watched Will and Grace one time, one day!
         | 
         | Wish I hadn't, 'cause TiVo now thinks I'm gay!"
        
           | nickt wrote:
           | WEIRD AL or WEIRD AI
           | 
           | either way works...
        
         | lazyasciiart wrote:
         | Create a profile to share and a profile for what you want to
         | watch. This helps get better targeted recommendations in
         | general, because even aside from stuff you don't want to tell
         | people you watch, IME there's stuff you like that don't suit
         | the people you watch with.
        
           | DoingIsLearning wrote:
           | > Create a profile to share and a profile for what you want
           | to watch. This helps get better targeted recommendations
           | 
           | Or you know we could just have a proper advanced search
           | within Netflix rather than me going through hoops with
           | flixable etc or trying to play 4d chess to second guess how
           | Netflix ML might give me the content I actually want to
           | watch.
           | 
           | Perhaps I am a minority contrarian (In fairness I was pretty
           | much coerced to get Netflix by my family) but it just feels
           | like there is so much accidental complexity in this Netflix
           | paradigm of 'we non-negotiably must cleverly guess what you
           | want to watch'.
        
             | lazyasciiart wrote:
             | You do you, but I like having a list of stuff I want to
             | watch separated from a list of stuff to watch with the
             | family. I'm not planning to memorize those lists and search
             | every time, that would be insane.
        
             | stdbrouw wrote:
             | You're free to like or dislike Netflix's recommendation
             | algorithms, of course, but does creating two profiles
             | really feel like playing 4d chess to you... or do you
             | simply refuse to countenance a solution out of annoyance
             | and spite? :-)
        
               | DoingIsLearning wrote:
               | Arguably you could make the same argument to Netflix
               | Product Managers with regards to an advanced search
               | feature with some added basic filters. :-)
        
         | baxtr wrote:
         | How is this different from having "inappropriate" books in your
         | book shelf?
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | You just put them on the back or inside cupboard so that
           | people dont see.
        
           | vixen99 wrote:
           | I'm curious to know what apart from pornography (volumes of
           | which have been part of comprehensive book collections for
           | eons as in https://edition.cnn.com/style/article/oxford-
           | university-obsc...) is included in the term 'inappropriate'?
        
             | watwut wrote:
             | For example, if you like to watch romance and don't want to
             | be judged for it.
        
             | concordDance wrote:
             | Well if your family are all white Republicans, having White
             | Fragility on your bookshelf is a sure-fire way to start an
             | argument (due to the title!).
        
               | throwaway0a5e wrote:
               | Or not. If your family is reasonable people they'll
               | probably just keep their mouths shut an ignore it even if
               | they don't agree with it.
               | 
               | People are pretty good at ignoring quackery in their own
               | family. I think most people have a few relatives who are
               | very much outside whatever the family norms are that are
               | still treated with respect.
        
               | xpe wrote:
               | _Who_ benefits and _who_ is hurt when reasonable people
               | don 't find ways to speak their minds and advocate for
               | their values?
               | 
               | This question is particularly apropos in modern times --
               | take the last week for example.
               | 
               | To ask the question in a different way: There may be a
               | tradeoff between maintaining the _status quo_ versus
               | speaking about our _values_.
               | 
               | To me, it is really important to strive to speak and act
               | according to our values _and_ to reflect on who (and what
               | ideas) benefit from the status quo. It is entirely
               | reasonable to be strategic about what you say, but I
               | don't pretend to think the status quo is _correct_ just
               | because it exists.
        
             | theshrike79 wrote:
             | If the person in question only owns a dozen books, all are
             | pro-Nazi stuff and they're prominently displayed for
             | example?
             | 
             | We're not talking about people who have a thousand books
             | from all genres and walks of life having Mein Kampf in
             | there.
        
               | Veen wrote:
               | Last year's media scrutiny of politicians' bookshelves
               | undermines your point a little.
               | 
               | https://www.theneweuropean.co.uk/brexit-news/michael-
               | gove-an...
        
               | inglor_cz wrote:
               | Interesting that they consider Ayn Rand alarming enough
               | to name her right next to David Irving, a notorious
               | Holocaust denier, or, more precisely, diminisher.
               | 
               | Edit: I, too, have one book by David Irving in my
               | bookcase - among 900 others. I read it, I found his way
               | of twisting of the sources disturbing, but I am not going
               | to burn it in the name of Love and Peace. But
               | unfortunately I can see this being used against me in a
               | court of Twitter.
        
               | theshrike79 wrote:
               | The Holy and Unerring Court of Twitter is the reason I've
               | got a cron job deleting my old tweets automatically.
               | 
               | I've seen people in more prominent positions than me
               | being badly burned by a 10 year old tweet. I see no point
               | in saving stuff I've said 6 months or a year ago. If it's
               | something worthwhile, I'll make a blog post out of it and
               | store the markdown file in git.
        
               | alexilliamson wrote:
               | Then why tweet at all in the first place?
        
           | ceilingcorner wrote:
           | Because your bookshelf doesn't automatically rearrange
           | itself, then send the data to a corporation optimized for
           | making you read as many books as possible?
        
             | griffoa wrote:
             | Yet...
        
               | drdeadringer wrote:
               | ... I need you to finish because I can't read your mind.
        
               | TeMPOraL wrote:
               | That wasn't a "yet" like "and yet, [something]", but a
               | "yet" like "[something isn't happening]... yet".
        
               | drdeadringer wrote:
               | Ah.
               | 
               | Thank you.
        
               | AnimalMuppet wrote:
               | Don't give Amazon ideas.
        
               | musingsole wrote:
               | This year from IKEA, introducing the subscription powered
               | AutoShelf! Tired of curating your own collection? This
               | bookshelf keeps track of what and how long you read using
               | ultrasonic pulses to determine spine-crackage. Once a
               | month, a crate of new books will arrive. Simply attach
               | the crate to the AutoShelf to restock your collection.
               | Once its done, leave the crate (now filled with your old,
               | dusty books) on the curb for our gig-service to pick up!
        
       | Simulacra wrote:
       | Anyone read the book Daemon by Daniel Suarez? Sometimes it feels
       | like we're heading in that direction, where each person has a
       | reputation score, and everyone can see it.
        
         | pmiller2 wrote:
         | See also this _Black Mirror_ episode:
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nosedive_(Black_Mirror)
        
         | coldtea wrote:
         | When one side or another wants/gets to control the totality of
         | life, including morality in the abstract (aside concrete
         | actions) and what are "good ideas", that's the endgame.
         | 
         | That's regardless of whether this control falls under direct
         | state power (as in China) or is shared between state and
         | private corporations (as in the US).
         | 
         | That's also regardless of whether the control is total and
         | absolute or not. It's enough that it exists as a presense to
         | stiffle thinking freedom and social expression.
        
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       | cainxinth wrote:
       | Literally for decades I have been explaining to people that email
       | is like a postcard, i.e. always assume your message is visible
       | publicly.
       | 
       | When social media became popular, I extended the analogy to it,
       | and yet people continue to be shocked and amazed when their
       | online conversations spread further than they realized.
       | 
       | Wanna keep a secret? Don't tell anyone!
        
         | Taylor_OD wrote:
         | This is a great way to explain it. I was told as a child,
         | "Don't write anything in an email you wouldnt want forwarded to
         | someone else" which has stopped me from sending several emails
         | I would have probably regretted.
        
         | dionidium wrote:
         | At risk of missing your point (which I think is generally a
         | good one), the problem with the postcard analogy is that nobody
         | cares about what you wrote on your postcard! And even if a
         | couple postal workers snicker at what you wrote, then that's
         | where it ends. There is no conceivable scenario in which
         | hundreds of thousands (or even millions) of people will spend
         | tomorrow talking about your postcard, sharing your postcard,
         | contacting your boss about your postcard, photographing your
         | postcard and critiquing it in the NY Times, and so on.
         | 
         | One of the weird things about social media for me is that my
         | intuitions about the postcard -- nobody cares, nobody will read
         | it, what do I care if the postal workers laugh at what I said?
         | -- don't actually work all that well on social media.
        
           | musingsole wrote:
           | Nobody cared about what's on the postcard because you
           | couldn't easily scan every postcard sent and mine its
           | contents. The average social media post has even less content
           | (especially sensitive content) than a postcard, but the ease
           | of collection and analysis means that if there is smallest
           | iota of useful information on the card, it can be mined and
           | exploited.
        
       | science4sail wrote:
       | Previous HN discussions (about the source website that this
       | article cites).
       | 
       | * https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14585882
       | 
       | * https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=24627363
        
       | ja3k wrote:
       | >Social cooling refers to the idea that if "you feel you are
       | being watched, you change your behavior." And the massive amounts
       | of data being collected, especially online, is exxagerating this
       | effect.
       | 
       | This is a strange perspective to me. I feel like I'm much more
       | aware of being watched by the other users of a social media site
       | when I post than of the inscrutable algorithms.
        
       | realjohng wrote:
       | It's interesting. I definitely find myself censoring myself
       | online at times. But I also find myself self-censoring offline:
       | at work, with my girlfriend, family.. you name it. Filtering
       | oneself is an important trait.
       | 
       | On the other hand, self-censoring oneself to not criticize the
       | current government or make an off-color political joke feels like
       | oppression.
        
         | AnimalMuppet wrote:
         | Self-censorship _is_ important. But so is integrity (literally
         | being  "integral", that is, there being only one of you). You
         | need to not have to hide who you are or fake being who your
         | not. You need that for your mental health.
        
       | rory wrote:
       | I know a lot of people are bringing this discussion back to
       | social media which certainly has a dramatic effect, but it's
       | interesting that there's a concurrent flame war over here:
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25761017 with a lot of
       | people coming out against Apple's "Racial Equity and Justice
       | Initiative".
       | 
       | Working at multiple tech companies and hanging out with people
       | from others, I've never heard any techy people voice those kind
       | of opinions in person. Are the people speaking up in that thread
       | simply different people, or is there an afk social cooling
       | happening too?
        
       | charlysisto wrote:
       | Makes me wonder if you have the corollary concept : Social
       | Heating... my feeling is social media has a multiplicative effect
       | on both sides of the thermometer
        
         | deltron3030 wrote:
         | Good catch. There's a huge discrepancy in social media between
         | people who are employed/professionals, use it to climb the
         | corporate ladders and people who are just hanging out there,
         | like in a pub. These two worlds often collide, especially on
         | Twitter.
         | 
         | In the real world it's not a problem because there are much
         | more specialized locations. You'd expect rough language and
         | jokes in a pub.
        
         | chrischapman wrote:
         | That's a great idea. It probably is a continuum and makes me
         | wonder what the mean point is. Are there behavioral
         | characteristics that fit some acceptable norm? Or will the
         | acceptable norm just become the new thing to manipulate with
         | big data.
        
       | tayo42 wrote:
       | This just sounds like being a polite human in public spaces?
       | Common advice was always to avoid talking about politics and
       | religion or anything else controversial in places you need to get
       | along.
        
         | SV_BubbleTime wrote:
         | If that's what we are talking about I embrace and look forward
         | to it!
         | 
         | I've been to enough museums, galleries, exhibits with people
         | live streaming or FaceTiming that the pendulum swinging the
         | other way would be a welcome change.
        
         | inglor_cz wrote:
         | "Common advice was always to avoid talking about politics and
         | religion or anything else controversial in places you need to
         | get along."
         | 
         | This is much more restrictive. For example, in meatspace, you
         | can avoid talking about religion and politics at your
         | workplace, but talk religion in your church meeting and talk
         | politics with other supporters of the same party.
         | 
         | Social media tear down the distance and compress the entire
         | world into one single space. Unless you want to avoid any
         | religious and political discussions completely, your comments
         | on those topics, even in specific discussion groups, can be
         | viewed by, say, your coworkers.
         | 
         | I would say that this is quite a problem.
        
           | XorNot wrote:
           | Social media is the equivalent of publishing a newsletter
           | about those things with an audience of millions and database
           | search access.
           | 
           | It has never been a "private" conversation or even vaguely
           | similar to say, a discussion at a cafe.
           | 
           | People have not treated it that way though.
        
             | inglor_cz wrote:
             | Yes, because this is an unfamiliar and hard to grasp form
             | of communication. Social media feels intimate like a home
             | chat by the fireplace - at least sometimes. But in fact it
             | is wide open, including to people who want to harm you.
        
       | aluket wrote:
       | This reminds me of the Hawthorne effect
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hawthorne_effect
        
       | wiz21c wrote:
       | Panopticon is a very old idea about this issue
       | 
       | https://ethics.org.au/ethics-explainer-panopticon-what-is-th...
        
       | d--b wrote:
       | I think this is merely an adjustment to how people use social
       | media.
       | 
       | Regular people expressing their opinion on public media is only a
       | 10-year old phenomenon. But people have been self-censoring in
       | real life forever.
       | 
       | There are things you say at work and things you say at home.
       | There are the subjects you avoid at family gatherings not to
       | spoil the weekend, and you usually don't want all your neighbors
       | to know what you've been up to over your vacations.
       | 
       | Social media being new, people didn't realize the consequences
       | and started expressing stuff they wouldn't have otherwise.
       | 
       | Yes, people adapt, and share less. Perhaps it's social cooling,
       | but maybe it needs cooling a little bit.
        
         | SulfurHexaFluri wrote:
         | I think facebook and twitter pushed too hard for people to post
         | everything publicly under their real name. Now we are seeing a
         | shift back to made up usernames and private publishing. I don't
         | know many people who share anything publicly but we all share
         | constantly in private IM groups.
         | 
         | For most sites I don't bother remembering a password. I just
         | sign up every time I need to log in which keeps my accounts
         | young enough that there isn't a significant backlog to trawl
         | through and identify me.
        
           | TheSpiceIsLife wrote:
           | > all share constantly in private IM groups.
           | 
           | Are you certain these groups are private? E2E and no meta
           | data leak?
           | 
           | > isn't a significant backlog to trawl through and identify
           | me.
           | 
           | Are you that confident in your OpSec? No browser
           | fingerprinting, GUID, IP address, location data?
           | 
           | Surely the alphabet soup agencies profile HN users.
        
             | theshrike79 wrote:
             | It all depends on your threat model, like always.
             | 
             | If your threat modelling includes Mossad, FSB and CIA, by
             | all means do take E2E encryption and metadata into
             | consideration every time you communicate with someone in
             | any way.
             | 
             | For most of us it's just selecting a group of people who
             | know what is a joke or hyperbole in the current context.
             | I've typed out some weird stuff in Telegram and Discord
             | chats I wouldn't want my family or employer to see out of
             | context.
             | 
             | But my threat model doesn't include my employer or my suing
             | Telegram or Discord for my chat logs, so I don't worry
             | about it.
        
           | iso1210 wrote:
           | Back in the 90s it was fairly normal to use your real name on
           | usenet - some even included real phone numbers and contact
           | details in their .sigs
        
         | A4ET8a8uTh0 wrote:
         | I think you focus only on the social media impact. The bigger
         | issue is that social cooling is not limited to social media.
         | The larger issue, for me, appears to be that it affects person
         | to person interactions and makes it harder and harder to have
         | an 'adult' conversation with people without adding niceties (
         | would you kindly consider the possibility of helping me if you
         | are not too busy vs get over here ) or current set of society
         | mandates ( for example, finding 'preferred' pronouns ).
         | 
         | "you feel you are being watched, you change your behavior."
         | 
         | Social cooling is bad. It makes things hidden, where they
         | simmer and build up. It is not good for the individual and it
         | tends to not to be good for society in general, because it is
         | channeled and not always in healthy ways.
         | 
         | In a sense, I agree with you. It is an adaptation, but I am not
         | convinced it is a good one.
        
           | catawbasam wrote:
           | I think what is needed must run much deeper than self-
           | suppression. It is time for us to look within and cool off
           | within ourselves so that we can speak and act without hate.
        
             | A4ET8a8uTh0 wrote:
             | I am hesitant to respond since I am not absolutely certain
             | what you mean, but I will attempt to dig deeper.
             | 
             | How would you define hate? I do not want to put words in
             | your mouth. Just please elaborate a little more.
        
         | mastazi wrote:
         | I don't think the problem is just related to social media, that
         | is a pretty narrow way of looking at it. We use online services
         | for everything, from buying stuff to ordering food or hailing a
         | cab. I suggest reading the source cited by OP
         | https://www.socialcooling.com/index.html there are many
         | examples such as
         | 
         | > If you return goods to the store often this will be used
         | against you.
         | 
         | and
         | 
         | > Your health insurer may collect intimate data about your
         | lifestyle, race and more.
         | 
         | Anecdotical: if I have a night out, I tend to pay cash rather
         | than card. Even though I don't think I'm doing anything wrong,
         | just having a few drinks with friends. The bar where we usually
         | go has slot machines ("pokies" as they're called here in
         | Australia) who knows if having many transactions at that bar
         | lowers whatever rating somewhere...
         | 
         | I'm 40 and if you told 20-year-old me that people would have
         | this kind of issues in 20 years, I would have dismissed it as
         | yet another dystopian prediction that's never going to come
         | true.
        
           | lotsofpulp wrote:
           | > If you return goods to the store often this will be used
           | against you.
           | 
           | What is often? I have a hard time believing retail
           | establishments with razor thin profit margins are rejecting
           | profit unless the customer is likely causing them to lose
           | money.
           | 
           | > Even though I don't think I'm doing anything wrong, just
           | having a few drinks with friends.
           | 
           | What if the data shows having a few drinks increases the
           | likelihood of healthcare costs? Otherwise, people who don't
           | have a few drinks are subsidizing people who do have a few
           | drinks.
           | 
           | There's nothing "wrong" with driving more distance than
           | someone else, but auto insurers have to charge more to
           | someone that drives more, since that increases their risk of
           | loss.
        
             | jokethrowaway wrote:
             | I'd rather not pay for someone else social care than have
             | my card transactions tracked so that someone can build a
             | statistical model on my likelihood to need medical care.
        
             | Nextgrid wrote:
             | > unless the customer is likely causing them to lose money
             | 
             | The problem is that this fact is (or will be) determined by
             | some obscure black box algorithm that might even take into
             | account other unrelated data from social media or data
             | brokers.
             | 
             | Your activity elsewhere shouldn't affect your ability to
             | return an item, regardless of whether it's profitable for
             | the store or not (of course if it was up to the store they
             | would rather not deal with the bad, terrible monsters that
             | dare to... _return items_ ).
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | > The problem is that this fact is (or will be)
               | determined by some obscure black box algorithm that might
               | even take into account other unrelated data from social
               | media or data brokers.
               | 
               | I think this data should be public. Much like a credit
               | report is in the US and can be checked for accuracy.
               | 
               | >of course if it was up to the store they would rather
               | not deal with the bad, terrible monsters that dare to...
               | return items).
               | 
               | I know from experience there are people that abuse return
               | policies (basically stealing by using the item and then
               | returning it), and unless the store increases prices to
               | make everyone else subsidize the people that abuse it, I
               | don't know what the other option is.
        
               | Nextgrid wrote:
               | > basically stealing by using the item and then returning
               | it
               | 
               | If the item is in a condition where it can be resold at
               | full price (aka you can't even tell whether it's been
               | used), does it matter? If anything, it reduces waste.
               | 
               | If it's not in a resellable condition, then the store
               | should discount the refund by a reasonable amount to make
               | up for it. We don't need yet more scummy entities like
               | credit bureaus which you can't opt out of.
               | 
               | I'm also not confident that improving the retailers'
               | margins is going to trickle down to lower prices for
               | consumers as opposed to go into some executive's pocket
               | or get pissed away in marketing/advertising spend.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | > If the item is in a condition where it can be resold at
               | full price (aka you can't even tell whether it's been
               | used), does it matter? If anything, it reduces waste. If
               | it's not in a resellable condition, then the store should
               | discount the refund by a reasonable amount to make up for
               | it.
               | 
               | How is all of this supposed to be determined at a return
               | counter in the 2 min interaction between a retail
               | employee and customer?
               | 
               | As a customer, I would only like to buy an item that came
               | from the factory. Especially anything electronic, there's
               | almost no way for me to discern if someone has damaged it
               | otherwise. I also don't see how manufacturers could be
               | held liable for warranties if they aren't sure one the
               | chain of custody.
               | 
               | > I'm also not confident that improving the retailers'
               | margins is going to trickle down to lower prices for
               | consumers as opposed to go into some executive's pocket
               | or get pissed away in marketing/advertising spend.
               | 
               | If retail businesses had pricing power, they would be
               | asking for more than razor thin profit margins. Retail
               | executives aren't currently turning away dollars from
               | their pocket, they don't have access to them in the first
               | place since competing retailers will take their business
               | if they try to.
        
               | Nextgrid wrote:
               | > How is all of this supposed to be determined at a
               | return counter in the 2 min interaction between a retail
               | employee and customer?
               | 
               | That's not a valid reason for introducing yet another
               | data collection scheme that's likely to have hidden
               | biases and false positives, not to mention the potential
               | of this data being leaked or exploited for other
               | nefarious purposes (do you really trust a retailer _not_
               | to secretly use this data for other purposes like
               | marketing).
               | 
               | > As a customer, I would not like to buy an item that did
               | not come from the factory. Especially anything
               | electronic, there's almost no way for me to discern if
               | someone has damaged it otherwise. I also don't see how
               | manufacturers could be held liable for warranties if they
               | aren't sure one the chain of custody.
               | 
               | Is this currently a major problem at big box stores
               | (excluding Amazon because they intentionally ignore the
               | issue)? I personally can't remember a single occurrence
               | of me buying goods in a supermarket that ended up being
               | used/damaged in a way I could tell.
               | 
               | > If retail businesses had pricing power, they would be
               | asking for more than razor thin profit margins. Retail
               | executives aren't currently turning away dollars from
               | their pocket, they don't have access to them in the first
               | place since competing retailers will take their business
               | if they try to.
               | 
               | And yet money is still being pissed away in marketing,
               | which means they do have money to spare. Why do you think
               | the savings would trickle down to the consumers instead
               | of just being "invested" into either marketing or
               | something else?
               | 
               | Starting a supermarket isn't an easy task; the barrier of
               | entry and the upfront costs (for the retail location
               | alone) is insane, so I find it hard that competition
               | would prevent this. Possibly over several decades it
               | _could_ translate to your goods being a few dozen cents
               | cheaper, but I 'd rather not live in a world where you
               | need to "Login with Facebook" to be able to return an
               | item.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | >That's not a valid reason for introducing yet another
               | data collection scheme that's likely to have hidden
               | biases and false positives, not to mention the potential
               | of this data being leaked or exploited for other
               | nefarious purposes (do you really trust a retailer not to
               | secretly use this data for other purposes like
               | marketing).
               | 
               | I didn't claim it was. There are various reasons for the
               | data collection. One is obviously marketing, but another
               | may also be identifying bad actors.
               | 
               | Also, almost all stores have rewards programs of sorts
               | that amount to a few percentage points of discount in
               | exchange for tracking your purchases. People will, by and
               | large, willingly give their identifying information in
               | exchange for this, so I think it's inevitable (unless
               | this type of discount was outlawed).
               | 
               | >Is this currently a major problem at big box stores
               | (excluding Amazon because they intentionally ignore the
               | issue)? I personally can't remember a single occurrence
               | of me buying goods in a supermarket that ended up being
               | used/damaged in a way I could tell.
               | 
               | I don't know, I just know I would rather have something
               | new. I assume electronics or stuff that can be invisibly
               | damaged gets sent back to the manufacturer or sold as
               | refurbished after it is returned.
               | 
               | >And yet money is still being pissed away in marketing,
               | which means they do have money to spare. Why do you think
               | the savings would trickle down to the consumers instead
               | of just being "invested" into either marketing or
               | something else?
               | 
               | How are you determining that money is being pissed away?
               | Are you suggesting all these retail business owners and
               | operators are wasting money that they could be pocketing?
               | 
               | >Starting a supermarket isn't an easy task; the barrier
               | of entry and the upfront costs (for the retail location
               | alone) is insane, so I find it hard that competition
               | would prevent this.
               | 
               | It's very easy to start a retail business. That's why the
               | profit margins are so low, it's all very textbook
               | microeconomics. In fact, with the internet, the retail
               | location matters even less, so the barriers to entry got
               | even lower and now Chinese manufacturers can directly
               | sell to buyers. It's exactly in this situation that
               | marketing and brand awareness (presumably to advertise
               | quality control) is valuable.
        
               | Nextgrid wrote:
               | > There are various reasons for the data collection. One
               | is obviously marketing, but another may also be
               | identifying bad actors.
               | 
               | And my point is that since companies can't be trusted to
               | not use this data for marketing purposes (and the
               | legal/regulatory environment is ineffective at deterring
               | that) then they should not have that data.
               | 
               | > almost all stores have rewards programs [...]. People
               | will, by and large, willingly give their identifying
               | information in exchange for this, so I think it's
               | inevitable
               | 
               | I don't have a problem with it being optional and
               | voluntary (though I still think more regulation and
               | transparency around what is done with that data is badly
               | needed), but the problem begins when you need a loyalty
               | card or providing identifying data to return an item for
               | example, since as per the previous point they can't be
               | trusted with not misusing this data. I don't want to live
               | in a world where you have to "Login with Facebook" to
               | purchase or return something.
               | 
               | > I just know I would rather have something new
               | 
               | I agree, but I mean whether it's worth proposing and
               | normalizing a large-scale data collection scheme and all
               | the problems this entails (especially around bias - what
               | if your algorithm start declining returns from black
               | people because blacks were under-represented in the data
               | and a single individual making a bad return was enough to
               | sway the balance) to weed out maybe 1% of bad returns?
               | 
               | > How are you determining that money is being pissed
               | away?
               | 
               | Because paying companies to waste people's time and annoy
               | them with ads does not improve the quality of the
               | products that I am buying, and yet part of the price I
               | pay for most goods goes to this useless and counter-
               | productive endeavour.
               | 
               | > It's very easy to start a retail business.
               | 
               | I am talking about starting a business that can compete
               | with the big-box stores, since your original argument was
               | that screening returns would translate to savings and
               | that would give the businesses who do pass on those
               | savings to the customer a competitive advantage, but the
               | average 2-4% saving (or less) isn't enough for a brand
               | new competitor to emerge, thus the established retailers
               | don't actually have pressure to pass on those savings
               | onto the customer instead of making them disappear into a
               | black hole.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | I have no idea of the precise savings that screening
               | returns would result in, but I know the following from
               | years of reading financial reports of large retailers:
               | 
               | 1) The profit margins are tiny, literally in the sub 5%
               | range.
               | 
               | 2) This means the operations of the businesses that do
               | exist have been extremely streamlined, and there's not
               | too much juice left to squeeze
               | 
               | 3) If they're doing something, it means it is a necessity
               | to stay in business, and a business wasting money in the
               | single digit percent profit margins will not be in
               | business for long.
               | 
               | 4) If a competitor starts screening returns, and sees
               | their profitability rise as a result, then they can price
               | their products more competitively and win business.
               | Retail businesses are competing for volume, and customers
               | only care about price.
               | 
               | You can see from the public reports that no one is
               | getting rich off of these companies. They're probably
               | just doing what they have to do to survive, including the
               | marketing and the screening of returns.
        
             | dirkc wrote:
             | > What if the data shows having a few drinks increases the
             | likelihood of healthcare costs? Otherwise, people who don't
             | have a few drinks are subsidizing people who do have a few
             | drinks.
             | 
             | The whole idea behind health care is that some people
             | subsidize other people - ie. most people are healthy and
             | use less health care services than they pay for, while a
             | few people get sick and require health care services that
             | they would never have been able to afford.
             | 
             | I'm fine with subsidizing other people, the alternative is
             | to be okay with people that have problems to be thrown out
             | of the system and not receive the care they need.
             | 
             | In any case, it's not okay for insurers to have fine
             | grained access to what people buy, eat, drink, do. I
             | struggle playing it out in my mind in a way that doesn't
             | end horribly.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | > I'm fine with subsidizing other people, the alternative
               | is to be okay with people that have problems to be thrown
               | out of the system and not receive the care they need.
               | 
               | So the discussion is about when use of data is identify
               | losses and remove them from the system versus not using
               | data and spreading the cost out between all participants.
               | 
               | Healthcare is a sufficiently broad benefit that much of
               | society can agree on subsidizing each other (except in
               | certain countries), but even in countries with taxpayer
               | funded healthcare, I don't know if there would be a
               | consensus on whether or not retailers should be able to
               | track individuals to identify those causing losses and
               | boot them from the system.
               | 
               | Certainly, no one would argue against the right of a
               | small business owner to refuse to do business with a
               | customer that is causing them a loss. At what point does
               | a business become large enough that it can no longer do
               | this?
        
               | iso1210 wrote:
               | > Certainly, no one would argue against the right of a
               | small business owner to refuse to do business with a
               | customer that is causing them a loss.
               | 
               | When the profit from occasionally serving one person in a
               | wheelchair is less than the cost of providing the
               | wheelchair access, yet we still demand it, indeed that's
               | why we have to demand it - if you still made money from
               | the person in a wheelchair, you'd put the ramp in anyway.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | Yes, I guess there is an exception for people with
               | disabilities, but in the context of this discussion, I
               | mean someone who returning items excessively. Clearly a
               | return policy is infeasible if every person returned
               | every item from every person. There must be an assumption
               | that a return policy won't be abused to keep the return
               | policy feasible for everyone.
        
               | dghlsakjg wrote:
               | In the past decade I've anecdotally noted that some
               | places with famously liberal return policies have
               | tightened up. Outdoor equipment retailer REI is my
               | favorite example.
               | 
               | They have switched from unlimited returns forever for any
               | reason to 1 year.
               | 
               | My theory is it's a combo of two things. 1. People
               | abusing return policies. 2. More and more items that used
               | to be durable becoming consumable. In a lot of industries
               | the drive for lightweight and high tech has led to things
               | that simply can't last. I have a backpack that weighs
               | less than a pair of jeans, but it certainly won't last
               | the way my dads old backpack lasted. Same thing with my
               | battery powered drill, I really doubt that I'll be able
               | to find a battery for it in 30 years.
               | 
               | The backpack and the battery powered drill are two things
               | that have shifted from buy it for life, to consumable
               | good.
        
             | inglor_cz wrote:
             | > What if the data shows having a few drinks increases the
             | likelihood of healthcare costs? Otherwise, people who don't
             | have a few drinks are subsidizing people who do have a few
             | drinks.
             | 
             | Many countries levy special taxes on alcohol. If at least a
             | portion of that money is used towards healthcare, the
             | subsidy by teetotallers either grows smaller or disappears
             | entirely.
             | 
             | But, of course, that requires correct use of said tax
             | money.
        
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         | [deleted]
        
         | phs318u wrote:
         | > people have been set-censoring in real life forever
         | 
         | Agreed. But what they haven't done is "over shared" as much as
         | they have in the last decade. So perhaps part of the self-
         | censoring being described is a return to mean?
         | 
         | EDIT: it seems I've repeated (and agree with) your last point -
         | "perhaps it needs cooling a bit".
        
         | wreath wrote:
         | The thing I find problematic is the line of what things to say
         | at home, office and social media is pretty much non-existing
         | (at least in my tech "bubble"). I rarely find anyone agreeing
         | with me that politics should stay out of the workplace for
         | example, or family gatherings etc.
        
           | ck425 wrote:
           | Maybe you're in a bubble but regardless I don't think it
           | should be a black and white rule.
           | 
           | Whether I discuss politics or similar contentious issues
           | (religion, ethics etc) all depend on the individual
           | relationships. I don't blanket refuse to discuss these things
           | with colleagues, but I do self censor depending on individual
           | relationships. Obviously in work I prioritise my ability to
           | work with the individual and due to that often self censor
           | more, but it's not a blanket rule.
        
         | mjfl wrote:
         | I would argue there hasn't been enough cooling. My mother has
         | been having a vicious political argument with my aunts for the
         | better part of a year. Created familial rifts that probably
         | wouldn't have happened without social media.
        
           | divbzero wrote:
           | Sadly, I suspect this is not an isolated phenomenon. I've
           | increasingly encountered anecdotes of political division
           | souring personal relationships. I wonder if there are
           | systematic surveys or studies of whether this perceived trend
           | is real.
        
             | Dig1t wrote:
             | An interesting corollary of this, I think, is that it
             | creates bubbles of people who all think the same and agree
             | with each other. Since it causes many people to cut people
             | with whom they disagree with out of their life.
             | 
             | These people see the people outside their bubble (their
             | neighbors, friends and family) as "other". It's so
             | divisive, it's causing everyone to hate each other as
             | nobody sees common cause with their own countrymen. It's
             | very sad, I hope we figure it out.
        
               | concordDance wrote:
               | They also end up with a very different view on reality
               | due to being exposed to different facts and the same
               | facts with different framing. Filter bubbles be strong.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | In the current climate, there is clearly one portion of
               | the population rejecting reality, even though there's
               | plenty of available information.
               | 
               | It has nothing to do with bubbles, it's people actively
               | deciding to delude themselves.
        
               | concordDance wrote:
               | Just one portion?
               | 
               | Many portions I expect. And which portion depends on
               | which bits of reality you look at it. If you think the
               | current canon set of facts of the dominant ideology is
               | 100% correct now when it wasn't any time in the past 2000
               | years, well... it's just not very likely.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | Just because we don't have perfect knowledge at any one
               | point in time doesn't mean every single idea throughout
               | history is valid. Overtime, discoveries are made, models
               | are refined, textbooks are updated, and as the evidence
               | presents itself, you keep marching forward with the best
               | available information you have.
        
               | tomp wrote:
               | You mean the side that claims US elections are 100% safe?
               | 
               | I think that Trump definitively lost, but from the point
               | of view of a European (from a former socialist country no
               | less!) the idea that you can have "secure" voting without
               | seeing a person _and_ checking their ID card is ...
               | laughable to say the least.
               | 
               | Yet claiming that as fact is in line with the current
               | propaganda, so ...
        
               | Veen wrote:
               | > there is clearly one portion of the population
               | rejecting reality, even though there's plenty of
               | available information
               | 
               | That's exactly what the world looks like to a person
               | living in a filter bubble.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | I know. The useful distinction for a filter bubble would
               | be for when a person is exposed only to a small set of
               | ideas, such as "big government, subsidized everything" is
               | the best way, or "small government, privatized
               | everything" is the best way". Or "so and so method of
               | education is the best way", things that don't have
               | relatively definitive answers, based on reasonable logic
               | and standards of evidence.
               | 
               | Using filter bubbles to talk about people that think the
               | earth is 6,000 years old, it's flat, the US government is
               | run by a cabal pedophiles, vaccines are harmful, the US
               | election results are false, etc is not a fruitful
               | endeavor.
        
               | throwaway0a5e wrote:
               | If you only encounter "other" ideas in a context where
               | they are derided, mocked and otherwise not taken
               | seriously that's still a pretty damn airtight filter
               | bubble.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | The information to which I am referring is easily
               | accessible in encyclopedias, university physics
               | departments, CDC/FDA website, wikipedia, state government
               | websites, etc.
               | 
               | The people deluding themselves are choosing to discredit
               | those sources in favor of their favorite celebrity or
               | social group. Or they're pretending for other nefarious
               | reasons. Either way, referring to this as a filter bubble
               | is inaccurate in my opinion.
               | 
               | These people were educated in the US, know English, know
               | how to use the internet, grew up in a diverse country,
               | some are accomplished business people, years long members
               | of the military with lots of international travel. Few
               | people around the world have as much opportunity to be
               | out of their "filter bubble".
        
               | concordDance wrote:
               | The importance of genes for determining intelligence in
               | humans is also available in Nature, etc. But a large
               | proportion of the population still delusionally believe
               | everyone is the same. Mostly due to filter bubbles.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | I don't know anyone, prominent or not, that thinks
               | everyone is the SAME. It's trivial for anyone to see
               | identical twins aren't even the same, so unless there is
               | evidence that a "large proportion" of people think this,
               | I assume it's a made up scenario.
               | 
               | I'm also familiar with quite a few cultures around the
               | world, and they all seem to have concepts of being born
               | "gifted" or some version of being naturally talented.
        
               | watwut wrote:
               | There should be however space for saying that a group of
               | people or ideology is simply wrong on some points. We
               | should not be force to pretend that all ideologies,
               | values systems and theories are equal or right. Or
               | honest.
        
               | Dig1t wrote:
               | Agreed you shouldn't have to agree with anyone you don't
               | actually agree with, but also tolerance (for _all_
               | people) is important. We should make an honest attempt to
               | understand WHY these people feel the way they do, and try
               | to address the underlying concerns and fears that
               | motivate them. And if it's not possible to do that, at
               | least talking about them like they're not all patently
               | evil would be helpful in building better relationships
               | with our neighbors.
        
           | reillyse wrote:
           | People have been falling out with their families since the
           | dawn of time.
        
           | matwood wrote:
           | > Created familial rifts that probably wouldn't have happened
           | without social media.
           | 
           | It's definitely part of it, but not the only reason. I know
           | my family had plenty of familial rifts pre-social media.
        
           | theshrike79 wrote:
           | Let me guess, two-party system? It tends to polarise people
           | into an us-vs them mentality.
           | 
           | In actual democracies with a half-dozen actual viable options
           | or more, we don't tend to get that heated with politics in
           | general.
        
             | cafard wrote:
             | Really? I have a hard time coming up with important
             | examples. Germany 1870-1932 had many parties with
             | substantial representation, but how civil was it,
             | particularly after 1918? Mark Twain's essay "Stirring Times
             | in Austria" gives a picture of a multi-party parliament in
             | a nervous breakdown. George Dangerfield's _The Strange
             | Death of Liberal England_ shows the UK ca. 1910 with two
             | large parties, Liberal and Conservative, and two
             | unignorable smaller ones, Labor and the Irish caucus; it
             | was not pretty.
             | 
             | At this point, does any major European country have more
             | than two viable parties or coalitions? Will the German
             | Greens ever get a Cabinet seat outside a coalition with the
             | Social Democrats? Will the UK Liberal Democrats ever get a
             | Cabinet seat except in coalition?
        
               | yatac42 wrote:
               | > At this point, does any major European country have
               | more than two viable parties or coalitions?
               | 
               | If we look at the coalitions that have happened at the
               | national level in this century, we have:
               | 
               | * Social Democrats + Greens
               | 
               | * Conservatives + Social Democrats (like, a lot)
               | 
               | * Conservatives + Liberals
               | 
               | So that's three different coalitions that have actually
               | happened in the last 20 years. Admittedly three is not a
               | lot more than two, but it is more (and we're talking
               | about a time frame that only includes 5 national
               | elections and only about actual coalitions, not
               | potentially viable ones).
               | 
               | And if you look at state governments as well, there are
               | actually a lot more combinations that seem to work.
               | 
               | > Will the German Greens ever get a Cabinet seat outside
               | a coalition with the Social Democrats?
               | 
               | Almost certainly.
               | 
               | At the state level they already have. In one case they're
               | even the majority with the conservatives being the
               | minority partner in the coalition.
               | 
               | At the national level they almost did in 2017.
               | Negotiations between the conservatives, the greens and
               | the liberals failed because the liberals backed out and
               | the greens + conservatives didn't have a majority on
               | their own - they would have been ready to go otherwise.
               | It is entirely possible, even likely, that we will see a
               | conservative-green coalition after this year's elections.
        
               | watwut wrote:
               | Germany 1870 was not democracy. Germany was democracy in
               | between 1918-1932 and it was forced to become one by
               | their own enemies.
               | 
               | The incivility after 1918 was result of loosing war,
               | result of anti-monarchy revolution, result of communist
               | attempt for revolution and so on. It also had to do with
               | rejection of democracy on principle. It had less to do
               | with multiple parties existing or lack of two party
               | system.
        
             | jokethrowaway wrote:
             | I disagree, even with multiple parties there is always a
             | Right vs Left battle - or better "If you don't think like
             | me then you're the enemy".
             | 
             | If you're outside of those boxes you'll be attacked by both
             | left and right wing people, to varying degrees.
             | 
             | I think it's an education problem, people don't understand
             | the basics of politics or economics. They don't understand
             | that Stalin and Hitler were both crazy authoritarians and
             | not political opposites.
             | 
             | The political compass is quite biased in its questioning,
             | but people are often surprised to hear there are more
             | dimensions https://www.politicalcompass.org/
        
               | theshrike79 wrote:
               | > even with multiple parties there is always a Right vs
               | Left battle - or better "If you don't think like me then
               | you're the enemy".
               | 
               | It's harder to blame someone of being "the enemy" when
               | there is a half-dozen other parties on the other side.
               | 
               | Yes, there still are rivalries between left/right and
               | authoritarian/liberal parties, but having options takes
               | some of the edge off.
        
               | jokethrowaway wrote:
               | I've seen this happens several times, people just group
               | all other parties as right or left and team up with
               | parties on their side
        
         | LdSGSgvupDV wrote:
         | In physics, when we connect all environments, it would end up
         | in equilibrium.
        
       | liquidify wrote:
       | I love this article. It hits home as well. I stopped posting a
       | long time ago on sites that tie my posts to my identity (thank
       | you HN for at least not being overt).
       | 
       | I hope that we as a society can adopt to this understanding. It
       | may mean normalizing things that are now considered to be
       | deviant. The question is where we draw boundaries. And the
       | reality is that the second we start drawing any boundaries, is
       | the second we fall back into the social cooling trap.
       | 
       | It is like a giant compressor operating on the entire planet's
       | behavior.
        
       | rutthenut wrote:
       | Interesting article, and from 2017 so we are all more aware of
       | how the tracking measures have continued to grow continuously
       | since then.
       | 
       | Nice example of how one fact can be used to deduce/guess/assume
       | the following traits, which of course won't all necessarily be
       | correct or accurate. >> (Example - I have an advanced degree.
       | This simple piece of data predicts that: I despise and fear
       | Donald Trump and the Republicans; I am a good critical thinker
       | who understands the difference between the high journalistic
       | standards of the New York Times or the Washington Post and the
       | non-existent ones of Fox "News," Breitbart, etc.; I don't believe
       | in alien abductions or faked moon landings; I know that evolution
       | and climate change are true beyond any reasonable doubt; I'm not
       | a theist, much less a Christian, Mormon, or Islamic
       | fundamentalist; etc. All that from just one bit of data. Imagine
       | what else others know about you and me?) >>
        
       | echlebek wrote:
       | It's an interesting theory, and it may well be true, but I'm
       | going to need to see studies before taking this idea seriously.
        
       | fatjokes wrote:
       | My personal bigger fear which leads to cooling isn't that big
       | corps extract data about me and try to sell me things, but rather
       | small, dedicated Twitter mobs (I'll say it, wokes).
        
       | jakub_g wrote:
       | Related: an illustrated guide
       | 
       | https://www.socialcooling.com/
        
       | eivarv wrote:
       | This is also known as a "chilling effect"; A prime example of
       | this is the self-censorship [0] of Wikipedia-readers after
       | Snowden revealed that the US government was collecting data on
       | people reading Wikipedia articles.
       | 
       | [0]:
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chilling_effect#Chilling_effec...
        
         | j0ba wrote:
         | I want to read that link, but not sure if I should...
         | 
         | I'll ddg "snowden wikipedia" instead.
        
           | novaRom wrote:
           | Even search engines cannot be trusted blindly. Browser
           | fingerprinting is reality and nothing can be done to prevent
           | it for sure. Duckduckgo is known to use Microsoft services
           | and collecting user browsing data without consent. Once you
           | share browser fingerprint with others services, it is trivial
           | to identify your person in global database.
        
       | woleium wrote:
       | I know this post is only an hour old, but (in light of the
       | article content) I found it amusing that there are no comments.
        
         | liquidify wrote:
         | Just didn't see it. It is such an obvious idea when you read
         | the authors take on it. It is presented perfectly for such a
         | short article.
        
       | closeparen wrote:
       | Facebook is conspiring with The Man to ruin your life over
       | thoughtcrimes, so you... use it to livestream yourself
       | participating in an insurrection? What exactly are people self-
       | censoring, if not conspiracies to overthrow the United States?
       | 
       | I thought this was a cool theory the first time I read it, but
       | it's aged poorly. If anything we might have the opposite
       | problem... social media freeing people from the norms of polite
       | society, which turned out to be load-bearing.
        
         | ben509 wrote:
         | > ... social media freeing people from the norms of polite
         | society, which turned out to be load-bearing.
         | 
         | I'm the first to acknowledge human nature has a dark side to
         | it, but I think this phenomenon is heavily tech driven.
         | 
         | These problems weren't so bad back when mailing lists and
         | forums were the predominant modes of communication.
         | 
         | We did still have issues back then, due to the flat-comment
         | systems. In them, every man is an island, so you're routinely
         | staking your reputation on everything you say, which is nuts.
         | And commentary doesn't scale; comment sections are either dead,
         | or overwhelmed. Once they're overwhelmed, people aren't getting
         | their ideas noticed. We have a natural impulse to raise our
         | voices to be heard, so we do that rhetorically.
         | 
         | Social media makes it far, far worse, because beyond the
         | problems of the flat-comment system, it has an incentives
         | problem. They get paid for more user engagement. That leads
         | them to prioritize content that drives user engagement, which
         | means everyone is being rewarded for amping things up. And this
         | is feedback loop is fully automated by AI.
        
         | mastazi wrote:
         | Sure, but the remaining 99.9999% of people are not
         | participating in an insurrection. Their data is being collected
         | too.
        
           | closeparen wrote:
           | Their data is being collected, but if not even the wackiest
           | conspiracy theorists care to practice the slightest bit of
           | OPSEC, do you think regular people are changing their
           | behavior over it?
        
             | mastazi wrote:
             | No but that's precisely the thesis of OP. 20 years ago no
             | one cared about global warming, just like not many care
             | about data security right now. This is going to change in
             | the future.
        
         | throwaway13337 wrote:
         | What's missed in that analysis is grouping.
         | 
         | People are now more likely to be performative in a way that is
         | encouraged by identity group.
         | 
         | That would mean some people will say less and some will say
         | more. Overall, though, you'll see more normalized groups
         | wherein being different from that group has a higher cost.
         | 
         | In this way, both the extremism and the self-censorship we see
         | can be explained.
        
           | closeparen wrote:
           | If I understand the thesis here, people are allegedly afraid
           | of Facebook the corporation and whomever it might share data
           | with, not the groups of like-minded people they intentionally
           | communicate with.
        
         | AI_WAIFU wrote:
         | This only applies to people smart enough to _not_ storm the
         | capital.
        
       | offtop5 wrote:
       | Using social media at all, feels very risky. No matter what you
       | say it can be taken out of context, or the context will change
       | within the next decade and you can be made out to be a monster.
       | 
       | I was actually able to find tons of friends and partners back in
       | 2019 when I disconnected from social media. Even though there's a
       | slight temptation to go back being trapped in the house, it's
       | like the temptation to take another drink when you've already had
       | too many.
       | 
       | In fact during the pandemic I decided to delete my Reddit
       | account, I found it was making me very angry for naught.
        
         | SyzygistSix wrote:
         | I wonder if the lack of a social media profile hurts me in some
         | cases. I don't look like a member of the Consumer/Business
         | Party in good standing.
        
       | tachyonbeam wrote:
       | TL;DR: data about us being collected, saved and published by
       | social media makes us all more risk-averse when it comes to
       | expressing our opinions online.
       | 
       | I tend to agree. I have a twitter account and I try to never get
       | into political discussions there, because I know that expressing
       | the "wrong" opinion could cost me my job, as it has others. Even
       | expressing something that I view as positive and encouraging
       | could be misinterpreted. I feel like around 2000-2005, there
       | wasn't so much pressure to be politically correct. People could
       | discuss ideas more freely. That being said, I was younger too,
       | and less risk-averse.
       | 
       | That being said, I also remember that in the early YouTube days,
       | comment threads were completely filled with hate. There were
       | people posting messages like "you're ugly, you should kill
       | yourself" constantly. You'd look at these people's accounts and
       | you saw all the comments they posted. There were trolls who would
       | just run around and post hate comments, particularly on LGBT
       | videos. I really wished that someone would delete these accounts
       | and all their associated comments, but YouTube did absolutely
       | nothing about it for years. It was pretty depressing.
        
         | shadowgovt wrote:
         | We also don't, in general, shout our political opinions on
         | street corners or in farmer's markets.
         | 
         | What seems to be changing is the online space looks more like
         | those spaces, only our voices online are very loud.
        
           | tasogare wrote:
           | It depends on the place. In Japan it is very common for cars,
           | especially before elections, to roam the streets while
           | shouting political stances. Politicians do the same at a road
           | corners using a megaphone.
        
         | coldtea wrote:
         | Many people are OK with it mostly because "the bad people" are
         | targeted (they think, that is, those they disagree with).
         | 
         | If the pendulum swinged conservative in the future and you
         | could get fired for excess "wokeness", the same people would be
         | fuming with rage at the censorship.
         | 
         | Of course the conservative side (which is now all about free
         | speech) did censor others amply when it had the upper hand
         | (from McCarthy to the "parental advisory" stickers and album
         | boycott campaigns from Mrs. Gore - funnily a Democrat, how
         | times change).
         | 
         | Double standards as usual. If you want a free society, defend
         | free speech for those you disagree with and consider "a
         | danger".
        
           | tachyonbeam wrote:
           | The way I see it, the people in power try to suppress ideas
           | they disagree with. It's just more problematic now because
           | with technology, we're going to get to a point where
           | suppressing ideas and the people who hold said ideas can be
           | automated.
        
           | free_rms wrote:
           | The thing about building cages and whips is they're
           | inevitably used against the vulnerable.
           | 
           | It sounds good when you're building them..
        
       | p410n3 wrote:
       | That just sounds like proper opsec
        
       | iJohnDoe wrote:
       | I think many out there that are a victim of social cooling.
       | Probably way more than we realize due to their silence.
       | 
       | You have to think twice about posting or messaging anything
       | because you have to assume that the service will later be
       | breached and your privacy exposed. Similarly, you have to weigh
       | the consequences of simply signing up for a service in the first
       | place due to the risk of the service or company being breached
       | later.
       | 
       | I also think the archiving sites that want to download and
       | archive everything add more to social cooling than anything else.
        
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