Subj : Re: (none)
To   : Poindexter Fortran
From : Weatherman
Date : Mon Jan 31 2022 20:13:44


pF> It took therapy for me to realize how normalized a dysfunctional,
pF> emotionally and esteem-killing marriage had become, and it took
pF> fatherhood to realize that the relationship wouldn't let me be the father
pF> figure I wanted to be for my son to drive me to move on from my first
pF> marriage.

pF> My son turned 18 this summer and I celebrated my 10 year anniversary with
pF> my new wife. It all worked out pretty well, I think.

Exactly..  Normal means lots of different things to different people.  What is normal is what you are used to and become accustomed to.  That doesn't always relate to what should be considered "normal".

Sometimes trying to work things out can become maddening when in reality the best option is to cut ties and move on.  Every situation is different.  

Even when things are in the toilet, I'm always the one that can find some positive in the situation.  That is always how I have lived my life.

I don't look at myself and say I have two failed marrages.  I look at it as I have lived multiple lives with multiple people, each had their own time, and I open a new chapter in life with each one.  Not how I planed it to be that way, but life doesn't always go as planned and you have to make adjustments and keep moving forward.  At least that is my mentality towards it.

BTW, I have been with my "new" wife now for 16 years - which is a good bit longer than both the previous ones.

- Mark
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