Subj : Re: Computer Kits
To   : Jeff
From : Arelor
Date : Thu Jan 27 2022 03:55:28

  Re: Re: Computer Kits
  By: Jeff to Arelor on Wed Jan 26 2022 02:40 pm

 > On 26 Jan 2022, Arelor said the following...
 >  Ar> Issues are more of the type "Average psyche can handle being inferior t
 >  Ar> X people, and if it finds it is inferior to more than X people, it star
 >  Ar> developping stress and steem disorders". Which is the nerdy way of
 >  Ar> saying that if you connect to a social network on which you folow 400
 >  Ar> people and find 398 of them are having what looks like a better life
 >  Ar> than yours, it may eventually wear you down.
 > 
 > I participate in social media and have neither noticed nor experienced this
 > phenomenon. Perhaps I'm doing it wrong?
 > 
 > I'm pretty sure that no matter our individual socioeconomic circumstances, w
 > could all find neighborhoods to drive through that feature the houses of 398
 > people appearing to have a better life than we enjoy. We can also watch TV,
 > where shows featuring this very thing have been common for sometime now.
 > For women especially, magazines and advertizing can take a huge toll on
 > self-esteem. I'm not sure why social media is being singled out for this.
 > 

TV shows and driving through a better neighbourhood than your own send
impersonal signals that don't hit at a personal level.

Chances are you know none of that people anyway so it is not like the fact your
house is the worst of them all makes you the bottom of your social circle.

It is when you get overwelmingly beaten by people of your own group (or your
own level) at things you care about that it starts sucking. ie. if you like
teaching tricks to your horse, you join some INnternet group about horse trick
training, and you find everybody keeps posting videos of their horses doing
tricks more awesome than your horses, it is going to suck. You are gonna think
your comparative ability at something you care for is not up to standard.

Specially because you are not going to see the videos in which the other horse
trainers failed hard and made tons of stupid mistakes, so you are going to be
aware of your fuckups but not the other people's.

Obviously, not everybody is hit by this effect and maybe it is not the most
users either, but this effect has been described.

It is just like the effect according to which some boardgame players experience
strategic loses at board games as if they were real life strategic loses.
"Damn, they undercut my coal supply contract! It is gonna take ages to recover
the loses!" It bits some people harder than others :-)

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