Posts by boytits@kolektiva.social
(DIR) Post #APt6I9NuegBOaLvfWK by boytits@kolektiva.social
2022-11-21T23:04:19Z
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@rich go for it
(DIR) Post #APt6IA8hqhc4vTp2SO by boytits@kolektiva.social
2022-11-23T01:04:57Z
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@rich sorry for the delayed response. I'm gonna give a short-ish answer now and then try to circle back again later when I have more time and more brain cells to spare because this is a pretty meaty question.And first I'm gonna tag in @rechelon because they may be able to pick up where I leave off and this kind of question is in their wheelhouse as they both are themself an anarchist writer and have read more theory than I will ever get around to, lol.Also maybe @anarchistbicycleclub because I know she loves to nerd out about urban planning and infrastructure.So, this is complicated, because the honest answer is that there's more than one answer and the answer you get depends heavily and can vary dramatically depending on what flavor of anarchist you're talking to.@rechelon and I, for example, both self-describe as transhumanists, altruistic individualists, and agency maximizing consequentialists. (And in happy to break down any of those terms if you need) So our answer is going to look a lot different than that of a collectivist anarchist, but also different from an egoist anarchist or an anti-civ anarchist.
(DIR) Post #APt6IAotJrMD2JYjD6 by boytits@kolektiva.social
2022-11-23T01:13:43Z
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@rich @rechelon @anarchistbicycleclub also gonna throw the link to and screenshots of an old twitter thread of mine talking about the complexities of answering this particular type of question just for context because this is often a difficult and lengthy subject to parse out.But I promise I will pop back in later with my personal perspective on an answer to this question because I realize at this point what I've provided so far is essentially a very long non-answer.https://twitter.com/b0ytits/status/1435016572922257412?t=6ZkCWQj6w6T4oEssJRjXFg&s=19
(DIR) Post #AQDfQH0dZct46eqjRY by boytits@kolektiva.social
2022-12-03T04:56:38Z
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Ok, how about this then?
(DIR) Post #AUUFlq2Dwei99Z7xGS by boytits@kolektiva.social
2023-04-09T19:46:12Z
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1. Abuse is a learned behavior, but it isn't learned by *being* abused. Its learned by being raised with a sense of entitlement to power and control over others and learning which "others" it is socially acceptable to subjugate.2. Being a survivor of abuse doesn't automatically make you an expert on abuse. You are the expert on your *own* experience. That's different. There is actually a fuckton of theory and research on abuse. It's an entire field of study and y'all should read about it before you talk out your asses 🙃3. Abuse is not garden variety harm or a mistake. Abuse is about a cyclical pattern of harmful behavior *with the intent of gaining power and control over another person*.4. Stating or implying that survivors of abuse are more likely to become abusers than any other demographic is both false and disgusting5. Transformative Justice is trash and I will die on that hill. We know that abusers have a 95% recidivism rate even with therapy and rehabilitation. Focusing equal or greater energy on the rehabilitation of the abuser is abuse apologism. Full stop.6. Our abolitionism will be survivor centered or it will be bullshit7. A lot of y'all are like "by any means necessary**"**except rapists and abusers
(DIR) Post #AUUG0mB6ZC1nXGP7fU by boytits@kolektiva.social
2023-04-09T19:49:14Z
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Was thinking this morning about how this little crop of "survivors using lethal force is cArCeRaL" proponents remind me of the post-occupy radlibs who tried to argue that participating in a black bloc was oppressive and problematicFor those of you who weren't around in 2012, the argument was that, clearly (🙄) only white cishet men ever participated in black blocs & therefore black blocs where a manifestation of white male privilege & their desire to do indescriminant violence without consequencesNow, this is both obviously false and also hilarious if you've ever actually been in bloc, but I dredge it up not for its entertainment value, but for the similarities it shares with the current argument formula being mobilized against proponents of survivor autonomyFirst is the reversal of the origination point of violence. Neither survivors nor the black bloc are the *initiators* of violence.The state, the forces of capitalism, the rapist, they have initiated violence already, we are just responding in their language. We are defending and liberating ourselves.This reversal of course serves to both protect and obfuscate the state and the rapist's monopoly on legitimate violenceThe other shining similarity that stick out to me was the fundamental inability to conceive of non-men as subjects capable of and desiring to commit insurgent, liberatory violence.The radlibs of the early 2010's called themselves feminists while repeating asinine sexist takes about how women were inherently less violent than men and that is how they *knew* that the bloc must be all white dudes.Today's rabid little gaggle of rape apologists share this myopic worldview. That non-men are passive objects, incapable of desiring or wielding violence in pursuit of our liberation.They have told us as much when they say that prison abolition means "learning to live with" the perpetrators of sexual violence, domestic violence, and other forms of misogynist violenceThey utterly fail to understand that the state does not protect the marginalized from the violence of their oppressors, but in fact protects the oppressors' right to do violence to the marginalized and artificially suppressed the liberatory violence of the oppressedWhen the state and its prisons fall away, it won't be us who has to "learn to live with" anything. We've been living with patriarchal violence for thousands of years. It will be the rapists and their defenders who have to learn to live with usI, for one, am eagerly looking forward to our future free market on the application of violence
(DIR) Post #AUUNkeZFtTSovqWVvM by boytits@kolektiva.social
2023-04-09T21:50:50Z
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@kittenlikeasmallcat Hi, so for context, this post is a repost of an old Twitter thread (maybe I'll add that to the top, for clarity) and that's why the tone is a bit aggro. I wrote this during some heavy anti-survivor autonomy backlash over on Twitter during one of the multiple rounds of discourse about the slogan "kill your local rapist".I've definitely had folks make the objection that my experiences with Transformative Justice (and by extention the position from which I'm speaking on it) are not true to what it's intended to be.And while that's a fair point, I'm certainly not the only person who feels this way or has had experiences wherein alleged proponents of TJ have weilded it to do apologism, run cover for abusers, launder their reputations and facilitate abusers remaining in community by proclaiming them "accountable" despite no amends being made or behavior changing.I'm fully willing to believe that all of my experiences like this have been with folks who are insufficiently educated on TJ and how it is supposed to be practiced. But it's been consistent enough that I'm highly skeptical of anyone who claims to be a proponent and usually brace myself for abuse apologism, until someone has been emphatic that they are pro-survivor autonomy and survivor centered responses to abuse and sexual violence.I guess what I'm trying to say is that if my experience with TJ proponents has largely been a misrepresentation of what it is supposed to be about then maybe the misrepresenters are overtaking the folks who actually know what they're talking about in terms of like visibility or public perception of TJ.But also idk how to articulate the folks claiming to be proponents of TJ, but ultimately misrepresenting it as a separate group from people who actually understand and practice TJ accurately, because the folks who are getting it wrong definitely use the term Transformative Justice to describe their ideology & practice.Oh and yes, this was originally written in response to folks claiming that you cannot be both a prison abolitionist and pro using violence against rapists & abusers.
(DIR) Post #AUURFq0nh5AHGVy8lk by boytits@kolektiva.social
2023-04-09T22:28:05Z
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@FinalOverdrive @kittenlikeasmallcat @julieofthespirits I think we're maybe all operating with slightly different definitions and frameworks. But are roughly in agreement in terms of what tools or options are on the table in response to abuse and sexual violence
(DIR) Post #AUUSEr8k78JIQdmOrQ by boytits@kolektiva.social
2023-04-09T22:59:33Z
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@kittenlikeasmallcat Yeah, I get where you're coming from. I think what I was trying to say is that I was truly unaware that these folks were misrepresenting TJ until I started speaking about my bad experiences with them and other folks began telling me that what I had encountered under the label of TJ was a misapplication of it.I feel like it would be easier to discuss if there was a term for it like TERFs or ancaps
(DIR) Post #AUUV1MfqNIZO2OWLnE by boytits@kolektiva.social
2023-04-09T23:29:18Z
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@kittenlikeasmallcat I don't have a super concise way of articulating it, but I've always encountered these folks in prison abolition spaces offering up their mangled version of TJ as an alternative to prisons. Usually their angle is that being a prison abolitionist means we have to love and accept everyone and if we just love people good enough then they will stop doing harm. These folks are always strictly non-violent. Their analysis feels very shallow and like they have no experience dealing with abuse or rape. An over-emphasis on the person who caused harm being changed, healed, transformed, fixed, etc. A lack of understanding of what abuse is and how it is distinct from other types of harm. Telling folks they're not allowed to use the terms rapist or abuser
(DIR) Post #AUVIMgPX5Gs35NgcHA by boytits@kolektiva.social
2023-04-09T22:41:02Z
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@hakan_geijer @AvengingFemme I would say 1.) Yes, I think that it is an individualist/collectivist split and 2.) I think that hakan's description articulates the fundamental disagreement between collectivists and individualistsPersonally, I'm an individualist and I'm on team you can end a relationship at any time for any reason
(DIR) Post #AUW4JbRlsXyScbKYQy by boytits@kolektiva.social
2023-04-10T15:35:11Z
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@hakan_geijer @AvengingFemme @rechelon resolves this conflict with the term "altruistic individualist" which I've since adopted from them