Posts by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
(DIR) Post #9lCdFSoI89KTLy7aka by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-07-25T08:37:11Z
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@erin no problem!
(DIR) Post #9lWa0v1Z4rKvfv2PCK by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-08-03T06:25:43Z
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I think it's weird that NTs think that autistic people can't communicateMy dad is probably where I got the autism genes from and I can understand his emotions very well and yet my (presumably NT) mum can't understand his emotions because he expresses them differently.I can read my autistic girlfriend's emotions very well because I've talked to her and saw patterns between her feeling some way and her making a facial expression or doing a stim, which are also different to "normal". I actually find reading emotions of autistic people easier, and they tend to understand me better too. Even if they can't read my emotions, they are more likely to ask or believe me if I tell them how I feel, even if my emotional reaction isn't "typical". NTs aren't better at communication, they just communicate *differently*, and don't bother to learn how to communicate with anyone who isn't exactly like them.
(DIR) Post #9lZZpJgKhmFRmvWYF6 by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-08-05T03:07:16Z
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Kindness and cooperation is human nature.Humans are soft and weak, we wouldn't have gotten anywhere without helping each other, cooperation is our biggest strength.Competing with each other and fighting for resources is only hindering our progress. Fetishisation of competition is capitalist propaganda.
(DIR) Post #9m4Mau5VafOOAxvQzg by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-08-20T06:07:31Z
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My girlfriend and I are thinking of setting up a commune with us and a few friends after we finish uni. We have no idea what we should consider regarding legal/financial aspects and such, since usually only two married people or one person buys a house, not 5-10 friends. Is there anyone who has experience with this or any general advice for us to think about? We still have a couple of years before we'll be able to do this, so it's not urgent, just want to have stuff figured out before problems arise :)We are thinking of buying a big house with a few friends and having a mini farm and sharing kitchen utensils and kinda living as a big "family". We live in Australia if that is relevant :)
(DIR) Post #9mD1SQdK8nUo6r5BC4 by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-08-23T22:40:36Z
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At a botanical garden :) #florespondence
(DIR) Post #9mFFMZuSWfh4oh7byi by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-08-25T11:44:55Z
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There's no way you have to act, look or feel to be a specific gender.You are you because you just are, you don't need a justification.
(DIR) Post #9mFFMa8dfx2JWfkw52 by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-08-25T11:51:28Z
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You can wear whatever you want and be cute :)You can be pretty if you wish as well. You don't have to be big or tall to be a "real man".You can feel pretty and soft and that doesn't make you a girl. Crying at sad movies or wanting to hug cute animals is a man thing to do if you're a man :)Wanting your face and nails to be sparkly is very understandable, and again doesn't make you any less of who you are.There's no way you have to act or look to be considered a man if that's just who you are.
(DIR) Post #9mFFMaKKySOU6xEHJY by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-08-25T12:03:25Z
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This obviously goes for all men, cis and trans.If you're a big tall bearded guy, you can still be soft and cute and pretty :)Being pretty or beautiful isn't reserved for girls only. It's for everyone. If you're short and small, you can also be cute and soft without invalidating your manhood. Or you can still be a strong protector if you wish, being small doesn't disqualify you from that role.Men should be allowed to feel pretty and cute, wear lipstick and eye-liner if that makes them feel happy :) including big tall bearded men! Not just small delicate guys look cute in makeup and frilly dresses (although they do look gorgeous!)The expectations placed on men are unfair and I hope you can have a safe space to be vulnerable and gentle.
(DIR) Post #9mXnKSxWKatU9BfYoK by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-09-03T01:00:28Z
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Hey, I'm planning to write an article/short book/pdf about the issues men (and people percieved as men) face, but from a more feminist perspective than what you usually see online. One of the things I will talk about is how men are forced to hide emotions and aren't allowed to wear things they enjoy, like dresses. I also want to include other things as well.What do you think are the most important issues I should talk about? I want it to include perspectives of many different types of people, not just my opinions.If you tell me your experiences it will be very appreciated!
(DIR) Post #9maXBTolAjqPjhT7Qm by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-06-30T08:19:58Z
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Reminder not to shame virgins, even people you dislike! There is nothing shameful about being a virgin. Critisize their bad actions and opinions, not their lack of experience.Shaming virgins can lead to people, especially teenagers, to be pressured to do things they are not comfortable with. It can also make someone feel bad for being sexually assaulted by their partner or someone they're "supposed" to have sex with, because it can feel like you were "supposed" to enjoy if you weren't such a prude. It makes it easier for abusers to convince someone that they owe them sex, as this can make people feel like something is wrong with not wanting sex. No one owes anyone sex, and there is nothing shameful about not wanting sex or taking a while to get comfortable with the idea. Please take care about what you say and who it might affect.
(DIR) Post #9mqArjClK6bHB2pn9c by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-09-12T03:48:19Z
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Since it is hard to find articles that are positive and not ableist about how autistic brains work, I am going to make a small thread about the main things that we know at the moment. I hope this helps any autistic people who are curious about themselves. I am not an expert, this is just what I learned from my neuroscience course. I will first explain some basics of neuroscience, for people who aren't familiar with biology, so you don't have to have any prerequisite knowledge to understand any of this :) If I accidentally leave some of the basics out, feel free to ask me to clarify. I don't know everything but I'll try my best to help :)
(DIR) Post #9nnDdivx5dnsj4CA6a by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-10-10T08:06:10Z
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I finally finished the analysis of the survey results! Are autistic people really less physically affectionate than non-autistic people? Find out by reading my article (spoiler: they are not).https://sometimesineedmorecharacters.wordpress.com/2019/10/10/are-autistic-people-less-physically-affectionate-it-does-not-seem-so/I'm new to WordPress so excuse me if some of my formatting is off. I hope you find it useful regardless!
(DIR) Post #9noBzRhx9xR1ynsAPg by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-10-11T01:17:44Z
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Are there any plants that look similar to mangoes that are poisonous? I've seen some trees growing on public property that look like mango trees and they're currently flowering. I was planning to go pick a few mangoes once they ripen, but I'm worried that there might be a similar type of fruit that is poisonous that I don't know about. Does anyone know if that's something I should look out for? Or is it safe to assume that if it looks like a mango tree and has mango-like fruit on it that it's safe to eat?
(DIR) Post #9nwmRDOQFHdL31w8kS by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-10-15T09:55:47Z
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I can't believe how normalised abusive relationships are.I have two female friends in relationships with straight men and both of them seem abusive... I told them that I think they're assholes and they deserve better but they don't really think there's any problem. They thinks it's all going great. Women are taught to have such low standards for men...
(DIR) Post #9nwmRE7RXte7If05vE by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-10-15T10:03:22Z
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For context one of them is a sexist who thinks that women have to shave every part of their body including arms and upper lip and was discussing how gross girls with hair are with his girlfriend. He is also too rough even though she doesn't seem into it. She described it as "so rude haha" which doesn't sound like enthusiastic consent.The other friend told me "wow I'm so tired but I'm coming over to my boyfriends house and he won't let me sleep until I have sex with him..."And I can't convince them that there's anything wrong with it because they think that's just how men are... Society fucks up the lives of women by lowering their standards this much. They deserve so much better than some sexist self absorbed asshole, and yet this is the norm...
(DIR) Post #9nwmRFI7BhmCw308C8 by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-10-15T10:05:58Z
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It's so common for cis men to be rough without consent.Last time I dated a cis guy, he pulled my hair without any indication that I'd enjoy it. I don't even let other people brush my hair because it's so sensitive.
(DIR) Post #9nwmRGHnUN7I1LrOL2 by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-10-15T10:14:21Z
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Oh and he once put his hands around my neck "as a joke" which I didn't find funny at all considering he had a choking fetish and has pulled my hair without consent before....I've heard of worse things happening to other people. Like actually forceful choking without any kind of consent at all.It's literally just assault. I don't know why this is so normalised. This type of stuff can kill.
(DIR) Post #9nwmRIBqPTXjvT5fKy by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2019-10-15T10:31:22Z
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@Sapphaos I hope you and your friend are ok now. It's terrible that it happened to you. It's so horrible that this behaviour is normalised. I wish it wasn't so common...
(DIR) Post #9qlXaVIUhaPoKyN7ku by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2020-01-07T05:04:43Z
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Using "they" as default for everyone unless they say otherwise is my favourite way to avoid misgendering :)
(DIR) Post #9qoCSecL80LK5Ln1Hs by Some_Person@sunbeam.city
2020-01-09T00:37:40Z
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Trans men aren't inherently bad for identifying as men.Being a trans man doesn't mean that you're automatically perpetuating the patriarchy.In fact, many trans men have a deeper understanding of the harm the patriarchy causes than cis men because many had to experience it themselves at some point of their lives.Issues often seen as "women's issues" often do affect trans men. Trans men get opressed by laws against reproductive rights and the lack of medical research on this type of body.I've seen some hostility towards trans men and I don't think it is ok. Trans men have the right to speak up about issues that affect them without being silenced with "but you're a man, you can't speak about sexism".Being harmed by the patriarchy isn't only for women, and if you experienced sexism that doesn't make you a woman.