CBC Lite Sections News • Canada The 'mommaxxing' trend aestheticizes motherhood. But moms are already maxxed out Natalie Stechyson | CBC News | Posted: June 9, 2026 8:00 AM | Last Updated: 6 hours ago Pressure-cooker parenting trend idealizes a highly curated version of motherhood Image | social media Caption: A mother takes a selfie with a baby in this file photo. A social media trend called mommaxxing might have parents believing they need to optimize every aspect of their lives, but experts say this is a recipe for burnout. (500px Prime/Getty Images) (BUTTON) Load image Open image in new tab If you've scrolled social media or perused the world wide web as of late, chances are you've seen references to "maxxing," which is essentially internet slang for optimizing or maximizing. Perhaps you've read tips for sleepmaxxing, or warnings about looksmaxxing, watched Reels about proteinmaxxing or stared incredulously at this very website as we discussed sardinemaxxing. In each case, it refers to doing something to its fullest — applying every sleep hygiene tip at once, for instance, or eating 1,000 sardines in a month for their purported health benefits. And now, with the heaviest of sighs, we'll tell you about the newest trend compelling people to go all in on one specific aspect of their lives: mommaxxing. Also known as mommymaxxing — or depending on your personal situation, workingmommaxxing, girlmommaxxing, or singlemommaxxing — this pressure-cooker parenting trend essentially idealizes a maximum-strength, highly curated version of motherhood. Mommymaxxing influencers post about postpartum workout routines and skincare, matching baby and mama outfits, keeping an aesthetically pleasing home, making nutritious snacks, turning everyday tasks into whimsical dance parties (also called ... whimsymaxxing) and generally looking fit, stylish and above all, happy. * From sardinemaxxing to skincare, here's why tinned fish is the newest 'it' food * Your teen is likely seeing 'looksmaxxing' content online. Here's what you need to know "I still can’t believe I get to be their mom," Lauren Perez, an L.A.-based influencer and founder of a haircare brand, says in an Instagram post showing herself laughing and cuddling with her outfit-co-ordinated children in a blanket spread on a manicured lawn. "Turning a 'trap' into a treasure," writes someone in another #mommaxxing Instagram post about taking advantage of breastfeeding to meet her reading goals and "feed two souls at once." "It means getting consistent in the gym, fixing my gut health, healing emotionally, becoming financially stable, creating a routine and discipline, and really focusing on putting myself first in order to be the best mom I can be," another TikTok influencer said in her recent video about singlemommaxxing. Embed | Other To view this embedded content, please visit the full version of this story.Open full story in new tab But while social media might make some parents believe they need to "optimize" every aspect of their lives, experts say this is a recipe for burnout. Not only that, but the concept turns motherhood into a performance and almost makes a mockery of it, Vanessa Lapointe, a parenting consultant based in Surrey, B.C., told CBC News. “This is really not what moms need, and certainly not realistic,” Lapointe said. “Having a child and being responsible for a life isn’t about an aesthetic. It is about the nurturing of an actual being.” WATCH | Should there be a social media ban for Canadian kids?: Media Video | The National : Caption: CBC News chief political correspondent Rosemary Barton asks The National's At Issue panel to break down the politics of a possible social media ban for youths in Canada. Open full embed in new tab Loading external pages may require significantly more data usage than loading CBC Lite story pages. Motherhood is already maximized Expectations for modern parenting have become so all-consuming that researchers now have a term for it: the intensification of parenting. As examples, data shows parents today spend more time with their children than in previous generations, with the predominant style focused on nearly unconditionally validating a child's feelings, leaving many feeling burned out. More women are working full time, but women also still consistently take on a larger share of unpaid household work, including chores and child care, according to a 2022 Statistics Canada report. * Who's protecting the 'beautiful, happy children' growing up online in influencer videos? * Despite gains, women still do most of the housework. Will this gender gap ever narrow? Even the U.S. surgeon general has acknowledged these pressures, issuing a public health advisory in 2024 about the impact on parents' mental health. There’s nothing new about the pressure for women to be perfect mothers, said Shana MacDonald, the O'Donovan Chair in communication at the University of Waterloo, who researches social and digital media. WATCH | Book exposes reality behind tradwife influencer fantasy: Media Video | Commotion with Elamin Abdelmahmoud : Caption: On Commotion, Elamin Abdelmahmoud and guest Amil Niazi discuss the book Yesteryear and how it uses satire to explore the nature of "tradwife" influencer culture and aesthetic. Open full embed in new tab Loading external pages may require significantly more data usage than loading CBC Lite story pages. Mommaxxing is kind of an “unholy alliance” between health and wellness culture and the mommy blogs that have been around for the past two decades, MacDonald told CBC News. Now, we’re seeing a generation who grew up inundated with influencer culture and “get ready with me” videos move into a highly aspirational new market. “It’s a bit of a fashion show of idealized consumer products that then prove that you are worthy of motherhood, that you are doing this correctly." It also shares some similarities with tradwife culture, a highly aesthetics-driven internet subculture of women embracing “traditional” homemaker roles where becoming a mother is the ultimate achievement, MacDonald added. “It really makes sense that that perfect peaceful life that gets projected as a tradwife … would extend to the beautifying of yourself as a mother.” 'Motherhood is the mess' Online, some parents have openly criticized mommaxxing. A content creator who goes by MomBum wrote in the U.K.’s GraziaDaily that she tried it — bought all the best baby products, went to “mummy Pilates,” lost weight and wore makeup — and said the result was “toxic.” “It was all a façade, because behind closed doors I was exhausted and hungry and everyone was crying,” she wrote. “For the first time in my life, I was really trying as hard as I could, and it still wasn’t good enough, it still felt like I was failing.” Embed | Other To view this embedded content, please visit the full version of this story.Open full story in new tab Stacy McCann, a Missouri-based therapist, wrote on Instagram in March that she rejects the concept of motherhood "as a metric." "Motherhood is the mess. Motherhood is the chaos. Motherhood is the nuance. Motherhood is the micro moments." Mommaxxing is unsustainable and unattainable for many people, said Lapointe, the parenting consultant. In addition, trying to look good on the outside to feel better on the inside simply doesn’t work, she added. “When we spin our wheels like that, especially in matters of the heart and matters of life, we tend to burn out pretty quick.” More Stories Like This The related links below are generated automatically based on the story you’ve just read. Loading... CBC Lite is a low-bandwidth website. To see what's new, check out our release notes. For high quality images, media, comments, and other additional features visit the full version of this story. We and select advertising partners use trackers to collect some of your data in order to enhance your experience and to deliver personalized content and advertising. If you are not comfortable with the use of this information, please review your device and browser privacy settings before continuing your visit. 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