Board: [fsxNet] fsx General Subject: Re: New job worries From: Nightfox(21:1/137) Date: Fri Aug 28, 2026 17:09 Re: Re: New job worries By: poindexter FORTRAN to Nightfox on Thu Aug 27 2026 10:18 pm PF> I said it before - congratulations on the new gig! Thanks :) Ni>> my manager is in a time zone 15 hours ahead of me PF> Committing to overlapping time for direct comms is a good sign. PF> Asynchronous work (especially with a time difference) can be challenging, PF> but making sure you have all your questions lined up in one email/chat is PF> key. No iteration here... I try to do that. And sometimes my manager says he isn't quite clear on my update, or part of my update, so he might message me in chat around 5:30PM and want to discuss it. I'm trying to be as clear as I can, although I think sometimes what I work on may be due to a small misunderstanding about something, so he might need to clarify something with me. Also, my wife & I have a couple of cats, which we feed dinner to daily, and they're usually expecting dinner around a certain time. I start to feel bad if we're late in giving them their dinner. :) PF> I had a boss 3 hours ahead, but who insisted on working 7:30a-4:30p, which PF> made it 4:30a-1:30p for me. He was more of a "let's ramble on the phone" PF> guy which made it difficult. The long phone conversations would get old, especially if they aren't always relevant and end up prolonging your workday, but at least you had several hours of overlap with your manager during the day if you needed to talk to him. I guess communication across time zones is inevitable with many jobs these days. If it often makes for late days though, I feel like that can be a bummer. Ni>> 2010, I had started a job where things were very unclear and I wasn't Ni>> getting good help from coworkers; I struggled there for 6 months and Ni>> ended up being let go. That was overall a bad situation.. This new job Ni>> somewhat reminded me of that PF> There's a lot to be said for working through those past work demons, PF> either with someone or just journalling, so you can recognize those past PF> behavioral cycles. You're not there anymore, this is a new situation. I PF> was laid off in 2018 and just now recognized some of those old emotional PF> patterns cropping up. Recognizing them, accepting them and allowing myself PF> to move on helps deal with the present situation. I suppose that's true, and it makes sense. I keep trying to remind myself this is a new situation. Sometimes though, I think back to times when I went into something nievely, optimistic and not knowing what I was getting into, and it ended up not being good, which I didn't really expect. I guess that's always a risk with anything. PF> Packing is a pain. My wife is a packrat, I'm becoming more minimalist. I PF> noted that we had boxes that had moved 3 times without the contents PF> leaving the box. Had I had my way, I would have donated them, contents PF> unseen. PF> Maybe it's time to get rid of old baggage, emotional and physical? :) :) I'm all for that. And as far as physical things, there are some things I have that I've kept packed in boxes for quite a while, such as my collection of music CDs. I've ripped all of those to media files (FLAC & MP3), so technically I could get rid of the CDs, but I feel better keeping them since they're legally purchased music. If I got rid of the CDs, I'd still have the ripped versions and then I technically wouldn't have legally owned copies anymore. I imagine many people probably wouldn't care, but I feel better keeping the CDs. Ni>> I'm also still going through a financial issue related to my ex wife's Ni>> actions which have impacted me, to the extent where I've been working Ni>> with a law firm on that. PF> Do you have kids with the ex? I don't think you've ever mentioned it. PF> Divorces are difficult enough without 'em! PF> My son is now 23, my ex-wife lives in the same town as us, and all of the PF> drama is behind us. It gets better, gradually. We don't have kids together. We've been divorced for 6 years now though. Under normal circumstances, I'd have expected the divorce to be all behind us now. Without kids together, I feel like it's frustrating to have remnants of the divorce dragging on this long, especially when it affects me like it will be. Nightfox --- SBBSecho 3.37-Linux * Origin: Digital Distortion: digdist.synchro.net (21:1/137) .