Posts by AnxiousCat@neurodifferent.me
(DIR) Post #ASRs0gGQh0HQT8MPQW by AnxiousCat@neurodifferent.me
2023-02-07T20:26:25Z
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As I navigate some difficult feelings this week related to "failing" at academia, I revisited - and wanted to share - this piece by @drdevonprice . Price's book Laziness Does Not Exist gave me an important reframe for understanding my own struggles, though I seem to need continual reminders of this. As I did this week.This paragraph, in particular, resonates with me: "People do not choose to fail or disappoint. No one wants to feel incapable, apathetic, or ineffective. If you look at a person’s action (or inaction) and see only laziness, you are missing key details. There is always an explanation. There are always barriers. Just because you can’t see them, or don’t view them as legitimate, doesn’t mean they’re not there. Look harder."I have a strong sense that the folks who will be evaluating me will not share this perspective, but I can still work to affirm this mindset within myself. Even if my productivity is not enough for them, I am still enough. My work has made an impact on the world in ways that matter to me, and my worth runs far deeper than my annual review file can reveal.https://humanparts.medium.com/laziness-does-not-exist-3af27e312d01
(DIR) Post #AUEV7FqWhne8yn3Kwi by AnxiousCat@neurodifferent.me
2023-04-02T05:46:58Z
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic Yes, every single day! I get up, do my chores, make some coffee, and then sit and do my puzzle while I mindfully reflect for as long as possible. If I don’t get that time for some reason, it messes with my entire day.
(DIR) Post #AUib6WrcMsbByene2i by AnxiousCat@neurodifferent.me
2023-04-16T18:37:56Z
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Being diagnosed with autism at the age of 49 has given me a parsimonious explanation for a lifetime of struggle, and that has felt liberating. So many things that I could never understand about myself now make sense. I now understand that my struggles are not a result of me being “lazy” or not “trying hard enough,” and that those are just ableist narratives that I have carried inside for too long. But it’s also really hard, because autism is not an explanation that most other people will understand or accept. It’s not really something I can share with others in a way that leads to anything but more invalidation. I fear that other people will continue to see me as lazy, or willful, or overly dramatic, even though this is not true. And this feels really hard. How do other late identified autistic folks cope with this paradox?#ActuallyAutistic #LateDiagnosed @actuallyautistic