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--- After 30 Something --------------------------------------------

Done
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I am so glad that decade is over. I feel bad saying it because it
coincides\* with most of our marriage and most of my youngest's
life, but: those last ten years SUCKED. It was just way harder than
it needed to be. If there was some weird event and the only way I
could save everyone was to go back in time and relive those ten
years I... couldn't; Unless it was the New Year's Eve's those have
mostly been wonderful.

- First decade - Mostly fun, but can't really remember anyway.
- Second decade - Mostly fun, starts turning towards mostly work
  (In the mis-conception that hard work now pays off and you can
  have fun later).
- Third decade - Disillusionment after MUCH hardwork tempered with
  debt-riddled fun though (because you promised yourself) before a
  rapid descent to...
- Fourth decade - *shudders*

The last six/seven months finally saw a turn-around though and so
I'm hopeful the next ten years are going to be better, despite the
downward spiral so far.

Decay
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It's also the decade where I've noticed my body start to fall apart
and degrade.  Sport is bad for you. My knees are not going to get
any better, my collarbone will always ache,  what the fuck is
that?! Growing from where?!  Makes you appreciate marriage and that
your partner can't run away. Ha!

Determined
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So far I've learnt (but have struggled to apply): 

- Work hard, but not too hard.
- Remember: You are only young "once"; although that actually
  applies to each and every decade. 
- Put yourself first sometimes; More often than you think actually.
- And closely linked to that: Be willing and ready to disappoint
  others. Even those you don't want to; Basically you have to aim
  to balance the disappointment - you CANNOT take it all.

* - Correlation does not imply causation.

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