From sundance@neosoft.com Sun Jul 30 03:17:54 2000 Received: from mxu1.u.washington.edu (mxu1.u.washington.edu [140.142.32.8]) by lists.u.washington.edu (8.9.3+UW00.05/8.9.3+UW99.09) with ESMTP id DAA34620 for ; Sun, 30 Jul 2000 03:17:52 -0700 Received: from mail3.iadfw.net (mail3.iadfw.net [209.196.123.3]) by mxu1.u.washington.edu (8.9.3+UW00.02/8.9.3+UW99.09) with SMTP id DAA25589 for ; Sun, 30 Jul 2000 03:17:48 -0700 Received: from [209.196.109.16] from [209.196.109.16] by mail3.iadfw.net (/\##/\ Smail3.1.30.16 #30.4) with esmtp for sender: id ; Sun, 30 Jul 2000 05:17:58 -0500 (CDT) Date: Sun, 30 Jul 2000 05:17:28 -0500 Subject: case studies 107,108,109 advice please (capitals are for focus, emphasis) per relationship INTIMACY From: Harold Helm To: Lisa the Dreamer CC: Message-ID: Mime-version: 1.0 Content-type: text/plain; charset="US-ASCII" Content-transfer-encoding: 7bit please do reply.. Divorce from God must be like divorce from another human - REGAINING lost GROUND / heaven: What must we do or avoid to be "saved" REstored Tenderly? Altruistic INTIMACY paradise found lost regained - koine agape TEAM mates? How do we TUNE, retune SOULS to one another, loving, CARING? - lovePartner Deeply as the most perfect of lovers, unconditional as pets? - Harold Helm Case Study 107 - A young person reestablished contact with a long ago friend - the relationship blossomed - they became engaged - quickly a pallor set in - the relationship was all take no give emotionally and spiritually - and TERMINATED (wisely) by the woman before marriage... What changed was lack of agape sharing emotionally ... judgementalism and jealosy and imperiousness, selfishness of ONE partner brought the separation - it will not be regained - and should not, or COULD it? - How do YOU counsel OTHERS who LOST it - what ... if they want it back must occur, to regain the unconditional trust and enthusiasm of Love? Case Study 108 marriage flame burnout - things change -how to RECOUP? ******************************************************************** Who are the most loving, altruistic persons YOU have ever known? -HH What are/were the characteristics, secrets? WHO does TRUE sharing? Ultimately is HUMAN love based on gender, or on communication skill? Accepting loss, and INSIGHT how to RECOUP or REmove, onward, ANYONE? Been there DONE that? YOUR COUNSEL, detail, vulernable ROLE models? Case Study 109 --- YOU write up the case and SHARE it please -Harold -------------------------------------------------------------------- To subscribe-blank message to: RM-COUNSEL-subscribe@egroups.com Harold Helm Houston TX USA 713-529-2333 .