Subj : Condolences, etc.
To   : David Smith
From : Barry Martin
Date : Thu Dec 30 2021 07:11:00


Hi David!

-=> DAVID SMITH wrote to DARYL STOUT <=-

Condolences on the loss of your Dad too.


 DS> Also regarding the nursing homes (I know I'm jumping around a
 DS> lot) before COVID hit mom was sponsoring a couple of people at
 DS> the local nursing home. After COVID hit they isolated all the
 DS> patients and she couldn't get in to see them. Both of them passed
 DS> away last yaer, not of COVID, but she believes just lonlieness.
 DS> She said they have lost a LOT of people in that nursing home the
 DS> past year+. If I can at all help it I'm NOT gonna let her or my
 DS> brother have to go to a nursing home.  We were really lucky to be
 DS> able to spend the last few days with dad in the hospital but a
 DS> lot of those folks died alone.

I think you are right on the 'died of loneliness: humans are a social
animal and require contact with others.  In some cases can be
substituted with pets or stuffed animals, dolls, etc.  

As for your mother not wanting to share information, might be
maintaining her independence (I can do it without help), not wanting to 
burden you with additional stuff (you have your own to do, I'll manage).
No real suggestions on how to get around, just continue to be there and 
try to find information and preference as the opportunities arise.  

Probably a hint might be to keep pen and paper (notepad) handy -- shirt
pocket?  You probbaly could remember something like "cremation" but
maybe not "St. Anne's Church in Barrington".  Plus it's an active cue 
you're interested; voice notes can be disruptive and some people clam up
at the sight of a recorder.


 
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