Posts by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
(DIR) Post #ATnoWBZ9zmJ6Smi7iS by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-03-20T08:58:15Z
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I absolutely hate when people argue against youth liberation by saying that granting children full bodily autonomy would promote child sexual abuse because it would "allow" children to seek out sexual contact with adults.. And I think it's pretty clear that when people say this, they're only thinking about this topic in the abstract, because once you think about it in real life terms, it's pretty easy to see that this argument is bullshit.First of all, with some exceptions, children are already allowed to seek out sexual contact with adults, there's no law against that.Second of all, if you work under the assumption that all sexual contact between adults and children is sexual abuse no matter whether children are being oppressed or not (and people who make this argument work under this assumption), then saying that children shouldn't be allowed to seek out sexual contact with adults is pretty clearly victim-blaming. It places the blame for child sexual abuse at least partially on children. It's not childrens' responsibility to not seek out sexual contact with adults, it's adults' responsibility to decline if a child wants to engage in sexual contact with them.
(DIR) Post #AUCZ979hzzok6cFPay by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-04-01T07:07:19Z
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I put a reminder for trans day of visibility in my phone and then I forgot about it anyway
(DIR) Post #AUCZ98WmtfsAMU3MCu by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-04-01T07:15:35Z
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@elliot I'm good at remembering appointments, but I suck at remembering dates, whether it's birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc. Though to be fair, yesterday I was still recovering from the effects of accidentally overdosing my antidepressants
(DIR) Post #AUkZ04ydKJ7I9rnWWO by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-04-17T17:34:35Z
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@comrade_lecter I feel like in many progressive spaces, people, especially women, who get cosmetic surgery that makes them more conventionally attractive are seen as victims. Sentiments like "this poor women was manipulated by contemporary beauty standards into believing there was something wrong with her appearance". I really hate this, not only because it denies people agency and claims that their decisions aren't really theirs, but also because it's just a small step removed from transphobia.I'm sure there is something to be said about how contemporary beauty standards influence people's decisions to get cosmetic surgery that makes them more conventionally attractive, but there is also something to be said about how contemporary gender roles influence trans people's decisions to medically transition. If breasts weren't so heavily associated with women, who knows if I would've gotten top surgery. It was still my decision. No one forced me to get my tits cut off (quite the opposite, actually).Besides, this sentiment doesn't offer any viable alternatives. It's not like a woman who doesn't like her appearance because of contemporary beauty standards can just decide to abolish contemporary beauty standards. This sentiment is not just patronizing because it takes agency away from people, but also because the only "solution" it can offer is "if you dislike your appearance because of contemporary beauty standards, just get over it".
(DIR) Post #AUkZVmcd6Zg8UwciAq by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-04-17T17:40:20Z
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@comrade_lecter The first time I did an IQ test, my mum was pacing outside and I saw her through the window, so my therapist decided I needed to do another one because I was distracted during the first one. I scored significantly lower on the second one.
(DIR) Post #AUoUpCrm20JCFyzNPU by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-03-12T08:34:57Z
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Congrats to Turning Point UK for coming out as zoophiles /j
(DIR) Post #AVLcD0krp8qvXVjZaK by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-05-05T05:40:30Z
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Victims of narcissistic abuse are the autism moms of NPD
(DIR) Post #AVLcD22d2aedWt3GuO by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-05-05T05:52:45Z
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- portray themselves as the victim of someone else's disorder- get all their information on the disorder from fellow neurotypicals; never actually consult someone who has the disorder- believe that everyone who has the disorder is a burden to others and/or incapable of caring about othersThe only major difference is that autism moms are generally mothers of autistic children, while most victims of narcissistic abuse haven't been abused by a narcissist. Autism moms see their child's disorder as a tragedy they wish didn't exist, while victims of narcissistic abuse make up their abuser's disorder in order to get more sympathy and/or justify their sanism.
(DIR) Post #AVUByifZu3zNZjiHtQ by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-05-09T17:53:22Z
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@comrade_lecter The REAL hierarchy of needs
(DIR) Post #AVUDbpxkoySTRVQp4y by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-05-09T18:11:37Z
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@comrade_lecter I'm pretty sure that's the correct pronunciation in English. I also say "antee" though, because that's how it's pronounced in German
(DIR) Post #AWSI9nq8gJbd8mH0Lo by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-06-07T16:47:35Z
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I've been thinking about gender politics lately, and I realized that one of the reasons I find it hard to navigate being perceived as male is because I never really experienced what it's like to be perceived as female. Which isn't to say that people didn't see me as female before I transitioned, but I rarely felt like my gender influenced the way people, particularly boys and men, behaved around and towards me. Many of the experiences that are considered near universal for girls and women are completely alien to me.I have never been catcalled. I've never had a stranger try and grope me. I've never been told to cover up around men. I've never had a stranger tell me to smile. I've never had a man try and flirt with me despite being obviously uninterested. I've never experienced gendered sexual violence, and I've never learned to see men I don't know as potential threats.I think that in a lot of ways, I grew up without gender, and that's probably also one of the reasons why I didn't realize I was trans sooner - you just don't notice that your gender feels wrong if you're rarely reminded of the fact that you have one in the first place. I think this is equally a result of my mum being a tomboy and me having been ugly.My mum never tried to make me adhere to gender roles and she never adhered to them either. I didn't just feel like it was okay for me to play with toy cars and run around outside climbing trees and not wear dresses and love soccer, I felt like it was normal. I was aware that most other girls my age liked different things than me, but due to my autism I never related to them anyway, and the two people I related most to (both afab) liked the same things as me (is it a coincidence that all three of us turned out to be trans later?).Additionally, I was never even close to conventionally attractive, or even unconventionally attractive. I could’ve been, if I had made an effort, but I was too depressed and dysphoric to even make the attempt, and I didn’t really care for it anyway. I wore as much clothing as possible (I remember I once went an entire summer without wearing short pants), and it was all from the boy’s section, and most of it was at least one size too big. I never wore make-up. I hid my hair under a cap pretty much all the time, and when I didn’t, it looked unkempt and often unwashed. I didn’t have the energy to keep up with hygiene. My behavior didn’t help. I was obviously weird - not in a fun or quirky way, but in a way that people didn’t want to hang out with me - and I was obviously miserable. I usually tried to take up as little space as possible and I was inconsiderate and painfully awkward in social situations. Besides, I didn’t leave the house much, so there wasn’t much opportunity for anyone to harass me in the first place, and my classmates were more interested in harassing me in ways that were as far removed from sexualization as possible. I think even back then it was apparent to people that I wasn’t really a girl, because I remember my classmates once told me I could get surgery to become a boy, and when I went to school in a dress on gender swap day, people were more surprised to see me in a dress than they were about the fact that my swapped gender was female.Looking back, I think people saw me as a girl in theory only, but not in practice. They knew that I was officially classified as a girl, but I was so unlike every other girl that it didn’t occur to them to treat me like one. I don’t think anyone I knew back then would be surprised to hear I turned out to be trans - honestly I think they would be more surprised if they heard I wasn’t.And this proves once again that TERFs’ theory of gendered socialization doesn’t work, because there are so many other aspects aside from gender that influence the way you are socialized. In some ways, I was socialized as female. But in many ways, I was socialized as autistic, as mentally ill, as weird, as difficult to get along with, as unpleasant to be around.What I find confusing isn’t that people used to perceive me as female and now perceive me as male. It isn’t that people used to expect me to perform femaleness and now expect me to perform maleness. It’s not that people used to treat me like a girl and now treat me like a man. What I find confusing is that my gender never had that big of an influence on the way people saw me, treated me and expected me to act, and now it does.
(DIR) Post #AWoXEIs6Bd1YCLuioa by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-06-18T11:17:54Z
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@comrade_lecter I think other paraphilias that would be good to have in there are sadism/masochism, voyeurism/exhibitionism, incest, biastophilia, hybristophilia and necrophilia
(DIR) Post #AXM3pMxc25pZBbVePQ by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-07-04T15:24:09Z
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I think the problem with a lot of the stereotypically bad mental health advice, and specifically depression advice (e.g. go outside more, exercise, practice mindfulness, positive thinking, etc.) isn't that it is actually bad advice. In fact, it's good advice. Of course it's not going to help everyone, but studies have shown that many people with depression profit from doing these things.I think the problem with this sort of advice, and the reason why it has such a bad reputation among mentally ill people, is that it is 1) a lot easier said than done, 2) often presented as some magical cure for depression, which it definitely isn't and, in a similar vein, 3) often phrased in a disrespectful and invalidating way (e.g. "you have no reason to be depressed, just focus on the positive things in your life").When presented in a better way, this advice can be helpful. Step one is understanding how depression works, and that it is not the same as being in a bad mood or feeling tired, which may be fixed by going on a walk or thinking nice thoughts, but a genuine illness which takes months, if not years, to recover from. Step two is asking whether the person with depression actually wants advice, and to respect if they don't. Sadly, most people fail at both of these basic steps.Step three is acknowledging that someone who barely has the energy for everyday tasks like getting out of bed, taking a shower, brushing their teeth, etc. can't just start exercising. Depending on how bad a person's depression is, you need to start with small steps. Instead of exercising, they could just do a few stretches. Instead of going on a walk, they could just sit on their balcony for five to ten minutes. Instead of positive thinking, they could take a minute each evening to try and think of just one good thing about their day, even if it's something small.Step four is offering help with things they struggle with, e.g. "Would it be easier for you to go on walks if we went together?", "We could look up some quick and easy exercises you can do at home", etc. And to respect it if they decline, of course.If someone actually follows these steps, or even just the first three steps, then I think this stereotypically bad mental health advice can actually be great advice. Because it's not the advice that sucks, it's the people giving the advice who do.
(DIR) Post #AYEK06KdPzXiifqORc by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-07-30T11:12:48Z
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Imagine thinking this is a bad thing
(DIR) Post #AZ7ASZseJmHQY6yNYe by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-08-26T06:46:25Z
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@comrade_lecter There's a lot of bad takes about his self-reported height and weight, too. A lot of subtle fatshaming, some not-so-subtle fatshaming, and many people openly admitting that they have no idea how weight works
(DIR) Post #AZElFPt1DlOuCPS7Zw by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-08-29T22:30:14Z
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@zeta_yena I use firefox on my laptop and I can save usernames and passwords either manually or simply by clicking "remember me" when I create an account or log in for the first time and then every time I visit the login page after that the browser asks me whether I want to autofill the username and password. So I'm not sure what the problem is.
(DIR) Post #AZpvMg1ZFZm21GsiJ6 by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-09-16T18:25:46Z
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What is y'all's opinion on cosplaying as murderers or wearing merchandise that, for lack of a better term, "glorifies" murderers?I think if you're doing it in the privacy of your own home or in spaces that are specifically created for, for lack of a better term, "fans" of murderers, it's fine. Doing it in public is in bad taste, but kind of depends on the specifics. Doing it in spaces that are specifically created for people who were affected is wrong.
(DIR) Post #AZpvMjMwoXesORuKY4 by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-09-16T18:30:59Z
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I've wanted to get a "Natural Selection"-shirt for years but it kind of seems pointless because there's no situation where I could actually wear it. I could only put it on at home, but that seems redundant. And I don't really want to buy a piece of clothing if I won't be wearing it.
(DIR) Post #AayHyfkzeMqlNCH4mu by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-10-20T19:42:28Z
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@comrade_lecter @sh0code_sh0con Why did I read this as "pro castration"?And why didn't I even question that until I saw the original post?
(DIR) Post #AbHC9Mia63RvEVPFq4 by ComradeDeath@nnia.space
2023-10-29T22:36:41Z
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@comrade_lecter Why is this person acting like a few mentally ill white people on the internet are capable of ending a military conflict at the other side of the world by simply "saying something"? Do they really think a few more #FreePalestine posts are gonna change anything? What tf kind of godlike power do they believe mentally ill white people to have?