Subj : All PIN Numbers Leaked
To   : David Smith
From : Barry Martin
Date : Tue Nov 30 2021 07:35:00


Hi Dave!

 BM> My condolences on your Dad's passing.  Bad packet is just a nuisance.
 BM> Any tidbits of advice you would like to give us?  My Mother is 92 and
 BM> "we've been preparing for years" which sounds horrible and morbid but
 BM> major items like Power of Attorney and Health Directives and little
 BM> things like having a key to the house and telephone numbers.  I think
 BM> ILink has a conference called 'Seniors' -- can move to there if you
 BM> wish.
 DS> Thanks dad was 80 years old. He has been going downhill the past
 DS> few months. They had been running some tests and stuff. On Monday
 DS> they talked to the doctor and found out that he had a very
 DS> aggressive cancer in his kidney. It had already spread pretty bad
 DS> and the prognosis wasn't very good. They set up an appointment
 DS> with UAB for the following week. However, two days later on
 DS> Wednesday he went down fast. They had to rush him to the hospital
 DS> & he was gone by Sunday night.

In hindsight the 'going downhill' could have been due to the cancer, or
something else which gave the cancer a foothold.  Either way a reminder
we should have things professionally checked periodically.


 DS> Things are still kind of soaking in. I spent Thanksgiving  with
 DS> my mom and brother which helped some. I'm thankful that he didnt
 DS> suffer very much but have been dreading loosing him for a while.
 DS> My biggest regret is that I didn't go down to spend some time
 DS> with him that Monday night. By the time I got down to the
 DS> hospital he was pretty much out of it.
 
Yes, though he probably knew you were there even though he was was 
unable to properly express it.


 DS> I guess as far as tidbits the main thing is to spend as much time
 DS> with them while you still have them. Take notes of the stories
 DS> they tell! I wish I had written down some of the family stories
 DS> my grandmother used to tell me. Ive noticed my moms gotten a bit
 DS> forgetful too! :)

My Mother has been doing Sodoku puzzles to 'exercise her brain'.  (And I
just wrote a note to remind me to send her a few more.)  Paperwork is 
her downfall: Dad took care of all that so she never had to deal with 
it.  At first to my Mother everything is potentially important so was 
afraid to throw anything out but has gradually learned.


 DS> Lucily mom took care of all the bills and stuff and had all the
 DS> insurance and stuff. My dad had a burial policy (that you can't
 DS> get anymore Im told) that took care of a majroity of the funeral
 DS> arrangements. I've started putting together stuff and trying to
 DS> get all the information I'll need for my mom and trying to keep
 DS> everything together!

So you're doing the same thing I've been doing and checking on! :)  My
version is a little haphazard in appearance: there's a 1" 3-ring binder 
for the letter-sized paperwork, a roughly 4x6" looseleaf Address Book 
with various contacts, telephone numbers, etc.  Plus scans of both and a
ton more information in the computer (which gets copied to the laptop 
when visiting).  Had the spare Address Book and at the time was easier 
to grab and flip to the page so just continued.


 DS> I'm still learning about all the other stuff but for now thats
 DS> all I know!

Hopefully we can continue to share ideas! 

 
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