Subj : Masks And Locations
To   : Daryl Stout
From : Barry Martin
Date : Sun Jul 19 2020 09:09:00


Hi Daryl!

 BM> Well, first hope he does go through and exchange some unhealthy habits
 BM> for healthy ones.  OTOH he could argue (and probably will) others have
 BM> smoked and drank and lived to be over 100.  He's not the others.  For
 BM> him might be better to really cut back as opposed to quit: one
 BM> cigarette a day, one 8 oz. bottle of beer a day (better define size -
 BM> not a 42 ouncer or whatever size) - that way he has something to enjoy
 BM> and look forward to as opposed to 'everything I enjoy has been removed'
 BM> attitude. His mind works differently from everyone else's, same as I
 BM> think and react differently from anyone else.
 DS>   Good points. The thing is, he has had a problem sleeping well,
 DS> as he is so bummed up now from the arthritis, from the freak
 DS> motorcycle wreck 13 years ago that almost killed him (because he
 DS> was impatient), that I never know when he may be sleeping. So, I
 DS> told him to call me if he needs to talk. If I'm awakened, I can
 DS> usually go back to sleep in short order...he can't. It's not that
 DS> I'm "letting sleeping dogs lie", but he's going to be angry
 DS> enough about giving those things up, or cutting them back...I
 DS> don't need bothering him to add to it.

Yes, if your brother has no set sleeping schedule there's a good 
possibility of you calling when he is sleeping -- the Never Fails Dep't.
As for bringing up the cutting back, bring up when flows with the 
conversation, and maybe more as an option: "what would happen if 
you...".  Possibly as a joke lead-in: "I'm tired 'cause I had to pee 
every hour 'cause of all the beer"  ...<small talk...> "Hey I know how
to fix that: drink less!"



 BM> I'm sort of thinking that is the problem: offending people has always
 BM> been wrong; doing it on purpose more wrong,  Not correcting the
 BM> attitude even more so.  We (generic) have gone into an over-correcting
 BM> attitude, almost of a paranoia, where anything remotely indicating a
 BM> difference is wrong.  Hard to explain as it's a concept and not a rule.
 DS>   That's like folks thing certain things are a right...but they
 DS> are actually an earned privilege. And, the privilege can be as
 DS> easily taken away, as it was granted.

That is what they forget: some things (a lot of things!) are a
privilege and not a right.  The Miranda statement should probably be
rephrased from "you have the right to an attorney at no charge"
[paraphrasing] to "you have the privilege to an attorney at no charge".


 BM> I did a theatrical performance about puns. It was a play on words.
 DS>   Does the girdle fit?? Of corset does. <G>

Had a side-note on baseball: there was a squeeze play.

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