Subj : Re: Tom Cruise, this episode was all your fault!
To   : alt.tv.er
From : Mark Nobles
Date : Fri Oct 14 2005 17:23:37

From Newsgroup: alt.tv.er

Sharon Three <nobody@nowhere.com> wrote:

> "Sharon" <askformyaddy@nospamhotmail.com> wrote in message 
> news:11ku9tgb3pg0d88@corp.supernews.com...
> >> Interesting sidelight with the "satisfaction facilitator!"
> >
> > I thought Dubenko was creepy to even suggest that Abby (a resident) be his 
> > last screw, and even creepier that Abby thought that, and maybe suggested, 
> > the hooker should bed down with a man who was about to undergo cancer 
> > surgery. What's a little STD to a guy who's about to lose his prostate? 
> > Eh!
> >
> > However, kuddos to the writing. The exchange between Abby and Dubenko was 
> > funny.
> >
> > "So you want to hop into... you want to come...."
> >
> > -Sharon
> >
> I thought the whole thing was squicky and I felt bad for both actors having 
> to say those lines.  What Dubenko did was sexual harrassment, plain and 
> simple 

No it was not harassment. He asked her one time, though admittedly a
bit more forwardly than normal, to have a date with him. To be
harassment, there has to be a pattern of repeated instances or a threat
involving his position of power over her. 

(Now there may be a hospital policy that forbids a teacher from dating
students, but we have never seen any sign of it before, so don't
pretend that it applies here any more than it never applied before.)

And just because he asked her to go out and she didn't want to does not
make it harassment either. There is no possible way for him to know how
she would react until he asked her. Men are not, despite the constant
assumption by women, able to read minds. Yet you all punish them for
asking questions that they don't know the answers to.

> and I don't think a guy with his professional rep and experiences 
> would be so stupid as to risk it all even if he is a bit socially inept.

Here's an example of the punishment I mentioned - calling him stupid
and socially inept for asking out a woman who doesn't want to go out
with him. 
> 
>  I was waiting for Dubenko to tell her at the end that he was only joking 
> and that he hoped she'd think twice before poking her nose into people's 
> personal business again.  Abby has always treated him with something 
> bordering disdain, ignoring his lectures to the residents, walking away when 
> he's talking but suddenly she's addressing him by his first name and asking 
> why he was visiting the oncology unit?  As for Dubenko asking her for her 
> services, well, Abby does have the 'second date rule' and, since he bought 
> her a burger and fries when they were doing the research last year, a cup of 
> coffee could constitute a second date.

A cup of coffee is not a date. It's caffeine.

And while we're on the subject of sexual harassment, why aren't you
complaining about Abby fixing Dubenko up with the "therapist"?
Certainly she is sexually harassing him at least as much as anything he
did harassed her, even by your bizarre standards.

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