Subj : Re: This Train Just Went Splat!
To   : alt.tv.er
From : MauiJNP
Date : Sat Sep 24 2005 20:50:11

From Newsgroup: alt.tv.er

>
>> Now, the third thing we can agree on is that somewhere between the ages
>> of 0 and 35, the child must be weaned from the mother's teat.
>
> Not true either, unless your grammar is screwed up.  All children do
> wean from their mother's breast sometime between those two ages.
> However, a great many of them, given the oppurtunity, do it of their
> own accord, not by being 'weaned' by the choice made by another person.

parents have to make some choices for their kids.  breastfeeding should be 
one of them.


>
> But that doesn't mean it's wrong. If no-one is being
> harmed by it, what's the problem?
>

I think it is harmful.




>>
> But it's not a parental responsibility.  Do parents 'teach' children to
> walk?
>

yes, parents do teach children to walk.


>
>Do they force them to talk before they're ready?
>

though not forced, it is a skill that parents need to teach their child. 
and yes, some parents force their kids to talk before they are ready.  if 
your child was 4 and not talking yet, would you take them to a doctor to see 
what's wrong or just assume that aren't ready yet and don't force the issue?




>
>Should a
> parent take away a child's teddy bear because mom has arbitrarily
> decided that "A child of X years should no longer use a teddy?"

it a 12 year old needs a teddy bear everyday because they are unable to cope 
without one, yes, parents need to phase it out and give the child other 
coping skills


>(Even
> though, the day before, the child was of appopriate age?) Why is a the
> parent's responsbility to make this decision?

they are the parent, its their job to raise the kids.  I read a quote 
somewhere recently that makes a lot of sense "parents aren't raising kids, 
they are raising future adults"


>
> Nope, it doesn't hinder development.  There is zero evidence that
> children who are breastfed past age one suffer in any way or have their
> development 'hindered.' There may be some cause and effect in place,
> but it goes in the other direction -- children who choose to/need to
> breastfeed longer are children who are less 'mature' for their age than
> others.  But forcing them to wean won't make them more mature.
>

one of my nephews wanted to keep nursing when my sister was done (he was 
about 15 months old).  he used her as a pacifier to fall asleep.  he is not 
emotionally harmed because he was forced to give it up (though the first 
several nights he did scream and cry a lot) and he has no lasting effects 
from this experience.    i would be interested to see the proof that 
breastfeeding an older child is not damaging because in my experiences, I 
seen the opposite



>> Oh I'm sure there are no physical health problems with it.  Well, I
>> would think that once the child gets his permanent teeth that nipple
>> might start getting pretty raw, but I'm not a doctor.
>
>
> The teeth don't come into contact with the breast.
>

don't try telling that to my sister, she was biten several times where blood 
was drawn

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