Subj : Re: Millikan's was: Wegman's To : Barry Martin From : Nancy Backus Date : Mon Dec 23 2019 21:12:24 -=> Quoting Barry Martin to Nancy Backus on 12-Dec-2019 12:30 <=- NB>>> So she gets to learn exceptions to rules can be valid at times... ;) NB>>> Sounds like the two of you had some different quality time... :) BM>> Right on both. :) It's not a bad thing to touch the keyboard, just BM>> there are times when one/she should not touch. Same for other items. NB>> And she's getting to be old enough to be taught some of those NB>> distinctions... ;) BM> Well, I wasn't thinking of age but yes on the distinctions part. Ok, then, maturity to comprehend... BM>>>> Also popped into my thoughts: I remind her I'm available to help. BM>>>> The "child psychologist explanation" is to stand back and let her BM>>>> do it (whatever she's attempting to do), but if she decides she BM>>>> needs assistance it's available. We all had to learn by doing. NB>>>> And knowing where to look for help is also a good lesson to be NB>>>> learned... BM>>> Yes, sort of you don't know everything, learn by doing sometimes BM>>> works, though sometimes better to ask someone for help. NB>>> And good to figure out the difference... :) BM>> Right. One can't do everything but they can try, and then stick in BM>> there there are times to try and times to get someone else to try for BM>> you. NB>> Indeed. :) BM> Probably an extension of the distinctions: if you think you can and BM> it's OK to do so, it's OK to try. If it doesn't work then OK to ask BM> for assistance. ...This will become very important when she can't get BM> the lid off a screw top, hands it to someone for assistance, and they BM> pop it right off. At that point, you take it back, saying, guess I loosened it up for you.... ;) NB>>>> That sounds more extensive than I'm likely to be having... And often NB>>>> mine doesn't have much of a resemblance to a "normal" breakfast... :) BM>>> I/we generally don't eat a balanced meal but the meals do balance out. NB>>> That's what really counts, after all... :) BM>> In my way of thinking, yes. If someone wants a balanced breakfast, BM>> lunch and dinner (each) I would not tell them or even think they are BM>> wrong: it works for them. NB>> We each have our habits and ways of doing things... ;) When I was a NB>> young mother, and a member of La Leche League, one of the things we NB>> taught was that if one's toddler only wanted one or two things for a NB>> day or so, it wasn't a problem... Just keep offering alternatives NB>> along the way, and it will likely balance out... It doesn't have to NB>> be all at the same sit-down meal(s)... :) BM> Right: Autumn's pediatrician told her parents the same. She (Autumn) BM> sometimes likes one food item, and sometimes turns away the same a BM> week or month later. (She's no longer liking bananas for whatever BM> reason.) Easiest and least wasteful here is to simply ask her what she BM> wants, usually phrased as an option rather than open-ended. Overall BM> seems to be reasonably balanced and healthy. That woeks... :) Even as adults we can go through phases where some food is more or less enticing to us.... ;) ttyl neb .... It's gonna be like threading a needle with a haystack. --- EzyBlueWave V3.00 01FB001F * Origin: Tiny's BBS - http://www.tinysbbs.com (454:1/452) .