Subj : Re: This Train Just Went Splat! To : alt.tv.er From : Lesa Date : Mon Sep 26 2005 14:04:12 From Newsgroup: alt.tv.er wrote in message news:1127676324.658597.323570@o13g2000cwo.googlegroups.com... > > MauiJNP wrote: >> > >> >> since I believe that breastfeeding is harmful to the older child's >> >> emotional/psychological health, if I would ever decide that my older >> >> child needs the nutritional value of the breastmilk, then I won't mind >> >> the sarifice of having to pump and store the milk. >> > >> > Having a close bond with mom is emotionally and psychologically >> > harmful? >> > Knowing that there is a place you can receive comfort, caring and >> > sustenance is harmful? I certainly hope you spend a lot of time >> > reading >> > and learning about emotional and what truly causes emotional harm >> > before >> > you ever have a child. >> > >> > >> >> >> I have the closest bond to my parents then either of my siblings (who >> were >> breastfed a little and I wasn't at all). > > > I think was Lesa was saying isn't that breastfeeding is the only or > best way to bond. But what YOU seem to be saying is that a close bond > between a toddler and mother is, somehow, a sign of a lack of > boundaries ... that if a mother wants to set appropriate boundaries for > the child, she has to stop before the child is old enough to > 'understand what he's doing.' Pretty much, yep. Breast feeding is feeding, nothing more. There is nothing "sick" or "improper" or anything else about breastfeeding a toddler to supplement solid foods and other beverages. There is also nothing wrong with breastfeeding a toddler for comfort or security. .